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To be fair, we both deserve that.

Yes. But that's okay, because Captain Obvious is a great superhero.

Stalin is Rapestove's arch enemy. That is Rapestove's hot wife, and his son the toaster.

I giggled.

Stalin is Rapestove's arch enemy. That is Rapestove's hot wife, and his son the toaster.

Oh I see. Stalin doesn't seem to be good at making friends.

I gots a question for the malez of NSG.

Rape role play: turn on or turn off?

Why or why not.

Big no. Even the roleplay would make me feel dirty, subhuman, and so full of self loathing I would attempt to kill myself. Im all into the whole S&M thing, torturing and that, but then at least the chick as acting as though its consential.

The other big problem is, Im so bent on respecting my partners limits, if they said "No please, stop!" even in roleplay, Id stop. There would be too many pauses.


Now, rape role play on her end (ie me being raped)...I dont know. Might be fun.

I've woken up before to find my girlfriend riding my morning wood. I'm usually a pretty deep sleeper.

Usually if I start fondling my sleeping wife she wakes up right away but it always leads to sex. My fantasy is to have her remain sleeping or pretend to remain sleeping. Dunno why.

my wife often takes advantage of this,enjoys the upper rockwell hardness scale

This has always been my favourite story!

:D I have a good funny one about one of your visits too... :D:tongue:


My last girlfriend intended to do just that sort of thing several times, but I'm a legendarily light sleeper. I wake up when the neighbors start their car in the morning. I always woke up whenever she did, thus ruining the element of surprise.

Try to pretend to stay asleep and talk in your sleep too. Call her George or something.

my wife often takes advantage of this,enjoys the upper rockwell hardness scale

Same advice :D

The only problem is that the ONLY time I'm not super slick and ready for fucking is when I'm sleeping. Also sex is so good, I'm not sure I'd actually want to sleep THROUGH it. Just a little bit of it. Sleeping pills...hmmmmm....

:D I have a good funny one about one of your visits too... :D:tongue:
It's not as bad as when Coke goes up your nose.

:D

The only problem is that the ONLY time I'm not super slick and ready for fucking is when I'm sleeping. Also sex is so good, I'm not sure I'd actually want to sleep THROUGH it. Just a little bit of it. Sleeping pills...hmmmmm....

I'm thinking that you can be stimulated first. You'll have to sleep in our bed during your visit so I can try it. :D

It's not as bad as when Coke goes up your nose.

:D

ahahahahahaha

I haven't had the pleasure of finding out for myself

I'm thinking that you can be stimulated first. You'll have to sleep in our bed during your visit so I can try it. :D

Not necessary, the penetration will be stimulation enough, the issue is simply initial lube, so a bit of spit and spread would be necessary right up until the balls deep point.

Also I'm totally sleeping between you guys again, you nuts?

Try to pretend to stay asleep and talk in your sleep too. Call her George or something.

When I get woke up I'm usually startled awake and jump, there's no way I could pretend to still be asleep. I don't think I've woke up without being startled in years. Also, we broke up quite a while ago, since we now live on opposite ends of the planet and all.

Not necessary, the penetration will be stimulation enough, the issue is simply initial lube, so a bit of spit and spread would be necessary right up until the balls deep point.

Also I'm totally sleeping between you guys again, you nuts?

I bet a bit of rubbing and fingering will get you wet pre-penetration.

I don't even generally like porn that makes it seem like there isn't actually consent or enjoyment.

Ditto. It's one thing to play around with a little "no/yes" teasing, but anything that seems like actual force (as in against the person's will) just turns me right off. Remember that vivid imagination of mine. There are serious crime dramas about rape -- NOT sexy movies -- that I have a hard time watching because it hits me too hard.

It's not as bad as when Coke goes up your nose.

:D

Pft, been there, done that.

. . . .

Oh you mean soda

Pft, been there, done that.

. . . .

Oh you mean soda

And I think we have a threadwin.

I bet a bit of rubbing and fingering will get you wet pre-penetration.

But would wake me up faster.

But would wake me up faster.

ah yes my bad

I'm going up to the bay area this weekend... and therefore after like two months apart my ladyfriend and I finally get to see each other. Should be fun.

Ditto. It's one thing to play around with a little "no/yes" teasing, but anything that seems like actual force (as in against the person's will) just turns me right off. Remember that vivid imagination of mine. There are serious crime dramas about rape -- NOT sexy movies -- that I have a hard time watching because it hits me too hard.

Same here. When I watched "Boys Don't Cry" with a friend a couple of years back, I had to make him pause the DVD so I could go into the other room and whimper for fifteen minutes after the particularly awful scene in it.

Same here. When I watched "Boys Don't Cry" with a friend a couple of years back, I had to make him pause the DVD so I could go into the other room and whimper for fifteen minutes after the particularly awful scene in it.

I've deliberately not watched movies if I knew there was a particularly explicit rape scene involved. Showgirls was terrible overall, but stuck with me more for the rape scene than the pure awfulness of the film itself. I absolutely refused to even consider watching Irreversible.

Hawt!

ok funny story time. I woke up during the orgasm of a wet dream to find that the grip on my cock head that probably spurred the dream was my wifes scrunchy. Wife wakes up to my laughter, finding me holding a very messy scrunchy. No idea, how it got there.

Impro-cock ring?! Sugoi ne!!!:D

Cock rings! Do they actually help you last longer? I know Sumamba is fond of his...maybe he can tell us how they feel etc.

Cock rings! Do they actually help you last longer? I know Sumamba is fond of his...maybe he can tell us how they feel etc.

I used them with an ex of mine. Disappointing. But I'm sure he was using them wrong or something 'cos he didn't last at all.

I used them with an ex of mine. Disappointing. But I'm sure he was using them wrong or something 'cos he didn't last at all.

Hahah, a lot of guys don't understand that the cock ring goes around the whole package...they think it just fits on the shaft.

Meh, i don't need those...

Also, I'd like to bring up a common theme among my girlfriends (meant both sexually and non-sexually). We are constantly complaining about not getting enough sex. Now, men often indulge in this meme, but from anecdotal evidence, most of the women I know have higher libidos than their men, and it's freaking annoying. You guys seriously need to learn to put out more.

Not GoG mind you. He is the only man to defeat me.

Meh, i don't need those...

From what I understand, it can feel pretty good.

From what I understand, it can feel pretty good.

I'm not concerned about the feeling good, it just takes me long enough to orgasm without, i don't need artificial ways to make it last longer. Though in my current predicament I wonder if I could last 30 seconds...

Also, I'd like to bring up a common theme among my girlfriends (meant both sexually and non-sexually). We are constantly complaining about not getting enough sex. Now, men often indulge in this meme, but from anecdotal evidence, most of the women I know have higher libidos than their men, and it's freaking annoying. You guys seriously need to learn to put out more.


Heh. Not a problem I've ever encountered. Quite the reverse.

I used to be extremely horny all the time and want sex several times a day. Over the years I've lost my mojo.

Cock rings are just fun to wear. lol. I have a huge metal one and a cool glass one. Sometimes it seems like it keeps you at your stiffest, but other times no. I guess it's supposed to help you keep from cumming too soon but I haven't seen a difference. I'm a 3 second wonder.

Heh. Not a problem I've ever encountered. Quite the reverse.

Well they should freaking locate all the people with high libidos together, because this is driving me nuts. I think I need about a dozen fuck buddies just to give me a regular amount of sex...this waiting for one night on the weekend thing is really pissing me off.

I'm a 3 second wonder.

You're so full of it:p

Well they should freaking locate all the people with high libidos together, because this is driving me nuts. I think I need about a dozen fuck buddies just to give me a regular amount of sex...this waiting for one night on the weekend thing is really pissing me off.

Waiting for one night on the weekend?

Waiting for one a night would be more than I can stand... thank god for Onan.

Okay, we need more talk about rape fantasies! That wasn't explored NEARLY enough. I was a bit distracted by offline matters at the time.

I think there are very few people who would actually WANT to be raped. I've met one person like that, and she was a very, very odd person. Generally, most people are pretty clear about the fact that it's the illusion of force that's a turn on...not rape as it exists in the real world.

I understand that some people have problems thinking about rape fantasies. They feel like there must be something wrong with them, that their interest or attraction says something terrible about them. Which seems a bit odd, because I mean...rape fantasies are fairly mainstream now, really.

I think it's a good internal dialogue to have, however...because you question your underlying beliefs and investigate your own morality. How could it possibly be 'okay' to want to be forced, or want to force another person...even as 'roleplay'? It's more complicated than just saying 'underneath it's all consensual'...getting turned on by the struggle can make you think bad things about yourself.

So? What are your thoughts on 'the rape fantasy'?

Waiting for one night on the weekend?

Waiting for one a night would be more than I can stand... thank god for Onan.

Masturbation doesn't count as sex in my book :P

I get one really awesome weekend of sex a month right now with GoG...and to be honest, I need at least two days to recover from that before I can actually seriously think about having sex again. Other than that though I'm relying on unreliable fuckbuddies. All these young men with low libidos...or fools who put work/school ahead of fucking. Messed up priorities, to be sure! Or women who are only allowed to fuck me once because that's the agreement they've made with their girlfriend.

:( All I'm asking for is regular casual sex. I don't understand why that's so hard to find!

I already said no about the rape fantasy...

I used to be extremely horny all the time and want sex several times a day. Over the years I've lost my mojo.


This is true. When I was in my late teens or early twenties, I pretty much always wanted some kind of sex. Now I'm much more mature, I can usually be satisfied with a much lower level - once or twice a day kind of thing.

I already said no about the rape fantasy...

Noted.

Masturbation doesn't count as sex in my book :P

I get one really awesome weekend of sex a month right now with GoG...and to be honest, I need at least two days to recover from that before I can actually seriously think about having sex again. Other than that though I'm relying on unreliable fuckbuddies. All these young men with low libidos...or fools who put work/school ahead of fucking. Messed up priorities, to be sure! Or women who are only allowed to fuck me once because that's the agreement they've made with their girlfriend.

:( All I'm asking for is regular casual sex. I don't understand why that's so hard to find!

Masturbation doesn't count, no - but if I can't get sex once or twice a day, it has to do. :)

As for why it's such a trial - that'll teach you to live in Canada! :p

:( All I'm asking for is regular casual sex. I don't understand why that's so hard to find!

I have something that could be a severe issue when it comes to casual sex; thats the thing thats prevented me from having sex for years. I have a very high labito, a long lasting time, and plenty of stamina to keep going for multiple orgasms. I haven't had the capacity for a serious relationship lately though.

Okay, we need more talk about rape fantasies! That wasn't explored NEARLY enough. I was a bit distracted by offline matters at the time.

I think there are very few people who would actually WANT to be raped. I've met one person like that, and she was a very, very odd person. Generally, most people are pretty clear about the fact that it's the illusion of force that's a turn on...not rape as it exists in the real world.

I understand that some people have problems thinking about rape fantasies. They feel like there must be something wrong with them, that their interest or attraction says something terrible about them. Which seems a bit odd, because I mean...rape fantasies are fairly mainstream now, really.

I think it's a good internal dialogue to have, however...because you question your underlying beliefs and investigate your own morality. How could it possibly be 'okay' to want to be forced, or want to force another person...even as 'roleplay'? It's more complicated than just saying 'underneath it's all consensual'...getting turned on by the struggle can make you think bad things about yourself.

So? What are your thoughts on 'the rape fantasy'?

The reason people feel bad about rape fantasy, is because there is the perception, that is slowly being overcome, that people who get raped wanted it.

So, if someone finds themselves fantasising about rape, you're not just overcoming the concept of rape, you're overcoming the concept that just HAVING the fantasy, makes you a 'traitor' - means 'they' were right.

Of course, it's bullshit. Fantasy is fantasy, but our brains are fickle little fuckers.

I, personally, am not attracted to the rape fantasy, because I'm not attracted to the concept of harm, and - even though rape-fantasy-sex would probably be a lot less likely to leave bruises than some of the sex I do have or have had... that's just not how it clicks the tumblers in my head.

This is true. When I was in my late teens or early twenties, I pretty much always wanted some kind of sex. Now I'm much more mature, I can usually be satisfied with a much lower level - once or twice a day kind of thing.

Yeah you you guys peak at 18...which means, logically, that women in their 30s should be shagging 20 year olds.

Yeah you you guys peak at 18...which means, logically, that women in their 30s should be shagging 20 year olds.

Hey, that was always my preference, too. I've never liked the whole teengirl thing, even when I was a teenboy. :)


As a weird aside - I don't know if it's true of all guys, but the drop in libido was really sudden, and just a little while after I turned thirty. I went from wanting it five/six times a day, to just once or twice. It was actually something of a relief to be able to actually concentrate on things for the first time in almost two decades. I've sometimes thought guys should all leave school at 15, and restart in their thirties.

The reason people feel bad about rape fantasy, is because there is the perception, that is slowly being overcome, that people who get raped wanted it.

So, if someone finds themselves fantasising about rape, you're not just overcoming the concept of rape, you're overcoming the concept that just HAVING the fantasy, makes you a 'traitor' - means 'they' were right.

Of course, it's bullshit. Fantasy is fantasy, but our brains are fickle little fuckers.

I, personally, am not attracted to the rape fantasy, because I'm not attracted to the concept of harm, and - even though rape-fantasy-sex would probably be a lot less likely to leave bruises than some of the sex I do have or have had... that's just not how it clicks the tumblers in my head.
Excellent analysis, and I agree. It's not just about the idea of 'wanting it' though...I think for men the idea of wanting to do that to a woman is extremely disturbing.

I don't know that what interests me about the rape fantasy is the concept of harm...I like to be hurt in all sorts of consensual scenarios, but I don't ever want to be harmed. To me it's just the ultimate expression of dominance.

And because I don't like to 'roleplay' or play act, I don't picture an elaborate fantasy where I pretend my lover is the pizza guy or an intruder or whatever... I actually want to be uninterested in sex, and forced to have it anyway. But it's a tricky thing...because I only want that with one person, and I would actually have to get turned on by it immediately (which with that one person would be guaranteed...not so with anyone else). It's a lot to ask someone to do though, I understand that.

Okay, we need more talk about rape fantasies! That wasn't explored NEARLY enough. I was a bit distracted by offline matters at the time.

I think there are very few people who would actually WANT to be raped. I've met one person like that, and she was a very, very odd person. Generally, most people are pretty clear about the fact that it's the illusion of force that's a turn on...not rape as it exists in the real world.

I understand that some people have problems thinking about rape fantasies. They feel like there must be something wrong with them, that their interest or attraction says something terrible about them. Which seems a bit odd, because I mean...rape fantasies are fairly mainstream now, really.

I think it's a good internal dialogue to have, however...because you question your underlying beliefs and investigate your own morality. How could it possibly be 'okay' to want to be forced, or want to force another person...even as 'roleplay'? It's more complicated than just saying 'underneath it's all consensual'...getting turned on by the struggle can make you think bad things about yourself.

So? What are your thoughts on 'the rape fantasy'?
I've already said I like to be restrained/held down/held tight during sex and I enjoy feeling my guy's strength, but one thing I have never done is spontaneously fantasize about being jumped for sex, having it forced or pushed on me against my will or even while I was doing something else, whether by my man of the moment or a fantasy stranger or anything like that. I have never found myself getting turned on by stories along those lines, either.

The fact is, I just don't need or get turned on by that idea of being overwhelmed by force. I do not get turned on by fear or pain. I do not like to be dominated. I don't feel a need to be pushed or forced to do something out of my norm or comfort zone. So there's nothing sexy or fun for me in the whole idea, and I cannot get past the idea that it's "rape." So, to me, a rape fantasy is just a make believe version of something that is the exact, complete and absolute opposite of fun or good. And the fact that the fantasy isn't real, doesn't make it be about something fun or good, to me.

So, that's why I stick with my original "no" on rape fantasy.

EDIT: For other people, I think it's perfectly normal to fantasize about having someone more powerful than you to "make" you do things you would otherwise be inhibited from doing. Or to fantasize about what could be thought of as the ultimate in guilt-free anonymous sex. Or to get off on the fear/adrenalin rush of imagining such a scene. Obviously, that does not in any way suggest a desire for that to happen in real life. I wish some people could get that through their heads.

Hey, that was always my preference, too. I've never liked the whole teengirl thing, even when I was a teenboy. :)


As a weird aside - I don't know if it's true of all guys, but the drop in libido was really sudden, and just a little while after I turned thirty. I went from wanting it five/six times a day, to just once or twice. It was actually something of a relief to be able to actually concentrate on things for the first time in almost two decades. I've sometimes thought guys should all leave school at 15, and restart in their thirties.

Then what is wrong with all these 25, 26 year olds I've been shagging? They're entirely too focused. Maybe I need to start trolling the Faculty of Arts. I've found that the guys who fuck the longest and most often are at least in their 30s.

I've already said I like to be restrained/held down/held tight during sex and I enjoy feeling my guy's strength, but one thing I have never done is spontaneously fantasize about being jumped for sex, having it forced or pushed on me against my will or even while I was doing something else, whether by my man of the moment or a fantasy stranger or anything like that. I have never found myself getting turned on by stories along those lines, either.

The fact is, I just don't need or get turned on by that idea of being overwhelmed by force. I do not get turned on by fear or pain. I do not like to be dominated. I don't feel a need to be pushed or forced to do something out of my norm or comfort zone. So there's nothing sexy or fun for me in the whole idea, and I cannot get past the idea that it's "rape." So, to me, a rape fantasy is just a make believe version of something that is the exact, complete and absolute opposite of fun or good. And the fact that the fantasy isn't real, doesn't make it be about something fun or good, to me.

So, that's why I stick with my original "no" on rape fantasy.

More rational than my reason...

PE, fairly sure that's a verboten site link.

PE, fairly sure that's a verboten site link.
Thanks for reminding me.:eek::hail:

De nada.

Okay, we need more talk about rape fantasies! That wasn't explored NEARLY enough. I was a bit distracted by offline matters at the time.

I think there are very few people who would actually WANT to be raped. I've met one person like that, and she was a very, very odd person. Generally, most people are pretty clear about the fact that it's the illusion of force that's a turn on...not rape as it exists in the real world.

I understand that some people have problems thinking about rape fantasies. They feel like there must be something wrong with them, that their interest or attraction says something terrible about them. Which seems a bit odd, because I mean...rape fantasies are fairly mainstream now, really.

I think it's a good internal dialogue to have, however...because you question your underlying beliefs and investigate your own morality. How could it possibly be 'okay' to want to be forced, or want to force another person...even as 'roleplay'? It's more complicated than just saying 'underneath it's all consensual'...getting turned on by the struggle can make you think bad things about yourself.

So? What are your thoughts on 'the rape fantasy'?

I am torn on the subject.

See, when I was a wee little innocent teenager, back before I even knew what "sexual fantasies" or "masturbation" were, I started making up increasingly erotic stories in my head when I was bored. It wasn't until years later, reflecting on these stories, that I actually noticed how many of them featured the main female character (who was always similar-to-but-not-exactly me) getting raped or coerced into sexual activity she didn't really want. The very first and longest-lasting of these stories - I kept adding to it for years and years - featured a teenage girl who was kidnapped and sold into sex-slavery. (And, yes, I totally didn't figure out I was kinky for a good five or six years after I started making this story up. I was just that innocent. :tongue: ) So, on one level, I get the appeal of those fantasies. At the same time, the actual rape parts of the stories were always quickly glossed over to get to nicer bits - like where the girl forced into prostitution discovers she actually kinda likes it and eventually falls in love with one of her clients, who is always terribly nice to her even if he does still think of her as a whore. (And sometimes call her that, too. I really was oblivious, huh?)

On the other side of the coin, my Evil Ex very much enjoyed watching exceedingly realistic rape porn, which disturbed the hell out of me. I wondered at the time if I were being fair - after all, I'd sorta-kinda fantasized about being on the receiving end, so why did it bother me so much that he fantasized about the opposite? As it turned out, my distress was well-founded, given the things he went on to do to me, but I'm bright enough to know that one piece of anecdotal evidence doesn't really make a demonstrable correlation. Still, I am really troubled by the idea of fantasizing about raping someone. It's a tricky line to draw, I know, because I am absolutely cool with the idea of someone fantasizing about forcing me to do all sorts of horrible things, but as soon as their fantasy involves me not being fundamentally okay with those horrible things...I don't know. Maybe it's fine, maybe it's not unhealthy, but it definitely makes me uncomfortable.

I've been asking for a pic for years.

Well, my answer has always been: "But I have no camera!"
Cock rings! Do they actually help you last longer? I know Sumamba is fond of his...maybe he can tell us how they feel etc.
I've been toying with the idea of asking the boyfriend to wear/get one, but so far he's been unresponsive when I subtly pointed them out in the catalogue (It's been hard enough to get him to peruse the catalogue itself already). He sort of promised me a visit to our local store, so maybe I should go for another try there and then.

He's also promised me to shop for lingerie Tuesday, which I've been nagging him to do for literally months. So, NSG: How important is underwear for you? D you deliberately put something special on to feel all sexed up during the day?

We are constantly complaining about not getting enough sex. Now, men often indulge in this meme, but from anecdotal evidence, most of the women I know have higher libidos than their men, and it's freaking annoying. You guys seriously need to learn to put out more.


Seconded most thoroughly. I get highly irritated these days when I overhear someone trading that "men have suchv higher sex drive and always have o coerce their women into sex" bullshit.

Seconded most thoroughly. I get highly irritated these days when I overhear someone trading that "men have suchv higher sex drive and always have o coerce their women into sex" bullshit.

It probably stems from all that "research" that shows that men think of sex 500 times a day or so, while women only think of it a few times.

Of course, what they always neglect to mention is that most male sexthoughts are like "oooh, nice ass - would like a piece of that" while women play out whole scenarios in technicolor with dolby stereosound in their minds ;)

Oh, and another thing I thought of when writing about the lingerie:

I've just received my shipment of what the company calls "Love balls" or "Orgasm balls" - basically two latex balls with a heavy little weight ball sort of thing inside that rolls inside the outer latex balls, whcih are connected via a string sort of thing.

Supposedly, when younput them inside you, they weight thingies are supposed to roll around with every step and move and "make it feel like you're getting an intimate massage". I'd been looking forwards to days of innocently carying my balls inside me, the world oblivious to my "intimate massage", but my one trial wear so far has proven to have no real effect beside a vague feeling of having something inside me (and a most hilarious rumbling sound emanatig from my general abdomen area when I shake my hips).

Anybody have (maybe different) experience with the buggers?

ETA: Apparently they're called something weird in English (wiki (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ben_Wa_balls)) and I don't like the English wiki article - for those who can read German, or who want to see better pics that actually resemble my "balls", here (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ben_Wa_balls)'s the German page.

I am torn on the subject.

See, when I was a wee little innocent teenager, back before I even knew what "sexual fantasies" or "masturbation" were, I started making up increasingly erotic stories in my head when I was bored. It wasn't until years later, reflecting on these stories, that I actually noticed how many of them featured the main female character (who was always similar-to-but-not-exactly me) getting raped or coerced into sexual activity she didn't really want. The very first and longest-lasting of these stories - I kept adding to it for years and years - featured a teenage girl who was kidnapped and sold into sex-slavery. (And, yes, I totally didn't figure out I was kinky for a good five or six years after I started making this story up. I was just that innocent. :tongue: ) So, on one level, I get the appeal of those fantasies. At the same time, the actual rape parts of the stories were always quickly glossed over to get to nicer bits - like where the girl forced into prostitution discovers she actually kinda likes it and eventually falls in love with one of her clients, who is always terribly nice to her even if he does still think of her as a whore. (And sometimes call her that, too. I really was oblivious, huh?)

On the other side of the coin, my Evil Ex very much enjoyed watching exceedingly realistic rape porn, which disturbed the hell out of me. I wondered at the time if I were being fair - after all, I'd sorta-kinda fantasized about being on the receiving end, so why did it bother me so much that he fantasized about the opposite? As it turned out, my distress was well-founded, given the things he went on to do to me, but I'm bright enough to know that one piece of anecdotal evidence doesn't really make a demonstrable correlation. Still, I am really troubled by the idea of fantasizing about raping someone. It's a tricky line to draw, I know, because I am absolutely cool with the idea of someone fantasizing about forcing me to do all sorts of horrible things, but as soon as their fantasy involves me not being fundamentally okay with those horrible things...I don't know. Maybe it's fine, maybe it's not unhealthy, but it definitely makes me uncomfortable.

I think a lot of it has to do with overcoming some of the damage our society does to us. Sex is bad and dirty, so blaming it on someone else make's us able to deal with it, even enjoy it, whilst not being responsible for it. How can it be MY fault I had sex where I got tied-up and spanked? It wasn't me - it was the person who MADE me do it...?

Thus, the fantasy of rape is consensual (to an extent) and the fantasy rapist pushes you to do things that already arouse you, that are already within your soft limits, or just outside them... but unlikely to come close to your hard limits.

In a 'consensual' rape fantasy, those limits are still respected, because the partner is attempting to meet your fantasies... of dominance, aggression, the assumption of total responsibility... whichever.

And that's why the 'realistic rape porn' is NOT the same thing - the 'fantasy' element of that porn is forcing people to do things they DON'T want to do, on any level.

I think for men the idea of wanting to do that to a woman is extremely disturbing.

But wouldn't that mean, a man fantasizing about raping someone is overcoming the idea, that having such a fantasy means they are dangerous perverts who need to be isolated from society? That he recognises the violent aspect of his soul, harnessing it in such a way it won't hurt anyone?

On the other side of the coin, my Evil Ex very much enjoyed watching exceedingly realistic rape porn, which disturbed the hell out of me. I wondered at the time if I were being fair - after all, I'd sorta-kinda fantasized about being on the receiving end, so why did it bother me so much that he fantasized about the opposite? As it turned out, my distress was well-founded, given the things he went on to do to me, but I'm bright enough to know that one piece of anecdotal evidence doesn't really make a demonstrable correlation. Still, I am really troubled by the idea of fantasizing about raping someone. It's a tricky line to draw, I know, because I am absolutely cool with the idea of someone fantasizing about forcing me to do all sorts of horrible things, but as soon as their fantasy involves me not being fundamentally okay with those horrible things...I don't know. Maybe it's fine, maybe it's not unhealthy, but it definitely makes me uncomfortable.

It's the realism. Correct me if I'm out of line, but I think you and I could put up with, and enjoy any number of things many women would blanch at...but only it were always clear that there was caring involved. (and it has to be mutual, none of this crazy stalker "I love you" shit) For me, it's why aftercare is so absolutely necessary. That's the point where I need to know that the person who hurt me actually worries about me, has my best interests in mind even though they are enjoying the meting out of 'punishment' etc. I consent ONLY to that dynamic. Were the dynamic to shift, were I to even enjoy in the moment, and find out after that my partner in fact harboured ill feelings towards me, or didn't actually give a fuck at all...I can't even explain how creepy that is. It's like rape, real rape, and if you went through anything like that, I am so, so sorry.

Rape is about power...rape fantasies are about power, but never true powerlessness.

Well, my answer has always been: "But I have no camera!" Excellent, can I then expect pics of your awesomeness?

Although your awesomeness has always shone through, absent of visual cues, and will continue to do so.

I've been toying with the idea of asking the boyfriend to wear/get one, but so far he's been unresponsive when I subtly pointed them out in the catalogue (It's been hard enough to get him to peruse the catalogue itself already). He sort of promised me a visit to our local store, so maybe I should go for another try there and then. You're best off getting him fitted, because it has to fit around his entire package, and every guy is different.

He's also promised me to shop for lingerie Tuesday, which I've been nagging him to do for literally months. So, NSG: How important is underwear for you? D you deliberately put something special on to feel all sexed up during the day?
I loooooooove corsets. I currently have three most excellent corsets, and I wear them out, usually with a suit jacket or some such thing. Underwear is pretty important to me...it has to be comfortable and sexy, because that makes me feel nice. And I like to be able to flash my brightly coloured, or lacy bras if necessary :D

In terms of getting all dolled up for sex...I hardly see the point. I have the whole get-up, garters, etc...but frankly I think you only wear that sort of thing when someone is going to see it for more than the few seconds it takes to peel it all off. Or minutes, if the garters are being bitchy. So I'd wear some of that stuff to a fetish party/club etc, but under my regular clothes...no. Cuz comfortable it ain't.



Seconded most thoroughly. I get highly irritated these days when I overhear someone trading that "men have such higher sex drive and always have o coerce their women into sex" bullshit.
Until very recently I haven't met a single person of either gender who could keep up with me, and I'm bound and determined to wear him out too.:D

Oh, and another thing I thought of when writing about the lingerie:

I've just received my shipment of what the company calls "Love balls" or "Orgasm balls" - basically two latex balls with a heavy little weight ball sort of thing inside that rolls inside the outer latex balls, whcih are connected via a string sort of thing.

Supposedly, when younput them inside you, they weight thingies are supposed to roll around with every step and move and "make it feel like you're getting an intimate massage". I'd been looking forwards to days of innocently carying my balls inside me, the world oblivious to my "intimate massage", but my one trial wear so far has proven to have no real effect beside a vague feeling of having something inside me (and a most hilarious rumbling sound emanatig from my general abdomen area when I shake my hips).

Anybody have (maybe different) experience with the buggers?

ETA: Apparently they're called something weird in English (wiki (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ben_Wa_balls)) and I don't like the English wiki article - for those who can read German, or who want to see better pics that actually resemble my "balls", here (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ben_Wa_balls)'s the German page.

Ben wa balls. I don't really know of anyone who has tried them that found them stimulating. The more important purpose of them is to encourage kegel exercise throughout the day, and from what I understand, can be extremely useful for women who suffer slight incontinence caused by improperly inserted catheters during labour.

So if nothing else, you're encouraging vaginal health.

I think a lot of it has to do with overcoming some of the damage our society does to us. Sex is bad and dirty, so blaming it on someone else make's us able to deal with it, even enjoy it, whilst not being responsible for it. How can it be MY fault I had sex where I got tied-up and spanked? It wasn't me - it was the person who MADE me do it...?

This fits into my theory about alcohol use in sexually and socially repressive communities, especially rural communities. Chicks get pissed so they can fuck around, but deny wanting it or liking it after (and no, I don't mean those who REALLY didn't want to do anything, because that is rape), and guys get pissed so they can overcome their shyness and pursue someone they probably already liked. Because alcohol lowers inhibitions, and we all know it does this, some people can only explore their sexuality when their 'guard is down', because there is just so much social stigma associated with certain roles and practices.

Which is why I think I'm such an odd fish. I grew up in one of these communities, but I never ever gave a shit about those social norms (woman as sluts, men as studs). The only thing I did have to overcome was the stigma surrounding my love of pain.

Anal. Okay on a first date?

If your date's cool with it, and you're cool with it, why not?

But wouldn't that mean, a man fantasizing about raping someone is overcoming the idea, that having such a fantasy means they are dangerous perverts who need to be isolated from society? That he recognises the violent aspect of his soul, harnessing it in such a way it won't hurt anyone?

No, I don't believe this is true.

There is a difference here. A man (no, let's just say person, because not all women are fantasising about being on the receiving end and visa versa) who is turned on by the illusion of non-consent is one thing...a person who is turned on by true non-consent is another.

Don't get me wrong...not all my fantasies include that element of implicit or explicit consent...my fantasies can get pretty ugly and include things I would never actually want any person to experience. That doesn't mean I'm trying overcome my own revulsion with such acts, it simply means that we are capable of imagining things we would simply never be okay with actually doing.

I believe that for the 'dominant' (not in the D/s or BDSM sense...I'm simply going to use dominant/submissive rather than binary gender terms here) in the rape scenario, the enjoyment would evaporate were there any hint that the situation were actually non-consensual, and the same is true of the 'submissive'. Someone who actually desires non-consensual acts would become MORE turned on.

It's one thing to become more turned on in your head, fantasising about it...and quite another to actually become more turned on in real life.

It's about limits as well...yours, and that of your partner...not about the acts themselves. I was with a woman who had been sexually abused as a child, and she found any sort of penetration too humiliating to engage in...if I had gone head anyway and fingered her, even though fingering is 'fairly mild' on the kink scale, that would have been rape. I didn't even want to because the knowledge that it bothered her so much absolutely vitiated any pleasure I could possibly gain from it.

Excellent, can I then expect pics of your awesomeness?Although your awesomeness has always shone through, absent of visual cues, and will continue to do so.

You know what they say: Some do. Some don't. I might.

Oh, and thanks for the terrific compliment.


You're best off getting him fitted, because it has to fit around his entire package, and every guy is different.

Hmm. I don't think I can get him to do anything more active than standing in the shop trying to blend into the back wall as subtly as possible, so maybe.. I think I've seen, like, adjustable ones? We'll see.

I loooooooove corsets. I currently have three most excellent corsets, and I wear them out, usually with a suit jacket or some such thing. Underwear is pretty important to me...it has to be comfortable and sexy, because that makes me feel nice. And I like to be able to flash my brightly coloured, or lacy bras if necessary :D
Yes, actually the ads for the new corset collection of one of m fave underwear providers is what spurred me to insist o an underwear shopping trip :] If I find a nice piece, I may or may not wear it in the hypothetical pic.


Ben wa balls. I don't really know of anyone who has tried them that found them stimulating.
Great, so I'm not alone / a freak / in posession of an abnormally unresponsive vagina / etc. Good news.

The more important purpose of them is to encourage kegel exercise throughout the day

Yeah, that's what I've been consoling myself with too. I'm one of those people who find it hard to locate the Kegel muscle(s) without help, but this will help me - if they fall out, I've not hit the right ones, and if they don't, I have :]

Yeah, that's what I've been consoling myself with too. I'm one of those people who find it hard to locate the Kegel muscle(s) without help, but this will help me - if they fall out, I've not hit the right ones, and if they don't, I have :]

Squeeze like you're trying to stop a fart from slipping out:D

No, seriously.

Squeeze like you're trying to stop a fart from slipping out:D

No, seriously.

Yes, yes. Same goes for "squeeze as if you're stopping the piss from coming out". I do both well in the respective actual situation, but I'm very bad at simulating such a situation in my head. In other words, I can hold in farts alright, but I cannot play pretend and trick my body into thinking they better do the fart-thing now before there's the sensation of an actual fart knocking on my rectal door.

Yes, yes. Same goes for "squeeze as if you're stopping the piss from coming out". I do both well in the respective actual situation, but I'm very bad at simulating such a situation in my head. In other words, I can hold in farts alright, but I cannot play pretend and trick my body into thinking they better do the fart-thing now before there's the sensation of an actual fart knocking on my rectal door.

Hmmm. Odd. Dunno, I don't remember not being able to flex those muscles.

Hahah, a lot of guys don't understand that the cock ring goes around the whole package...they think it just fits on the shaft.

Yeah, plus I think the best rings are the metal ones. We were using the rubber ones.

Besides, it's not like my ex was a pro in bed, no matter how many toys and tricks we had at out disposition. He lacked so much, so much in fact that I was unable to, in the 2 years we were together, to reach an orgasm unless I was using a dildo. It was horrible.

/sigh

He lacked so much, so much in fact that I was unable to, in the 2 years we were together, to reach an orgasm unless I was using a dildo. It was horrible.

...
He did not know how to use Fingers and Mouth (yes, Capitals are there on purpose) ?

...
He did not know how to use Fingers and Mouth (yes, Capitals are there on purpose) ?

Nope, he did not. It was frustrating. Besides, when we were doing it, he would cum in a jiffy, I think the longest he lasted was 10 minutes.

Yeah, plus I think the best rings are the metal ones. We were using the rubber ones.

Besides, it's not like my ex was a pro in bed, no matter how many toys and tricks we had at out disposition. He lacked so much, so much in fact that I was unable to, in the 2 years we were together, to reach an orgasm unless I was using a dildo. It was horrible.

/sigh

Was he Unteachable, or unwilling to be taught?

Was he Unteachable, or unwilling to be taught?

Unwilling to be taught and, ultimately, unteachable. He was more concerned about his own pleasure than our pleasure.

Unwilling to be taught and, ultimately, unteachable. He was more concerned about his own pleasure than our pleasure.

You stuck with someone who was unwilling to learn for your pleasure for two years? That must have been painful, and I hope you have learned from the experience.

You stuck with someone who was unwilling to learn for your pleasure for two years? That must have been painful, and I hope you have learned from the experience.

I was an idiot, and I adored the guy. What can I say? But yes, I learned from the experience. I'm more selfish now, and it's about offering and getting pleasure. That's how it should be.

I was an idiot, and I adored the guy. What can I say? But yes, I learned from the experience. I'm more selfish now, and it's about offering and getting pleasure. That's how it should be.

That's good to hear. When I break up with my boyfriend, I'll probably look back and ask myself HTF I've put up with that for [period of time], but I'm also very sure that I'll have learned bucketloads about how and what I am going to do and accept in relationships from now on, and who can go suck my nonexistent dick as far as that goes.

It's the realism. Correct me if I'm out of line, but I think you and I could put up with, and enjoy any number of things many women would blanch at...but only it were always clear that there was caring involved. (and it has to be mutual, none of this crazy stalker "I love you" shit) For me, it's why aftercare is so absolutely necessary. That's the point where I need to know that the person who hurt me actually worries about me, has my best interests in mind even though they are enjoying the meting out of 'punishment' etc. I consent ONLY to that dynamic. Were the dynamic to shift, were I to even enjoy in the moment, and find out after that my partner in fact harboured ill feelings towards me, or didn't actually give a fuck at all...I can't even explain how creepy that is. It's like rape, real rape, and if you went through anything like that, I am so, so sorry.

Rape is about power...rape fantasies are about power, but never true powerlessness.

I think all of this is spot-on. The way I've expressed it to a couple of people regarding my ex was, "When he got turned on by making me cry from spanking me that hard, that was great. When he got turned on by making me cry from telling me I wasn't good enough for him and he really didn't care if I died tomorrow, that was NOT OKAY."

I think all of this is spot-on. The way I've expressed it to a couple of people regarding my ex was, "When he got turned on by making me cry from spanking me that hard, that was great. When he got turned on by making me cry from telling me I wasn't good enough for him and he really didn't care if I died tomorrow, that was NOT OKAY."

Damn, your ex was a major dick and I'm glad you sent his ass packing.

In a recent conversation, the subject of first date etiquette came up, and so I wanted some feedback from NSG. Anal. Okay on a first date? Or something you save for the second date? Would you bring it up soon? Is that a faux pas?

What about other activities? Is there some 'magic number' of dates before you get really kinky with someone? I mean, the whole 'first base, second base, third base' thing is definitely passe...but when is (for example) urinating on your partner something you'd discuss? Fifth date? Ninth?

Just what are you comfortable with, and when?


Edit: "Date" just may be a euphemism for sleeping with, depending on your viewpoint.

The polite and considerate way to do it? Once you pick her up, show her to your car. When you go to put your arm around her waist, slip your hand down her pants and a finger up her butt. It's best for both of you if you know up front (so to speak) where the evening is going. And if she's not into it, at least you didn't have to pay the price of dinner to find out.

Sex in public places? For? Against? Indifferent?

It's something I've recently become interested in. Before, I was too nervous and not turned on enough to overcome that nervousness about the possibility of getting caught, so it really wasn't something I was into. Now, things are quite different. It's not the 'being out in public' that actually turns me on though, it's simply a result of being really horny and not wanting to wait until we're somewhere extremely private.

Although the times we did get caught, I wasn't scared, I was extremely amused. In fact, it was freaking awesome. I can't really explain why :D

There's just something so wicked about being that into someone that you don't really care if someone else is watching.

Although...when it comes to BDSM scenes, I've always been a fan of being watched...but that's not exactly 'public' per se...sex in front of people doesn't bother me at all, because generally they know what they're going to be seeing etc.

Sex in public places? For? Against? Indifferent?

I'm for. Nothing compares to the thrilling sensation (it actually heightens it) of being caught in the act. It's like heroin for me.

Sex in public places? For? Against? Indifferent?


Love it, provided the chance to be seen by young kiddies is very, very small. So not next to a grammer school and such.

The sex I've had in public has mostly all happened in the past few months...a few things about it that really appeal to me:

a) it can be somewhat painful. Not the sex, but the environment. Like, kneeling on rocky ground, or your shins grinding against concrete.

b) it usually starts out somewhat innocent...a little bit of oral...but often degenerates into full on penetration which makes it more likely neither of you are going to be 'on the lookout'

c) it's incredibly frustrating because you simply don't have the luxury of actually getting off, so you end up wandering around in a heightened state of arousal that ends in savage fucking the second you get back home.

d) so far, I think we made the day of the people who caught us. Muahahhaahahahah!

I'm for. Nothing compares to the thrilling sensation (it actually heightens it) of being caught in the act. It's like heroin for me.

What...it tracks up your arms, makes you constipated and rail thin from lack of eating, and causes you to spend months in Thailand completely blasted out of your skull ?

I've been fantasising about sex against an English Castle wall... *Sigh*

What...it tracks up your arms, makes you constipated and rail thin from lack of eating, and causes you to spend months in Thailand completely blasted out of your skull ?

Hey, Miss Sin! You know very well what I mean.:p

Hey, Miss Sin! You know very well what I mean.:p

*giggles*

*giggles*

:eek:Oh, you're so sexy when you giggle. Fist me, mistress!!


I kidd.

:eek:Oh, you're so sexy when you giggle. Fist me, mistress!!


I kidd.

Been fisted, never fisted someone. Hmmmmmmmm....:p

omg I just found...the best site ever. There's a fantastic production company out of San Fran that does fetish sites, and one of their new ones is all about sex in public. It's. Awesome.

Damn, your ex was a major dick and I'm glad you sent his ass packing.

She was nicer than I would have been if she only sent them packing...

Sex in public places? For? Against? Indifferent?


Definitely not indifferent. :p It turns me on like crazy, but I'm pretty sure I would sink through the floor and die if I ever actually got caught. So, basically, places where the risk of getting caught is really, really, really low but still technically present are just about the best ever.

She was nicer than I would have been if she only sent them packing...

I was nicer than pretty much any sane person would have been, because I didn't send him packing after the first time he said things like that...or the second...or the fiftieth...or after he cheated on me...or after he cheated on me again...or after he cheated on me yet again with a complete stranger and didn't even wear a damn condom...and so on and so on. I gave him roughly a million second chances, because love makes people stupid. At least I'm rid of him now.

I was nicer than pretty much any sane person would have been, because I didn't send him packing after the first time he said things like that...or the second...or the fiftieth...or after he cheated on me...or after he cheated on me again...or after he cheated on me yet again with a complete stranger and didn't even wear a damn condom...and so on and so on. I gave him roughly a million second chances, because love makes people stupid. At least I'm rid of him now.

I agree, love makes people stupid. But I don't suffer breaches in trust very well.. gaining my trust is hard to do in the first place. If its any consolation I have fallen in love with all the wrong people before too ;).


I'm at work atm and heading off to a prade, when I get home depending on the time I might actually give some answers on things because I'm starting to feel guilty :$

Been fisted, never fisted someone. Hmmmmmmmm....:p

I'm eager and willing to learn.:tongue:

I'm eager and willing to learn.:tongue:

I'm not sure if there has ever, in the history of NSG, been a more appropriate time for a 'pics or it didn't happen' comment.

Sex in public places? For? Against? Indifferent?

Hm... hard to answer. I don't think sex only belongs in the bedroom or anything like that but...

I don't like sex outdoors for the same reason I don't like camping. It's cold, it's damp, it's lumpy, it gets rocks and sticks ground into your knees and ass, it has ants, it can get sand in your underwear, it doesn't come with room service -- ugh. I hate everything about it.

I do not like the idea of "getting caught" because I hate people in general, so I don't see any reason why I should be putting on a show for some asshole I couldn't possibly ever get drunk enough to give the time of day to. My general loathing for humanity is what stops me being an exhibitionist. It's kind of hard to maintain the thrill when your immediate reaction to being watched is "What the fuck are you looking at, shithead?"

So, yeah, although I don't really have anything against it, pers se, and although I've gotten pretty far out there with making out with guys in public, and although I've often never even thought to draw the blinds while having sex in my own bedroom in buildings where I was surrounded by other people's windows, I don't really find that naughty thrill thing in public sex. To me, it's just more trouble than it's worth.

I took one of those facebook tests today, on "sexual fantasies". Needless to say it completely calculated my score incorrectly. It basically said i was into "being watched", when i know for a fact what my number one sexual fantasy is because i've been thinking about it for a while.

Basically i'd have my partner dress up like Princess Peach, and i'd follow her from room to room. But, when i get in the room i think she's in, there will just be a note saying "the Princess is in another castle". It will be like a scavanger hunt.

Also, if this goes well maybe i'll see about getting friends involved. Someone to dress up like a gorilla and throw barrels at me whilest i'm looking for the Princess.

I'm not sure if there has ever, in the history of NSG, been a more appropriate time for a 'pics or it didn't happen' comment.

If I post what I have in mind, I'll get perma-banned from NSG and Jolt, for that matter.:tongue:

If I post what I have in mind, I'll get perma-banned from NSG and Jolt, for that matter.:tongue:

But not from the intrawebs?

You're so vanilla, Nana-chin.

But not from the intrawebs?

You're so vanilla, Nana-chin.

Nana-chin... that sounds like an excellent name for a line of cherry tasting lubrication products. I like it!

And, are you implying that I should send thee these images? Ne ne?:cool:

Nana-chin... that sounds like an excellent name for a line of cherry tasting lubrication products. I like it!


I'd buy it. :D


And, are you implying that I should send thee these images? Ne ne?:cool:

Would I? :p (Yes, that was an evasion).

I'd buy it. :D

Perhaps we should market these.

Would I? :p (Yes, that was an evasion).

Man, have shame lest the air take your name!


:D

Perhaps we should market these.


Unfortunately, you can already buy cherry flavoured lubricants. None that bear the Nana-chin logo, though - so there might be a market. :)


Man, have shame lest the air take your name!

:D

Beware, beware... of the demons that live in the air...

No?

I think it was long ago established, I have no shame.

Unfortunately, you can already buy cherry flavoured lubricants. None that bear the Nana-chin logo, though - so there might be a market. :)

Then perhaps we should market some exclusive mixed flavor.

Beware, beware... of the demons that live in the air...

No?

I think it was long ago established, I have no shame.

Who says I have shame? ;)

Then perhaps we should market some exclusive mixed flavor.


The question, then, becomes what (or who?) it should taste like?


Who says I have shame? ;)

Well, obviously you have shame. If you had no shame you'd be a bad little girl who needed to be spanked, and you don't want that, now, do you?

The question, then, becomes what (or who?) it should taste like?

It should taste like me, obviously.

Well, obviously you have shame. If you had no shame you'd be a bad little girl who needed to be spanked, and you don't want that, now, do you?

But GnI, that's exactly what I want. A good, fortifying spanking that teaches me how to be a ''good, little girl''.

It should taste like me, obviously.


I'm pretty sure I can retire now, based solely on NS customers, then. ;)


But GnI, that's exactly what I want. A good, fortifying spanking that teaches me how to be a ''good, little girl''.

You know, it's extremely difficult to maintain discipline when the naughty girls actually prefer the punishment to the rewards...

Girls like you make it very hard. The... errr.. maintaining discipline, that is...

I'm pretty sure I can retire now, based solely on NS customers, then. ;)

Perhaps you could, provided you knew your demographic pretty well.

You know, it's extremely difficult to maintain discipline when the naughty girls actually prefer the punishment to the rewards...

I like it to be rough. The angrier the sensei is, the better the spanking and the better the discipline session is. I need a lot of structure. That's the only way one could make a lady out of me.

Girls like you make it very hard. The... errr.. maintaining discipline, that is...

Hard is good. Harder is better.

I took one of those facebook tests today, on "sexual fantasies". Needless to say it completely calculated my score incorrectly. It basically said i was into "being watched", when i know for a fact what my number one sexual fantasy is because i've been thinking about it for a while.

Basically i'd have my partner dress up like Princess Peach, and i'd follow her from room to room. But, when i get in the room i think she's in, there will just be a note saying "the Princess is in another castle". It will be like a scavanger hunt.

Also, if this goes well maybe i'll see about getting friends involved. Someone to dress up like a gorilla and throw barrels at me whilest i'm looking for the Princess.

I'm sorry but I had to laugh.

Nobody seems to care about my answers so I will keep them for myself. *shrugs*

Nobody seems to care about my answers so I will keep them for myself. *shrugs*

We do, or at least I do. But time and time again you've stressed you want to keep the for a more private venue. So, I ceased asking, B-tan.:wink:

We do, or at least I do. But time and time again you've stressed you want to keep the for a more private venue. So, I ceased asking, B-tan.:wink:

More private venue counts as e-mail, or an IM.

Now we all know Mur'v likes to 'shut up and fuck', but for those of us who enjoy a bit of talking (though if you're quoting Jane Austin, you're getting kicked in the groin), what sorts of things do you like to hear during sex? Also...other languages...any languages that turn you on immensely? Accents? In what ways can the vocal chords of your lover excite you?

Sex in public places? For? Against? Indifferent?


Cause it's the first of May, first of May
Outdoor fucking starts today
So bring your favorite lady
Or at least your favorite lay
Water's not cold baby dip in your big toe
Maybe I'll see you in flagrante delicto
Grass below you, sky above
Celebrate spring with a crazy little thing called fucking outside

Jonathan Coulton-First of May. Just had to post that.

Now we all know Mur'v likes to 'shut up and fuck', but for those of us who enjoy a bit of talking (though if you're quoting Jane Austin, you're getting kicked in the groin), what sorts of things do you like to hear during sex?

Never enjoyed it during sex, but during foreplay I think it's fantastic. Helps to get things going.

Cause it's the first of May, first of May
Outdoor fucking starts today
So bring your favorite lady
Or at least your favorite lay
Water's not cold baby dip in your big toe
Maybe I'll see you in flagrante delicto
Grass below you, sky above
Celebrate spring with a crazy little thing called fucking outside

Jonathan Coulton-First of May. Just had to post that.

Happy Birthday to me :p

I don't care for the dirty talk too much before I'm really warmed up...but when I AM warmed up, it can drive me right over the edge. The more vile, demeaning and humiliating, the better. Seriously, I can be talked into an orgasm.

Accents...oh accents. A plainish guy will suddenly become more sexy if he happens to have a certain accent. I know that's ridiculous, but meh. I'd have to say my fav is an Irish accent, followed by Scottish, then English. Recognising that I mostly don't have enough familiarity to distinguish between the many types of Irish/Scottish/English accents (and not caring). I used to like Australian accents...not so much now. Met too many asshole Australians.

I'm not a big fan of the French Canadian accent...can't buck my upbringing on that one. I love the New Zealand accent, but usually only from Maori. I have a thing for Maoris.

I also love the filipino accent...though I'm more into their women than their men.

I also love the filipino accent...though I'm more into their women than their men.

You and me both sista...

Now we all know Mur'v likes to 'shut up and fuck', but for those of us who enjoy a bit of talking (though if you're quoting Jane Austin, you're getting kicked in the groin), what sorts of things do you like to hear during sex? Also...other languages...any languages that turn you on immensely? Accents? In what ways can the vocal chords of your lover excite you?
How about Edith Wharton? :D

EDIT: And although I prefer not to talk during sex, a guy is going to have a WAY easier time of putting me in the mood if he is blessed with one of those adorable Irish or Welsh accents or one of those drawling, lazy Czech, Polish, or Russian accents, or if he speaks Italian or Czech. Why? I don't know. The Irish and Welsh just make me happy -- they just sound like a good time -- and the Slavic and Italian sound really sensuous to me.

How about Edith Wharton? :D

EDIT: And although I prefer not to talk during sex, a guy is going to have a WAY easier time of putting me in the mood if he is blessed with one of those adorable Irish or Welsh accents or one of those drawling, lazy Czech, Polish, or Russian accents, or if he speaks Italian or Czech. Why? I don't know. The Irish and Welsh just make me happy -- they just sound like a good time -- and the Slavic and Italian sound really sensuous to me.

Aww. I really don't have any chance at all do I?

Of course I knew that already

Aww. I really don't have any chance at all do I?

Of course I knew that already
Why? Do you like to read Edith Wharton aloud with a Texas accent?

Why? Do you like to read Edith Wharton aloud with a Texas accent?

Nope, but I don't have a Welsh accent either.

Nope, but I don't have a Welsh accent either.
Hey, I like those accents, but I'm not morbid about it. Not having one of the accents I listed is not going to disqualify a guy.

Especially if he doesn't talk. ;)

Hey, I like those accents, but I'm not morbid about it. Not having one of the accents I listed is not going to disqualify a guy.

Especially if he doesn't talk. ;)

Talking is usually one of the last things on my mind at that point, cept for a few mumbled sentences here and there.

How about Edith Wharton? :D

EDIT: And although I prefer not to talk during sex, a guy is going to have a WAY easier time of putting me in the mood if he is blessed with one of those adorable Irish or Welsh accents or one of those drawling, lazy Czech, Polish, or Russian accents, or if he speaks Italian or Czech. Why? I don't know. The Irish and Welsh just make me happy -- they just sound like a good time -- and the Slavic and Italian sound really sensuous to me.

Come stai bello?

;)


<------ Speaks (semi-decent) Italian.

Come stai bello?

;)


<------ Speaks (semi-decent) Italian.
*swoons while wondering slightly about your grammar, but then remembering that I don't really speak Italian at all*

*swoons while wondering slightly about your grammar, but then remembering that I don't really speak Italian at all*

:p

As I said, Im decent at it. I havent spoken it really since my grandparents died, and they taught me a regional Sicilian dilect. But hey, if it swoons:p


Now to just learn Czech...


EDIT: Bah, dont try using an internet language translator to translate what I said. Its totally wrong. For example, I know 100% that "bello" means beautiful, not "good".

Like I said, not a chance....

:p

As I said, Im decent at it. I havent spoken it really since my grandparents died, and they taught me a regional Sicilian dilect. But hey, if it swoons:p


Now to just learn Czech...


EDIT: Bah, dont try using an internet language translator to translate what I said. Its totally wrong. For example, I know 100% that "bello" means beautiful, not "good".
Just don't mix the two languages. :p

And you may as well just learn to fake the Czech accent. I like the sound of them speaking English just as well. It's weird -- they sound like they just woke up and it's more than they can manage to work up the energy to give a shit about anything.

Like I said, not a chance....
Bah, you sorry bastard. You lack drive, that's your problem. :D

Just don't mix the two languages. :p

And you may as well just learn to fake the Czech accent. I like the sound of them speaking English just as well. It's weird -- they sound like they just woke up and it's more than they can manage to work up the energy to give a shit about anything.

I have friends around here who pick up chicks at bars using fake accents.


Yeah, it gets em laid. It sucks though when they start to date the girl, because then theyre forced to either keep using the accent (until they slip up) or fess up to it being fake and look like a tool.


I tend to avoid faking an accent for that reason unless I KNOW Im just going to fuck the chick and then probably never see her again. And I have yet to fake an accent. I dont need to ;)

Bah, you sorry bastard. You lack drive, that's your problem. :D

Nah, its just all the women I like have unreasonable standards. :fluffle:

Nah, its just all the women I like have unreasonable standards. :fluffle:Right. ;)

Oh gods...and no poetry. Please. Please please please please never quote me poetry when we're hot and sweaty. I don't want romance, I want to be called a filthy whore while you pull my hair and slap my ass.

Oh gods...and no poetry. Please. Please please please please never quote me poetry when we're hot and sweaty. I don't want romance, I want to be called a filthy whore while you pull my hair and slap my ass.

I can make this promise. To all of womenkind. Most likely whether you want me to keep it or not.

Oh gods...and no poetry. Please. Please please please please never quote me poetry when we're hot and sweaty. I don't want romance, I want to be called a filthy whore while you pull my hair and slap my ass.

*pulls Neesika's hair while reciting poetry about how she is a filthy whore*

I like the sound of them speaking English just as well. It's weird -- they sound like they just woke up and it's more than they can manage to work up the energy to give a shit about anything.

OMG YES. Exactly.

I would have to say that the swooniest accent I ever heard was Marat Safin speaking Spanish during a tennis match once. It made me SWEAT.

Oh gods...and no poetry. Please. Please please please please never quote me poetry when we're hot and sweaty. I don't want romance, I want to be called a filthy whore while you pull my hair and slap my ass.

"i like my body when it is with your body" ;)

Love it, provided the chance to be seen by young kiddies is very, very small. So not next to a grammer school and such.

The only public place I've ever had sex in was a park. On the jungle gym. >_< But it was, like, 11 p.m., I wasn't traumatizing any kids!

The only public place I've ever had sex in was a park. On the jungle gym. >_< But it was, like, 11 p.m., I wasn't traumatizing any kids!

Naughty teacher.

This has always bothered me. Why do so many guys act like they don't like their own penises, like a woman being totally into their dick is somehow weird? And why do they apologize for cumming, for fuck's sake? Why do they think I want to fuck them in the first place?

Dude. You are so right-on all the time, why have I not been involved in this thread?

Naughty teacher.

...it wasn't at my school, it was... you know, I don't have any defenses that sound good. I still grin every time I see that jungle gym, though. :p

...it wasn't at my school, it was... you know, I don't have any defenses that sound good. I still grin every time I see that jungle gym, though. :p


Youve been a bad teacher. Go to my room.:p



Sorry, Ive always wanted to use a form of that pick up line.:p

Sex in public places? For? Against? Indifferent?


For, very much. Have also informed the boyfriend of that fact. He has bailed out of his promise to celebrate my fetching my BA diploma by picking me up at uni and fucking me in the elevator, but he is fukky aware that this is still out there waiting.

Nobody seems to care about my answers so I will keep them for myself. *shrugs*

I'm not sure how you came to think that, but it ain't true. Except for that I'm just not bothered to contact someone individually if they don't want to post stuff in the thread (unless of course it's someone I've specifically asked about something I really want to know from them).

Now we all know Mur'v likes to 'shut up and fuck', but for those of us who enjoy a bit of talking (though if you're quoting Jane Austin, you're getting kicked in the groin), what sorts of things do you like to hear during sex? Also...other languages...any languages that turn you on immensely? Accents? In what ways can the vocal chords of your lover excite you?

Accents... Mine (Spanish) makes me melt and I think an English accent also works wonders.

From the other side of the world, a Colombian accent makes me swoon.

F
I'm not sure how you came to think that, but it ain't true. Except for that I'm just not bothered to contact someone individually if they don't want to post stuff in the thread (unless of course it's someone I've specifically asked about something I really want to know from them).

Probably because lately I think of myself as uninteresting.


Bleh, I'll have to read back or someone could kindly recap what all was asked so this will take awhile.

Probably because lately I think of myself as uninteresting.


Bleh, I'll have to read back or someone could kindly recap what all was asked so this will take awhile.

You'll have a TG waiting in a few minutes.

You'll have a TG waiting in a few minutes.

Recieved, replied.

Recieved, replied.

Wakatta.

Best OP ever?

Best OP ever?

Maybe...

Best OP ever?

2nd best.

Now we all know Mur'v likes to 'shut up and fuck', but for those of us who enjoy a bit of talking (though if you're quoting Jane Austin, you're getting kicked in the groin), what sorts of things do you like to hear during sex? Also...other languages...any languages that turn you on immensely? Accents? In what ways can the vocal chords of your lover excite you?

It's good when we're both laughing. Having a normal conversation while in the midst of being naughty is also kind of a turn on. My ladyfriend doesn't have an accent, but there are some that I think are hot. French accents, many varieties of English accents, Scottish accents, Irish accents, German accents, Scandinavian accents, Spanish (from Spain) accents, Japanese accents, Italian accents.

Also more bestial sounds.

Sex in public places? For? Against? Indifferent?

Depends on the place. In Union Square? Hell no. In Golden Gate park... maybe. Outside in a state/national park, where we'd be fairly secluded? Oh yeah.

Basically, it would need to be private enough so that if someone stumbled upon us, they'd be embarrassed themselves for interrupting. And obviously somewhere the cops wouldn't show up... that might ruin the fun...

So how many dates until you invite your best friend to join in?

So how many dates until you invite your best friend to join in?

Depending on which best friend, that could get way too complicated, emotionally.

May I suggest next question, if there've not been such a one?

I'd go for "what is the maximum number of people (or whatever) whom you had simultaneuously sex with".

May I suggest next question, if there've not been such a one?

I'd go for "what is the maximum number of people (or whatever) whom you had simultaneuously sex with".


Unfortunately, I had sex with just one person at a time. But one day, if my man allows me to, or if I'm single, I will get my wish!! I'll engage in an orgy!!!!

Unfortunately, I had sex with just one person at a time. But one day, if my man allows me to, or if I'm single, I will get my wish!! I'll engage in an orgy!!!!

While an orgy is a hell of a fantasy, remember that if it were reality you would be dealing with real people, and you probably wouldn't be able to hand pick them. Is it still such an enticing idea.

Three or four people together can be great, but they have to be confident of their partners or not in any particular relationship otherwise the backlash can be nasty.

While an orgy is a hell of a fantasy, remember that if it were reality you would be dealing with real people, and you probably wouldn't be able to hand pick them. Is it still such an enticing idea.

Three or four people together can be great, but they have to be confident of their partners or not in any particular relationship otherwise the backlash can be nasty.

This is Nana-chan you're talking about. She could hand pick them. :)

May I suggest next question, if there've not been such a one?

I'd go for "what is the maximum number of people (or whatever) whom you had simultaneuously sex with".

4 others at once.

Hmm... an Orgy is not something I am ready for yet. I'm still in the early stages of the relationship, and I want us to enjoy our time together to start with. Maybe when we need to spice things up...

This is Nana-chan you're talking about. She could hand pick them. :)


You're one of the candidates, hunny.:fluffle:

You're one of the candidates, hunny.:fluffle:

*bows*

(only because you want to make sure there's spanking...) :D

*bows*

(only because you want to make sure there's spanking...) :D

(But of course, mister.):D

*bows*

(only because you want to make sure there's spanking...) :D(But of course, mister.):D

If the candidates are the people she invited before in another thread, then I think she is pretty much guaranteeing it...

While an orgy is a hell of a fantasy, remember that if it were reality you would be dealing with real people, and you probably wouldn't be able to hand pick them. Is it still such an enticing idea.

Three or four people together can be great, but they have to be confident of their partners or not in any particular relationship otherwise the backlash can be nasty.

You sound as though you speak from experience...

The most number of people I've had sex with in the same session is three. (2 girls, one guy)

This is Nana-chan you're talking about. She could hand pick them. :)

Well of course she could. But I probably couldn't, lol.

Probably because lately I think of myself as uninteresting.


Bleh, I'll have to read back or someone could kindly recap what all was asked so this will take awhile.

Recap the questions for me, too. I already dug back like 15 pages, 'm tired.

So how many dates until you invite your best friend to join in?

None. Ive tried a threesome once (two chicks), and it was fun. But events after the fact...never going down that road again.

None. Ive tried a threesome once (two chicks), and it was fun. But events after the fact...never going down that road again.

My emphasis.

"Two chicks". There's your problem. Sex and poultry just don't mix.

My emphasis.

"Two chicks". There's your problem. Sex and poultry just don't mix.

I cut you.

Recap the questions for me, too. I already dug back like 15 pages, 'm tired.

I dunno but I'm never going to be able to look at a playground the same way again.

I dunno but I'm never going to be able to look at a playground the same way again.

Then I've done my work.

I cut you.

I'm out of the orgy because I don't agree with sex-and-poultry?

I'm okay with KFC after the main event. I just don't agree with it as a partner.

Then I've done my work.

you're like johnny appleseed, except that instead of planting fruit, you plant dirty, dirty mental images.

I'm out of the orgy because I don't agree with sex-and-poultry?

I'm okay with KFC after the main event. I just don't agree with it as a partner.
The things that come back to haunt... When I was a legal officer for my squadron -- not a lawyer, just a paper-filler-outer, we had a guy that was charged with chicken sodomy. It went to court-martial and the guy was convicted, then discharged. I've never thought much of the incident until now. I wonder what became of the fellow with the poultry peccadillo.

Are you that screwed up Marine, Liberty?

We are so not going down the bestiality road. I declare it thus.

Oh oh oh! Yeast infections!

Ok. So, women get these, some more frequently than others. For all sorts of reasons. Yeast infections can be passed to male partners, and not really bother said male partners, but can be passed back to the woman who originally had it. This is a real piss off. But most men I know don't actually get 'treated' for yeast infections...again, because it usually doesn't bother them.

Experiences? Sex during? Avoid?

Are you that screwed up Marine, Liberty?

All of that is true except the marine part:p

Multiple partners? Uhmm.. no I don't think I could do that. Let me take that back, I know I can't. I did once but it left me with a bad aftertaste.


More coming...

I'll reply to what I remember, way too much for me to comb back all those pages...

Group sex: Not for me, unless its just a group of people having sex with their respective partners. Gang bangs feel icky, and the only time I was with multiple women I had a bad experience.

69: Ok, I kind of alluded to it... she bit my cock! I am not fond of them for that reason... note to NS never get frisky with someone who grinds their teeth during an orgasm.

Anal Sex: Really depends. But you can rest assured that I would never let a woman stick her 24 inch vibrating strap on up my ass. Maybe something a lot smaller if I trusted her a whole lot (which I would have to if I was sleeping with her).

Cumming on Women: If they are into it then for sure, its hot to see, I can do it two or three times if she wants me too! I suppose I should admit my preference for cumming in women however, its more intense and I love the way her body reacts.

Food: Yes

Oral: I love to give more than get, I have never gotten off on a blow job but I always seem to be with lovers who just like sucking on it so I oblige. I once came from oral sex but I was just about to explode from other attentions before that.

I can't think of any of the other questions that were asked right now, maybe I'll go back and look but there is a lot here...

Strange thing sexually that is embarrassing to admit; I can't wear condoms. I'm 24 and have through the period of my life only had sex with less women than I can count on my one hand because of that; I live in perpetual fear of that one time I have a casual encounter and wreck my already shitty life.

What else was there?

The things that come back to haunt... When I was a legal officer for my squadron -- not a lawyer, just a paper-filler-outer, we had a guy that was charged with chicken sodomy. It went to court-martial and the guy was convicted, then discharged. I've never thought much of the incident until now. I wonder what became of the fellow with the poultry peccadillo.

Are you that screwed up Marine, Liberty?

"License and Registration, Chicken-Fucker" (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h2TMVAWB6Gc)

:tongue:

69: Ok, I kind of alluded to it... she bit my cock! I am not fond of them for that reason... note to NS never get frisky with someone who grinds their teeth during an orgasm.


Dont let one shitty experiance turn you off to it.

69 is probably my favorite.

Oh, I have a question: Marathon Sex? Who can honestly pull an all nighter (or all day, whatever) or at least go for several hours? Longest I went was 8 hours of more or less straight sex... multiple orgasms are awesome and the best orgasm of my life was the 5th or 6th one which was completely and totally devoid of any kind of discharge.

Longest I had sex without an orgasm was 3 hours; not so hard when my usual warm up time meets or exceeds an hour already; I just teased the hell out of myself, and her.

Oh, I have a question: Marathon Sex? Who can honestly pull an all nighter (or all day, whatever) or at least go for several hours? Longest I went was 8 hours of more or less straight sex... multiple orgasms are awesome and the best orgasm of my life was the 5th or 6th one which was completely and totally devoid of any kind of discharge.

Longest I had sex without an orgasm was 3 hours; not so hard when my usual warm up time meets or exceeds an hour already; I just teased the hell out of myself, and her.

That kind of sounds like torture to me. I've never wanted to have sex for that long. Longest I think I've actually had vaginal intercourse was like half an hour, and walking the rest of the week was... interesting.

We are so not going down the bestiality road. I declare it thus.

You, Missy, are so not the coy type. Discuss it!:mad:


But bestiality... big no no for moi.

Erm... sex with animals is just WRONG.

That kind of sounds like torture to me. I've never wanted to have sex for that long. Longest I think I've actually had vaginal intercourse was like half an hour, and walking the rest of the week was... interesting.
Whoah. I tend to take at least half an hour (foreplay not included) to get off, with the average being around 45 minutes.

Oh, I have a question: Marathon Sex? Who can honestly pull an all nighter (or all day, whatever) or at least go for several hours? Longest I went was 8 hours of more or less straight sex... multiple orgasms are awesome and the best orgasm of my life was the 5th or 6th one which was completely and totally devoid of any kind of discharge.

When I'm in the mood and we're both off from work, we can be having sex all day long. I think the longest was 10 hrs of straight sex with short intervals to go to the bathroom and eat.

Longest I had sex without an orgasm was 3 hours; not so hard when my usual warm up time meets or exceeds an hour already; I just teased the hell out of myself, and her.

My fiancé likes doing that. He can be teasing me for hours on end, and himself. The pro of that is that when one orgasms, it's an explosion.:)

When I'm in the mood and we're both off from work, we can be having sex all day long. I think the longest was 10 hrs of straight sex with short intervals to go to the bathroom and eat.

Hgh perhaps in my youth, not now. Mind you we ahvn't tried 'pulling an all nighter' for many years now. Umm perhaps I'll talk to the wife about it.

Hgh perhaps in my youth, not now. Mind you we ahvn't tried 'pulling an all nighter' for many years now. Umm perhaps I'll talk to the wife about it.

Try it. It's always a good thing to pull every once in a while. I'm sure that if you're both well rested, alone, and in the mood for some playtime, you can pull an all nighter easily.:D

*makes notes*

This thread is really proving helpful, and teaching me a lot. :)

Try it. It's always a good thing to pull every once in a while. I'm sure that if you're both well rested, alone, and in the mood for some playtime, you can pull an all nighter easily.:D

Ahhh just remeberd why. Bloody kids in the bedroom next door. Umm perhaps I'll see if that both can't go away with the shool or summit soon!:D

So, what sort of foods do you enjoy eating off your lover? I quite like the idea of honey. The stickyness... :p

So, what sort of foods do you enjoy eating off your lover? I quite like the idea of honey. The stickyness... :p

Chocolate or juicy fruits.

Chocolate or juicy fruits.

Like Peaches? :D

Like Peaches? :D

Yes, and apricots and strawberries and the like. Why? <_<

Yes, and apricots and strawberries and the like. Why? <_<

Just checking. I like Peaches too. :D

So, what sort of foods do you enjoy eating off your lover? I quite like the idea of honey. The stickyness... :p

I haven't tried any foods off her yet. But I want to eat some sliced peaches... not just off her, but out of her. So that they're covered in her juices. It would be a most exquisite delicacy.

Yes, and apricots and strawberries and the like. Why? <_<

ooh, strawberries. Good suggestion, Nanatsu.

I haven't tried any foods off her yet. But I want to eat some sliced peaches... not just off her, but out of her. So that they're covered in her juices. It would be a most exquisite delicacy.

You are a true visionary. :D

ooh, strawberries. Good suggestion, Nanatsu.

*bows*

:D

You are a true visionary. :D

I have a very visual imagination.

But then there is the taste as well. I like the taste of peaches a lot. I like the taste of her wetness a lot. So... a combination of the two then would be even better.

But then there is the taste as well. I like the taste of peaches a lot. I like the taste of her wetness a lot. So... a combination of the two then would be even better.

You made me shiver after I read this.:eek:

I have a very visual imagination.

But then there is the taste as well. I like the taste of peaches a lot. I like the taste of her wetness a lot. So... a combination of the two then would be even better.

My goodness, you are awesome sir! :D

You made me shiver after I read this.:eek:

Was it a good sort of shiver?

My goodness, you are awesome sir! :D

Why, thank you.

Was it a good sort of shiver?

It was an awesome shiver. :D

It was an awesome shiver. :D

:tongue: I aim to please ;)

:tongue: I aim to please ;)

:D

Now, what do anyone here think about having sex to music? And what music or songs get you in the mood?

:D

Now, what do anyone here think about having sex to music? And what music or songs get you in the mood?

Never used music to get in the mood, but like having Rammstein playing in the background during...

Never used music to get in the mood, but like having Rammstein playing in the background during...

I like Eisbrecher or Gackt. There's actually one particular Gackt song that gets me in the mood, no matter what. It's called Fragrance... and it works wonders.:$

Never used music to get in the mood, but like having Rammstein playing in the background during...The ones actually about sex or just Rammstein in general?

The ones actually about sex or just Rammstein in general?

Just Rammstein in general

:D

Now, what do anyone here think about having sex to music? And what music or songs get you in the mood?

Type O are very sexual.

Type O are very sexual.

*jots that down*

Thanks!:D

Whoah. I tend to take at least half an hour (foreplay not included) to get off, with the average being around 45 minutes.

Wow. Umm. I'm not making any indecent suggestions, of course, but.. umm. Ja.

Wow. Umm. I'm not making any indecent suggestions, of course, but.. umm. Ja.

I don't know, is that all that uncommon? I mean hell, even my "quick sex" tends to be at least half an hour. I mean, fair enough, I've never had sex with another guy involved, but I always assumed the whole "five minute wonder" thing was at least a bit exaggerated.

I don't know, is that all that uncommon? I mean hell, even my "quick sex" tends to be at least half an hour. I mean, fair enough, I've never had sex with another guy involved, but I always assumed the whole "five minute wonder" thing was at least a bit exaggerated.

Same here.

But, a lot of my female friends have told me that a lot of their partners have been within the five minute margin. Sometimes, well within. :o

When it comes to me, I like the idea of pleasing my girl, slowly. Making her orgasm a few times before we even have proper intercourse. I use my tongue well. :)

When it comes to me, I like the idea of pleasing my girl, slowly. Making her orgasm a few times before we even have proper intercourse. I use my tongue well. :)

'Proper' intercourse? What's this - only penis-vagina-sex 'counts'?

I don't know, is that all that uncommon? I mean hell, even my "quick sex" tends to be at least half an hour. I mean, fair enough, I've never had sex with another guy involved, but I always assumed the whole "five minute wonder" thing was at least a bit exaggerated.

I might have to repeat, as a disclaimer, that I've dutifully toed the homosexual line for years before my getting involved with my current heterosexual partner, so this is a very tiny empirical sample, but-

He definitely falls into the "five minute wonder" category - as in, it's a wonder if and when he lasts five minutes.

This thread moves too fast. Did I miss anything good?

He definitely falls into the "five minute wonder" category - as in, it's a wonder if and when he lasts five minutes.

I am so, so sorry. Hope that doesn't spoil men for you :p

5 minutes? That must take some massive stamina.

I might have to repeat, as a disclaimer, that I've dutifully toed the homosexual line for years before my getting involved with my current heterosexual partner, so this is a very tiny empirical sample, but-

He definitely falls into the "five minute wonder" category - as in, it's a wonder if and when he lasts five minutes.

You need to find yourself a better man

'Proper' intercourse? What's this - only penis-vagina-sex 'counts'?

*Sigh* Sorry if it came out wrong. I meant to say I like to please her before I enter her. ;)

I don't know, is that all that uncommon? I mean hell, even my "quick sex" tends to be at least half an hour. I mean, fair enough, I've never had sex with another guy involved, but I always assumed the whole "five minute wonder" thing was at least a bit exaggerated.

Half an hour is not quick! Not if that's all vaginal intercourse. That's what really saps my stamina.

I realize I might be a bit of an oddity among women, though, because I don't need hours of attention to come and don't always want them if I don't need them. I think the fastest my boyfriend ever made me orgasm was in about three minutes (I was really, er, in the mood, obviously), and after about half an hour of sex and three orgasms I wanted to roll away and sleep for a few days. I can't imagine doing that for hours, it just doesn't sound fun.

I can't imagine doing that for hours, it just doesn't sound fun.

I really, really have to disagree with you on that one. ('Course, to be fair, given how long it's been since I've had a guy in my bed, right now several straight weeks of nonstop sex sounds pretty fun. :tongue: )

I really, really have to disagree with you on that one. ('Course, to be fair, given how long it's been since I've had a guy in my bed, right now several straight weeks of nonstop sex sounds pretty fun. :tongue: )

As long as it's been for you, I think an extended handshake would sound hot. :tongue:

As long as it's been for you, I think an extended handshake would sound hot. :tongue:

Bow wow chicka wow wow!!

As long as it's been for you, I think an extended handshake would sound hot. :tongue:

Mmmmm....handshake.... :p

That kind of sounds like torture to me. I've never wanted to have sex for that long. Longest I think I've actually had vaginal intercourse was like half an hour, and walking the rest of the week was... interesting.

Not just intercourse.

you better take a cold shower after mulling that position over.

That kind of sounds like torture to me. I've never wanted to have sex for that long. Longest I think I've actually had vaginal intercourse was like half an hour, and walking the rest of the week was... interesting.

Si vous le voulez bien me poser. Est-ce que votre sexe dimensions serré? La seule raison pour laquelle je demande, c'est parce que cela pourrait expliquer votre gêne, et je suis en faisant allusion à vos commentaires sur pied drôle pour une semaine.

Si cette question vous offense en aucune manière, s'il vous plaît, dites-moi et je m'en excuse.

So, what sort of foods do you enjoy eating off your lover? I quite like the idea of honey. The stickyness... :p

Honey is good, so is chocolate syrup, whipped cream, iced cream if she'll let me (only 1 woman did that but when you consider I been with 4... yeah... not too bad of numbers). Spaghetti sauce was fun...

I am so fat...

Honey is good, so is chocolate syrup, whipped cream, iced cream if she'll let me (only 1 woman did that but when you consider I been with 4... yeah... not too bad of numbers). Spaghetti sauce was fun...

I am so fat...

Don't say fat, say you're fluffy.:fluffle:

:D

Now, what do anyone here think about having sex to music? And what music or songs get you in the mood?

I can or I can't, don't matter much.

Wow. Umm. I'm not making any indecent suggestions, of course, but.. umm. Ja.

You must have missed mine..

I can or I can't, don't matter much.

I am so lost now...:confused:

I might have to repeat, as a disclaimer, that I've dutifully toed the homosexual line for years before my getting involved with my current heterosexual partner,

Yeah, my first lover did that too...

so this is a very tiny empirical sample, but-

He definitely falls into the "five minute wonder" category - as in, it's a wonder if and when he lasts five minutes.

On behalf of the entire male population, I apologize. Does this guy have any redeeming qualities?

I really, really have to disagree with you on that one. ('Course, to be fair, given how long it's been since I've had a guy in my bed, right now several straight weeks of nonstop sex sounds pretty fun. :tongue: )

Hmm.. I could make a trip :D.


*Disclaimer: This is only a joke if you take it that way!*

I am so lost now...:confused:

Music don't matter to me... I tend to focus on the task at hand, and I prefer to hear her moan anyway.

On behalf of the entire male population, I apologize. Does this guy have any redeeming qualities?

yeah, this doesn't sound like the guy you want to break the les streak for...

Music don't matter to me... I tend to focus on the task at hand, and I prefer to hear her moan anyway.

Ah, gotcha.:wink:

Music don't matter to me... I tend to focus on the task at hand, and I prefer to hear her moan anyway.

I can hear her moan over the music... :D

I can hear her moan over the music... :D

You're that good, huh?:tongue:

You're that good, huh?:tongue:

I seem to have a way with words... :)

I seem to have a way with words... :)

Do you, now?:D