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i don't think i'd meet anyone of the net without at least seeing them on webcam
What about me?
I dont have WebCam abilities. :(

What about me?
I dont have WebCam abilities. :(
i'd be too scared to meet you then :(


but if i'm gonna fork out all that money to get to NZ the least you could do would be buy a cheap webcam!

People would dig them.

If you wante to go somewhere... Dig! (But avoid houses)
But the Burecratic process needs me! :eek:

My People are around Six foot tall Hobbits but without the hairy feet!

The thing about being scared is that, to a degree, fear is healthy. It helps keep us alive, gives that adrenalin rush, & if you conquer the fear, you can feel justifiably brilliant & smug for ages afterwards ;)

It's your call, Tink. I don't want to sound patronising when I say you're only 17 but you do have years to master this fear thing. I can't promise it will go completely but it does often get a whole lot easier.

sadly tho, there's nothing I can do to guarantee a guy will say yes. If I knew how to work that magic I'd be selling it! :D

i'd be too scared to meet you then :(


but if i'm gonna fork out all that money to get to NZ the least you could do would be buy a cheap webcam!

Does that mean that if I buy (or borrow :p) a webcam, you'd come to France? ;)

i'd be too scared to meet you then :(


but if i'm gonna fork out all that money to get to NZ the least you could do would be buy a cheap webcam!
What if i came to Merry Ol' ?

Does that mean that if I buy (or borrow :p) a webcam, you'd come to France? ;)
lol, well i have always wanted to go to Paris, so when i can afford it i do fully intend to go

What if i came to Merry Ol' ?
if you could afford to come here then you could afford to buy a cheap webcam too!

The thing about being scared is that, to a degree, fear is healthy. It helps keep us alive, gives that adrenalin rush, & if you conquer the fear, you can feel justifiably brilliant & smug for ages afterwards ;)


Exactly. If you can persuade yourself that you *are* going to do it, it'll be that adrenalin rush that will actually help you go through with it.

Still, the proverbial ball is in his camp for now.

But the Burecratic process needs me! :eek:

My People are around Six foot tall Hobbits but without the hairy feet!

It's your job to make sure tunnels are to an good standard... and you can throw people into the radioactive atmosphere!

Tink, Do you want to see thiese pictures or not?

lol, well i have always wanted to go to Paris, so when i can afford it i do fully intend to go

Woo!

:fluffle:

Tink, Do you want to see thiese pictures or not?
sure

Still, the proverbial ball is in his camp for now.

From a personal point of view, I won't date anyone who get someone else to ask me on their behalf. It either matters enough to you that you will do it yourself or it doesn't matter to you, IMO. But that's me

if you could afford to come here then you could afford to buy a cheap webcam too!
But if i said meet me here and you could hide and if you didnt like what you see then youd be sweet No?

I'm probably not a good example of a geek but I think from reading the whole front page of the thread that you are trying to over engineer the situation. I personally cannot stand the pussy footing around that typically accompanys human interaction, small talk, flirting, who calls first, who asks who out, do you have sex on the first date?
I know, What about properity? What about tradition? Forget them.
Just take Occams Razor to the whole process and you find that it's simplest just to ask the damn guy if he would like to go out for a drink or lunch then you can talk and get to know each other.

Forget about trying to appeal to his geek side if you have no geek knowledge, unless you want a shallow relationship, it's best to be yourself, so he can get to know you and you him, and thus have a relationship that starts off based on mutual understanding rather than some fallacious charade. Later you can get him to teach you his geeky ways, if thats what you need.

My 'Mole coming out of the snooker table' impression (http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v303/TheProverbialJon/Friends/100_2222.jpg)

The second to follow

From a personal point of view, I won't date anyone who get someone else to ask me on their behalf. It either matters enough to you that you will do it yourself or it doesn't matter to you, IMO. But that's me

He doesn't know that TInk actually knows I did it.

It's your job to make sure tunnels are to an good standard... and you can throw people into the radioactive atmosphere!
Good thats the plan! :cool:

WTF!!!!!????? (http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v303/TheProverbialJon/Friends/aec13c76.jpg)

But if i said meet me here and you could hide and if you didnt like what you see then youd be sweet No?
but how would i know who was you if i hadn't seen you?

Good thats the plan! :cool:

Have fun

WTF!!!!!????? (http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v303/TheProverbialJon/Friends/aec13c76.jpg)
awww, you're so cute!

awww, you're so cute!

Really? You look at the other one?

ME! (http://mail.sharks.com.au/images/Danny%20Nutley%20-%202005%20headshot%20(200).jpg)

ME! (http://mail.sharks.com.au/images/Danny%20Nutley%20-%202005%20headshot%20(200).jpg)

How old are you????

but how would i know who was you if i hadn't seen you?
See below your post above mine! ;)
Id be wearing my We Love Harlesburg top!
+Id be the Total BAbe! :rolleyes:

How old are you????
DAnny Nutley is um 28?.......

ME! (http://mail.sharks.com.au/images/Danny%20Nutley%20-%202005%20headshot%20(200).jpg)
*eyebrow raise* you're Danny Nutley?

So i'm assuming that's not you????????????

Coz otehrwise you're a little old for Tink...

My 'Mole coming out of the snooker table' impression (http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v303/TheProverbialJon/Friends/100_2222.jpg)

The second to follow

lmao! That is a great picture :)

My 'Mole coming out of the snooker table' impression (http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v303/TheProverbialJon/Friends/100_2222.jpg)

The second to follow

another picture of me!

lmao! That is a great picture :)

Really??????

Get outta town :p

As a little reverse to what this is about i was wandering as a geek how could one get a girlfriend?
the problem is a like this girl who i work with we are both 17 and doing AS level exams, i tried to ask her out but got scared :headbang: and whenever i try to talk to her i either say something stupid, or freeze and mumble. any advice on how i can combat this problem as we are both geeks but she is a bit more sporty than me as she is in her all-girl schools sport teams

See below your post above mine! ;)
Id be wearing my We Love Harlesburg top!
+Id be the Total BAbe! :rolleyes:
lol

Really??????

Get outta town :p

No, I'm loving it! I'd totally play pool with you ;)

No, I'm loving it! I'd totally play pool with you ;)

it's snooker actually...

And I suck... Stupid Dispraxia!!!!!!

BTW: What gender are you?

*eyebrow raise* you're Danny Nutley?
Thats what i said!
hes great er im great yeah............... GO sharks!

So i'm assuming that's not you????????????

Coz otehrwise you're a little old for Tink...
Tink wouldnt discriminate now would she? :(

Well, 11 years is some age diffference...

Thats what i said!
hes great er im great yeah............... GO sharks!


Tink wouldnt discriminate now would she? :(
i like older men ;) especially rugby players, however i would prefer to see a real pic of you!

i like older men ;) especially rugby players, however i would prefer to see a real pic of you!

Woohoo! I'm older (By a month...)

Excellant!

FairyTInkArisen, can you give me a list of the reasons why the guy you're interested in is actually a geek? Because I've been doing some thinking and every geek that I know of likes either Star Trek or Star Wars. My boyfriend, for instance, has heaps of Star Wars merchandise!

A picture of Tink (http://images.allposters.com/images/PM/PM_825048.jpg)

EDIT: Wait I second... i think I pushed the wrong button or something.... :p :p :D

FairyTInkArisen, can you give me a list of the reasons why the guy you're interested in is actually a geek? Because I've been doing some thinking and every geek that I know of likes either Star Trek or Star Wars. My boyfriend, for instance, has heaps of Star Wars merchandise!
i've already been through all that :rolleyes: and he does like Star Wars

i like older men ;) especially rugby players, however i would prefer to see a real pic of you!
Well technically its that breakaway breakaway code Rugby League but eh!

If you get a definate answear from Bill in the negative ill arange for a pic of me! :) :gundge:

gah! lost the post I was trying to quote :(

Anyway, as the Little Britain quote goes, I'm a lady ;)

FairyTInkArisen, can you give me a list of the reasons why the guy you're interested in is actually a geek? Because I've been doing some thinking and every geek that I know of likes either Star Trek or Star Wars. My boyfriend, for instance, has heaps of Star Wars merchandise!
Well i plan to spend 3 hundy on Star Wars stuff 'morrow
Talking yoda
Darth Vader Helmet
other crap
Ah Money its wonderful! :D

gah! lost the post I was trying to quote :(

Anyway, as the Little Britain quote goes, I'm a lady ;)

Nevermind... You were quoting me, right?

Anyway, I'm 17. You?

Erm....Tink...i just read 37 pages.....damn...its like The young and the restless......5000 episodes and going strong....not much i can say after all these pages since everything is pretty much covered.....but i`d really like to see this end...in the next couple of pages....the suspance is killing me :p
And talking as the geek that i am.....i would say yes if you`d invite me out...you`re too sweet to refuse...good luck with the :fluffle: , and i`ll be keeping an eye on this thread to see the happy ending ;)

Nevermind... You were quoting me, right?

Anyway, I'm 17. You?

I was indeed :)

:( oh dear lord, I feel so old right now

I'm 29 - eep!

I was indeed :)

:( oh dear lord, I feel so old right now

I'm 29 - eep!

I think you're a little old for me...

Unless you become my Sugar Mummy ;) :p :D

A proper pic of Tink... seriously!!!! What do you mean you don't trust me??? (http://img206.echo.cx/img206/5117/picture1787ou.jpg)

A proper pic of Tink... seriously!!!! What do you mean you don't trust me??? (http://img206.echo.cx/img206/5117/picture1787ou.jpg)
And she says shes not Beautiful! :eek:

I think you're a little old for me...

Unless you become my Sugar Mummy ;) :p :D

It's a very sweet offer but I'll pass, thanx :p

I was indeed :)

:( oh dear lord, I feel so old right now

I'm 29 - eep!
Nice age for a woman, if you ask me. Which you didnt, but i comment nonetheless. ;)

Nice age for a woman, if you ask me. Which you didnt, but i comment nonetheless. ;)

Nice age, how? Not that I'm not enjoying it, I'm just wondering what you meant

oh Iki you are not old in the least... I am 32 :-P

Nice age, how? Not that I'm not enjoying it, I'm just wondering what you meant
Old enough to have made your own experiences, young enough to not be cynic already. And most likely to look your best, at least to people who prefer women to girls. ;)

oh Iki you are not old in the least... I am 32 :-P

And beautiful with it ;)

Nice to see you around, honey :)

Old enough to have made your own experiences, young enough to not be cynic already. And most likely to look your best, at least to people who prefer women to girls. ;)

That's actually pretty true. I'd say I've probably looked physically better at other times but I'm much happier with myself now & can certify that I'm pretty damn hot ;)

See? I should know, that age +- a few years is my hunting ground. Besides, i want proof for that claim. :D

WARNING: Long post!

Wow. I love this thread -- I've read all 38 pages. Obviously a lot of other people love it too!

I've got a fair bit of experience in this area but it's probably a bit different from most of the posts here...

The classic scenario, which I have personally lived through, and seen many times in other groups, is what I call the Threshing Machine.

I've seen a non-geek girl (or woman - I've seen this happen to geeks in their early 30s) go through a group of geeks like a threshing machine through a wheat field.

Not one-night stands - but one agonizing relationship after another over a period of years - until a group of geek friends are no longer friends and they are laying on the ground exhausted by the emotional rollercoaster.

This is purely accidental and done with no intention of harm in some situations.

I ended up in a Computer Science degree by accident. I went to a pathetic high school with no one even close to intelligent, did Law for a year because that's what smart people do, hated Law, loved my one Computer Science subject so transferred. I found that it was actually very easy to convince Comp Sci guys that I was interested...

My nickname was "Buffy" at uni (blonde, at that time, and the right age -- the resemblence ends there as far as I can see), which could be seen as quite intimidating and "in the wrong league", but the fact that I spoke to them and displayed interest was generally enough to convince most of them that I was madly in love. And I must admit, I found meeting these people the most amazing experience. I'd never been around intelligent people before, had never heard of role playing (and didn't actually see it in action until I joined NS some time later) and I had no idea why the servers at uni were called Cat, Rimmer and Lister... Suddenly I was discovering the inner nerd that I'd never known how to express! So it was pretty easy to get across that I found everyone fascinating, even if there wasn't any physical attraction.

I did date a few of them (mostly from the same group of friends, bad move) and it all ended very messily (though I now am married to a Software Engineer/Computer Nerd that I met through IBM's graduate program). I managed to get most of them to ask me out but I had to be fairly unsubtle about it - lots of big hints and I must admit to using the "when are you asking me out?" line. The UNIX IM was the usual forum for these chats -- MSN wasn't big six years ago. But, trust me, getting these guys to go out with you is only half the battle -- getting them to make a physical move once on a date is virtually impossible! I went seven dates with one without him making a move. And one of the dates was watching The Matrix on DVD on his bed!!

Anyway, FairyTInkArisn, my advice...
1) Make him feel special and like you are really interested in him -- use a sledge hammer if necessary to let him know that you like him and that there is no chance you will reject him if he does ask
2) Take the risk -- I haven't put myself on the line very often but when I have I've never regretted it, even when the guy has said no. It was a massive weight off my shoulders and I was so proud of myself for actually doing it, that I didn't even feel bummed about the rejection. Worst case, it's a great opportunity to move on with life and stop dreaming about someone who obviously isn't smart enough to see how wonderful you are.

Slightly off the topic...

I know but i'll feel a lot more comfortable asking him over msn, plus his dad might answer the phone and he's Australian and it always makes me laugh, i don't wanna ring up and not be able to say anything cause i'm too busy laughing at his dad!

Most of the guys in my NS region are Scottish so I've been wishing they could type with an accent. And I've wondered what everyone thinks of the Aussie accent... Are we really that funny?

No, the Threshing Machine is never intentional, but it happens frequently, and it's never pretty.

See? I should know, that age +- a few years is my hunting ground. Besides, i want proof for that claim. :D

You'll just have to take my word for it :p

No, the Threshing Machine is never intentional, but it happens frequently, and it's never pretty.

I'm glad you realise that we don't set out to hurt anyone!

I had no idea why the servers at uni were called Cat, Rimmer and Lister...

F******g Ace! :p :D

"Smoke me a Kipper, I'll be back for Breakfast!"

Jeebus fscking christ...

Again, late on reply. But I have only met one geek girl in my life, and she has no more interest in me than to be my best friend... But anyways.

Just don't be intimidating, and you MUST MAKE THE FIRST MOVE. Geeks are far too shy to go up to an attactive girl and say "Hello". Hell, I wish I had someone interested in me. Good luck fellow geeks.

I'm glad you realise that we don't set out to hurt anyone!

No, too many men, rather than question their own judgment and social skills, set out and blame such incidents on "heartless bitches".

If you're in a relationship, and it goes bad, each person has just as much responsibility as the other for whatever happens. And people don't go into relationships thinking, "oh, I can't wait to fuck this person over".

OK, just checking in...what's going on? Is the problem resolved? Has a course of action been taken? Can you update me? I'm not about to read the 20+ pages of posts that have sprung up like weeds since I left last night.

~Czardas, Supreme Ruler of the Universe

P.S. Moleland, you cannot silence me here or I...I...I won't give you any cookies!

You'll just have to take my word for it :p
A picture says more than a thousand words. ;)
jk

I went out with a (I suppose) geek girl once. She was funny. Never ran anywhere, always skipped on purpose. She had this orange hoody with a picture of Tigger on the front. I was, what? Thirteen? Anyway, it went on for two weeks, then we just saw each other at school one morning, and mutually broke up, on the premice that it wasn't really going anywhere. Haven't seen her since we left school (Two years), but we'd been friends since about Year 3.
Damn. I miss her now.

"Never let the odds keep you from pursuing what you know in your heart you were meant to do." - Satchel Paige

OK, just checking in...what's going on? Is the problem resolved? Has a course of action been taken? Can you update me? I'm not about to read the 20+ pages of posts that have sprung up like weeds since I left last night.

~Czardas, Supreme Ruler of the Universe

P.S. Moleland, you cannot silence me here or I...I...I won't give you any cookies!....Well? Don't keep me in suspense! What's going on?!!

~Czardas

cause i'm too scared

my plan from some dozen or so pages back is pretty much sure-fire. the only ways it wouldn't result in him saying yes are if he was abducted by iraqi insurgents or columbian drug lords just before he was able to answer you.

what you need is some real life friend to turn up the peer pressure on you in person. this works especially well if they are in the room while you ask over the phone or internet.

Most of the guys in my NS region are Scottish so I've been wishing they could type with an accent.

If only, hen, if only. :p

OK, just checking in...what's going on? Is the problem resolved? Has a course of action been taken? Can you update me? I'm not about to read the 20+ pages of posts that have sprung up like weeds since I left last night.

~Czardas, Supreme Ruler of the Universe

P.S. Moleland, you cannot silence me here or I...I...I won't give you any cookies!

Quiet you! x4, i'm much more supreme than you...see... my siggy proves it!

Hey! Just cause I'm smarter than most does not mean I'm a geek(more of a nerd but who cares) But as for this asking out thing please tell me to!

Quiet you! x4, i'm much more supreme than you...see... my siggy proves it!Well, you have to be elected Supreme Ruler of the Universe. And I outlawed elections. So ha.

And I'm not giving you any cookies!!

To everyone but Moleland: Can you update me? What's going on? Has Tink attempted anything yet?

~Czardas, Supreme Ruler of the Universe

Yes, what has happened? I can't be bothered reading all the pages that were added while I slept...

Well, you have to be elected Supreme Ruler of the Universe. And I outlawed elections. So ha.

And I'm not giving you any cookies!!

To everyone but Moleland: Can you update me? What's going on? Has Tink attempted anything yet?

~Czardas, Supreme Ruler of the Universe

i know what has happened... but I won't tell you, because you didn't ask me :p

I just read all 39 of these pages....how bout an update...please. :)

i know what has happened... but I won't tell you, because you didn't ask me :pMoleland, what happened?

~Czardas, Supreme Ruler of the Universe

Moleland, what happened?

~Czardas, Supreme Ruler of the Universe

At last count..

He hasn't taken the hint that Tink likes him (I think) and believes the invite to the cinema is with her and her friends...

She hasn't plucked up the courage to ask directly yet...

At last count..

He hasn't taken the hint that Tink likes him (I think) and believes the invite to the cinema is with her and her friends...

She hasn't plucked up the courage to ask directly yet...

Thanks for the update :) I still think Tink should just ask him, I just made myself ask my g/f and it was lots easier than I thought it would be.

Thanks for the update :) I still think Tink should just ask him, I just made myself ask my g/f and it was lots easier than I thought it would be.

It's not that easy...

If it was... it would be... Easy?

At last count..

He hasn't taken the hint that Tink likes him (I think) and believes the invite to the cinema is with her and her friends...

She hasn't plucked up the courage to ask directly yet...I have a feeling that she's not online at the moment. Maybe because her postcount hasn't increased for the past 30-40 minutes.

Just a feeling...


~Czardas, Supreme Ruler of the Universe

It's not that easy...

If it was... it would be... Easy?

I didn't say easy, i said easiER, by that I mean it is hard, just not as hard as your mind makes it out to be. (At least in my case because my mind tends to blow things WAY out of proportion. Also, I would like to say that I am a certified geek persuing a degree in Computer Science, I love Star Wars and LOTR, and have a special place in my heart for Alias and any alternate history book.)

I didn't say easy, i said easiER, by that I mean it is hard, just not as hard as your mind makes it out to be. (At least in my case because my mind tends to blow things WAY out of proportion. Also, I would like to say that I am a certified geek persuing a degree in Computer Science, I love Star Wars and LOTR, and have a special place in my heart for Alias and any alternate history book.)Oh, I love alternate history books! I've even written some! (Yes, I do have a lot of time on my hands.) ;)

~Czardas, Supreme Ruler of the Universe

This might help:
http://www.geekfantasies.com/

It's not porn don't worry. You'll get a kick out of it if you click on the free preview pictures.

http://www.grendel.org/milgeek/archives/i1/geekporn.html
for some hot geek action...

http://www.grendel.org/milgeek/archives/i1/geekporn.html
for some hot geek action...
lol. She even has my name.

Wow! Hard core man!

http://www.grendel.org/milgeek/archives/i1/geekporn.html
for some hot geek action...

Ohhh, thats hot, I want some. :p

I need some advice from some geeks/girlfriends of geeks. How the hell do you get them interested and get them to ask you out?

Well, not to generalize... but having experienced a prolonged stint as a geek in my high school days (ok, my entire high school tour of duty much of the later years of elementary school and a good chunk of university) I would have to say that the advice you need here is the same they give to a lot of people about dealing with wildlife.

Just remember that he's more scared of you than you are of him.

Ask him out. Directly. Explicitly. If there's any room to misinterpret your offer as anything other than a date proposal he'll most likely talk himself out of thinking it's a date as he won't be able to bring himself to believe that fortune has just smiled upon him in such a spectacular manner and he'll be afraid of offending you by assuming too much.

Also, try not take it the wrong way if, once the reality finally dawns upon him, he has a little trouble reconciling himself to the idea and says something stupid before he can compensate. No telling what that stupid thing will be... but there's a high probability of something boneheaded coming out of his mouth in the early going.

Edit: You may have already received similar advice I didn't see... I've never seen a thread grow this fast...

Edit: You may have already received similar advice I didn't see... I've never seen a thread grow this fast...Me neither. I don't know what this girl does, but her threads are the most popular around. This one has so many replies I gave up reading it after page 18. The others are just as bad.

~Czardas, Supreme Ruler of the Universe

Me neither. I don't know what this girl does, but her threads are the most popular around. This one has so many replies I gave up reading it after page 18. The others are just as bad.

~Czardas, Supreme Ruler of the Universe

I read all 40 pages if it, now I have a headache :headbang:

Are her other threads just as interesting?

I read all 40 pages if it, now I have a headache :headbang:

Are her other threads just as interesting?I haven't seen all of them (she has >10,000), and no, they're not that interesting to me, but apparently they interest other people a great deal.

~Czardas, Supreme Ruler of the Universe

I read all 40 pages if it, now I have a headache :headbang:

Are her other threads just as interesting?
lol, probably not, i didn't realise this would still be going actually lol



ok, update, spent the last 8 hours with him but my other friends were there for most of it, only the last 1/2 hour was just the 2 of us when we got the bus together but nothing happened :( i think i might just give up, it's not like he's the only person in the world that I fancy

i think i might just give up

bah, quitter

ok, update, spent the last 8 hours with him but my other friends were there for most of it, only the last 1/2 hour was just the 2 of us when we got the bus together but nothing happened :( i think i might just give up, it's not like he's the only person in the world that I fancy

Just in case it helps, just because he did nothing doesn't mean he's not interested. He may still be too shy.

Did he seem at all nervous around you, especially when you two were alone? If he did, it could be a pretty clear indication that he's interested, but that he just can't work up the courage to ask.

Just in case it helps, just because he did nothing doesn't mean he's not interested. He may still be too shy.

Did he seem at all nervous around you, especially when you two were alone? If he did, it could be a pretty clear indication that he's interested, but that he just can't work up the courage to ask.
i dunno

Neeevveerrr give up. Or else someone will take him and you will be depressed and emo.

lol, probably not, i didn't realise this would still be going actually lol

ok, update, spent the last 8 hours with him but my other friends were there for most of it,

And there's your problem. I can practically read his thoughts now...

"She just invited you along with a bunch of her friends... this isn't a date... she's not interested in you that way... don't make an ass out of yourself by presuming too much... "

If you want anything to happen there you shouldn't leave room for misinterpretation.

lol, probably not, i didn't realise this would still be going actually lol



ok, update, spent the last 8 hours with him but my other friends were there for most of it, only the last 1/2 hour was just the 2 of us when we got the bus together but nothing happened :( i think i might just give up, it's not like he's the only person in the world that I fancy
No way in hell is a half hour enough for a geek to get the gumption up, and never in a million years is he going to do it on a bus (geeks feel that 'the walls have ears' and everyone is silently judging them, badly)

If he was able to make a move, then he wouldn't be a geek.

You're going to have to get over your fear of rejection, because he's never going to.

And there's your problem. I can practically read his thoughts now...

"She just invited you along with a bunch of her friends... this isn't a date... she's not interested in you that way... don't make an ass out of yourself by presuming too much... "

If you want anything to happen there you shouldn't leave room for misinterpretation.
that isn't how it happened, my friend Callum invited us both to the cinema and i spent ages persuading him to go, saying how i'd have a much better time if he was there, then after Callum was like 'oh, you should come to the Headmaster's debate thing to support Zara and O'Neill' but Bill wasn't sure if he wanted to come but again i persuaded him, i made it quite clear that i wanted to spend time with him

And there's your problem. I can practically read his thoughts now...

"She just invited you along with a bunch of her friends... this isn't a date... she's not interested in you that way... don't make an ass out of yourself by presuming too much... "

If you want anything to happen there you shouldn't leave room for misinterpretation.
That ringing sound is a nail being hit on the head.

that isn't how it happened, my friend Callum invited us both to the cinema and i spent ages persuading him to go, saying how i'd have a much better time if he was there, then after Callum was like 'oh, you should come to the Headmaster's debate thing to support Zara and O'Neill' but Bill wasn't sure if he wanted to come but again i persuaded him, i made it quite clear that i wanted to spend time with him
If he didn't want to go unless he got a special invite from you, he's into you. Remember the It's a Wonderful Life story? (you might have to page back a bit...)

i dunno

Next time, pay attention. ;) See if he looks nervous, even slightly. If he does, it's a fair bet he's interested.

that isn't how it happened, my friend Callum invited us both to the cinema and i spent ages persuading him to go, saying how i'd have a much better time if he was there, then after Callum was like 'oh, you should come to the Headmaster's debate thing to support Zara and O'Neill' but Bill wasn't sure if he wanted to come but again i persuaded him, i made it quite clear that i wanted to spend time with him

But in the eyes of your average geek that just doesn't cross the threshold required. It's far more likely he will take that as "she finds you entertaining to be around and is looking for her friend to lessen the boredom" and not as "she's interested in you, you blockhead. Do something about it!"

Geeks ere heavily on the side of caution in such matters... which is part of the reason they find it so difficult to become unmired from geekdom. Take it from one who knows. The odds are he would be thrilled if he ever did become convinced you were interested in him, but you'll probably have to communicate it with the social equivalent of a heavy blunt instrument.

EDIT: I should probably not overlook the disclaimer that this is a profile of your general geek... it's always possible your guy is the exception to the rule. Your call of course.

Geeks ere heavily on the side of caution in such matters...

Exactly! This point cannot be emphasised enough.

If he didn't want to go unless he got a special invite from you, he's into you. Remember the It's a Wonderful Life story? (you might have to page back a bit...)I don't know. This may sound discouraging, but if it took a long time to persuade him, he might not be that interested. Hard to believe that anyone could fail to be interested in Tink, but there's always the possibility...

~Czardas, Supreme Ruler of the Universe

I don't know. This may sound discouraging, but if it took a long time to persuade him, he might not be that interested. Hard to believe that anyone could fail to be interested in Tink, but there's always the possibility...

~Czardas, Supreme Ruler of the Universe
Geeks are certain that when hot chicks ask them to do anything they are just being polite and would be put out if the geek said yes. So they say no the first five times until they are absolutely sure they are really welcome. Well, they get on the second or third try-then they just start soaking in the rays of a hot chick begging them to do something 'cause that borders on phone sex for them...

Geeks are certain that when hot chicks ask them to do anything they are just being polite and would be put out if the geek said yes. So they say no the first five times until they are absolutely sure they are really welcome. Well, they get on the second or third try-then they just start soaking in the rays of a hot chick begging them to do something 'cause that borders on phone sex for them...Ah, I didn't know that. I suppose it's because I'm technically not a geek. Or am I??? I'm not entirely sure myself.

~Czardas, Supreme Ruler of the Universe

I read all 40 pages if it, now I have a headache :headbang:

Are her other threads just as interesting?
TInk is amazing dont you forget it! ;)

TInk is amazing dont you forget it! ;)I'm just wondering how is it that all of her threads get ubernumbers of replies, while the most one of mine ever got is 182? This girl has a Midas touch when it comes to posting!

(Hey, it's helped my postcount along nicely, and hers too. She's made 400 posts in the past few days, and I have 360...)

~Czardas, Supreme Ruler of the Universe

I'm just wondering how is it that all of her threads get ubernumbers of replies, while the most one of mine ever got is 182? This girl has a Midas touch when it comes to posting!

(Hey, it's helped my postcount along nicely, and hers too. She's made 400 posts in the past few days, and I have 360...)

~Czardas, Supreme Ruler of the Universe
Its her second nation
So everyone(Of Pedigree) knows her.
Young nations see that people think the world of her and go Huh i better join the bandwagon and so they do and then suddenly their like Wow TInk 'Is Great'

Plus shes on and off for like 10 hours a day so the whole gets to see her and because of this the Thread gets to run through 24 Hours easily being on the front page and as everyone chimes in the posts build.

Shes had at least 4 threads dedicated to her
2000Post Dedication
Apreciation thread
A devine Thread
4000Post Dedication
theirs others too
Including Tinks not around.......

I wanted to post this on Ffc2 thing but it locked. :(
The Mods will save us
Never fear the mods are here
Theyll see this spam for what its worth
and send the thread to hell!

We will never fear the flamers glare
The Mods will surely save us
back off now to save your skin
This thread is just a sin

Save your souls from all the trolls
Annoying is their goal...........

Also a Harlesburg Bores the Pants of Tink thread*
Meant to be off but poor spelling that got 18 pages
then thiers my BMI test that did well and how did you find NS my first serious thread.
Ill find the first time i met Tink for you> ;)

Wow!
http://forums.jolt.co.uk/showpost.php?p=7553743&postcount=6 @Kanabia
http://forums.jolt.co.uk/showpost.php?p=7553816&postcount=10
my reply
http://forums.jolt.co.uk/showpost.php?p=7559674&postcount=53
http://forums.jolt.co.uk/showpost.php?p=7559682&postcount=54

I have to ask you, Tink, you're about to go to college and preparing for finals coming up soon, so how is it that you can spend >10 hours a day on NS? I myself have probably more time, and I have a good deal fewer posts than you...

~Czardas, Supreme Ruler of the Universe

That's absolutely brilliant! :D

I suppose it's something only geeks can understand, but if a girl like TInk tried that on me it'd work instantly.

Anyway... TInk, how's it going? Has he talked to you yet??

Yay! fame! Recognition!

Oh... then back to obscurity. :)

I had no idea why the servers at uni were called Cat, Rimmer and Lister...

Maximum Respect!

Better Dead than Smeg.

*blush* you lot are all so sweet


I have to ask you, Tink, you're about to go to college and preparing for finals coming up soon, so how is it that you can spend >10 hours a day on NS? I myself have probably more time, and I have a good deal fewer posts than you...

~Czardas, Supreme Ruler of the Universe
i recently left school to go into nursing but i can't start till at least September so i don't have anything to do until then, i'm trying to find a job but it doesn't appear to be going very well

*blush* you lot are all so sweet



i recently left school to go into nursing but i can't start till at least September so i don't have anything to do until then, i'm trying to find a job but it doesn't appear to be going very well
Gap years are great!
http://www.vuwsa.org.nz/activities/event/DecGradCruise.html

I feel compelled to point out the number of this page, it being 42.

Hmm..I'm very much a geek and a gamer, but my girlfriend didn't have too much trouble attracting my interest.

Sadly, the best way you can attract a geek is, as someone said, flirt obviously. Show interest in them and their hobbies. Not sure what further advise I could give.

I need some advice from some geeks/girlfriends of geeks. How the hell do you get them interested and get them to ask you out?

What kind of geek is this... computer geek or maths/science geek?

What kind of geek is this... computer geek or maths/science geek?
computer

Keep going for it Tink! :)
I found a pic of you! :eek:
http://img26.exs.cx/img26/1277/picture841le.jpg

computer

damn... i have no help for you there... :(

but you're Tink, you'll be fine, just remember all male geeks are deathly shy of girls in general ;)

damn... i have no help for you there... :(

but you're Tink, you'll be fine, just remember all male geeks are deathly shy of girls in general ;)
Not only General but International Incidents and Nationstates as well as Technical too! :eek: :D
Oh you meant ........

Keep going for it Tink! :)
I found a pic of you! :eek:
http://img26.exs.cx/img26/1277/picture841le.jpg

edit out the dreadful beret pic now!!!

Not only General but International Incidents and Nationstates as well as Technical too! :eek: :D
Oh you meant ........

:p lol yeah, i was talking bout real life... y'know that thing that exists separate from your computer...

edit out the dreadful beret pic now!!!
Sorry Ma'am the reason ive got those things is its on my Comps history and so i was clicking about the little links on the Histories and found those 2.

Now the reason ive got them is because i normally have 3 weeks of Internet stuff kept in the history before i Delete it or it does it automatically is because suddenly the bloody thing went bung and all the little linkies were in their forum numbers and not their nice little names
(example http://forums.jolt.co.uk/newreply.php?do=newreply&p=8919593 instead of How to get a geek)

So i in a wonderful sense of genious though id keep the week and see the important stuff later!

But no i was to lazy and since then it had climbed to 15 weeks ive got it down to 11 and some of them (weeks 7 to now i know the names)

So i can go through all the little links and know all the crap ive viewed.Wow exciting! :rolleyes:

If you cant understand dont worry! :)

The pic shall die! :(

OMG! enough said.

seriously Harlesburg! take the pic down! i was ill and i look horrible!

seriously Harlesburg! take the pic down! i was ill and i look horrible!
sorry Tink Comp froze i just got back on!

sorry Tink Comp froze i just got back on!
ok

:p lol yeah, i was talking bout real life... y'know that thing that exists separate from your computer...
Oh so thats the green stuff outside the Interweb say they are plants...

Done and Done TInk
http://forums.jolt.co.uk/showpost.php?p=7559682&postcount=54
:(

thanks

ok

I agree, you did look horrible...

You read the amazing tale that happened to me yesterday???

Hello there Tink,

Been catching up on things since I left work yesterday. So the movie date didn't come off very well? Did you watch Ep3?

This is better than a soap or series. When you get married all of us guys in the forum will treat you like Helen of Sparta (better known as Helen of Troy) -draw our swords in the defense of whoever you end up with and launch a thousand ships.

H.G. Cathenia

Hello there Tink,

Been catching up on things since I left work yesterday. So the movie date didn't come off very well? Did you watch Ep3?

This is better than a soap or series. When you get married all of us guys in the forum will treat you like Helen of Sparta (better known as Helen of Troy) -draw our swords in the defense of whoever you end up with and launch a thousand ships.

H.G. Cathenia
no, it didn't go so great, and yeah, we went to see Ep3


lol

no, it didn't go so great, and yeah, we went to see Ep3


lol

I'm sorry to hear that :(

Hello there Tink,
This is better than a soap or series. When you get married all of us guys in the forum will treat you like Helen of Sparta (better known as Helen of Troy) -draw our swords in the defense of whoever you end up with and launch a thousand ships.

H.G. Cathenia
Im a Trojan!

Im sorry to hear that too TInk what was it like?

Im a Trojan!

Im sorry to hear that too TInk what was it like?
i had a good time, the film was good, although afterwards we went to the headmaster's debate at my old school cause a couple of my friends were in it and that was the most boring 2 hours of my entire life, but nothing happened between me and Bill

i had a good time, the film was good, although afterwards we went to the headmaster's debate at my old school cause a couple of my friends were in it and that was the most boring 2 hours of my entire life, but nothing happened between me and Bill
Most Boring 2 hours aye good thing you havent met me! ;)
http://img19.exs.cx/my.php?loc=img19&image=picture761wj.jpg
another pic.

... and I'm Cathenian hehe!

Seriously, why did you feel like it didn't go well. I'm afraid I didn't get the nuances while skimming over the last 15 pages since yesterday...

H.G. Cathenia

... and I'm Cathenian hehe!

Seriously, why did you feel like it didn't go well. I'm afraid I didn't get the nuances while skimming over the last 15 pages since yesterday...

H.G. Catheniawell he wasn't exactly thrilled with me for dragging him to the debate after he'd told me that it would be really long and boring

Hmmm... that was a bit of a bother. Well of course you wanted to support your old friends but I swear something like that will just kill whatever chance (unless, like in Al Pacino's LOOKING FOR RICHARD movie, you and Bill - that's his name right? - like Kevin Kline and his girlfriend, start making out in the back when no one's looking)

Should have gone for coffee or something then started chatting it up about the movie. You've of course seen the rest of the series?

H.G.Cathenia

well he wasn't exactly thrilled with me for dragging him to the debate after he'd told me that it would be really long and boring
You should have listened or said maybe we could do something else. :eek:
*Wink*

well he wasn't exactly thrilled with me for dragging him to the debate after he'd told me that it would be really long and boring

What was the debate about... those were pretty clear signals I hate to say. What's your next move? He's Australian I read... how long has he been living in - the Midlands was it?

H.G. Cathenia

I made him go because it was something that was really important to my friends who were in it, i'm not about to start letting my other friends down for him, he wasn't annoyed with me, well he was joking about saying he was but i know he wasn't being serious

What was the debate about... those were pretty clear signals I hate to say. What's your next move? He's Australian I read... how long has he been living in - the Midlands was it?

H.G. Cathenia
it was about the nanny state. i don't know my next move! well he was born in Aus, then he moved here when he was about 4 i think, then moved back to Aus when he was 7 then came back here i think when he was 11 or something like that (no, not the Midlands, I live in Blackpool)

well he wasn't exactly thrilled with me for dragging him to the debate after he'd told me that it would be really long and boring
And yet he still went. Dammit, the dude is into you. But noooooo, just keep ignoring me...rackinfrackingarrble

Like five years from now you two will get to talking and laughingly admit that you were into him and he'll say, "I was totally into you, but I thought you where just being nice. But now I married this beast of a woman that I'm too afraid I'll never find love again so I can't leave her and you'll never know." And from a whole continent and an ocean away you'll hear, "Dammit, I told you so..."

And the coy little photo with you in the pink furry crown peeking over the whateverthehellitis is cute as hell, and I'm not even a member of your cult. I don't know why you have such a problem with it-that thing should be on t-shirts.

And the coy little photo with you in the pink furry crown peeking over the whateverthehellitis is cute as hell, and I'm not even a member of your cult. I don't know why you have such a problem with it-that thing should be on t-shirts.
i don't have a problem with that pic, there was 2 pics before, it was the other that i hated

i don't have a problem with that pic, there was 2 pics before, it was the other that i hated
Ah, my mistake.

I'm not even a member of your cult.

You should be. :p

TInk, all I can suggest for now is give him time to work up his courage, and what I suggested in the first place. Try to drop increasingly big hints so as to dispell any doubts he may have about you being interested in him. I'm ready to bet he's looking for signs that you are, and if he sees none he'll conclude that you're not. He's automatically going to err on the side of caution and negativity, and interpret everything in a way that means you're not interested, unless you make it increasingly plain to him that you are.

You should have... said maybe we could do something else. :eek: *Wink*

Tell you a little story... I was about four years younger than I am now and I was set to do a report for my journalism class. So I was stomped to find a resource person and I called my friends in the papers and asked if they knew someone. I ended up talking to a slightly older woman that I'll call Tigger. Well we meet up and she does her lecture for my class but afterwards as a way of thanking her I take her out for coffee. And we talk... just talk about things... that's the key. You need to talk because that will, at least for geeks like me, determine whether you're okay to hang around with. Anyways we met up again for coffee another evening and talked... then we eventually ended up in a park and talked some more... then she started to make her move and as they say the rest is history.

Talk, good talk, bloody good conversation, is like alcohol. Lowers the resistance and frees the inhibitions - particularly if you chart it well enough, flirt a bit without being direct, judge the timing correctly (remember, strike swiftly and precisely, like fencing) and keep him at ease.

Oh and don't underestimate the power of the feeling of flesh on flesh. My thesis was partly based on that (check out Edward Hall's The Hidden Dimension IIRC) - even Discovery Channel hints at it. I believe that human beings like dogs or cats have powerful sensory apparati to detect human body heat signals and olfactory (scent) signals. It's just buried so deep in the subconscious we don't notice it. But when, like the Beach Boys, you feel 'Good Vibrations' or you just 'gel' with someone, I believe it's really the body sending signals to each other. Like there are times in public transport I've experimented just 'feeling' thoughts of either liking or disliking to the person next to me - usually with my forearms exposed and in close proximity or touching their skin. You'd be surprised what happens sometimes.

Another time, they conducted an experiment (saw this on a Discovery Channel show) where they had a bunch of guys and girls wear their underwear for about a week (nasty I know) then they sealed it up and had another bunch of guys and girls smell the underwear in the class and rate it on a numerical scale. They also took blood samples I think. Anyways, it turns out that scent (w/c we know instinctively but don't notice overtly) is another way males and females hook up. People with similar physical conditioning or who are prone to similar illnesses smell alike and therefore don't like each other (they smell bad or unattractive to each other) while, as the old cliche goes, opposites attract. This is the body's way of ensuring that the next generation has a stronger resistance to disease and ill health. Like there's this gorgeous Chinese girl who lots of guys had a crush on. I don't know but she always kinda smelt off to me... she was like wearing perfume and of course she'd bathed but something about her put me off (we're actually good friends also and she's really nice) so I never really wanted to be anything more than friends with her despite the fact that she looks like Shu Qi.

Anyways, that's my somewhat long two cents worth...
His Grace, etc etc, Cathenia

And yet he still went. Dammit, the dude is into you. But noooooo, just keep ignoring me...rackinfrackingarrble

Like five years from now you two will get to talking and laughingly admit that you were into him and he'll say, "I was totally into you, but I thought you where just being nice. But now I married this beast of a woman that I'm too afraid I'll never find love again so I can't leave her and you'll never know." And from a whole continent and an ocean away you'll hear, "Dammit, I told you so..."

Amen to that! Don't let it happen to you. It's a bloody Hollywood tragedy in the making I kid you not!

H.G. Cathenia

I'm not even a member of your cult.
Yeah you should be! :p

You should be. :p

TInk, all I can suggest for now is give him time to work up his courage, and what I suggested in the first place. Try to drop increasingly big hints so as to dispell any doubts he may have about you being interested in him. I'm ready to bet he's looking for signs that you are, and if he sees none he'll conclude that you're not. He's automatically going to err on the side of caution and negativity, and interpret everything in a way that means you're not interested, unless you make it increasingly plain to him that you are.
As a recovering geek, I'll say this again-now with two stories--

I had a chick who had, before coming back to Cali, insist that when she got there I would not have a girlfriend. She also insisted that I crash at her friends pad with her even though I lived in the area and had my own place. Her friend went to bed with the "don't have too much fun" comment. She then laid ON TOP OF ME and said "You're gonna have to make a move or your not getting up." and I still wasn't able to 'work up the courage' dispite being into the chick since high school (and this was after she graduated from grad school.)

I had another chick find my 'sweet spot' (those little fuzzy hairs at the bottom of the hair line on the back of the neck...I would kill kittens for someone rubbing that spot and I love cats), work it until I crumpled to the ground and then started kissing the back of my neck and I still wasn't sure.

Seem absolutely ridiculous? It is. But thats the animal you're up against. "First moves" are just not in the play book.

(I'm not that much of a goon nowadays, but I still know what it was like)

Yeah you should be! :p
Okay see, I'm 33. It'd just be creepy.

I had a chick who had, before coming back to Cali, insist that when she got there I would not have a girlfriend. She also insisted that I crash at her friends pad with her even though I lived in the area and had my own place. Her friend went to bed with the "don't have too much fun" comment. She then laid ON TOP OF ME and said "You're gonna have to make a move or your not getting up." and I still wasn't able to 'work up the courage' dispite being into the chick since high school (and this was after she graduated from grad school.)


That's the way to go Tink... seriously. Unless of course he's some sort of ultra conservative Mel Gibson type (you know what I mean) when that would become a 'get thee behind me' Potiphar's wife moment... then again, to paraphrase Renee Zellweger in JERRY MAGUIRE "he may not sue..."

The sweet spot thing does work too. I can still remember when she touched me... just my forearm with the tips of her fingers. I looked like a landed fish or like I'd just been tazered. It was utterly ridiculous, my teeth were chattering and she was tracing her fingernails over the back of my hand.

Don't give him a heart attack darlin' - but have fun.

Cheers,
H.G.Cathenia

As a recovering geek, I'll say this again-now with two stories--

I had a chick who had, before coming back to Cali, insist that when she got there I would not have a girlfriend. She also insisted that I crash at her friends pad with her even though I lived in the area and had my own place. Her friend went to bed with the "don't have too much fun" comment. She then laid ON TOP OF ME and said "You're gonna have to make a move or your not getting up." and I still wasn't able to 'work up the courage' dispite being into the chick since high school (and this was after she graduated from grad school.)

I had another chick find my 'sweet spot' (those little fuzzy hairs at the bottom of the hair line on the back of the neck...I would kill kittens for someone rubbing that spot and I love cats), work it until I crumpled to the ground and then started kissing the back of my neck and I still wasn't sure.

Seem absolutely ridiculous? It is. But thats the animal you're up against. "First moves" are just not in the play book.

(I'm not that much of a goon nowadays, but I still know what it was like)
Oh man, thought of a even worse one (and I bet you didn't think it was possible)-first girlfriend. We'd been hanging out, hugging constantly and she would even hold my fucking hand when we'd walk somewhere without anyone else around. A buddy of mine gets all John Hughes about having to go to this formal dance, gets a chick to go with him but he says I have to go (I guess for the John Hughes effect...)--I call the chick I've been hanging out with, hugging and holding hands, to get her friends number because she had wanted to go as friends to another dance and I turned her down because I didn't like dances-so I knew she'd go without there being weirdness. Oh yeah, I did that. And yet I still got together with her (mostly because she called me right back and just went, "Look, dumbass...")

You might as well ask a geek to fly as ask him to make a first move.

I'm considered to be either a geek, nerd or a psycho and no girls would like me. It probably won't concern me if I remain a life long virgin like Newton or Kant.

Oh, and in the meantime here's a little gift (http://img282.echo.cx/my.php?image=magictink7jw.jpg) I've made for our dearest TInk. ;)

(What do you mean, I'm trying to prove I'm a geek too? :p)

Oh, and in the meantime here's a little gift (http://img282.echo.cx/my.php?image=magictink7jw.jpg) I've made for our dearest TInk. ;)

(What do you mean, I'm trying to prove I'm a geek too? :p)
lol, thanks, you had to use a really bad pic of me though didn't you :rolleyes:

lol, thanks, you had to use a really bad pic of me though didn't you :rolleyes:

You're welcome. :) And I think it's a rather good one, actually!

Okay see, I'm 33. It'd just be creepy.
Oh sorry Grand Dragon opps wrong cult........
*BAcks away slowly*

Three quarters view is recommended - even just a little turn to the side as it brings out the structure of the nose and minimizes the roundness of the face. But if you'd allow me to say so your face's roundness works for you. It's all about how the package comes together not the individual parts. Cleopatra, it is said, was not a great beauty yet she is the only one of the Pharoah queens - okay there's Nefertiti but she's a distant second - we remember as a 'babe'.

And everyone has off days, even the stars (I hear Cameron Diaz isn't so hot without makeup. Check out BEING JOHN MALKOVICH for a bit of an example)

Cheers,
H.G. Cathenia

no really, that's a bad pic of me

Oh, and in the meantime here's a little gift (http://img282.echo.cx/my.php?image=magictink7jw.jpg) I've made for our dearest TInk. ;)

(What do you mean, I'm trying to prove I'm a geek too? :p)
wow see Tink soon youll have all your pics back! :)

no really, that's a bad pic of me

*shrugs* I can put another one if you like. I thought of using the hat one, but it doesn't show much of your face. Still, it's sweet... Wait a sec, then...

From here in the forums?

H.G. Cathenia

Oh, and in the meantime here's a little gift (http://img282.echo.cx/my.php?image=magictink7jw.jpg) I've made for our dearest TInk. ;)

(What do you mean, I'm trying to prove I'm a geek too? :p)

Seriously, you have FAR too much time on your hands... :p

wow see Tink soon youll have all your pics back! :)
lol, i don't want that one back though

Is this (http://img278.echo.cx/my.php?image=magictink24ii.jpg) one better? You look really cute on this one. ;)

that'll do i guess :fluffle: :fluffle: :fluffle: :fluffle:

that'll do i guess :fluffle: :fluffle: :fluffle: :fluffle:

Woo!

:fluffle: :fluffle: :fluffle:

Is this (http://img278.echo.cx/my.php?image=magictink24ii.jpg) one better? You look really cute on this one. ;)
Damn Tink you look amazingly hot. :(

It may be bad enough that geeks tend to socially have low self esteem but it won't do if you don't feel like you're pretty enough for him. You're a very fetching young lady and you need to act confident and in control when you're around him. Don't put yourself down.

Then again, perhaps girls do that because they want guys to say they're pretty? My girlfriend does that a lot... she looks like this:

http://www.asiandb.com/data/news/korea/200412/sonyejin.jpg

but she keeps saying (in a somewhat halfhearted way) that she's not pretty and I keep saying that she is with all the flowery poetic language I can muster. Keeps things nice and sweet.

anyways... you're a babe, nuff said.

;)
H.G. Cathenia

http://img19.exs.cx/my.php?loc=img19&image=picture761wj.jpg
Could have used this pic?

It may be bad enough that geeks tend to socially have low self esteem but it won't do if you don't feel like you're pretty enough for him. You're a very fetching young lady and you need to act confident and in control when you're around him. Don't put yourself down.


Absolutely. All the chicks in those stories had to have a degree of confidence or they would have gotten nowhere. They still had self-doubt, but enough self confidence about themselves to overcome my lack. And if they didn't, where would I be? A bitter tired husk of a man, thats where. Wait...more bitter. I mean I'd...look, this isn't about me...

I'm an expert on geek stalking and capture. I'm married to one. You must pursue them, openly and with vigor. Hints and flirting are useless. "I want to go on a date with you" or "lets have sex now" are you best bets. Anything less will not do. Believe me this is worth the minor bruising to ones ego that that may be required. Once in a relationship, geeks are interesting, loving, faithful and super lovers.

I'm an expert on geek stalking and capture. I'm married to one. You must pursue them, openly and with vigor. Hints and flirting are useless. "I want to go on a date with you" or "lets have sex now" are you best bets. Anything less will not do. Believe me this is worth the minor bruising to ones ego that that may be required. Once in a relationship, geeks are interesting, loving, faithful and super lovers.
Oh yeah. There is something to be said about devotion that is fed in part by 'fear of loss.'

Tell you a little story... I was about four years younger than I am now and I was set to do a report for my journalism class. So I was stomped to find a resource person and I called my friends in the papers and asked if they knew someone. I ended up talking to a slightly older woman that I'll call Tigger. Well we meet up and she does her lecture for my class but afterwards as a way of thanking her I take her out for coffee. And we talk... just talk about things... that's the key. You need to talk because that will, at least for geeks like me, determine whether you're okay to hang around with. Anyways we met up again for coffee another evening and talked... then we eventually ended up in a park and talked some more... then she started to make her move and as they say the rest is history.
How old were you, and how much older was she, if you do not mind my asking? This is of a certain amount of interest to me; I'm sure you won't have to think hard to guess why that might be...

Is this (http://img278.echo.cx/my.php?image=magictink24ii.jpg) one better? You look really cute on this one. ;)

It's amazing how much of a resemblance Tink bears to a female friend of mine in that pic.

Tink, that's a compliment. Face it. You look great. :p

bleh

She was 31 and I was 23 or was it 24... well, the fact that she was not just a published writer but one with a column in a national journal must have helped a bit. Anyways... it didn't last, she had too many issues.

My current girlfriend (who I look forward to marrying) - the one who looks like the Korean movie star also pretty much pursued me - though it was so funny in that I didn't know that she was subtly making herself invaluable to me. Like I was the one doing the pursuing but she was dropping carrots all the time until I was hooked. Masterful that woman is.

Anyways... YOU CAN DO IT TINK! I BELIEVE IN YOU!

:D
H.G. Cathenia

She was 31 and I was 23 or was it 24... well, the fact that she was not just a published writer but one with a column in a national journal must have helped a bit. Anyways... it didn't last, she had too many issues.
Hmmm, thank you.

Talk to them.

Seriously, say whatever. It'll make them weak at the knees. They'll probably drool and spout nonsense. If you want a good conversation with them, give them your MSN address. Any self-respecting geek will have an internet connection, and should be able to express themselves eloquently enough through a keyboard.

If they are a particularly geeky geek, then perhaps finding out their interests would help too. But that's a bit extreme.

--the above message coming from a geek--


Sooo true XD

And, we DO have other interests! I like skateboarding and XMA for instance... >.>

Sooo true XD

And, we DO have other interests! I like skateboarding and XMA for instance... >.>
oooo, i like skateboarders, but what's XMA?

Well I'm off... hope all goes well for you this weekend Tink!

Cheers,
Cathenia

thanks, see ya xoxoxo

well it wouldn't end up being mush of a debate, i've never even heard of Captain Picard and I don't really know a whole lot about Captain Kirk either
:eek: :eek: :confused: :(

http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/en/thumb/2/26/300px-Picard1.jpg vs http://members.aol.com/waysted8/kirk2.jpg
pickard vs kirk


kirk = fisty-cuffs macho asshole, but really cool guy who loooves green skinned alien babes and shooting stuff. tries to do whats right as long as it involves blowing up large chunks of polystyrene scenery

pickard = the best damn captain in all of the star trek galaxy; noble, intelligent, a negotiator and diplopat, holds true to the rules but knows when to bend them; can't stand children and has no sense of humour


and Troon, trekkies are the BEST subset of geeks ;)


Two words: Flirt obviously

Geeks are people who dont assume you are flirting with them if you do because they often have very low self esteem and thus will assume you are doing something else, possibly mocking them. If you flirt in such a way that its quite obvious you are sincerely interested in them you will catch their attention. Geeks are often much better at internet conversation than they are real world so talking to them online is a good place to start.
this is true. i'm a geek i would know

As a geek I can say it would be better just to hit him over the head with a hammer. Geeks have a tendancy to... hmm... not notice girls have an interest in them and think that their own interest in said girl would be spurned..
this is why i have still never asked a girl out :headbang:

Sooo true XD

And, we DO have other interests! I like skateboarding and XMA for instance... >.>

Heh. I wish I could skateboard. With me, the board goes forward, I go backwards. lol.

Heh. I wish I could skateboard. With me, the board goes forward, I go backwards. lol.
same here lol

same here lol

Sucks, ay?

i can't, i'm too shy
ohhhhh, how shweet :D

Dammit, I killed the thread. :(

ohhhhh, how shweet :D
lol

Dammit, I killed the thread. :(
no, its ok. this gay picture killed the thread

http://members.aol.com/waysted8/kirk2.jpg


damn you Jim!!

no, its ok. this gay picture killed the thread

http://members.aol.com/waysted8/kirk2.jpg


damn you Jim!!

lol. That kinda makes me feel better. :)

:p lol yeah, i was talking bout real life... y'know that thing that exists separate from your computer...


Huh? Seperate from my computer? Are you serious? Are you SANE?

What life?

Well I know that they would rather you ask them to go to the theater or go hang out in the local computer store instead of seeing your boobs. Thats a start. Oh and wear glasses. You look less intimidating then.

*drool @ geeks*

Geeks don't like boobs? Since when? I'm as geeky as they come. Boobs = good.

(only my wife's boobies though :) )

:headbang:
Where were you girls when I was in High School/College...
*sniff*

I have read the entire 46 pages in one go and i cant take it anymore

This quote isn't mine, but I feel it sums up the situation rather well,

"It doesn't take much to turn impossible, into possible (that's your dream calling)
The heart has wings. I've taken the leap.
Now it's your turn"

Ive been here and I took the wrong path(not asking her out)

four years later and I'm in another town, I passed on my email address to her through an old friend I still knew. No reply.

If I had gotten off my ass and made a move things would certainly be different, We might not be together, but I would certainly have some kind of relationship with her.(friend etc)

Now evertime I am remided of her, I feel like a complete twat.

Ill finish by saying this,
Everytime you're "too scared" or you "cant ask him" remember that the window of oppurtunity is slowly closing:

Cowards Die in Shame.

Cowards Die in Shame.
*dies in shame*

I fucking hate asking girls out. The potential embarrasment and (in my case) fair chance of failure is torture. Why can't girls at my college
a) show a little interest in the interesting (if a little geeky) personalities rather than twats in smart clothes on the hockey team and
b) show a little interest in general.
Just being made to work for their attention really gets to me - especially if it ends with the girl saying something other than OK or similar.

Im not disputing that at all.

But Tink is interested in someone who actually likes her to a certain degree. Perhaps more than she realises. Even if it comes to nothing you will feel much better for trying, and can carry on with your life instead of being stuck in some kind of psycotic enfatuation.

another solution might be to admit you like him to one of his friends and ask them to try and convince him to make the first move :)

And another thing stop calling him a geek and start calling him Bill. I gather that's his name. We are people and not so easily separated into catergories. Stuff like that may well offend him.

i would hardly call it a psychotic infatuation lol

i would hardly call it a psychotic infatuation lolwell... anyway... good luck with him.

you could just start hanging with him... then slowly create the situation where it starts looking like a date.

Remember, with most guys, emotions are like foreign languages... so he might not reconize the feelings... or he may need a subtle hint...


wrapped around a gold brick...



Tossed straight at his head...

well... anyway... good luck with him.

you could just start hanging with him... then slowly create the situation where it starts looking like a date.

Remember, with most guys, emotions are like foreign languages... so he might not reconize the feelings... or he may need a subtle hint...


wrapped around a gold brick...



Tossed straight at his head...I do 'hang' with him, we're already pretty good friends

All this pretention.

If he hangs out with you, spends alot of time talking to you, and is comfortable around you then the chances are that he likes you like you like him (unties tongue :))

Ask him, please ask him and put us all out of our misery

I do 'hang' with him, we're already pretty good friendsAhh... then speaking as someone who got stuck in the 'Friends' catagory with alot of girls... if you want it to go further, then be watchful... if he's at least as shy as you are, as I said, sometimes males are pretty stupid with intangables like Emotions.

Huh? Seperate from my computer? Are you serious? Are you SANE?

What life?Hmmm...I don't know exactly. Maybe the universe I rule over???well... anyway... good luck with him.

you could just start hanging with him... then slowly create the situation where it starts looking like a date.

Remember, with most guys, emotions are like foreign languages... so he might not reconize the feelings... or he may need a subtle hint...


wrapped around a gold brick...



Tossed straight at his head...Or there's always the approach of hurling a message wrapped around a rock at his window. That might help (I'll leave the text of the message up to you, it can be something mysterious like "In front of the cinema. Nine o'clock." Then he shows up and says, "What's going on?" or something like that. Then you view the film. ;))

But you have to read the rest of the thread to make sense of it.

~Czardas, Supreme Ruler of the Universe

Or there's always the approach of hurling a message wrapped around a rock at his window. That might help (I'll leave the text of the message up to you, it can be something mysterious like "In front of the cinema. Nine o'clock." Then he shows up and says, "What's going on?" or something like that. Then you view the film. ;))

But you have to read the rest of the thread to make sense of it.

~Czardas, Supreme Ruler of the Universeyou know... I sat and stared at the response...

and the only thing running through my mind was...

Should I tell her my address and which window to throw the rock?

All this pretention.

If he hangs out with you, spends alot of time talking to you, and is comfortable around you then the chances are that he likes you like you like him (unties tongue :))

Ask him, please ask him and put us all out of our miseryWe've all been trying to tell her that for the past 700+ posts, but she has some kind of phobia of asking people out. Most people do, but that's no reason not to. "I'm scared" is not a good reason to avoid going out with somebody. Maybe "I'm utterly terrified that I'll be rejected completely and become the laughing-stock of the whole city and NationStates" is, but that's about a chance of 0.000000000000000001%, and even less considering that you're Tink after all. Believe me, I know. People can be a lot nicer and more accepting than Franz, Nikolai, and those other crackpots make them out to be.


~Czardas, Supreme Ruler of the Universe

you know... I sat and stared at the response...

and the only thing running through my mind was...

Should I tell her my address and which window to throw the rock?
I doubt that she could get there soon enough. After all, she's in Britain, and you're somewhere in the middle of the Pacific according to my ultra-sensory radar X-ray vision (also known as the player profiles thread ;)).

Of course I may be confusing you with the other Nekone...


~Czardas, Supreme Ruler of the Universe

We've all been trying to tell her that for the past 700+ posts, but she has some kind of phobia of asking people out. Most people do, but that's no reason not to. "I'm scared" is not a good reason to avoid going out with somebody. Maybe "I'm utterly terrified that I'll be rejected completely and become the laughing-stock of the whole city and NationStates" is, but that's about a chance of 0.000000000000000001%, and even less considering that you're Tink after all. Believe me, I know. People can be a lot nicer and more accepting than Franz, Nikolai, and those other crackpots make them out to be.


~Czardas, Supreme Ruler of the Universenow now... be fair, I to am shy. to the point were the Term "Alone in a crowded room" is the perfect description of me. I need to warm up to the person first (and by that time, I'm stuck in the "friend" catagory.)

I doubt that she could get there soon enough. After all, she's in Britain, and you're somewhere in the middle of the Pacific according to my ultra-sensory radar X-ray vision (also known as the player profiles thread ;)).
Of course I may be confusing you with the other Nekone...
~Czardas, Supreme Ruler of the UniverseHuh??? There's another Nekone?
<.< >.> where??? :D

My god, how did this thread get so long so quickly? You people sicken me!

My god, how did this thread get so long so quickly? You people sicken me!

Are you a geek?

I fucking hate asking girls out. The potential embarrasment and (in my case) fair chance of failure is torture. Why can't girls at my college
a) show a little interest in the interesting (if a little geeky) personalities rather than twats in smart clothes on the hockey team and
b) show a little interest in general.
Just being made to work for their attention really gets to me - especially if it ends with the girl saying something other than OK or similar.
From all my years out of showing girls and women what an utter complete imbecile I am, might I suggest that:

a) you might not be paying attention to the girls paying attention to you

I was King Geek in high school and college (2-year post-secondary institution) yet I managed to attract some attention, just not from the girls whose attention I was trying to get. Turned out, I should have paid attention to some of the other ones rather than the ones I went after. I'd have been far happier, or at least have gone out a lot more than I did.

b) some times it's only a question of observation.

From male and female "geeks" alike -- as well as from my personal experience -- both within this thread and in person I've heard tales of ignored flirtation, some of it quite blatant. Sometimes the best way to respond to flirtation you might find suspect is to simply flirt back without expecting anything. It's hard, but once you get used to it, the process can be very amusing and may go farther than you expect.

In any case, life is work, and the rest of it is no different than high school, only more annoying.

Well I hope this DOES help not just Tink but all potentially lonely geeks and those-who-wanna-get-geeks. Big secret guys - YOU'RE BOTH HUMAN! (even if the geek insists he's a Klingon/Romulan/Toydarian/Wookie/Squid/Intestinal Worm/Batman/Virus) and the best thing you can do is just (in a very normal relaxed, don't make such a fuss about it way) chill and gel with each other. It's frightening - it was frightening for me as well - but if you can get past the fear of rejection/embarrasment/etc and just let things grow as they naturally should, then all should be well.

A little O'Shaughnessy, dedicated to all you geeks and geek-lovers out there:

Ode

We are the music-makers,
And we are the dreamers of dreams,
Wandering by lone sea-breakers,
And sitting by desolate streams.
World-losers and world-forsakers,
Upon whom the pale moon gleams;
Yet we are the movers and shakers,
Of the world forever, it seems.

With wonderful deathless ditties
We build up the world's great cities,
And out of a fabulous story
We fashion an empire's glory:
One man with a dream, at pleasure,
Shall go forth and conquer a crown;
And three with a new song's measure
Can trample an empire down.

We, in the ages lying
In the buried past of the earth,
Built Nineveh with our sighing,
And Babel itself with our mirth;
And o'erthrew them with prophesying
To the old of the new world's worth;
For each age is a dream that is dying,
Or one that is coming to birth.

-- Arthur O'Shaughnessy

Peace and Goodwill to all,
His Grace, the Lord Duke of Richmond, Supreme Commander of the Host, Lord Admiral of the Blue, Supreme Lord Chancellor of Cathenia (the Big Roach!)

By the way Tink, which Nation(s) are you running?

Just curious,
Cathenia

By the way Tink, which Nation(s) are you running?

Just curious,
Cathenia
just FairyTInkArisen, why?

How to get a geek interested in you (assuming you're female):
1. Buy a condom.
2. Drag him somewhere private.
3. Give him the condom.
4. Remove your pants and underwear.
5. :fluffle:

How to get a geek interested in you (assuming you're female):
1. Buy a condom.
2. Drag him somewhere private.
3. Give him the condom.
4. Remove your pants and underwear.
5. :fluffle:
:eek:

How to get a geek interested in you (assuming you're female):
1. Buy a condom.
2. Drag him somewhere private.
3. Give him the condom.
4. Remove your pants and underwear.
5. :fluffle:I think that it's safe to say that you've achieved the desired interest by step #3, if you have to specify further the guys not a geek, he's dead.

I think that it's safe to say that you've achieved the desired interest by step #3, if you have to specify further the guys not a geek, he's dead.
Geeks would almost certainly interperate that as a put on and react like you're making fun of them.

More of the geek mindset (and keep in mind, this is from a recovering geek)-
I'm running the media board for a musical. One of the dancers, who is hot (well, she's a dancer-almost goes without saying...), spends a lot of time looking up at my booth. All during tech week, the shows-a lot. Ran into her back stage (it's a big show, not all the tech crew really interact that often with the ensemble), made eye contact and I didn't even say hi or nod, nothin'.

Now if a recovering geek can't even get it together to say hi to a chick who's in the same show, no full tilt geek is gonna make a move or recognize when a move is being made on him.

....

Just occoured to me-
I have to question why I keep telling these stories....
ooooh-Listen to the lyrics of Norwegian Wood. I don't know if there is some deep read in that song, but if you take a surface read of the lyrics it's like a geek theme song.

:eek:

Well, you're going to wind up having sex anyway. Might as well cut to the chase... (or cut out the chase ;) ).

Besides, this is probably the most fool-proof way of interesting a guy, of any subset. :rolleyes:

made eye contact and I didn't even say hi or nod, nothin'.

Just occoured to me-
I have to question why I keep telling these stories....
ooooh-Listen to the lyrics of Norwegian Wood. I don't know if there is some deep read in that song, but if you take a surface read of the lyrics it's like a geek theme song.

Good point about eye contact - direct eye contact or flesh on flesh (or at the least finger nail to flesh contact) sends about as direct a message as a photon torpedo up the exhaust vent.

Hmmm... now that you mention it Norwegian Wood does do that for you... interesting!

Cathenia

P.S.
Just wondering Tink, I'd like to bookmark your nation.

How to get a geek interested in you (assuming you're female):
1. Buy a condom.
2. Drag him somewhere private.
3. Give him the condom.
4. Remove your pants and underwear.
5. :fluffle:
I think that it's safe to say that you've achieved the desired interest by step #3, if you have to specify further the guys not a geek, he's dead.
You mean its not
1.Buy a Condom
2.Drag him somewhere private
3.Give him the Condom
4.Make Balloon animals
5. :headbang:

:eek: :(

You're so British dearie... that's nice, it's, as you say, charming, quite charming.

best regards,
Cathenia

You're so British dearie... that's nice, it's, as you say, charming, quite charming.

best regards,
Cathenia
who is?

saying...), spends a lot of time looking up at my booth. All during tech week, the shows-a lot. Ran into her back stage (it's a big show, not all the tech crew really interact that often with the ensemble), made eye contact and I didn't even say hi or nod, nothin'.

Now if a recovering geek can't even get it together to say hi to a chick who's in the same show, no full tilt geek is gonna make a move or recognize when a move is being made on him.

Well i always seem to get girls looking at me and i dont know why i dont think im good looking but why would they stare at an ugly guy?

You're so British dearie... that's nice, it's, as you say, charming, quite charming.
best regards,
Cathenia
who is?
ME! :p

My god...so many posts...so many pages...


I mean, I'm a geek and anted to read this, but I don't have several days to do so... :rolleyes:

Anyway, hope you're successful Tink.

Someone needs to invent a word for History geeks. They're becoming more and more common. Any thoughts?

holy shit dude I was thinking of the word "History geek" just before reading your post :o


A girl I like a lot is studyin history @ my uni but unlike me she's not geeky at all.

holy shit dude I was thinking of the word "History geek" just before reading your post :o


A girl I like a lot is studyin history @ my uni but unlike me she's not geeky at all.

A name/title? Well, I'm a huge history geek, and I've always liked the term 'Professor', especially as its what I aim to do when I'm older...

Just not Nerd again...

Perhaps I should have restated: your nation is so British...

Cathenia

Perhaps I should have restated: your nation is so British...

Catheniamine is?

at least it seems that way. Gets me thinking of the Shire and Elves and such.

Cathenia

haha! lol, i'm gonna take that as a compliment

Heh. I wish I could skateboard. With me, the board goes forward, I go backwards. lol.

Yeh, same here. I bet some people think I'm a poser skater cos I wear skater-like clothes and shoes.

My people are 6 foot tall Hobbits without long hairy feet and such
Like a good brew!

http://imagescommerce.bcentral.com/merchantfiles/5084954/home%20picture%20for%20web%200011.jpg
http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v681/roosafee/fairyqueen.gif
tink

... I'm a rabid Anglophile. It's meant to be a compliment.

Cheers,
Cathenia

My people are 6 foot tall Hobbits without long hairy feet and such
Like a good brew!

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v681/roosafee/fairyqueen.gif
tink
yep, that's me

A name/title? Well, I'm a huge history geek, and I've always liked the term 'Professor', especially as its what I aim to do when I'm older...

Just not Nerd again...

what do you mean name/title? In a few weeks I will hopefully have A BSc in Physics, while she will have a BA in History & International politics or somethin in 2 years and a few weeks (assuing that she's doing a 3-year course without a year abroad).

... I'm a rabid Anglophile. It's meant to be a compliment.

Cheers,
Cathenia
lol, oh good! i can't really blame you, us English people rock

yep, that's me
nother ones been edited in! ;)

Random fact
Pasties-History geeks shall be known as Pasties!

nother ones been edited in! ;)

Random fact
Pasties-History geeks shall be known as Pasties!
awesome! next time i go to a fancy dress party i have to get a costume like that

awesome! next time i go to a fancy dress party i have to get a costume like that
Its what you wore to the prom isnt it?...