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How do you turn someone down for a date without hurting his feelings?

(ps, I'm going out in a moment. I'll be back later to check on the thread.)

Change your name and move to another country --- preferably on another continent.

Kill him! Hurts him a lot, but not his feelings.

How do you turn someone down for a date without hurting his feelings?

(ps, I'm going out in a moment. I'll be back later to check on the thread.)

Tell him... the TRUTH! (Genie in Aladdin) If there's some reason you don't want to go out with him, the truth may hurt his feelings temporarily, but y'know, maybe it'll help him with the next girl, and he'll thank you for it. Just watch out - he'll try to use whatever you say against you.

That, or say "It's not you, it's me." LOL or not.

Just say no.

How do you turn someone down for a date without hurting his feelings?

"I'm sorry, but I'm not interested."

Don't lie.

Say 'I'm already seeing someone". Or "Sorry, but I can't"

"I'm sorry, but I'm not interested."

Don't lie.

I vote for the Fass option. I don't think the "without hurting their feelings" part is even possible.

I vote for the Fass option. I don't think the "without hurting their feelings" part is even possible.
Me to. Lies hurt more and are far more insulting than the truth, IMO.

Claim you have a sex change operation scheduled for that day, but you'll be free the week after.

How do you turn someone down for a date without hurting his feelings?

(ps, I'm going out in a moment. I'll be back later to check on the thread.)


Tell him you have feelings for the great Thomas(me). He'll understand, they always do.

How do you turn someone down for a date without hurting his feelings?

(ps, I'm going out in a moment. I'll be back later to check on the thread.)
Be honest.

Don't turn him down. Go out on the date, get a free dinner plus whatever else (go see a film, I dunno...), then tell him at the end that you're not sure you really do have any feelings for him.

Change your name and move to another country --- preferably on another continent.
Well, he IS graduating next month, so if I can stick this month out without any "incidents", I won't ever have to see him again...

Having been on the recieving end of a lot of these lines from attractive women, let me give you the sad sap's break-up advice:

Whatever you say, and it won't matter so long as get the point across that there is no longer a relationship, be honest about why. Leave no doubt that this is how you truly feel, and he should at least be grateful you didn't think too little of him to lie or be evasive about the break-up.

Don't turn him down. Go out on the date, get a free dinner plus whatever else (go see a film, I dunno...), then tell him at the end that you're not sure you really do have any feelings for him.

Any jury would regard that as grounds for justifiable homocide.

Claim you have a sex change operation scheduled for that day, but you'll be free the week after.
teehee. Maybe I'll use it some other time. ;)

You have two potential courses of action: you can avoid the relationship or destroy the relationship utterly on the first date.

To do the former claim to be homo/heterosexual (delete as applicable to avoid relationship).

To do the latter accept the date but either turn up wearing Klu Klux Klan robes or spend all your time explaining why Hitler had the right idea.

You have two potential courses of action: you can avoid the relationship or destroy the relationship utterly on the first date.

To do the former claim to be homo/heterosexual (delete as applicable to avoid relationship).

To do the latter accept the date but either turn up wearing Klu Klux Klan robes or spend all your time explaining why Hitler had the right idea.
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They guy who asked me out was a semi-nazi fascist, so I don't think your idea would work.

Now you know why I'm attempting to avoid him altogether?

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They guy who asked me out was a semi-nazi fascist, so I don't think your idea would work.

Now you know why I'm attempting to avoid him altogether?

...What exactly would "semi-nazi" entail? And does it conflict with your semi-hippy-ness?

How do you turn someone down for a date without hurting his feelings?

(ps, I'm going out in a moment. I'll be back later to check on the thread.)
Try this:

You: Look, flying beavers!
Loser: (Turning around) what? But that's impossible, beavers can't fl..
You: (runs away, screaming) Sucker!

They guy who asked me out was a semi-nazi fascist, so I don't think your idea would work.
Then praise jews/communism/disabled people.

Flash him, and while he's in a state of shock run for your life.

"I'm sorry, but I'm not interested."

Don't lie.
bingo

...What exactly would "semi-nazi" entail? And does it conflict with your semi-hippy-ness?
So much that I'm still wondering why the hell he talks to me...

Well, if he really likes you, just the fact that you don't want to go out with him will probably hurt his feelings, i don't think you can avoid that. I agree with all those who say to be honest, just say "i'm sorry, i'm just not interested" or "i just don't feel that way about you."

Flash him, and while he's in a state of shock run for your life.


and while you are at it...flash us too! :D

Flash him, and while he's in a state of shock run for your life.
Not a chance, man. I have a class with him!

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They guy who asked me out was a semi-nazi fascist, so I don't think your idea would work.

Now you know why I'm attempting to avoid him altogether?

Tricky. You could try quoting J.S.Mill or Karl Marx but I don't think the effect would be quite so entertaining.

New plan: if he asks you out to dinner say "Sure, but it'll have to be kosher".

So much that I'm still wondering why the hell he talks to me...

...Because he likes you more than he hates your ideaology?

Go out with him several times, lead him on for a while into believing you're really interested, then enslave him with your hypnotic power.

While it may not avoid hurting his feelings, it'll make you feel quite a bit better at having him at your mercy. Besides, it's always good to have a slave who will do things for you you don't want to do yourself.

How do you turn someone down for a date without hurting his feelings?

(ps, I'm going out in a moment. I'll be back later to check on the thread.)
Say you already have a boyfriend. If they know you don't, say you have plans.

Say you already have a boyfriend. If they know you don't, say you have plans.

No, seriously, what happened to the being dead thing? You're a zombie aren't you! Don't listen Lady! It's evil zombie advice!

I think Fass said it best:
"I'm sorry, but I'm not interested."

Don't lie.

Honesty is a good thing.

No, seriously, what happened to the being dead thing? You're a zombie aren't you! Don't listen Lady! It's evil zombie advice!
Read my "I'm back" thread.

Read my "I'm back" thread.

Ya made another thread? :p

Ya made another thread? :p
No, he is a hallucination, brought on by alcohol. Russian Vodka, poisoned by Chernobyl.

Bwahaha! Fass ended it on an amusing note.

Just tell him you aren't interested. It hurts worse when we are being lied to, because we can usually tell.

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They guy who asked me out was a semi-nazi fascist, so I don't think your idea would work.

Now you know why I'm attempting to avoid him altogether?
Go dressed as Rosa Parks!

Wait till you're both in public, say.. school lunch.. then walk over to him and yell "ARE YOU FUCKING PERVERTED?! NO I WILL NOT HAVE SEX WITH YOU!".. or something like that..

Go dressed as Rosa Parks!
Who's Rosa Parks?

And, no, Ruffy, I will NOT do that.

Well, kiddos, I'm off to see the new X-men movie with some friends (who coincidentally gave me a good excuse to turn the guy down). Toodles!

Tell him you've always seen him as just a friend, and you couldn't imagine it any other way.

Worked for me...

How do you turn someone down for a date without hurting his feelings?

(ps, I'm going out in a moment. I'll be back later to check on the thread.)
:(

How old are you and how old is he? How come you don't want to go out with him?

How do you turn someone down for a date without hurting his feelings?

(ps, I'm going out in a moment. I'll be back later to check on the thread.)

I'd say the three best ways are:

A) Tell him you have herpes
B) Fake your own death
C) Tell him you have herpes and then fake your own death.

Or better yet - get all the relationship maestros on nationstates to send him a joint letter verbosely explaining how "it wasn't meant to be".

There - now you're spoilt for choice.

How come you don't want to go out with him?
Lada explained this above already, iThink. see page two.

Lada explained this above already, iThink. see page two.

Aye...Course, from what I know about it (which really isn't much), either there's summat else she doesn't like about him, or she's a bit more short-sighted than him...Personally, I'd like to see what would happen if she asked him why he likes her, even though she's hippie and he's nazi/fascist.

Tell him the truth.

you can use tact to soften it, but the truth is better.

take it from one who was shot down many times.

Who's Rosa Parks?

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rosa_Parks

Try:

"I'm really flattered, but i'm sorry...i'm not interested in you that way...if you wanna hang out as friends or something though, that would be cool."

Tell him the truth.

you can use tact to soften it, but the truth is better.

take it from one who was shot down many times.

Not really. I mean, if he's been rejected a lot before he'll have a thick skin and won't care.

If not, best to soften it.

Take that from one who had a very unpleasant first shootdown and never got that confidence back :p

Try:

"I'm really flattered, but i'm sorry...i'm not interested in you that way...if you wanna hang out as friends or something though, that would be cool."
OOHH... The just friends Quote... Ebil...
http://www.succubus-justice.com/189.gif

OOHH... The just friends Quote... Ebil...

Half true. That only applies if you're already friends, in which case, yes, it's bad - note: "it's basically a way of saying that you will stay close to him..."

If she's not already close to him, it's no biggie. Unless he's an idiot and takes it as her leading him on. In which case he deserves it for being stupid.

Uh, but if she is, I'll second that. *has destroyed friendships before*

How do you turn someone down for a date without hurting his feelings?

(ps, I'm going out in a moment. I'll be back later to check on the thread.)

You have to be firm. Say 'No!' and sound like you mean it. If you sound even slightly unsure, because you don't wont to hurt his feelings, he'll keep pestering you until the end of your days. (Note: not all guys act like this, some get really embarrasesd and don't mention it ever again). You know this guy better than I, does he seem like the type to keep pestering you for a date even after you've rejected him once? You can never tell with this, so just to make sure, let him know where he stands. Looks can sometimes say more than words. Give him a harsh look and he won't even ask why you have said no. I'm guessing that he is a friend of yours and you don't want to lose that friendship. If this is the case, don't act shy or anything around him afterwards. Just act exactly as you normally do, as if nothing important ever happened. He'll relax soon enough, and hopefully will realise that he has no chance with you and forget about the date. That's my advise. The only way not to hurt his feelings is to go on that date with him. I don't think you want to do that. :rolleyes:

I vote for the Fass option. I don't think the "without hurting their feelings" part is even possible.
If he's really interested, it'll hurt no matter how you say no, so do it bluntly. And then leave. Quickly. Don't stick around in person or on the phone, however you do it; don't give him the chance to plea. It'll hurt less that way.

You have to be firm. Say 'No!' and sound like you mean it. If you sound even slightly unsure, because you don't wont to hurt his feelings, he'll keep pestering you until the end of your days. (Note: not all guys act like this, some get really embarrasesd and don't mention it ever again). You know this guy better than I, does he seem like the type to keep pestering you for a date even after you've rejected him once? You can never tell with this, so just to make sure, let him know where he stands. Looks can sometimes say more than words. Give him a harsh look and he won't even ask why you have said no. I'm guessing that he is a friend of yours and you don't want to lose that friendship. If this is the case, don't act shy or anything around him afterwards. Just act exactly as you normally do, as if nothing important ever happened. He'll relax soon enough, and hopefully will realise that he has no chance with you and forget about the date. That's my advise. The only way not to hurt his feelings is to go on that date with him. I don't think you want to do that. :rolleyes:
I don't know about a harsh look. A firm, unyielding look would suffice. Frankly, I would be embarassed and not mention it again. Then someone would find my corpse a week later.

Not really. I mean, if he's been rejected a lot before he'll have a thick skin and won't care.

If not, best to soften it.

Take that from one who had a very unpleasant first shootdown and never got that confidence back :p
No, don't soften it. He'll have to get used to harsher rejections. A simple no really isn't that bad to what he'll prolly see one day.

Flash him, and while he's in a state of shock run for your life.
ROFLMAO
I don't know how well that would work....
Maybe she should test it here first.:D

Go out with him several times, lead him on for a while into believing you're really interested, then enslave him with your hypnotic power.

While it may not avoid hurting his feelings, it'll make you feel quite a bit better at having him at your mercy. Besides, it's always good to have a slave who will do things for you you don't want to do yourself.
From the sounds of it, he wouldn't make a very good slave....

I don't know about a harsh look. A firm, unyielding look would suffice. Frankly, I would be embarassed and not mention it again. Then someone would find my corpse a week later.
I works for me! I've just gone back to read all the other posts. I've found out she dosn't even like him as a friend, so what is the big deal about hurting his feelings? As soon as he mentioned the date I would have laughed at him, mockingly. Or gave him a look of pure disgust. Oh, and don't forget the insults! Heh heh... crushing guys hopes and leaving them a depressed wreck! My favorite past-time. :D (Note: while you may find my humor a little twisted, I certainly am not! Most of the above post was a joke. I do not delight in rejecting men. I swear to god!) Tee hee!

Tell him you've always seen him as just a friend, and you couldn't imagine it any other way.

Worked for me...
Ouch! Is he still alive? You have no idea how much that can hurt. Couldn't you just say no? I'm prolly overreacting a lot, anticipating that very line being used on me soon....:(

I'd say the three best ways are:

A) Tell him you have herpes
B) Fake your own death
C) Tell him you have herpes and then fake your own death.

Or better yet - get all the relationship maestros on nationstates to send him a joint letter verbosely explaining how "it wasn't meant to be".

There - now you're spoilt for choice.
Oooh, I'm no maestro, but I know how to write verbose things. I could write something particularly eloquent with just the right cliches that would more than suit the purpose. I don't play well with others, but I wouldn't object to taking a few ideas, if she's up for that option.

Ouch! Is he still alive? You have no idea how much that can hurt. Couldn't you just say no? I'm prolly overreacting a lot, anticipating that very line being used on me soon....:(
I'm sorry Fascist Dominion, but you are too much like a brother to me.
I don't see you in that way at all...

*snickers*

Lisa Simpson: How do you tell a guy you're not interested?
Homer: I've heard 'em all. "I like you as a friend." "I think we should see other people." "I no speak English..."
Lisa: I get the idea.
Homer: "I'm married to the sea." "I don't want to kill you, but I will." And if that doesn't work, six simple words: "I'm not gay, but I'll learn."

Aye...Course, from what I know about it (which really isn't much), either there's summat else she doesn't like about him, or she's a bit more short-sighted than him...Personally, I'd like to see what would happen if she asked him why he likes her, even though she's hippie and he's nazi/fascist.
Quite so, quite so.
*looks at Lady*
So, how 'bout it?

I'm sorry Fascist Dominion, but you are too much like a brother to me.
I don't see you in that way at all...

*snickers*
Ha! She wouldn't say brother! She'd go with the friend line....I hate you.:(

Lisa Simpson: How do you tell a guy you're not interested?
Homer: I've heard 'em all. "I like you as a friend." "I think we should see other people." "I no speak English..."
Lisa: I get the idea.
Homer: "I'm married to the sea." "I don't want to kill you, but I will." And if that doesn't work, six simple words: "I'm not gay, but I'll learn."
She lives in Canadia, so "I no speak English..." seems like the best choice.:D

No, don't soften it. He'll have to get used to harsher rejections. A simple no really isn't that bad to what he'll prolly see one day.

Well, she could tell him he's completely unattractive and a loser; but that wouldn't be good for the poor bastard's psyche. It won't toughen him up.

Ouch! Is he still alive? You have no idea how much that can hurt. Couldn't you just say no? I'm prolly overreacting a lot, anticipating that very line being used on me soon....:(

Apparently. Well, I thought it was a good one. This person was the last person I wanted to hurt :(

I was being honest though, and you have to explain why you are turning them down, don't you?

Why are you expecting that one soon?

Well, she could tell him he's completely unattractive and a loser; but that wouldn't be good for the poor bastard's psyche. It won't toughen him up.
That's why I said a simple, unyielding no. You're right that one would kill him. But something simple and blunt such as I proposed would work. Otherwise, he'll prolly think he has a chance and keep pestering her. I know I would: she's hot AND a witch. But anyway, that's more dangerous for her than just tossing up the brick "no" wall.

Ha! She wouldn't say brother! She'd go with the friend line....I hate you.:(
There is no need to hate me. I'm just preparing you for what's to come...
By the way, don't act like you expect to be rejected. That's not going to work. A lot of women like to see confidence in a man (and some, like me, enjoy destroying that confidence. Heh heh...).

A lot of women like to see confidence in a man (and some, like me, enjoy destroying that confidence. Heh heh...).

Aww, that's cruel :(

That's why I said a simple, unyielding no. You're right that one would kill him. But something simple and blunt such as I proposed would work. Otherwise, he'll prolly think he has a chance and keep pestering her. I know I would: she's hot AND a witch. But anyway, that's more dangerous for her than just tossing up the brick "no" wall.

OK, you've got a point, I suppose.

Aww, that's cruel :(

Meh, shit happens.

Apparently. Well, I thought it was a good one. This person was the last person I wanted to hurt :(

I was being honest though, and you have to explain why you are turning them down, don't you?

Why are you expecting that one soon?
Like I said, I'm prolly overreacting a little bit in my anxiety. And no, you don't have to explain yourself. But if you have a legitimate reason, it couldn't hurt. Funny thing about that last question....Well, you remember when you first met me and I mentioned my apprentice, the five-foot Swede....I'm working on this parting speech for...what time is it?....tomorrow, yes, tomorrow. Anyway, I've been composing this speech since Teusday to tell her just how important she is to me, how much she means to me and how much I'll miss her. I expect she'll take that to mean more than it is because we're certainly more than good friends but by no means a couple. That's when I fear I'll get the aforementioned line. Even if that isn't what I intended, it'll still hurt, especially coming from her. After all, the future is supposed to be a place of immense possibility.

There is no need to hate me. I'm just preparing you for what's to come...
By the way, don't act like you expect to be rejected. That's not going to work. A lot of women like to see confidence in a man (and some, like me, enjoy destroying that confidence. Heh heh...).
I don't intend to proposition anything. I expect a misunderstanding. Besides, I always have an overabundance of arrogance. Why the hell would I need confidence when I can be smug? And you include the word "British" in your nation's name. You are a disgrace to all who use that adjective/noun.;)

OK, you've got a point, I suppose.



Meh, shit happens.
Of course I have a point, you semi-sociopath.

Of course I have a point, you semi-sociopath.

I take offence to that.

If you're going to describe me, do so in absolute terms. None of this "semi-" bullshit. Or I will cut you up with a rusty hacksaw and cook you on my barbeque.

Like I said, I'm prolly overreacting a little bit in my anxiety. And no, you don't have to explain yourself. But if you have a legitimate reason, it couldn't hurt. Funny thing about that last question....Well, you remember when you first met me and I mentioned my apprentice, the five-foot Swede....I'm working on this parting speech for...what time is it?....tomorrow, yes, tomorrow. Anyway, I've been composing this speech since Teusday to tell her just how important she is to me, how much she means to me and how much I'll miss her. I expect she'll take that to mean more than it is because we're certainly more than good friends but by no means a couple. That's when I fear I'll get the aforementioned line. Even if that isn't what I intended, it'll still hurt, especially coming from her. After all, the future is supposed to be a place of immense possibility.

I felt like he needed a reason, and he asked for one... In any case, we started dating a while after (:eek:) lol

But if you aknowlege that you're "by no means a couple", isn't it true if she says you're a good friend kinda thing? I would take it as a compliment she thinks you're a good friend.

In any case, I'm sure everything will work out soon enough :) :fluffle:

Meh, shit happens.

Yeah, but it's not nice when it does...

This thread is getting me all upset :(

Yeah, but it's not nice when it does...

This thread is getting me all upset :(

No, it's not nice, but everyone gets shot down at some point. I guess i'm incapable for feeling sympathy on that point, unfortunately. *shrugs*

How do you turn someone down for a date without hurting his feelings?

(ps, I'm going out in a moment. I'll be back later to check on the thread.)

Poison mushrooms or a no-thank-you

I take offence to that.

If you're going to describe me, do so in absolute terms. None of this "semi-" bullshit. Or I will cut you up with a rusty hacksaw and cook you on my barbeque.

Will you feel semi-bad about it?

I don't intend to proposition anything. I expect a misunderstanding. Besides, I always have an overabundance of arrogance. Why the hell would I need confidence when I can be smug? And you include the word "British" in your nation's name. You are a disgrace to all who use that adjective/noun.;)
Why don't you begin by saying 'before I start, I don't want any you to misunderstand what I'm trying to say. I realise...blah blah blah...

And yes I am a disgrace, my mother says so. :(

No, it's not nice, but everyone gets shot down at some point. I guess i'm incapable for feeling sympathy on that point, unfortunately. *shrugs*

It's never happened to you?

I personally find the best way to avoid rejection is to never initiate.
I let them do the work :)

Will you feel semi-bad about it?

Not at all.

It's never happened to you?

Oh, of course it has; and rather nastily too. Note my comments in this thread just before. But it'll happen to anyone. They'll get over it.

I personally find the best way to avoid rejection is to never initiate.
I let them do the work :)

Yeah, works *great*! - for girls. :p

Yeah, works *great*! - for girls. :p

Well, I am a girl, lol :p

Well, I am a girl, lol :p

I know, hence the comment :p

I know, hence the comment :p

Is it that obvious? :p

Is it that obvious? :p

Hhhm. Well, I could be very wrong, but you don't seem to be giving off any "50 year old naked fat guy with beard" vibes.

Hhhm. Well, I could be very wrong, but you don't seem to be giving off any "50 year old naked fat guy with beard" vibes.

Haha, I hope not! :eek:

How do you turn someone down for a date without hurting his feelings?

say maybe and then go out with his best friend and then tell him it's because he smells like wee or he is too fugly or something. that'll hurt him so much he won't have any feelings left to hurt.
actually, no, that's horribly evil, don't do that.

I take offence to that.

If you're going to describe me, do so in absolute terms. None of this "semi-" bullshit. Or I will cut you up with a rusty hacksaw and cook you on my barbeque.
But it is a "semi" case. You responded to my proposition favorably, which is based on compassion for the poor guy, but you told TBD "shit happens," which is completely devoid of compassion. Thusly, you are a semi-sociopath, sometimes capable of emotion, most times not. You brought it on yourself.

But it is a "semi" case. You responded to my proposition favorably, which is based on compassion for the poor guy, but you told TBD "shit happens," which is completely devoid of compassion. Thusly, you are a semi-sociopath, sometimes capable of emotion, most times not. You brought it on yourself.

Funny. :D

Actually, i'm most times capable of emotion. Just that this one is mostly a "meh" issue with regards to sympathy, because it does happen to everyone. No need for it to be overly harsh, though.

--note to self. FD knows too much. He must die. End note. --

"I'm sorry, but I'm not interested."

Don't lie.

Gets my vote as well.

I felt like he needed a reason, and he asked for one... In any case, we started dating a while after (:eek:) lol

But if you aknowlege that you're "by no means a couple", isn't it true if she says you're a good friend kinda thing? I would take it as a compliment she thinks you're a good friend.

In any case, I'm sure everything will work out soon enough :) :fluffle:
Well, if you felt like he needed a reason, that's reason enough to give him a reason. Reminds me of a quote by someone whom I can't remember, "There is a reason for everything. If you can't find a reason for something, there's a reason for that, too." Something like that.

I could, but it's really a preemptive strike. It's like she's focusing all her SAM batteries on a radar shadow. Actually, it's really more like nuking a whole third-world country just in case it might invade a neighboring third-world country. That and we are more than just good friends, so it is a bit insulting.

Funny. :D

Actually, i'm most times capable of emotion. Just that this one is mostly a "meh" issue with regards to sympathy, because it does happen to everyone. No need for it to be overly harsh, though.

--note to self. FD knows too much. He must die. End note. --
I always know too much, see to much, accidentally do too much. Damnit I always screw these things up! I knew it would get me killed one day. Could you do me a favor and wait till Monday?

I always know too much, see to much, accidentally do too much. Damnit I always screw these things up! I knew it would get me killed one day. Could you do me a favor and wait till Monday?

OK, but i'm warning you, it better be worth it. :mad:

Why don't you begin by saying 'before I start, I don't want any you to misunderstand what I'm trying to say. I realise...blah blah blah...

And yes I am a disgrace, my mother says so. :(
You mother isn't important. I said you are a disgrace. And I have low standards.;)
I could start that way, but it would ruin the whole speech. Instead, I'll have a contingency speech prepared to interupt her repsonse if it turns out to be what I expect. Hopefully, I won't have to play reactionary. I really suck at it. Damnit! This is all too complicated. I hate me now.

It's never happened to you?

I personally find the best way to avoid rejection is to never initiate.
I let them do the work :)
If I did that, I'd never get anything done. According to your methods, I'm not worth the work.:(

Is it that obvious? :p
I'd like to say yes, but....see my next post.

Hhhm. Well, I could be very wrong, but you don't seem to be giving off any "50 year old naked fat guy with beard" vibes.
You haven't known her very long, have you?

OK, but i'm warning you, it better be worth it. :mad:
If you like easy prey, it will be. I'll prolly be glad to die on Monday.

You haven't known her very long, have you?

Oh my. Are you trying to offend me? :mad:

You haven't known her very long, have you?

Well, she doesn't have an especially effeminate name like "The Fairy Tinkerbelly". That's usually a dead giveaway.

I mean, uh >.>

If I did that, I'd never get anything done. According to your methods, I'm not worth the work.:(

Aww, I wouldn't worry about it youngin :D

Things get better as you get older *nods sagely*

Hhhm. Well, I could be very wrong, but you don't seem to be giving off any "50 year old naked fat guy with beard" vibes.

Leave me out of this.

Well, she doesn't have an especially effeminate name like "The Fairy Tinkerbelly". That's usually a dead giveaway.

I mean, uh >.>

Hmm, you are on my side, right? :p

I have the photos to prove it, lol

Oh my. Are you trying to offend me? :mad:
No....

No....

"No...."?

Is that kind of like saying, no, but yes?

Aww, I wouldn't worry about it youngin :D

Things get better as you get older *nods sagely*
Just how old are you?
*thinks of "50 year old naked fat guy with beard" vibes*

Leave me out of this.

:eek: You're the fat, naked, 50 year old man that's giving me a bad name!?

Hmm, you are on my side, right? :p

I have the photos to prove it, lol
Of course you do....
*slowly backs away*

Leave me out of this.

I didn't know you had a beard.

Hmm, you are on my side, right? :p

I have the photos to prove it, lol

I would very much like to see said proof...I think.

:eek: You're the fat, naked, 50 year old man that's giving me a bad name!?

Well not exactly. I AM wearing a hat.

"No...."?

Is that kind of like saying, no, but yes?
LOL ZOMGZ, you are so incredibly dense!:headbang:

Just how old are you?
*thinks of "50 year old naked fat guy with beard" vibes*

Older than you, though admittedly not by much. I'm somewhere between 19 and 20. :)

Well not exactly. I AM wearing a hat.
Oh, well that changes everything.

Well not exactly. I AM wearing a hat.

I had a classmate who preferred the strategically placed sock, but the hat works too.

Older than you, though admittedly not by much. I'm somewhere between 19 and 20. :)
That's what I thought. Not much at all. I'm between 18 and 19. But I'm wise well beyond my years. In those terms I'm between 50 and 60. And I do have a bit of a beard, but I'm not naked and not terribly fat.

I had a classmate who preferred the strategically placed sock, but the hat works too.
Ewwwwww!:gundge:

I had a classmate who preferred the strategically placed sock, but the hat works too.

LMAO

I would very much like to see said proof...I think.

Well, seeing as you asked so nicely :p


http://i75.photobucket.com/albums/i294/Beautiful-Darkness/39845f82.jpg

LOL ZOMGZ, you are so incredibly dense!:headbang:

Does anyone else think this qualifies as a flame? :rolleyes:

Well, seeing as you asked so nicely :p


http://i75.photobucket.com/albums/i294/Beautiful-Darkness/39845f82.jpg
No fair! I asked nicely all those weeks ago and still had to fight you a bit to get you to post a link.:mad:

Does anyone else think this qualifies as a flame? :rolleyes:
Nope. It's flamebait, my dear.:p

No fair! I asked nicely all those weeks ago and still had to fight you a bit to get you to post a link.:mad:

Maybe, but Kanabia doesn't abuse me as much as you do. :rolleyes:

Maybe, but Kanabia doesn't abuse me as much as you do. :rolleyes:
It's not abuse. It's tough love. See, you are too soft to be my apprentice. Besides, that was back when I was being nice to you to see how much fun you would be in the future. Now justify your actions.

Oh, and he prolly hasn't known you as long as I have. Just give him a chance.

Well, seeing as you asked so nicely :p


http://i75.photobucket.com/albums/i294/Beautiful-Darkness/39845f82.jpg

Ooooh, veeeeery nice. *worships* :D

Ooooh, veeeeery nice. :D
Just wait till ya get to know 'er.:rolleyes:

Ooooh, veeeeery nice. *worships* :D

Why thankyou :D

Just wait till ya get to know 'er.:rolleyes:

Well, she doesn't have me noted down as a sociopath, so she's a notch above you at any rate, naked 50 y/o guy or no. :p

Well, seeing as you asked so nicely :p


http://i75.photobucket.com/albums/i294/Beautiful-Darkness/39845f82.jpg


Wow! If only I was 30 years younger 30 Lbs lighter and better dressed!

It's not abuse. It's tough love. See, you are too soft to be my apprentice. Besides, that was back when I was being nice to you to see how much fun you would be in the future. Now justify your actions.

Oh, and he prolly hasn't known you as long as I have. Just give him a chance.

I never said I wanted to be your freaking apprentice.

Justify? I thought I did.

Thanks. :|

Well, she doesn't have me noted down as a sociopath, so she's a notch above you at any rate, naked 50 y/o guy or no. :p
Hey, I said semi-sociopath, whic puts me half a notch lower than you said. Besides, she's really not so bad. But like any woman, if you say one wrong thing, you'll prolly regret it for the rest of the night/morning. Very delicate sense of humor.

Why thankyou :D

Anytime. :p

Well, she doesn't have me noted down as a sociopath, so she's a notch above you at any rate, naked 50 y/o guy or no. :p

Lol, that's right :D

I never said I wanted to be your freaking apprentice.

Justify? I thought I did.

Thanks. :|
Maybe not, but you seemed indignant that I thought you were unqualified. I'll drop the issue clearly it has been resolved one too many times. And no, you didn't. You justified it based on our current relationship, not the one we had when I asked.

Wow! If only I was 30 years younger 30 Lbs lighter and better dressed!

Lol :p

Lol :p
So if he's the weirdo, what sort of people are encouraging him to stick around?
*eyes The Beautiful Darkness*
Aww, that implicates me as a weirdo too!:eek: ;)

Well, seeing as you asked so nicely :p


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very nice. :D

glad my quote fits so aptly with you.

Sure, if he's semi-nazi, why bother letting him down gently? :P

Who's Rosa Parks?

And, no, Ruffy, I will NOT do that.

Well, kiddos, I'm off to see the new X-men movie with some friends (who coincidentally gave me a good excuse to turn the guy down). Toodles!
You don't know who Rosa Parks is? :eek:

And, why not? :(

How do you turn someone down for a date without hurting his feelings?

(ps, I'm going out in a moment. I'll be back later to check on the thread.)
If you really want to tell a white lie, either say you have a boyfriend* or that you are a lesbian**. Just make sure that you are able to fake both for the month you have to coexist with him.

*You don't have to do anything for this, other than claim that you have a boyfriend.

**This won't make him feel as bad as the former, but just make sure that you don't do anything with any males when he's around.

Pretend you're crazy. Unfortunately this doesn't deter the likes of me. If you're ever dating me, then you may as well just give up and let me bake you cookies.

Tell him you've always seen him as just a friend, and you couldn't imagine it any other way.

Worked for me...
No, this is not a good idea. It will make him feel angry, and may even give him false hope (if he's that keen, he may embark on a crusade to convince you otherwise).

I could, but it's really a preemptive strike. It's like she's focusing all her SAM batteries on a radar shadow. Actually, it's really more like nuking a whole third-world country just in case it might invade a neighboring third-world country. That and we are more than just good friends, so it is a bit insulting.
Although I know neither of you, it sounds like one of those cases where you are more or less a couple, and both of you want that - just neither of you have actually gotten around to saying so.

I felt like he needed a reason, and he asked for one... In any case, we started dating a while after (:eek:) lol

In that case, why did you ever reject him in the first place?

I personally find the best way to avoid rejection is to never initiate.
I let them do the work :)
Ah yes, funny how so many girls lack the courage to initiate. Not that you always should, but I will now quote two relevant song lyrics:

It's better to regret something you did, than something you didn't do.

Don't let a soul mate pass you by.

*LE GASP*

My thread was spammed thoroughly without MY presence? HERETICS! :eek:

*LE GASP*

My thread was spammed thoroughly without MY presence? HERETICS! :eek:

Well, technically you still had influence on it...sorta...Just go back and read everything you missed.

*LE GASP*

My thread was spammed thoroughly without MY presence? HERETICS! :eek:
HAH!

*LE GASP*

My thread was spammed thoroughly without MY presence? HERETICS! :eek:
You've got some catching up to do then- You're not loosing your touch are you? ;)

You've got some catching up to do then- You're not loosing your touch are you? ;)
Of course not. I was...er...exercising my "touch" with the real world. :p

Of course not. I was...er...exercising my "touch" with the real world. :p

Eh? Who have you been touching Lady?

Of course not. I was...er...exercising my "touch" with the real world. :p
*sigh*
And you call all of us "heretics" :rolleyes:

Pretend you're crazy. Unfortunately this doesn't deter the likes of me. If you're ever dating me, then you may as well just give up and let me bake you cookies.

I want cookies...

***

For Lada:
From what I've seen with my guy friends, they seem to prefer if the girl is upfront about what she thinks. If they aren't sure, they get frustrated and try to figure out how to get a straight answer - and annoy the girl by doing so until they do.
I think that it's a good idea to tell the guy exactly why you aren't interested in him (unless this might cause you bodily harm from his reaction - in which case you might want a restraining order...) so that he doesn't misattribute your reasoning for rejecting him and feel resentful. However, I probably shouldn't be speaking, considering that I went with the "I feel like being single right now" response, which was true but not the whole truth... I'm such a coward... :(

From what I've seen with my guy friends, they seem to prefer if the girl is upfront about what she thinks. If they aren't sure, they get frustrated and try to figure out how to get a straight answer - and annoy the girl by doing so until they do.
I think that it's a good idea to tell the guy exactly why you aren't interested in him (unless this might cause you bodily harm from his reaction - in which case you might want a restraining order...) so that he doesn't misattribute your reasoning for rejecting him and feel resentful. However, I probably shouldn't be speaking, considering that I went with the "I feel like being single right now" response, which was true but not the whole truth... I'm such a coward... :(
well, right now, I'm considering playing the ethnic card, as in "my parents are too Asian and refuse to let me date until I'm 29", etc. But I don't know how well it's going to go. Besides, I know I'd feel horrible for lying to him like this. Then again, attempting to avoid him for the rest of the month seems so much easier than confrontation. *weeps at own cowardly-ness*

well, right now, I'm considering playing the ethnic card, as in "my parents are too Asian and refuse to let me date until I'm 29", etc. But I don't know how well it's going to go. Besides, I know I'd feel horrible for lying to him like this. Then again, attempting to avoid him for the rest of the month seems so much easier than confrontation. *weeps at own cowardly-ness*

Wait, do you not like him because of the semi-nazi thing?

And again, I voted for the Fass option.

well, right now, I'm considering playing the ethnic card, as in "my parents are too Asian and refuse to let me date until I'm 29", etc. But I don't know how well it's going to go. Besides, I know I'd feel horrible for lying to him like this. Then again, attempting to avoid him for the rest of the month seems so much easier than confrontation. *weeps at own cowardly-ness*
He won't believe the Asian lie. Just read my posts and follow my advice. Honesty is the best policy.

Besides, what is so bad about this guy?

:p

He won't believe the Asian lie. Just read my posts and follow my advice. Honesty is the best policy.

Besides, what is so bad about this guy?
Nothing. I just don't feel attracted to him and I LIKE being single. Being tied down constantly by a relationship and a guy is just not my style. :cool:

Nothing. I just don't feel attracted to him and I LIKE being single. Being tied down constantly by a relationship and a guy is just not my style. :cool:
being tied down is fun..

Nothing. I just don't feel attracted to him and I LIKE being single. Being tied down constantly by a relationship and a guy is just not my style. :cool:

So...umm...Tell him that? Seems to mean come back in 5 years if you're still in contact, but if'n it's what you think, tell him.

Say, "Shut up, Bitch."

Then, punch him in the mouth.

Say, "Shut up, Bitch."

Then, punch him in the mouth.

What if he's into that?

What if he's into that?

Then...Eh...I guess you've found yourself a very strange boyfriend?

What if he's into that?
:D

Then...Eh...I guess you've found yourself a very strange boyfriend?
O...kay...

*crosses "punch him in the mouth" off the list* :p

well, right now, I'm considering playing the ethnic card, as in "my parents are too Asian and refuse to let me date until I'm 29", etc. But I don't know how well it's going to go. Besides, I know I'd feel horrible for lying to him like this. Then again, attempting to avoid him for the rest of the month seems so much easier than confrontation. *weeps at own cowardly-ness*
Decide on a suitable excuse and ask a friend to tell him.
'She dosn't want to go on date with you because...blah blah blah...oh, and stay away from her. You're so weird, she is terrified of you'
Then if he comes near you to discuss this you burst into tears, and all your friends give him evil looks and tell him to leave you alone.
(Note: This may hurt his feelings). (Also note: I think you should tell him yourself, but it seems like you are too much of a coward (You said it) to do so...)

O...kay...

*crosses "punch him in the mouth" off the list* :p
Bite he dik!!

It's better to regret something you did, than something you didn't do.

Yeah, I hear that. That's what I kept telling myself after starting that fire. :p

So if he's the weirdo, what sort of people are encouraging him to stick around?
*eyes The Beautiful Darkness*
Aww, that implicates me as a weirdo too!:eek: ;)

Haha (does that mean I encourage you to hang around?) :p

very nice. :D

glad my quote fits so aptly with you.

Thankyou for giving me that quote :p

:D

In that case, why did you ever reject him in the first place?

I was getting over a previous relationship, and in any case, I still felt our relationship to be platonic.

Ah yes, funny how so many girls lack the courage to initiate. Not that you always should, but I will now quote two relevant song lyrics:

It's better to regret something you did, than something you didn't do.

Don't let a soul mate pass you by.

I don't regret things I don't do... Or things that I do do. It seems pointless to me.
It's not even necessarily a courage thing anyway. If they are not interested enough to pay you even the slightest amount of attention, then there is no point anyway.

I find it's not as black and white as that tho. Most of my past relationships have developed as friendships before all else.

Oh, and I don't believe in soulmates. Wheew.

I was getting over a previous relationship, and in any case, I still felt our relationship to be platonic.



I don't regret things I don't do... Or things that I do do. It seems pointless to me.
It's not even necessarily a courage thing anyway. If they are not interested enough to pay you even the slightest amount of attention, then there is no point anyway.

I find it's not as black and white as that tho. Most of my past relationships have developed as friendships before all else.

Oh, and I don't believe in soulmates. Wheew.

Same about past relationships. Do believe in soulmates, tho.
Hmm. Good idea for disregarding regret. Now let's see if I ever succeed...

Hmm. Good idea for disregarding regret. Now let's see if I ever succeed...

It's worth it IMHO, consider everthing a learning experience, and know that you cannot change the past.

Regret is a mostly a futile waste of time, so getting rid of it frees up some thinking space lol :p

It's worth it IMHO, consider everthing a learning experience, and know that you cannot change the past.

Regret is a mostly a futile waste of time, so getting rid of it frees up some thinking space lol :p

Thinking space... just what I need... :headbang: <-- well, that should get rid of some of it!

Thinking space... just what I need... :headbang: <-- well, that should get rid of some of it!

Thinking is so overrated. Why think when you can post on NS?

*drools and stares blankly*

Thinking space... just what I need... :headbang: <-- well, that should get rid of some of it!

Lol, yup, a sure-fire way to lose some of those excess brain cells :p

Thinking is so overrated. Why think when you can post on NS?

*drools and stares blankly*

lol, beautiful commentary.

Thinking is so overrated. Why think when you can post on NS?

*drools and stares blankly*

Lol, I wish :p

Unfortuantely, studying for exams requires thought :(

Lol, I wish :p

Unfortuantely, studying for exams requires thought :(

Er, yeah...exams suck, but I still don't quite understand this concept of "studying" that people have...

Er, yeah...exams suck, but I still don't quite understand this concept of "studying" that people have...

Oh that.

Yeah, it's kinda new to me too, I realised that I am not going so well this semester due to a total absence of study prior to, well, now (a few weeks before exams). :p

Could you teach me how to study, Beautiful? I need to learn rather desperately... :(

Oh that.

Yeah, it's kinda new to me too, I realised that I am not going so well this semester due to a total absence of study prior to, well, now (a few weeks before exams). :p

Mmm...yeah, I know that feeling. Well, I've managed to pass so far, no sense taking up a new habit now. :D

Could you teach me how to study, Beautiful? I need to learn rather desperately... :(

It's somewhat hard, even for me lol :p

As you can see, I'm currently on NS talking to you guys even though I have to finish two reports by tomorrow :eek:

It's somewhat hard, even for me lol :p

As you can see, I'm currently on NS talking to you guys even though I have to finish two reports by tomorrow :eek:

Uh-oh. It seems your studying is pretty much the same as mine then. :p

It's somewhat hard, even for me lol :p

As you can see, I'm currently on NS talking to you guys even though I have to finish two reports by tomorrow :eek:

I think I handed in everything I had due this semester at least a day late.

Oh wait, nope, there was one thing that I finished half an hour before deadline.

Meh. :p

Uh-oh. It seems your studying is pretty much the same as mine then. :p

Well, I did spend the day "studying" with a friend up to now :D

I feel proud lol

I think I handed in everything I had due this semester at least a day late.

Oh wait, nope, there was one thing that I finished half an hour before deadline.

Meh. :p

Lol, I somehow managed to hand in everything on time! :eek:

It just wasn't of the best quality :p

Lol, I somehow managed to hand in everything on time! :eek:

It just wasn't of the best quality :p

Surprisingly, I've got decent marks so far despite my severe case of clinical laziness.

Of course, that begs the question about how well I might have done if I actually made an effort. *sigh*

Meh, like you said, screw regret. :p

Surprisingly, I've got decent marks so far despite my severe case of clinical laziness.

Of course, that begs the question about how well I might have done if I actually made an effort. *sigh*

Meh, like you said, screw regret. :p

Well, IMHO, unless you're doing year 12 or 3rd year of uni and you want to do honours, then it doesn't really matter :)

Well, IMHO, unless you're doing year 12 or 3rd year of uni and you want to do honours, then it doesn't really matter :)

Yeah. If I actually made an effort I could have a perfect GPA at my university. As-is, I barely work at all and have a decent one. I'd rather spend my time with friends RL and on NS.

Yeah. If I actually made an effort I could have a perfect GPA at my university. As-is, I barely work at all and have a decent one. I'd rather spend my time with friends RL and on NS.

Cheers *hands you the beverage of your choice* :p

Well, IMHO, unless you're doing year 12 or 3rd year of uni and you want to do honours, then it doesn't really matter :)

*cough*

Cheers *hands you the beverage of your choice* :p

Thanks, Beautiful!

*enjoys tequila while "studying"* ;)

I'll have to buy you a pint sometime.

*cough*

Oh I see, it's like that huh?

Haha, I'm still doing second year :p

What degree are you doing? (What uni too, if thats not too.. private or something)

Thanks, Beautiful!

*enjoys tequila while "studying"* ;)

I'll have to buy you a pint sometime.

Well, whenever you feel the urge :D

Oh I see, it's like that huh?

Haha, I'm still doing second year :p

Well, actually, i'm over studying anyway, so I don't want to do honours - it'd mean another year of supermarket drudgery. :p

Although come to think of it, it's possible that I have the marks to do honours anyway. Hm. Meh.

I sent you a TG. *nods*

Surprisingly, I've got decent marks so far despite my severe case of clinical laziness.

Of course, that begs the question about how well I might have done if I actually made an effort. *sigh*
That seems to be a disease common to most NSers. It afflicts me as well. I'm making no effort at all and somehow manage to maintain an A-minus average in my senior year. 1/2 of all assignments were handed in late and the other 1/2 fairly shoddily done... then again, American high schools seem to have low expectations where it comes to that.

I'd probably be in the 100th percentile if I actually did any work. :p

say, "You're asking me out on a date?"
Then laugh like Peter Griffin does when he sees something funny - like in the recent episode where he meets Carrot-Top and his 'see-saw'. Y'know, just keep laughing for wayyyy longer than is necessary. Then stop suddenly and say, 'ehh..no. sorry' and walk off.

Trust me, he'll be fine.

Nothing. I just don't feel attracted to him and I LIKE being single. Being tied down constantly by a relationship and a guy is just not my style. :cool:
Women only ever want sex. Anyway, just be honest. There isn't really any pain-free way to do this.


It's not even necessarily a courage thing anyway. If they are not interested enough to pay you even the slightest amount of attention, then there is no point anyway.
Ah that's where you're wrong. Sometimes, you can make someone be attracted to you.

And who said anything about "no attention"? What if the dude is a friend but you want more? You don't just do nothing, do you? You can't assume that he will even if he feels a similar way.

I don't regret things I don't do... Or things that I do do. It seems pointless to me.
You mean that you've always been certain in every decision you've ever taken? You've never not done something because you were afraid, and wished you had done later?

Oh, and I don't believe in soulmates.
Neither do I, but you get the idea, don't you? In my experience at least compatible women come about fairly rarely, and I hate letting them slip through my fingers (that is a metaphor).

No, this is not a good idea. It will make him feel angry, and may even give him false hope (if he's that keen, he may embark on a crusade to convince you otherwise).
I agree, as I stated near the beginning.

Although I know neither of you, it sounds like one of those cases where you are more or less a couple, and both of you want that - just neither of you have actually gotten around to saying so.
Oh, well, then I'm having one of my less articulate moments with expressing the situation. That, or it's some sort of Freudian slip of my own.:eek: No, I'm quite certain it's not what she wants. At least not now. She seems more than happy with her significant other. As for me, well, I have never known what I want. I think these days I cannot discern between what I want and what is. It's almost as though I'm imagining my understanding of love applies to women, as though I'm grasping to fulfill that emotional need and attaching it to those whom I do love, though in a different respect. We have imprinted something of the essences of our souls each upon the other; surely that creates a bond greater than simple friendship.

*LE GASP*

My thread was spammed thoroughly without MY presence? HERETICS! :eek:
Sorry for hijacki...er, borrowing your thread. Just trying to keep it alive until you got back.:D

well, right now, I'm considering playing the ethnic card, as in "my parents are too Asian and refuse to let me date until I'm 29", etc. But I don't know how well it's going to go. Besides, I know I'd feel horrible for lying to him like this. Then again, attempting to avoid him for the rest of the month seems so much easier than confrontation. *weeps at own cowardly-ness*
I believe the noun you seek is "cowardice." Learn English, silly Canadian.:p That's exactly why you should TELL THE TRUTH.

Haha (does that mean I encourage you to hang around?) :p
Only in the arbitrary thread in which I troll...er, stroll, yes, stroll, in which you also appear.

I was getting over a previous relationship, and in any case, I still felt our relationship to be platonic.

I don't regret things I don't do... Or things that I do do. It seems pointless to me.
It's not even necessarily a courage thing anyway. If they are not interested enough to pay you even the slightest amount of attention, then there is no point anyway.
Ha! Platonic! You do know that Plato's idea of a good relationship was one well spent with little boys, right?:D
And what if they are paying attention, but you don't notice? IRL I pay overt attention to two things: my computer and the floor. In a situation where you would see me, it would be the floor. Even if I was interested, I'd say nothing for fear you wouldn't be interested and I'd make a fool of myself. I have enough trouble with being socially aloof anyway....

How do you turn someone down for a date without hurting his feelings?
Why are women always so concerned about "hurting someone's feelings?" Most guys will grasp at whatever straws they can get to keep hope alive. The kindest thing you can do is to tell him in no uncertain terms that you don't want to date him, that you're not interested in him, and that you probably never will be! And even at that, he will most likely sieze on the word "probably" to give himself hope.

Sometimes the kindest thing you can do is often something that feels brutal.

It's worth it IMHO, consider everthing a learning experience, and know that you cannot change the past.

Regret is a mostly a futile waste of time, so getting rid of it frees up some thinking space lol :p
That's easy for you to say. You are probably very familiar with your feelings and understand what they tell you. I question mine constantly for fear I may have misinterpreted something.

Why are women always so concerned about "hurting someone's feelings?" Most guys will grasp at whatever straws they can get to keep hope alive. The kindest thing you can do is to tell him in no uncertain terms that you don't want to date him, that you're not interested in him, and that you probably never will be! And even at that, he will most likely sieze on the word "probably" to give himself hope.

Sometimes the kindest thing you can do is often something that feels brutal.
We're guys: brute force is what we do; it's what we understand. Well, the quasi-nazis amongst us, at any rate.

We're guys: brute force is what we do; it's what we understand. Well, the quasi-nazis amongst us, at any rate.
Speak for yourself.

Er, yeah...exams suck, but I still don't quite understand this concept of "studying" that people have...
Oh, it's something that the intellectually inferiors who care do to futilely increase mental storage capacity for a temporary period of time.

Speak for yourself.
I was being a smartass.:rolleyes:
THAT's what I do.:D

Lol, I somehow managed to hand in everything on time! :eek:

It just wasn't of the best quality :p
That's another difference between you and me: I turn in high-quality work at the last possible moment.:D

say, "You're asking me out on a date?"
Then laugh like Peter Griffin does when he sees something funny - like in the recent episode where he meets Carrot-Top and his 'see-saw'. Y'know, just keep laughing for wayyyy longer than is necessary. Then stop suddenly and say, 'ehh..no. sorry' and walk off.

Trust me, he'll be fine.
Least it's honest. :D

I believe the noun you seek is "cowardic." Learn English, silly Canadian.:p That's exactly why you should TELL THE TRUTH.

...Umm...Cowardice?

...Umm...Cowardice?
Thank you; it is now corrected. Well, now we know what happens when Fascist Dominion hasn't slept in...38 hours. Off to bed with me then.
*stifles big yawn*

Ah that's where you're wrong. Sometimes, you can make someone be attracted to you.

And who said anything about "no attention"? What if the dude is a friend but you want more? You don't just do nothing, do you? You can't assume that he will even if he feels a similar way.

I've never wanted a guy who was just a friend to be more.

You mean that you've always been certain in every decision you've ever taken? You've never not done something because you were afraid, and wished you had done later?

Certainty has nothing to do with regret. Knowing that there is no point wishing the past to change = no regret.

(that is a metaphor).

:rolleyes:

Ha! Platonic! You do know that Plato's idea of a good relationship was one well spent with little boys, right?:D
And what if they are paying attention, but you don't notice? IRL I pay overt attention to two things: my computer and the floor. In a situation where you would see me, it would be the floor. Even if I was interested, I'd say nothing for fear you wouldn't be interested and I'd make a fool of myself. I have enough trouble with being socially aloof anyway....

Hmm, you know that the word platonic has a different connotations now, right?

So even though you are soooo superior to me, you'd be intimidated by me?

That's another difference between you and me: I turn in high-quality work at the last possible moment.:D

Yes, I get it; you're superior.

Now get over it :rolleyes:

(Btw, That was me in high school: great marks, no effort).

I've never wanted a guy who was just a friend to be more.
My turn to quote a song:
"What if you're wrong?/ What if there's more?/ What if there's hope/ you never dreamed of hoping for?/ What if you jump?/ Just close your eyes?/ What if the arms that catch you/ catch you by surprise?/ What if he's more than enough?/ What if it's love?"
Maybe you have missed or will miss something. You know, that could change. You might find that one of those friends is just what you want.

How do you turn someone down for a date without hurting his feelings?

(ps, I'm going out in a moment. I'll be back later to check on the thread.)
Tell them politely that you're not interested in a date with them. It's best to just say it up front and remove any doubt. You can easily decline a date. Just remember to be civil and think about the nicest way that you can say it.

Hmm, you know that the word platonic has a different connotations now, right?
Yes, I know, but I like bringing it up anyway. Little things like that amuse me.:)
*shrugs*

So even though you are soooo superior to me, you'd be intimidated by me?
If I were interested in a relationship with you, yes, I would be. I'm not at all as open IRL as I am here among the Generalites. Much more reserved. *nods emphatically* Intimate relationships are so important to me that I don't want to collapse the delicate framework upon which all my relationships are initially founded. I prefer to scout the potential candidate, to use terms that greatly diminish the attachment I would feel to such a person, and explore her that I may better understand her nature and discover if I do really have the germs of affection for her.

OMFG, I now pronounce Fascist Dominion and The Beautiful Darkness man and wife. Oy vey!

Yes, I get it; you're superior.

Now get over it :rolleyes:

(Btw, That was me in high school: great marks, no effort).
Get over it? Mistress, you can't possibly imagine how little effect that small statement has on my immense ego.:headbang: :D
High school, eh? That was me taking college courses during high school. Calculus I, English 110/204, Physics, German 110/120....:cool:

OMFG, I now pronounce Fascist Dominion and The Beautiful Darkness man and wife. Oy vey!
Why is it that you're always trying to pair up everyone on NS?

OMFG, I now pronounce Fascist Dominion and The Beautiful Darkness man and wife. Oy vey!
ROFL
Sure sounds that way, doesn't it?;)
That poor, poor woman....:eek: :(

Why is it that you're always trying to pair up everyone on NS?

Wait, what? What are you doing here?

And no, I'm not trying to pair them up, they're just acting like an old married couple. It's called sarcasm. :rolleyes:

ROFL
Sure sounds that way, doesn't it?;)
That poor, poor woman....:eek: :(

Yes, exactly. It really sounds that way. Glad you found the humor in what I wrote! :)

Why is it that you're always trying to pair up everyone on NS?
The heartless bitch again! j/k:p
It's because P&P understands that some of us have no life and so tries to make others of us here who do have lives share them with those who do not. Or so I imagine, but I'm prolly making too much of it. If you think so, we could delve into the childhood of P&P....

Yes, exactly. It really sounds that way. Glad you found the humor in what I wrote! :)
I find humor in lots of things, 'specially when I prolly shouldn't.:p
Ooooo, got a joke for ya!
What's worse than waking up next to a dead baby?

Wait, what? What are you doing here?

And no, I'm not trying to pair them up, they're just acting like an old married couple. It's called sarcasm. :rolleyes:
What am I doing here? Erm...posting. Same as everyone else, I think. :rolleyes: I'm only saying that because last time we talked, I recall you saying you wanted to pair everyone together. Or was that sarcasm too?

I find humor in lots of things, 'specially when I prolly shouldn't.:p
Ooooo, got a joke for ya!
What's worse than waking up next to a dead baby?

Waking up next to you?
(You walked RIGHT into that one and you know it)

What am I doing here? Erm...posting. Same as everyone else, I think. :rolleyes: I'm only saying that because last time we talked, I recall you saying you wanted to pair everyone together. Or was that sarcasm too?

And besides, that was Ilie's thing! :p

What am I doing here? Erm...posting. Same as everyone else, I think. :rolleyes: I'm only saying that because last time we talked, I recall you saying you wanted to pair everyone together. Or was that sarcasm too?

That was a joke.

And besides, that was Ilie's thing! :p

? Sarcasm? Or pairing people up? :confused:

? Sarcasm? Or pairing people up? :confused:

Pairing people up. *nod*

That was a joke.
*sigh* I must seem terribly slow-witted ... :( Here was me thinking that you were a nice person, trying to make everyone happy.

*sigh* I must seem terribly slow-witted ... :( Here was me thinking that you were a nice person, trying to make everyone happy.

Well, I could become serious about that if you want. Most people prefer for people to stay out of their personal lives, so I generally do, but if you'd like me to...

Well, I could become serious about that if you want. Most people prefer for people to stay out of their personal lives, so I generally do, but if you'd like me to...
Don't even waste your time trying. I'm too cruel and insensitive for anyone to enjoy spending time with me...:( *sigh* I can't help but being mean to people. It's my nature.

Don't even waste your time trying. I'm too cruel and insensitive for anyone to enjoy spending time with me...:( *sigh* I can't help but being mean to people. It's my nature.

Nonsense! You're perfectly nice!
Besides, didn't I have Dinaverg for you? Hmm.... if that isn't working, I can try something else....

Don't even waste your time trying. I'm too cruel and insensitive for anyone to enjoy spending time with me...:( *sigh* I can't help but being mean to people. It's my nature.

If you were insensitive, that wouldn't make you sad...

Nonsense! You're perfectly nice!
Besides, didn't I have Dinaverg for you? Hmm.... if that isn't working, I can try something else....

Sorry, 'tis Terrorist Cakes for me...

If you were insensitive, that wouldn't make you sad...
I'm insensitive because I rarely show sympathy for other people's feelings. I care a lot about my feelings, however...:p

Sorry, 'tis Terrorist Cakes for me...

Well, fine, be that way. :p

I'm insensitive because I rarely show sympathy for other people's feelings. I care a lot about my feelings, however...:p

Eh, I prefer empathy anyways...

Well, fine, be that way. :p

I think I shall. :D

Eh, I prefer empathy anyways...
I'm totally non-empathetic. I'm always thinking about myself...
Why would I want to imagine what other people are going though? :confused:

I'm totally non-empathetic. I'm always thinking about myself...
Why would I want to imagine what other people are going though? :confused:

Well, when it sucks, yes, it sucks. But when they're doing something really cool.... :D

Well, when it sucks, yes, it sucks. But when they're doing something really cool.... :D
Eveyone else is beneath me. As if anyone can match my coolness...:cool:

Eveyone else is beneath me. As if anyone can match my coolness...:cool:

Acceptable. But I am the goddess. Of... imagination? Or maybe I'll just become the Goddess.... ;)

Eveyone else is beneath me. As if anyone can match my coolness...:cool:

Bose-Einstein condesate could!

(Seriously, I just enjoy saying "Bose-Einstein condensate", don't mind me.)

Hihi! Y'all have hijacked the Ladys thread you have.
I find myself amused by this :p

*Dances a little happy-jig*