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And I wish I could say you've never acted this pathetic before, but there you go. What is it, are you disappointed because you thought I was "sharing" oh, so much with you and that somehow we'd become these deranged "Internet buddies" you seem to like to imagine you are with people because I posted a poll and you sent a superfluous TG? Is that it? That you didn't get the whole story and now that the story you constructed doesn't reflect what actually happened and that you will never know the facts and that I will never share them? Because you don't get to be my "confidant"? Snap the fuck out of it - if you think I'd share something which pains oh, so much with people here without omitting all the pertinent and sensitive and valuable details, then you know me even less than I know you do and you should really know deep down inside, too.



Oh, get it through your skull already: the poll is a poll. I don't start polls about my personal life - they might have connections with something that happens in it, but they're not gonna be about it and I am not going to spill my guts to you, and don't fucking delude yourself that I did. I'm not you.



You flatter your company.



"Exactly what I mean" - no I don't, because I couldn't give a shit. Apart from two, three people on these boards - coincidentally two people smart enough to have realised that the poll and what went on later (which I clearly said was not at discussion, and they managed to read it - imagine if you had, too, then you wouldn't be accusing me of being a liar because you feel apparently pathetically cheated over your own lack of reading what has been written) weren't reflective and dependent on one another - I really couldn't give a shit about anyone else here. Certainly not you. So again, snap out of it.

The mind is boggled.

Only two things:

1) I wanted you to "share"? Be your "confidante"? And now "feel cheated" because you "didn't spill your guts to me"? Really? When the single post I had made in this thread addressing the OP, 5 days ago, did as much inquire about anything as did the TG, namely not at all but consisted merely of "sending you a hug"?
Someone is deluding himself here about people's interest in his personal matters and motivations and somehow I think it's not me.

2) This is why you are a liar:

Posting this...

http://forums.jolt.co.uk/showpost.php?p=12956956&postcount=10
http://forums.jolt.co.uk/showpost.php?p=12956994&postcount=18
http://forums.jolt.co.uk/showpost.php?p=12956994&postcount=18
http://forums.jolt.co.uk/showpost.php?p=12959439&postcount=79
http://forums.jolt.co.uk/showpost.php?p=12960019&postcount=83
http://forums.jolt.co.uk/showpost.php?p=12960072&postcount=88
http://forums.jolt.co.uk/showpost.php?p=12960096&postcount=91
http://forums.jolt.co.uk/showpost.php?p=12960105&postcount=93
http://forums.jolt.co.uk/showpost.php?p=12967802&postcount=183

... and then dropping back into the thread a couple days later and not liking that people had started discussing this with your name in it instead of just abstracts (http://forums.jolt.co.uk/showpost.php?p=12967579&postcount=178) and starting to not, say, tell them to go fuck themselves for trying to "analyze" you but instead to conjure up bullshit stories out of thin air about how this thread never was about you in the first place; even getting people to apologize to you "because they mistakenly thought this thread was about you, why, they must not have read it closely enough, so sorry!"

Seriously now? You don't think that's about as pathetic as you could possibly get?

You know that you do this a lot, albeit usually in "fun" topics, it's almost like your signature move, but even you have to recognize that there is a limit to how much you can pull the wool over people's eyes just because you don't like how something turned out.

So just take your wounded ego and go fume and lick your wounds elsewhere and spare us the bullshit.

I agree with this. I can forgive someone I care about - even someone who has hurt me deeply. But the real question would be whether or not it would be healthy for me to stay in a relationship with them, or if I should cut it off. And the answer to that question would have to come from a number of factors. One of those factors would be the way in which I found out about it and the reaction of the cheating partner. Is that person truly remorseful? Can we figure out an issue we need to work on in the relationship to prevent it from happening again? Does the event lead to an issue of projection in which he suddenly distrusts me (I've seen instances in couples where the cheater is actually the one who is insanely jealous)? And so on....
My parents made a point to teach me that being in a relationship is about more than loving the other person. Sometimes you can love somebody very much, but it's still not a good idea for you to be in a relationship with them. You always have to keep in mind what is healthy and safe for each of you. Love does not magically fix all serious problems (contrary to what Hollywood and Disney may say).

I'm a sixteen-year old obsessive-compulsive flippant misanthrope..... I picked the third option :D

My parents made a point to teach me that being in a relationship is about more than loving the other person. Sometimes you can love somebody very much, but it's still not a good idea for you to be in a relationship with them. You always have to keep in mind what is healthy and safe for each of you. Love does not magically fix all serious problems.

Ain't that the truth, but that's so hard to accept, especially when none of you 'made a mistake' in any way, but it still just insn't .. 'safe and healthy', I guess.

My parents made a point to teach me that being in a relationship is about more than loving the other person. Sometimes you can love somebody very much, but it's still not a good idea for you to be in a relationship with them. You always have to keep in mind what is healthy and safe for each of you. Love does not magically fix all serious problems (contrary to what Hollywood and Disney may say).

QFT.