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Ah, the almighty question. What, in your opinion, is the most importatn quality of a lover?

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You don't have to hold yourself anymore. But feel free to continue.

Ah, the almighty question. What, in your opinion, is the most importatn quality of a lover?

POLL COMMING! HOLD YOURSELF!
*holds himself*
Best thread ever.

That the person, regardless of age, gender, sexual orientation, race, species, etc. love you back.

Yes, I threw in species.

Tits the size of Everest!:p

Definately personality. Looks count... Just type-wise...there has to be physical chemistry too...

I agree, they definately have to love you back. A good lover is someone who respects you and your opinions. Someone you can laugh with and have fun, someone you feel you can really be yourself around. They need to understand you and love you inspite of all your flaws... which of course we all have... Most imprtantly, they're there for you whenever you need them, through the good times and the bad...

Theres really nothing better in a lover than a nice hawt sexy brain.

For a lover, as opposed to a serious relationship the most important aspect after sexual attraction has been established is enthusiasm. Nothing is hotter than enthusiasm.

Personality. I'd say being good friends is the basis of any relationship. Though I am not speaking from experience.

For a lover, as opposed to a serious relationship the most important aspect after sexual attraction has been established is enthusiasm. Nothing is hotter than enthusiasm.

For a lover, yes that is very true... But when your in a relationship, its about so much more then that...

Consent.

He definately needs to be able to cook. I'll only marry a man who feeds me.

Personality. I'd say being good friends is the basis of any relationship. Though I am not speaking from experience.

That's very true. You cannot love each other if you do not like each other.

He definately needs to be able to cook. I'll only marry a man who feeds me.
Rats.

Well, scratch another one off the list...that just leaves...I see, well-time to lose another standard...

OTHER: Compatibility

That's very true. You cannot love each other if you do not like each other.
You can, but it means a drastic increase in the proportion of angry make-up sex.

for someone who is just going to be a lover and nothing else, pure skills in the bedroom, and especially out of the bedroom.

For a lover, yes that is very true... But when your in a relationship, its about so much more then that...

I agree but the thread title made me think lover not relationship.

for someone who is just going to be a lover and nothing else, pure skills in the bedroom, and especially out of the bedroom.
Like on a ferris wheel...

I chose other. I go for a personality and looks package. Can't have one without ther other. I don't like hot chicks with no personality but I don't like ugly girls w/ personality. I just like women with great looks and a great personality, and I've found one :D

The most important characteristic of a love is being attractive to you. This isn't limited to physical attraction; it also encompasses emotional, intellectual and spiritual attraction.

LOL ferris wheels are fun... Hmmm , not that I would know, ;) lol

I chose other. I go for a personality and looks package. Can't have one without ther other. I don't like hot chicks with no personality but I don't like ugly girls w/ personality. I just like women with great looks and a great personality, and I've found one :D

Hey! Ugly people are people, too.

Like on a ferris wheel...

2 of my most unique spots have been on a moving quad, and the back of a pick up on the interstate during rush hour

Hey! Ugly people are people, too.

Hey, I know, I said I don't like good looking people with bad personality as well. I just like both looks AND personality.

Hey, I know, I said I don't like good looking people with bad personality as well. I just like both looks AND personality.

No offense but thats kinda shallow but in reality its very true for alot of ppl. Anyone can say looks dont matter, its all about brains and personality. But the truth is u cant have a relationship with someone ur not attracted to... U cant kiss someone or make love to someone who ur not attracted to.

Hey, I know, I said I don't like good looking people with bad personality as well. I just like both looks AND personality.

But personality has a bit more basis in choice, so it's not really fair to slate attractiveness-challenged people in the same catergory as personality-challenged people.

Personality and intelligence. Those lead to having a deep respect and friendship with my chosen lover that will last longer once the physical side has cooled down. You can't have an intelligent conversation with an ass, even if it's a smart ass after all. ;)

Besides, those two also get better with age, unlike looks.

by far personality.

But personality has a bit more basis in choice, so it's not really fair to slate attractiveness-challenged people in the same catergory as personality-challenged people.


Fairness? I thought we were talking love here not sports:p

difficult to choose between smarts and personality on the poll, but i think honesty would be another 'most important quality' as far as i'm concerned *nods*

looks are also important... *cough* :P

Fairness? I thought we were talking love here not sports:p
'Alls fair in love and war'

A good personality is the most important. Looks are good too. Smarts is also good. I don't want to date some empty haeded bimbo.

lover? not boyfriend or husband? just lover?

#1 most important to me is passion.

#2 a reasonable skill level. no sense having passion if he cant deliver at all

#3 patience. things dont automatically go well the first time

#4 a good personality. cant spend the whole time fucking eh?

When I want my woman to raise her cooking skill I just go have her read the cooking book from the bookshelf for a few hours.






Me? Brains definately. What good is someone if they aren't good at holding any type of interesting discussions and ideas and thoughts and such....

Kinda part of personality.

lover? not boyfriend or husband? just lover?



I wanted to make it all-inclusive.

#4 a good personality. cant spend the whole time fucking eh?


Why not?

Otherwise I agree. Passion and skill for a lover. (Discretion helps too, at times.)

I just let Eharmony.com tell me who to love.:rolleyes:

I wanted to make it all-inclusive.
oh but the qualties you want in a boyfriend are way different than the qualities you want in a husband

for example extravagance is a wonderful quality in a boyfriend and a terrible quality in a husband.

A pulse?


Anywho, bad jokes aside, passion and skill are some of the best for a lover, and although in a relationsip (assuming the OP means lover as in holiday romance or some such) it's important to have that too, you've got to have all those aspects to some degree at least me thinks. At least they should be recognised by the other person in the relationship.

The thing with this question is that lover generally has connotations of just what goes on in the bedroom to me. (I certainly don't call my bf my lover on a regular basis) and in such instances, what really matters is skill and drive. I mean, really, if a guy sucks in bed, then I don't care if he wants to do it all the time, but if he's awesome in bed and rarely wants to do it, then it sucks too. However, when someone has a compatible sex drive and they're capable of giving me multiple, cascading orgasms for hours on end... then that's really the best possible ever. (like my current bf. ;) )

If we're asking relationship-wise however, personality does it more than anything. While intelligence is really important, it does nothing if a guy's the smartest man in the world but a total bore.

I just let Eharmony.com tell me who to love.:rolleyes:
i met a woman whose fiance had dumped her over christmas because he had been fixed up with someone on eharmony.com and had known her for a couple weeks and they were going to get married. all those levels of compatibility dont you know..

sure it was good to know what an ass he was before she married him but it still sucks to be dumped over the holidays.

Thats extremely sad.

I was going to say faithfulness, followed by honesty and integrity (not sure which of those first), but when I saw the poll options, I realized all of those were part of personality, which encompasses even more. And my list starts with lots of things in personality, so personality it is!
And then probably looks. Because I do have a tendency towards appreciating the aesthetically pleasing. Cooking doesn't matter to me, because I can cook for the both of us! :p

Edit: Oh, and I consider smarts as part of personality, but obviously the faithfulness, honesty, integrity, kindness, and fair are more important to me than intelligence and wisdom. Although they pretty much come next. And I think wisdom (although not necessarily intelligence) is somewhat necessary for some of the higher rated qualities.

A number of things; looks are definitely important. I prefer hot, tall blonde guys with some body hair. Personality must be similar to mine, but different enough to keep things interesting, and he should be dominant enough to be able to handle me. Intellect is an absolute must. Absolute fealty and trustworthiness are also paramount. Wealth is not so important, but I won't say no. Oh, and having a big schlong is a bonus too. ;)

The absence of nose hair of course.

The absence of nose hair of course.
Absense you say?


Hmmm, clearly the rogane and styling gel was the wrong direction to go...Well, I have...something...that needs to be taken care of...

Absense you say?


Hmmm, clearly the rogane and styling gel was the wrong direction to go...Well, I have...something...that needs to be taken care of...


Haha! But you wear it well my dear.;)

My answer may not have been the same if I wasn't really hungry right now... ;)

I cant believe "one's ability to play Twister" isnt on the poll:confused:

I cant believe "one's ability to play Twister" isnt on the poll
I dated a ballerina once...

aaaahhhh


Hmm? Oh, sorry...what where we...

Haha! But you wear it well my dear.;)
I was thinkin' I'd go after this guy's look. (http://retekalers.webcindario.com/blog/Bobobo-Bo%201.jpg)..

S/he must be intelligent, or have a shit load of money.

I cant believe "one's ability to play Twister" isnt on the poll:confused:

Crisco twister?

I agree, they definately have to love you back. A good lover is someone who respects you and your opinions. Someone you can laugh with and have fun, someone you feel you can really be yourself around. They need to understand you and love you inspite of all your flaws... which of course we all have... Most imprtantly, they're there for you whenever you need them, through the good times and the bad...
I guess I don't need to post, after all....

TSI is my perfect lover.

TSI is my perfect lover.
Aww, how sweet. I thought your own vodka-laden vomit was, but I suppose even I'm entitled to an erroneous thought here and there.:D

Trustworthiness.

S/he must be intelligent, or have a shit load of money.
Gender neutral eh?

The most important thing is to be best friends first.

A Wham-Bam-Thank you Ma'am is never as good as making love to your best friend.

Aww, how sweet. I thought your own vodka-laden vomit was, but I suppose even I'm entitled to an erroneous thought here and there.:D
ooooh vodka! sorry TSI..

Trustworthiness.

Sounds similar to my top important traits. :)
...Sounds similar to my top personal traits too....
I guess psychology is right when it says that people prefer people who are similar to themselves.

ooooh vodka! sorry TSI..
LOL :D

I was going to say faithfulness, followed by honesty and integrity (not sure which of those first), but when I saw the poll options, I realized all of those were part of personality, which encompasses even more. And my list starts with lots of things in personality, so personality it is!
And then probably looks. Because I do have a tendency towards appreciating the aesthetically pleasing. Cooking doesn't matter to me, because I can cook for the both of us! :p

Edit: Oh, and I consider smarts as part of personality, but obviously the faithfulness, honesty, integrity, kindness, and fair are more important to me than intelligence and wisdom. Although they pretty much come next. And I think wisdom (although not necessarily intelligence) is somewhat necessary for some of the higher rated qualities.
ZOMG, that's prolly the best post I'll ever see in this thread.:eek:
I'd ask you to marry me, but you already married me to The Beautiful Darkness....And natural, sentimental loyalty is everything. *nods*

A hawt brain, and even hawter brain vomit. :)

ZOMG, that's prolly the best post I'll ever see in this thread.:eek:
I'd ask you to marry me, but you already married me to The Beautiful Darkness....And natural, sentimental loyalty is everything. *nods*

Since when did I marry you to The Beautiful Darkness? I was surprised to suddenly find that you were when I saw that you were. :confused:
Er... I haven't gone out with you yet, which would make that marriage thing a problem anyway? :D

Since when did I marry you to The Beautiful Darkness? I was surprised to suddenly find that you were when I saw that you were. :confused:
Er... I haven't gone out with you yet, which would make that marriage thing a problem anyway? :D
Allusion AGAIN to the time you said we argued like a married couple. I let it stick. I like to tease her about that, but I haven't "seen" her today.:( I wasn't serious about marrying you. I think we're much too similar. It wouldn't make for balance.

Allusion AGAIN to the time you said we argued like a married couple. I let it stick. I like to tease her about that, but I haven't "seen" her today.:( I wasn't serious about marrying you. I think we're much too similar. It wouldn't make for balance.

Oh. *blinks* *tries desperately to remember exactly where I said that, although I'm pretty sure that I did*
I'd be scared if you were serious...

Oh. *blinks* *tries desperately to remember exactly where I said that, although I'm pretty sure that I did*
I'd be scared if you were serious...
I don't remember. Either it was the thread the Mods closed earlier or we'll never find the thread in question. Either way, you definitely said it, and I'm having all sorts of fun with it. Kept me from getting anally raped by Cluichstan(sp?).:eek:

Scared? Oh, I see....:(

I don't remember. Either it was the thread the Mods closed earlier or we'll never find the thread in question. Either way, you definitely said it, and I'm having all sorts of fun with it. Kept me from getting anally raped by Cluichstan(sp?).:eek:

Scared? Oh, I see....:(

Well, I guess that's good, then?

Aw... *pats on head* Well, I don't actually know you, so if you actually wanted to marry me....

Well, I guess that's good, then?

Aw... *pats on head* Well, I don't actually know you, so if you actually wanted to marry me....
Yes, yes, it most certainly is.

I don't know you, either, which made saying that at all quite a social leap for me. Anyway, you were saying?

I don't know you, either, which made saying that at all quite a social leap for me. Anyway, you were saying?

....? :confused: ..... :(

I don't think I actually was saying anything. What is ZOMG? I know OMG, but.... Z?

For me, it's compatability.

not just personailty, but a blending of all things to make the person... and whether or not that person would like me for who I am.

I never went by looks, I passed by girls who were georgous, but somehow not right for me.

....? :confused: ..... :(

I don't think I actually was saying anything. What is ZOMG? I know OMG, but.... Z?
It's really just a more exasperated form of OMG. And you were saying something about if I actually wanted to marry you....

For me, it's compatability.

not just personailty, but a blending of all things to make the person... and whether or not that person would like me for who I am.

I never went by looks, I passed by girls who were georgous, but somehow not right for me.
I was wrong.:eek: I never say that, either. Your post is the equal of P&P's.

For me, it's compatability.

not just personailty, but a blending of all things to make the person... and whether or not that person would like me for who I am.

I never went by looks, I passed by girls who were georgous, but somehow not right for me.

Yes! :)

For a lover, as opposed to a serious relationship the most important aspect after sexual attraction has been established is enthusiasm. Nothing is hotter than enthusiasm.

That's a really great answer!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Yes! :)
Thought you'd feel that way.

Thought you'd feel that way.

Yep. Anyway, I must do that not-online thingy, and hopefully get to bed sometime before two... still have plenty of project stuff to do...

I was wrong.:eek: I never say that, either. Your post is the equal of P&P's.
>.>
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=.=;

do I want to know?

The absence of nose hair of course.
*buys nose hair trimmer... *

Yep. Anyway, I must do that not-online thingy, and hopefully get to bed sometime before two... still have plenty of project stuff to do...
Yeah, it's dead here anyway. Good spamming with ya.:) G'night and pleasant dreams.

>.>
<.<
=.=;

do I want to know?
I dunno. It's nothing upsetting. Just a elements hopeless romantic elements, that's all.

I dunno. It's nothing upsetting. Just a elements hopeless romantic elements, that's all.
Oh... well I've always felt this way... even back in the... man was it the 5th grade? :eek:

I wish people could be honest with themselves.

People go for looks first. Denying it is just not acknowledging the obvious. Yes, for long relationships, personality is nearly as important, but only to an extent. As long as they have an ok personality, one you can get along with, most people would rather have the incredibly hot girl with the good enough personality, than visa versa.

I wish people could be honest with themselves.

People go for looks first. Denying it is just not acknowledging the obvious. Yes, for long relationships, personality is nearly as important, but only to an extent. As long as they have an ok personality, one you can get along with, most people would rather have the incredibly hot girl with the good enough personality, than visa versa.
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I am telling the truth... :(

I wish people could be honest with themselves.

People go for looks first. Denying it is just not acknowledging the obvious. Yes, for long relationships, personality is nearly as important, but only to an extent. As long as they have an ok personality, one you can get along with, most people would rather have the incredibly hot girl with the good enough personality, than visa versa.
I don't know about that. Most chicks that aren't fat are good looking in my opinion, but I've only ever been atracted to a few that happen to share my loathing of most human beings.

Tits the size of Everest!:p


It'd be a bit uncomfortable...:eek:

It'd be a bit uncomfortable...:eek:
very... I'm getting a backache just thinking about em. :p

Oh... well I've always felt this way... even back in the... man was it the 5th grade? :eek:
Me, too, but I was referring to P&P's post with all that nonsense I posted that can't really pass for speech.

very... I'm getting a backache just thinking about em. :p
The only shortness of breath I'm feeling is from the altitude.:D

I wish people could be honest with themselves.

People go for looks first. Denying it is just not acknowledging the obvious. Yes, for long relationships, personality is nearly as important, but only to an extent. As long as they have an ok personality, one you can get along with, most people would rather have the incredibly hot girl with the good enough personality, than visa versa.
That doesn't really apply to everyone. Most people, sure, but not everyone, so if you wouldn't mind keeping your blanket statements to yourself, I've got some spamming to do.
*stalks off*

Personality, wits and looks in the proper doses

OTHER (actually quite a few!):Must be compatible, must like me for who i am, and must like what i do, maybe even do what i do!

They need to have looks, a good personality, be smart (I don't want a retarded girlfriend/wife XD), nice boobehs and buttocks, they should be able to cook, I myself want a housewife, so.. :p

Personality, wits and looks in the proper doses
Mmm, wit. That's a particularly subjective term. Wit comes in several different styles, not all of which may be suited to you.

Mmm, wit. That's a particularly subjective term. Wit comes in several different styles, not all of which may be suited to you.

Do you like my wit? :p
Or do you believe me devoid of it? :(

Do you like my wit? :p
Or do you believe me devoid of it? :(
Very much so. I love your wit. :fluffle: You're just enjoying the white text again, aren't you?:P

btw, personality must contain plenty of crazy insanity goodness, pretty please :)

and dirty-mindedness :D
and sweetness/kindness
and lets not forget a good ol' sense of humour :fluffle:



(god i love glitziness :D)

Very much so. I love your wit. :fluffle: You're just enjoying the white text again, aren't you?:P

Yay! :fluffle:Well, that and, you've honestly given me to believe that you think me in all ways inferior to you : (

btw, personality must contain plenty of crazy insanity goodness, pretty please :)

and dirty-mindedness :D
and sweetness/kindness
and lets not forget a good ol' sense of humour :fluffle:



(god i love glitziness :D)
Ha! I see you! Your white text doesn't fool anyone! We knew all along you meant Glitzy, so you didn't need the white text.

Uhm, willingness to accept that I collect toy robots.

Yay! :fluffle:Well, that and, you've honestly given me to believe that you think me in all ways inferior to you : (
It's great when you're so happy. :fluffle:Yay!:P Oh, sorry. Socially, you are my superior. Probably also in physical dexterity. I do that to everyone, though. Can't help it; it's natural for me. Survival mechanism and all. *nods*

Uhm, willingness to accept that I collect toy robots.
What does BritSter think of this?;)

What does BritSter think of this?;)

She doesn't know yet. Optimus Prime knows about her though. He's cool with it, at least.

She doesn't know yet. Optimus Prime knows about her though. He's cool with it, at least.
LOL Might take another ten pounds to keep her interested, though....;)

Ha! I see you! Your white text doesn't fool anyone! We knew all along you meant Glitzy, so you didn't need the white text.
haha ok, fair play :p

how's bold, size 7 text then? ;)

haha ok, fair play :p

how's bold, size 7 text then? ;)
Wow, you'd really do ANYTHING for Glitzy, even piss off all the spammers in this little spamhaven.:D Actually, that would express better how much you love her instead of it seeming as though you wish to hide it.

Wow, you'd really do ANYTHING for Glitzy, even piss off all the spammers in this little spamhaven.:D Actually, that would express better how much you love her instead of it seeming as though you wish to hide it.

When women say they want boldness, I don't think they mean it in text form though.

Wow, you'd really do ANYTHING for Glitzy, even piss off all the spammers in this little spamhaven.:D Actually, that would express better how much you love her instead of it seeming as though you wish to hide it.
meh, she knows i love her... i make sure of that :fluffle:
though you are quite right - i don't really want to piss people off round here cos i like it here :)

When women say they want boldness, I don't think they mean it in text form though.
Yeah, but pissing people off by changing the screen width is bold here in NSG.:D

meh, she knows i love her... i make sure of that :fluffle:
though you are quite right - i don't really want to piss people off round here cos i like it here :)
That isn't the point. You are supposed to impress upon the rest of us how much you love her. Oh, never mind.:mad:
*takes hopelessly romantic notions elsewhere*

btw, personality must contain plenty of crazy insanity goodness, pretty please :)

and dirty-mindedness :D
and sweetness/kindness
and lets not forget a good ol' sense of humour :fluffle:



(god i love glitziness)
I can agree with all them... and I have them in you! Hurrah! :D :) :fluffle:
I love you too :)

Oh, and FD.... hide his love for me? *laughs hysterically*
I recollect there being complaining about us taking over threads with our oh-so-subtle white text invasions of soppiness.... You obviously didn't see us then :p we toned it down a bit since then :p I think it's fairly safe to say anyone who encounters us on here pretty soon figures out how crazily in love we are :D
edit: and thats just on these forums - far more importantly, we both show each other we love each other every day, in every way we can

I wish people could be honest with themselves.

People go for looks first. Denying it is just not acknowledging the obvious. Yes, for long relationships, personality is nearly as important, but only to an extent. As long as they have an ok personality, one you can get along with, most people would rather have the incredibly hot girl with the good enough personality, than visa versa.
The question was what is most important. Looks aren't even close to important, it may get someone's foot in the door, but that's about it. Most of the guys I've dated aren't drop dead gorgeous or someone I would drool over from afar, usually they're kinda cute, but they become more (or sometimes less) cute when I get to know them better.

And even if you're talking about a purely physical relationship where it's all about sex, looks aren't the most important, skill is.

I can agree with all them... and I have them in you! Hurrah! :D :) :fluffle:
I love you too :)

Oh, and FD.... hide his love for me? *laughs hysterically*
I recollect there being complaining about us taking over threads with our oh-so-subtle white text invasions of soppiness.... You obviously didn't see us then :p we toned it down a bit since then :p I think it's fairly safe to say anyone who encounters us on here pretty soon figures out how crazily in love we are :D
I meant it might look that way to the n00bs. I have heard those stories, but only after I did the same a week or so ago. That's true, but I brought it up in this thread for all those didn't know. I make a great subliminal advertising company here in Generaland.:D

The question was what is most important. Looks aren't even close to important, it may get someone's foot in the door, but that's about it. Most of the guys I've dated aren't drop dead gorgeous or someone I would drool over from afar, usually they're kinda cute, but they become more (or sometimes less) cute when I get to know them better.

And even if you're talking about a purely physical relationship where it's all about sex, looks aren't the most important, skill is.
Ha! Another one for my point! Chellis vanquished!:p

A pulse. Wait, no, thats optional.:D

A pulse. Wait, no, thats optional.:D
Not if there already isn't one.:p

Being real and not imaginery like all my g/fs as of late.

If we're talking about a "fling" of some sort and not a serious relationship then:

-Spontaneity
-Sexual attraction/good "chemistry"
-Ability to have fun w/ eachother
-Physical attraction

If we're talking about a "fling" of some sort and not a serious relationship then:

-Spontaneity
-Sexual attraction/good "chemistry"
-Ability to have fun w/ eachother
-Physical attraction
You forgot the most important aspect:
-Desperation

You forgot the most important aspect:
-Desperation
What? No charm? No seduction? Are charm and seduction not important anymore to lovers?:confused: :(

Of primary concern would be her willingness to have me as a lover.

Common courtesy or consideration.

What? No charm? No seduction? Are charm and seduction not important anymore to lovers?:confused: :(
No, I think that they're taken as read.

Ah, the almighty question. What, in your opinion, is the most importatn quality of a lover?

i guess 'personality' but i specifically look for a sense of fun and wanton frivolity :D

Tie between personality and smarts, looks are always a plus, but what the hell is the point of a hot girlfriend if you just want to choke the shit out of her everytime she talks.

need a good companion

In my case, low standards. :(

No, I think that they're taken as read.
Aww, that's disappointing.:( Anyone disagree?

In my case, low standards. :(
Big surprise.:D

In my case, low standards. :(

Better than no standards.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Halo_effect

Looks = Personality

Basically, people are more likely to see attractive people as having good personality traits. People claiming to be attracted by someone's personality are often attracted by how they look, and because of their attractiveness they deem them to have good personalities. Even when presented with evidence to the contrary, this is conveniently pushed aside.

I'm overly fussy. I say personality, smarts and looks are all important. Personality probably slightly more so - that would be the ultimate deal maker. But I could never see myself in a relationship where any one of the above were lacking....meh, at least I admit being shallow...or maybe i'm just honest.

...but coincidentally, that's probably why i'm still single. :p

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Halo_effect

Looks = Personality

Basically, people are more likely to see attractive people as having good personality traits. People claiming to be attracted by someone's personality are often attracted by how they look, and because of their attractiveness they deem them to have good personalities. Even when presented with evidence to the contrary, this is conveniently pushed aside.

Hm, interesting.

I'm overly fussy. I say personality, smarts and looks are all important. Personality probably slightly more so - that would be the ultimate deal maker. But I could never see myself in a relationship where any one of the above were lacking....meh, at least I admit being shallow...or maybe i'm just honest.

...but coincidentally, that's probably why i'm still single. :p
It's overly fussy to find personality, intelligence and appearance important? I wouldn't say so at all. It depends more on how much you expect from those three categories, and how particular you are about different qualities and characteristics.

Also, it's not shallow to find looks important. How can a relationship work if there isn't any physical attraction? You're only shallow if your sole judge of someone is on their appearance, and if nothing else matters to you. The fact that it matters, and matters to the extent you'd need to find someone attractive, isn't at all shallow - just... normal, and admitting it is just being more honest (as you say) than most people.

I never really answered the question... and I've just realised I don't think I can :p Too many factors matter to me. Luckily, I have all my wants met :fluffle: (and I am actually pretty horrendously picky in my own ways, in specific areas... so, if I can find someone Kanabia, so can you :p)

The person's political views are the most important to me. If they have crazy warped views than I don't care how great of a personality or looks they have. They aren't worth it.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Halo_effect

Looks = Personality

Basically, people are more likely to see attractive people as having good personality traits. People claiming to be attracted by someone's personality are often attracted by how they look, and because of their attractiveness they deem them to have good personalities. Even when presented with evidence to the contrary, this is conveniently pushed aside.
Not necessarily like that. But personality can influence the physical aspect of a person. Body mannerism and all that.

It's overly fussy to find personality, intelligence and appearance important? I wouldn't say so at all. It depends more on how much you expect from those three categories, and how particular you are about different qualities and characteristics.

Also, it's not shallow to find looks important. How can a relationship work if there isn't any physical attraction? You're only shallow if your sole judge of someone is on their appearance, and if nothing else matters to you. The fact that it matters, and matters to the extent you'd need to find someone attractive, isn't at all shallow - just... normal, and admitting it is just being more honest (as you say) than most people.

I never really answered the question... and I've just realised I don't think I can :p Too many factors matter to me. Luckily, I have all my wants met :fluffle: (and I am actually pretty horrendously picky in my own ways, in specific areas... so, if I can find someone Kanabia, so can you :p)
Physical aspects are important, yes, but they can also be influenced by the psychological aspects of the person. One may be more lenient, so to speak, when considering someone with a compatible personality who may not be so physically ideal to them. But you're right about being honest about how much looks do influence matters; the significance varies from person to person, though.
I don't think Kanabia can. I think he's SOL and will die lonely and bitter.:p

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Halo_effect

Looks = Personality

Basically, people are more likely to see attractive people as having good personality traits. People claiming to be attracted by someone's personality are often attracted by how they look, and because of their attractiveness they deem them to have good personalities. Even when presented with evidence to the contrary, this is conveniently pushed aside.
So... what about people who I think are attractive but have awful personalities? Or who I think have great personalities but are unattractive?

Interesting theory, and maybe it applies to some people, but I don't hold much to it.

It's overly fussy to find personality, intelligence and appearance important? I wouldn't say so at all. It depends more on how much you expect from those three categories, and how particular you are about different qualities and characteristics.

Also, it's not shallow to find looks important. How can a relationship work if there isn't any physical attraction? You're only shallow if your sole judge of someone is on their appearance, and if nothing else matters to you. The fact that it matters, and matters to the extent you'd need to find someone attractive, isn't at all shallow - just... normal, and admitting it is just being more honest (as you say) than most people.

Emphasis on bolded line...

That's what I think. I don't think anyone can say looks don't matter to them. Unless they're blind, I suppose....which reminds me of that movie with the ugly guy.

Of course, naturally, I don't expect extremely high levels in either of the categories.

I never really answered the question... and I've just realised I don't think I can :p Too many factors matter to me. Luckily, I have all my wants met :fluffle: (and I am actually pretty horrendously picky in my own ways, in specific areas... so, if I can find someone Kanabia, so can you :p)

Yeah, true. :) But fussiness might let it take a while, all the same. :p Eh, there's more important things to worry about in the short term than relationships anyway. Like having to be up in 5 hours and go to work, agh. >.<

Physical aspects are important, yes, but they can also be influenced by the psychological aspects of the person. One may be more lenient, so to speak, when considering someone with a compatible personality who may not be so physically ideal to them. But you're right about being honest about how much looks do influence matters; the significance varies from person to person, though.
Indeed. There's also the matter of attraction based on aspects other than physical appearance.
I don't think Kanabia can. I think he's SOL and will die lonely and bitter.:p
Hmm, you're hopeful, optimistic and comforting, aren't you? Remind me never to come to you if I feel depressed :p

So... what about people who I think are attractive but have awful personalities? Or who I think have great personalities but are unattractive?

Interesting theory, and maybe it applies to some people, but I don't hold much to it.

Yeah - but think of it this way. You might have a crush on someone (which'd be a little deeper than simply finding someone attractive), and their personality flaws are pretty obvious to everyone, except you see past them because basically, you're smitten. I've been there, and i'd guess most people can identify with that as well, either from their own experience or from observing friends.

I don't think Kanabia can. I think he's SOL and will die lonely and bitter.:p

SOL?

edit - Oh, shit outta luck.

Meh.

Yeah, true. :) But fussiness might let it take a while, all the same. :p
Just weeds out the people not worth your time :p
Eh, there's more important things to worry about in the short term than relationships anyway. Like having to be up in 5 hours and go to work, agh. >.<
Uh, good luck with that.... Well, I have exams tomorrow so I'm not much better off, heh.

Uh, good luck with that.... Well, I have exams tomorrow so I'm not much better off, heh.
but after i'm coming to see you. yay :fluffle:

Just weeds out the people not worth your time :p

I suppose :p

Uh, good luck with that.... Well, I have exams tomorrow so I'm not much better off, heh.

Heh, I have an exam the day after that I should be studying for tomorrow, but eh, that's going to be a bit difficult :p

*yawns*

Ah well, I shouldn't let insomnia get the better of me again...'night, or afternoon...whatever it is. :p

Yeah - but think of it this way. You might have a crush on someone (which'd be a little deeper than simply finding someone attractive), and their personality flaws are pretty obvious to everyone, except you see past them because basically, you're smitten. I've been there, and i'd guess most people can identify with that as well, either from their own experience or from observing friends.
Hmm, indeed, I've had that actually.... *promptly shuts up* :p
(I read it too much as saying that everyone works in this way all the time...)

but after i'm coming to see you. yay :fluffle:
oo, indeed :) makes any exam worthwhile, even a scary science one :p
in all seriousness, I'm so looking forward to seeing you again :fluffle:

Heh, I have an exam the day after that I should be studying for tomorrow, but eh, that's going to be a bit difficult :p

*yawns*

Ah well, I shouldn't let insomnia get the better of me again...'night, or afternoon...whatever it is. :p
Good luck with your exam :)

I have... 11 exams left over next three weeks. But then I have a 9 week holiday :D (involving one week in France with Huw! :fluffle: )

So... what about people who I think are attractive but have awful personalities? Or who I think have great personalities but are unattractive?

Interesting theory, and maybe it applies to some people, but I don't hold much to it.


What about people that are beastly in appearance and have nasty dispostions too?

What about people that are beastly in appearance and have nasty dispostions too?
Depends what kind of "beastly".... ;) :p

And I wouldn't waste my time on someone with a "nasty disposition".

Most important quality?

Taking the last few weeks of my life into account, I would say there is no such thing. Either you connect with a person, or you don't. This person can have all the good qualities you're looking for and still not be the one, while someone else may only have some of the qualities, but still gives you that feeling that the world suddenly stopped...

Depends what kind of "beastly".... ;) :p

And I wouldn't waste my time on someone with a "nasty disposition".


bummer its hard for me to be nice.

or was it "nice for me to be hard" ?

How about guys with poor memories?

Most important quality?

Taking the last few weeks of my life into account, I would say there is no such thing. Either you connect with a person, or you don't. This person can have all the good qualities you're looking for and still not be the one, while someone else may only have some of the qualities, but still gives you that feeling that the world suddenly stopped...
I'd agree with this.
Beyond finding reasons for loving someone, or picking out characteristics you like, there's still something undefineable and undescribeable that simply... is. A connection of some kind.

bummer its hard for me to be nice.

or was it "nice for me to be hard" ?

How about guys with poor memories?
There are lines between nice and nasty... just have to hit that spot

You can work around that by making things extra... memorable :D

Indeed. There's also the matter of attraction based on aspects other than physical appearance.
Right. I like those aspects more, but I must admit that physical attraction is for me a minor qualification, not a non-existant one. I keep standards low in that regard in hopes that they won't be very high when standards of the same category are applied to me.

Hmm, you're hopeful, optimistic and comforting, aren't you? Remind me never to come to you if I feel depressed :p
Can't do optimistic, but I can be all the others, if need be. But Kanabia doesn't need that, and you wouldn't come to me anyway. You have PM.:(

Most important quality?

Taking the last few weeks of my life into account, I would say there is no such thing. Either you connect with a person, or you don't. This person can have all the good qualities you're looking for and still not be the one, while someone else may only have some of the qualities, but still gives you that feeling that the world suddenly stopped...
So you're saying the essential whole?

Right. I like those aspects more, but I must admit that physical attraction is for me a minor qualification, not a non-existant one. I keep standards low in that regard in hopes that they won't be very high when standards of the same category are applied to me.
A mix of different kinds of attraction is best IMO *nods*
Quite how would that theory work?

Can't do optimistic, but I can be all the others, if need be. But Kanabia doesn't need that, and you wouldn't come to me anyway. You have PM.:(
Aww, those sad faces get to me every time : :fluffle:

There are lines between nice and nasty... just have to hit that spot

You can work around that by making things extra... memorable :D



:D

Hit that spot? Did you say that?

Thats what I do.

So you're saying the essential whole?

Even the essential whole can be perfect, and yet there is no connection. I thinkpersonal preferences only play a part in selecting the people you might consider flirting with, or even the types you would fantasize about. When it comes to love, all those qualities suddenly are nothing but nice decoration of something that you just can't lay your finger on, no matter how hard you try to describe it.

So you're saying the essential whole?

Must be.

Really, I agree with her. It's not just one thing. We humans are very picky in looking for 'the' mate. Some of us just get lucky...

Though I'd call that 'soulmates'...*sigh*

Must be.

Really, I agree with her. It's not just one thing. We humans are very picky in looking for 'the' mate. Some of us just get lucky...

Though I'd call that 'soulmates'...*sigh*

I wouldn't call it that... not any more. "Soulmates" implies that they were made for each other, I don't really believe that. There ar ea lot more factors playing into that.
You just connect differently with people. You might find people you have a very strong connection with. And if you're lucky and the timing and setting is right, you might end up as lovers. But even the strongest connection can break if circumstances won't allow for it

I wouldn't call it that... not any more. "Soulmates" implies that they were made for each other, I don't really believe that. There ar ea lot more factors playing into that.
You just connect differently with people. You might find people you have a very strong connection with. And if you're lucky and the timing and setting is right, you might end up as lovers. But even the strongest connection can break if circumstances won't allow for it

Yes. I think 'lovers' is too loose a term...

A mix of different kinds of attraction is best IMO *nods*
Quite how would that theory work?


Aww, those sad faces get to me every time : :fluffle:
Well, of course a mix is best. I think it only really works that way, but physical attraction is only a small part. Wit, and thereby charm, are very significant to me. I like my woman to play coy, but never do anything seriously, all of which requires an astounding intellect. Naturally, she must have Cabra's Je ne sais quoi. The most important physical aspects to me: the eyes and facial mannerisms, in that order.

Edit: Oh, if that's the case with sad faces, I'll just stop expressing my sorrow.:(

Even the essential whole can be perfect, and yet there is no connection. I thinkpersonal preferences only play a part in selecting the people you might consider flirting with, or even the types you would fantasize about. When it comes to love, all those qualities suddenly are nothing but nice decoration of something that you just can't lay your finger on, no matter how hard you try to describe it.
I meant love included with the essential whole. With that term, I mean everything you for which you are looking, not everthing the person in question is. That's what it's about, after all.

Yes. I think 'lovers' is too loose a term...
Not for me, it isn't. But for use in a thread, perhaps. It's open to all sorts of subjectivity regarding its interpretation.

I meant love included with the essential whole. With that term, I mean everything you for which you are looking, not everthing the person in question is. That's what it's about, after all.

Wish me luck in finding such a person :(

Wish me luck in finding such a person :(
I'm afraid I don't have any more luck than you, or I would....:(

I meant love included with the essential whole. With that term, I mean everything you for which you are looking, not everthing the person in question is. That's what it's about, after all.

You know, I don't think it IS based on what you are looking for. Maybe it may start out that superficially, but in the long run, if there is one, it's much more than what you thought you wanted. You are with a person because of who they are, what they, specifically, make you feel. If you are in a deep emotional relationship with someone, then you are constantly learning about them, every one of their quirks, follies, and positive attributes.

You know, I don't think it IS based on what you are looking for. Maybe it may start out that superficially, but in the long run, if there is one, it's much more than what you thought you wanted. You are with a person because of who they are, what they, specifically, make you feel. If you are in a deep emotional relationship with someone, then you are constantly learning about them, every one of their quirks, follies, and positive attributes.
You misunderstood, which happens a lot in conversations with me(ask my friends sometime). I meant what one really looks for, not what he thinks he wants; that's another issue entirely. According to you, I'm in several deep, emotional relationships.:eek: I do that with all my friends. I know what you mean, though. There's much more to it than that. What I mean by what we really look for is that fundamental feeling that you couldn't want anything more in the world than that one person. Nothing matters but that one. Life, death, money, politics, all nothing next to her. Gaaagh! I can almost see her!:(

You misunderstood, which happens a lot in conversations with me(ask my friends sometime). I meant what one really looks for, not what he thinks he wants; that's another issue entirely. According to you, I'm in several deep, emotional relationships.:eek: I do that with all my friends. I know what you mean, though. There's much more to it than that. What I mean by what we really look for is that fundamental feeling that you couldn't want anything more in the world than that one person. Nothing matters but that one. Life, death, money, politics, all nothing next to her. Gaaagh! I can almost see her!:(

*hug*

Just what I meant to say!

You shall find her, not to worry...

*hug*

Just what I meant to say!

You shall find her, not to worry...
*hugs back*
Oh, good, so I'm more articulate than you.:p
I don't know. I have a funny feeling about it. I'm a more'n a little worried I won't or that I'll miss her and realize it when it's too late. Or that I already have. And naturally, the gods taunt me by endowing me with nearly a vision of her every time I lecture n00bs on what love is like. As best I can, at any rate. But thanks for the sentiment. :fluffle:

*hugs back*
Oh, good, so I'm more articulate than you.:p
I don't know. I have a funny feeling about it. I'm a more'n a little worried I won't or that I'll miss her and realize it when it's too late. Or that I already have. And naturally, the gods taunt me by endowing me with nearly a vision of her every time I lecture n00bs on what love is like. As best I can, at any rate. But thanks for the sentiment. :fluffle:

No, no, you'll be fine. Life's young :D

And anyways, in any case, just make it rich. Then you'llget some gorgeous golddigger at least...

*cries for the loss of feminism at those wretches' hands*

No, no, you'll be fine. Life's young :D

And anyways, in any case, just make it rich. Then you'llget some gorgeous golddigger at least...

*cries for the loss of feminism at those wretches' hands*
I'm not so sure. That just means I have the rest of my life to lament the irony of my understanding of love. I don't wanna be rich. That doesn't matter. Now that someone brought up the subject *scowls at Cabra West*, I don't want anything but Her (not Cabra West). And spamming here in Generaland, which I would trade for her. I don't want a golddigger. I hate people like that.
*pulls out shotgun and shoots thirteen seemingly random women on the street*

I'm not so sure. That just means I have the rest of my life to lament the irony of my understanding of love. I don't wanna be rich. That doesn't matter. Now that someone brought up the subject *scowls at Cabra West*, I don't want anything but Her (not Cabra West). And spamming here in Generaland, which I would trade for her. I don't want a golddigger. I hate people like that.
*pulls out shotgun and shoots thirteen seemingly random women on the street*

Yay!

Another advocate for true love! I know, I'd give up Generaland for the Gnome, which I do...but what else am I to do with my spare time? :confused:

God! people are so cliché....Majority is for personality...

Yay!

Another advocate for true love! I know, I'd give up Generaland for the Gnome, which I do...but what else am I to do with my spare time? :confused:
Sure am! You don't have to give it up for him, so it isn't an issue with you two.

God! people are so cliché....Majority is for personality...
I, sir, am the epitome of cliché.
*runs off to update signature once more*

So... what about people who I think are attractive but have awful personalities? Or who I think have great personalities but are unattractive?

When people meet someone new, they usually see them before they talk to them. Whether they are attractive or not is noticed before whether they have a good personality or not, meaning that their looks will colour their percieved personality rather than the other way round.

Unattractive people with good personalities are able to salvage the situation after the first impression, but as first impressions have such a large impact they will generally remain stuck as a friend rather than a lover.

Attractive people with poor personalities will make a good first impression, making a relationship far more likely. Whether it lasts will ultimately be down to personality, although the rose-tinted glasses will stay on for a while.

Of course, the ideal is an attractive person with a good personality, but overall the physical attraction is needed to initiate the relationship, and therefore is more important.

While I doubt it works for everyone (blind people being an extreme example, and people on internet forums possibly running it in reverse (something I might look into but probably can't be bothered)), I'm fairly sure that most people are affected by it subconciously. [/probably incoherent and tangled argument]

When people meet someone new, they usually see them before they talk to them. Whether they are attractive or not is noticed before whether they have a good personality or not, meaning that their looks will colour their percieved personality rather than the other way round.

Unattractive people with good personalities are able to salvage the situation after the first impression, but as first impressions have such a large impact they will generally remain stuck as a friend rather than a lover.

Attractive people with poor personalities will make a good first impression, making a relationship far more likely. Whether it lasts will ultimately be down to personality, although the rose-tinted glasses will stay on for a while.

Of course, the ideal is an attractive person with a good personality, but overall the physical attraction is needed to initiate the relationship, and therefore is more important.

While I doubt it works for everyone (blind people being an extreme example, and people on internet forums possibly running it in reverse (something I might look into but probably can't be bothered)), I'm fairly sure that most people are affected by it subconciously. [/probably incoherent and tangled argument]
No, it's coherent and certainly something to be considered, but I think whatever appeals to you most about a person will override to some extent what you dislike. That's you trying to make some sort of connection to feel like someone else relates to you, like you belong at least with that one person. Not everyone who can see takes the first impression to be quite so significant as you might believe, though it does have a subconscious impression. For those who do, they should probably try to consciously work past such pettiness. Personally, I'm more interested in the other things I posted, but can't be bothered to mention again.:p But I will say that they put physical attraction to a side.

That the person, regardless of age, gender, sexual orientation, race, species, etc. love you back.

Yes, I threw in species.
Yes, the capacity to love is the greatest quality. Therefore I vote other.

Yes, the capacity to love is the greatest quality. Therefore I vote other.
SEE above posts ^ ^ ^

The only person I ever could truly love has to be at least 450 pounds, eat like a pig, have both male and female sexual organs, a personality of a rock, and an IQ of at least 140 with a serious mental disorder. All of those characteristics are equally important.

*drools*

The only person I ever could truly love has to be at least 450 pounds, eat like a pig, have both male and female sexual organs, a personality of a rock, and an IQ of at least 140 with a serious mental disorder. All of those characteristics are equally important.

*drools*

Shame I only have male genitalia.

Shame I only have male genitalia.
LOL:D Do you still have the hat?;)

LOL:D Do you still have the hat?;)

:eek: I thought that 'incident' was long since forgotten!

:eek: I thought that 'incident' was long since forgotten!
Not at all, my dear. I remember the oddest things.:D So, could I trouble you for a post? I wanna see how much your response to matches mine.

Not at all, my dear. I remember the oddest things.:D So, could I trouble you for a post? I wanna see how much your response to matches mine.

You mean an on topic post? :eek:

You mean an on topic post? :eek:
Sure. We haven't hit page 20 yet, or I wouldn't ask.;) That and I'm curious as to your opinion.

Sure. We haven't hit page 20 yet, or I wouldn't ask.;) That and I'm curious as to your opinion.

Stop flirting you two. Grr....

Sure. We haven't hit page 20 yet, or I wouldn't ask.;) That and I'm curious as to your opinion.

Ok, erm....
There are many important qualities for a lover :p

One: Intellectual compatibility, similar values.
Two: Similar stage at life, for example, I don't believe a relationship between myself and a retired man would necessarily work.
Three: Sexual compatibility...
Four: Mutual physical attraction (is that the same as Three? Kinda)
Five: Erm, there might be more... I'm not sure. Could you direct me towards your reply? :D

Stop flirting you two. Grr....

Who said I was flirting? :p

Stop flirting you two. Grr....
I'm afraid we can't do that. It would be out of character. We are married, after all.
Right, TBD?:p

Ok, erm....
There are many important qualities for a lover :p

One: Intellectual compatibility, similar values.
Two: Similar stage at life, for example, I don't believe a relationship between myself and a retired man would necessarily work.
Three: Sexual compatibility...
Four: Mutual physical attraction (is that the same as Three? Kinda)
Five: Erm, there might be more... I'm not sure. Could you direct me towards your reply? :D
Hmm, curious. Explain this "intellectual compatability." What would it entail?
yes, I'll go check to see where it is. Just for you.;) :fluffle:

Edit: Okay, looks like 11 and 12 have my best posts in this thread, but I'll go check again in case I screwed up the numbers.

After reading what has become of my once noble thread, I find my testes in a jolly amount of pain.

Hmm, curious. Explain this "intellectual compatability." What would it entail?
yes, I'll go check to see where it is. Just for you.;) :fluffle:

Erm, did I not already explain myself? I believe I said something along the lines of having similar values?
I guess also things like the ability to have good conversations, reasonably similar level of intellegence (but this is only an issue if there is a HUGE gap, either way, in intellegence).

Erm, did I not already explain myself? I believe I said something along the lines of having similar values?
I guess also things like the ability to have good conversations, reasonably similar level of intellegence (but this is only an issue if there is a HUGE gap, either way, in intellegence).
I thought there might be more to it. But you did just post and haven't had as long to think it through as thoroughly as I have.

I thought there might be more to it. But you did just post and haven't had as long to think it through as thoroughly as I have.

You've thought it through thoroughly?

Can I have a linky, pretty please? :fluffle:

Desperation.

Oh wait, you're serious. . .

I would say that the first and foremost quality of a great lover is empathy, namely the ability to understand what you're feeling and change their own actions to accomodate it. From there, I think the next great qualities, in order, are wisdom, intelligence, beauty, and the ability to suck a watermelon through a pixie stick, otherwise known as sexual skill and high libido.

You've thought it through thoroughly?

Can I have a linky, pretty please? :fluffle:
I have a bit, yes, but it's nothing compared to how much I'll have thought about it after spamming this thread for a week.;)

Oh, very well. As I said, my best posts are the ones on pages 11 and twelve, so I'll send you to 11. Please read all the relevant ones. Together, they'll give you the most insight.

Here's the link, dearest: http://forums.jolt.co.uk/showthread.php?t=486278&page=11

I have a bit, yes, but it's nothing compared to how much I'll have thought about it after spamming this thread for a week.;)

Oh, very well. As I said, my best posts are the ones on pages 11 and twelve, so I'll send you to 11. Please read all the relevant ones. Together, they'll give you the most insight.

Here's the link, dearest: http://forums.jolt.co.uk/showthread.php?t=486278&page=11

So, what do you want me to say? :confused:

Fidelity. Period. After that, all things are possible. But if you don't have that, none of the rest of the things you listed in your poll matters one whit.

So, what do you want me to say? :confused:
I want you to say what you think.

Fidelity. Period. After that, all things are possible. But if you don't have that, none of the rest of the things you listed in your poll matters one whit.
Beat ya to it!:p I said that pages and pages ago.

Looks and personality tied.

MOST important? not being a p.i.t.a. to live with!

=^^=
.../\...

The only person I ever could truly love has to be at least 450 pounds, eat like a pig, have both male and female sexual organs, a personality of a rock, and an IQ of at least 140 with a serious mental disorder. All of those characteristics are equally important.

*drools*
What sort of rock are we talking about?

Well, of course a mix is best. I think it only really works that way, but physical attraction is only a small part. Wit, and thereby charm, are very significant to me. I like my woman to play coy, but never do anything seriously, all of which requires an astounding intellect. Naturally, she must have Cabra's Je ne sais quoi. The most important physical aspects to me: the eyes and facial mannerisms, in that order.

Never doing anything seriously requires astounding intellect? :eek:

Can't do optimistic, but I can be all the others, if need be. But Kanabia doesn't need that

Oh? What makes you think that? :(


(heh :p)

Other: being a sweet li'l thing ;)

Taking it in the pooper.

Ah, the almighty question. What, in your opinion, is the most important quality of a lover?Starting from average in all areas, I'd say an inprovement in personality would be most favorable. However no amount of personality will compensate for a complete lacking in any of the other areas.

Never doing anything seriously requires astounding intellect? :eek:
Yes, it does. Otherwise, one is being foolish, which I do not find attractive. The difference is the thought. She would recognize a situation and respond in some silly way just for the silliness of it, but have one of those knowing looks in her eyes as she did it. It kinda reminds me of your Not bad joke.:eek:

Oh? What makes you think that? :(


(heh :p)
Simple. You're Kanabia. You have doubtlessly accepted your desolate fate.:p

Taking it in the pooper.

Best. Answer. Yet. :D

Yes, it does. Otherwise, one is being foolish, which I do not find attractive. The difference is the thought. She would recognize a situation and respond in some silly way just for the silliness of it, but have one of those knowing looks in her eyes as she did it. It kinda reminds me of your Not bad joke.:eek:

Gotta agree with Fascist here. It does take a lot of thought and effort to never do anything seriously -- probably more than doing things seriously, but it's definitely more fun. :D

Yes, it does. Otherwise, one is being foolish, which I do not find attractive. The difference is the thought. She would recognize a situation and respond in some silly way just for the silliness of it, but have one of those knowing looks in her eyes as she did it. It kinda reminds me of your Not bad joke.:eek:

:eek:!

Gotta agree with Fascist here. It does take a lot of thought and effort to never do anything seriously -- probably more than doing things seriously, but it's definitely more fun. :D
That's right. Definitely more fun. I like women who can think and always have an overabundance of wit.

Honesty

Honesty

What is this...how you say...honesty? :p

:eek:!
What? Something I said again?:confused:

What? Something I said again?:confused:

Yep, just thoughts of the Not Bad joke :p

That's right. Definitely more fun. I like women who can think and always have an overabundance of wit.

You think I have these things? :confused:

You think I have these things? :confused:

Does any woman have those things? :p

*waits for inevitable flaming*

:D

Hit that spot? Did you say that?

Thats what I do.
Haha, said totally unintentionally of course.... *cough*...

And you should see what I do, when my spot is hit... or for my spot to be hit...

Haha, said totally unintentionally of course.... *cough*...

And you should see what I do, when my spot is hit... or for my spot to be hit...

Must...resist...urge...to request...vid...

You think I have these things? :confused:
Course you do, dearest. :fluffle:

Haha, said totally unintentionally of course.... *cough*...

And you should see what I do, when my spot is hit... or for my spot to be hit...
:eek: I do not know how to reply in a manner that would not upset The Beautiful Darkness, so I will restrain myself.
Oh, wait, I've got just the thing.(ignore innuendo)
*coughcybersexcough*

Course you do, dearest. :fluffle:

Leghumping in yet another thread? Well, seems you like to spread it around...

Must...resist...urge...to request...vid...
It's really hard, isn't it?:D Not to request a vid from Glitzy, that is. For educational purposes, of course.:D So all of us n00bs know what to do.:D
I can't take it anymore!!
*explodes*http://www.studip.uni-goettingen.de/pictures/smile/atomrofl.gif

It's really hard, isn't it? :D

I plead the Fifth. Then I drink it. :D

Not to request a vid from Glitzy, that is. For educational purposes, of course.:D

But of course. ;)

So all of us n00bs know what to do.:D
I can't take it anymore!!
*explodes*http://www.studip.uni-goettingen.de/pictures/smile/atomrofl.gif

Silly nooblets. :p

Leghumping in yet another thread? Well, seems you like to spread it around...
I'm definitely not leghumping her. She's my wife, dontcha know?
Right, TBD?:p *nudges*

I'm definitely not leghumping her. She's my wife, dontcha know?
Right, TBD?:p *nudges*

Such a quagmire of pathetic...

I plead the Fifth. Then I drink it. :D
:D

But of course. ;)
I thought as much.

Silly nooblets. :p
Can't help it. I've never found the right woman for me. But at least Glitzy could make sure I'm well prepared for when I do.:D

Such a quagmire of pathetic...
Yeah, I really am, but she gets the allusion. I like to tease her about it a lot.;)

Yep, just thoughts of the Not Bad joke :p
Oh, is that all?:rolleyes:

Must...resist...urge...to request...vid...
:eek: I do not know how to reply in a manner that would not upset The Beautiful Darkness, so I will restrain myself.
Oh, wait, I've got just the thing.(ignore innuendo)
*coughcybersexcough*
It's really hard, isn't it?:D Not to request a vid from Glitzy, that is. For educational purposes, of course.:D So all of us n00bs know what to do.:D
Haha, sorry guys :D my spot being hit (incredibly well...*memories drift back to a few hours ago*) is something that shall stay between me and Huw ;) I'll just tease :D

Haha, sorry guys :D my spot being hit (incredibly well...*memories drift back to a few hours ago*)
hahahaha.... subtle ;) :p

Haha, sorry guys :D my spot being hit (incredibly well...*memories drift back to a few hours ago*) is something that shall stay between me and Huw ;) I'll just tease :D
I figured. That's okay. I guess I'll just have to learn the hard way.;)

Haha, sorry guys :D my spot being hit (incredibly well...*memories drift back to a few hours ago*) is something that shall stay between me and Huw ;) I'll just tease :D
tease away fair glitz... for we, the deprived, can always seek the refreshing embrase of yonder ice cold shower. :D

tease away fair glitz... for we, the deprived, can always seek the refreshing embrase of yonder ice cold shower. :D
I can't. Cold water has the opposite effect on me when I'm...in the mood.:eek: :( But I'll taket the teasing anyway.

hahahaha.... subtle ;) :p
as if i'd be anything less than! :p

Does any woman have those things? :p

*waits for inevitable flaming*

*Generously decided to ignore that comment* :p

Other: I'd say it's the ineffable it. The French, who would be the ones to know, can't quite place it either... "Je ne sais quoi"

It is what keeps you forever amazed. It feeds the original infatuation and lives on long after it. Sparkle might describe it, or a glint in the eye. You just keep wondering about it.

Brains.....must Have Brains.........

Persoanlity first for me, then looks, then intelligence.

*Generously decided to ignore that comment* :p
Aww, I was hoping for some flaming.:(

Other: I'd say it's the ineffable it. The French, who would be the ones to know, can't quite place it either... "Je ne sais quoi"

It is what keeps you forever amazed. It feeds the original infatuation and lives on long after it. Sparkle might describe it, or a glint in the eye. You just keep wondering about it.
But you most definitely can feel it, that which hinders articulation, defies words and baffles thought.
"We were looking for it."
"We have been for some time." (that's for you, Darkness;) )

Brains.....must Have Brains.........
And a desire for more brains....just not to eat them....

But you most definitely can feel it, that which hinders articulation, defies words and baffles thought.
"We were looking for it."
"We have been for some time." (that's for you, Darkness;) )

"We are the Knights who say NI!
...You must cut down the tallest tree in the forest WITH~ a HERRING!" :D

Aww, I was hoping for some flaming.:(

I'm above petty flamming :p

"We are the Knights who say NI!
...You must cut down the tallest tree in the forest WITH~ a HERRING!" :D
*cues suspenseful music*
We make such a great team. *sighs*