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That good huh? Well I'm planning being down there for about 5-6years if things all go the right way.

make sure you have to repeat a few courses to extend the stay. hehe

if you're still serious about this girl in two years, bring her with you... school can be tough on r'ships... unless you're really, really strong and/or close enough to see her often.

just something to ponder before you go there and think, "oh, crap, she's HOT and she forgot to wear pants".

(again,. hehe)

make sure you have to repeat a few courses to extend the stay. hehe

if you're still serious about this girl in two years, bring her with you... school can be tough on r'ships... unless you're really, really strong and/or close enough to see her often.

just something to ponder before you go there and think, "oh, crap, she's HOT and she forgot to wear pants".

(again,. hehe)
I think we've sort of decided that we may split ways then.. But if we're actually still together then-I dunno.

Alright, let me see here.

- intelligence
- awesome sense of humor
- completed/completing college
- can drink in moderation
- has friends, likes to go out but not constantly
- loves to read
- not too much fat but some is good
- my height or taller is good
- dark hair is good but I'm flexible
- good in bed, comfortable with giving and receiving so to speak
- affectionate but not too corny about it (don't put on Frank Sinatra and try to dance with me while shoving a rose stem in my mouth)
- computer-savvy is best, I love nerds
- likes Star Trek
- respectful but can kid around with me
- likes adventures and gets out of the routine a lot, but is reliable
- this list is getting too long, I think I'm just trying to describe my boyfriend.

- affectionate but not too corny about it (don't put on Frank Sinatra and try to dance with me while shoving a rose stem in my mouth)

Ilie,

Come on, what's wrong with singing "My Way" in certain situations? hehe

- affectionate but not too corny about it (don't put on Frank Sinatra and try to dance with me while shoving a rose stem in my mouth)

Ilie,

Come on, what's wrong with singing "My Way" in certain situations? hehe

Haha! If it was My Way, it would have been a hysterically memorable moment. Unfortunately, I was thinking about a guy who was literally trying to woo me with this exact situation. He put on that "the way you wear your hat, the way you sing off key" song (whatever it's called) and asked me to dance, and gave me a rose and told me to put it in my mouth while we danced. I told him it was stupid and asked if we could play video games for a while instead. I did not go out with him again.

Hm, to answer the question. Nerdy is very good. A love of music is also good.

That'll do. I'm easy.

Hm, to answer the question. Nerdy is very good. A love of music is also good.

That'll do. I'm easy.

Oh yeah, I forgot that one. They have to like lots of different kinds of music. I hate it when people only listen to one or two bands or genres and HATE everything else.

I live in Appleton...

...I might be going to Madison for school soon. :)

i've got a set of grandparents in Grand Chute... fairly close to the Fox River Mall.

I actually find her interesting if she likes to talk. At least it's never boring, and I always listen to her stories, no matter what they are.
I think Saipea meant that talking is perfectly okay and desirable, but those who call and have NOTHING to say, but just call and as "howya doin'?" in that sickly sweet and unctious voice, and expect him to entertain her for hours on end telephonically. I'm in my 30s and thankfully that kind of thing doesn't happen anymore (and if it did, I'd leave the relationship equivalent of burnout skidmarks as I ran away screaming). This appalling phenomenon has only worsened with the ubiquity of cell phones.

I experienced this in my youth prior to the mass production of cell phones and it was bad enough! The telephone is a COMMUNICATION DEVICE -- if you've got nothing to say, please don't call me! If I'm anyhting but alright, trust me, I'll call. And if you've got something you want to discuss or just need someone to blather to about something on your mind, I'm only happy to listen! But if you're just going to leave dead air on the other end of the line because you think I should be talking and keeping you company, then just kill me now, 'cause I can guarantee that death is what I'm contemplating during that dead air time.

I hope that made sense.

I'd like to meet a girl who is:

[1] Intelligent
[2] Relatively pretty ( I know, I'm a shallow asshole )
[3] Supportive
[4] Understanding
[5] Able to conform to my erratic style of humour

So far, I've had a good run-in with women who have qualities 1-4. I've yet to find a girl who doesn't say 'You're wierd' when I try to make her laugh (as I am not a funny person).
No you're not.

If you're not attracted to someone -- and personality, devotion, sense of humor, shared interest and lots of other things have considerable power to overcome basic appearance deficits -- then you're not attracted, period. I've fallen for women I normally don't find attractive objectively many times. One was over 200 pounds, and while she had a pair of eyes that could supernova any nearby star, she was not my physical type. After meeting from an online setup, I didn't think it'd go anywhere. But as we exchanged emails and IMs, I began to realize that I didn't care -- this woman is sexy and intelligent and has a voice that could melt lead, sign me up. After four real-world dates, I discovered she was an inveterate control freak and despite the fact that she lived in Tacoma and I in Everett (a 60+ mile one-way trip) and I was the one doing all the traveling, she thought that I'd broken some kind of rule when I'd inadvertantly forgotten to mention a rehearsal I had for my professional choral ensemble on Valentine's weekend. That Saturday, I'd given her a sun-emblem sterling silver necklace/pendant from Tiffany's ($168), and when I had to go on Sunday at noon, she called that night completely pissed and basically provoked me into becoming angry, which she used as an excuse to break what little we had off. We'd only barely kissed! She completely and deliberately mischaracterized my mistake -- and kept the necklace despite my repeated requests for her to return it to me. When I made a perfectly reasonable plea for her to give it back, she told me I was becoming frightening to her and that I should not contact her again because she'd think I was turning into a stalker or something.

Wow. That went on far longer than I'd expected, and that was 15 months ago...but the point is, I guess, attraction is far more complex that appearance, but basing an at-first-sight appraisal on attractiveness to you does NOT make you an asshole.

do you realize how worthless this whole thing is? Sitting in front of a computer and idealizing/fantasizing about a future partner hardly seems pragmatic. You can't just sit there; you have to go out and find that person. I am lucky. I did. I am very happy right now. But occasionally, ya hafta go out and go for the win, rather than play god/president to a dominion of online people.
Lighten up. It's a discussion about a fairly pertinent topic to life in general. We're not here using NS as any kind of life substitute...okay, well I'm not...and you come off like a condescending asshat when you accuse others of doing so.

I was going to make this its own thread, but really it just answers this question in a weird way, so I'll post it here so it can die in the obscurity it deserves.

All My Fantasy Girls Have Started a Band
And on alternate Tuesdays they let me jam

The sultry torch singer stands at the front, her voice almost a harsh whisper. She walks a line between Veronica Lake and Bettie Page, she teases my insecurities because she thinks they're silly. She's seen more than I dare to ask.

In dirty corduroys and a sweater is the tenor sax player. A pot smoking slacker, she laughs at the things that I take too seriously. She's a better player than me (not as hard as I wish it was), so she plays the lead. (there's no subtext to that, I just think chicks who are musicians are hot.)

On up-right bass is the 'thinker,' the deep reader. The one who corners you when you haven't thought something through. She's probably the best musician in the band but hasn't spent a second contemplating it.

The drummer maintains the group's tour bus. She doesn't know how to be mean, so when her pure honesty hits a bone on accident you know it wasn't with malice. She sings the folksy songs while the torch singer takes a break.

On alternate Tuesdays I play bari.

Kind of glad I didn't make that it's own thread. It's kinda lame when it's all typed out...meh, I'll submit it anyway...
That is brilliant. I applaud you!

EDIT: Uh...can I sit in on backing vocals and keys?