Flame Baiting
After replying to a thread asking for opinions and admitting several times I have an entirely irrational emotional reaction I have no control of understanding of Neo Art began to attack me calling me a bigot and ignorant among other unpleasant things and then
But you know SaintB, I'm sure all the submissives are so very glad you're out there, protecting them from things they like. I have seen the error of my ways, and will never slap my girlfriend again.
It's just a shame for her...given how much she likes it.
Clearly attempting to make me lash out at him; for some reason.
Poliwanacraca
05-04-2009, 04:38
"For some reason," huh? Can't imagine what that would have been...
Oh yeah its a sign of ignorance that I have a negative reaction to people being treated like pieces of meat, right on. You can go ahead and call someone you 'care' about a bitch and slap her around all you want but you have no room to call me ignorant.
http://forums.jolt.co.uk/showpost.php?p=14667773&postcount=286
The fact that you recognize it as irrational doesn't make it stop being irrational. Which was the entire point of my post. The utter lunacy of stating that there's something wrong with doing what your partner likes, merely because you don't happen to like it. I've known many people who rather enjoy the very activities you describe.
On the other hand, however, I find your heavy handed connotation that people in those kind of relationships don't care deeply for their partners, simply because they mutually engage in activities you personally find distasteful, to be patently offensive.
No less offensive than it would be to homosexuals had you said "Oh yeah its a sign of ignorance that I have a negative reaction to men having sex with men. You can go ahead and have gay sex with someone you 'care' about..."
If you find that when people point out that your position is irrational, and explain exactly why it's irrational, makes you "lash out"...I'm sorry, I don't know what else to say to you. Perhaps NSG is not the place for you then.
Ardchoille
05-04-2009, 09:26
I checked the thread, SaintB. I don't think that was an attempt to make you lash out. My take on it is that Neo Art was commenting on what he believed to be your views, and you feel he was mistaken about what those views were.
However, I can't see any evidence that he was misunderstanding on purpose, just to anger you, or that the line you quoted was deliberate provocation. It looked to me like a continuation of his argument.
Leaving the thread at that stage, rather than staying to argue about nuances until somebody did flame, was a good move.
Perhaps NSG is not the place for you then.
Nor yours to tell her so -- not in Moderation, anyway. Leave pontificating to the mods; it's one of the things we're, er, unpaid for.