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Well, I started loving someone a week ago today, Saturday. I thought it was just physical lust that would wear out by the end of the night. Problem is, it steadily grew stronger until last Sunday, and ever since then, I have been thinking of her constantly. She has invaded music, movies, my thoughts (ALL OF THEM!) video games, reading, etc. and while I plan to give her a note Monday asking her to meet me by my locker, after which if she follows through I'll ask her on a date, tommorrow will be torture. My questions to NSG are:

1.) Does this ever happen to you?

2.) How do you take your mind of them for a bit, and is it bad to do so?

3.) Will I get in trouble if I give her a note (i.e. she tells a teacher or the principal)?

good plan

but its still just lust

for now


no you wont get into trouble as long as its a nice note

I thought about someone constantly for about six months, once.

It was a nice, placid, loving ride up shit creek.

You can actually pin down the moment you started loving someone?

The hell?

Anyway, no that never happened to me (is it even possible to think of someone constantly?), whenever I focused on something else I stopped thinking of them, and unless she hates you or thinks you're a stalker she's probably not going to give a note you wrote to anyone. Not that writing a note is a good way to say it anyway.

Yes, I often have periods of my life just thinking about somebody. I mean not obviously -all- day that would be impossible. but certainly for significant moments. It doesn't necessarily indicate a romantic affection however. someone can do something that says or means a lot to me and I can spend ages thinking about them, or someone can hurt me in such a way that I turn over it incessantly.

You can actually pin down the moment you started loving someone?

The hell?

Anyway, no that never happened to me (is it even possible to think of someone constantly?), whenever I focused on something else I stopped thinking of them, and unless she hates you or thinks you're a stalker she's probably not going to give a note you wrote to anyone. Not that writing a note is a good way to say it anyway.

Yeah, I did, not the exact moment, but I know it was last Saturday. It doesn't say "I love you" or anything just to meet me by my locker.

Don't do notes and stuff, that's just silly. Rather, try and spend time with her in group settings (while a sudden "go on a date with me" with someone she barely knows has less of a chance of success in my view). That has two advantages: firstly you can figure out what you like about this person and whether there's anything to it and secondly, she will at least know your face when you ask her out.

Just make sure you don't drag that process out too long, because pretending to be a friend when you don't actually want to be friends is a no-no.

Also, none of this is valid if you have actually known her for some time. In that case, disregard.

Wait, you 'love' someone and you haven't knocked boots? I find that highly improbable sir.

Also don't take dating advice from NSG.

I think about him constantly. Pretty much from the moment I wake up, until I finally fall asleep late at night. Little things remind me of him. Certain smells, certain places, an overhead comment...or when I'm having a really good time and I wish I could share it with him. He's always there in the back of my mind. It can get awfully distracting sometimes, but it also helps get through really boring classes or trips on the bus etc. I've been like this since last July. Hasn't gotten any tamer.

Wait, you 'love' someone and you haven't knocked boots? I find that highly improbable sir.

Why?

Well, I started loving someone a week ago today, Saturday. I thought it was just physical lust that would wear out by the end of the night. Problem is, it steadily grew stronger until last Sunday, and ever since then, I have been thinking of her constantly. She has invaded music, movies, my thoughts (ALL OF THEM!) video games, reading, etc. and while I plan to give her a note Monday asking her to meet me by my locker, after which if she follows through I'll ask her on a date, tommorrow will be torture. My questions to NSG are:

1.) Does this ever happen to you?

2.) How do you take your mind of them for a bit, and is it bad to do so?

3.) Will I get in trouble if I give her a note (i.e. she tells a teacher or the principal)?

1) Yes, it has happened to probably all of us, myself included.

2) Force yourself to. You gotta just think about other things for a while. It's not bad to think about other things.

3) No.

Oh, by the way, unless you are certain she digs you, I would not suggest a note. Asking her openly is the best way to start if you trying to make her like you. Notes make it appear as if you are lacking in confidence.

Also, do not be so sure you love her, though I will not rule it out.

Does myself count? Oh god, I just realized that it has been five minutes since I looked in a mirror!

I think about him constantly. Pretty much from the moment I wake up, until I finally fall asleep late at night. Little things remind me of him. Certain smells, certain places, an overhead comment...or when I'm having a really good time and I wish I could share it with him. He's always there in the back of my mind. It can get awfully distracting sometimes, but it also helps get through really boring classes or trips on the bus etc. I've been like this since last July. Hasn't gotten any tamer.

I don't blame you for your infatuation with me, I am irresistible! :p

Also don't take dating advice from NSG.

This. No offense, but seriously, I'd never ask for romantic advice from strangers on the internet. Maybe that makes me old fasioned, but what the hell.

Yes, I think of someone constantly: Myself.

Edit: Damn. Fiddlesticks beat me to it.

I don't blame you for your infatuation with me, I am irresistible! :p

Who are you?

Well, I started loving someone a week ago today, Saturday. I thought it was just physical lust that would wear out by the end of the night. Problem is, it steadily grew stronger until last Sunday, and ever since then, I have been thinking of her constantly. She has invaded music, movies, my thoughts (ALL OF THEM!) video games, reading, etc. and while I plan to give her a note Monday asking her to meet me by my locker, after which if she follows through I'll ask her on a date, tommorrow will be torture. My questions to NSG are:

1.) Does this ever happen to you?

2.) How do you take your mind of them for a bit, and is it bad to do so?

3.) Will I get in trouble if I give her a note (i.e. she tells a teacher or the principal)?

Wait... you "started" loving her last Saturday, and it "grew" in a day to obsession?

OT, welcome to puberty. Puberty, meet OT.

Sounds like infatuation, enjoy it while it lasts.......don't be a creeper. Also, nix on the note idea, it's dorky and wreaks of lack of confidence......just go up to her and ask her out like you already know she'll say "yes" if she says "no" walk away like you don't even care.

Yeah, desperation is super unsexy.

You can actually pin down the moment you started loving someone?

The hell?

Anyway, no that never happened to me (is it even possible to think of someone constantly?), whenever I focused on something else I stopped thinking of them, and unless she hates you or thinks you're a stalker she's probably not going to give a note you wrote to anyone. Not that writing a note is a good way to say it anyway.

I can pin down the moment I knew I would love a certain person for the rest of my life. Not quite the same, but sometimes it does stand out.

I can pin down the moment I knew I would love a certain person for the rest of my life. Not quite the same, but sometimes it does stand out.It was when we had anal sex in your dream, right?

:D

The only people I know for sure I will love for the rest of my life no matter what are my kids.

Wait, you 'love' someone and you haven't knocked boots? I find that highly improbable sir.

Also don't take dating advice from NSG.

I've been in love with people I haven't had sex with. Why does that seem so impossible?

I can pin down the moment I knew I would love a certain person for the rest of my life. Not quite the same, but sometimes it does stand out.

Yeah, I can pin down the realization of "holy shit I love him"......it was shortly after he puked on me.....and I didn't immediately punch him in the face but thought ":( I wonder what I can do to make him feel better".

Well, I started loving someone a week ago today, Saturday. I thought it was just physical lust that would wear out by the end of the night. Problem is, it steadily grew stronger until last Sunday, and ever since then, I have been thinking of her constantly. She has invaded music, movies, my thoughts (ALL OF THEM!) video games, reading, etc. and while I plan to give her a note Monday asking her to meet me by my locker, after which if she follows through I'll ask her on a date, tommorrow will be torture. My questions to NSG are:

1.) Does this ever happen to you?

2.) How do you take your mind of them for a bit, and is it bad to do so?

3.) Will I get in trouble if I give her a note (i.e. she tells a teacher or the principal)?

As your responsible mental physician, I am writing you a prescription for beer. You must drink no less than 75 ounces over a period of three and a half hours. Hop to it, and life will get better.

It was when we had anal sex in your dream, right?

No, it was that time you gave me chlamydia. It felt so special, sharing the itching and burning with you...

The only people I know for sure I will love for the rest of my life no matter what are my kids.

If I ever have kids (and I intend to), I plan to get their names tattooed. Because they can't be unborn from me.

There are, though, a few people I know that I will love forever, no matter what. Not many, but a few. It's a bitch.

I think what can be difficult to distinguish (except over time) are those little infatuations where you get a -taste- of someone and they click straight away but it's BECAUSE you only got a taste. This happens to me all the time, I mourn over the absense of someone because I miss the opportunity to gorge on the emotionality of their presence. Infact it's happening to me currently, which fails. but it can feel nice.

Yeah, desperation is super unsexy.

Now, this is admittedly a high schooler, so desperation was the normal M.O. for most of the people I knew back in that day, bust still...

...upon going to college, I realized that setting out to get drunk with no intent of getting any is damn near the most surefire way to get some.

The only people I know for sure I will love for the rest of my life no matter what are my kids.

This, in spades.

EDIT: Err, my kid, I mean. Although I'm sure yours are very nice, too.

I think about him constantly. Pretty much from the moment I wake up, until I finally fall asleep late at night. Little things remind me of him. Certain smells, certain places, an overhead comment...or when I'm having a really good time and I wish I could share it with him. He's always there in the back of my mind. It can get awfully distracting sometimes, but it also helps get through really boring classes or trips on the bus etc. I've been like this since last July. Hasn't gotten any tamer.

I never realised you felt this way about me.

1.) Does this ever happen to you?
No.

2.) How do you take your mind of them for a bit, and is it bad to do so?
Get a sense of perspective.

3.) Will I get in trouble if I give her a note (i.e. she tells a teacher or the principal)
Yes, you dirty stalking perv :p

Well, I started loving someone a week ago today, Saturday. I thought it was just physical lust that would wear out by the end of the night. Problem is, it steadily grew stronger until last Sunday, and ever since then, I have been thinking of her constantly. She has invaded music, movies, my thoughts (ALL OF THEM!) video games, reading, etc. and while I plan to give her a note Monday asking her to meet me by my locker, after which if she follows through I'll ask her on a date, tommorrow will be torture. My questions to NSG are:

1.) Does this ever happen to you?

2.) How do you take your mind of them for a bit, and is it bad to do so?

3.) Will I get in trouble if I give her a note (i.e. she tells a teacher or the principal)?

How old are you?

Younger than me would be my guess.

1.) Does this ever happen to you?

Yes.

2.) How do you take your mind of them for a bit, and is it bad to do so?

I don't. I think about them if I want to.

3.) Will I get in trouble if I give her a note (i.e. she tells a teacher or the principal)?

Umm, probably not, unless your school is built of fail, but why not just talk to her?

Well, I started loving someone a week ago today, Saturday. I thought it was just physical lust that would wear out by the end of the night. Problem is, it steadily grew stronger until last Sunday, and ever since then, I have been thinking of her constantly. She has invaded music, movies, my thoughts (ALL OF THEM!) video games, reading, etc. and while I plan to give her a note Monday asking her to meet me by my locker, after which if she follows through I'll ask her on a date, tommorrow will be torture. My questions to NSG are:

You're limerent. You'll get over it in time, it's like being turned into a newt.

2.) How do you take your mind of them for a bit, and is it bad to do so?

You do other things. Go out with friends, read books, have a hobby etc.
Since you are probably a teenager the feelings will most likely also pass. Your brain and hormones will inevitably change - in essence destroying the person you are now and replacing him with someone new. That new person may not not share your feelings.

This. No offense, but seriously, I'd never ask for romantic advice from strangers on the internet. Maybe that makes me old fasioned, but what the hell.

Nothing wrong with asking strangers on the internet for advice.

No one says you have to take it and borrow it if you do.

Well, I started loving someone a week ago today, Saturday. I thought it was just physical lust that would wear out by the end of the night. Problem is, it steadily grew stronger until last Sunday, and ever since then, I have been thinking of her constantly. She has invaded music, movies, my thoughts (ALL OF THEM!) video games, reading, etc. and while I plan to give her a note Monday asking her to meet me by my locker, after which if she follows through I'll ask her on a date, tommorrow will be torture. My questions to NSG are:

1.) Does this ever happen to you?

Yep.

2.) How do you take your mind of them for a bit, and is it bad to do so?

Masturbate. :p

3.) Will I get in trouble if I give her a note (i.e. she tells a teacher or the principal)?

lol, no and if you do then who really cares what's the worst they can do?

Well, I started loving someone a week ago today, Saturday. I thought it was just physical lust that would wear out by the end of the night. Problem is, it steadily grew stronger until last Sunday, and ever since then, I have been thinking of her constantly. She has invaded music, movies, my thoughts (ALL OF THEM!) video games, reading, etc. and while I plan to give her a note Monday asking her to meet me by my locker, after which if she follows through I'll ask her on a date, tommorrow will be torture. My questions to NSG are:

1.) Does this ever happen to you?

2.) How do you take your mind of them for a bit, and is it bad to do so?

3.) Will I get in trouble if I give her a note (i.e. she tells a teacher or the principal)?

I wouldn't do the note thing, I'm the kind that just says things outright to people; and beleive me women/girls like it more because it shows confidence.

To answer the main question; yeah it happens from time to time. I've got a woman named Jackie on my mind often (she's the first one to get a second date in 3 years) and I have talked to her every day since.

To answer the main question; yeah it happens from time to time. I've got a woman named Jackie on my mind often (she's the first one to get a second date in 3 years) and I have talked to her every day since.

Awww, how sweet. :p

Awww, how sweet. :p

I'd talk to you too but you never answer your MSN messages :mad:

I'd talk to you too but you never answer your MSN messages :mad:

Not on the right computer at the moment, give me a few minutes I'll go get mine.

Actually from memory when I went out to get dinner I placed me as Away, I jumped on this one instead. I'll go get on the other one.

1.) Does this ever happen to you?

No.

2.) How do you take your mind of them for a bit, and is it bad to do so?

I'd probably resort to music and philosophical puzzles. Those are my best coping mechanisms.

3.) Will I get in trouble if I give her a note (i.e. she tells a teacher or the principal)?

No. Notes are okay. Repeatedly asking her to have sex with you when the advance is obviously unwelcome or inappropriate is not.

Well, I started loving someone a week ago today, Saturday. I thought it was just physical lust that would wear out by the end of the night. Problem is, it steadily grew stronger until last Sunday, and ever since then, I have been thinking of her constantly. She has invaded music, movies, my thoughts (ALL OF THEM!) video games, reading, etc. and while I plan to give her a note Monday asking her to meet me by my locker, after which if she follows through I'll ask her on a date, tommorrow will be torture.

Now that's serious.

1.) Does this ever happen to you?

Used to, not anymore though.

2.) How do you take your mind of them for a bit, and is it bad to do so?

I play video games. Oh shi-

3.) Will I get in trouble if I give her a note (i.e. she tells a teacher or the principal)?

Nah, but a note reeks of lacking confidence. You have to do something with panache and flair. Here's what you do:

Step 1) Learn something about her - if she has a friend that's also one of your friends, learn as much as you can about her. That way, you can pick the perfect flower/restaurant/etc without seeming like a stalker.

Step 2) Buy a Banjo. You'll need this later.

Step 3) Ask her out directly and publicly. Make it seem like you're doing her a favor.

Step 4) If she says yes, take her out on said date. If she says no, show up under her window and serenade her with the banjo. Be sure to write a good song that has something you learned in Step 1.

Step 5) Take her out to a bluff or other romantic spot (overlooking a river, lake, or ocean), and play your banjo softly so that she can hear both it and the sounds of nature.

Step 6) Kiss her.

Step 7) Well, at this point, let nature take its course.

1.) Does this ever happen to you?

Yeah, sometimes. It used to happen a lot, now it's something that happens almost never. But when it does...

2.) How do you take your mind of them for a bit, and is it bad to do so?

It's probably a good idea to do so, what are the chances she's into you anyway? I mean when two people are attracted to each other, it's likely they will find out before the pining starts. That has been my experience so far anyway, but you might be luckier.

If you run out of distractions, you could try allowing yourself to obsess for some time (go ahead, be a creep and touch yourself while looking at her myspace, just make sure she never finds out), that should allow you to have your brain back to normal for a while after.

3.) Will I get in trouble if I give her a note (i.e. she tells a teacher or the principal)?

If the "note" is an erotic novel... Yeah, you will get in trouble.

I know it can be damn scary, but talking is the only right way to start communicating with people you're obsessed with. (Do NOT use a phone call to initiate communication)

A good strategy is to ask whether she will go to some party or other social event. If she says she will, you can say "great", and if she says she won't, you can say "oh too bad", and either way she will now know you're interested. If she's interested in you too, things will be a lot easier the next time you meet. If she does go to the party (or whatever it might be) you can use primitive forms of communication such as buying her a drink (only if she wants one). By then things shouldn't be scary anymore.

Or you might just put chloroform on the note. That also works.

Other than myself, i think about my little dudes quite a bit.
Nanatsu No Tsuki might have a song for this, though ...

A swollen sun melting in the horizon
Between the sheets where I wait for her to come

A living flame, impossible to resist
Burning me deep with every bite, kiss and lick

I'm haunted
I'm haunted
I'm haunted (by her)

Invades my sleep with tumescent intentions
Hades I'm sure must be missing a demon

I hate the morning
I hate the morning

From the panes a green mist swirls
Is it a shadow of reflection?
This apparition in moon beams bathed
A voice like wind through trees beckons
Cool rain on hot summer stone
The odor fills my presence
Of freshly dug grave and death and night
These things are her essence
Nocturnal mistress, spirit lover
Your mouth of wine and woodsmoke taste
My goddess of the violet twilight
You are lust incarnate
In the sweat of my bed
The eastern sky hints of dawning
Alone and awake but exhausted I lie
Oh how I hate the morning

I hate the morning (light)

1.) Does this ever happen to you?
Yep. She turned out to have a m assive crush on another girl. Nipped that little budding obsession right in the bud.

2.) How do you take your mind of them for a bit, and is it bad to do so?
Why bother?

3.) Will I get in trouble if I give her a note (i.e. she tells a teacher or the principal)?
Only if her last name is Dworkin.