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I regularly swear and shit online, but I've never so much as said the a-word in real life. Is anybody else like that?

I find that amazingly difficult to believe.

Well I am from a modestly behaved, minority family. I am also extremely introverted, so that may be a contributing factor. I'm sure there are others like that.

I'm the opposite. I regularly cuss/swear in RL, but when I post or RP, I tend to censor myself.

I regularly swear and shit online, but I've never so much as said the a-word in real life. Is anybody else like that?

You fucking liar. :p

I swear all the time, unless I'm working. Even though I swear the most at work when I'm not working.

I curse a lot, except when I'm at work or in class.
I've found that I curse a lot more in my off time now that I work with kids, and so have to keep a lid on it. I try not to curse too much online, because everyone curses online, and so it is pretty pointless.

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Aardvark?

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Aardvark?

I give up, please tell me what relevance an Aardvark has with cussing.

i give up, please tell me what relevance an aardvark has with cussing.

It IS...





THE A-WORD.

>.>

I'm drawing a blank as to what the "a-word" might be, as well. The only thing I can think of is "asshole", or maybe "assfuck"!

I curse quite a bit. I started young (apparently at 2 I said "asshole" when someone cut my mom off driving) and progressed rapidly until about sixth or seventh grade, when I ran out of new curses. I've never had a problem not cursing at work, though, which is good, since I work with small children.

I know a lot of people think that cursing makes you sound unintelligent or unrefined. I even think that sometimes---of other people, of course! But I really don't care. I express myself in a variety of ways, and using words that can't be printed in most newspapers is just one of them. Plus, I watch a lot of sports. If you can watch a lot of sports and not curse, you're doing it wrong.

On a side note, one of my favorite all-time curses is "Jesus fucking Christ on a fucking crutch", which my mom said once when the phone rang for like the fifth time in as many minutes. The image just always cracks me up. I like creative cursing.

On a side note, one of my favorite all-time curses is "Jesus fucking Christ on a fucking crutch", which my mom said once when the phone rang for like the fifth time in as many minutes. The image just always cracks me up. I like creative cursing.

Then you would love my friend Joe. He says the funniest fucking shit on the planet, and he's a theater major, so he's got all these funny faces and voices to go with them. I've literally fallen to the floor in tears from his antics.

I regularly swear and shit online, but I've never so much as said the a-word in real life. Is anybody else like that?

LIES, LIES AND SLANDER!i

I almost never swear in direct communication with other people, I'm too polite for that. Every now and again something may slip past the internal censorship :p, but not regularly.
So the objects of my swearing are generally my computer (often extended to a well known software manufacturer), sometimes other household appliances that aren't as cooperative as I'd like them to be, and the occasional motorist, given enough distance. :D

i swear less on here than IRL. i'm like gordon fucking ramsay when i get going sometimes

I regularly swear and shit online, but I've never so much as said the a-word in real life. Is anybody else like that?

You need to enjoy life more.

Well I am from a modestly behaved, minority family.

What does being a minority have to do with whether or not you swear alot?

I regularly swear and shit online, but I've never so much as said the a-word in real life. Is anybody else like that?

Like most Italians (including die-hard Catholics), I'm a compulsive blasphemer.
I try to restrain myself when I know that my entourage could be offended by blasphemy, though: still there are special occasions when a good old-fashioned "Porco Dio!" cannot be avoided.

It IS...

THE A-WORD.

>.>

Nah, the A-Word is...
America!

(in some places, it is a blasphemy, for sure! Like, dunno, Ahmadinejad's home!)

I swear a lot. It could be when I'm out with friends having a laugh, trying to motivate myself into doing work, cursing the work and just plain old anger on the occassion I do get angry.

I regularly swear and shit online, but I've never so much as said the a-word in real life. Is anybody else like that?

What would you do when reading aloud in school, or referencing a passage with obscenity? Or when quoting someone who said something patently outrageous?

It's artificial to use such restraint, and you derive no benefit from doing so. It doesn't make you a better person. There's a point and time for anger and outrage. One should curse, but should do so seldom, so that when one does curse, the impact is greatest. That's what I do.

As for the notion that cursing is plebeian, if you avoid it simply to distance yourself from hard-working, earthy people, you are an elitist douche-bag and you should go to hell after cleaning the smeg off my cock with your tongue. :p

I swear frequently when I'm angry. Apparently I'm funny when I'm angry. Think Basil Fawlty-style incoherent ranting, only with more swears.

I regularly swear and shit online, but I've never so much as said the a-word in real life. Is anybody else like that?

Count me in the small number of people who can believe this.

I hardly ever swear IRL. I very, very occasionally use 'bugger', but can count the number of times I've used the F word in anger on my thumbs (both of them come back to me fairly vividly; one was nearly 20 years ago), and hardly ever otherwise use it, or 'shit', unless I'm quoting someone else. I find that the rare occasions when I do swear tend to have the greater impact because of my restraint; people know I must be really worked up.


Some years ago, when my maternal grandmother was still alive, I was playing her at Scrabble. We were playing a relaxed game where we allowed each other to occasionally check a word against the dictionary. She innocently picked up said dictionary, stating 'I wonder if that's a word'. After confirming to herself that it was, she proceeded to play a C, a U, an N and a T. In that order.

Adult grandchildren should never have to face that moment like that one. Grandmothers are sweet, and loving, and kind, not prone to using strong Anglo-Saxon language to win Scrabble games at any cost.

I had that rule until a year ago. Than I realized that by not swearing, I wasn't exercising my 1st amendment rights. :P

Still, I only curse when I really need to make a point.

One should swear only when it is appropriately not appropriate to swear.
As in heightened states of emotion and for contexts sake.

that being said, I can believe you not uttering a curse word.
The intent and meaning behind such a word is still within you though,
so the mere fact that it was not exclaimed vocally is trivial.

Yeah I swear all the damn time.

Count me in the small number of people who can believe this.

I hardly ever swear IRL. I very, very occasionally use 'bugger', but can count the number of times I've used the F word in anger on my thumbs (both of them come back to me fairly vividly; one was nearly 20 years ago), and hardly ever otherwise use it, or 'shit', unless I'm quoting someone else. I find that the rare occasions when I do swear tend to have the greater impact because of my restraint; people know I must be really worked up.


Some years ago, when my maternal grandmother was still alive, I was playing her at Scrabble. We were playing a relaxed game where we allowed each other to occasionally check a word against the dictionary. She innocently picked up said dictionary, stating 'I wonder if that's a word'. After confirming to herself that it was, she proceeded to play a C, a U, an N and a T. In that order.

Adult grandchildren should never have to face that moment like that one. Grandmothers are sweet, and loving, and kind, not prone to using strong Anglo-Saxon language to win Scrabble games at any cost.
I hope she at least landed a triple word score for that. Otherwise, it sets a bad example for the children. ;)

I revere and honor the fine Anglo-Saxon and Latin roots of my language, and so I make a point to use those beautifully expressive and emotive words where they are appropriate to the context. As may be expected, there are a shitload of contexts in which they are appropriate.

Also, I cannot disagree with you more strongly about what adult grandchildren should have to face from their grandparents. Grandparents who play the stereotypical roles too perfectly not only fail to honor the adulthood of their children/grandchildren, but also deprive the next generation of a direct experience of irony, which can lead, ultimately, to the raising of ideological extremists if one is not careful. Both of my grandmothers personified grandmotherly ideals, but with landmines hidden under the surface. My paternal grandmother, for example, was one of those big, matronly, crone-goddess, all-encompassing founts of benevolence -- except her cooking was so bad it was poisonous (literally -- I almost had to be hospitalized after eating some of her pancakes once), she doted on her fifteen dogs more than her 8 children, and both dogs and children were constantly at war with each other (physically as well as psychologically). She cursed a blue streak, without even giving it a second thought.

Meanwhile, my maternal grandmother, who was an even bigger influence on me, was one of those prim, neat, stylish, well-mannered ladies, well educated, artistic, intellectual. She was also a factory worker, a card-carrying member of the ILGWU (look for the union label!), viciously paranoid -- and not without reason, considering the rest of the family -- megalomaniacally controlling of everything and everyone around her, and as funny as shit -- and all her comedy was of the 100% blue Lenny Bruce style. We played Scrabble a lot. That's how I learned to spell all those words, you know. It's also how I learned that winning at any cost -- ANY cost -- is the only way to play Scrabble. Go all the way, or play tiddlywinks. :D

I credit both of my grandmothers with teaching me how to see through facades.

And that's why I have no respect for people who brag about how they never curse. Harsh language is nowhere near as important to me as harsh thoughts and harsh deeds. Sure, manners are important, but fuck them, if they mask ill-will.

I hope she at least landed a triple word score for that. Otherwise, it sets a bad example for the children. ;)

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Also, I cannot disagree with you more strongly about what adult grandchildren should have to face from their grandparents.

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Well, while I was entirely serious about my own reluctance to swear except when pushed really hard (though intended more as observation in support of the OP's believability than bragging), my tongue was at least partially in cheek over the comment about my grandmother.

The mere fact that she'd play a word like that just to try and beat me at Scrabble's a fairly strong indicator of the extent to which she had a spine of steel and finely-honed competitive instinct allied alongside the grandmotherly caring. My other grandmother may have been less overtly competitive, but could be a stubborn old mule herself when she wanted to - as a single working class slightly scandalous divorcee in post-War London, she couldn't have raised my father on her own if she hadn't been.

I do basically agree with you that grandparents shouldn't just be stereotypes, but - in context - the Scrabble moment was 20 years ago, when I was considerably more shockable about these things.

Oh, and I won the Scrabble game ;)

Well, while I was entirely serious about my own reluctance to swear except when pushed really hard (though intended more as observation in support of the OP's believability than bragging), my tongue was at least partially in cheek over the comment about my grandmother.

The mere fact that she'd play a word like that just to try and beat me at Scrabble's a fairly strong indicator of the extent to which she had a spine of steel and finely-honed competitive instinct allied alongside the grandmotherly caring. My other grandmother may have been less overtly competitive, but could be a stubborn old mule herself when she wanted to - as a single working class slightly scandalous divorcee in post-War London, she couldn't have raised my father on her own if she hadn't been.

I do basically agree with you that grandparents shouldn't just be stereotypes, but - in context - the Scrabble moment was 20 years ago, when I was considerably more shockable about these things.

Oh, and I won the Scrabble game ;)
You lying, two-faced fucker. :D You claim to have been shockable in those days, and yet you beat the dear old thing into the dust, didn't you? And you laughed while she cried, didn't you? Did you hit triple word with "zyzygy" and then cross it with a Q word and an X word? Shocked, my ass. :D In my family, we practically needed regular Truth and Reconciliation Tribunals after really good Scrabble matches.

In fact, I'd guess that the more one plays Scrabble, the more one is likely to curse. It improves vocabulary in all kinds of ways.

In fact, now that I think of it, I'd say people curse not because they lack something in life -- like education or class -- but because they got something in life -- some experience that shaped their natural mode of expression. For example, I was raised in New York City and lived there for the first 31 years of my life. People outside that city sometimes ask me why I curse so much, and I tell them, "If you lived in NYC, you'd curse, too." ;)

I regularly swear, depending on context naturally. "Bugger" and "Bollocks" are particular favourites, although I've always considered "Cuntyfuck" something of a zenith.

I curse like a fucking sailor.


Then again I'm a really angry person in general.

You lying, two-faced fucker. :D You claim to have been shockable in those days, and yet you beat the dear old thing into the dust, didn't you? And you laughed while she cried, didn't you? Did you hit triple word with "zyzygy" and then cross it with a Q word and an X word? Shocked, my ass. :D In my family, we practically needed regular Truth and Reconciliation Tribunals after really good Scrabble matches.

In fact, I'd guess that the more one plays Scrabble, the more one is likely to curse. It improves vocabulary in all kinds of ways.

In fact, now that I think of it, I'd say people curse not because they lack something in life -- like education or class -- but because they got something in life -- some experience that shaped their natural mode of expression. For example, I was raised in New York City and lived there for the first 31 years of my life. People outside that city sometimes ask me why I curse so much, and I tell them, "If you lived in NYC, you'd curse, too." ;)


Such language! From a lady! I think I feel faint. :$

Quick, someone fetch me the smelling salts. I might need a moment to recuperate from our colonial cousin's more .... liberated mannerisms. A whisky might work in a pinch.

Don't worry, it's not you - it's me. We embarrass easily over here. It's all part of growing up and being British.

And anyway, as you surely realise, 'zyzygy' would never work in Scrabble game - not enough Zs or Ys (or blanks).

Caziques (multiple Arawak chieftans in an acceptable alternative spelling of the word) across two triple word scores, the Q on a double letter score, and with the bonus for using up all seven letters*, works much better for crushing the spirit out of defenceless elderly relatives. Especially the unshockable ones who use swear words.

That's some 959 points on one word, isn't it? 101 tripled twice, with the 50 point seven letter bonus?

*not actually my word - last time I checked a decade ago, this was the highest-scoring single word ever played in competition.


Edit: Whoops - you could of course play zyzygy if you had the Z, both Ys and both blanks. Played across a triple word score with one of the scoring Ys on a double letter score, you'd still score at least 72 points - and at least 122 if using up all seven letters (probably much more since you'd have to be adding to an existing word if playing all seven). So I take it back. It's well worth playing ;)

I think curse words have their place, so I use them in those places. I do not feel they are an every day part of my vocabulary. Regardless of the variety of uses for the word "fuck" I pretty much only use it to mean a few things.

I often say things that are "unacceptable" in mixed company but that are not true swears.... like I'll call my computer a whore. (it is one!)

I rarely call people names......except to say that someone is "being an ass" which I associate with a donkey so I don't really think it's a curse.....like if my kid said her teacher was "being an ass today" she wouldn't get in trouble.

I don't know.

I do tell my children that certain words/phrases/usages are considered rude by a great portion of society and so if they don't want to be perceived as rude they should not say them in public situations, but words aren't really "bad" around here and there aren't any that they aren't allowed to say.

Anyway, as for the OP, "online" is real life. So you're a potty mouth with the rest of us.

I swear mostly to myself and in English. Not so much in Finnish.

I swear lots but nobody ever notices so it all good :)

**** is my favourite...actually its part of my day to day vocabulary and is a fun word (OP should try using this word, specially in front of parents/teachers)

Not so much in Finnish.

you should teach us some.

DO IT FOR FINLAND!

you should teach us some.

DO IT FOR FINLAND!

There's actually an extensive list of them in the Wiki: Finnish Profanity (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Finnish_profanity)

There's actually an extensive list of them in the Wiki: Finnish Profanity (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Finnish_profanity)

lazy Vittu :p

Such language! From a lady! I think I feel faint. :$

Quick, someone fetch me the smelling salts. I might need a moment to recuperate from our colonial cousin's more .... liberated mannerisms. A whisky might work in a pinch.

Don't worry, it's not you - it's me. We embarrass easily over here. It's all part of growing up and being British.

And anyway, as you surely realise, 'zyzygy' would never work in Scrabble game - not enough Zs or Ys (or blanks).

Caziques (multiple Arawak chieftans in an acceptable alternative spelling of the word) across two triple word scores, the Q on a double letter score, and with the bonus for using up all seven letters*, works much better for crushing the spirit out of defenceless elderly relatives. Especially the unshockable ones who use swear words.

That's some 959 points on one word, isn't it? 101 tripled twice, with the 50 point seven letter bonus?

*not actually my word - last time I checked a decade ago, this was the highest-scoring single word ever played in competition.


Edit: Whoops - you could of course play zyzygy if you had the Z, both Ys and both blanks. Played across a triple word score with one of the scoring Ys on a double letter score, you'd still score at least 72 points - and at least 122 if using up all seven letters (probably much more since you'd have to be adding to an existing word if playing all seven). So I take it back. It's well worth playing ;)
Caziques.... *makes note and dusts off old flak jacket and helmet* Thanks. :) Best score I ever got was on "quixotic". I don't remember what I scored, but I do remember getting cursed out pretty nicely for it.

I think curse words have their place, so I use them in those places. I do not feel they are an every day part of my vocabulary. Regardless of the variety of uses for the word "fuck" I pretty much only use it to mean a few things.

I often say things that are "unacceptable" in mixed company but that are not true swears.... like I'll call my computer a whore. (it is one!)

I rarely call people names......except to say that someone is "being an ass" which I associate with a donkey so I don't really think it's a curse.....like if my kid said her teacher was "being an ass today" she wouldn't get in trouble.

I don't know.

I do tell my children that certain words/phrases/usages are considered rude by a great portion of society and so if they don't want to be perceived as rude they should not say them in public situations, but words aren't really "bad" around here and there aren't any that they aren't allowed to say.

Anyway, as for the OP, "online" is real life. So you're a potty mouth with the rest of us.
I agree that there are appropriate settings for deliberately using vulgar language, even in supposedly "polite" company. One doesn't have to use vulgarity ever, of course, but a person who criticizes someone else for doing so in such appropriate circumstances is, in my opinion, just being pretentious.

Also, I think there are circumstances in which what are generally called curse words are not functioning as curses. For example, I would not say someone is cursing if they use the word "fuck" while they are having sex. And even if not actually doing the deed, I personally don't think it is cursing to use words like "fuck", "shit", "piss", etc., when talking about those actions or things. To me, that's just being blunt, and if you are in a situation where it's okay to talk about them at all, you may as well speak plainly, I say.

I swear more in person then I do online.

...but a person who criticizes someone else for doing so in such appropriate circumstances is, in my opinion, just being pretentious.


Agreed. In general all talking up where obscene profanities will do is just pretentious.

What does being a minority have to do with whether or not you swear alot?

I think saying fuck with an accent is funny.

Back then, minority families were more conservative. I am not saying ROFL WHIT PPL, but Japanese immigrant families usually were more "oppressing" in molding their children, which included teaching to have an apologetic, head lowering attitude in the public. This also meant that sex was a taboo subject.

On the other hand, my primary source of Japanese was comiczbookz, so I constantly use Japanese swear words like kuso or temae.

How old are you? I find it extremely hard to believe you've never sworn.

I regularly swear and shit online, but I've never so much as said the a-word in real life. Is anybody else like that?

Are you child living with parents who do not permit socializing? If so, this makes sense.

There's actually an extensive list of them in the Wiki: Finnish Profanity (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Finnish_profanity)

Mitä vittua?

I don't cuss much at all irl. Mostly when I do it's when I'm driving and I'm calling someone a dumbass or a f'ing idiot.

I regularly swear and shit online, but I've never so much as said the a-word in real life. Is anybody else like that?

I seldom use profanity. This isn't because I have some moral qualms about, but because I believe that using certain words lessens their impact. Since I don't use profanity as a form of punctuation, when someone hears me say "damn" or "fuck" they know something's wrong.

I do tend to use more profanity on NS than in real life.

I regularly swear and shit online, but I've never so much as said the a-word in real life. Is anybody else like that?
Oh you're so special -_-