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Which is a bigger Motivator?

Wilgrove
27-01-2009, 19:22
This is in similar lines to the thread I made yesterday, which is a bigger motivator for you when it comes to staying in a relationship, that may be unhealthy?

I think it varies for different people, some people are more motivated by fear, some more motivated by love, thinking that they can change the person, or that if they show them enough love, that they'll see it and start loving them back.

Discuss!
Neo Art
27-01-2009, 19:38
sex, and the availability thereof.
Neesika
27-01-2009, 19:43
It's all about sex.
Tech-gnosis
27-01-2009, 19:45
The kinkier the better.
Conserative Morality
27-01-2009, 19:45
I say love is a bigger motivator than fear.
Neo Art
27-01-2009, 19:48
The kinkier the better.

this
Nanatsu no Tsuki
27-01-2009, 19:49
The fear of losing.
Neo Art
27-01-2009, 19:49
The fear of losing kinky sex.

Fixed
Megaloria
27-01-2009, 19:51
Electricity, administered in constructive bursts.
Nanatsu no Tsuki
27-01-2009, 19:51
Fixed

Cheater.:tongue:
Call to power
27-01-2009, 19:52
greed.

and cuddles which is what makes the world go round :fluffle:

edit: also whats with all the love questions? I can't afford to go on any fancy blind dates!
Wilgrove
27-01-2009, 20:00
I say love is a bigger motivator than fear.

Why?

The fear of losing.

Losing what, and how can the fear of losing be stronger than love?
Nanatsu no Tsuki
27-01-2009, 20:03
Losing what, and how can the fear of losing be stronger than love?

It's all inclusive here. I've always been deathly afraid of losing those I love. That fear makes me love them and value them more for who they are and what they do and contribute to my life. The fear of losing them drives me to appreciate them, because now, at this very moment, is when I have them.
Wilgrove
27-01-2009, 20:07
It's all inclusive here. I've always been deathly afraid of losing those I love. That fear makes me love them and value them more for who they are and what they do and contribute to my life. The fear of losing them drives me to appreciate them, because now, at this very moment, is when I have them.

Hmm, what if it isn't inclusive? What if a person is fearful of losing them because they don't want to be alone, or they're afraid that they won't find anyone else? Would that be stronger than love?
Nanatsu no Tsuki
27-01-2009, 20:08
Hmm, what if it isn't inclusive? What if a person is fearful of losing them because they don't want to be alone, or they're afraid that they won't find anyone else? Would that be stronger than love?

In that case, yes. The fear is, indeed, stronger than the love.
SoWiBi
27-01-2009, 20:11
This is in similar lines to the thread I made yesterday, which is a bigger motivator for you when it comes to staying in a relationship that may be unhealthy?

That depends on the individual relationship, no?

I think it varies for different people, some people are more motivated by fear, some more motivated by love, thinking that they can change the person, or that if they show them enough love, that they'll see it and start loving them back.

You forgot another dimension of "out of love": The knowledge that one cannot change the person, that they won't change if showered in love, but you love them so much that you rather get hurt lots while being with that person than be without them.
Conserative Morality
27-01-2009, 20:14
Why?


Optimism.
Knights of Liberty
27-01-2009, 20:16
The gun to my head.
Londim
27-01-2009, 20:31
http://i30.photobucket.com/albums/c347/pugwall2/motivate.jpg

Mr Motivator is the biggest motivator!
Wilgrove
27-01-2009, 21:20
Optimism.

I dunno, like I said in the other thread, I'll have limits on love. I may love someone, but at the same time, it doesn't mean I'll stay with them because I love them.
The Mindset
27-01-2009, 21:21
No idea. I've never experienced love (and probably never will). I've also never experienced fear, at least not how normal people do.
Conserative Morality
27-01-2009, 21:48
I dunno, like I said in the other thread, I'll have limits on love. I may love someone, but at the same time, it doesn't mean I'll stay with them because I love them.
Depends on who it is, no?
H N Fiddlebottoms VIII
27-01-2009, 22:11
Compatibility. I have an unusual sense of things, and most women don't seem to appreciate it when I whisper sweet nothings in their ear like, "You're so beautiful tonight that I want to peel the skin off your face and wear it like a mask."
Now, see, I think something like that is funny, but I've only had one girlfriend who agreed. So I stayed with her and put up with some really stupid shit.
Welshitson
27-01-2009, 22:20
Low self-esteem is typically what does it, I think.
SaintB
28-01-2009, 13:08
Happiness is what motivates me, along with trust, and then love.
Blouman Empire
28-01-2009, 16:08
Money...

...Wait, what?
SaintB
28-01-2009, 16:15
Money...

...Wait, what?

Like Oprah Winfrey type money?
Blouman Empire
28-01-2009, 16:41
Like Oprah Winfrey type money?

She hasn't got nearly enough. I was thinking more red light type money.

But then maybe another motivator is good food and good drink.
SaintB
28-01-2009, 16:48
She hasn't got nearly enough. I was thinking more red light type money.

Maybe not in proportion to her looks.


But then maybe another motivator is good food and good drink.

Yeah I know people like that...
Theocratic Wisdom
28-01-2009, 16:59
love - REAL love, not sex - is the biggest motivator possible. That's what moves parents to sit through tedious class recitals and painful choir performances, and what can motivate one person to give up their career and move to Hoboken in order for their beloved to have their dream job.

You didn't put self-gratification on the list. For the vast majority of people, self-gratification is actually the most constant source of motivation. If it doesn't feel good, unless a person is motivated by love, they just won't do it. BTW, greed comes in third place for motivation forces.
FreeSatania
28-01-2009, 17:13
No idea. I've never experienced love (and probably never will). I've also never experienced fear, at least not how normal people do.

If I got get out my SS uniform and my bondage gear I can make you experience a little of both.
Blouman Empire
28-01-2009, 17:36
Maybe not in proportion to her looks.

Exactly my friend.

Yeah I know people like that...

The way to a man's heart is through his stomach.
SaintB
28-01-2009, 17:37
The way to a man's heart is through his stomach.

Little bit lower...
Blouman Empire
28-01-2009, 17:49
Little bit lower...

Sick mind SaintB :tongue:
Mad hatters in jeans
28-01-2009, 18:45
what's relationship?
Peepelonia
28-01-2009, 18:54
This is in similar lines to the thread I made yesterday, which is a bigger motivator for you when it comes to staying in a relationship, that may be unhealthy?

I think it varies for different people, some people are more motivated by fear, some more motivated by love, thinking that they can change the person, or that if they show them enough love, that they'll see it and start loving them back.

Discuss!


When you say you do you mean us as individuals, or the more generic you?

Coz personaly I wouldn't.
Jello Biafra
28-01-2009, 18:59
Apathy.
Nanatsu no Tsuki
28-01-2009, 19:02
Little bit lower...

Sick minds are great minds, in a nasty sort of way.:D
Cameroi
29-01-2009, 09:58
for me its dreams of the kind of world we could all find gratification living in. not anything personal, other then whatever personal part i would happen to have in it, were such a thing to exist.
SaintB
29-01-2009, 15:49
Sick mind SaintB :tongue:

Sick minds are great minds, in a nasty sort of way.:D

I was not being sick I was being honest. I love it when a woman tickles my feet, quickest way to make me fall in love. You guys just have dirty minds.