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Ok, so I have mentioned in the past I have far more female freinds than male freinds (lately I have been thinking that could possibly be my reason for being exceptionally undateable but that is for a blog). One of the ones I always enjoyed knowing the most is totally and completly blind. Recently at an impromptu pre-New Year's Eve celebration I was in the kitchen pouring drinks for my brother and myself when she came into my kitchen and bumped right into me, spilling an entire fifth of vodka on my new T-Shirt I was wearing, unthinkingly, and without knowing who it was (I was preoccupied) I turned on her and shouted "Wtahc the fuck you are going!" right in her face. Throughout the night she was already angry at me, but I made it worse by making some malign comments about people in general (especially local women) that really upset her even more.
I am going to appologize to her... and when I appologize to a ladyfreind I always buy some kind of gift, usually a white rose or a little "I'm Sorry" stuffed animal. But as I said, she is 100% blind. After almost 2 weeks of thinking this through I decided to ask NSG... what kind of gift can I get a blind woman to tell her I am sorry?

Ok, so I have mentioned in the past I have far more female freinds than male freinds (lately I have been thinking that could possibly be my reason for being exceptionally undateable but that is for a blog). One of the ones I always enjoyed knowing the most is totally and completly blind. Recently at an impromptu pre-New Year's Eve celebration I was in the kitchen pouring drinks for my brother and myself when she came into my kitchen and bumped right into me, spilling an entire fifth of vodka on my new T-Shirt I was wearing, unthinkingly, and without knowing who it was (I was preoccupied) I turned on her and shouted "Wtahc the fuck you are going!" right in her face. Throughout the night she was already angry at me, but I made it worse by making some malign comments about people in general (especially local women) that really upset her even more.
I am going to appologize to her... and when I appologize to a ladyfreind I always buy some kind of gift, usually a white rose or a little "I'm Sorry" stuffed animal. But as I said, she is 100% blind. After almost 2 weeks of thinking this through I decided to ask NSG... what kind of gift can I get a blind woman to tell her I am sorry?

Sight?




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:D

Ok, so I have mentioned in the past I have far more female freinds than male freinds (lately I have been thinking that could possibly be my reason for being exceptionally undateable but that is for a blog). One of the ones I always enjoyed knowing the most is totally and completly blind. Recently at an impromptu pre-New Year's Eve celebration I was in the kitchen pouring drinks for my brother and myself when she came into my kitchen and bumped right into me, spilling an entire fifth of vodka on my new T-Shirt I was wearing, unthinkingly, and without knowing who it was (I was preoccupied) I turned on her and shouted "Wtahc the fuck you are going!" right in her face. Throughout the night she was already angry at me, but I made it worse by making some malign comments about people in general (especially local women) that really upset her even more.
I am going to appologize to her... and when I appologize to a ladyfreind I always buy some kind of gift, usually a white rose or a little "I'm Sorry" stuffed animal. But as I said, she is 100% blind. After almost 2 weeks of thinking this through I decided to ask NSG... what kind of gift can I get a blind woman to tell her I am sorry?

Wow. You fucked up. ;)

That said, treat her to a nice meal as a sorry present. Especially if you cook it.

That is to say, cook it well.

sun glasses *nods*



really? i have no clue.

A stuffed animal might work, they're still about touch mostly. Or, bake/cook her something.

Or, you could buy her a car, like Oprah did for Ray Charles, but that would cost way too much, and probably get you labeled an insensitive jerk anyway. :p

Fake jewelry and a good story.

Something that smells good...

Your cock.


What, you expected serious advice?

What's wrong with the single rose and "I'm sorry" printed on a card in Braille?

A rose is very tactile and smells good and I'm sure the effort you'd need to go to to get the card printed in braille would be appreciated.

What's wrong with the single rose and "I'm sorry" printed on a card in Braille?

A rose is very tactile and smells good and I'm sure the effort you'd need to go to to get the card printed in braille would be appreciated.

Hmm.. especially one with a personalized message.

Fake jewelry and a good story.

That never works.

Or, you could buy her a car, like Oprah did for Ray Charles, but that would cost way too much, and probably get you labeled an insensitive jerk anyway. :p

If I had the money to buy a car, it would be for me.

Hmm.. especially one with a personalized message.

My experience is that it's less the gift and more how much you've thought about it. Just try to make it personal.

I've offended a lot of people in my time. :(

If I had the money to buy a car, it would be for me.

If I had the money to fix my car, after it got ruined yesterday, I would be very, very happy.

Wow. You fucked up. ;)

That said, treat her to a nice meal as a sorry present. Especially if you cook it.

That is to say, cook it well.

A stuffed animal might work, they're still about touch mostly. Or, bake/cook her something.

I can cook, but I can't bake to save my life. Though I do not want to send the wrong message, inviting her over for a meal I cooked could be misconstrued.

My experience is that it's less the gift and more how much you've thought about it. Just try to make it personal.

I've offended a lot of people in my time. :(

I don't have that problem, I usually have the gift to say anything about anyone and not offend people...

I can cook, but I can't bake to save my life. Though I do not want to send the wrong message, inviting her over for a meal I cooked could be misconstrued.

So let her know what it is when you invite her.

"Hi, I feel really bad about the other night. I want to cook you dinner to apoligise."

I don't have that problem, I usually have the gift to say anything about anyone and not offend people...

OK, I don't offend people that much but I like buying presents. Presents for others are fun.

I'd say a heartfelt apology and, as mentioned above, a good meal you've cooked, or a cake you've baked, or a type of flower you know she likes... or taking her someplace you know she enjoys.

'Sorry, I was a jerk -- I didn't even realize what I was saying until it was too late/realize it was you until it was too late/forgot for a split second that you weren't sighted but feel awful to have hurt you like that', might also help.

So let her know what it is when you invite her.

"Hi, I feel really bad about the other night. I want to cook you dinner to apoligise."

... and hope she doesn't think I'm trying to pretend to be sensitive to get laid...

Good idea in thoery, perhaps not in practice. Maybe after some other way of proving my intentions are plutonic.

She still has 4 more senses,
so I would recommend something that either;
A) Smells nice.
B) Feels nice.
C) Sounds nice
or D) Tastes nice.

Or maybe a combination of several of those?

... and hope she doesn't think I'm trying to pretend to be sensitive to get laid...

Good idea in thoery, perhaps not in practice. Maybe after some other way of proving my intentions are plutonic.

Is she that paranoid/into herself? Or have you tried that on her or someone she knows before?:p


I think most women would take such a gesture at face value.


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B) Feels nice.
*snip*
or D) Tastes nice.



See my prior comment about giving her his cock.

Platonic.

Plutonic would have to do with Mickey Mouse's dog, or a recently downgraded planetoid.

... and hope she doesn't think I'm trying to pretend to be sensitive to get laid...

Good idea in thoery, perhaps not in practice. Maybe after some other way of proving my intentions are plutonic.

Just tell her it's platonic.

The only way that's going to sound bad is if she fancies you, in which case you're pretty much boned no matter what you do.

Platonic.

Plutonic would have to do with Mickey Mouse's dog, or a recently downgraded planetoid.

You english teacher!

Platonic.

Plutonic would have to do with Mickey Mouse's dog, or a recently downgraded planetoid.

Can you stop being a teacher for one damned minute.

A man's in pain here. :p

Just tell her it's platonic.

The only way that's going to sound bad is if she fancies you, in which case you're pretty much boned no matter what you do.

pun intended?

chocolate?

pun intended?

Take it as you find it. :D

See my prior comment about giving her his cock.

I don't like the sound of that,
it feels rather taste-less to me. ,)

Platonic.

Plutonic would have to do with Mickey Mouse's dog, or a recently downgraded planetoid.

Platonic, thanks.

Just tell her it's platonic.

The only way that's going to sound bad is if she fancies you, in which case you're pretty much boned no matter what you do.

She's known me since college; and that was one of the things I always did for dates. Its what has me a bit uncertain about that.

Though I do not want to send the wrong message, inviting her over for a meal I cooked could be misconstrued.

You could get make-up sex. Which would be the best kind of misconstrued EVAR.

Can you stop being a teacher for one damned minute.

A man's in pain here. :p
Well... I was trying to avoid a situation where she would say, "What? Are you comparing me to a dog?!" if she's really that upset. ;)

You could get make-up sex. Which would be the best kind of misconstrued EVAR.

You know it might sound wierd but I don't fnd every woman on earth sexually attractive.. in fact we'd be horrible as a couple.

You know it might sound wierd but I don't fnd every woman on earth sexually attractive.. in fact we'd be horrible as a couple.

What is this world you live in where fucking someone means youre now a couple?


I do not like this place.

What is this world you live in where fucking someone means youre now a couple?


I do not like this place.
Perhaps he takes fucking more seriously than, "So, see ya around." Perhaps she does, too. I know I do. Not everyone has to, of course...

Well... I was trying to avoid a situation where she would say, "What? Are you comparing me to a dog?!" if she's really that upset. ;)

"Are you insinuating that I have the mass of a planetoid!?!"

A tshirt with something written on it like I am easy.
then next time you meet with friends she wears it and you all get a good laugh.

"Are you insinuating that I have the mass of a planetoid!?!"
Yes, that would be A Bad Thing(tm) as well.

Yes, that would be A Bad Thing(tm) as well.

God women are complicated.

If it was a bloke you could just buy him a pint and pay for the first game of pool and all would be forgiven.

Yes, that would be A Bad Thing(tm) as well.

Sublimely.

What is this world you live in where fucking someone means youre now a couple?


I do not like this place.

The world I live in is a world of not being able to wear condoms; I take sex more seriously than some people.

The world I live in is a world of not being able to wear condoms; I take sex more seriously than some people.

Catholic or allergic to latex?

The world I live in is a world of not being able to wear condoms; I take sex more seriously than some people.

Why not able to wear condoms?

Ok, so I have mentioned in the past I have far more female freinds than male freinds (lately I have been thinking that could possibly be my reason for being exceptionally undateable but that is for a blog). One of the ones I always enjoyed knowing the most is totally and completly blind. Recently at an impromptu pre-New Year's Eve celebration I was in the kitchen pouring drinks for my brother and myself when she came into my kitchen and bumped right into me, spilling an entire fifth of vodka on my new T-Shirt I was wearing, unthinkingly, and without knowing who it was (I was preoccupied) I turned on her and shouted "Wtahc the fuck you are going!" right in her face. Throughout the night she was already angry at me, but I made it worse by making some malign comments about people in general (especially local women) that really upset her even more.
I am going to appologize to her... and when I appologize to a ladyfreind I always buy some kind of gift, usually a white rose or a little "I'm Sorry" stuffed animal. But as I said, she is 100% blind. After almost 2 weeks of thinking this through I decided to ask NSG... what kind of gift can I get a blind woman to tell her I am sorry?
she bumped into you and she's pissed that you said something.....inadvertently cruel.

she needs to grow the fuck up.

most "handicapped" people want to be treated like anyone else. guess she's the exception.

call her up and see if she is still mad. if she is apologize again but not effusively. if she cant accept it, shes a psychobitch.

Catholic or allergic to latex?

Why not able to wear condoms?


Very sensitive skin, its actually my own sweat being trapped against my skin that causes the problems.

Very sensitive skin, its actually my own sweat being trapped against my skin that causes the problems.

That is more than a little bit unfortunate.

she bumped into you and she's pissed that you said something.....inadvertently cruel.

she needs to grow the fuck up.

most "handicapped" people want to be treated like anyone else. guess she's the exception.

call her up and see if she is still mad. if she is apologize again but not effusively. if she cant accept it, shes a psychobitch.

It was the "Watch where the fuck you are going!" that did it, of course she was drunk and that could also have an impact on the whole thing.

That is more than a little bit unfortunate.

You don't need to tell me that :p.

Very sensitive skin, its actually my own sweat being trapped against my skin that causes the problems.

have you tried lamb skin condoms ??? they let a little of the water out.

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Tell her you know this handsome guy (what, she's blind, she's not going to know) who lives in NC and would love to treat her to a date. :)

Seriously though, give her a rose, with a card written in braille, and treat her to a nice home cooked meal.

It was the "Watch where the fuck you are going!" that did it, of course she was drunk and that could also have an impact on the whole thing.
it wasnt a terrible remark.

its not like you said "watch where you are going you stupid c***" (it wasnt, right?)

we make insensitive remarks to our friends all the time. it never requires more than an apology at the time.

you did that. to keep on about it implies that she is too delicate to deal with the world.

have you tried lamb skin condoms ??? they let a little of the water out.

Yup; its one of those things I gotta cope with.

Tell her you know this handsome guy (what, she's blind, she's not going to know) who lives in NC and would love to treat her to a date. :)

If you live closer to Erie PA I'd see what I could do to throw you a bone ;).


Seriously though, give her a rose, with a card written in braille, and treat her to a nice home cooked meal.

Thast probably the route I'll be taking, and Ashmoria's.

Yup; its one of those things I gotta cope with.

well then botox injections to prevent sweating. its the only way.

Chocolate and a HUG!!!

Says it all!

well then botox injections to prevent sweating. its the only way.

I'll pass :p

Chocolate and a HUG!!!

Says it all!

Now why didn't I think of that one?

I'll pass :p

don't be gay we all need causal sex in our lives. And condoms are the only *safe* way to do that.

don't be gay we all need causal sex in our lives. And condoms are the only *safe* way to do that.

We don't all need casual sex.. what sex I have had has always been universally awesome.

Anyhow, lets not derail the thread with my embarassing lack of a sex life and get to the question, how do I say I'm sorry?

A Cashmere Sweater w/t roses.

We don't all need casual sex.. what sex I have had has always been universally awesome.

you poor poor poor man

Oops -- errr, someone else mentioned Chocolate in the first page

However, before administering the hug, I'd recommend explaining what it is and why !!!

The idea of a card in Braille, and a homecooked meal also sounds nice!

Shit dude...thats awkward. I'd have literally *died* with embarassment if that had happened to me. Its the sort of thing you'd expect to happen in an Ricky Gervais sitcom. Still, you're better than me...I don't think I could ever become close friends with someone who couldn't see or had some other major disability because I'd be scared of saying something awkward or not knowing how to act.

Chocolate, cooking a meal, a sorry card in braille, any of these aforementioned suggestions would show you're sorry for the misunderstanding. Wow, NSG can be helpful sometimes, who knew?

A handle of vodka split between friends should clear everything up. Nothing says "I'm sorry" like a good alcoholic beverage.

I don't think I could ever become close friends with someone who couldn't see or had some other major disability because I'd be scared of saying something awkward or not knowing how to act.

I bet you could if you got over your inhibitions.


Chocolate, cooking a meal, a sorry card in braille, any of these aforemention suggestions would show you're sorry for the misunderstanding. Wow, NSG can be helpful sometimes, who knew?

Yeah who knew?

A handle of vodka split between friends should clear everything up. Nothing says "I'm sorry" like a good alcoholic beverage.

I heartily endorse this product and/or service.

A handle of vodka split between friends should clear everything up. Nothing says "I'm sorry" like a good alcoholic beverage.

I heartily endorse this product and/or service.

Vodka is part of the problem in the first place. But then again, it has been said that alcohol is the cause of, and solution to, all of life's problems...

A handle of vodka split between friends should clear everything up. Nothing says "I'm sorry" like a good alcoholic beverage.

This should be done if sex is not an option.


Just make sure its good vodka.

This should be done if sex is not an option.

Just make sure its good vodka.

Oh yeah, definitely. If they're blind, it probably means they've got heightened acuity with their other senses which means cheap vodka's going to be even more unpleasant.

If she likes reading violent books, give her a cheese grater as a present.

Oh yeah, definitely. If they're blind, it probably means they've got heightened acuity with their other senses which means cheap vodka's going to be even more unpleasant.

Yeah, sharing Smirnoff with her, for example, might piss her off even more.

She still has 4 more senses,
so I would recommend something that either;
A) Smells nice.
B) Feels nice.
C) Sounds nice
or D) Tastes nice.

Or maybe a combination of several of those?A puppy?

Shit dude...thats awkward. I'd have literally *died* with embarassment if that had happened to me. Its the sort of thing you'd expect to happen in an Ricky Gervais sitcom. Still, you're better than me...I don't think I could ever become close friends with someone who couldn't see or had some other major disability because I'd be scared of saying something awkward or not knowing how to act.

Chocolate, cooking a meal, a sorry card in braille, any of these aforementioned suggestions would show you're sorry for the misunderstanding. Wow, NSG can be helpful sometimes, who knew?When I bump into people I simply say," Say excuse me."

If I spill something then I say," Blasted." A second later I see who it is and then I continue my response based on who they are and how much I hate their guts.:mad:

Yeah, sharing Smirnoff with her, for example, might piss her off even more.

Unless it's Smirnoff that she owns, in which case she might thank you for disposing of half of it.

I don't actually think Smirnoff is that bad, compared to some other vodkas, I just wanted to make the joke...

A puppy?

That only fits three of the four criteria. Puppies have that insanely irritating little bark, so I wouldn't say they sound nice.

Yeah, sharing Smirnoff with her, for example, might piss her off even more.

Even that's not as bad as diluted bottom-shelf...stuff. I mean, I might be in college but under no circumstances will any person ever consume that in my presence regardless of socioeconomic status.

That only fits three of the four criteria. Puppies have that insanely irritating little bark, so I wouldn't say they sound nice.A puppy who howls, can sound pretty nice depending on what floats your boat.

Yeah, sharing Smirnoff with her, for example, might piss her off even more.
Or Svedka. The favored liquor in the dystopian future of 2033, when flavor is banned and the national pastime is Getting Kicked in the Throat by a Man Wearing Cleats.
Although it mixes quite well.

Ok, so I have mentioned in the past I have far more female freinds than male freinds (lately I have been thinking that could possibly be my reason for being exceptionally undateable but that is for a blog). One of the ones I always enjoyed knowing the most is totally and completly blind. Recently at an impromptu pre-New Year's Eve celebration I was in the kitchen pouring drinks for my brother and myself when she came into my kitchen and bumped right into me, spilling an entire fifth of vodka on my new T-Shirt I was wearing, unthinkingly, and without knowing who it was (I was preoccupied) I turned on her and shouted "Wtahc the fuck you are going!" right in her face. Throughout the night she was already angry at me, but I made it worse by making some malign comments about people in general (especially local women) that really upset her even more.
I am going to appologize to her... and when I appologize to a ladyfreind I always buy some kind of gift, usually a white rose or a little "I'm Sorry" stuffed animal. But as I said, she is 100% blind. After almost 2 weeks of thinking this through I decided to ask NSG... what kind of gift can I get a blind woman to tell her I am sorry?
Something that feels good or tastes good. I have a friend who has been blind since birth, the best present she ever got was a bear with corduroy overalls on.

Or Svedka. The favored liquor in the dystopian future of 2033, when flavor is banned and the national pastime is Getting Kicked in the Throat by a Man Wearing Cleats.
Although it mixes quite well.


I think I have a new sig.

Chocolate, rose, hug, card in braille, the kick ass home cooked meal and an audio book of the genre she likes best - covering all the bases - taste, texture, scent, audio and YOUR Time and Effort to truly say you are sorry...

Chocolate, rose, hug, card in braille, the kick ass home cooked meal and an audio book of the genre she likes best - covering all the bases - taste, texture, scent, audio and YOUR Time and Effort to truly say you are sorry...
good lord he blurted out a remark before noticing who she was. he didnt kill her cat.

Sight?




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:D

Surely this post = /thread.

Eyesight?

Ok, so I have mentioned in the past I have far more female freinds than male freinds (lately I have been thinking that could possibly be my reason for being exceptionally undateable but that is for a blog). One of the ones I always enjoyed knowing the most is totally and completly blind. Recently at an impromptu pre-New Year's Eve celebration I was in the kitchen pouring drinks for my brother and myself when she came into my kitchen and bumped right into me, spilling an entire fifth of vodka on my new T-Shirt I was wearing, unthinkingly, and without knowing who it was (I was preoccupied) I turned on her and shouted "Wtahc the fuck you are going!" right in her face. Throughout the night she was already angry at me, but I made it worse by making some malign comments about people in general (especially local women) that really upset her even more.
I am going to appologize to her... and when I appologize to a ladyfreind I always buy some kind of gift, usually a white rose or a little "I'm Sorry" stuffed animal. But as I said, she is 100% blind. After almost 2 weeks of thinking this through I decided to ask NSG... what kind of gift can I get a blind woman to tell her I am sorry?

Any fragrant flower would be perfectly acceptable. Lilacs, roses, freesia - any flower that has perfume.

Anything that would give tactile pleasure - stuffed animals are nice.

A CD of her favorite musician.

Really good chocolate.

Or how about a sincere and humble apology from the heart.

buy something she likes. if she likes a certain singer, then a cd she doesn't have, something you know she likes.

if nothing comes to mind, then treat her to dinner (either you cook or you buy) but the most important thing is to be sincere.

"Where is Waldo" book.