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I used to think I didn't really need people as most I found annoying. But the more time I spend cut off from other people whether in person or by phone, the more I find it's rather unnerving. Despite their annoying behaviour, simply their presence as a comforting affect. So this just me? How much do you feel you need to talk to or be around other people? Do you prefer to be alone?

It's a 50-50 thing. 50% of the time I like being with people and 50% of the time I like being alone.

I like being around people I like.

Lately I've been real withdrawn. It's a nice change not dealing with people. I think I could keep it up for a while.

I need certain people, not just people in general. I get really low and lonely when I can't talk to GoG for a few days, so luckily that doesn't happen often. I find I can only be away from my kids for about three days before missing them drives me a little crazy. I don't like not having access to Sumamba Buwhan...he's one of my best friends, and I'm so used to talking to him throughout the day. Everyone else I can sort of do without, though I do find that about once a week I like to go out with friends and be social. Not doing that for too long makes me feel very disconnected and weird.

Massively, constantly. I can't abide abstaining from social interaction for very long.

I think I've become more and more dependent on social interaction lately. Sometimes it just feels like the whole point of doing anything is so I can discuss or joke about it with a friend. I think I just find it really interesting finding out how other people perceive the world around them. That doesn't mean to say I get don't pissed off by people and think they're really fucking stupid, but then that can be intriguing in and of itself.

Well, do you mean people in real life, like socializing face-to-face with someone? Or do you mean people on the internet forums/chatrooms?

I really, really enjoy people watching. People are odd and wonderful.

Really, really hate to be alone. I need people like I need food.

I really, really enjoy people watching. People are odd and wonderful.

Yeah. Don't you feel like you're an explorer in one of those nature shows, where they go to Africa and observe the behaviour of lion prides? Watching people go about their business, alone or in groups makes me feel like Steve Irwin on the Outback.:D

Yeah. Don't you feel like you're an explorer in one of those nature shows, where they go to Africa and observe the behaviour of lion prides? Watching people go about their business, alone or in groups makes me feel like Steve Irwin on the Outback.:D

That's funny, the wilderness animals have actually been observing YOU, Nanatsu...

(Cue Voiceover from squirrel with quiet, golf-announcer-style British accent)

And here we see the lovely Spanish Slattern, or harlotus hispanius. Note the way she drinks coffee and pretends to not be flirting with the table of Canadians across the room...her lovely, dark plumage giving her a clear advantage over the pasty, buzz cut hockey primates competing to mate with her...

Everything in moderation. I don't feel like I 'need' people, but if I don't do social interaction for ages then I feel like I need some, just to not become a weird hermit-type. And if you don't do it for ages, it's a vicious circle of finding it more difficult to do it again.

Depends what you call interaction too. People-watching can do the trick for me sometimes, or even online gaming (which probably shouldn't count).

Being alone is fun because you can do wtf you like. Company is fun because it can be stimulating.

That's funny, the wilderness animals have actually been observing YOU, Nanatsu...

(Cue Voiceover from squirrel with quiet, golf-announcer-style British accent)

And here we see the lovely Spanish Slattern, or harlotus hispanius. Note the way she drinks coffee and pretends to not be flirting with the table of Canadians across the room...her lovely, dark plumage giving her a clear advantage over the pasty, buzz cut hockey primates competing to mate with her...

I can't type from laughing. I know you're calling me a harlot, but you put it so funny I can't stand not laughing my bum off.:D

I can't type from laughing. I know you're calling me a harlot, but you put it so funny I can't stand not laughing my bum off.:D

At least you're a good sport about it.

At least you're a good sport about it.

Well, I know what I am and what I'm not. :wink:
Besides, Baldwin isn't really doing it to insult. At least I don't percieve it like that. I hope he's not. And if he is, well... You win some and lose some.

If there are people around, then yes, I will interact and all that. But then if I'm alone, no big whoop. I'm perfectly comfortable in either situation.

I really, really enjoy people watching. People are odd and wonderful.

Agreed.

I need interaction with my fellow human beings, I do not desire to be alone. It's that simple, actually. You just want to be acknowledged. You want to be accepted.

Everything in moderation. I don't feel like I 'need' people, but if I don't do social interaction for ages then I feel like I need some, just to not become a weird hermit-type. And if you don't do it for ages, it's a vicious circle of finding it more difficult to do it again.

Depends what you call interaction too. People-watching can do the trick for me sometimes, or even online gaming (which probably shouldn't count).

Being alone is fun because you can do wtf you like. Company is fun because it can be stimulating.

Online gaming counts for me if headsets are involved. Because then it's basically talking on the phone with several people from around the world.

Online gaming counts for me if headsets are involved. Because then it's basically talking on the phone with several people from around the world.

Only if you count conversation as:

"You go left, I'll take out the sniper"
or
"That was my loot! Wait until I level up then you'll be sorry!"

And when a machine finally passes the Turing test, you'll never tell if it's real people anyway....

For the most part I like to be alone, I do enjoy hanging out with my Pagan groups, and I'm still looking for that special someone that I'd actually want to be around, but other than that I'm a loner.

Only if you count conversation as:

"You go left, I'll take out the sniper"
or
"That was my loot! Wait until I level up then you'll be sorry!"

And when a machine finally passes the Turing test, you'll never tell if it's real people anyway....

I'm not sure what kind of games you play, but this is not the case with me. For example I play a lot of COD4 for the PS3, and people talk about a lot more than just game stuff there. It's the same with every game I've played online.

People are irelevant.

People are irelevant.

Resistance is futile!

Resistance is futile!

So true, in so many ways.

Resistance is futile!

Is it now?

Is it now?

Yes. :p

From this time forward, you will service us.

Next question?

Is it now?

Hand over your flesh, a new world awaits you, we demand it.

Hand over your flesh, a new world awaits you, we demand it.

So that's how they got people to accept the Matrix...

Well I can't help being around people. I am with people all the time it seems due to my business dealings. The only time the wife and I get away is on vacation. We usually spend it quietly. Do I need the constant flow of people around me? Probably not however I am use to it and would not be used to a low level of human contact.

So that's how they got people to accept the Matrix...

Yep, the full quote is "Your body...a relic...a mere vessel....Hand over your flesh, a new world awaits you, we demand it."

I used to think I didn't really need people as most I found annoying. But the more time I spend cut off from other people whether in person or by phone, the more I find it's rather unnerving. Despite their annoying behaviour, simply their presence as a comforting affect. So this just me? How much do you feel you need to talk to or be around other people? Do you prefer to be alone?

Weird, I've been thinking about this a lot too. I'm 50/50 I guess. I would like being around people a lot more if I could just feel like I belonged in some social group or another. But I can't, and Ceiling Cat knows I've tried.

Ceiling Cat!
^^
he watches you masturbate

My cousins are good people; I like spending time with them. I generally find most people obnoxious, though.

I used to think I didn't really need people as most I found annoying. But the more time I spend cut off from other people whether in person or by phone, the more I find it's rather unnerving. Despite their annoying behaviour, simply their presence as a comforting affect. So this just me? How much do you feel you need to talk to or be around other people? Do you prefer to be alone?

I totally agree with you. Humans are stupid, annoying, insane, stuck up, etc.

But humans are a social race. That's how we evolved. Early humans needed to band together to survive (strength in numbers and all that) and that has survived as the need to be surrounded by other people.

It does not matter either way for me.
I do not need to interact with people at all,
but I have no problem spending time with them if need be.

I live out in the country for now,
so there are distances involved in getting to places.
But I could live in a city and not venture out for some time,
and it would not bother me at all.

When I think about it,
The longer I have people around me,
the more pessimistic about the future of mankind I become.

Agreed there Bouitazia.

(Un?)fortunately, I've pretty much always had a poor look on humanity's future

It's basic human nature to need to be around other people. It's innate whether you like it or not.

I find it equally unpleasant to be completely alone for too long than to be near people I can't stand. I'll just try to keep myself busy more than anything, and if I have to I'll try new things, and I imagine that's what everyone does whether they know it or not. It's bound to make you friends or annoy the right people, either way is just about equally good.

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I think that last panel might be relevant to the discussion.

I think that last panel might be relevant to the discussion.

Oh, definitely.
I wish all the best for humanity/humankind, hell, any sentient really.
But you do inevitably meet the lowest common denominator when constantly being around people.
And chances of that happening increases exponentially with time.



I do feel lonely sometimes,
but it is more of wanting to meet someone I could spend the rest of my life with.
A person that one can be oneself around,
watching time vanish seconds at a time,
holding hands into infinity.

Ehm, sorry about that last part..
Just need some time is all, and it will go away.

I'm closer to the "loner" end of the social spectrum, but I do need people--like you said, their very presence can bring comfort. Sometimes that comfort is just having another warm, living being in the house, even if it's just a cat, but I certainly couldn't live without human contact.

That said, there are very few people whose presence I can tolerate 24/7. Actually, there are only two. I have enough friends, and I love them dearly, but after about 24 hours with them I'm ready to be alone again.

Some people that I really care about I couldn't go without at least talking to once in a while, I like talking to several of the regulars on NSG and know a few more I think it would be interesting chatting with and intend no offense when I say; I think I can go on just fine without you guys, there are one or two I wouldn't choose to stay away from though.

I enjoy social functions.

Paintball tournaments being the best kind of social function. (Some people just need to be shot every once in a while, dont'cha think? :p)

I need, perhaps, around 10 thousand people for day-to-day survival: From food chain to computer manufacturing. :p

Hmm, it depends on my mood. I don't mind being alone lots of the time -- infact sometimes I feel like I need it for a few days. But I do enjoy the company of others aswell.

This thread first surprised me, then it saddened me, then it left me feeling an odd, empty loneliness, and finally it caused me to brood about the inherent tragedies in life. Sigh.

I need connection. I need to feel as though I truly know someone and that the person truly knows me as well. I have a hard time with that, though, 'cause sometimes it seems impossible to really know another person, and there's too much pretense in society.

I used to think I didn't really need anyone. I used to think that I could move to a secluded cottage far from any other people and be satisfied with books, cats, hot chocolate, and fields of grass that went on for miles. Then, I moved to live with someone and spent nearly every minute of every day with that person for such a long time. After moving out and living all alone in a cold, lonely apartment in a cold, lonely city, I realized I cannot be all alone and, in fact, do not think that I (or any others) should be all alone. On the contrary, I feel that we're all far too disconnected these days.

A couple good friends (and my lovely cats) are plenty.

I like being around people I like.

That.

I have met to many people my age who I simply do not share the same intrests in. When I like to talk about things that are actually important. They think small talk about "Sarah" ulgy sweater or "Tom" new glasses is a great thing to waste time on or that a bunch of males pushing each other around so a bunch of stuck up bitches can get horny over them is enteraining. People my age spend so much time trying to "belong" to a certain group of act a certain way to get someone who notice them that their no point in hanging with them. Their pointless and boring people. I need to hang with mature people who share my intrestes of the Real World or joyd of life.

Not about getting the lastest IPod or American Eagle Sweater.

Which is why I can't wait to get older when people are more mature or accpeting of who people are.

I need to entertain myself, but I usually do so by entertaining others. Without other people, I could probably keep myself entertained for a while, but I'd probably have to go completely insane to keep myself entertained for more than a couple weeks. *nod*

Which is why I can't wait to get older when people are more mature or accpeting of who people are.

You are going to be so sorely disappointed.

You are going to be so sorely disappointed.

Well....prehaps their more polite about it? At least when I older the more mature people won't be cowered or overruled by the stupid immature people.

Or am I setting myself up for a big fall again?

I mean I SURE I can find adults(when I of age) who are mature and like me for who I am and want to hang out with me) and are probably also sick of the dumb fucks from their teenage years.


*Watches as Nadkor dashes that last little bit of hope.*

I tend to go a bit crazy very quickly if I'm away from friends and family. There is, however, a teeny problem with this. Namely, things with my family are awkward at the moment, and I'm awful at making friends so I have hardly any after three years at uni. Whoops. Thats not gone well.

Under most circumstances, observing the interpersonal interactions of others, whether in person or on the Internet, is sufficient.

Well....prehaps their more polite about it? At least when I older the more mature people won't be cowered or overruled by the stupid immature people.

Or am I setting myself up for a big fall again?

I mean I SURE I can find adults(when I of age) who are mature and like me for who I am and want to hang out with me) and are probably also sick of the dumb fucks from their teenage years.


*Watches as Nadkor dashes that last little bit of hope.*
its not that people are more accepting.

its that you have more freedom of association than you do when you are forced into classrooms with people you dont like

and when you are older you give less of a damn about what other people think. "you dont like my sweater? well, fuck you"

I used to think I didn't really need people as most I found annoying. But the more time I spend cut off from other people whether in person or by phone, the more I find it's rather unnerving. Despite their annoying behaviour, simply their presence as a comforting affect. So this just me? How much do you feel you need to talk to or be around other people? Do you prefer to be alone?

Other people are important to human health. Even if you find them annoying. It's a bit like walking. Why do it at all if you have a car? Well, if you don't you'll find that your bone density decreases, your joints become stiff, and your abs become very flabby potentially affecting even your digestion.

Sure walking is boring and a bit of a pain if you have to make a point of doing it instead of having a life that requires a fair amount of walking, but if you aren't doing it already, you're going to suffer if you don't.

It's the same with being around people. You may not know a single person who doesn't annoy the hell out of you, but if you don't put yourself in contact with them once in a while your going to go a bit funny in the head.

I don't like the majority of people, but the minority that I like I spend the majority of my time with. I need to be with people. Like one or two days a month I can be by myself, but anything more then that and I start to get nervous and lonely. I'm just to social

I used to think I didn't really need people as most I found annoying. But the more time I spend cut off from other people whether in person or by phone, the more I find it's rather unnerving. Despite their annoying behaviour, simply their presence as a comforting affect. So this just me? How much do you feel you need to talk to or be around other people? Do you prefer to be alone?

its tricky... i feel like i'm perfectly happy not seeing people from one day to the next, but when i actually find myself in that kind of situation i do get lonely, but maybe not to the extent of needing people. then again, the last serious amount of time i spent without the company of people who cared about me ended in clinical depression and a trip to hospital.

short answer: we probably all need people more than we think :p my compromise between the need to be alone and the need to be with people is spending a few hours each night by myself, most night. i do things like play games by myself, come on here, play me drums, stumbleupon... largely things that could be considered a waste of time, but time alone to relax and do these things is essential. i get ratty and pretty nasty otherwise :$