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So, when it comes to relationship and love, do opposites attract? However, more importantly, do they stay together?

Personally I do believe that opposite attract, however in order for them to actually stay together, they must either really appericate the fact that they're opposites and actually like it, or it's not going to work.

I dunno, I think in order for a couple to work, you need a balance between things that are similar about y'all, and things that aren't. If you're too similar, then it won't work unless you're both narcissistic. However, polar opposites won't work either for the same reason. I mean if you have nothing in common, then what's keeping you together?

Yes opposites attract that is why the only true love is between a man and a woman. :p

Well, we're slightly different, but me and my special lady have quite a few things in common, our love of certain songs being one. :)

But yes, I do believe that opposites can attract, but it would require a strong sense of trust and acceptance.

Yes opposites attract that is why the only true love is between a man and a woman. :p

*hits BE over the head with a roll of newspaper* Bad!

I'm only attracted to people with similar interests and viewpoints as my own. Though it would probably only work if they were a bit more confident than I am. But someone who is 'opposite' to me? No thanks! It'd end in tears (or, more precisely, chainsaw-related ultraviolence.)

I'm only attracted to people with similar interests and viewpoints as my own. Though it would probably only work if they were a bit more confident than I am. But someone who is 'opposite' to me? No thanks! It'd end in tears (or, more precisely, chainsaw-related ultraviolence.)

Someone who doesn't like BDSM?! :eek:

I don't think so. I think having stuff in common is an integral part to a relationship clicking and working for any substantial time. Opposites just fight.

Of course opposites attract!

After that they kill each other...

*hits BE over the head with a roll of newspaper* Bad!

Ouch, you missed the tongue in cheek emoticon. :D

Yes, opposites attract, but to me, in the long run, the relationship of opposites, if there's no trust, tends to fall apart.

So, when it comes to relationship and love, do opposites attract? However, more importantly, do they stay together?

Personally I do believe that opposite attract, however in order for them to actually stay together, they must either really appericate the fact that they're opposites and actually like it, or it's not going to work.

I dunno, I think in order for a couple to work, you need a balance between things that are similar about y'all, and things that aren't. If you're too similar, then it won't work unless you're both narcissistic. However, polar opposites won't work either for the same reason. I mean if you have nothing in common, then what's keeping you together?

My wife and myself have been married for 18 years now, and when we met it was the simularities that where all important. The same sense of what fun is, the same taste in music, etc..

Now after all of those years have gone past us it is indeed thedifferancs that we enjoy more.

Her interests and mine do not coincide, which makes for some great talking, and of course the odd row every now and again, which IS a good thing, as the making up I always enjoy.

My husband and I are more alike than we are different, however we are not carbon copies. He and I disagree politically a lot, and we value different things in friendships. We often disagree on moral issues but at the same time value the same morals for ourselves. We don't like the same kinds of music, movies or things like that, but we tolerate each other's preferences well.

I don't think you can classify people as "opposites" because personalities are not shallow and easily organized into black and white boxes.

Only if both people are attracted to their opposites. I'm sure some people are attracted to people like themselves.

So, when it comes to relationship and love, do opposites attract?

No. The evidence is that exactly the opposite is true. Couples tend to have similar IQs, political opinions, levels of attractiveness, and so forth.

Edit: No pun intended. :p

Why is it you insist on regurgitating these nonsensical catchphrases about relationships and trying to figure out if they're "true" or not, rather than simply come to the realization that human interaction can't be reduced to a sentence, phrase, or haiku?

Why is it you insist on regurgitating these nonsensical catchphrases about relationships and trying to figure out if they're "true" or not, rather than simply come to the realization that human interaction can't be reduced to a sentence, phrase, or haiku?

Because he's Wilgrove.

Of course opposites attract. Take me for example. I'm somebody, and am currently dating nobody.

Because he's Wilgrove.

If every time the dog pees on the carpet you whack him on the nose with a rolled up newspaper, eventually he figures it out.

I'd like to think that techniques used to train animals would be at least as successful here.

Only if both people are attracted to their opposites. I'm sure some people are attracted to people like themselves.

And some people are attracted to themselves.

rather than simply come to the realization that human interaction can't be reduced to a sentence, phrase, or haiku?

If every time the dog pees on the carpet you whack him on the nose with a rolled up newspaper, eventually he figures it out.

Hmm.

Why is it you insist on regurgitating these nonsensical catchphrases about relationships and trying to figure out if they're "true" or not, rather than simply come to the realization that human interaction can't be reduced to a sentence, phrase, or haiku?

Why do you always post in my thread bitching and whining about my thread?

If every time the dog pees on the carpet you whack him on the nose with a rolled up newspaper, eventually he figures it out.

I'd like to think that techniques used to train animals would be at least as successful here.

Yea....so far it hasn't. You have to give me a reason to give a damn what you think about me or my threads, and so far you haven't.

there are no absolute opposites any more then there are absolute identicals. the subconscience does look to fill its own gaps. thus there is an attraction between people who perceive, unconsciously, each other as possessing strength in whatever traits of charicter they perceive themselves, again, unconsciously, as lacking.

Why do you always post in my thread bitching and whining about my thread?

I'll guess.

It could be because you've been regurgitating the same basic thread for a long time now. Your constant need to have the blindingly obvious explained to you and to base everything you know on assumptions from the observation of one or two people's interactions gets old. If some of us wish to tell you that it's old, we're within our rights, just as much as you are to keep starting your inane threads.

So you keep typing, Little Prince. We will, too.

Yea....so far it hasn't. You have to give me a reason to give a damn what you think about me or my threads, and so far you haven't.

You have yet to give a reason why we should give a damn about your threads.

Well, other to tease you of course. It's NSG's official pastime when the debates and innuendo are slow.

Yea....so far it hasn't. You have to give me a reason to give a damn what you think about me or my threads, and so far you haven't.

You don't have to give a damn. You merely have to tolerate the reaction to your stuff, as we have to tolerate your stuff.

I'll guess.

It could be because you've been regurgitating the same basic thread for a long time now. Your constant need to have the blindingly obvious explained to you and to base everything you know on assumptions from the observation of one or two people's interactions gets old. If some of us wish to tell you that it's old, we're within our rights, just as much as you are to keep starting your inane threads.

So you keep typing, Little Prince. We will, too.

awww, you beat me to it.

Hmm.

Not sure what you're hmmming about, in that response, unless you think the life and mind of a dog are as complex and nuanced as those of a human.

Yea....so far it hasn't.

More's the pity, a dog would have learned by now I think.

You have to give me a reason to give a damn what you think about me or my threads, and so far you haven't.

You don't have to "give a damn" to anything I say. You post as you please, I reply as I please. Though I will point out that going through life with the attitude of "show me why I should give a damn!" reeks of childishness and immaturity.

You don't have to give a damn. You merely have to tolerate the reaction to your stuff, as we have to tolerate your stuff.

Right, but Wilgrove's "stuff" is a harmless thread, and Neo Art's "reaction" is to directly compare Wilgrove to a dog that pees on the carpet and needs physical abuse to learn.

That's out of line.

Right, but Wilgrove's "stuff" is a harmless thread, and Neo Art's "reaction" is to directly compare Wilgrove to a dog that pees on the carpet and needs physical abuse to learn.

That's out of line.

If you think my comments are out of line, there's a moderation forum in which to report them, however I find my comparison apt. Much like a dog who gets bopped on the nose learns that his actions bring about negative consequences, so to one would think that Wilgrove would have learned that when he posts inane, uninspired, immature nonsense like this, over and over and over again, the reaction he receives would generally dissuade him from trying it again.

If you think my comments are out of line, there's a moderation forum in which to report them

I didn't mean "against the forum rules," I meant out of line. Disproportionate, uncivilized, and petty.

, however I find my comparison apt.

Of course you do.

Much like a dog who gets bopped on the nose learns that his actions bring about negative consequences, so to one would think that Wilgrove would have learned that when he posts inane, uninspired, immature nonsense like this, over and over and over again, the reaction he receives would generally dissuade him from trying it again.

Right, so your unprovoked, uncivilized and unnecessary attack on him was the supposed verbal equivalent of a bop on the nose to 'train' him to post shit more to your liking?

I'm sorry, do you OWN Wilgrove? No.
Is he an animal? No.
Do you have any obligation or right whatsoever to 'train' him with abuse? No.

Maybe despite this you find the comparison 'apt' - I find it an irrational and offensive attempt to denigrate someone for no good reason.

If you think my comments are out of line, there's a moderation forum in which to report them, however I find my comparison apt. Much like a dog who gets bopped on the nose learns that his actions bring about negative consequences, so to one would think that Wilgrove would have learned that when he posts inane, uninspired, immature nonsense like this, over and over and over again, the reaction he receives would generally dissuade him from trying it again.

I'm guessing you didn't get snu-snu over the weekend.

*slips a $100 into Neo's pocket*

Here, get a BJ from a street walker.

I didn't mean "against the forum rules,"

Good, then the rest of your pedantic little screed can be safely chalked up to hypocrisy, because, after all, if you feel you can attack my comments which you admit were not "against the forum rules" then I'm free to do the same in response to the OP.

I'm guessing you didn't get snu-snu over the weekend.

*slips a $100 into Neo's pocket*

Here, get a BJ from a street walker.

HAHAHAHA

Fucking great call Wilgrove.

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Why is it you insist on regurgitating these nonsensical catchphrases about relationships and trying to figure out if they're "true" or not, rather than simply come to the realization that human interaction can't be reduced to a sentence, phrase, or haiku?

Opposites attract
But it still isn't easy
Splash! then silence

Opposites attract
But it still isn't easy
Splash! then silence

. . . .

I stand corrected

Good, then the rest of your pedantic little screed can be safely chalked up to hypocrisy, because, after all, if you feel you can attack my comments which you admit were not "against the forum rules" then I'm free to do the same in response to the OP.

I'm attacking your comments. You're attacking other people. And you're doing it by comparing them to dogs.

Sure, I guess you're "free" to do this. Also, people are "free" to compare Jews (for example) to animals. Doesn't make it right or reasonable, even if by some fart of imagination you are able to believe I'm somehow a hypocrite for calling you on it.

I'm attacking your comments. You're attacking other people. And you're doing it by comparing them to dogs.

Actually had you bothered to read you would have noticed that I began with the premise that wilgrove was a good deal smarter than a dog. But, you know, don't let things like reading comprehension get in the way of a nicely built up righteous indignation

I'm attacking your comments. You're attacking other people. And you're doing it by comparing them to dogs.

Sure, I guess you're "free" to do this. Also, people are "free" to compare Jews (for example) to animals. Doesn't make it right or reasonable, even if by some fart of imagination you are able to believe I'm somehow a hypocrite for calling you on it.

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So, when it comes to relationship and love, do opposites attract? However, more importantly, do they stay together?

Personally I do believe that opposite attract, however in order for them to actually stay together, they must either really appericate the fact that they're opposites and actually like it, or it's not going to work.

I dunno, I think in order for a couple to work, you need a balance between things that are similar about y'all, and things that aren't. If you're too similar, then it won't work unless you're both narcissistic. However, polar opposites won't work either for the same reason. I mean if you have nothing in common, then what's keeping you together?Trick questions, obviously. People completely opposite of you and completely the same probably don't exist. As for certain traits, it depends on the specific trait. Some things spell disaster if you have them in common (stubborness, for instance) whereas some don't (a mutual love of puzzles). Same with opposing traits.

Actually had you bothered to read you would have noticed that I began with the premise that wilgrove was a good deal smarter than a dog.

I did bother to read, and you made no such concession until just now.

You still obviously compared another poster to an animal, and suggested animal training tactics to get him to 'learn' to post in a style more preferable to you.

Here's a hint, Pavlov. People don't stop posting just because you flame them in a thread. Nor do they alter their posting subsequently to make it more acceptable to your dainty little tastes. Why? Because, your flame is NOT a physical attack comparable to any sort of punishment, and because people are NOT animals. Even if you disagree with them.

Here's a hint, Pavlov. People don't stop posting just because you flame them in a thread. Nor do they alter their posting subsequently to make it more acceptable to your dainty little tastes. Why? Because, your flame is NOT a physical attack comparable to any sort of punishment, and because people are NOT animals. Even if you disagree with them.

Awww you're so CUTE when you're angry. Unfortunately, since you've already demonstrated reading comprehension is not your strong suit, repeating what I already said will be as lost on you as it has been, so I'm not going to waste my time.

But, you know, keep fighting the power! Someday, someone will care. In the mean time, try not to get your "dainty little tastes" in a knot.

I find it an irrational and offensive attempt to denigrate someone for no good reason.

Meh welcome to the internet! :eek:

Not sure what you're hmmming about, in that response, unless you think the life and mind of a dog are as complex and nuanced as those of a human.

Are you seriously suggesting that Wilgrove is (literally) a dog?

Or are you just willfully ignoring the context of your comparison?

If you think my comments are out of line, there's a moderation forum in which to report them, however I find my comparison apt. Much like a dog who gets bopped on the nose learns that his actions bring about negative consequences, so to one would think that Wilgrove would have learned that when he posts inane, uninspired, immature nonsense like this, over and over and over again, the reaction he receives would generally dissuade him from trying it again.

Actually, you are free to do and say anything on this forum, compared to others.

The mods, such as they are, are definitely biased.

I hate to be all nostalgic but I for one fondly remember the far distant days of Page 1 where this was a nice thread devoid of personal attacks and needless bitching. Things were oh so different back then.

So, when it comes to relationship and love, do opposites attract? However, more importantly, do they stay together?

Personally I do believe that opposite attract, however in order for them to actually stay together, they must either really appericate the fact that they're opposites and actually like it, or it's not going to work.

I dunno, I think in order for a couple to work, you need a balance between things that are similar about y'all, and things that aren't. If you're too similar, then it won't work unless you're both narcissistic. However, polar opposites won't work either for the same reason. I mean if you have nothing in common, then what's keeping you together?


Last I saw, the research overwhelmingly favored the "birds of a feather" hypothesis over the "opposites attract" model of interpersonal attraction. Your mileage may vary, but as a rule, opposites do not attract.

Somehow, before I opened this thread, somehow, some way, I knew it was going to start with "So,".

I'm going to scale City Hall and do a swan dive.

Somehow, before I opened this thread, somehow, some way, I knew it was going to start with "So,".

I'm going to scale City Hall and do a swan dive.

Get pictures! :D