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What are the greatest regrets of NSG'ers? I suspect they'll vary depending on age, as fifteen yaer old will have had a shorter life and therefore less to regret than a 35 year old. Basicly, what would you have done diferently if you could go back in time and change the past?

my greatest mistake?

Making a promise to myself not to regret any of my choices.

Not becoming a ballerina.

*sniffle* They said I didn't have the legs for it!

Oh Gawd, I'm a young whipper snapper and already have a list as long as my arm.

I would not change a thing - not even the bad moments. They made me the good person I am today. :)

Not staying at school and going to uni. But shit I may still get around to it.

I don't know that I'd do any of it differently (save coming on this deployment, of course) as things have turned out far better than I had any reasonable expectation of.

I'll need to think about it.

My biggest regret was being a complete coward until my second year of university, wasting my life trying and failing to keep family and friends happy by living what, looking back on it, was an utterly ridiculous lie that meant my relationships with them were a big fat pile of bullshit anyways.

But most of all, I regret that I forgot to buy chocolate when I was on the campus earlier. I am all out of the chocolately goodness. Fail. :(

Not a thing. Yes I have had some shitty times in my life but I wouldn't ever regret them or wish they had gone differently. If they had, I wouldn't be sitting here who I am today.

I don't have regrets.

Not a thing. Yes I have had some shitty times in my life but I wouldn't ever regret them or wish they had gone differently. If they had, I wouldn't be sitting here who I am today.

But couldn't a better, richer, happier, more atractive version of you be there instead?

I wish things happened differently, but I don't know if I'd go back and change anything. Maybe I'd go back and appreciate more along the way, but... most of the things I "regret" were things that happened outside of my control, and I just wish they hadn't happened. the mistakes I've made... well, I don't know. It's hard to say.

I wonder sometimes if I should have let go of my relationship sooner, because there were signs along the way that it was going to hurt me in the end. But I know at the same time that I needed to ride it out to the bitter end in order to walk away.

I wish I hadn't been such a moody person by the end of my relationship, too. But then, my relationship was such that it made me a moody person, and if I acted unhappy, it's because I *was* unhappy. So maybe if I'd pretended otherwise, the relationship itself would have been slightly prolonged... but for what? So it could make me miserable for a little longer?

I wish I hadn't hurt a few people that I've hurt along the way, but now I've learnt better and know myself better. I hurt them accidentally, and now I won't hurt others the same way.

So... as I said. It's hard to say. I wish things had happened differently, but at the same time, I know they had to happen the way they happened.

No regrets at the moment.

I regret having sex before marriage, just couldn't handle the emotional responsibility that came with it...

I am also a hopeless romantic and fail to hide it, so pretty much those are the only regrets I have :).

But couldn't a better, richer, happier, more atractive version of you be there instead?

No. If my life went perfectly, according to plan a naive, inexperienced and unsatisfied version of me would be here instead. I don't ever want to be such a person and so turning what could be regret into appreciation I am a better, richer, happier, more attractive than I would be.

Not smoking earlier.

I refuse to regret anything I've done, only those things I haven't done.

I regret not joining the military.
I regret not waiting to get married.
I regret not getting my degree in History (I can still do that, though).
I regret not travelling more (and I can still travel, at least insofar as my income permits).
I regret not taking more risks.

well apart from the old social nightmares...

I probably shouldn't of jacked in working at barclaycard seeing as how the pay was pretty bitching as was promotions...even though that job sucked *sigh*

I regret that I forgot to buy chocolate when I was on the campus earlier. I am all out of the chocolately goodness. Fail. :(

just think of all the Halloween candy selling cheap on Saturday though :)

Not smoking earlier.

smoking FTW!

I sometimes regret registering on this forum and finding my lifetime sucked away by the same debates about God, religion, the bible, liberalism, socialism, communism, fascism and generally any -ism or -tion.

However, then I shake my head and post some crap anyway!

Apart from that, everything is good apart from not being able to spend time with my grandmother during her last few hours of pain-racked-opium-induced-delirium and subsequent death in hospital, due to my emotional exhaustion

Well..... you did ask.

I regret nothing. That's not to say I happy with everything I've done, it's just that I've become numb to it. I've done so much fucked up shit that to regret it at this point would really have little purpose.

Dumping my de facto partner 19 years ago. (Gak! The anniversay is this coming weekend too! OP, how did you know?) I'm still single.

Not joining the Army last school year, when my parents were willing to sign.
Other than that, nothing.

I regret having sex before marriage, just couldn't handle the emotional responsibility that came with it...

Im going to make a seperate thread about this, but what emotional responsibility?


What do I regert? Sometimes I regret that I started posting on NSG:p

I quite like the line in that film with the grampa, which I'm probably going to mutilate right now.

The only regret a man has on his deathbed is that he didn't fuck more people.

Just this last weekend I ignored someone because she so bowled me over and, having come out of long relationship, I just didn't want to be bowled over.

I might regret that, I might fix it over the coming weekend.

...and there's plenty others where I should have worried less about the consequences and just gone for it since it was there for the taking anyway.

Not doing better on my exams.

currently, taking my job at Bertucci's.

In a year or less, this won't be a regret...it will shape the person I am and change alot about that...but currently, I hate it. I can't wait to get out.

It should be mentioned that this isn't a true regret, as I see where it will eventually benefit me. I live without regret.

...The only regret a man has on his deathbed is that he didn't fuck more people...

I've heard the following: Women regret the men they sleep with, men regret the women they don't sleep with.

About regrets, I've had a few, but then again, too few to mention... :p

No, there are a few things I wish that I could go back an change. Life would be a lot easier if we had save points, but... since I can't there's really no reason to fret over it. I've learned not to live by the woulda, coulda, shoulda's.

I've heard the following: Women regret the men they sleep with, men regret the women they don't sleep with.

Yes, it's bound up with this image of men taking something and women giving up something.

It would be better if it was all about enjoying something.

Yes, it's bound up with this image of men taking something and women giving up something.

It would be better if it was all about enjoying something.

True.

My only regret is not taking college more seriously the first time around. I spent the first year and a half in a drunken haze...only after I failed out and then went back did I put forth the necessary efffort.

For me, one of the regrets I have was not going out with the one of the two girls who were interested in me back in Fourth Form; they were for all intents and purposes sluts, and would probably have been easy lays, but at least I would have gotten started on the process.

Some five years later; I am still single, and will probably stay that way for the rest of my days. I have come to too many realisations about the morbid nature of relationships from all the horror stories that I have heard.

Posting in response to my own thread......

I regret many things. I regret not taking the extra efort to et along with people, not taking more risks (both phyiscally and emotionaly) but most of all I regret not trying harder with a girl I really liked but didn't try to get, as i was too shy. Big mistake, and now I don't talk to her anymore.

Being born; I regret nothing else.

Being born; I regret nothing else.

Turn down your emo music please.

Turn down your emo music please.

But how else will he find inspiration for his blog? :D

Being born; I regret nothing else.

Here, have a knife

I regret what I did to that statue of Ronald McDonald. I lost control.

I regret not picking the right numbers for the lotto tonight... $20m would have come in handy...

I also regret that during High School I was an anti-social nerd. (Which I blame you all for). I really should have gotten out and spent more time having fun, getting laid and stuff...

Lots of little things, but nothing really major comes to mind.

Not getting my teeth fixed before quitting my last job and losing my sweet dental insurance.

My greatest regret is being a republican at one point.

Turn down your emo music please.

http://www.naxos.com/SharedFiles/Images/Composers/Pictures/25998-2.jpg

But how else will he find inspiration for his blog? :D

What blog?

Here, have a knife

Thank you. *stabs Alexandrian Ptolemais*

What blog?

Twas a poor attempt at humor.

I regret not having been more social at my brother's wedding.

What are the greatest regrets of NSG'ers? I suspect they'll vary depending on age, as fifteen yaer old will have had a shorter life and therefore less to regret than a 35 year old. Basicly, what would you have done diferently if you could go back in time and change the past?

I don't think I would change anything

Im going to make a seperate thread about this, but what emotional responsibility?


What do I regert? Sometimes I regret that I started posting on NSG:p

Yeah, we regret that too...
;) :p

Why bother having regrets? If I do something I'm over it and searching for my next opportunity to fuck up before anybody has even realised what I've done.

This reminds me of this comic.

http://www.qwantz.com/comics/comic2-1362.png

I would bring my Viking horde back in time and conquer all of Greenland.

I regret not learning to play an instrument when I was younger. These days, the only thing I can do is molest pianos, and that really doesn't attract the girls.
I also regret not drinking until I turned 20. The magic of alcohol was something I lived to logn without.

My regrets and mistakes are only understood as a whole. I have one long system of regrettable actions with none being properly understood outside the context of all of the rest.

To answer the question and to prove my point, I would list going to college as my foremost regret at this point.

I regret not doing what I wanted to do, and only doing what my parents thought I should do, or needed to do. That how I keep getting into career paths that wern't really suited for me or for my personality type. However, I hope to change all of that soon.

I also regret not keeping ex #2 in my life after we broke up. Maybe things would've been better for the both of us.

Thank you. *stabs Alexandrian Ptolemais*

I thought you were going to do the whole emo thing; damn it.

I thought you were going to do the whole emo thing; damn it.
Emos never kill themselves, they urge others to do it but not themselves. That would be foolish, because people who kill themselves are generally happier the short period before they commit the act, and no emo-kiddie wants to risk being happy.

my one great regret of my life, was letting myself get talked inot buying a boat when i wouldhave, couldhave, shouldhave, and had absolutely intended to, buy a chunk of land.

this was all more then 30 years ago.

didn't think it was the only chance i'd get, but that's how life's worked out so far.

and now, there just ain't that many years of being able to do stuff likely to be ahead of me, even if i had it tomarrow morning, to be able to do most of the things i would have liked to have done with it.

and i wasn't able to keep the boat for much more then a year either. thing is, even if that had been the case with the land, which i still think would have been less likely, well just what i would have gotten out of being able to play with it, at the age i was then, well that's really just the one thing that there is.

i think it would have been nice if i could have gone back to work for the railroad after my year of wandering arround discouvering the countryside, but at that time, i think i may have pissed off the unions and the management both. of course i'll never know all the details personally, but that's probably a pretty good guess. at least at the time and place, then, when i had tried/wanted to, i was pretty much told forget it. and yes, i probably, may have deserved that, for just taking off, instead of going through with a hearing about the circumstances underwich the reason i was asked to leave in the first place came about.

but really, none of that bothers me personally as much as having gotten, letting myself get, talked into buying that boat, which was cool, don't get me wrong, instead of a peice of land, i really feel i could have done a lot more with and gotten a lot more gratification out of doing so.

(the boat came after my year of wandering arround which came after my year of working for the railroad, which was may 72 - june 73, right after i got all that overtime when the big explosion happened in the yard here in roseville, oddly enough, the town where i am again living now)

Two weeks ago I stopped talking to a friend because I liked her and it periodically caused me to slip into a frustrating and unwanted misery, then the next day my father died. To top it off my uni semester ended on Friday with exams starting Saturday, so many major assignments were done recently.

I have plenty to regret right now :P

I regret that I was unable to buy a BMW 8 Series for my birthday like I was hoping to do; does that count?

Two weeks ago I stopped talking to a friend because I liked her and it periodically caused me to slip into a frustrating and unwanted misery, then the next day my father died. To top it off my uni semester ended on Friday with exams starting Saturday, so many major assignments were done recently.

I have plenty to regret right now :P

Ah Dryks, would that you had posted again under happier circumstances. This was sounding very familiar to me until the second point. Sorry for your loss.

Ah Dryks, would that you had posted again under happier circumstances.

Maybe I'm just tired but this doesn't make sense to me.

My only real regret is that I can't go home.

I regret ever learning about LBCF

I regret not kicking a Persian, whose was standing right near a well, and said," This is madness," into said well.

I regret all the moments that called for me to do something where I would have to take action and seize what I wanted. But instead I did not take the moment if you will, to live in it. I regret the fact that I hadn't done much studying or work in school so far(and I know I will regret that also) and I sorry for all the realtionships problems I have with so many people. I sorry for the paths in life I didn't take,but I am quite happy for the moment with where I am in life. If it works out then yay,if not then that when I will began again. Frankly my biggest regret is that life is way to short to do all the things I wish I could do. Heh,my lack of sleep these days. But ah well,that is life no?

I regret not writing all this crazy shit down as it happened.

I regret letting people at school bully me. Its caused lasting damage because I'm still extremely paranoid about drawing attention to myself, embarassing myself etc and have an irrational fear of interacting with new people in case they hate me. I find it almost impossible to be assertive, which means everyone walks all over me and never takes my opinions seriously. Which means I'm being totally shat upon by doctors and psychiatrists who don't take me at all seriously about the gender stuff. Basically nearly all my personality flaws I can trace back to school, so, yeh, I wish I'd been emotionally stronger back then and not put up with it for so long. Thats got to be a big regret.

Emos never kill themselves, they urge others to do it but not themselves. That would be foolish, because people who kill themselves are generally happier the short period before they commit the act, and no emo-kiddie wants to risk being happy.

I never said that emos kill themselves; emos slit their wrists you idiot.

I regret the college I picked. I don't regret going to college, or the education (and certainly not the women) but I do regret the one I picked.

I regret letting people at school bully me. Its caused lasting damage because I'm still extremely paranoid about drawing attention to myself, embarassing myself etc and have an irrational fear of interacting with new people in case they hate me. I find it almost impossible to be assertive, which means everyone walks all over me and never takes my opinions seriously. Which means I'm being totally shat upon by doctors and psychiatrists who don't take me at all seriously about the gender stuff. Basically nearly all my personality flaws I can trace back to school, so, yeh, I wish I'd been emotionally stronger back then and not put up with it for so long. Thats got to be a big regret.

You know... I have broken people of that kind of introverted behavior before. You need to rebuild your confidence, once that happens you are going to find things much easier.

I assure you, if you don't smoke weed now, your regret in 10 years will be that you didn't smoke weed when you were young.

I regret going to church.

I assure you, if you don't smoke weed now, your regret in 10 years will be that you didn't smoke weed when you were young.

Tried it, hated it, never again. :p

Tried it, hated it, never again. :p

Freaked out or didn't it do anything? Sometimes you have to try it a second time for awsomeness. And set and setting is everything, smoke in a safe place with people you like. Not in a Detroit crackhouse with junkies.

Freaked out or didn't it do anything? Sometimes you have to try it a second time for awsomeness. And set and setting is everything, smoke in a safe place with people you like. Not in a Detroit crackhouse with junkies.

Sorry, but it's just not my thing - I saw what it did to people around me, and I vowed not to follow them along the same path.

I regret having sex before marriage, just couldn't handle the emotional responsibility that came with it...

I am also a hopeless romantic and fail to hide it, so pretty much those are the only regrets I have :).

I personally belive I would have regretted NOT having sex before marriage.

Sorry, but it's just not my thing - I saw what it did to people around me, and I vowed not to follow them along the same path.


There's a difference between being a pothead and just smoking a bit on weekends... it's like alcohol without the hangovers. You just have to exercise some self control. Some people, I find, are sort of "ideologically opposed" to having a puff, like it's going to turn them into heroin junkies. It doesn't.

It's your choice though, and I see the benefits of a clean life, I just think smoking is fun, relaxing and mind expanding when done in moddderation :)

I never said that emos kill themselves; emos slit their wrists you idiot.
Na-uh, you're the idiot. You and YOUR MOM!

There's a difference between being a pothead and just smoking a bit on weekends... it's like alcohol without the hangovers. You just have to exercise some self control. Some people, I find, are sort of "ideologically opposed" to having a puff, like it's going to turn them into heroin junkies. It doesn't.

It's your choice though, and I see the benefits of a clean life, I just think smoking is fun, relaxing and mind expanding when done in moddderation :)

I've done it, still do on ocassion. It's such a nice way to relax.:)

I've done it, still do on ocassion. It's such a nice way to relax.:)

Yeah, well... my body rejected it, when I tried it. :(

Yeah, well... my body rejected it, when I tried it. :(

Well, that's something else entirely.:wink:

Well, that's something else entirely.:wink:

I suppose it is. :)

You know... I have broken people of that kind of introverted behavior before. You need to rebuild your confidence, once that happens you are going to find things much easier.

I've sort of got the worst of both worlds in that I tend to go a bit crazy when there aren't people around to distract me, yet at the same time when it comes to meeting new people all the old angsts come up and I'm scared of doing so. Once I've made friends and know them to be people who won't take the piss, then I'm fine, only I very rarely get over the initial obstacle without people thinking I'm weird and scarpering pronto. I just can't get rid of the fundamental presumption that most people are total bastards and that you have to be extremely careful and on your guard until you know they are trustworthy (which in my case just seems to 'happen', when I suddenly realise I'm not suspicious of a person anymore after maybe meeting them about five or six times, then suddenly conversation starts to flow). Though if I have an argument with a friend, that tends to send it back to the beginning again

i also regret that i can't live for 150 years, or even a thousand, to personally witness history unfolding for that long, but its not exactly like there's a whole lot i can do about that one either.

(of course i'd prefer to witness it from someplace safer and more comfortable then this earth too, if any place would be truly safe doing so)

Na-uh, you're the idiot. You and YOUR MOM!

Hey Hey, leave the mothers out of it.

I assure you, if you don't smoke weed now, your regret in 10 years will be that you didn't smoke weed when you were young.

I'd have to disagree with this.