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The Polar opposite of the betrayal thread... what relationships have you had that were actually good experiences and not unfortunate ones that ended in heartbreak.


There are two I look back on fondly...

The first was back in college, actually my first real relationship. We both had the utmost respect for each other and etc, and we both new it was doomed from the start though. She was from Brazil and had a 1 year student visa to study in the US before graduating in Sao Palo. We had a delicious 9 months together and the only issue we ever actually had was when she at one point stopped using birth control because she wanted to get pregnant (She told me it was just to anger her parents). It was hard watching her leave forever but the memories will always remain golden.


The other was also cut short (story of my life it seems). She had been a friend of mine since childhood and things just kind of bloomed when I got back home from college. You know those perfect couples that never fight? That was pretty much us. She ended up going to Maryland for what was at the time a few months then ended up living with/being the care taker of her mentally ill aunt; rather than carry on a long distance relationship that would require years of waiting we ended it (I still sort of hope maybe someday but after years I don't consider it much).


Its been all bad ever since

My current one...

Been with my wife for over 17 years now.

Good on you! Here's too another 17!

Any where you can both gleefully and continuously lie to each other and maintain the illusion of complete gullible trust because you say to each other you're in love.

These have definitely worked best for me anyway, but I could be being a tad cynical.

Any where you can both gleefully and continuously lie to each other and maintain the illusion of complete gullible trust because you say to each other you're in love.

These have definitely worked best for me anyway, but I could be being a tad cynical.

You think?

Good on you! Here's too another 17!

Thank You.

Any where you can both gleefully and continuously lie to each other and maintain the illusion of complete gullible trust because you say to each other you're in love.

These have definitely worked best for me anyway, but I could be being a tad cynical.

Just a tad... I'm not sure that's appropriate for this topic IMO. I meant it to be.. more cheerful but your entitled to your opinion.

I always think fondly of the relationship I had with one of exs. His name was (is, he isn't dead) Javier and we were together for a year. We parted because I had to move from Oviedo and he was entering his practice year to become a labor relations lawyer. Our paths completely went their separate ways.

My current one is my first, so naturally it is my best. :D

The other was also cut short (story of my life it seems). She had been a friend of mine since childhood and things just kind of bloomed when I got back home from college. You know those perfect couples that never fight? That was pretty much us. She ended up going to Maryland for what was at the time a few months then ended up living with/being the care taker of her mentally ill aunt; rather than carry on a long distance relationship that would require years of waiting we ended it (I still sort of hope maybe someday but after years I don't consider it much).

You couldn't have moved to Maryland?

I moved to Missouri to be with my partner. I'm not a big fan of Missouri, but I love him so it was worth it. And as I lived in an apartment and he had a 2000 acre farm, it was most logical for me to be the one to move.

On balance it has been a very good relationship.

You couldn't have moved to Maryland?

I moved to Missouri to be with my partner. I'm not a big fan of Missouri, but I love him so it was worth it. And as I lived in an apartment and he had a 2000 acre farm, it was most logical for me to be the one to move.

On balance it has been a very good relationship.

No I couldn't. I am not allowed to leave the state for another *counts on fingers* 6 years. If I do than all my student grants from college become loans.. thats about $60,000 more than I can afford. And I had a good job at the time.

No I couldn't. I am not allowed to leave the state for another *counts on fingers* 6 years. If I do than all my student grants from college become loans.. thats about $60,000 more than I can afford. And I had a good job at the time.

Ah. You could probably get a good job there too, but I can understand the grants thing. That's a lot of money.

Best relationship was with this Korean girl. She was an exchange student from Ehwa Woman's University. while i was in the army and stationed at a base near her school in the US. problem was she was a Korean literature major. Not many job openings in the US for that and it would be awhile before I finished college and could go work in Korea.

Me and my pets seem to have a good thing going.. not like that!

Me and my pets seem to have a good thing going.. not like that!

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I couldn't help it!!:D

:eek:

Whaaa? :D

Thank You.

However, after 34 we're cutting you off, the wealth needs to be shared.

However, after 34 we're cutting you off, the wealth needs to be shared.

lol

Well, the best relationship I ever had was with a cadet in the Air Force ROTC. It ended after we were apart for a semester and realized it really didn't work that way. Plus I have 7 years of school left and he has 4 years' commitment to the service. They're not known for stability.

I've only had one. It was...alright, I suppose.
But, I like older women. So, my success in relationships is nill. :(

But, I like older women. So, my success in relationships is nill. :(

Not so if you find the right woman. But young men with older women is still frowned upon.

Not so if you find the right woman. But young men with older women is still frowned upon.

But seeing as there are lots of older men who have younger women, I view that as hypocrisy and double standards. A form of bigotry, if you will.

Not so if you find the right woman. But young men with older women is still frowned upon.Finding the right woman is hard. :p

But seeing as there are lots of older men who have younger women, I view that as hypocrisy and double standards. A form of bigotry, if you will.It is. Not many people understand my dislike of young women my age.

It is. Not many people understand my dislike of young women my age.

You like the maturity level women older that you have. 17 year old girls don't possess enough maturity for your liking, maybe. But remember, a 17 yea old male isn't precisely very mature either.:wink:

Finding the right woman is hard. :p

Patience my friend. It took me a while too, but I did it! :D

It is. Not many people understand my dislike of young women my age.

Every man to his own - your choice is always yours to make. ;)

But seeing as there are lots of older men who have younger women, I view that as hypocrisy and double standards. A form of bigotry, if you will.

Indeed it is.

You like the maturity level women older that you have. 17 year old girls don't possess enough maturity for your liking, maybe. But remember, a 17 yea old male isn't precisely very mature either.:wink:Responsibility and maturity are very important things, to me. I take all commitments very seriously.

Patience my friend. It took me a while too, but I did it! :D
Every man to his own - your choice is always yours to make. ;)That's why I've already made it. :wink:

You like the maturity level women older that you have. 17 year old girls don't possess enough maturity for your liking, maybe. But remember, a 17 yea old male isn't precisely very mature either.:wink:

if your dating a 17 yr old maturity should be the last thing on your mind. now hot body and fun in bed should be.

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I couldn't help it!!:D

No not like that...

if your dating a 17 yr old maturity should be the last thing on your mind. now hot body and fun in bed should be. That's the last thing on my mind. I don't want my relationships based on sex. Weird, I now. :p

That's the last thing on my mind. I don't want my relationships based on sex. Weird, I now. :p

Sex is just a bonus.

Responsibility and maturity are very important things, to me. I take all commitments very seriously.

I'm sure you do.

I've only had one. It was...alright, I suppose.
But, I like older women. So, my success in relationships is nill. :(


Why is that? I've found relationships with an older partner to be much easier. I'm currently in a relationship with someone 30 years older than I am and it is the best relationship I've ever had.

Sex is just a bonus.Sure.

Why is that? I've found relationships with an older partner to be much easier. I'm currently in a relationship with someone 30 years older than I am and it is the best relationship I've ever had.I live in a rural area. Dating someone that's always been your superior is rather awkward.

I'm sure you do.I took that way too seriously. Sorry.
That's one of my faults. It's hard for me to tell if people are teasing/joking, or being serious. :p

Sure.

It is.. its the emotional connection, the trust, the cuddling on a cold night, stuff like that that matters to me.

I took that way too seriously. Sorry.
That's one of my faults. It's hard for me to tell if people are teasing/joking, or being serious. :p

I wasn't offended or anything.:wink:

I wasn't offended or anything.:wink:Alright.
Hm.

I live in a rural area. Dating someone that's always been your superior is rather awkward.

Do you know every woman who lives in your county? How about the county next door? Or somewhere else entirely. My partner and I lived 600 miles apart and met online.

Do you know every woman who lives in your county?Most of the ones that I want anything to do with, yes.
How about the county next door? Nope.

Or somewhere else entirely. My partner and I lived 600 miles apart and met online.I'm still subject to the will of my parents. Online "meetings" are a no-go.

I'm still subject to the will of my parents. Online "meetings" are a no-go.

Ah. Well that makes dating someone of any age difficult. ;) But you'll be out on your own soon enough and free to do as you please. Good luck.

Ah. Well that makes dating someone of any age difficult. ;) But you'll be out on your own soon enough and free to do as you please. Good luck.Thanks, but I won't be able to do everything that I please. I'm enlisting in the Army the day I turn eighteen. :)
And thanks for the inspiration.

Thanks, but I won't be able to do everything that I please. I'm enlisting in the Army the day I turn eighteen. :)
And thanks for the inspiration.

A lot of older women are into men in uniform. You'll have no problems in that area. :tongue:

A lot of older women are into men in uniform. You'll have no problems in that area. :tongue: Thanks for making my day. :)

Alright.
Hm.

See, I´m 9 years older than my fiancé.:wink:

See, I´m 9 years older than my fiancé.:wink:

My girl is 5 years older than me. :D

My relationships all sucked... I just broke up with someone a few weeks ago. It seems my mother is proving to be right about gentile women and I have yet to meet any ethnic Jewish women that I like at all.

I've mostly just decided to remain a bachelor... I'm more into my line of work than women anyway.

I've never had a bad relationship. Every one I've been in except one has ended because she or I moved far away, and since I've moved an average of once every 11 months since 2000 that's a constant issue. The exception was partly because of moving (we both lived in France, she moved to Iowa and I moved to Michigan) and partly because of pressure from her parents because I don't love Jesus. While the relationship was actually on it was great.

I attribute this to the fact that everyone I've been with was a friend first (even if only for a week or two) and that we communicate and stuff.

The one I'm currently in. Both of us have never been in a relationship before, and it will be 4 years at the end of December.

All of my relationships had high points and low points. All of them ended, so I don't suppose I could say any of them were really "successes."

That said, my relationship with my most recent ex (5 years on the mark... yeah, crappy anniversary) was definitely the best. It was a mutual decision to break up that had nothing to do with how much we love each other, and although he made me cry a hell of a lot of times, he made me laugh more, I felt safe and beautiful and myself with him, and he remains my best friend and favorite person in the world.

My relationships all sucked... I just broke up with someone a few weeks ago. It seems my mother is proving to be right about gentile women and I have yet to meet any ethnic Jewish women that I like at all.

I've mostly just decided to remain a bachelor... I'm more into my line of work than women anyway.

If you have the same experience with Jewish and non-Jewish women, how is she "right"?

Not trying to attack, I just dislike that sort of thinking. My grandmother is that way--totally xenophobic, stick-to-your-race. Must drive her nuts that I've never dated a white Gentile boy.

My relationships all sucked... I just broke up with someone a few weeks ago. It seems my mother is proving to be right about gentile women and I have yet to meet any ethnic Jewish women that I like at all.

I've mostly just decided to remain a bachelor... I'm more into my line of work than women anyway.
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If you have the same experience with Jewish and non-Jewish women, how is she "right"?

Not trying to attack, I just dislike that sort of thinking. My grandmother is that way--totally xenophobic, stick-to-your-race. Must drive her nuts that I've never dated a white Gentile boy.

All of them ended, so I don't suppose I could say any of them were really "successes."

I don't see why not. If you made the best of the time you had together what more could you want? For a relationship to be a "success" doesn't mean it has to last forever.

I don't see why not. If you made the best of the time you had together what more could you want? For a relationship to be a "success" doesn't mean it has to last forever.

All relationships end eventually. Unless of course you have a suicide pact with your significant other, even if you never break up, one will die before the other.

All relationships end eventually. Unless of course you have a suicide pact with your significant other, even if you never break up, one will die before the other.

And even if you did have a suicide pact it would still end.

My current one is my first, so naturally it is my best. :D

And your worst :wink:

And even if you did have a suicide pact it would still end.

Not necessarily. Some believe they will be together in the afterlife.