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what do you do with Ex's

greed and death
26-10-2008, 10:34
I am a little drunk so try not to mind the grammar errors so much.


2 exs having issues with.
1st. the ex from last year.
Hispanic, was very jealous, took her virginity. long story short she got into drugs while i was out of town during the summer and fucked a friend of mine.
Then she caused me issues (she lived next door until eviction) or her new druggie friends. they sold crack out of the apartment and did things like loosen the lugnuts on my car.
She has shown up on my door step drunk a few times and has called em a few times begging me to come save her. From some party. like the people there were going to rape her(upon arrival i knew the people and they were not rapist).
Ive tried everything with her. Ive told her to leave me alone. Ive called her a whore at large gatherings of people but she still shows up to try and sleep with me.

2nd. girl form Hong Kong. didn't really date her. just sex. but she gets weird after it. she started hitting herself on the head. when i restrained her arms she tried to bang her head against the wall. i want to shoo her away but the sex is good.
Lacadaemon
26-10-2008, 10:39
So the problem is?

Seriously though, I recommend date adults. I've never had a bad exes problem.
The Brevious
26-10-2008, 10:46
Move, maybe?
greed and death
26-10-2008, 10:49
Move, maybe?

give me another year and I graduate
greed and death
26-10-2008, 10:49
So the problem is?

Seriously though, I recommend date adults. I've never had a bad exes problem.

college seems to lack them. the hong kong girl is a grad student and still crazy.
besides i have them now and they wont go away.
The Brevious
26-10-2008, 10:51
give me another year and I graduateI had similar issues to your first example. She moved first, to WA state. Not sure if she's still alive, but she made some more shining cases of principle with some other unsuspecting and undeserving folks. That was 11 years ago, though.
Lacadaemon
26-10-2008, 10:55
college seems to lack them. the hong kong girl is a grad student and still crazy.
besides i have them now and they wont go away.

Then tell them you want a threesome.

Whatever happens you win.
greed and death
26-10-2008, 10:57
I had similar issues to your first example. She moved first, to WA state. Not sure if she's still alive, but she made some more shining cases of principle with some other unsuspecting and undeserving folks. That was 11 years ago, though.

well number 1 should end up in jail soon enough. she is on probationfor selling pot (she isn't smart enough to sell) and i bet she will get caught selling before her probation is up. sad but i am tired of dealing with her drunka ss showing up on my door step at 4 am.
The Brevious
26-10-2008, 10:57
Then tell them you want a threesome.

Whatever happens you win.
You know what?
This has to be the right-est post post i'e ever seen you post. Kudos.
*bows*
greed and death
26-10-2008, 10:58
Then tell them you want a threesome.

Whatever happens you win.

the 1st now would agree on the condition i date he afterwards. the second would likely slit her wrist in my apartment leaving a mess and a dead body.
I want to get rid of them not have to continue dealing with the.
Lacadaemon
26-10-2008, 11:01
You know what?
This has to be the right-est post post i'e ever seen you post. Kudos.
*bows*

I thank you.

But seriously, try the veal.
The imperian empire
26-10-2008, 11:01
http://uk.youtube.com/watch?v=GH5JbI7Wrbk

This.


Hopefully that cheers you up slightly.
Lacadaemon
26-10-2008, 11:03
the 1st now would agree on the condition i date he afterwards. the second would likely slit her wrist in my apartment leaving a mess and a dead body.
I want to get rid of them not have to continue dealing with the.

Nah, nobody ever kills themselves. I will bet dollars to donuts on this one.

If you can't disentangle it's UR own thingy.
Cannot think of a name
26-10-2008, 11:03
You appear to be catnip for crazy.

Follow Burroughs? "Tell them firmly, 'I am not paid to listen to this drivel, you are a terminal fool.'"

This won't work, I just wanted to quote Burroughs.
Lacadaemon
26-10-2008, 11:06
Degrade and simplify the client.
The Brevious
26-10-2008, 11:10
You appear to be catnip for crazy.

Follow Burroughs? "Tell them firmly, 'I am not paid to listen to this drivel, you are a terminal fool.'"

This won't work, I just wanted to quote Burroughs.
You should quote his opinions on 12 year-old Arab boys while you're at it.
Lacadaemon
26-10-2008, 11:20
Well they got an apartment with deep pile carpets
And a couple of paintings from Sears
A big waterbed that they bought with the bread
They had saved for a couple of years
but they started to fight when the money got tight
And they just didn't count on the tears.
SaintB
26-10-2008, 11:23
I don't know how you can handle the ex's problem.

If its any consulation, most of my ex's come out of the woodwork to try and get back together with me as soon as I have a break up... but I just politly turn them down (and laugh behind thier backs).
The Brevious
26-10-2008, 11:25
Well they got an apartment with deep pile carpets
And a couple of paintings from Sears
A big waterbed that they bought with the bread
They had saved for a couple of years
but they started to fight when the money got tight
And they just didn't count on the tears.
I'll meet you anytime you want in our Italian Restaurant.
Blouman Empire
26-10-2008, 12:51
I am a little drunk so try not to mind the grammar errors so much.


2 exs having issues with.
1st. the ex from last year.
Hispanic, was very jealous, took her virginity. long story short she got into drugs while i was out of town during the summer and fucked a friend of mine.
Then she caused me issues (she lived next door until eviction) or her new druggie friends. they sold crack out of the apartment and did things like loosen the lugnuts on my car.
She has shown up on my door step drunk a few times and has called em a few times begging me to come save her. From some party. like the people there were going to rape her(upon arrival i knew the people and they were not rapist).
Ive tried everything with her. Ive told her to leave me alone. Ive called her a whore at large gatherings of people but she still shows up to try and sleep with me.

Can anyone say Attention Whore?

This is all it is and the reason for why she keeps bothering you just like the party and the rapists she just wants you to come to her ands save her. The best thing is to ignore her especially if she is drunk, there is no point just ignore her and don't even give her the time of day she will move on.

I had the same problem with one of mine she would call me up and it would be alright talking but she would usually call me up when she was drunk and she was just trying to get me to go around and give her attention saying she was cutting herself (something she used to do) up and that i had to come around, despite having a friend over there (the same friend who never liked me and is a bad influence as she was the one supplying the drugs) she would still call me up and then when I didn't go around she would start remembering all the 'bad' things I did when we were together and would begin calling me ****, whore, wanker amongst others, I just blocked her completely from my life and now we have begun talking together and I no longer have to deal with any of that shit.

So yeah ignore her and she will move on or like me it might change to a better friendly relationship, but don't get back with her if that happens cause that will only make the problem worse. But if she is selling drugs and whatnot but she will just leave you alone when you no longer give her the time of day don't waste your time on her and your problem will be solved.


2nd. girl form Hong Kong. didn't really date her. just sex. but she gets weird after it. she started hitting herself on the head. when i restrained her arms she tried to bang her head against the wall. i want to shoo her away but the sex is good.

Umm yeah well find out why she is doing this it may be a mental problem that needs to be checked is it because of you? or you could just get rid of her maybe she banged her head against the wall before you met her.
Fonzica
26-10-2008, 13:06
Claim to have found Jesus - in Mormonism. Say you are now a devout Mormon, and wish to take both of them as your bride. Then, at the wedding, when they are both at the alter, don't show up. Ditch them at their own double wedding to you! Call them a week later from Peru, and say you've found yourself the company of a young Peruvian girl with a rich father and tell them you won't be coming back.
SaintB
26-10-2008, 13:21
*snip*

Put two X's on your fuselage and move on.
Vectrova
26-10-2008, 16:13
Whenever I have ex's, I use fire. Lots and lots of fire.:D
Dalmatia Cisalpina
26-10-2008, 16:31
Depending on the severity of the breakup and the circumstances leading up to it, we either become friends or they get placed on the nonhumans list. That is, they are robbed of their names and never contacted.
Neo Art
26-10-2008, 16:35
Depending on the severity of the breakup and the circumstances leading up to it, we either become friends or they get placed on the nonhumans list. That is, they are robbed of their names and never contacted.

heh, "non humans" list.

I tend to divide my exes into two categories. "normal" and "psychotic"
Vampire Knight Zero
26-10-2008, 16:38
Well i'm in my first proper relationship, so I have no idea what an ex is like. And I hope I never do. :)
Fighter4u
26-10-2008, 16:45
Well i'm in my first proper relationship, so I have no idea what an ex is like. And I hope I never do. :)

How cute......


And so navie....
Intangelon
26-10-2008, 17:02
http://uk.youtube.com/watch?v=GH5JbI7Wrbk

This.


Hopefully that cheers you up slightly.

I have no ass. I have laughed it off. Thank you.

As for the OP, I just have to ask whether or not you've considered that your exes' behaviors might be more of a problem for them than it is for you. I don't mean to disparage, because on the whole, your posts haven't been too mean. However, there's some serious psychological damage in both of those cases, and while it's not your responsibility to straighten them out, some basic consideration would at least be karma-neutral for you.

For example -- and I don't know because you've not yet said anything about this -- have you perhaps told either of them, seriously, that they've got problems (addiction on one hand, PTSD likely on the other) and directed them to your campus health center?

That's all I'll say about that -- there's not enough information, and not any from other perspectives, for me to make any other suggestions.

As for you, I'd suggest getting to know the women you're shagging before you shag them. I don't know who said it, but "never fuck anyone crazier than you...unless you have a solid escape plan." I added that last bit because sometimes crazy is fun, so long as it doesn't snare you.

I guess what I am trying to establish is that sex needs to be something that people do with everyone on the same page, and so often, it seems, it's not. So find out at least a little about your conquests, and you might avoid psychotic exes.
Intangelon
26-10-2008, 17:03
Well i'm in my first proper relationship, so I have no idea what an ex is like. And I hope I never do. :)

All in good time, Your Paleness.
Vampire Knight Zero
26-10-2008, 17:07
How cute......


And so navie....

Perhaps I am, but never say never. :)
Katganistan
26-10-2008, 17:09
I am a little drunk so try not to mind the grammar errors so much.


2 exs having issues with.
1st. the ex from last year.
Hispanic, was very jealous, took her virginity. long story short she got into drugs while i was out of town during the summer and fucked a friend of mine.
Then she caused me issues (she lived next door until eviction) or her new druggie friends. they sold crack out of the apartment and did things like loosen the lugnuts on my car.
She has shown up on my door step drunk a few times and has called em a few times begging me to come save her. From some party. like the people there were going to rape her(upon arrival i knew the people and they were not rapist).
Ive tried everything with her. Ive told her to leave me alone. Ive called her a whore at large gatherings of people but she still shows up to try and sleep with me.

2nd. girl form Hong Kong. didn't really date her. just sex. but she gets weird after it. she started hitting herself on the head. when i restrained her arms she tried to bang her head against the wall. i want to shoo her away but the sex is good.
Move. And don't leave your name and number.

And whatever your method of picking sex partners -- get a new one. Obviously, it stinks.

college seems to lack them. the hong kong girl is a grad student and still crazy.
besides i have them now and they wont go away.
Get an answering machine and screen your calls. Put a block on your phone number, or dial the numbers that record, at the phone company, calls you do not want.

Move. You can't tell us there are NO OTHER APARTMENTS in the city you live in.
Sarzonia
26-10-2008, 17:15
How I wish I could deal with certain exes ("Gunpowder And Lead" written by Miranda Lambert and Heather Little; sung by Miranda Lambert):

County road 233, under my feet
Nothin' on this white rock but little ole me
I've got two miles till, he makes bail
And if I'm right we're headed straight for hell

Chorus:

I'm goin' home, gonna load my shotgun
Wait by the door and light a cigarette
If he wants a fight well now he's got one
And he ain't seen me crazy yet
He slapped my face and he shook me like a rag doll
Don't that sound like a real man
I'm going to show him what a little girl's made of
Gunpowder and lead

It's half past ten, another six pack in
And I can feel the rumble like a cold black wind
He pulls in the drive, the gravel flies
He don't know what's waiting here this time

I'm goin' home, gonna load my shotgun
Wait by the door and light a cigarette
If he wants a fight well now he's got one
And he ain't seen me crazy yet
He slapped my face and he shook me like a rag doll
Don't that sound like a real man
I'm going to show him what a little girl's made of
Gunpowder and lead

His fist is big but my gun's bigger
He'll find out when I pull the trigger

I'm goin' home, gonna load my shotgun
Wait by the door and light a cigarette
If he wants a fight well now he's got one
And he ain't seen me crazy yet
He slapped my face and he shook me like a rag doll
Don't that sound like a real man
I'm going to show him what a little girl's made of
Gunpowder and, Gunpowder and lead

Gunpowder and Lead
Yeah
Neesika
26-10-2008, 17:39
My current ex makes a point of not letting me know where he is or what he's up to. Very maturely, he refuses to speak to me, and has his mother arrange visits with the kids. When he picks them up, he calls, and says "I'm outside" and hangs up. I'm to pass the kids over with minimal contact with him apparently.

Whatever.

I maintained fairly cordial relationships with my other exes, but didn't really stay great friends with any of them. Then again, there are people I dated that I don't really feel like I 'broke up with'...they moved, or whatever...and we still go out and mess around if possible. Then again, those people were more friends than lovers, the sex was just a side thing.

So no psycho ex stories to tell, sorry.
Intangelon
26-10-2008, 17:44
How cute......


And so navie....

So navie? What do boats and sailors in white bell bottoms have to do with how naïve he is?
Intangelon
26-10-2008, 17:46
How I wish I could deal with certain exes ("Gunpowder And Lead" written by Miranda Lambert and Heather Little; sung by Miranda Lambert):

County road 233, under my feet
Nothin' on this white rock but little ole me
I've got two miles till, he makes bail
And if I'm right we're headed straight for hell

Chorus:

I'm goin' home, gonna load my shotgun...

Yeah, 'cause violence ends violence, and going to jail for murder is MUCH better than...oh skip it. Revenge seems to be the mode of country music for women these days.
Intangelon
26-10-2008, 17:47
My current ex makes a point of not letting me know where he is or what he's up to. Very maturely, he refuses to speak to me, and has his mother arrange visits with the kids. When he picks them up, he calls, and says "I'm outside" and hangs up. I'm to pass the kids over with minimal contact with him apparently.

Whatever.

I maintained fairly cordial relationships with my other exes, but didn't really stay great friends with any of them. Then again, there are people I dated that I don't really feel like I 'broke up with'...they moved, or whatever...and we still go out and mess around if possible. Then again, those people were more friends than lovers, the sex was just a side thing.

So no psycho ex stories to tell, sorry.

Why are there not enough women like you? Nevermind -- I'd rather not know. Something tells me it's somehow MY fault for not being cool enough to meet them, even at random. Such is the life of a teacher.
Gauntleted Fist
26-10-2008, 17:55
I'm not old enough to be in a serious relationship. :p

And I just jinxed myself. DAMMIT.
--
Moving seems to be the best thing to do. Are restraining orders applicable?
Neesika
26-10-2008, 17:55
Why are there not enough women like you? Nevermind -- I'd rather not know. Something tells me it's somehow MY fault for not being cool enough to meet them, even at random. Such is the life of a teacher.

Untrue. It's merely an issue of luck, like most friendships/romances. It's not like I've ever put out an ad saying 'people like 'x,y,z' please contact me'. You just run into some people who suck, some people who don't suck but aren't that interesting, and every once in a while, you run into people who truly rock. It has nothing to do with being 'cool' and everything to do with knowing what you're into, and what kind of people you want to be around.
Fighter4u
26-10-2008, 18:46
So navie? What do boats and sailors in white bell bottoms have to do with how naïve he is?

Well I guess it depends on what Vampire is into I guess...
Knights of Liberty
26-10-2008, 18:57
With the first, just stop talking to them. Stop communicating with them in any way. Thas how I deal with psycho exs.

With the second, maybe you just really suck in bed?
Andaluciae
26-10-2008, 19:04
Most recent ex I'm on fairly good terms with, we did a two-year, but in many ways it got too intense for her towards the end of the summer. She values her independence, and she started to think that if we stayed together much longer, we might just wind up getting married by default. Neither her nor I are the type to get married to early in life (for Chrissakes, we're both only 22) and I saw her POV far too well to hold it against her.

Before that, the relationship was such an awkward middle-to-high school one, that I swore off girls through the entirety of high school. Dangerous beasties they seemed to me.
Knights of Liberty
26-10-2008, 19:12
Dangerous beasties they seemed to me.

As Nietzsche says in Zarathustra, men desire two things, danger and play. And women are the most dangerous toy. :D
Gauntleted Fist
26-10-2008, 19:14
Before that, the relationship was such an awkward middle-to-high school one, that I swore off girls through the entirety of high school. Dangerous beasties they seemed to me.I've sworn off relationships until after I get finished with high school, and SF training. (If I make it to SF training. :D)
greed and death
26-10-2008, 19:23
I've sworn off relationships until after I get finished with high school, and SF training. (If I make it to SF training. :D)

if you can hold to that pledge you will be very successful.
Gauntleted Fist
26-10-2008, 19:24
if you can hold to that pledge you will be very successful.It's proven rather easy so far, and I only have a semester and a quarter left in high school. Then I have two to three years of SF training. :cool:
greed and death
26-10-2008, 19:36
My current ex makes a point of not letting me know where he is or what he's up to. Very maturely, he refuses to speak to me, and has his mother arrange visits with the kids. When he picks them up, he calls, and says "I'm outside" and hangs up. I'm to pass the kids over with minimal contact with him apparently.

Whatever.

I maintained fairly cordial relationships with my other exes, but didn't really stay great friends with any of them. Then again, there are people I dated that I don't really feel like I 'broke up with'...they moved, or whatever...and we still go out and mess around if possible. Then again, those people were more friends than lovers, the sex was just a side thing.

So no psycho ex stories to tell, sorry.

i've notice this. Men tend to have crazy Exs much more often then women. I am trying to figure out why. it might just be men think with their penis more. or is some how that all women are crazy.
Xenophobialand
26-10-2008, 20:02
I am a little drunk so try not to mind the grammar errors so much.


2 exs having issues with.
1st. the ex from last year.
Hispanic, was very jealous, took her virginity. long story short she got into drugs while i was out of town during the summer and fucked a friend of mine.
Then she caused me issues (she lived next door until eviction) or her new druggie friends. they sold crack out of the apartment and did things like loosen the lugnuts on my car.
She has shown up on my door step drunk a few times and has called em a few times begging me to come save her. From some party. like the people there were going to rape her(upon arrival i knew the people and they were not rapist).
Ive tried everything with her. Ive told her to leave me alone. Ive called her a whore at large gatherings of people but she still shows up to try and sleep with me.

2nd. girl form Hong Kong. didn't really date her. just sex. but she gets weird after it. she started hitting herself on the head. when i restrained her arms she tried to bang her head against the wall. i want to shoo her away but the sex is good.

Find new people to hang out with. Like Kat said, whatever your date selection method is, you need to change it.
AnarchyeL
26-10-2008, 20:19
There seems to be a pattern here. You bring it on yourself. You may be conflicted about it, but you enjoy the drama. Now you're posting it all on the Internet so you can bask in attention paid to the drama.

In my experience, it's easy to get rid of people--even the really persistent ones--if you actually want them gone.

Step 1: Ignore them.
Step 2: There is no Step 2. Refuse to reward the behavior with attention, and it will go away.
Step 3: Okay, if Steps 1 & 2 really don't work--restraining order.
Knights of Liberty
26-10-2008, 20:21
i've notice this. Men tend to have crazy Exs much more often then women. I am trying to figure out why. it might just be men think with their penis more. or is some how that all women are crazy.

Simple. Crazy women are hot, and thus men want to sleep with them.

Crazy men are creepy, and thus women dont want to sleep with them.
Nanatsu no Tsuki
27-10-2008, 00:12
I completely erase them from my life. It´s a bad thing keeping them around.
SaintB
27-10-2008, 00:16
*Snip*

You know.. I hate that song. Miranda Lambert's obnoxious vocals aggravate me. I have to turnt he studio volume down every time it plays or I get headaches.
Wilgrove
27-10-2008, 00:18
Heh, don't ask me about exs.

Ex #2 is insane, and really should seek therapy.

Ex #3 is manipulative to a point that she should be paid for how good she is.

Beware of the women that your parents actually like, they have the ability to turn you into the bad person at a flick of a wrist.
SaintB
27-10-2008, 00:21
As I said, I have no insane ex's; just relationsips that end bad. Totally different thread there methinks.
greed and death
27-10-2008, 01:56
There seems to be a pattern here. You bring it on yourself. You may be conflicted about it, but you enjoy the drama. Now you're posting it all on the Internet so you can bask in attention paid to the drama.

In my experience, it's easy to get rid of people--even the really persistent ones--if you actually want them gone.

Step 1: Ignore them.
Step 2: There is no Step 2. Refuse to reward the behavior with attention, and it will go away.
Step 3: Okay, if Steps 1 & 2 really don't work--restraining order.

just tried. got home walked around her with out saying a word and closed the door in her face. kinda annoying having her knock on the door for an hour last night. though i re framed from calling the police considering she is already on probation.
Rathanan
27-10-2008, 02:39
I am a little drunk so try not to mind the grammar errors so much.


2 exs having issues with.
1st. the ex from last year.
Hispanic, was very jealous, took her virginity. long story short she got into drugs while i was out of town during the summer and fucked a friend of mine.
Then she caused me issues (she lived next door until eviction) or her new druggie friends. they sold crack out of the apartment and did things like loosen the lugnuts on my car.
She has shown up on my door step drunk a few times and has called em a few times begging me to come save her. From some party. like the people there were going to rape her(upon arrival i knew the people and they were not rapist).
Ive tried everything with her. Ive told her to leave me alone. Ive called her a whore at large gatherings of people but she still shows up to try and sleep with me.

2nd. girl form Hong Kong. didn't really date her. just sex. but she gets weird after it. she started hitting herself on the head. when i restrained her arms she tried to bang her head against the wall. i want to shoo her away but the sex is good.

Wow, where do you find these people?
Wilgrove
27-10-2008, 02:41
I completely erase them from my life. It´s a bad thing keeping them around.

My exs just keep coming back. Well except for one.
Wilgrove
27-10-2008, 02:41
just tried. got home walked around her with out saying a word and closed the door in her face. kinda annoying having her knock on the door for an hour last night. though i re framed from calling the police considering she is already on probation.

Pansy, I would've called the police on her.
greed and death
27-10-2008, 02:41
Wow, where do you find these people?

university.
Rathanan
27-10-2008, 02:44
university.

Glad I never found anyone psycho like that during my undergrad years... I've still got several years of grad school left (at least, for my Ph.D) so I suppose I should stay on my guard.
greed and death
27-10-2008, 02:45
Glad I never found anyone psycho like that during my undergrad years... I've still got several years of grad school left (at least, for my Ph.D) so I suppose I should stay on my guard.

well the druggie one failed out.

the self injury inflicting one is a grad student.
Galloism
27-10-2008, 02:50
To my knowledge, none of them have ever been found.
Wilgrove
27-10-2008, 03:04
Wow, where do you find these people?

Probably the same place where my exs come from.
greed and death
27-10-2008, 03:06
Probably the same place where my exs come from.

Texas???
Wilgrove
27-10-2008, 03:11
Texas???

One did, but the rest come from NC.
Nanatsu no Tsuki
27-10-2008, 03:13
My exs just keep coming back. Well except for one.

That sucks. When exs keep coming back, they prevent you from moving on. *nod*
Wilgrove
27-10-2008, 03:14
That sucks. When exs keep coming back, they prevent you from moving on. *nod*

They apparently had no problem moving on.
Vampire Knight Zero
27-10-2008, 03:14
That sucks. When exs keep coming back, they prevent you from moving on. *nod*

The best ex's I guess are the ones who agree to stay away - they at least undestand the pain.
Wilgrove
27-10-2008, 03:16
The best ex's I guess are the ones who agree to stay away - they at least undestand the pain.

I actually agree with you, even though you still make me throw up like an episode of Full House.

My 2nd ex, we did take a two week break from each other after we broke up, but then she wanted to hang out again.
Nanatsu no Tsuki
27-10-2008, 03:17
The best ex's I guess are the ones who agree to stay away - they at least undestand the pain.

That´s why I always erase mine. I obliterate them from my existence by blocking them from getting a hold of me. It always, or usually, works.
Dumb Ideologies
27-10-2008, 03:17
My exs just keep coming back. Well except for one.

Treat your exes like you would a large turd. Keep flushing them till they drown and float away with all the other shit
greed and death
27-10-2008, 03:18
They apparently had no problem moving on.

the druggie one had no problem moving on with my friend. until she realized he didn't want a relationship and she tried to come talk to me again.
Nanatsu no Tsuki
27-10-2008, 03:19
Treat your exes like you would a large turd. Keep flushing them till they drown and float away with all the other shit

Nicely put.:D
Wilgrove
27-10-2008, 03:19
Treat your exes like you would a large turd. Keep flushing them till they drown and float away with all the other shit

2nd one is a life long friend of mine (known her ever since I was six), and plus our relationship was seven years ago, so it's fine.

3rd one manipulated her way into my parents house. I'm still trying to find a way to kick her out without coming across as a huge asshole. But if I'm not a huge asshole, then I'm not playing to my strength, am I?
greed and death
27-10-2008, 03:25
2nd one is a life long friend of mine (known her ever since I was six), and plus our relationship was seven years ago, so it's fine.

3rd one manipulated her way into my parents house. I'm still trying to find a way to kick her out without coming across as a huge asshole. But if I'm not a huge asshole, then I'm not playing to my strength, am I?

she is still there.
Wilgrove
27-10-2008, 03:26
she is still there.

So, I should just be my usual asshole self to #3?
The Scandinvans
27-10-2008, 03:26
I would advise you to date clowns. They are a good chuckle and you need not worry about them being closet cases as they are quite open with their insanity. ;)
greed and death
27-10-2008, 03:28
I would advise you to date clowns. They are a good chuckle and you need not worry about them being closet cases as they are quite open with their insanity. ;)

but then i get covered in makeup after sex.
Katganistan
27-10-2008, 03:58
I'm not old enough to be in a serious relationship. :p

And I just jinxed myself. DAMMIT.
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Moving seems to be the best thing to do. Are restraining orders applicable?
If they are not threatening him, no. And filing false police reports is NOT advisable.
Intangelon
27-10-2008, 04:08
but then i get covered in makeup after sex.

Badge of honor, man.
greed and death
27-10-2008, 05:14
If they are not threatening him, no. And filing false police reports is NOT advisable.

its considered stalking if you ask them stop bothering you at home and they do not. but I am a guy guys don't file restraining orders.
Wilgrove
27-10-2008, 05:15
its considered stalking if you ask them stop bothering you at home and they do not. but I am a guy guys don't file restraining orders.

So....what do guys do exactly?
greed and death
27-10-2008, 05:20
So....what do guys do exactly?

i guess we ignore them and hang up when they call from a payphone.
Wilgrove
27-10-2008, 05:23
i guess we ignore them and hang up when they call from a payphone.

But they could want sex.
Intangelon
27-10-2008, 05:24
But they could want sex.

Not all sex is good sex, even if it is, y'know, good sex.

In my head, that made perfect sense.
Wilgrove
27-10-2008, 05:25
Not all sex is good sex, even if it is, y'know, good sex.

In my head, that made perfect sense.

Hey, I've heard that crazy women give the best sex.
Trans Fatty Acids
27-10-2008, 05:28
its considered stalking if you ask them stop bothering you at home and they do not. but I am a guy guys don't file restraining orders.

To be serious for a moment, guys absolutely do file restraining orders. A call to the police is a lot more effective at deterring people than the Magic Shield of Machismo.
Intangelon
27-10-2008, 05:30
Hey, I've heard that crazy women give the best sex.

As have I, but I guess I've lived long enough to truly believe that some things aren't worth the legal fees and surgery it takes to extricate yourself from their consequences.
Intangelon
27-10-2008, 05:31
To be serious for a moment, guys absolutely do file restraining orders. A call to the police is a lot more effective at deterring people than the Magic Shield of Machismo.

Not only that, but it keeps the guy from ever having to defend himself against a woman who attacks him -- unless the woman does significant damage, that situation almost never ends with the guy winning the image war.
Wilgrove
27-10-2008, 05:31
As have I, but I guess I've lived long enough to truly believe that some things aren't worth the legal fees and surgery it takes to extricate yourself from their consequences.

Eh, I'd try it once.
Intangelon
27-10-2008, 05:33
Eh, I'd try it once.

Once. [/Johnny Dangerously]
AnarchyeL
27-10-2008, 05:48
Regarding restraining orders:

If they are not threatening him, no.

Actually, it depends on the state. If someone is turning up unwelcome, initiating unwelcome contact, or otherwise being creepy, much of the time you can convince a court she should be legally restrained as a "stalker" regardless of whether she's made any overt threats.
greed and death
27-10-2008, 09:09
Not only that, but it keeps the guy from ever having to defend himself against a woman who attacks him -- unless the woman does significant damage, that situation almost never ends with the guy winning the image war.

I never had to hit a woman in self defense.
Though once i did have to dodge a baseball bat and kick the bat away from her after she dropped it when it hit the ground and vibrated.
Anti-Social Darwinism
27-10-2008, 09:37
I never had to hit a woman in self defense.
Though once i did have to dodge a baseball bat and kick the bat away from her after she dropped it when it hit the ground and vibrated.

GaD, you seem to have a problem with your significant other selector switch. I think that once you've sorted your current SO problems, you might take some time to figure out why you seem to attract and be attracted to psycho-bitches. Avoiding these problems is far preferable to having to fight your way clear of them.
Big Jim P
27-10-2008, 13:27
I still miss my exes, but my aim IS improving.
Peepelonia
27-10-2008, 13:53
I get on fine with all but one of my ex's and I never see her so meh!
King Arthur the Great
27-10-2008, 15:43
Dealing with the ex:

In most situations, I find the advice of the "Ask a Spy" webisodes entirely sufficient. Here, though, we might need some tweaking.

For the stalking druggy, I'd recommend ignoring her. If she shows no signs of letting up, then, after a few weeks, tell her that you will call the cops next time. Give her only one warning, and when she next tries to get your attention, call the cops. Seriously, you should call the police so that if need be, you can get a formal complaint on the record. If she still doesn't get the picture, and continues in her drug business, feel free to drop an anonymous tip from a payphone on campus about a drug house. Or make a call while she's doing something just over the edge of legal.

For the crazy one, well, see a psychology professor or counselor. That person probably needs some professional help.
greed and death
28-10-2008, 05:44
yea mostly looking at your advice king Author.
Blouman Empire
28-10-2008, 13:01
Hey greed and death for the first one I gave the exact same advice.

Fine don't look at it and gnore it see if I care :(
greed and death
28-10-2008, 17:10
Hey greed and death for the first one I gave the exact same advice.

Fine don't look at it and gnore it see if I care :(

I was meaning to all of them. General consensus is ignore the first one call the police or apartment management (she owes them a lot of money)
and get the second one in counseling.
along with pick better girls.