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Ok, it is Saturday... and the house was a mess. The kitchen was sticky, the bathrooms smelly and the bathtub streaky, the floors dusty and tables and desks either stacked with paperwork or generously dusted with crumbs. And the occasional bit of butter.
I managed to ignore this for most of the day... until about 2 hours ago, when one of our cats decided to be sick - she started in the kitchen and then left little deposits in the living room, the hall and on the stairs.

Now, my BF and myself have this agreement that I clean the house one week and he the next. He was actually off for much of the last week, and it was his fecking turn this time. Yet he spent the whole day wholed up in his room on his computer. When I told him about the cat sick, I got a disinterested "Hrmmngnmm" and when I asked him when he would clean it away I was told to stop nagging. I was fuming!!!!

But... *sigh* being my mum's daughter, I couldn't leave the house in this state and cleaned it up. Took me 2 hours. And once I was finished, he appeared in the door of his room, looked around, and asked me what I supposed he was to do next week on his day off, now that I had cleaned the place....

Ok, so I'm not so much ranting about the cleaning (although I intended to. I mean, we can put men on the moon, but we can't get fecking self-cleaning houses??? What's with that???), but rather my BF being a dickhead today, but it's a rant nonetheless.

So what annoyed you today? I'm sure there's something...

Ok, it is Saturday... and the house was a mess. The kitchen was sticky, the bathrooms smelly and the bathtub streaky, the floors dusty and tables and desks either stacked with paperwork or generously dusted with crumbs. And the occasional bit of butter.
I managed to ignore this for most of the day... until about 2 hours ago, when one of our cats decided to be sick - she started in the kitchen and then left little deposits in the living room, the hall and on the stairs.

Now, my BF and myself have this agreement that I clean the house one week and he the next. He was actually off for much of the last week, and it was his fecking turn this time. Yet he spent the whole day wholed up in his room on his computer. When I told him about the cat sick, I got a disinterested "Hrmmngnmm" and when I asked him when he would clean it away I was told to stop nagging. I was fuming!!!!

But... *sigh* being my mum's daughter, I couldn't leave the house in this state and cleaned it up. Took me 2 hours. And once I was finished, he appeared in the door of his room, looked around, and asked me what I supposed he was to do next week on his day off, now that I had cleaned the place....

Ok, so I'm not so much ranting about the cleaning (although I intended to. I mean, we can put men on the moon, but we can't get fecking self-cleaning houses??? What's with that???), but rather my BF being a dickhead today, but it's a rant nonetheless.

So what annoyed you today? I'm sure there's something...
Clean up the cat's deposit and leave it right outside his door. :p

what annoys me on a Saturday?

The same thing that always annoys me for most saturdays...

Work. :(

Nothing has particularly bothered me today, but then I've spent all day in my house cleaning and doing laundry.

I had to clean the litter box first, so I did that and the bathroom floor and then I threw the rug that the cat had pooped on (I suspect that my roommate shut the door to the bathroom so he couldn't go in and do it there... so really, she should have cleaned it if you ask me) in the washing machine, then I swept the floor in the rest of the apartment (except the bedrooms and kitchen), threw in a load of laundry and hung up the rug, cleaned the bathtub, got a shower, threw in another load of laundry, hung up the first load of laundry, did the dishes, got the other load of laundry out and hung it up to dry too.

I'm conducting a small (and probably not accurate) experiment to see if the clothes outside dry faster than the ones inside at this temperature.

I'm conducting a small (and probably not accurate) experiment to see if the clothes outside dry faster than the ones inside at this temperature.
depends.

I know that clothes hung in the hallway... with a fan and the lights on will dry overnight.

depends.

I know that clothes hung in the hallway... with a fan and the lights on will dry overnight.
Well, so it's fall and about 10C but windy (I missed the sun though) and I'm hanging the clothes inside in the bathroom along the shower rod on hangers. I know they'll both be done by tomorrow morning for sure, but I'm still curious.

The same thing that always annoys me for most saturdays...

Work. :(

Same here... work work work... 2 LAB's this morning and I have a parade tonight... then 12 hours of work tomorrow.


So uhhh... Gee Junii, what are we going to do this weekend?

Here's what annoys me: While I expect friends/family to occasionally accidentally use my old name rather than the new one, the 5% or so of times they always get it wrong it is ALWAYS in public, around lots of people, and usually said quite loudly. As happened today. I don't think anyone noticed/was paying any attention, but it makes me continually worry that its going to happen whenever I go do out with family/friends. And it sort of ruins it and stops me enjoying seeing them as much as I should. And probably makes it look like I don't really want to see them. I'm more annoyed at myself for being so bothered about it, because I can't realistically expect people to always get it right so soon.

I'm hanging the clothes inside in the bathroom along the shower rod on hangers.
.... man that brings back memories!

Same here... work work work... 2 LAB's this morning and I have a parade tonight... then 12 hours of work tomorrow.


So uhhh... Gee Junii, what are we going to do this weekend?

lets see... work... go to a party where I'll be put up on a trivia contest I had no time to prepare for (yippee :rolleyes:) then tomorrow I can sleep in... until my sister calls and we go running errands. then it's back to work on Monday. :(

what annoys me on a Saturday?

The same thing that always annoys me for most saturdays...

Work. :(

amen . . .hate this . . . .*%&^&%

.... man that brings back memories!



lets see... work... go to a party where I'll be put up on a trivia contest I had no time to prepare for (yippee :rolleyes:) then tomorrow I can sleep in... until my sister calls and we go running errands. then it's back to work on Monday. :(

Psst... the line was "Same thing we do every weekend SaintB; work."

So uhhh... Gee Junii, what are we going to do this weekend?

*The same thing we do every night, Pinky—try to take over the world.*

EDIT:dmn . . . .lol so close

Psst... the line was "Same thing we do every weekend SaintB; work."

oh NARF! sorry bout that,

Clean up the cat's deposit and leave it right outside his door. :p

what annoys me on a Saturday?

The same thing that always annoys me for most saturdays...

Work. :(

It's carpeted there... wouldn't be funny. But I'm half-consoled now anyway, he cooked dinner. And he's doing the dises right now. :D

Sucks about having to work :(

.... man that brings back memories!

Yeah, I need to get a drying rack.

Ok, it is Saturday... and the house was a mess. The kitchen was sticky, the bathrooms smelly and the bathtub streaky, the floors dusty and tables and desks either stacked with paperwork or generously dusted with crumbs. And the occasional bit of butter.
I managed to ignore this for most of the day... until about 2 hours ago, when one of our cats decided to be sick - she started in the kitchen and then left little deposits in the living room, the hall and on the stairs.

Now, my BF and myself have this agreement that I clean the house one week and he the next. He was actually off for much of the last week, and it was his fecking turn this time. Yet he spent the whole day wholed up in his room on his computer. When I told him about the cat sick, I got a disinterested "Hrmmngnmm" and when I asked him when he would clean it away I was told to stop nagging. I was fuming!!!!

But... *sigh* being my mum's daughter, I couldn't leave the house in this state and cleaned it up. Took me 2 hours. And once I was finished, he appeared in the door of his room, looked around, and asked me what I supposed he was to do next week on his day off, now that I had cleaned the place....

Ok, so I'm not so much ranting about the cleaning (although I intended to. I mean, we can put men on the moon, but we can't get fecking self-cleaning houses??? What's with that???), but rather my BF being a dickhead today, but it's a rant nonetheless.

So what annoyed you today? I'm sure there's something...
never do your man's chores.

never

you should have gone out for the day instead of cleaning.

and NEVER criticize the job he does no matter how much it doesnt meet your standards.

Next time, gather it all up and put it in his underwear drawer.

Put it in his food.

put it on his keyboard.

I might have put some of the cat's deposit on his keyboard or on his side of the bed.

Then if he bitched, I'd say, "it's your turn to clean the house, dearie."

Ok, it is Saturday... and the house was a mess. The kitchen was sticky, the bathrooms smelly and the bathtub streaky, the floors dusty and tables and desks either stacked with paperwork or generously dusted with crumbs. And the occasional bit of butter.
I managed to ignore this for most of the day... until about 2 hours ago, when one of our cats decided to be sick - she started in the kitchen and then left little deposits in the living room, the hall and on the stairs.

Now, my BF and myself have this agreement that I clean the house one week and he the next. He was actually off for much of the last week, and it was his fecking turn this time. Yet he spent the whole day wholed up in his room on his computer. When I told him about the cat sick, I got a disinterested "Hrmmngnmm" and when I asked him when he would clean it away I was told to stop nagging. I was fuming!!!!

But... *sigh* being my mum's daughter, I couldn't leave the house in this state and cleaned it up. Took me 2 hours. And once I was finished, he appeared in the door of his room, looked around, and asked me what I supposed he was to do next week on his day off, now that I had cleaned the place....

Ok, so I'm not so much ranting about the cleaning (although I intended to. I mean, we can put men on the moon, but we can't get fecking self-cleaning houses??? What's with that???), but rather my BF being a dickhead today, but it's a rant nonetheless.

So what annoyed you today? I'm sure there's something...



Hey, I feel your pain. Lately, my fiance hardly ever helps with the cleaning. And when I ask her to help me clean, she ges annoyed and says she'll do it on her time, which means Ill have my law degree by the time she gets around to it.

And just last week she had the audacity to tell her mother that Im being a chauvenist and making her do all the house work. Bear in mind, she said this while I was cleaning the kitchen.


I almost killed her.

its his day off woman. I suggest you try another approach though. men in general tolerate the place being much more of a mess then women will. i would suggest making him do little chores like clean the gutter mow the lawn ETC to make the division of labor easier. its less of a pattern so i bet easy for him to do. And you will end up with a clean house.

its his day off woman. I suggest you try another approach though. men in general tolerate the place being much more of a mess then women will. i would suggest making him do little chores like clean the gutter mow the lawn ETC to make the division of labor easier. its less of a pattern so i bet easy for him to do. And you will end up with a clean house.

Yeah Cabra, why dont you make him a sammich while your at it too? And open his beer when you bring it to him.

its his day off woman.

What of it? I spent my day off cleaning.

I suggest you try another approach though. men in general tolerate the place being much more of a mess then women will. i would suggest making him do little chores like clean the gutter mow the lawn ETC to make the division of labor easier. its less of a pattern so i bet easy for him to do. And you will end up with a clean house.

So instead of attempting to split the housework, she should accept that he's special and doesn't have to pull his weight?

its his day off woman. I suggest you try another approach though. men in general tolerate the place being much more of a mess then women will. i would suggest making him do little chores like clean the gutter mow the lawn ETC to make the division of labor easier. its less of a pattern so i bet easy for him to do. And you will end up with a clean house.

I would rather both cleaning at the same time. It divides the labor and doing it together can open opportunities for fun!

I have a cleaner. Because I am lazy. But I don't leave butter smeared over things.

What you said rings true though. Maybe I should share the chores and start charging my girlfriend for all the cleaning services.

What of it? I spent my day off cleaning.



So instead of attempting to split the housework, she should accept that he's special and doesn't have to pull his weight?

I am saying accept that he is different and give him house work that fits his skills and interest.

I am saying accept that he is different and give him house work that fits his skills and interest.

Oh please. And cleaning up the interior of the house fits Cabras skills and interests?


Quit while your ahead before you end up sounding more sexist.

I'm broke and though I was planning on spending the day in bed it seems that everyone takes this as a universal sign to call me and wake me up :mad:

but I had pizza hut brought and got to eat all the cookie dough so I'm contented

Yeah Cabra, why dont you make him a sammich while your at it too? And open his beer when you bring it to him.

thats the spirit!

Oh please. And cleaning up the interior of the house fits Cabras skills and interests?

oh calm down, guy stuff involves putting together the dreaded Ikea so I think we know who wins out in the end

also it works by the ancient womanly art of appearing like you can't do something :)

I am saying accept that he is different and give him house work that fits his skills and interest.
Uh... Yes, I love cleaning and would clearly love to spend all my free time doing this tedious, sometimes gross job.

Nobody likes cleaning. It's something that has to be done. If you live with someone then you have to share the job or else you're a prick. Doesn't matter if you're a man or a woman, suck it up and share the cleaning duties.

oh calm down, guy stuff involves putting together the dreaded Ikea so I think we know who wins out in the end

The guy who gets to live in a clean house which he never cleans.

Ikea stuff is easy to put together and isn't purchased very often.

The guy who gets to live in a clean house which he never cleans.

men earn 27% more for the house so how about you do the dishes :p

cleaning stuff is easy and doesn't need to be done very often.

fixed.

Ok, it is Saturday... and the house was a mess. The kitchen was sticky, the bathrooms smelly and the bathtub streaky, the floors dusty and tables and desks either stacked with paperwork or generously dusted with crumbs. And the occasional bit of butter.
I managed to ignore this for most of the day... until about 2 hours ago, when one of our cats decided to be sick - she started in the kitchen and then left little deposits in the living room, the hall and on the stairs.

Now, my BF and myself have this agreement that I clean the house one week and he the next. He was actually off for much of the last week, and it was his fecking turn this time. Yet he spent the whole day wholed up in his room on his computer. When I told him about the cat sick, I got a disinterested "Hrmmngnmm" and when I asked him when he would clean it away I was told to stop nagging. I was fuming!!!!

But... *sigh* being my mum's daughter, I couldn't leave the house in this state and cleaned it up. Took me 2 hours. And once I was finished, he appeared in the door of his room, looked around, and asked me what I supposed he was to do next week on his day off, now that I had cleaned the place....

Ok, so I'm not so much ranting about the cleaning (although I intended to. I mean, we can put men on the moon, but we can't get fecking self-cleaning houses??? What's with that???), but rather my BF being a dickhead today, but it's a rant nonetheless.

So what annoyed you today? I'm sure there's something...

Get a blog! :tongue:

men earn 27% more for the house so how about you do the dishes :p
Not all men earn 27% more for the house so how about you shove your stereotypes up your ass.

fixed.
Scrubbing a bathtub for an hour every week is much more time put in than assembling an ikea shelf for an hour every what... year... two years?

men earn 27% more for the house so how about you do the dishes :p



fixed.

thats not normally until children come along.


I got an alternative.

if he doesn't do his fair share then fine clean. Then redecorate.
start with the bathroom. Think pink.
then the kitchen. then the bed room, then the living room. then finally the living room. when he ask explain you clean it so its yours to decorate. if he doesn't clean fine its not like his friends will ever come over and make a mess so your likely just cleaning up after your friends.

Scrubbing a bathtub for an hour every week is much more time put in than assembling an ikea shelf for an hour every what... year... two years?

Why not just hire a house keeper and charge him 50%?

thats not normally until children come along.

So when a woman has a baby, she can then expect that her reward for 9 months of pregnancy and several hours of labour will be more housework in addition to (likely) being stuck with most of the child-rearing responsibilities?

Why not just hire a house keeper and charge him 50%?
I don't live with a him. I live with a roommate, we relatively share cleaning tasks although usually whoever is around and procrastinating gets to them first (unless they're cat-related in which case I do it since he's my cat).

Ok, it is Saturday... and the house was a mess. The kitchen was sticky, the bathrooms smelly and the bathtub streaky, the floors dusty and tables and desks either stacked with paperwork or generously dusted with crumbs. And the occasional bit of butter.
I managed to ignore this for most of the day... until about 2 hours ago, when one of our cats decided to be sick - she started in the kitchen and then left little deposits in the living room, the hall and on the stairs.

Now, my BF and myself have this agreement that I clean the house one week and he the next. He was actually off for much of the last week, and it was his fecking turn this time. Yet he spent the whole day wholed up in his room on his computer. When I told him about the cat sick, I got a disinterested "Hrmmngnmm" and when I asked him when he would clean it away I was told to stop nagging. I was fuming!!!!

But... *sigh* being my mum's daughter, I couldn't leave the house in this state and cleaned it up. Took me 2 hours. And once I was finished, he appeared in the door of his room, looked around, and asked me what I supposed he was to do next week on his day off, now that I had cleaned the place....

Ok, so I'm not so much ranting about the cleaning (although I intended to. I mean, we can put men on the moon, but we can't get fecking self-cleaning houses??? What's with that???), but rather my BF being a dickhead today, but it's a rant nonetheless.

So what annoyed you today? I'm sure there's something...

In my family we always had weekly chores that stayed the same. Among my responsibilities were vacuuming and lawnmowing. Mopping, dusting, and sweeping the porches were my sister's responsibilities. Initially cleaning the bathrooms was my chore and vacuuming the stairs was hers, but we traded. We'd both wash the cars and trade off doing the dishes every other night. My parents also had stuff they did every week. It was very efficient. Usually everyone would be doing these chores at the same time.

As for what has annoyed me today... my monitor seems to be dying and keeps going black, and then I have to turn it off and then on again. It's really starting to get on my nerves.

So when a woman has a baby, she can then expect that her reward for 9 months of pregnancy and several hours of labour will be more housework in addition to (likely) being stuck with most of the child-rearing responsibilities?

But later (when they're 4 or 5 or so on) there is a return in having an extra worker around to make do stuff. Like vacuum.

I don't live with a him. I live with a roommate, we relatively share cleaning tasks although usually whoever is around and procrastinating gets to them first (unless they're cat-related in which case I do it since he's my cat).

Well then it that case, tell him not to be a fucking slob. He's a guest and he should behave as such.

But later (when they're 4 or 5 or so on) there is a return in having an extra worker around to make do stuff. Like vacuum.
Or maybe she should have an extra helper from the start... one who is an adult who should be capable of cleaning up after himself and pitching in instead of being a lazy ass.

Well then it that case, tell him not to be a fucking slob. He's a guest and he should behave as such.
? My cat? He's not a guest, he lives here.

My bf doesn't make a mess here. He's rarely here since he lives quite a ways away.

I absolutely HATE housecleaning. :(
I have to clean my room, do dishes, wash (everybody's) clothes, cook three times a week, vacuum all the rooms, and take out the trash. Every week.

? My cat? He's not a guest, he lives here.

My bf doesn't make a mess here. He's rarely here since he lives quite a ways away.

Eh?

I've lost the thread. It was something about scrubbing a bathtub. But I guess if your boyfriend doesn't make a mess, you have no problems.

So when a woman has a baby, she can then expect that her reward for 9 months of pregnancy and several hours of labour will be more housework in addition to (likely) being stuck with most of the child-rearing responsibilities?

i was talking about the pay differences not the chores.

Eh?

I've lost the thread. It was something about scrubbing a bathtub. But I guess if your boyfriend doesn't make a mess, you have no problems.
I was talking about in a situation where one is living with a significant other. If the man in the situation does none of the housework, but "makes up for it" by assembling Ikea things then this isn't really making up for it because doing regular housework (which is necessary) takes more time than assembling furniture from Ikea.

Basically, I was promoting an equal distribution of cleaning and Call to Power was saying that men shouldn't have to do housework because they don't like to do it and make up for it by putting together furniture.

He even uses a sexist example too... see, if I was living with a guy and he built me a computer then he'd be off the hook for housework for a couple of months. I can assemble my own damn furniture. Well, I can probably build a computer too, but this is more time consuming.

I was talking about in a situation where one is living with a significant other. If the man in the situation does none of the housework, but "makes up for it" by assembling Ikea things then this isn't really making up for it because doing regular housework (which is necessary) takes more time than assembling furniture from Ikea.

Basically, I was promoting an equal distribution of cleaning and Call to Power was saying that men shouldn't have to do housework because they don't like to do it and make up for it by putting together furniture.

He even uses a sexist example too... see, if I was living with a guy and he built me a computer then he'd be off the hook for housework for a couple of months. I can assemble my own damn furniture. Well, I can probably build a computer too, but this is more time consuming.

You are right. Sucky chores suck, and should be shared. Or if not shared, contracted out. Putting together furniture once in a while doesn't count

So yah. Nothing wrong with expecting an equal distribution when you live under the same roof. Personally I don't. But I can see how it could be that way.

I was talking about in a situation where one is living with a significant other. If the man in the situation does none of the housework, but "makes up for it" by assembling Ikea things then this isn't really making up for it because doing regular housework (which is necessary) takes more time than assembling furniture from Ikea.

Basically, I was promoting an equal distribution of cleaning and Call to Power was saying that men shouldn't have to do housework because they don't like to do it and make up for it by putting together furniture.

He even uses a sexist example too... see, if I was living with a guy and he built me a computer then he'd be off the hook for housework for a couple of months. I can assemble my own damn furniture. Well, I can probably build a computer too, but this is more time consuming.

In my experience, usually whoever is around puts together furniture, and everybody cleans. This is the most equitable.

And yes, assembling furniture from Ikea isn't really all that difficult, though it can have its challenges, and only happens once in a long time. Cleaning has to happen regularly.

Or maybe she should have an extra helper from the start... one who is an adult who should be capable of cleaning up after himself and pitching in instead of being a lazy ass.

That is expected. Why wouldn't she have such?

See, the idea of not doing house chores doesn't really occur to me, because I've done chores as long as I can remember. Why would that change just because of who I was sharing the house with?

You are right. Sucky chores suck, and should be shared. Or if not shared, contracted out. Putting together furniture once in a while doesn't count

So yah. Nothing wrong with expecting an equal distribution when you live under the same roof. Personally I don't. But I can see how it could be that way.
Well, not everyone can afford to hire house cleaners.

That is expected. Why wouldn't she have such?
Ask Call to Power.

Ask Call to Power.

I don't think I'll get an answer that makes any sense.

Well, not everyone can afford to hire house cleaners.

It's actually not that expensive. You'd be surprised.

It's actually not that expensive. You'd be surprised.
Maybe. It's probably not something I'll do for a while though... I'm a student.

I'm really sorry, nothing's bothered me so far this weekend. I drove to Denver to take my son's birthday present to him. It was a pleasant drive, slightly windy but clear and sunny - no traffic problems. My son and I had a pleasant lunch together, I found a book I had been looking for at used bookstore and found some nice pastries at a German bakery. The drive home was nice, the setting sun set off the turning leaves beautifully and I had the realization that my life is really quite pleasant. So, the house is a bit of a mess and I'll have to clean it tomorrow. It's my mess and no one else's, so, no real complaints.

I just realized how complacent that sounds. Don't worry, my daughter is coming to visit in a couple of weeks. I expect the annoyance factor to go off the scales while she's here.

I just realized how complacent that sounds. Don't worry, my daughter is coming to visit in a couple of weeks. I expect the annoyance factor to go off the scales while she's here.If I went to church, I would pray for you. :tongue:

Ask Call to Power.

ugh, muffintop learn sarcasm or at least how to put together an argument that doesn't sound as idealist as "me and my partner will do everything equally all the time"

people are dicks especially people you know etc

ugh, muffintop learn sarcasm or at least how to put together an argument that doesn't sound as idealist as "me and my partner will do everything equally all the time"

people are dicks especially people you know etc

You certainly are.

You certainly are.

and by extension so are you!

isn't life wonderful :)

You certainly are.

and by extension so are you!

isn't life wonderful :)

Chill out.

and by extension so are you!

isn't life wonderful :)

At least I believe in doing my share of the work in a household and am not a fat lazy piece of shit like yourself.

at least i believe in doing my share of the work in a household and am not a fat lazy piece of shit like yourself.

chill out.

:rolleyes:

Having to work two miles, on my day off, for breast cancer victims and survivors. :(

Most things annoy me. I have to measure annoyance on a scale. So today was okay, because the only thing that annoyed me was having get dressed and go out to gallery sit for the 2-day show I'm in.

Tomorrow I will be more annoyed, because the show comes down and I have bring my work home, which is a pain because I lack a car. This is why I usually avoid such short exhibitions, and as I knew that going in, I have no one to blame for my annoyance but myself.

And that annoys me.

Having to work two miles, on my day off, for breast cancer victims and survivors. :(

You shoulda said something, we could have traded... you could have walked 5 miles and hug about 400 people in the freezing rain for a mere $50 and I could have had a nice leisurely 2 hour walk.

Most things annoy me. I have to measure annoyance on a scale. So today was okay, because the only thing that annoyed me was having get dressed and go out to gallery sit for the 2-day show I'm in.

Tomorrow I will be more annoyed, because the show comes down and I have bring my work home, which is a pain because I lack a car. This is why I usually avoid such short exhibitions, and as I knew that going in, I have no one to blame for my annoyance but myself.

And that annoys me.

Oooh! I love art. Do you have an internet thingy where I can see your work?

If not that's okay, but I love to see new artists work.

You shoulda said something, we could have traded... you could have walked 5 miles and hug about 400 people in the freezing rain for a mere $50 and I could have had a nice leisurely 2 hour walk.

Leisurely walk was far from it. I was pushed and stepped on countless times. Not to mention being hit in the head by signs and bathed in the sweat of others.:(

Oooh! I love art. Do you have an internet thingy where I can see your work?

If not that's okay, but I love to see new artists work.
Check your forum messages. :)

Leisurely walk was far from it. I was pushed and stepped on countless times. Not to mention being hit in the head by signs and bathed in the sweat of others.:(

Oh.. me sowwies. Charity events are usually brutal to the people involved (getting involved in those things is actually part of my job)

Oh.. me sowwies. Charity events are usually brutal to the people involved (getting involved in those things is actually part of my job)

I work for the government. I have to get involved wether I want to or not. I mean, it´s a nice thing. Breast cancer awareness. But Saturdays and Sundays are my days off. I slave myself enough during the week as it is.:tongue:

I work for the government. I have to get involved wether I want to or not. I mean, it´s a nice thing. Breast cancer awareness. But Saturdays and Sundays are my days off. I slave myself enough during the week as it is.:tongue:

In government jobs, and media jobs... there is no such thing as a day off. Just a day with no work.

In government jobs, and media jobs... there is no such thing as a day off. Just a day with no work.

Aye aye. We´re just slaves. We posses no lives.

Aye aye. We´re just slaves. We posses no lives.

Ain't it wonderful being on call 24 hours a day?

To actually contribute to the OP since I have been spamming incessantly tonight.

I have always in my life divided indoor and outdoor chores on a swing shift. I don't see a reason why all chores can't be divided equally (other than the obvious like making the 8 year old clean the gutters and mow the lawn.)

You should've called him a lazy schmuck and went out or something.

Ain't it wonderful being on call 24 hours a day?

Aye aye, it is wonderful. And isn´t it marvelous when you´re planning to go to the beach with you significant other and you´re called that day, early in the morning, and told they need you?

Aye aye, it is wonderful. And isn´t it marvelous when you´re planning to go to the beach with you significant other and you´re called that day, early in the morning, and told they need you?

Well to be honest, its never happened to me... my girlfriend at the time it could have happened was a missionary (who became a psychotic nun) and with nothing better to do I was always at work when they needed me. now I'm chronically single... same story :p.

Well to be honest, its never happened to me... my girlfriend at the time it could have happened was a missionary (who became a psychotic nun) and with nothing better to do I was always at work when they needed me. now I'm chronically single... same story :p.

But I´m not single and would like to spend time with my half-lemon. I´m tired of seeing my co-workers.:tongue:

In terms of chores, I basically can't be arsed at uni. I think you can walk from one side of my room to the other without your feet touching the floor due to the thick layer of textbooks, lecture notes, folders, clothes etc. all over the floor. My cups, glasses, plates etc are so dirty that if I dropped them they probably wouldn't smash due to the thick layer of protective dirt cushioning the fall. I don't get ill very often, which I put down to a highly developed immune system resulting from the rather unsanitary nature of my current lifestyle. Yay.

In terms of chores, I basically can't be arsed at uni. I think you can walk from one side of my room to the other without your feet touching the floor due to the thick layer of textbooks, lecture notes, folders, clothes etc. all over the floor. My cups, glasses, plates etc are so dirty that if I dropped them they probably wouldn't smash due to the thick layer of protective dirt cushioning the fall. I don't get ill very often, which I put down to a highly developed immune system resulting from the rather unsanitary nature of my current lifestyle. Yay.

I had 3 roommates to help me clean. The reason I never got sick in college was because I was on a boxer's diet, taking a battery of vitamins, and had extra immunizations.

I had 3 roommates to help me clean. The reason I never got sick in college was because I was on a boxer's diet, taking a battery of vitamins, and had extra immunizations.

The reason I never get sick is really because I'm so socially shunned (thats some good alliteration, right there) that I never spend enough time around people to catch a cold/cough/flu/whatever from them. WIN:)

But I´m not single and would like to spend time with my half-lemon. I´m tired of seeing my co-workers.:tongue:

Why are you in a relationship with half a lemon? Wouldn't you prefer a whole one? :D

Ok, it is Saturday... and the house was a mess. The kitchen was sticky, the bathrooms smelly and the bathtub streaky, the floors dusty and tables and desks either stacked with paperwork or generously dusted with crumbs. And the occasional bit of butter.
I managed to ignore this for most of the day... until about 2 hours ago, when one of our cats decided to be sick - she started in the kitchen and then left little deposits in the living room, the hall and on the stairs.

Now, my BF and myself have this agreement that I clean the house one week and he the next. He was actually off for much of the last week, and it was his fecking turn this time. Yet he spent the whole day wholed up in his room on his computer. When I told him about the cat sick, I got a disinterested "Hrmmngnmm" and when I asked him when he would clean it away I was told to stop nagging. I was fuming!!!!

But... *sigh* being my mum's daughter, I couldn't leave the house in this state and cleaned it up. Took me 2 hours. And once I was finished, he appeared in the door of his room, looked around, and asked me what I supposed he was to do next week on his day off, now that I had cleaned the place....

Ok, so I'm not so much ranting about the cleaning (although I intended to. I mean, we can put men on the moon, but we can't get fecking self-cleaning houses??? What's with that???), but rather my BF being a dickhead today, but it's a rant nonetheless.

So what annoyed you today? I'm sure there's something...

Hahaha~ sounds like my house a few weeks ago... I'm not home doing much else than sleeping with my schedule, and the boys in the house don't clean very well... At first I could ignore the mildew in the bathroom, the unscrubbed toilets and the kitty litter left uncleaned for weeks..... then I noticed the towers (yes, towers, at least a quater inch high) of mold growing on the towl under the rack our dishes dry on, and I was nearly sick. So [Canadian] thanksgiving weekend I bleached the piss out of my house, cleaned everything top to bottom and I still feel vaguely unclean for what I saw that day.

Hahaha~ sounds like my house a few weeks ago... I'm not home doing much else than sleeping with my schedule, and the boys in the house don't clean very well... At first I could ignore the mildew in the bathroom, the unscrubbed toilets and the kitty litter left uncleaned for weeks..... then I noticed the towers (yes, towers, at least a quater inch high) of mold growing on the towl under the rack our dishes dry on, and I was nearly sick. So [Canadian] thanksgiving weekend I bleached the piss out of my house, cleaned everything top to bottom and I still feel vaguely unclean for what I saw that day.

Eww... I found that at my younger brother's apartment once... I just left without explanation.

never do your man's chores.

never

you should have gone out for the day instead of cleaning.

and NEVER criticize the job he does no matter how much it doesnt meet your standards.

Well, I agree with the first, definitely. I'm kicking myself for doing it.

But what's the point of the second? Knowing him he'll end up not cleaning anything and me still having to do it.

its his day off woman. I suggest you try another approach though. men in general tolerate the place being much more of a mess then women will. i would suggest making him do little chores like clean the gutter mow the lawn ETC to make the division of labor easier. its less of a pattern so i bet easy for him to do. And you will end up with a clean house.

Nope. Doing the garden is fun, I like doing it. It's the house that needs cleaning, and I don't see why he shouldn't do half of it. After all, he messes it up as well.

oh calm down, guy stuff involves putting together the dreaded Ikea so I think we know who wins out in the end

also it works by the ancient womanly art of appearing like you can't do something :)

Bollocks. He can't put Ikea stuff together, I usually do that.

men earn 27% more for the house so how about you do the dishes :p


Huh??? Where do they do that? We both earn the same, and the rent is split evenly.

Huh??? Where do they do that? We both earn the same, and the rent is split evenly.

He pulled that out of 1993.

He pulled that out of 1993.

Well, I wouldn't have earned anything much back then, as I was still at school. But then, so was he ;)

*snip*

Hang on your bf was away all of the week and it was his turn but you still wanted him to clean up the mess made during the week which was made by you.

Hang on your bf was away all of the week and it was his turn but you still wanted him to clean up the mess made during the week which was made by you.

Away??? He had half the week off, while I was at work.

Well, I agree with the first, definitely. I'm kicking myself for doing it.

But what's the point of the second? Knowing him he'll end up not cleaning anything and me still having to do it.
because you arent his mother.

if he has a chore its his chore and he does it to his standards.

if you cant deal with that you have to make a different chore arrangement. you cant nag him for not doing it right.

sometimes its better to have a distinctly different set of chores so you dont end up cleaning more when its your turn because he did a piss poor slap-dash job when it was his turn.

for example, even though cleaning the bathroom is the worst job it is sometimes better to have that be your job if you are going to re-clean it after him every time anyway. instead have him have a more time consuming constant job like "the laundry" or the dishes" or vacuuming (or a combination of all of those and more). and then never ever do laundry or the dishes or vacuum no matter how bad it gets.

that supposes that he is willing and able to do common household chores. most men are. (most people are) i suppose that if there is a huge gap between your standard and his you can discuss it ONCE and see if he isnt willing to do a bit better job.

if he isnt willing and able to do common household chores in reasonable time and to a reasonable standard you have to either get rid of him or get a maid. if you have enough money to pay someone to come in for a few hours a week it can save your sanity.

Away??? He had half the week off, while I was at work.

Oh, I mis-read your post. :$