NationStates Jolt Archive


Personal Space

Wilgrove
12-10-2008, 04:51
So, how big are ya'lls personal space? Also, how protective are ya'll of ya'lls personal space? For me, Family and Best Friend are allow within my Personal Space, and can even hug me. Everyone else is kept at arms length or greater.
Soviestan
12-10-2008, 04:56
I'm a big fan of personal space. I'm an even bigger fan of 'me time'. I get incredibly edgy being around people for too long. Even people that generally don't bother me.

edit: probably should clarify. The above statement is true only when sober. If I'm high, I don't really mind people.
Wilgrove
12-10-2008, 04:59
I'm a big fan of personal space. I'm an even bigger fan of 'me time'. I get incredibly edgy being around people for too long. Even people that generally don't bother me.

edit: probably should clarify. The above statement is true only when sober. If I'm high, I don't really mind people.

Oh I am big on 'me' time also. Thanks to the Grad Program, I am forced to interact with people, so by the end of the day I am alittle edgy and want to be alone.
Potarius
12-10-2008, 05:00
I tend to get edgy when I'm not around people. Well, people I like, anyway.
New Manvir
12-10-2008, 05:06
I currently have 0 personal space at home, no bedroom. It makes me kinda stressed at times. The good thing is I get "me time" at night when everyone else goes to sleep.
Soviestan
12-10-2008, 05:09
I currently have 0 personal space at home, no bedroom. It makes me kinda stressed at times. The good thing is I get "me time" at night when everyone else goes to sleep.

If I were in your position I honestly might go insane.
Vault 10
12-10-2008, 05:22
So, how big are ya'lls personal space? Also, how protective are ya'll of ya'lls personal space?
4000 miles below and 50 miles up. I'd want to be quite protective, but I'm afraid it's not in my power to protect it.



I'm a big fan of personal space. I'm an even bigger fan of 'me time'. I get incredibly edgy being around people for too long. Even people that generally don't bother me.
Wanna know what 'personal space' and 'me time' really mean? Join the Navy!
Gun Manufacturers
12-10-2008, 05:25
So, how big are ya'lls personal space? Also, how protective are ya'll of ya'lls personal space? For me, Family and Best Friend are allow within my Personal Space, and can even hug me. Everyone else is kept at arms length or greater.

I worked with someone that had gotten the nickname, "The Space Invader", because he talked softly, and felt it necessary to get REAL close to people when talking to them.

Ever since then, I've been a fan of personal space.
Smunkeeville
12-10-2008, 05:26
It depends on who, when and under what circumstances.

Kid comes up to hug me while I'm clowning, okay. Random guy grabs my arm at night in a parking lot, I'll punch him in the face.

If I'm in a bad mood, I need to be left alone.
Sarkhaan
12-10-2008, 05:27
BIG GROUP HUG! :)


*runs*
Potarius
12-10-2008, 05:30
BIG GROUP HUG! :)


*runs*

No Beertillas for you tonight, Sark.
Sarkhaan
12-10-2008, 05:38
No Beertillas for you tonight, Sark.

:(.
Vault 10
12-10-2008, 05:40
big group hug! :)

MANpile.
Potarius
12-10-2008, 05:40
:(.

Well hey, that's just how it goes.
Sarkhaan
12-10-2008, 05:43
Well hey, that's just how it goes.

I suppose I'll just have to go with drinking my parents liquor some more.

Oh, CT. How you entertain me.




By the way, my personal bubble varies...there are times that you can get near me and I'll snap instantly. Other times, I get to be very...welcoming.

And it always seems to relate to beertillas....
Anti-Social Darwinism
12-10-2008, 05:45
My personal space, about 1050 sq. ft.
Potarius
12-10-2008, 05:46
I suppose I'll just have to go with drinking my parents liquor some more.

Oh, CT. How you entertain me.




By the way, my personal bubble varies...there are times that you can get near me and I'll snap instantly. Other times, I get to be very...welcoming.

And it always seems to relate to beertillas....

I'm serious, we should go into business making beertillas.
Sarkhaan
12-10-2008, 05:54
I'm serious, we should go into business making beertillas.

Given that my current employment, I'm down. A good lemony beer, some sour, some tequilla, salt, and some triple sec...it's perfect.

And, by posting it here, on a forum, we can claim that it was our idea first!
Potarius
12-10-2008, 05:56
Given that my current employment, I'm down. A good lemony beer, some sour, some tequilla, salt, and some triple sec...it's perfect.

And, by posting it here, on a forum, we can claim that it was our idea first!

Of course!

Philadelphia's Original Beertillas
Sarkhaan
12-10-2008, 06:03
Of course!

Philadelphia's Original Beertillas

As much as I am loving Philly for them booing Sarah Palin (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g7TgDanmWkg) tonight, I still say Boston makes for a better name.

Philadelphia makes me think of cream cheese and cheese steaks. Boston makes me think of beer.
Potarius
12-10-2008, 06:04
As much as I am loving Philly for them booing Sarah Palin (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g7TgDanmWkg) tonight, I still say Boston makes for a better name.

Philadelphia makes me think of cream cheese and cheese steaks. Boston makes me think of beer.

Yeah, but I came up with the idear (yeah, you heard it, "idear") first way back when, all those months ago, and Philly's where I'll be living very, very soon.

Perhaps we could make a compromise...
Wilgrove
12-10-2008, 06:07
As much as I am loving Philly for them booing Sarah Palin (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g7TgDanmWkg) tonight,

Is it me, or did that serve no purpose at all? Oooo she dropped a puck, but the game didn't really begin.....what a waste of time.

I loved the fact how she kept on smiling and waving even though everyone (well almost everyone) was booing her.
Sarkhaan
12-10-2008, 06:12
Yeah, but I came up with the idear (yeah, you heard it, "idear") first way back when, all those months ago, and Philly's where I'll be living very, very soon.

Perhaps we could make a compromise...

You know, my home town is about in the middle...about 50 miles closer to Boston, but not terribly far off.

Berlin's Original Beertilla...we're not Nazi's.
Sarkhaan
12-10-2008, 06:13
Is it me, or did that serve no purpose at all? Oooo she dropped a puck, but the game didn't really begin.....what a waste of time.

I loved the fact how she kept on smiling and waving even though everyone (well almost everyone) was booing her.

Ugh...don't get me started on the stupidity of ceremonial puck drops in hockey. They are nothing but photo ops, and you can see the hatred in the eyes of the captains every damn time.
Dalmatia Cisalpina
12-10-2008, 06:16
All right. Significant others: unless they've severely angered me recently (in which case they are more likely no longer significant others and may be on the non-humans list), there's no personal space boundary. Of course, there are no significant others until there is considerable trust.

Family: hugs acceptable.

Friends: hugs acceptable.

Everyone else: arm length preferably, but I can shrink the personal space bubble if the situation requires.
Wilgrove
12-10-2008, 06:16
Ugh...don't get me started on the stupidity of ceremonial puck drops in hockey. They are nothing but photo ops, and you can see the hatred in the eyes of the captains every damn time.

I'm just glad American Football don't have anything so pointless. At least the ceremonial coin toss serves a purpose.
Potarius
12-10-2008, 06:18
You know, my home town is about in the middle...about 50 miles closer to Boston, but not terribly far off.

Berlin's Original Beertilla...we're not Nazi's.

I'd say New England's Original Beertilla(s), but Philly isn't a part of New England. Gah.
Sarkhaan
12-10-2008, 06:19
I'm just glad American Football don't have anything so pointless. At least the ceremonial coin toss serves a purpose.

It's purely fellation (or, in this case, attempted fellation by Paul Holmgren) of the person dropping the puck. The Bruins did this a season or two ago with Cam Neely (one of the all-time great hockey players), and it took a good 15 minutes in total, from rolling out the carpets, taking the pictures, dropping the puck, and rolling up the carpets again. Complete bullshit. And I love Cam.
Wilgrove
12-10-2008, 06:20
It's purely fellation (or, in this case, attempted fellation by Paul Holmgren) of the person dropping the puck. The Bruins did this a season or two ago with Cam Neely (one of the all-time great hockey players), and it took a good 15 minutes in total, from rolling out the carpets, taking the pictures, dropping the puck, and rolling up the carpets again. Complete bullshit. And I love Cam.

Sounds like it, at least it gives you 15 extra minutes at the concession stand to get the food and drinks. :)
Sarkhaan
12-10-2008, 06:23
Sounds like it, at least it gives you 15 extra minutes at the concession stand to get the food and drinks. :)

Sadly, the lines are usually so long (most people don't know that there is a ceremony untill they are there) that you only get 2 beers in (MA has a law where you can only get two drinks per ID).

It has saved me once when I thought I was going to miss the actual puck drop (a sin of unimaginable proportion in my family)...but really, get rid of it.

*rants more about Bettman and the destruction of the NHL*
Blouman Empire
12-10-2008, 06:29
It depends on who, when and under what circumstances.

Kid comes up to hug me while I'm clowning, okay. Random guy grabs my arm at night in a parking lot, I'll punch him in the face.

If I'm in a bad mood, I need to be left alone.

*note to self, do not hug Smunkee in a parking lot at night, in the supermarket during the day is perfectly ok, however.*

Yes I have some personal space, but I would like more.
Wilgrove
12-10-2008, 06:30
*note to self, do not hug Smunkee in a parking lot at night, in the supermarket during the day is perfectly ok, however.*

Yes I have some personal space, but I would like more.

Hey, start talking to an imaginary friend and keep using the word "Fire" and "Burn" every few words, you'll have a nice padded cell all to yourself! Isn't that right Captain Bojangles?
Blouman Empire
12-10-2008, 06:57
Hey, start talking to an imaginary friend and keep using the word "Fire" and "Burn" every few words, you'll have a nice padded cell all to yourself! Isn't that right Captain Bojangles?

lol

The best way I find is to bring out my hunting knife lay it on the floor and begin sharpenig it every now and then look at your roomate and say "soon, soon"
Zombie PotatoHeads
12-10-2008, 09:48
I've just had an epiphany! Combining Wilgrove's obsession with the Saw movies with his daily numerous bloggy threads I've come to the conclusion that poor Wil has been captured by a Saw-like crazy who has injected a slow acting poison into him, which can only be kept at bay by making up xx number of threads and posts a day.
He's been trying to hint to us all this time by his constant referencing to those silly movies.
Wil - if we can do anything to help you, just say so!
Katganistan
12-10-2008, 10:08
Oh I am big on 'me' time also. Thanks to the Grad Program, I am forced to interact with people, so by the end of the day I am alittle edgy and want to be alone.
Wait, if being in grad school makes you edgy, how did you expect to be a teacher or an occupational therapist?
Hammurab
12-10-2008, 10:13
Wait, if being in grad school makes you edgy, how did you expect to be a teacher or an occupational therapist?

Every school needs at least one "edgy" teacher, who doesn't blink, doesn't move their arms when they walk, who subvocalizes the Lord's Prayer but the words don't sound right....it adds flavor.
Dumb Ideologies
12-10-2008, 10:25
If its people I don't know, the whole room counts as my personal space. If its friends, then I'm fine with anything except inappropriate groping.
Katganistan
12-10-2008, 11:17
If its people I don't know, the whole room counts as my personal space. If its friends, then I'm fine with anything except inappropriate groping.
How about appropriate groping?
(noooo, that sounds bad, doesn't it?)
Dumb Ideologies
12-10-2008, 11:20
How about appropriate groping?
(noooo, that sounds bad, doesn't it?)

There's no such thing in my case. Any action of this kind the pepper spray, rape alarm and acme mallet are deployed.
IL Ruffino
12-10-2008, 12:17
Stop saying "y'all", you can't even spell it right.

Personal space is for prudes.
IL Ruffino
12-10-2008, 12:20
How about appropriate groping?
(noooo, that sounds bad, doesn't it?)

I have a friend that grabs people's hands and puts them on her boobs.

She's a nice gal.

*nod*
Nadkor
12-10-2008, 16:28
My family, pretty much all my friends, and my boyfriend are all allowed in my "personal space". Me and my friends (both guy and girl) hug each other all the time, and we regularly touch each other (not in that way, though). We're a very close group of people.

Of course, my boyfriend is on a whole other level.
Adunabar
12-10-2008, 16:34
I don't have much personal space around my face, but I flinch a hell of a lot of someone makes a quick movement towards my body.
New Drakonia
12-10-2008, 16:51
I hug strangers on the street.
Dakini
12-10-2008, 17:12
My personal space depends entirely on who is potentially occupying it. If it's someone I know and like (or who doesn't bother me much) then really, personal space isn't an issue unless they're being particularly smelly that day. I don't really touch or hug many of my friends, but that has more to do with a lot of the friends I see day to day either not being huggy people or me not being particularly close to them (or well, I see them every day so there's not much need for hugs). Close friends get a hug and a kiss on the cheek upon departure/arrival if I haven't seen them for a while.

Like one of the guys in my programme will stand right in front of a person when talking to them. One of my friends was bothered by it, but I hardly noticed.

However, creepy guy leering at me is too close if he's 5' away.
New Drakonia
12-10-2008, 17:28
My personal space depends entirely on who is potentially occupying it. If it's someone I know and like (or who doesn't bother me much) then really, personal space isn't an issue unless they're being particularly smelly that day. I don't really touch or hug many of my friends, but that has more to do with a lot of the friends I see day to day either not being huggy people or me not being particularly close to them (or well, I see them every day so there's not much need for hugs). Close friends get a hug and a kiss on the cheek upon departure/arrival if I haven't seen them for a while.

Like one of the guys in my programme will stand right in front of a person when talking to them. One of my friends was bothered by it, but I hardly noticed.

However, creepy guy leering at me is too close if he's 5' away.

Oh, sorry
*takes a step backwards*
Vampire Knight Zero
12-10-2008, 17:32
I have no real personal space issues, unless i'm being intimidated.
German Nightmare
12-10-2008, 17:43
So, how big are ya'lls personal space? Also, how protective are ya'll of ya'lls personal space? For me, Family and Best Friend are allow within my Personal Space, and can even hug me. Everyone else is kept at arms length or greater.
Oh hell yeah!

Intruders will be dealt with swiftly.

Family is okay, certain friends are okay, too. However, if I don't know you or don't consider you a friend, don't come too close. If you're so close that I can't properly focus or you get in my way while I'm moving, well... let's just say that I sometimes use my hands and arms while talking, and should you get in the way, it's not my fault.

Other than that, I simply don't understand why some people either cannot grasp the concept of personal (air) space, or are unwilling to respect my need for it.
Wilgrove
12-10-2008, 20:41
I've just had an epiphany! Combining Wilgrove's obsession with the Saw movies with his daily numerous bloggy threads I've come to the conclusion that poor Wil has been captured by a Saw-like crazy who has injected a slow acting poison into him, which can only be kept at bay by making up xx number of threads and posts a day.
He's been trying to hint to us all this time by his constant referencing to those silly movies.
Wil - if we can do anything to help you, just say so!

Hey, there are rules, if the rules are not obeyed, the game is over....for me! We all know what happens when the game is over!

Wait, if being in grad school makes you edgy, how did you expect to be a teacher or an occupational therapist?

Eh, I'm on edge mainly because of one professor who doesn't lecture, she gives us projects all day long, and when it comes to test time, and there are short answers on the test, we put down what we learn and what we think she wants to hear. However, when we get the test back, she marks them wrong. Keep in mind, she gave no lectures, so we have no idea what she wants. I think she's trying to weed out some people, and I may be one of those people she weeds out. Maybe it's for the best, I mean honestly, who would want me as their therapist?

Every school needs at least one "edgy" teacher, who doesn't blink, doesn't move their arms when they walk, who subvocalizes the Lord's Prayer but the words don't sound right....it adds flavor.

Hey, at least Teachers have some leeway. I"ve known teachers that were total dicks and they never got fired. Of course if I was going to be a teacher, I would've modeled myself after Coach Cole who was my High School History teacher. He was awesome. When I graduated in 2002, he hugged me. It actually didn't bothered me.

My family, pretty much all my friends, and my boyfriend are all allowed in my "personal space". Me and my friends (both guy and girl) hug each other all the time, and we regularly touch each other (not in that way, though). We're a very close group of people.

Of course, my boyfriend is on a whole other level.

Ugh....too much touching for my taste.

I hug strangers on the street.

and you'll be getting a punch in the throat from me.
Knights of Liberty
12-10-2008, 20:44
Decent looking women can violate my personal space all the want.

And when Im drunk, anyone can.
New Drakonia
12-10-2008, 20:45
and you'll be getting a punch in the throat from me.

Awww, sounds like you need a hug.
*hugs*
Wilgrove
12-10-2008, 20:45
Decent looking women can violate my personal space all the want.

And when Im drunk, anyone can.

*starts making plans to get KoL drunk*
Wilgrove
12-10-2008, 20:45
Awww, sounds like you need a hug.
*hugs*

*punches in the adam apple*

You were warned.
Grave_n_idle
12-10-2008, 20:48
Decent looking women can violate my personal space all the want.

And when Im drunk, anyone can.

Woohoo! Where's my tequila!
Knights of Liberty
12-10-2008, 20:48
*starts making plans to get KoL drunk*

It doesnt require much planning. Show up with a bottle of decent rum.
New Drakonia
12-10-2008, 20:49
*punches in the adam apple*

You were warned.

:eek:
Vetalia
12-10-2008, 21:14
I prefer to let the other person determine that, since I can tolerate a pretty wide range of personal spaces; that way, we're both comfortable with it.
Extreme Ironing
13-10-2008, 10:23
For me, it depends on time. I'm fine with hugs as it is a finite and known length of time. I find I get very uncomfortable if touched or forced to be too close to someone (even a friend) and I don't know when it's going to end.
Iniika
13-10-2008, 10:31
Don't touch me. Don't hug me. Don't assume I need a hug because I'm on my own. Don't touch my things. Don't touch my papers on my desk at work. Don't lie on my bed. Don't sit on my bed, don't brush my bed. Don't even think about my bed. Don't bother me when I've said "I don't want to see anyone" Don't assume this doesn't include you. When I say this, it's only because I don't want to hurt you with "I don't want to see -you-."
Soheran
13-10-2008, 11:52
I'll let anyone hug me. I don't really care. My only "personal space" is my mind.
Vault 10
13-10-2008, 12:36
Oh hell yeah!
Intruders will be dealt with swiftly.

Other than that, I simply don't understand why some people either cannot grasp the concept of personal (air) space, or are unwilling to respect my need for it.

But what do you have to defeat your personal airspace? FIM-43 RedEye? FIM-92 Stinger? RIM-108 BrownEye?
Conserative Morality
13-10-2008, 12:39
Nobody may come within two feet of me. Other then family.
Rathanan
13-10-2008, 14:23
So, how big are ya'lls personal space? Also, how protective are ya'll of ya'lls personal space? For me, Family and Best Friend are allow within my Personal Space, and can even hug me. Everyone else is kept at arms length or greater.

I don't like being touched at all except by friends, family, and the girlfriend.
Blouman Empire
13-10-2008, 14:45
Nobody may come within two feet of me. Other then family.

That must be pretty hard at school, or are you the kid that sits at the very back of the classroom moving your desk at least two feet from everyone else?
Lord Tothe
13-10-2008, 14:51
So, how big are ya'lls personal space? Also, how protective are ya'll of ya'lls personal space? For me, Family and Best Friend are allow within my Personal Space, and can even hug me. Everyone else is kept at arms length or greater.

Dude, you're in my space. Back off. Try Mars, that might be far enough. :p
Zombie PotatoHeads
13-10-2008, 14:52
I'll let anyone hug me. I don't really care. My only "personal space" is my mind.
*cuts Soh's head open and pokes his brain with a stick*
"Hah! now even your personal body space has been invaded!"
German Nightmare
15-10-2008, 14:10
But what do you have to defeat your personal airspace? FIM-43 RedEye? FIM-92 Stinger? RIM-108 BrownEye?
RIM-109s "Smiling" BrownEye II, filled with a bio-chemical tear- and nerve-gas on methane basis.
Nanatsu no Tsuki
15-10-2008, 14:14
I protect my personal space a lot. I have a reduced group of friends, or at least people I can consider friends. I consider myself friendly, just as long as what you do does not cross into my personal space and affects my life.
Vampire Knight Zero
15-10-2008, 14:15
Nanatsu, please check you TG's shortly.
Nanatsu no Tsuki
15-10-2008, 14:15
Nanatsu, please check you TG's shortly.

Wakatta.;)
Vampire Knight Zero
15-10-2008, 14:16
Wakatta.;)

Sent. ;)