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Monotony in stable sex?

New Ausha
06-10-2008, 02:11
Quick question. Simple and straightforward, the best sort of question.

Does sex get boring in a relationship? Of course it does. But how long does this process take for you? A week and your bored? Based on how often you have sex, with a stable relationship partner, how long before the mundane saense of dread everytime you walk into the bedroom/shower/shed/camp/etc set in?
RhynoD
06-10-2008, 02:16
I do have a solution.

The Hello Kitty vibrator (http://www.kittyhell.com/wp-content/uploads/2007/11/hello-kitty-vibrator-pink.thumbnail.jpg).
Knights of Liberty
06-10-2008, 02:19
If your sex gets boring youre doin it wrong.
Mokastana
06-10-2008, 02:21
while it can get borning it just means you got to get creative
Katganistan
06-10-2008, 02:26
Stable sex boring?
Neigh, I say!
Wilgrove
06-10-2008, 02:28
This is when you introduce BDSM. *nod*
Knights of Liberty
06-10-2008, 02:29
This is when you introduce BDSM. *nod*

Agreed. Bondage never gets boring.
H N Fiddlebottoms VIII
06-10-2008, 02:30
Sex never gets boring for me, but after a week or two the constant crying, tugging at their chains and begging to see the sun again starts to wear on my nerves. Not to mention cleaning up after they shit on the floor and bringing food.
Ugh, relationships are such a chore.
Dakini
06-10-2008, 02:39
It varies. Usually this doesn't happen, but one time I was dating this guy who made it monotonous and then had the nerve to complain about the monotony, but when I'd try to be spontaneous and do something different my efforts were shot down.
Dumb Ideologies
06-10-2008, 02:44
Baby Jesus disapproves of stable sex. Seeing Joseph and a prostitute at it in the hay only a few hours after he was born did not impress.
SaintB
06-10-2008, 02:50
Sex has nevr once got boring for me... in fact the longer I'm in a relationship it seems like the more exciting (and often) sex gets.
Dalmatia Cisalpina
06-10-2008, 03:08
Sex in a stable relationship has never been boring for me.
Copiosa Scotia
06-10-2008, 03:15
I personally wouldn't want to have sex in a stable, but I can't say for sure whether it would be boring.
Sarkhaan
06-10-2008, 03:54
Stable sex boring?
Neigh, I say!
*sigh*
I saw it coming, but it didn't hurt any less...
SaintB
06-10-2008, 03:56
*sigh*
I saw it coming, but it didn't hurt any less...

But it did make me lol...
Neesika
06-10-2008, 04:08
Quick question. Simple and straightforward, the best sort of question.

Does sex get boring in a relationship? Of course it does. But how long does this process take for you? A week and your bored? Based on how often you have sex, with a stable relationship partner, how long before the mundane saense of dread everytime you walk into the bedroom/shower/shed/camp/etc set in?

Depends on how honest I can be with a partner, and how willing they are to expand their own horizons.

I've had lovers who got boring the second, or third time I had sex with them...because they were just so not willing to leave their comfort zone to please me. So I stopped having sex with them.

I've had lovers who got into a 'routine', which was for sure partially my fault because I pretended to be more pleased with it than I was. That sort of sex might have gone on a bit longer.

I'm not willing to settle for boring sex anymore. I don't believe that I have to keep switching up partners though...I'm having the best sex of my life right now with my amazing, awesome, alliterated man, and I don't see that changing. Because we have the sort of relationship where we can be honest about things getting stale, and we can both work openly at solving the problem. You know...fucking a filipina, or a red head together :D Etc.
Neesika
06-10-2008, 04:09
This is when you introduce BDSM. *nod*

:rolleyes:

You don't 'introduce' BDSM like it's a new sextoy, or naughty negligee.

Bah, wasting my breath.
Sarkhaan
06-10-2008, 04:09
But it did make me lol...

horse brutality is nothing to laugh about.
Neesika
06-10-2008, 04:10
horse brutality is nothing to laugh about.

*stifles laughter and looks stern*
Sarkhaan
06-10-2008, 04:14
*stifles laughter and looks stern*

where the hell is that trout slap smilie when you need it...
Lunatic Goofballs
06-10-2008, 04:16
Stable sex boring?
Neigh, I say!

Yay! :D
Lunatic Goofballs
06-10-2008, 04:17
:rolleyes:

You don't 'introduce' BDSM like it's a new sextoy, or naughty negligee.

Bah, wasting my breath.

Perhaps a good whipping will learn him!
Katganistan
06-10-2008, 04:17
horse brutality is nothing to laugh about.
Honestly, I can see how unhappy you are being saddled with your lack of adventure...
Neesika
06-10-2008, 04:18
Honestly, I can see how unhappy you are being saddled with your lack of adventure...

Kat, you're pretty much encouraging people to sexually exploit animals.

Give your head a shake.

Just don't whinny.
SaintB
06-10-2008, 04:19
horse brutality is nothing to laugh about.

*Nickers... errmm snickers*

Hay now, thats not what I was getting at.
Lunatic Goofballs
06-10-2008, 04:21
Honestly, I can see how unhappy you are being saddled with your lack of adventure...

Perhaps he should trot on down to the adult book store and pony up for something to spur him on.
Katganistan
06-10-2008, 04:21
Kat, you're pretty much encouraging people to sexually exploit animals.

Give your head a shake.

Just don't whinny.
Apparently, I've managed to stick my hoof in my mouth...
;)

Perhaps he should trot on down to the adult book store and pony up for something to spur him on.
I was gonna say something about bareback riding... but alas, I'd better rein it in.
Neesika
06-10-2008, 04:23
The puns in this thread are nearly Xanthine in their utter crappiness.
SaintB
06-10-2008, 04:25
Perhaps he should trot on down to the adult book store and pony up for something to spur him on.

/thread

LG once more proves why he is funnier than I am.
Bloodlusty Barbarism
06-10-2008, 04:25
The puns in this thread are nearly Xanthine in their utter crappiness.

When you look at it, it's all just a load of horse-shit.
Wilgrove
06-10-2008, 04:25
:rolleyes:

You don't 'introduce' BDSM like it's a new sextoy, or naughty negligee.

Bah, wasting my breath.

Hey, you have to be sure your partner is cool with it. I mean you can't just go into the bedroom in full BDSM gear.....
Bloodlusty Barbarism
06-10-2008, 04:28
Hey, you have to be sure your partner is cool with it. I mean you can't just go into the bedroom in full BDSM gear.....

I generally go everywhere in full BDSM gear...?
Katganistan
06-10-2008, 04:29
When you look at it, it's all just a load of horse-shit.
You can't blame me for wanting to horse around.
Wilgrove
06-10-2008, 04:32
I generally go everywhere in full BDSM gear...?

*slides you my card* *whispers: call me*
OrcItus
06-10-2008, 04:32
dear god what have i walked into....
Wilgrove
06-10-2008, 04:33
dear god what have i walked into....

*doors slam behind you and lock*

One of us....One of us...One of us...
Sarkhaan
06-10-2008, 04:33
http://www.bjacked.net/LuvToHunt/forums/phpBB2/modules/gallery/albums/album01/Beat_Dead_Horse.jpg

Did I just make it worse? :(
Lunatic Goofballs
06-10-2008, 04:35
dear god what have i walked into....

Hay, why the long face?

;)
Soviestan
06-10-2008, 04:37
Within a month I'm usually bored and moving on to someone else.
Katganistan
06-10-2008, 04:38
http://www.bjacked.net/LuvToHunt/forums/phpBB2/modules/gallery/albums/album01/Beat_Dead_Horse.jpg

Did I just make it worse? :(
Stop bleating about it. It doesn't suit ewe.
Sarkhaan
06-10-2008, 04:40
Stop bleating about it. It doesn't suit ewe.

http://www.rockysheep.com/images/Sheep_Suit_Molly1.2.gif

:confused:
Katganistan
06-10-2008, 04:43
http://www.rockysheep.com/images/Sheep_Suit_Molly1.2.gif

:confused:
XD

You came up with that in two shakes of a lamb's tail....
DaWoad
06-10-2008, 04:48
"oh please no! ARGH"
*begins to melt due to horrible horrible puns*
"MELTING!"
*puddle slowly slinks out of the room*
"Ha! got out"
*snicker*
Sarkhaan
06-10-2008, 04:52
XD

You came up with that in two shakes of a lamb's tail....

*sigh*

no good picture for that. How disappointing.


Finding a Ewe suit was surprisingly easy...though, I had rather hoped for a tux.
Katganistan
06-10-2008, 04:53
"oh please no! ARGH"
*begins to melt due to horrible horrible puns*
"MELTING!"
*puddle slowly slinks out of the room*
"Ha! got out"
*snicker*
Yeah, but admit it....

we quack you up.
DaWoad
06-10-2008, 05:01
lol oh of course!
Neesika
06-10-2008, 05:04
The ad on the bottom of the page is for some 'cute kid of the year' contest, with a baby in a diaper and a big hat.

No bestiality involved at all. Clearly the ad filters are getting it wrong.
Smunkeeville
06-10-2008, 15:02
Quick question. Simple and straightforward, the best sort of question.

Does sex get boring in a relationship? Of course it does. But how long does this process take for you? A week and your bored? Based on how often you have sex, with a stable relationship partner, how long before the mundane saense of dread everytime you walk into the bedroom/shower/shed/camp/etc set in?

I've been having sex with the same person for nearly 8 years, it's not ever been boring.......how long before it comes boring?
Wilgrove
06-10-2008, 15:05
I've been having sex with the same person for nearly 8 years, it's not ever been boring.......how long before it comes boring?

Eh probably when he has to use "Daddy's little helper" pills, then you know it's time to call it quits.

I dunno, sometimes I think that sex becomes boring is due not to the fact that the act itself has become boring, but that there's no emotional connection anymore. I've known couples who don't love one another anymore, and to them sex is boring.

However, I'd like (remember, just because I like it to be true, doesn't make it so.) to think that if you're in a loving, caring relationship that is built on trust, respect, and love, then as long as ya'll have a strong emotional connection and bond, sex will never get boring, because sex reminds you of that connection and bond.

I'm an idealistic fool, I know,
Peepelonia
06-10-2008, 15:18
Heh so it seems that your initial premise is wrong.
Cabra West
06-10-2008, 15:21
Monotony in stable sex?

I have to admit, I never had sex in a stable yet. I would imagine the hay can be kind of pricky.
Cabra West
06-10-2008, 15:24
Eh probably when he has to use "Daddy's little helper" pills, then you know it's time to call it quits.

I dunno, sometimes I think that sex becomes boring is due not to the fact that the act itself has become boring, but that there's no emotional connection anymore. I've known couples who don't love one another anymore, and to them sex is boring.

However, I'd like (remember, just because I like it to be true, doesn't make it so.) to think that if you're in a loving, caring relationship that is built on trust, respect, and love, then as long as ya'll have a strong emotional connection and bond, sex will never get boring, because sex reminds you of that connection and bond.

I'm an idealistic fool, I know,

I think there's a bit more to it than that.
Otherwise, one-night-stands and swinging would be boring. Let me assure you, they're not.

I think the trick is to keep it interesting. As in, not to expect it to be interesting automatically, just because it's sex, but to remain interested yourself and keep your partner interested. Whichever form that may take for the individual couple.
Nodinia
06-10-2008, 15:25
Stable sex boring?
Neigh, I say!

Yep, boredom should be a stranger in the manger. Its a veritable zoo of possibilities.
Bitchkitten
06-10-2008, 19:00
Am I the only pervert or did anybody else think horses when they read the title?
New Texoma Land
06-10-2008, 20:01
Eh probably when he has to use "Daddy's little helper" pills, then you know it's time to call it quits.

Nonsense.
Bloodlusty Barbarism
07-10-2008, 00:47
*slides you my card* *whispers: call me*

At this time, would it be sexier for me to purr or whinny?
Neo Art
07-10-2008, 00:57
like anything, if you do the same thing without variation it gets boring after a time. The trick is, thus, to vary. Either in act, or person.