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...live life to the best and utmost of your ability.

I lost a friend Saturday in a boating accident on Lake Washington near Seattle. She was an outstanding violist and string teacher in the area. I had to find out about it on Facebook, and I'm still stunned about it.

It can all end without warning.

So live.

That's it.

Thanks.

That's too bad.

I lost a good friend to a head-on car accident about 3 months ago. He was the passenger. Wasn't special intellectually, but he was an only child (18) and I know how hard it must've been for his father.

I lost my father last year. He was crossing the road at night, street light was out, hit by a car doing just 40km/hr. He was busted up bad - broken leg, broken ribs, lung punctured, massive bruising, skin torn off his legs, right shoulder snapped clean off at the joint. Wouldn't think a car going that slowly would be that dangerous.
It was driven by a 82 yr-old man so perhaps that's why the injuries were so severe. By that I mean he prob didn't react fast enough to break in time, the way you'd expect a much younger person to do.

I was still overseas at the time and Mum phoned me the next day. I managed to get a flight home a couple of days later. He died a few hours after I got there. They had to tie him to the bed to stop him thrashing about, as the pain was too much for him. It was....pretty intense....watching one's father roiling about in agony, dying and not being able to do a damn thing to help him.

I felt particularly terrible because the Friday he was knocked down, I had the day off. I hadn't called him for 3 weeks and felt I really need to. Instead I spent the morning pissing about doing sod-all and then decided it was too late to call. "Tomorrow", I thought to myself, "I'll call him tomorrow."
Not such a good decision.

My sympathies to you at this time. My mother has recently been diagnosed with cancer, so I understand what you mean about life and living it to the full.

It can all end without warning.

So live.

That's it.

Thanks.

That's what I'm trying to do, as for once in my life I'm actually going to have the opportunity. It really sucks when something like that happens so suddenly. There's nothing you can do about it, and then regrets and guilt start flooding in.

I know how it feels, at least somewhat. It happened ages ago, but it still gives me that feeling whenever I think about it.

Live hard die young and leave a good looking corpse

Live hard die young and leave a good looking corpse

But you know that old thing, live fast, die young? Not my way. Live fast, sure, live too bloody fast sometimes, but die young?

Die old. That's the way- not orthodox but I don't live by "the rules" you know.

D. Brent

I'm sorry to hear that...hope you're doing alright

I'm so sorry to hear about your friend. =(

For what it's worth, though, living is exactly what I'm doing right now. My life changed three months ago, and I took it as a chance to start over... start fresh. Redefine my life day by day, and be the person I've always wanted to be, with nothing holding me back. And I am. Thank you for the reminder, though... tonight, I think I needed it.

I hope you're doing all right. <3

But you know that old thing, live fast, die young? Not my way. Live fast, sure, live too bloody fast sometimes, but die young?

Die old. That's the way- not orthodox but I don't live by "the rules" you know.

D. Brent

if you don't die young then your not living fast enough.

...live life to the best and utmost of your ability.

I lost a friend Saturday in a boating accident on Lake Washington near Seattle. She was an outstanding violist and string teacher in the area. I had to find out about it on Facebook, and I'm still stunned about it.

It can all end without warning.

So live.

That's it.

Thanks.
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This is always horrible when this sort of thing happens. Give my condolences to her family.

I'm so sorry to hear about your friend. =(

For what it's worth, though, living is exactly what I'm doing right now. My life changed three months ago, and I took it as a chance to start over... start fresh. Redefine my life day by day, and be the person I've always wanted to be, with nothing holding me back. And I am. Thank you for the reminder, though... tonight, I think I needed it.

I hope you're doing all right. <3

You have a telegram from me, in case you never read it.

*nods*

It might not mean much coming from a total stranger, but I want to offer my condolences. I hope you and your friend's family can find some comfort in each other in the days ahead.

(Respectfully removes virtual hat and lowers virtual head)

...live life to the best and utmost of your ability.

I lost a friend Saturday in a boating accident on Lake Washington near Seattle. She was an outstanding violist and string teacher in the area. I had to find out about it on Facebook, and I'm still stunned about it.

It can all end without warning.

So live.

That's it.

Thanks.

I'm very sorry to hear about your friend.

I hope everyone will take your reminder to heart. I know I'll try to.

...live life to the best and utmost of your ability.

I lost a friend Saturday in a boating accident on Lake Washington near Seattle. She was an outstanding violist and string teacher in the area. I had to find out about it on Facebook, and I'm still stunned about it.

It can all end without warning.

So live.

That's it.

Thanks.

I think I know which one you're talking about. The close friend of the daughter of one of my teachers got killed in that accident. It didn't really hit me personally, because I didn't know her but I was and still am rather sorry to hear about the loss.

Condolences.

I'm sorry for the loss of your friend. That's very sad.

Commiserations!

my condolences for all your losses.

i was talking yesterday to an 85 and a 90 year old woman. i said something like that i hoped i was as spry as they are when i get to be that age.

the 90 year old said to me (at the swimming pool where she was getting ready to swim) not to worry about what i would do when im 90 but to live THIS year to its best. to make sure that TODAY is what it should be. and let 90 take care of itself because you never know what is going to happen tomorrow.

Intangelon, I'm so sorry to hear about your friend. My heart goes out to you, and to everyone who has lost someone recently.

I guess I needed this reminder just now. I'm at a crossroads in my life, and independently, my mom is at a crossroads in hers, too. There's so much going on for both of us, both good and bad, so many choices to make and so much pressure from other people's expectations and economic fears. But when we remember that none of us knows when the game is going to end for us and that we have no idea how much time we have, it does make it a lot easier to prioritize what's important in life.

I wish I could say anything to help you feel happier, but I do want to thank you for a serious reality check over breakfast.

"It's not that I'm afraid to die, I just don't want to be there when it happens."

"I don't want to achieve immortality through my works - I want to achieve it through not dying."

Woody Allen

I'm sorry for your loss.

Thanks to everyone.

...live life to the best and utmost of your ability.

I lost a friend Saturday in a boating accident on Lake Washington near Seattle. She was an outstanding violist and string teacher in the area. I had to find out about it on Facebook, and I'm still stunned about it.

It can all end without warning.

So live.

That's it.

Thanks.

Damnit man.

Sorry.

I need no more reminders than the ones I've already lost too soon.

And I hope you're taking your own advice as well.

I'm especially sorry you had to find out in such an impersonal way. It seems to add to the shock.

If you've faced this kind of thing before, you'll know you can get some weird feelings, like being angry with them for dying, or with yourself for not being there. Just hang on, and please be nice to yourself. You don't have to be rational about death.

Sympathy is all I can give, but you're getting lots of it.

I agree with Ardchoille, finding out on Facebook or something similar is very unfortunate.

All I can suggest is Victoria's Requiem.

I'm very sorry for your loss.

Two years ago, on a rainy night, I lost my roommate to a traffic accident. In fact, it was less than a week ago that it was two years to the day. He was a great man, as a freshman in college, he had already started a real estate business and had a brilliant future planned out. He was going to start a charitable foundation to help people out of poverty.
Now, his father has carried on his dream, and the J9 Foundation helps people, through entrepreneurship, pull themselves up.

He was the kind of person who truly lived every day. And to this day, I try to remember that lesson.

I would again like to present my condolences to you. I hope that you always remember the lesson and do not take your life for granted. Always remember your friend, and live for her sake.

Intangelon, I´m truly sorry for your loss. There´s nothing else I can say.

Loss... it is something we must all suffer in life. My sympthies to you in this dark time, my friend.