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Ok, so on Aug. 25th, I moved into my own apartment. This is my first time living in an actual apartment. Anyways, I have neighbors to my left, right and below. For the past few days, one of my neighbors decide to let me in on his musical taste and honestly, I don't care.

Is there anyway to find out which of my three neighbors is sharing his music, so that I can calmly tell them to turn it down, and to turn off the bass?

Knock on the doors. It shouldn't be that hard to find out anyway because of a little thing called sense of hearing. Just press your ear to each wall.

If you're renting you could check what your contract says about noise at unsociable hours, but going to your landlord should be only a last resort, in my opinion.

if in doubt, shoot up all three of your neighbours *nods*

Knock on the doors. It shouldn't be that hard to find out anyway because of a little thing called sense of hearing. Just press your ear to each wall.

Yea, that works if you have both set of ears. I have a hearing aid on only one side of my head.

The walls in the apartments here are much thinner, so imagine what I hear. O.O

I lived in apartments for 20 years till I bought a house and had to deal with this same issue a few times. Try these steps and you should solve your problem

1) Go knock on their door and ask them to turn it down. 8 out of 10 times this is all you need to do unless they are jerks. In case of jerks go to step 2.

2) Get your landlord involved. If He/She gets enough complaints something will be done. In case your landlord will not do anything go to step 3.

3) Check your city's noise ordinance. If he is in violation call the cops on him.
The first time is usually a warning. After that the fines start racking up. This will solve the issue most times. If 3 is not an option go to step 4.

4) Get a large stereo and something not in the noise makers taste in music. Place your speakers against your adjoining wall and crank the volume up as high as you dare. This is best to do early on a Sunday morning. Once this is done go for a long walk, grab a coffee and so on. At this point he will get your message.

Good Luck

I just paid attention who was home when i heard very loud music, turned out it was my neighbour to the front. I asked her to be quiet at night, she did. Trying to stay on good terms with neighbours you can hear is generally a good thing :)

You can't turn off your hearing aid?

dont expect your neighbors to never bother you.

get used to a bit of noise unless its very loud during normal sleeping hours. expect that you will also hear them fight and (sometimes) have sex.

and that they will cook food that has a nauseating lingering scent.

for your own part, keep the fish and cabbage to a minimum. dont play loud music. keep to your designated parking space and dont let your guests park in other people's spots. if you have a party, inform your neighbors and invite them if possible. keep your curtains closed when you are naked and dont let the headboard bang against the wall during sex.

Ok, so on Aug. 25th, I moved into my own apartment. This is my first time living in an actual apartment. Anyways, I have neighbors to my left, right and below. For the past few days, one of my neighbors decide to let me in on his musical taste and honestly, I don't care.

Is there anyway to find out which of my three neighbors is sharing his music, so that I can calmly tell them to turn it down, and to turn off the bass?I always ask nicely once, and if I don't get the desired result I call the cops. At first I'll go over and knock on the offenders door. "Hey, I can't hear my TV/concentrate/sleep with the music at that volume. Could you turn it down a bit. Thanks."

If they're difficult or noncompliant call the cops. If they keep it up you can actually press charges. I only had to go that far once.

Put your hand on the common wall and feel for a vibration, if the music is loud enough to bother you when you only have one hearing aid in, it's probably shaking the wall.

Then go to their apartment and knock nicely but firmly. (loud enough to be heard, softer than the cops do) Ask them to please turn it down a bit or listen to it away from the wall in the room you are in. Have a sob story in hand (ie I work nights, I sleep right now)

What time is the music being played?

If it is during the day just ignore it. If it is at night you should ignore it if it only happens occasionally. If it is a common occurance you should just play your own music as loud as you can.

dont expect your neighbors to never bother you.

get used to a bit of noise unless its very loud during normal sleeping hours.

What time is the music being played?

If it is during the day just ignore it. If it is at night you should ignore it if it only happens occasionally. If it is a common occurance you should just play your own music as loud as you can.

Ok, this "non-sleeping" house/daytime allowance of loud music is silly. If your music is so loud that your neighbors can clearly hear it through the walls, it's too loud. If this is a problem, then seek a new residence where the walls are thicker. It is easier to go through your day without moronically loud music than it is to sleep through that crap. And define for me normal sleeping hours? I work nights sometimes and I need to catch up on sleep during the day, those are my "normal" sleeping hours.

My downstairs neighbor was pulling this stupidly loud music nonsense. I stomped on my floor and nearly knocked his ceiling fan out of the ceiling. It was a bit of an over-reaction (wake me up an hour into the only nap in 36 hours with music so loud it shakes my fucking walls and I will over-react) but he's since kept it down some.

Is there anyway to find out which of my three neighbors is sharing his music, so that I can calmly tell them to turn it down, and to turn off the bass?
Listen as to where its coming from and ask your neighbors. Could be you're not the only one that has a problem with it and that the issue has been addressed before.

Is there anyway to find out which of my three neighbors is sharing his music, so that I can calmly tell them to turn it down, and to turn off the bass?

why not come over and make some friends? or rather get used to living in the close quarters of apartments

The walls in the apartments here are much thinner, so imagine what I hear. O.O

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Is there anyway to find out which of my three neighbors is sharing his music, so that I can calmly tell them to turn it down, and to turn off the bass?
Talk to them... obviously.

Do people not talk anymore?

Do people not talk anymore?

welcome to the internet.

Honestly, usually people will turn down their music/tv/whatever if you ask them nicely.

Strange smells may be harder to eradicate. Be grateful you're not dealing with those yet.

Welcome to the world! Just listen close to each wall and out where it's coming from, then go and have a word if it's late at night or really loud. However in most blocs, expect to hear some sort of noise, that's just the way things are. But people just need to be reasonable... On your part don't expect zero noise of any kind, and on their part, have a little consideration. Most people are reasonable, and if not speak to the others who are having grief and get each person to complain to the landlord or police. Usually that's not needed though.

Honestly, usually people will turn down their music/tv/whatever if you ask them nicely.

Strange smells may be harder to eradicate. Be grateful you're not dealing with those yet.

Incense cones to make your own scent are best. There's not a great deal you can do to stop it really, especially if you live in a diverse area where everyone cooks different food. The Malay Muslims in my block don't like it when the Chinese Christians cook pork as they say it stinks the place out, but I don't really notice it myself.

You could ask and if they don't turn it down then you can talk to your superintendent/landlord. Just don't be a jerk about it and chances are they'll be neighbourly and polite.

I'm lucky because my building is small so there are only two apartments per floor and I'm on the top floor. I don't have to hear anybody do anything unless I wander into the hall (although I do hear squirrels run across the roof from time to time).

I'm lucky because my building is small so there are only two apartments per floor and I'm on the top floor. I don't have to hear anybody do anything unless I wander into the hall (although I do hear squirrels run across the roof from time to time).

but what do they hear? :wink:

but what do they hear? :wink:
Well, the lady who used to live below me was insane, she would bang on her ceiling/my floor with a broom if I was quietly typing away in the living room late at night with the music on low (I have a roommate too so I wasn't being noisy) and came upstairs to yell at my roommate for having furniture moved into the building on a Saturday at 11 in the morning (she also complained about her friends laughing late one night, I don't think she ever complained about my friends being over and being loud but my friends tend to live further away so they often leave earlier in the evening) and I think she was the one who gave me dirty looks when I came into the building here and there. She used to live above my superintendent and would call his apartment to ask him to turn down the tv/music in the middle of the day or early in the evening so he and my landlord didn't take her to be anything other than a crank.
The new downstairs neighbour is alright. I haven't heard a peep from him about noise in my apartment.

Incense cones to make your own scent are best. There's not a great deal you can do to stop it really, especially if you live in a diverse area where everyone cooks different food. The Malay Muslims in my block don't like it when the Chinese Christians cook pork as they say it stinks the place out, but I don't really notice it myself.

It's not so much the cooking as ... the other strange smells that come from living in an apartment with no ventilation.

It's not so much the cooking as ... the other strange smells that come from living in an apartment with no ventilation.

Walling then up or wrapping them in clingfilm just isn't acceptable. It causes damp, bad odours and even rodent problems and is very antisocial in a communal building. Either dump them in the river or get a damn chest freezer. :rolleyes:

:tongue:

be polite when asking them to turn down the music/noise.

if in doubt, shoot up all three of your neighbours *nods*

This. If violence isn't solving your problems you're not using enough.

Talk to them... obviously.

Do people not talk anymore?

Sadly, no. Every time I move to a new apartment my neighbors tell me I'm the first neighbor they've met in a long time, and I live in a small town (30,000 people).

You're in America, right?

Locate the speakers' location then shoot bullets through the wall at them. Job's a good 'un.

Sadly, no. Every time I move to a new apartment my neighbors tell me I'm the first neighbor they've met in a long time, and I live in a small town (30,000 people).

Must really depend on the exact location...I'm in Boston, and while I was moving in, one of my neighbors got us a 6 pack of water, and the other came up to introduce himself (the building is only three apartments, so we met at least one person from each)

OIs there anyway to find out which of my three neighbors is sharing his music, so that I can calmly tell them to turn it down, and to turn off the bass?
Calmly ASK them. Don't TELL them what to do, or you may irritate them into worse behavior.

Must really depend on the exact location...I'm in Boston, and while I was moving in, one of my neighbors got us a 6 pack of water, and the other came up to introduce himself (the building is only three apartments, so we met at least one person from each)

I think it may have something to do with the fact that half of my small town (and all of my neighbors) are college students from Metro Detroit.

I think it may have something to do with the fact that half of my small town (and all of my neighbors) are college students from Metro Detroit.

Nah...I live in the student ghetto for BU, BC, Harvard, and Berklee...plenty of students abound.

Nah...I live in the student ghetto for BU, BC, Harvard, and Berklee...plenty of students abound.

Yeah, but they're not snobby rich kids from Grosse Pointe who can't stand to stay in town for an entire weekend, much less mingle with the common townfolk.

...but I digress.

There are these amazing things called headphones that let you listen to music as loud as you want without bothering your neighbors.

I hear they even make 'em without cords now!

You should give your neighbors a pair...they'll get the hint.

There are these amazing things called headphones that let you listen to music as loud as you want without bothering your neighbors.

I hear they even make 'em without cords now!

You should give your neighbors a pair...they'll get the hint.

I suggested those for the upstairs neighbor I had in Bismarck who thought blasting Guitar Hero III at 2 am with her friends was a smart thing to do. I have to believe it was that game because it's the only way I can rationalize hearing the same track over and over again.

Where the fuck have common sense and common courtesy gone? Don't answer that...I'm still in a decent mood.

Talk to them... obviously.

Do people not talk anymore?
Well, back when some Aussie friends of mine still lived in Berlin and when we still went over for LAN partys, their neighbors in the house across from them (the neighbors from the house adjoining theirs sent their kid to the LAN partys) would take to drilling whenever they had the impression we were too loud.

My Grandmother's neighbor took to suing, instead.

There are these amazing things called headphones that let you listen to music as loud as you want without bothering your neighbors.

I hear they even make 'em without cords now!

You should give your neighbors a pair...they'll get the hint.It's funny, but my steroe actually doesn't have a plug for earphones. Plus, the bass comes across better.

I'm in a block of 8 flats: 4 on the ground floor in a sqaure and four on the first floor. I like to play music on my stereo. If one of my neighbours asks me to turn it down I would.

No problems, someone just needs to ask. If they don't I can only conclude that it isn't bothering anyone.

I used to live next to someone who would bang on the wall really loudly at all times of the day and night. Sometimes it was so loud I could hardly hear myself drilling.

If you can live with the noise, I'd just grin and bear it. I used to live on an incredibly noisy street, and compared to the guy on a night shift who liked to watch action movies when he got home...in the morning, the other guy who liked beating up his girlfriend, the multitude of drunken 5am revellers who once smashed in our door for kicks, the yuppie garden parties, the cars, the kebab vendors, and the general London life, next door's amateur electronica geek was frankly peaceful!

Plus, if you don't complain, it gives you licence to play your own stuff as loud as you want. Kick out the jams, motherfuckers...

If you're renting you could check what your contract says about noise at unsociable hours, but going to your landlord should be only a last resort, in my opinion.

No it shouldn't

Over this past weekend our neighbors above us had a party that went until at least 2:30 AM. The noise of kids (!) stomping around even at that late hour actually woke up my baby daughter on at least one occasion. I considered calling the police several times but each time just as I'd resolved to call them the noise would die down, and I'd hesitate in the hope that it wouldn't be necessary.

The next morning, I found a broken beer bottle, assorted rubbish, and some kind of spilled beverage on the steps in the stairwell. Outside on my patio, I found empty plastic cups, napkins, and at least a dozen beer bottlecaps strewn about the grass and the concrete as if they'd simply been tossing them over or sweeping them off their porch.

I went to the rental office yesterday afternoon on other business and while there I brought up the subject, and was told sternly (in a friendly customer service way) that I really SHOULD have called the police so that it would at least be documented, and that the apartment will bill the occupants for the cost of the cleanup. I was told in no uncertain terms not to hesitate to call the rental office if the problem (of constant noise form that apartment anyway) doesn't resolve withing a couple days. Not a last resort, a FIRST resort.

I like my neighbourhood's tastes in music, and we all sound awesome when we're having sex.

And they get all the joy of listening to my children!

I like my neighbourhood's tastes in music, and we all sound awesome when we're having sex.

And they get all the joy of listening to my children!

Well, some are fortunate.

I used to live in apartments back in the day. Been kicked out of a few when I was young for parties. But the worst thing I believe is that you hear all of your neighbors sexual habits if their rooms border your apartment. I lived in one in Germany that had my neighbors bedroom lined up with my bedroom. Apparently our head boards were lined up to. Because whenever I had the gf over for some fun that would start up the neighbors like clockwork. Nearly every time. I got mad the first half dozen times then it was a bit of a joke and then turned into who could make the most noise.

Ok, so on Aug. 25th, I moved into my own apartment. This is my first time living in an actual apartment. Anyways, I have neighbors to my left, right and below. For the past few days, one of my neighbors decide to let me in on his musical taste and honestly, I don't care.

Is there anyway to find out which of my three neighbors is sharing his music, so that I can calmly tell them to turn it down, and to turn off the bass?

I have the same problem with all the undergrad punks that move into my apartment complex during the regular school year... What I do is I make like Tucan Sam and follow my nose... Only instead of my nose, I follow my ears.

No it shouldn't

Over this past weekend our neighbors above us had a party that went until at least 2:30 AM. The noise of kids (!) stomping around even at that late hour actually woke up my baby daughter on at least one occasion. I considered calling the police several times but each time just as I'd resolved to call them the noise would die down, and I'd hesitate in the hope that it wouldn't be necessary.

The next morning, I found a broken beer bottle, assorted rubbish, and some kind of spilled beverage on the steps in the stairwell. Outside on my patio, I found empty plastic cups, napkins, and at least a dozen beer bottlecaps strewn about the grass and the concrete as if they'd simply been tossing them over or sweeping them off their porch.

I went to the rental office yesterday afternoon on other business and while there I brought up the subject, and was told sternly (in a friendly customer service way) that I really SHOULD have called the police so that it would at least be documented, and that the apartment will bill the occupants for the cost of the cleanup. I was told in no uncertain terms not to hesitate to call the rental office if the problem (of constant noise form that apartment anyway) doesn't resolve withing a couple days. Not a last resort, a FIRST resort.

Well, your's is a different situation. the OP was only mentioning loud music being played. yours is a party.

the OP's situation only caused a lack of sleep. yours is hazardous with the broken glass and peices of metal (bottlecaps).

the OP is more likely to encounter one person and could possibly reason with them while yours was more likely to encounter a group of people who would be drunk or worse.

and yours affected other areas (litter on the steps, grass area and other places) while the op was more localized.

so yeah, for yours, calling the landlord / Cops is the appropriate first or near first step. but for just loud music and not a party... I would rather try to resolve it without it becoming 'official'.

No it shouldn't

Over this past weekend our neighbors above us had a party that went until at least 2:30 AM. The noise of kids (!) stomping around even at that late hour actually woke up my baby daughter on at least one occasion. I considered calling the police several times but each time just as I'd resolved to call them the noise would die down, and I'd hesitate in the hope that it wouldn't be necessary.

The next morning, I found a broken beer bottle, assorted rubbish, and some kind of spilled beverage on the steps in the stairwell. Outside on my patio, I found empty plastic cups, napkins, and at least a dozen beer bottlecaps strewn about the grass and the concrete as if they'd simply been tossing them over or sweeping them off their porch.

I went to the rental office yesterday afternoon on other business and while there I brought up the subject, and was told sternly (in a friendly customer service way) that I really SHOULD have called the police so that it would at least be documented, and that the apartment will bill the occupants for the cost of the cleanup. I was told in no uncertain terms not to hesitate to call the rental office if the problem (of constant noise form that apartment anyway) doesn't resolve withing a couple days. Not a last resort, a FIRST resort.

Did you ask them to quiet down?

In my experience, most people are more than willing to do so quickly. The most I've had to ask was twice...once when the noise went down a little, and the second, I told them I'd have to call the cops if they didn't shut up (this was 2 AM and 3 AM)