NationStates Jolt Archive

I've been pondering over 2 questions latley.

#1: At what age can a person meet, and recognise, "the one"?
#2: Do soulmates exist?

and for a bonus, any thoughts on marrige in general, good or bad.

I personally believe that people can recognise some one as "the one" at the age 20. And for soulmates, I hope it's true.

Since I'm smarter than most of you n00bs-- iWiil you nwill not cry

1. There is no "one". If you're asking at what age can a person meet and recognize another person with whom they could form a lasting romantic relationship, I'd say that depends entirely on the two people involved, but I would generally place it after adulthood begins.

2. No.

1. Any age, presumably, although it certainly seems more likely in adulthood. I don't exactly believe in "the one," though, since it is certainly possible to love more than one person in a lifetime.
2. It rather depends on how you're defining the term. If you mean "people who really love each other and understand each other better than most others do," absolutely. If you mean "people who are perfect for each other in every single way and will never fight or drive each other nuts or get sick of each others' stupid habits," no.

As for marriage in general...um, it rather depends on the marriage. Happy marriages are good. Unhappy marriages are bad. Yeah.

Let me define 'Soul mates' as I see it: Soulmates are two people fated to meet and fall in love. this is contary to my beliefs in free will, but if the idea of Soulmates is bunk.... Considering my people skills, I'm looking at never falling in love. Hmm....

No offense but if you are only hoping, you are reducing the chance of it happening. Having a high standards, believing in soul mates, or expecting it to happen on it's own at a certain age certainly doesn't help in terms of probabilities.

I've been pondering over 2 questions latley.

#1: At what age can a person meet, and recognise, "the one"?
#2: Do soulmates exist?

and for a bonus, any thoughts on marrige in general, good or bad.

I personally believe that people can recognise some one as "the one" at the age 20. And for soulmates, I hope it's true.

#1. This varies so much from person to person as to make the question meaningless.

#2. I can't say, as I currently lack personal experience in the matter.;)

there is no "the one" and there are no soul mates.

you can fall in love at any age after puberty.

getting married is not a matter of finding the perfect person for you. that person doesnt exist. its a matter of loving a person, her loving you back, and each of you being at a place in life where you are ready to settle down with one person and build a life together.

that is best done when you are done with school, able to hold down a steady job, mature enough to discuss difficult issues with your sweetheart, and know yourself well enough to know what is important to you in life.

Good advice here. Keep an open mind. The best decisions in my life were ones which I never really would have thought I'd have selected years before - my career, where I live, even my wife; had you told me these things when I was a teen I would have been sure you had the wrong guy.


As far as spouse selection goes; there is plenty of advice - but I would say the best is not to select the prettiest/handsomest, not the richest, nor even the nicest. select the person most likely to create, support and reinforce a lifetime partnership with you. Everything else takes a backseat to that. This is a person with whom you will have to negotiate and agree with on everything from where you go to church to what brand of beer you keep in the fridge.

Well I'm Fifteen, and I'm pretty sure I've found teh one.

Well I'm Fifteen, and I'm pretty sure I've found teh one.
good luck with that.

Good advice here. Keep an open mind. The best decisions in my life were ones which I never really would have thought I'd have selected years before - my career, where I live, even my wife; had you told me these things when I was a teen I would have been sure you had the wrong guy.


As far as spouse selection goes; there is plenty of advice - but I would say the best is not to select the prettiest/handsomest, not the richest, nor even the nicest. select the person most likely to create, support and reinforce a lifetime partnership with you. Everything else takes a backseat to that. This is a person with whom you will have to negotiate and agree with on everything from where you go to church to what brand of beer you keep in the fridge.

surely there is room for two kinds of beer...

Well I'm Fifteen, and I'm pretty sure I've found teh one.

good luck, and I mean it.

I didn't find a girl I really liked until later on, when I was... 18. Yea I guess that's not that much longer really. Just remember later on, if you guys break up that its not the end of the world, and there's a lot of fish in the sea.

good luck with that.

I don't need it :)

surely there is room for two kinds of beer...



good luck, and I mean it.

I didn't find a girl I really liked until later on, when I was... 18. Yea I guess that's not that much longer really. Just remember later on, if you guys break up that its not the end of the world, and there's a lot of fish in the sea.

Well we've been "going out"/dating for about 180 days now, not sure of the exact amount at the moment.

there is no "the one"
http://thecaucus.blogs.nytimes.com/2008/08/01/mccain-ad-mocks-obama-as-the-one/
Sure about that?

I'd say... if there is only one person in the world that you can get along with well enough to marry then you are a pretty big bitch.

I don't need it :)M'kay .... perhaps you'd consider starting a thread where you can show people how to do the right things in getting into and maintaining a healthy, loving, respectful, fruitful relationship. Mod knows most of the posters here haven't the faintest about it.

I've already found the one. That means I get to move onto the next level and look for the two.

Anyone know where I can find Swedish twins?

You thought about saying "Try Sweden", right?

I've already found the one. That means I get to move onto the next level and look for the two.

Anyone know where I can find Swedish twins?

You thought about saying "Try Sweden", right?

Why I'm working on finding that elusive "The Win", and I did fine "The Two", then I lost them...because this post is "The Fail" :) and :p

I don't really think there is a "the one". I think there are lots of people that any particular person would do well with. Someone just has to be old enough to know themselves before they find a good partner, I think.

Anyone know where I can find Swedish twins?

You thought about saying "Try Sweden", right?Well, that did happen, yes, but then I thought of Baguetten and kinda lost interest.

it depends on the person, people mature at different rates - although most people have finished fully maturing by their mid 20s, but people can fall in love at any point, and meet someone whom they can recognize as a person they can build a long lasting relationship with at any point, and even start that relationship long before adulthood
its just a matter of it being more likely once people have fully matured emotionally

as for soulmates, to an extent - you can find someone who could end up being your 'soulmate' - for all intents and purposes you might never argue (beyond a play argument) with them, though thats highly unlikely but you werent fated to be together, its just pure luck you would meet and happen to be right for one another

and as for marriage? thats a very vague subject, but basically as long as two people are in love - and have established they are ready for marriage - i say go for it, get married

M'kay .... perhaps you'd consider starting a thread where you can show people how to do the right things in getting into and maintaining a healthy, loving, respectful, fruitful relationship. Mod knows most of the posters here haven't the faintest about it.

Well i could...

I don't need it :)

That's what you're saying now.

http://thecaucus.blogs.nytimes.com/2008/08/01/mccain-ad-mocks-obama-as-the-one/
Sure about that?
its an odd campaign strategy:

dont vote for obama, you love him too much.

I've been pondering over 2 questions latley.

#1: At what age can a person meet, and recognise, "the one"?
#2: Do soulmates exist?

and for a bonus, any thoughts on marrige in general, good or bad.

I personally believe that people can recognise some one as "the one" at the age 20. And for soulmates, I hope it's true.

1. Not any age people live to.
2. No. Sorry, no.

I've been pondering over 2 questions latley.

#1: At what age can a person meet, and recognise, "the one"?
#2: Do soulmates exist?

and for a bonus, any thoughts on marrige in general, good or bad.

I personally believe that people can recognise some one as "the one" at the age 20. And for soulmates, I hope it's true.

1) The one what?
2) No.

Marriage is handy if you're living with a partner, as it provides some rather useful tax benefits as well as some laws regarding custody of children and the likes.

1. I really doubt there's an "age."
2. No way. But I'm bitter--I stopped believing in that 'soulmate' junk after a bad relationship (of course!). Anyway, though, for certain really lucky individuals, there's someone out there who's just as crazy and weird as they are, and I guess you can call those "soulmates" if you really wanted to...

If you think that there is one person out of six billion that you would be totally perfect for in every way, then you are fucked son. The chances of you ever meeting him or her are really slim.

I've been pondering over 2 questions latley.

#1: At what age can a person meet, and recognise, "the one"?
#2: Do soulmates exist?

and for a bonus, any thoughts on marrige in general, good or bad.

I personally believe that people can recognise some one as "the one" at the age 20. And for soulmates, I hope it's true.

I don't believe in 'the one'. I believe in varying levels of compatability. You're more likely to assess those levels properly the better you know yourself and your own needs. So, I believe that unless you are extraordinarily self-aware at a young age, the older you are, the more likely you are to be able to accurately determine whether someone is 'right' for you.

So no, I don't think soulmates exist. I think that there are certain people who just fit better into your particular paradigm than others. Some of them will remain good friends, some of them will become lovers.

I do believe in extraordinary good luck...because with said good luck, I've found someone who I can actually envision spending the rest of my life with, and who seems pretty freaking perfect when it comes to compatability. Knowing what I want, and who I am came at a hard price though...11 years in a marriage I was never really happy in. Still...had I met this new, wonderful person when I was 18, we probably wouldn't have worked out. It worked out for the best then.

I believe there are "many" not just one.
Are you old enough to notice the opposite sex ( or, in some cases, just sex)?

I knew my "one" when I was four months from being born.

But then she was aborted.

It's been a long and lonely life.

:(

I personally believe that people can recognise some one as "the one" at the age 20.

Kondisaluka, at the age of 20, I almost got engaged to someone who is a very good guy. The problem is, he was going to Alabama and then California with the Air Force. I was staying home to finish college. So where does that leave me?

A good guy, but not "the one." Also, as a note, be careful who you marry because it could lead to the death of your dreams. That's why I didn't get engaged to him -- I would have finished my degree, followed him, never gone to graduate school, never gotten my Ph.D., never been employed. Five years from now, I would have woken up and hated him. And he's a really good guy, I don't want to hate him. So we broke it off and remain friends to this day, even discussing our significant others and crushes with no awkwardness. Cool, huh?

I knew my "one" when I was four months from being born.

But then she was aborted.

It's been a long and lonely life.

:(

You're so lucky you have me to fill the gap :fluffle:

I've been pondering over 2 questions latley.

#1: At what age can a person meet, and recognise, "the one"?
#2: Do soulmates exist?

and for a bonus, any thoughts on marrige in general, good or bad.

I personally believe that people can recognise some one as "the one" at the age 20. And for soulmates, I hope it's true.

#1.- irrelevant
#2,- yes, met mine 17 yrs ago, happily married w. 3 kids
:D:D:D life is good! :D:D:D

You're so lucky you have me to fill the gap :fluffle:

I suppose you'll do, but there was nothing quite like fetus-loving.

I suppose you'll do, but there was nothing quite like fetus-loving.

I can assume the fetal position if you want.

I can assume the fetal position if you want.

Thats why I do you. :fluffle:

Thats why I do you. :fluffle:

:fluffle::fluffle::fluffle::fluffle::fluffle: