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The betrayal of parents

Londim
15-07-2008, 17:26
Canoe sons' anger at 'betrayal'
Mark Darwin (left) and Anthony Darwin
The brothers say they did not know their father was alive

The sons of the man who faked his own death have told their mother in court that she "betrayed" them.

Anne Darwin stuck to her story that she was a "tragically bereaved widow" even when told her husband was still alive, Teesside Crown Court has heard.

Mark Darwin, 32, said: "I couldn't believe the fact she knew he was alive all this time."

Mrs Darwin, 56, denies five counts of obtaining money by deception and one of obtaining property by deception.

She says her husband forced her to go along with the plan.

Mark Darwin said his "world was crushed" when he was told his father was missing presumed dead off the Hartlepool coast in 2002.

He told the court his mother had embraced him at her seafront room after his father vanished.

"She flung her arms around me, she said 'He's gone I think. I have lost him'," he said.

"She wouldn't stop crying for ages. We just stood in the drawing room doorway."


In our submission, this was a woman who even at this stage, when the writing's on the wall, had the strength of character to keep to the original story
Andrew Robertson QC, prosecuting

He told how his mother had been "distraught" in the weeks that followed, and how she could not eat, sleep or drink.

"She wandered around the house in a daze like the rest of us," he said.

His younger brother Anthony, from Basingstoke, Hampshire, said he found his mother "crying and shaking" after the disappearance and said she had found it difficult to grieve without a body.

The 29-year-old went on to tell the court that he felt "disbelief and anger" when his father reappeared at a London police station last year, as he thought it was an impostor.

He also said he felt "upset and betrayed" when a photograph of his parents in Panama emerged four years after the disappearance.

Mrs Darwin dabbed her eyes in the dock and blew her nose as her sons gave evidence against her.

Prosecutor Andrew Robertson QC told the jury that when John Darwin walked into a London police station in December last year, claiming to be suffering from amnesia, Mrs Darwin was living in Panama with assets of £500,000.

He said: "The brothers contacted their mother and - this says everything, say the Crown - on receipt of this news that her husband was still alive she pretended to be overcome with emotion, putting up a pretence that John Darwin, her long-lost husband, had returned from the dead.

Anne and John Darwin
Anne Darwin was living in Panama when her husband reappeared

"In our submission, this was a woman who even at this stage, when the writing's on the wall, had the strength of character to keep to the original story.

"It is the Crown's submission that far from dealing here with a 'shrinking violet', we have here a determined, resolute woman who was able to lie and deceive at length... who was able to act out the emotions of a tragically bereaved widow."

The jury was then shown a photograph of Mr and Mrs Darwin with an estate agent in Panama, reportedly taken in 2004.

In the days following Mr Darwin's reappearance this photograph was published in a national newspaper, the court heard.

Mrs Darwin then changed her story, although continuing to insist that she had genuinely believed that he had drowned when she began making claims on the insurance companies, according to Mr Robertson.

Mr Darwin's canoe was found in the sea close to his home at Seaton Carew in 2002.

A huge air-sea search failed to find any trace of his body, and he was later pronounced dead.

Mr Darwin has admitted deception and will be sentenced later.

The trial continues.
Source (http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/england/tees/7507762.stm)

So lying to her own sons that her father was dead all for an insurance scam. I can't think of many more things heartless than that...I mean parents lie to their children about trivial things but to say something so traumatic I don't blame the anger the sons feel at their parents.

What say you NSG?
Philosopy
15-07-2008, 17:27
I have to say that I'm still surprised they're actually giving evidence against them, though. That requires more than anger.
Londim
15-07-2008, 17:29
I have to say that I'm still surprised they're actually giving evidence against them, though. That requires more than anger.

Most likely hate. It's a pretty big thing to lie about to your kids.
Philosopy
15-07-2008, 17:30
Most likely hate. It's a pretty big thing to lie about to your kids.

Yeah, but surely there must be part of you that is pleased that he is actually alive?
Hotwife
15-07-2008, 17:32
Yeah, but surely there must be part of you that is pleased that he is actually alive?

He's an ass, too, for pretending to be dead.
Londim
15-07-2008, 17:35
Yeah, but surely there must be part of you that is pleased that he is actually alive?

I won't argue against that. From what I gather they only gave evidence against their mother as their father is yet to be sentenced.
Sane Outcasts
15-07-2008, 17:44
Yeah, but surely there must be part of you that is pleased that he is actually alive?

What reason would they have to be glad? He abandoned them as part of a scheme to make money, let them go through the pain of losing a parent while living off of that money, and still kept in contact with his spouse after years after the staged death while letting them think he was dead. The ass didn't even see them before turning himself in, he just showed up a police station. The article mentions they thought it was an impostor at first.
Philosopy
15-07-2008, 17:46
What reason would they have to be glad? He abandoned them as part of a scheme to make money, let them go through the pain of losing a parent while living off of that money, and still kept in contact with his spouse after years after the staged death while letting them think he was dead. The ass didn't even see them before turning himself in, he just showed up a police station. The article mentions they thought it was an impostor at first.

I'm not saying they should particularly like them right now. My point is simply that it's quite a big thing to actively give evidence against them.
Tapao
15-07-2008, 17:55
He's an ass, too, for pretending to be dead.

He's also an ass for handing himself in, I seriously don't understand why he did that. He seemed to be living the high life in Panama so why hand himself in and end all of it? Has he said why?
Conserative Morality
15-07-2008, 18:05
I feel sorry for them. Two of them had to go through the pain of losing a parent.:(. Why would someone do that to their kids for money?
Sane Outcasts
15-07-2008, 20:18
I'm not saying they should particularly like them right now. My point is simply that it's quite a big thing to actively give evidence against them.

It must have been quite a big thing to lose your father, then to find out he had put you through that pain for insurance money and a life in Panama that your mother knew about. Testifying against him seems to be fairly proportional, almost letting him off too easy, in my opinion. If it were my father, I'd be tempted to kill him to make an honest man out of him.