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So, apparently "trust" has been the topic among my friends lately. One of them will not be able to trust anyone 100%, she claims it's because of human fallible nature, which I can see. Me, I'm one of those people who will make it hard for you to get my trust. Yay for paranoia! Now if you break the trust, hehehe, I'm going to make you go to Hell and back to get it back.

So, how trusting are people of NSG? Do you trust come easy, or hard, and what happens if someone breaks that trust? Also, would you be able to trust someone 100%?

After 61 years of living, I trust no one.

We sit on the internet all day and talk to total strangers about everything but our own personal things.

How much do we trust people? Hmm...

i try to put myself in a situation where i dont need to trust new people. by the time i need to test someone's trustworthiness, i know whether or not they are trustworthy.

100% trust?
Only my three best friends.
But thats for the important stuff.

If your talking about would I trust somebody to watch my car, or trust somebody to pay me back on time, then my answer is I'll trust you till you give me a reason not to.

I follow political realism (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Political_realism) and treat everyone I know like international states.

I trust only a select few and even then, only one or two have my full trust. I generally distrust people.

I don't keep friends long enough to trust them.

I don't keep friends long enough to trust them.

Why not?

I have found one maxim to be true - if you tell a secret to someone, why would you hold them to any higher standards than yourself.

If you're willing to tell, don't expect them not to.

As for trusting someone to do something, if I care enough that it should be done, I'll generally do it myself, it's not a lack of trust so much as following the above maxim, if I can't be bothered, why should I expect anyone else to be.

Having said that, I rely on friends for a great many things and whether they let me down or not rarely affects the friendship - we're all human.

I trust:

Not too many people. There might be *Counts on fingers* Three people, and one dog, that I completely trust.:)

Why not?

They start to bore me.

Change is good. :)

My mum used to say "If you can't trust, you can't be trusted". Actually, it was Ben Folds but I think it's a good saying anyway. And I'd say that I'm very trusting on a personal level.

But in business I make Machiavellians blush. And need to.

Do you trust come easy, or hard, and what happens if someone breaks that trust? Also, would you be able to trust someone 100%?

Change one word here and we're all in serious trouble. ;)

Change one word here and we're all in serious trouble. ;)

What's the word and I'll go edit my OP! :D

What convenient timing for this topic, as I'm going through a dilemma, partially involving trust.

It used to be that if I gave someone my trust, I would not betray that trust unless the other person betrayed my trus it, or it would betray my moral code. Now I see that it isn't so clear cut.

Here's the story. On a forum I'm taking a break from, due to the likelyhood of a massive flame war, as a result of these events, 4 users were banned, two of them were very popular, and I considered them friends, However I refused to defend them, because as a rule I don't comment on other posters without good reason (though I have once here, but I was bored), or if I'm criticizing them.

They responded to this by essentially blaming me for their banning (I am not a mod on that board) and blocked me from their MSN. One of them gave me a chance to defend myself, but reblocked me in the middle of my response. After this I said "you had a chance to make amends, accept that it's over" in response to the other adding me on a new e-mail. I added him, blocked ,to my contact list so he would see it. However, he said he was reformed in his personal message, leaving me in a dilemma, do I trust him, and allow him to defend himself, when he did not let me defend myself, or do I leave him blocked? He betrayed my trust, but, in a sense, I also betrayed his (in favor of my morals), so I'm not sure what I'm going to do, and whether or not I'll follow the same rules of trust.

Aceopolis, I do believe it is different in the real life. It is much harder for a friend to betray a friend and to cut off ties to him in the real world. But when you are masked by the eternal guise of the internet, it is all too easy. I would not put that much stock into friendships over the internet. Instead I would always weigh everything with a grain of salt.

In my own life, however, I trust nothing nor anyone due to past events in early life as well as my experiences with friends. I agree with the aforementioned fallible nature of humans which corrupts our conscious and makes it easier for us to do things that are really quite negative. I treat everyone with a smile, of course, because they deserve that much; but to trust them outright is harder for me to do. As consequence, I try my best to be the most loyal, trustworthy person I am physically capable of being.

I trust my dog and my best mate. That's about it really. I certainly don't trust my family.

I trust my dog and my best mate. That's about it really. I certainly don't trust my family.

Should we take "best mate" literally?

I have found that all people are inherently untrustworthy and unreliable. Most important lesson I've ever learned.

Depends what I am entrusting to them!

It takes alot for me to trust someone, but if they earn my trust, I am a good friend to them. However, it can be broken very easily.

I am a very trusting person. As expected, I always get betrayed. But I make the same mistake over and over again.

So, apparently "trust" has been the topic among my friends lately. One of them will not be able to trust anyone 100%, she claims it's because of human fallible nature, which I can see. Me, I'm one of those people who will make it hard for you to get my trust. Yay for paranoia! Now if you break the trust, hehehe, I'm going to make you go to Hell and back to get it back.

So, how trusting are people of NSG? Do you trust come easy, or hard, and what happens if someone breaks that trust? Also, would you be able to trust someone 100%?100% trust? You've got to be kidding. People aren't always on time, and believing they will be is both trusting them 100% and setting yourself up for major disappointments. Take your friends' flaws into account when planning.

I trust a few people absolutely, and several more people on a more basic level.

very very few people have my absolute trust, perhaps even none. If anyone comes close it'll be two or three of my closest friends who i've known for a long time and who have never given me reason to doubt them.

As for general trust when meeting new people i find the best solution is to trust them about as far as you could throw them until it's proved you can think overwise.

There may be some very trustworthy people in the world but let's be fair there is also alot of people who will use and abuse you, so i find a general lack of trust the best response in most cases.

I trust my GF completely. However, I know what would happen if I handed her my platinum credit card in front of her favorite casino, even if she promised not to use it. She admits that, which is one reason I trust her.

I don't trust new people for a long time, if ever.

* rubs hands together with glee that my army of dog spies have managed to get themselves into positions of trust *

I trust pretty much anyone that doesn't have an incentive (financial or otherwise) to betray me.

I cant trust myself 100% and you want me to trust someone else?

:mp5::mp5::mp5::mp5:

I wake up every morning and tell myself..." Myself I dont want you to do this or that..."... and there I go and always do this and that. :(

Trust is dependent on topic.

For instance, there are friends I trust with my life, but I definitely wouldn't fall asleep around them. :p

What convenient timing for this topic, as I'm going through a dilemma, partially involving trust.

It used to be that if I gave someone my trust, I would not betray that trust unless the other person betrayed my trus it, or it would betray my moral code. Now I see that it isn't so clear cut.

Here's the story. On a forum I'm taking a break from, due to the likelyhood of a massive flame war, as a result of these events, 4 users were banned, two of them were very popular, and I considered them friends, However I refused to defend them, because as a rule I don't comment on other posters without good reason (though I have once here, but I was bored), or if I'm criticizing them.

They responded to this by essentially blaming me for their banning (I am not a mod on that board) and blocked me from their MSN. One of them gave me a chance to defend myself, but reblocked me in the middle of my response. After this I said "you had a chance to make amends, accept that it's over" in response to the other adding me on a new e-mail. I added him, blocked ,to my contact list so he would see it. However, he said he was reformed in his personal message, leaving me in a dilemma, do I trust him, and allow him to defend himself, when he did not let me defend myself, or do I leave him blocked? He betrayed my trust, but, in a sense, I also betrayed his (in favor of my morals), so I'm not sure what I'm going to do, and whether or not I'll follow the same rules of trust.

if you really consider him a friend, give him a chance. friends fight. friends have misunderstandings.

he has not done you a wrong that cant be undone.

Trust is dependent on topic.

For instance, there are friends I trust with my life, but I definitely wouldn't fall asleep around them. :p
Come, come now LG, we all know you like waking up with badly applied make-up and a dress on.:D