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So if you needed a safety word, what would you use?

I won't say. I already told you people (http://forums.jolt.co.uk/showthread.php?t=515660) in 2007 that I wasn't sharing it.

Toy train. Or compression.

However, I don't generally engage in practices that require safety words.

Toy train. Or compression.

However, I don't generally engage in practices that require safety words.

The question is hypothetical...

It was "red" (as in the color of stoplights) for a couple of years. Not exactly creative, but I didn't really see creativity as the point.

buffalo

but im not into that kind of thing.

Spam.

Hammer time. *nod*

Last time I used a safeword, it was "safeword". Simple, and easy to remember.

Spam.

I approve of this safety word.

I never actually set one up.

I never actually set one up.

Ooo, ok, so I have to ask, why not?

I'd make it "no" or "stop it", because otherwise when the girl starts to say that, I get confused and stop and we have to sort the whole thing out and really, it gets messy.

I'd make it "no" or "stop it", because otherwise when the girl starts to say that, I get confused and stop and we have to sort the whole thing out and really, it gets messy.

That's the entire POINT of a safeword.

And mine has always been "red". Quick, easy, and simple.

Never really thought about it.

Maybe something funny? I figure, if you need a safe word, things must be getting too intense, so something that makes you giggle could be good?

Never really thought about it.

Maybe something funny? I figure, if you need a safe word, things must be getting too intense, so something that makes you giggle could be good?

Elephantmonkeytitties?

My (newly ex-) boyfriend and I discussed this from time to time. We always came to the agreement that the safety word would be "ow", "ouch" or "what the hell are you doing?" Because we... thought we were hilarious. Excuse me, I need to go cry now.

My (newly ex-) boyfriend and I discussed this from time to time. We always came to the agreement that the safety word would be "ow", "ouch" or "what the hell are you doing?" Because we... thought we were hilarious. Excuse me, I need to go cry now.

*Comforts Ryadn*

I think that in general, the funniest and least-confusing safe words are all catch phrases from TV game shows.

"Come on down!"
"I'd like to buy a vowel."
"I choose Whoopi Goldberg for the win!"

I think that in general, the funniest and least-confusing safe words are all catch phrases from TV game shows.

"Come on down!"
"I'd like to buy a vowel."
"I choose Whoopi Goldberg for the win!"

Is it bad that when i read "Come on down" my twisted mind interpreted as "come down on me"?

Is it bad that when i read "Come on down" my twisted mind interpreted as "come down on me"?

Not bad, just very telling of your mindset in a Freudian sort of way.

*Comforts Ryadn*

Thank you! :) I've found a peanut butter granola bar, I'll be able to hold it together emotionally now for another couple of hours.

Not bad, just very telling of your mindset in a Freudian sort of way.

Dangit Freud, why'd you have to come down on me like that!

...

Wait a minute, what?!?

Dangit Freud, why'd you have to come down on me like that!

...

Wait a minute, what?!?

How many Freudians does it take to screw in a lightbulb?

How many Freudians does it take to screw in a lightbulb?

Three. One to imagine he's the lightbulb, one to imagine he's the socket, and one to actually screw in the bulb.

*Does not know anything about Freudian psychology*

I've never done anything requiring one, but if I did, it would be "Stop, damn you."

I'd make it "no" or "stop it", because otherwise when the girl starts to say that, I get confused and stop and we have to sort the whole thing out and really, it gets messy.

Unless you are in a role playing situation where the female is being 'raped' by an unknown stranger then no or stop wouldn't work.

Honky.

Balloon !

"Safeword."

Easy to remember. :p I also like the green, yellow, red idea - yellow meaning "okay, this is starting to make me feel uncomfortable, keep going but maybe slow down and/or change the scene slightly and/or if you're feeling uncomfortable, too, let's stop", and red being "this needs to stop immediately".

Really, though, "safeword" is the simplest. I had a friend whose safeword was "zaboomafoo", which made me giggle.

"Safeword."
That sounds so .... clinical. :p

I've never done anything requiring one, but if I did, it would be "Stop, damn you."

Which, as pointed out before in this topic, is useless. A safety word is useful in situations where exclamations as "Please, don't..." , "no" and "stop" are supposed to be ignored - but you do wish to be certain you do not do things your partner(s) do(es) not want.

That sounds so .... clinical. :p

Yeah, but. If I'm in the middle of a scene and something's going wrong, chances are I'm too emotionally taxed to break out a word that would normally make me laugh; especially if something's upsetting me, a silly word would only aggravate me further. If I'm having to stop the scene, I'm not in a laughing mood. "Safeword" is simple, easily understood, and not ridiculous.

Which, as pointed out before in this topic, is useless. A safety word is useful in situations where exclamations as "Please, don't..." , "no" and "stop" are supposed to be ignored - but you do wish to be certain you do not do things your partner(s) do(es) not want.

Yes. Say you're engaging in a rape scene, or some sort of domination/forced play. The submissive is probably going to be saying things like "please, don't" or "stop" because... well, that's part of the scene. Even something simpler like wrestling during sex, or being held down, one might say things like "no" or "get off" when really, they don't want anything to stop. That's why a word that generally has nothing to do with sex or resistance is optimal.

Now, for people who would never engage in any sort of domination play, stop might work. Hell, stop works most of the time for me, too, since my SO will rarely push beyond "stop" without checking with me, unless it's a preset scene. Still, for the sake of preventing confusion, something else entirely is recommended.

Anybody thinking of the Vandersexxx scene from Eurotrip?

It's on youtube. I'd link to it, but there are boobies and other naughty things that could cause the moral equivalent of anaphalactic shock in those allergic to skin so you'll have to find it yourself. The keywords Eurotrip and Vandersexxx ought to do it.

Tippytoe! Tippytoe!

'Kill me' sounds like a good safeword.

"Safeword."

Easy to remember. :p I also like the green, yellow, red idea - yellow meaning "okay, this is starting to make me feel uncomfortable, keep going but maybe slow down and/or change the scene slightly and/or if you're feeling uncomfortable, too, let's stop", and red being "this needs to stop immediately".

Really, though, "safeword" is the simplest. I had a friend whose safeword was "zaboomafoo", which made me giggle.

Yeah, but. If I'm in the middle of a scene and something's going wrong, chances are I'm too emotionally taxed to break out a word that would normally make me laugh; especially if something's upsetting me, a silly word would only aggravate me further. If I'm having to stop the scene, I'm not in a laughing mood. "Safeword" is simple, easily understood, and not ridiculous.

Yeah, I've always thought that "safeword" is the best safeword there is - mainly because I just know that I'm going to forget any agreed-upon safeword in the heat of the moment. But since you're already going to be thinking "Oh fuck, what's the safeword again?" saying "safeword" just makes sense.*nod*

So if you needed a safety word, what would you use?

I probably won't end up with that, but "Shit!" (spoken with force) comes to mind.

now i dont have a saftey word (muchless have sex (underage in moslem country)) but why dont you make the safe word something that will soften your dick/partners dick at the same time. simply scream out loud GEORGE BUSH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! that should take care of it

Hopscotch.:p

Yes. Say you're engaging in a rape scene, or some sort of domination/forced play. The submissive is probably going to be saying things like "please, don't" or "stop" because... well, that's part of the scene. Even something simpler like wrestling during sex, or being held down, one might say things like "no" or "get off" when really, they don't want anything to stop. That's why a word that generally has nothing to do with sex or resistance is optimal.

Now, for people who would never engage in any sort of domination play, stop might work. Hell, stop works most of the time for me, too, since my SO will rarely push beyond "stop" without checking with me, unless it's a preset scene. Still, for the sake of preventing confusion, something else entirely is recommended.

In the heat of things, even without rape play "don't stop" and "stop don't" are easily confused.

It doesn't even have to be some kind of dominant situation either, if, for example, you are having a flirtatious tickle fest you might say "please stop" or "quit it" and that is usually interpreted as "go on". People who do not like to be tickled can verify this, telling people to stop makes them do it more. If you are like me where there is a thin line with tickling between "hahahaha" and "OMG HELP WALLS CLOSING IN!" a safe word might be useful. All the flirting, none of the panic attack.

Ooo, ok, so I have to ask, why not?

It wasn't really an issue.

And when I was being beaten in person, she routinely stopped to make sure I was doing fine, so it wasn't really necessary.

'banana' (If we've watched Family Guy recently enough that it's still funny or 'diaper'

Something likely to make me squirm and them laugh:

Erotic

Foxglove