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This morning I woke up and the feelings of hate and rage just was overwhelming. I am dealing with a lot of stress from work, family, and the possibility of my Mom having terminal lung cancer. All of these things are stressful, but they shouldn't make you angry and hateful. My rage is aimed in no particular direction. I just woke up with an attitude of "F the world!" So I was wondering if others had similar experiences dealing with irrational anger? Have you ever picked you head off the pillow and thought "I better not talk to anyone today, for if I do it will not be pretty?"

I have...

But my friend, you have come to NSG to deal with anger issues? Isn't that like treating a burn by shoving your hand into a pot of boiling water?

Sometimes when I am in that mood I write angry things, like angry poems and then tear them up, and burn them. It's a little helpful. What's even more helpful is finding something to scrub......like the shower. You can get really angry and scrubby with it and expend some energy and at the end you have shiny happy things to look at. Anger over a loved one being sick or possibly sick is completely rational however. You might benefit from being angry for a while.

I usually just keep to myself when I get this way, but woe to the people who try to talk to me and won't take a frickin' hint!

When I'm angry or stressed, leave me alone, or suffer my wrath.

Yeah i've had those days, and nights in fact. last night to be specific, alcohol does strange things to me.
and now i have a large plaster to pay for my actions.
and not a little guilt.
so tired.

I have...

But my friend, you have come to NSG to deal with anger issues? Isn't that like treating a burn by shoving your hand into a pot of boiling water?

No, I have not come here for that. I've just come to express my disgust and ask others to share their own stories. I am in no way treating this as therapy. I just wanted to hear about other people and their experiences.

This morning I woke up and the feelings of hate and rage just was overwhelming. I am dealing with a lot of stress from work, family, and the possibility of my Mom having terminal lung cancer. All of these things are stressful, but they shouldn't make you angry and hateful. My rage is aimed in no particular direction. I just woke up with an attitude of "F the world!" So I was wondering if others had similar experiences dealing with irrational anger? Have you ever picked you head off the pillow and thought "I better not talk to anyone today, for if I do it will not be pretty?"

Yes, I have woken up on several ocassions with overwhelming feelings of hatred. There are days, quite often, that I don't feel like waking up and interacting with the world at hand. But it's inevitable. I have to wake up and deal. But I think having these feelings is quite normal, and it happens to us all at any given moment.

I usually just keep to myself when I get this way, but woe to the people who try to talk to me and won't take a frickin' hint!

When I'm angry or stressed, leave me alone, or suffer my wrath.

No, I'm used to stress. I am the same way, and people who know me are able to read the signs easily. Those who are just fair weather friends do not. When I am not in the mood I just give a "what the F do you want?" look and it serves its purpose. But why do some people feel it is their job (not good friends) to cheer you up. I'm pissed off and I didn't ask you for your help right? I know they just mean well, but sometimes you just need to use your head.

To Liuzzo. Everyone has days like that. Unfortunatly theres nothing you can do but carry on. I find it relieving to sit down and listen to my favourite music for half an hour (I listen to calming music. I wouldn't suggest screamo, punk or emo)

Sometimes when I am in that mood I write angry things, like angry poems and then tear them up, and burn them. It's a little helpful. What's even more helpful is finding something to scrub...Our shower can do with a good scrub next time you are pissed off... You are welcome to come around and give it a whirl.

Yes, I have woken up on several ocassions with overwhelming feelings of hatred. There are days, quite often, that I don't feel like waking up and interacting with the world at hand. But it's inevitable. I have to wake up and deal. But I think having these feelings is quite normal, and it happens to us all at any given moment.

Good, as long as you are not crazy then I am not either. :fluffle:

No, I'm used to stress. I am the same way, and people who know me are able to read the signs easily. Those who are just fair weather friends do not. When I am not in the mood I just give a "what the F do you want?" look and it serves its purpose. But why do some people feel it is their job (not good friends) to cheer you up. I'm pissed off and I didn't ask you for your help right? I know they just mean well, but sometimes you just need to use your head.

Oh yea, one time I was really pissed off, I forgot why, anyways. One of the fair weathered friend tried to cheer me up, and he did not read the signs that I was putting out there.

Needless to say, we're not talking anymore.

Oh yea, when I unload on people, I unload.

Good, as long as you are not crazy then I am not either. :fluffle:

Crazy we are, but that's what appeals.:fluffle:
But no, Liuzzo, feeling like this doesn not make you crazy. It makes you human.

Find an ax and a tree.

No, I have not come here for that. I've just come to express my disgust and ask others to share their own stories. I am in no way treating this as therapy. I just wanted to hear about other people and their experiences.

I know I just couldn't resist.

Although hearing stories of other peoples' experiences will hopefully help. It usually does for me.

I know I just couldn't resist.

Although hearing stories of other peoples' experiences will hopefully help. It usually does for me.

Generally I like to go to the batting cage and rip until my hands are so soar and maybe even bleed. I also like bombing shots at the driving range, even though I don't play full rounds of golf. My most favorite thing to do to get anger out when I can is go to the shooting range. Popping off a few clips or more can really give you a release. I know how to mitigate my stress and anger, that's why I said it's not therapy. It's just interesting to hear how other people feel about. What gets them to that point?

Find an ax and a tree.

or a shovel, i find it takes more effort and is more satisfying when the tree is taken down.
good ol shovels, they deal with all sorts of shit but they keep on shoveling.

This morning I woke up and the feelings of hate and rage just was overwhelming. I am dealing with a lot of stress from work, family, and the possibility of my Mom having terminal lung cancer. All of these things are stressful, but they shouldn't make you angry and hateful. My rage is aimed in no particular direction. I just woke up with an attitude of "F the world!" So I was wondering if others had similar experiences dealing with irrational anger? Have you ever picked you head off the pillow and thought "I better not talk to anyone today, for if I do it will not be pretty?"

Honestly, I never wake up with feelings of hate and rage. I have a stressful job (60-70 hrs/week for the last four weeks), three kids, a mother with health issues, a grandmother and grandfather with health issues (had to run over the other night and put her false eye back in), and the issues one has when one owns a 110 year-old house.

But you are right, such hatred and rage IS irrational. You should be given no room to feel that way. If I was around you I would push you even more since you have no right to inflict that bullshit on my world. What is the use of such a mindset? How does it help your mom, your family, or yourself? Channel such feelings down positive avenues and quit feeling so damned sorry for yourself. The world really doesn't care about your bad day and shitty attitude.

If you can't control yourself in such a fashion then you deserve the detrimental effects this will have on your career, your family, and friends.

Sorry I couldn't pat you on the back for your crappy outlook on life.

Best way to let out the RAAAGE is to play vidya games.

No, I have not come here for that. I've just come to express my disgust and ask others to share their own stories. I am in no way treating this as therapy. I just wanted to hear about other people and their experiences.

Stay away from the gun store today.

Have you ever picked you head off the pillow and thought "I better not talk to anyone today, for if I do it will not be pretty?"

Yeah, but really, prison life isn't that bad after a while, especially after the inmates learn all the horrible details of the murder. :p

I have...

But my friend, you have come to NSG to deal with anger issues? Isn't that like treating a burn by shoving your hand into a pot of boiling water?

When the hand falls off, consider the burn treated.

I sure know that feeling. That's why I like to keep a stack of newspapers in my room, which I'll proceed to rip apart with full gusto, then smash the pieces into balls and try to kill random furniture items with them whenever such moods strike me.


It's good for me. And for the people I spare that way. And so far, no furniture item has yet sustained any fatal injury.

Find an ax and a human.

Fixed :)

Sometimes when I am in that mood I write angry things, like angry poems and then tear them up, and burn them. It's a little helpful. What's even more helpful is finding something to scrub......like the shower. You can get really angry and scrubby with it and expend some energy and at the end you have shiny happy things to look at. Anger over a loved one being sick or possibly sick is completely rational however. You might benefit from being angry for a while.

Play an RTS. ;) Comedy also helps, laughter is actually a good medicine.

This morning I woke up and the feelings of hate and rage just was overwhelming. I am dealing with a lot of stress from work, family, and the possibility of my Mom having terminal lung cancer. All of these things are stressful, but they shouldn't make you angry and hateful. My rage is aimed in no particular direction. I just woke up with an attitude of "F the world!" So I was wondering if others had similar experiences dealing with irrational anger? Have you ever picked you head off the pillow and thought "I better not talk to anyone today, for if I do it will not be pretty?"


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Honestly, I never wake up with feelings of hate and rage. I have a stressful job (60-70 hrs/week for the last four weeks), three kids, a mother with health issues, a grandmother and grandfather with health issues (had to run over the other night and put her false eye back in), and the issues one has when one owns a 110 year-old house.

Good for you.

But you are right, such hatred and rage IS irrational. You should be given no room to feel that way. If I was around you I would push you even more since you have no right to inflict that bullshit on my world. What is the use of such a mindset? How does it help your mom, your family, or yourself? Channel such feelings down positive avenues and quit feeling so damned sorry for yourself. The world really doesn't care about your bad day and shitty attitude.

I didn't realize I wasn't allowed to feel certain ways. Perhaps I should consult you as to what mood I should be in when I first wake up. Push me even more huh? If you want to thrust pointy sticks at a tiger then you are not very bright. My mindset one one day doesn't really give an indication of who I am as a person. That you can jump off to make conclusions from one moody day is.... I'm not feeling sorry myself in the least. I'm glad you have worked 60-70 hours a week for the past four weeks. Try doing it 50 weeks out of the year and then get back to me. You also have no power of what I inflict on your world. As I am fond of saying when people get uppity and talk shit, "so you're bullet proof now?"

If you can't control yourself in such a fashion then you deserve the detrimental effects this will have on your career, your family, and friends.

MY career is just fine. Thank you for your concern. Not only am I handling my own career, household, and my mother's medical and legal issues, but I am thriving at times due to anger. People consider anger to be some off topic emotion. Using anger to motivate myself has resulted in positive results financially and personally. Anger can be used as a driving force to bring about change. I've done well in this arena. Oh, and I'm not looking for a pat on the back from you or anyone else.

Sorry I couldn't pat you on the back for your crappy outlook on life.

Really? Why don't you actually ask me for my outlook on life rather than assuming that one day is the rest of my life. Now that you've baited me and I've remained civil, you can now go back to your "I'm the smartest person in the room" mindset.

<snip>... but I am thriving at times due to anger. People consider anger to be some off topic emotion. Using anger to motivate myself has resulted in positive results financially and personally. Anger can be used as a driving force to bring about change. I've done well in this arena.


Yes, a Jedi's strength flows from the Force. But beware of the dark side. Anger, fear, aggression; the dark side of the Force are they. Easily they flow, quick to join you in a fight. If once you start down the dark path, forever will it dominate your destiny, consume you it will, as it did Obi-Wan's apprentice!

It's truer than you think.

Stay away from the gun store today.

I don't need to go to store for that. I have plenty of firearms available to me. I'd also like to point out that I have never been charged with a violent crime of any sort. I know where to draw the line on 99.99% of occasions. I should clarify that... I've never been charged with a crime period. I suppose I do have the self control that Frogs thinks is so valuable.

Yes, a Jedi's strength flows from the Force. But beware of the dark side. Anger, fear, aggression; the dark side of the Force are they. Easily they flow, quick to join you in a fight. If once you start down the dark path, forever will it dominate your destiny, consume you it will, as it did Obi-Wan's apprentice!

It's truer than you think.

This is possibly the most cogent and useful post I have ever seen you make. I must say that I agree with you on this. I was just pointing out that rage can be used in a positive way. Rage and anger were behind the civil rights fight. It was behind the counter-culture during prohibition. It sparked our victory in WW2 for reprisal at Pearl Harbor. There are a lot of instances where anger can be used for positive purposes.