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Teenage Pedophilia?

Anadyr Islands
13-06-2008, 15:17
Hello :)

Let me just start off by telling you a little about myself. I am 18 years of age, and basically just graduated from High School a little over a week ago (thank you, thank you :p), but I've decided to stay in my city for college for a number of personal reasons. However, now, I've started noticing that a lot of the younger girls (like 15 and 16 year olds) I knew in my high school years through various means are starting to all hit on me, for some odd reason. What gives? They knew me a long time beforehand and not once have they attempted to flirt with me or even older guys before. Honestly, is it that college student vibe or something? I haven't even gone there yet. :p

Anyways, I find it all just a little weird, because my personal rule is to only consider womyn (just for the feminists' sake :D) within my age or 1 year above or under that for dating. Would you consider it pedophilia? I have heard there was a case of an 18 year old getting sentenced for being involved with a 15 year old a while back, so I'm a bit cautious.

Also, a friend of mine (who happens to be female and younger, about 16) is dating (and is apparently in love with, considering she thinks they're going to get married eventually :p) a college guy who's like 21 or something. Personally, I think that's a bit much myself, but...

What do you guys think?
Conserative Morality
13-06-2008, 15:20
*Cough* Get a blog *Cough*
Anadyr Islands
13-06-2008, 15:21
*Cough* Get a blog *Cough*

There is a question at the end. Go away.
Neo Art
13-06-2008, 15:21
Hello :)

Let me just start off by telling you a little about myself. I am 18 years of age, and basically just graduated from High School a little over a week ago (thank you, thank you :p), but I've decided to stay in my city for college for a number of personal reasons. However, now, I've started noticing that a lot of the younger girls (like 15 and 16 year olds) I knew in my high school years through various means are starting to all hit on me, for some odd reason. What gives? They knew me a long time beforehand and not once have they attempted to flirt with me or even older guys before. Honestly, is it that college student vibe or something? I haven't even gone there yet. :p

Anyways, I find it all just a little weird, because my personal rule is to only consider womyn (just for the feminists' sake :D) within my age or 1 year above or under that for dating. Would you consider it pedophilia? I have heard there was a case of an 18 year old getting sentenced for being involved with a 15 year old a while back, so I'm a bit cautious.

Also, a friend of mine (who happens to be female and younger, about 16) is dating (and is apparently in love with, considering she thinks they're going to get married eventually :p) a college guy who's like 21 or something. Personally, I think that's a bit much myself, but...

What do you guys think?


Well to be technical, pedophilia is an attracting to prepubescent or peripubescent children, 16 doesn't qualify so it's not pedophilia.

Whether it's wise or not is another story.
Wilgrove
13-06-2008, 15:23
Hello :)

Let me just start off by telling you a little about myself. I am 18 years of age, and basically just graduated from High School a little over a week ago (thank you, thank you :p), but I've decided to stay in my city for college for a number of personal reasons. However, now, I've started noticing that a lot of the younger girls (like 15 and 16 year olds) I knew in my high school years through various means are starting to all hit on me, for some odd reason. What gives? They knew me a long time beforehand and not once have they attempted to flirt with me or even older guys before. Honestly, is it that college student vibe or something? I haven't even gone there yet. :p

Anyways, I find it all just a little weird, because my personal rule is to only consider womyn (just for the feminists' sake :D) within my age or 1 year above or under that for dating. Would you consider it pedophilia? I have heard there was a case of an 18 year old getting sentenced for being involved with a 15 year old a while back, so I'm a bit cautious.

Also, a friend of mine (who happens to be female and younger, about 16) is dating (and is apparently in love with, considering she thinks they're going to get married eventually :p) a college guy who's like 21 or something. Personally, I think that's a bit much myself, but...

What do you guys think?

The word "Jailbait" comes to mind.

Stay away, danger danger.
Anadyr Islands
13-06-2008, 15:23
Haha, seems like you guys are echoing my thoughts... I'm pretty much staying away because I'm sure I'll find many other ladies within my legal limits to date when I actually go to college in two months or so.

But, still, I kind of wonder what the sudden attraction is from...
PelecanusQuicks
13-06-2008, 15:23
The word "Jailbait" comes to mind.

Stay away, danger danger.

That was exactly my first thought too. A word I made my sons learn early on. ;)
Call to power
13-06-2008, 15:26
what is American high school past 16 like? can you drop out at 16? it just weird because I finished school at that age :confused:

anyway don't even go there. seriously. maybe 1 year younger but 15-16 year olds are annoying and I can't possibly understand why so many businessmen want to do dirty things to them (they are attracted to you now because you can get a job and stuff and every young girls dream is to pull those loser guys)

*Cough* Get a blog *Cough*

asking a legitimate question I'd say
Conserative Morality
13-06-2008, 15:27
There is a question at the end. Go away.

Yeah, what do you think. It relates to none but thyself.

Ach, I'm going. *Leaves thread*
Wilgrove
13-06-2008, 15:28
That was exactly my first thought too. A word I made my sons learn early on. ;)

Good for you man. :)
Vault 10
13-06-2008, 15:28
womyn (just for the feminists' sake :D)
I thought "womyn" was a derogatory term for feminists and butch lesbians?



Would you consider it pedophilia? Technically, no, but why do it, when you can hang out with 18-year-olds, who are prettier and smarter?
Anadyr Islands
13-06-2008, 15:42
I thought "womyn" was a derogatory term for feminists and butch lesbians?



Technically, no, but why do it, when you can hang out with 18-year-olds, who are prettier and smarter?

Really? I thought they invented it to get rid of the suggestion that women are a derivative of men (you know because you add the wo- part to men, linguistically.) Perhaps it's become that over the years?

Yes, those are my thoughts. So, I'm going to be basically holding out against wily 16 years olds for a solid two months now.:p
greed and death
13-06-2008, 15:50
First off follow the laws in your jurisdiction.

second off the rule is half your age +7.
so the youngest you should consider dating right now is 16.

the one year thing might have worked in high school but girls tend to go for guys 3 or 4 years older. it is either upbringing or nature but girls tend to go for older guys, or guys in a more secure position in life.

So high school girls are drawn to college guys, and college guys are drawn to girls who grad students or who just graduated and got a job.

the one year rule you will find hard to keep with.
greed and death
13-06-2008, 15:52
Really? I thought they invented it to get rid of the suggestion that women are a derivative of men (you know because you add the wo- part to men, linguistically.) Perhaps it's become that over the years?

Yes, those are my thoughts. So, I'm going to be basically holding out against wily 16 years olds for a solid two months now.:p

what is your age of consent law?
Marrakech II
13-06-2008, 15:54
In the state I live in it is legal for an 18 yr old to date a 16 yr old. I found this out because when I was your age I had a buddy dating a 16 yr old and got her pregnant. Her mom tried to get him for statutory rape. It didn't stick because of that rule. However it's best to just stick to 18 and up. There are headaches associated with dating someone in that awkward time of teen-adult transitional age. Just play it safe.
Der Teutoniker
13-06-2008, 15:59
Hello :)

Let me just start off by telling you a little about myself. I am 18 years of age, and basically just graduated from High School a little over a week ago (thank you, thank you :p), but I've decided to stay in my city for college for a number of personal reasons. However, now, I've started noticing that a lot of the younger girls (like 15 and 16 year olds) I knew in my high school years through various means are starting to all hit on me, for some odd reason. What gives? They knew me a long time beforehand and not once have they attempted to flirt with me or even older guys before. Honestly, is it that college student vibe or something? I haven't even gone there yet. :p

Anyways, I find it all just a little weird, because my personal rule is to only consider womyn (just for the feminists' sake :D) within my age or 1 year above or under that for dating. Would you consider it pedophilia? I have heard there was a case of an 18 year old getting sentenced for being involved with a 15 year old a while back, so I'm a bit cautious.

Also, a friend of mine (who happens to be female and younger, about 16) is dating (and is apparently in love with, considering she thinks they're going to get married eventually :p) a college guy who's like 21 or something. Personally, I think that's a bit much myself, but...

What do you guys think?

at those ages (16 to 21) it is a bit much, but it's the guys fault, he's the older one, it seems that starting a serious relationship with someone who is likely less mature than you is a bad idea.

As for you, technically, I suppose it could be considered pedophilia, but only because you are legally an adult, and they are legally children. I'd advise you to tread carefully around your states statutory rape laws, of course, other than that, no this isn't pedophilia, by 15, 16 they are all starting to develop (or already have)... it's not at all like they're 12-13.
Intangelon
13-06-2008, 16:01
Yeah, what do you think. It relates to none but thyself.

Ach, I'm going. *Leaves thread*

Next time, avoid the middle-man and don't post at all.
Vault 10
13-06-2008, 16:02
Really? I thought they invented it to get rid of the suggestion that women are a derivative of men (you know because you add the wo- part to men, linguistically.) Perhaps it's become that over the years?
Hmm, then their spiritual leaders are even less smart than I thought... and I didn't have a particularly high opinion of them.

How, really, smart, does one have to be, to make up and adopt a term for him/herself that looks like a misspelling and feels ugly?

Look at homosexuals for comparison, and their idea with "gay".
Der Teutoniker
13-06-2008, 16:05
the one year rule you will find hard to keep with.

What's more is that th older you get, the less significance age difference has. if you're twenty-five, that 'one year' is far less (by ratio) than it was when you were seventeen. My advice, keep it regarding younger women, but feel free to start 'tossing it out' regarding women a little older than yourself.
Intangelon
13-06-2008, 16:09
As for the OP, The 1/2 age + 7 rule is pretty solid. There's nothing wrong with dating a 16-year-old if you're 18. "Rules" are arbitrary when it comes to human interaction. All you really need to worry about is the power balance -- nobody should get involved if one's position of authority is at all involved. Apart from that, use your common sense.

As for why the younger women dig the older men, it's usually that the older men have more access to things that are forbidden or not yet available to the younger women (especially in the 16->18 thing or the 18->21 thing). Whether that's a car (or similar freedom of movement), alcohol, or other purchasing potential, it's a matter of yearning for the even slightly taboo. Beware of those who openly admit to things like "because it pisses off my parents" or "my friends are soooo jealous" -- that way lies madness. Madder still are those who date older out of a daddy complex of some kind. Run away, terribly fast.

Overall, I'd say date who you're interested in -- using an arbitrary limit like age (so long as you're not breaking any laws or being led exclusively by your cock) will narrow your choices. Some people your age or older can be far less mature than someone a year or even two younger. Everyone should be judged on their own merits, not just on how many birthdays they've had.
Kanabia
13-06-2008, 16:16
Just go for it, there's nothing wrong with an 18 year old dating a 16 year old. Two years...pff.
Intangelon
13-06-2008, 16:16
Hmm, then their spiritual leaders are even less smart than I thought... and I didn't have a particularly high opinion of them.

How, really, smart, does one have to be, to make up and adopt a term for him/herself that looks like a misspelling and feels ugly?

Look at homosexuals for comparison, and their idea with "gay".

Actually, I've heard it explained that the Y in "womyn" (a word I will never use except in examples and mockery) is a nod to the Greek base "gyno-" or "gyneco-", meaning "of or related to women", as in "gynecology" -- as well as being for the purpose of getting the "man" out of "woman". Either way, ridiculous. The Old English derivation, "wifman" ("wife of man") certainly had a connotation of ownership, but come on -- other formerly pejorative or condescending words have morphed meaning without resorting to childish respellings.
Intangelon
13-06-2008, 16:18
Speaking of Greek, lust for adolescents is properly termed ephebophilia (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ephebophilia).
Wilgrove
13-06-2008, 16:27
Just go for it, there's nothing wrong with an 18 year old dating a 16 year old. Two years...pff.

Once again, "Jailbait".
Great Diversity
13-06-2008, 16:27
Actually, the etymology of "woman" is:

Old English wīfmann, from wīf (‘adult female’, Modern English wife) + mann (‘human being’).
Dundee-Fienn
13-06-2008, 16:27
Once again, "Jailbait".

Depends on the state surely
Kanabia
13-06-2008, 16:34
Once again, "Jailbait".

Not over here, the age of consent is 16.

EDIT - and after a bit of research, it's a valid defence against this law if the younger party is over 10 and the offender is not more than two years older.
Intangelon
13-06-2008, 16:36
Once again, "Jailbait".

You keep using that word. I don't think it means what you think it means.

Seriously, what's with the obsession? In high school in the US, 18 and 16 can be Senior and Sophomore. Perfectly legal. Get over it.
Intangelon
13-06-2008, 16:37
Actually, the etymology of "woman" is:

Old English wīfmann, from wīf (‘adult female’, Modern English wife) + mann (‘human being’).

Gee, that's pretty much the extended version of what I posted, but hey.
Fall of Empire
13-06-2008, 16:49
You keep using that word. I don't think it means what you think it means.

Seriously, what's with the obsession? In high school in the US, 18 and 16 can be Senior and Sophomore. Perfectly legal. Get over it.

That's true. I guy I know just graduated and he's dating a freshman.
Free Soviets
13-06-2008, 16:52
Would you consider it pedophilia? I have heard there was a case of an 18 year old getting sentenced for being involved with a 15 year old a while back, so I'm a bit cautious.

some people call it pedophilia. those people are wrong.

and yeah, sometimes, in some places, the law is really fucked up in these situations. my favorite is the charging of both parties with possession of child porn for taking pictures of themselves, despite the fact that the law also says it is perfectly legal for them to have actually have the sex that they photographed.

my personal rule at an age where it mattered was "shared high school experience" with a tendency to avoid the lower extreme of that - so only with people that went to high school at the same time i did. i still think that makes for a reasonable age-grade in usian culture.

and it captures the way people break away from high school association over time while in college. the first and second years out often involves lots of hanging out back home with old high school friends, including younger high school friends. this drops off more and more as time goes on, and you just aren't nearly as likely to wind up in social situations with people who weren't in high school at the same time you were anyway.

(unless you wind up at 25 with a neighbor who is 21, who has a roommate who is 18, who has friends still in high school that all collectively party with said 21 year old...)
Nerotika
13-06-2008, 17:10
Hello :)

Let me just start off by telling you a little about myself. I am 18 years of age, and basically just graduated from High School a little over a week ago (thank you, thank you :p), but I've decided to stay in my city for college for a number of personal reasons. However, now, I've started noticing that a lot of the younger girls (like 15 and 16 year olds) I knew in my high school years through various means are starting to all hit on me, for some odd reason. What gives? They knew me a long time beforehand and not once have they attempted to flirt with me or even older guys before. Honestly, is it that college student vibe or something? I haven't even gone there yet. :p

Anyways, I find it all just a little weird, because my personal rule is to only consider womyn (just for the feminists' sake :D) within my age or 1 year above or under that for dating. Would you consider it pedophilia? I have heard there was a case of an 18 year old getting sentenced for being involved with a 15 year old a while back, so I'm a bit cautious.

Also, a friend of mine (who happens to be female and younger, about 16) is dating (and is apparently in love with, considering she thinks they're going to get married eventually :p) a college guy who's like 21 or something. Personally, I think that's a bit much myself, but...

What do you guys think?


well technically the difference between 18 and 16 is legality not morality. The government says it's wrong but within such close ages im sure it's fine, now a 21 with a 16 year old isn't pedophilia but it still goes down as wrong in my book. A 21 year old, he's drinking, hes fucking and he's doing all that (Or she but then again things change with gender, not to be bias but its true) so he's already had more of 'life' then she has...just sounds like he's going for tight pussy is all and she'll eventually get left for some one else.
Kate Vegas
13-06-2008, 17:16
The word "Jailbait" comes to mind.

Stay away, danger danger.

Muaha, agreed.
Adunabar
13-06-2008, 17:17
Depending on where you're from, it may or may not be legal. In England, where I live, you can only be a paedophile if you are over 21 and the person you are going out with/having sex with is under 16.
West Corinthia
13-06-2008, 17:21
Divide your age by 2 then add 7. That is the minimum age of someone you can date without being a pedophile.
Nerotika
13-06-2008, 17:25
Divide your age by 2 then add 7. That is the minimum age of someone you can date without being a pedophile.

hmmm...well I suppose that works, but does that have an age cap or does it apply to all ages cause if I can get 21 year old pussy at age 80 im gunna go for it =P.
Vault 10
13-06-2008, 17:28
hmmm...well I suppose that works, but does that have an age cap or does it apply to all ages cause if I can get 21 year old pussy at age 80 im gunna go for it =P.
You won't be able to make any use of it at age 80.


Unless you practice this (http://forums.jolt.co.uk/showthread.php?t=558696), of course.
West Corinthia
13-06-2008, 17:33
Well I suppose anything over 18 is open season. Otherwise the formula seems to work.
Nerotika
13-06-2008, 17:34
Well I suppose anything over 18 is open season. Otherwise the formula seems to work.

yep...im satisfied with 16 =P
Vault 10
13-06-2008, 17:39
http://images.encyclopediadramatica.com/images/c/c2/Pedobear_18.jpg
Nerotika
13-06-2008, 17:42
http://images.encyclopediadramatica.com/images/c/c2/Pedobear_18.jpg

if you having nothing nice to say don't say anything at all...right?

(Unless im mistaken your image doesn't seem to be working for me)
Free Soviets
13-06-2008, 17:45
http://images.encyclopediadramatica.com/images/c/c2/Pedobear_18.jpg

i gots a dollar says that that's just chris hansen in a mask.
Ashmoria
13-06-2008, 18:08
Hello :)

Let me just start off by telling you a little about myself. I am 18 years of age, and basically just graduated from High School a little over a week ago (thank you, thank you :p), but I've decided to stay in my city for college for a number of personal reasons. However, now, I've started noticing that a lot of the younger girls (like 15 and 16 year olds) I knew in my high school years through various means are starting to all hit on me, for some odd reason. What gives? They knew me a long time beforehand and not once have they attempted to flirt with me or even older guys before. Honestly, is it that college student vibe or something? I haven't even gone there yet. :p

Anyways, I find it all just a little weird, because my personal rule is to only consider womyn (just for the feminists' sake :D) within my age or 1 year above or under that for dating. Would you consider it pedophilia? I have heard there was a case of an 18 year old getting sentenced for being involved with a 15 year old a while back, so I'm a bit cautious.

Also, a friend of mine (who happens to be female and younger, about 16) is dating (and is apparently in love with, considering she thinks they're going to get married eventually :p) a college guy who's like 21 or something. Personally, I think that's a bit much myself, but...

What do you guys think?


the younger the girl is the less physical you should be with her. no sex of any kind with 15 year olds even if its legal in your jurisdiction. its just not right.

if there is a 16 year old that you WANT to date, there is nothing wrong with it.

but

come the fall when you are in college, you wont have any interest in highschool girls. college girls are smarter, more sophisticated and more available for casual hook ups with no recriminations.
Anadyr Islands
13-06-2008, 23:22
Well, I've consulted with some friends, half say yes, half say no. Meh, I think I might just go for it, but probably no physical stuff. Besides, I hardly doubt they will take it any more seriously than I would, being a college fellow now. Just for the summer, I suppose? :D
Amor Pulchritudo
14-06-2008, 00:20
Hello :)

Let me just start off by telling you a little about myself. I am 18 years of age, and basically just graduated from High School a little over a week ago (thank you, thank you :p), but I've decided to stay in my city for college for a number of personal reasons. However, now, I've started noticing that a lot of the younger girls (like 15 and 16 year olds) I knew in my high school years through various means are starting to all hit on me, for some odd reason. What gives? They knew me a long time beforehand and not once have they attempted to flirt with me or even older guys before. Honestly, is it that college student vibe or something? I haven't even gone there yet. :p

Anyways, I find it all just a little weird, because my personal rule is to only consider womyn (just for the feminists' sake :D) within my age or 1 year above or under that for dating. Would you consider it pedophilia? I have heard there was a case of an 18 year old getting sentenced for being involved with a 15 year old a while back, so I'm a bit cautious.

Also, a friend of mine (who happens to be female and younger, about 16) is dating (and is apparently in love with, considering she thinks they're going to get married eventually :p) a college guy who's like 21 or something. Personally, I think that's a bit much myself, but...

What do you guys think?

...Womyn? You're not getting off to a good start.

I think firstly you should stick to the laws of your area. Here, the younger party must be 16 or over.

Secondly, it comes down to the personal maturity of the individuals. Some 16 year olds are more mature than 21 year olds, and visa versa. However, you also have to take into account the notion of "life experience" and whether your lifestyle is really a match for someone whose still experiencing highschool.

Thirdly, I think that some people who date people younger than them are doing so because they can't get someone beautiful, intelligent and around their own age...

I think 18/16 isn't too bad, personally. I'm 18, and I'm in a relationship with a 20 year old.

But, in the end, if you really like the person, there's no reason why you shouldn't date them. But if it's just for sex, maybe you should leave the poor highschool girls alone.

well technically the difference between 18 and 16 is legality not morality. The government says it's wrong but within such close ages im sure it's fine, now a 21 with a 16 year old isn't pedophilia but it still goes down as wrong in my book. A 21 year old, he's drinking, hes fucking and he's doing all that (Or she but then again things change with gender, not to be bias but its true) so he's already had more of 'life' then she has...just sounds like he's going for tight pussy is all and she'll eventually get left for some one else.

16 year olds aren't drinking and fucking?

But yeah, I don't think 21 and 16 is ideal.

Divide your age by 2 then add 7. That is the minimum age of someone you can date without being a pedophile.

Because that's the definition of pedophile.
Soviestan
14-06-2008, 00:27
It's not paedophilia, as 15 and 16 years aren't children. Also it's not abnormal to be attracted to 15 or 16 year olds at 18. It's a stigma based on most US age of consent laws. In the UK it's 16, and in Spain, I believe it's 13. That said, if you're in the US that's basically irrelevant. They don't call it "jailbait" for nothing.
Nanatsu no Tsuki
14-06-2008, 01:54
Hello :)

Let me just start off by telling you a little about myself. I am 18 years of age, and basically just graduated from High School a little over a week ago (thank you, thank you :p), but I've decided to stay in my city for college for a number of personal reasons. However, now, I've started noticing that a lot of the younger girls (like 15 and 16 year olds) I knew in my high school years through various means are starting to all hit on me, for some odd reason. What gives? They knew me a long time beforehand and not once have they attempted to flirt with me or even older guys before. Honestly, is it that college student vibe or something? I haven't even gone there yet. :p

Anyways, I find it all just a little weird, because my personal rule is to only consider womyn (just for the feminists' sake :D) within my age or 1 year above or under that for dating. Would you consider it pedophilia? I have heard there was a case of an 18 year old getting sentenced for being involved with a 15 year old a while back, so I'm a bit cautious.

Also, a friend of mine (who happens to be female and younger, about 16) is dating (and is apparently in love with, considering she thinks they're going to get married eventually :p) a college guy who's like 21 or something. Personally, I think that's a bit much myself, but...

What do you guys think?

15-16 year olds liking 18 year old boys isn´t pedophilia. You´re all in your friggin´ teens, what are you talking about? And I think you´re using the term erroneously. You do know what pedophilia is, I presume...

Now, if you were 30 and they were 15, then that could be considered pedophilia, of course, if you were the one interested in them. Besides, there´s nothing odd about it. When I was 18 and a freshman in college, I was infatuated by my Sociology professor, 21 years my senior.

It happens, and they will grow out of it as soon as you´re gone to college or wherever it is you´re going and their stupid lives start back in school. Then there will be a new boy and you´ll be forgotten. That´s how it is. You´re the interesting odd bird at the moment. Once you´re gone, it´s life as usual.

Carry on with the freak show, my pop corn´s getting soggy.
The Plutonian Empire
14-06-2008, 02:14
If you wanna fantasize about jailbait, you're free to do so. But for the love of all things Godly, DON'T ACT ON THOSE FANTASIES!
Copiosa Scotia
14-06-2008, 02:32
Yeah, I'm pretty sure at least half the people in this thread are using the word "pedophilia" wrong.

Anyway, check your local laws if it really matters to you. IIRC, most places in the U.S. will be fine with relationships between teenagers two or (in some cases) three years apart.
Nobel Hobos
14-06-2008, 02:45
It's not pedophilia, as has been said plenty of times. Check the law before doing anything with a 15-y-o, that's illegal most places.

I just want to make a suggestion about why the girls who weren't interested before are now, since you graduated. School is a kinda small pond, once you're out of it you start having experiences unlike all your year cohort, and that makes you seem interesting even if all you are really doing is waiting out the time until you go to college.

I'm not sure what the culture of your school was like, but high school can be awfully harsh on girls who have several partners, labelling them "sluts" and such. It could be that those younger girls are looking for a bit of casual action which won't get the gossiped about all over school.

Just a thought.
Ryadn
14-06-2008, 02:48
*snip*

It depends on the laws in your state, but in California, I believe the laws are as follows:


Minors 14 and under may only date others 14 or under
Minors 15-16 may only date others 15-16
Minors at 17 may date those from 17-21
18 year olds are free to date anyone


So under California law, it would be illegal.
Ryadn
14-06-2008, 02:53
I have heard there was a case of an 18 year old getting sentenced for being involved with a 15 year old a while back, so I'm a bit cautious.

If you're talking about the case in Georgia, that's not exactly what happened. A 17 year old boy was imprisoned for having oral sex with a 15 year old girl, which was at the time prohibited under state law, although intercourse wasn't.
United Chicken Kleptos
14-06-2008, 02:59
Hello :)

Let me just start off by telling you a little about myself. I am 18 years of age, and basically just graduated from High School a little over a week ago (thank you, thank you :p), but I've decided to stay in my city for college for a number of personal reasons. However, now, I've started noticing that a lot of the younger girls (like 15 and 16 year olds) I knew in my high school years through various means are starting to all hit on me, for some odd reason. What gives? They knew me a long time beforehand and not once have they attempted to flirt with me or even older guys before. Honestly, is it that college student vibe or something? I haven't even gone there yet. :p

Anyways, I find it all just a little weird, because my personal rule is to only consider womyn (just for the feminists' sake :D) within my age or 1 year above or under that for dating. Would you consider it pedophilia? I have heard there was a case of an 18 year old getting sentenced for being involved with a 15 year old a while back, so I'm a bit cautious.

Also, a friend of mine (who happens to be female and younger, about 16) is dating (and is apparently in love with, considering she thinks they're going to get married eventually :p) a college guy who's like 21 or something. Personally, I think that's a bit much myself, but...

What do you guys think?

I don't think high schoolers should be dating college students. No particular reason other than that it creeps me out. Oh, and I'm a high school student.
Holy Paradise
14-06-2008, 04:09
Hello :)

Let me just start off by telling you a little about myself. I am 18 years of age, and basically just graduated from High School a little over a week ago (thank you, thank you :p), but I've decided to stay in my city for college for a number of personal reasons. However, now, I've started noticing that a lot of the younger girls (like 15 and 16 year olds) I knew in my high school years through various means are starting to all hit on me, for some odd reason. What gives? They knew me a long time beforehand and not once have they attempted to flirt with me or even older guys before. Honestly, is it that college student vibe or something? I haven't even gone there yet. :p

Anyways, I find it all just a little weird, because my personal rule is to only consider womyn (just for the feminists' sake :D) within my age or 1 year above or under that for dating. Would you consider it pedophilia? I have heard there was a case of an 18 year old getting sentenced for being involved with a 15 year old a while back, so I'm a bit cautious.

Also, a friend of mine (who happens to be female and younger, about 16) is dating (and is apparently in love with, considering she thinks they're going to get married eventually :p) a college guy who's like 21 or something. Personally, I think that's a bit much myself, but...

What do you guys think?

As long as you don't feel the same way 30 years from now, whatever.
Free Soviets
14-06-2008, 04:45
I don't think high schoolers should be dating college students. No particular reason other than that it creeps me out. Oh, and I'm a high school student.

is it ok for high school juniors to date sophomores? how about seniors to date juniors? or are those creepy too?
Tea-Drinking Pirates
14-06-2008, 05:02
if there's grass on the field, play ball. just make sure to check the age of consent laws first.
RhynoD
14-06-2008, 05:07
if there's grass on the field, play ball. just make sure to check the age of consent laws first.

I found that de-motivational and posted a link to it. That was a page ago, though.
And actually the link goes to kevan.org. But the text is the correct url.
Rexmehe
14-06-2008, 08:07
General is LJ now?
Free Soviets
14-06-2008, 08:09
General is LJ now?

the existence of anecdotes does not delegitimize a discussion of jailbait
Xocotl Constellation
14-06-2008, 08:13
Haha, seems like you guys are echoing my thoughts... I'm pretty much staying away because I'm sure I'll find many other ladies within my legal limits to date when I actually go to college in two months or so.

But, still, I kind of wonder what the sudden attraction is from...

Why you ask? Let me ask you; do you have a car, a job, and/or bank account, a life outside of high school? If you answer Yes to any of these things; then that is why. I'm sorry if this comes off mean, but most high school girls want: A. material things which you can buy with your money, B. a means of transport, or C. to look cooler than the other girls at school, D. the possiblity of getting alcohol. I speak from second hand experiance as my little brother was bled dry.
Saxnot
14-06-2008, 08:56
There are headaches associated with dating someone in that awkward time of teen-adult transitional age. Just play it safe.

Pretty much.:cool:
Zengow
14-06-2008, 09:02
It's perfectly legal in the US to date someone below 18, to do more than that is questionable xD
Dyakovo
14-06-2008, 15:41
Divide your age by 2 then add 7. That is the minimum age of someone you can date without being a pedophile.

LOL

So I'm a pedophile if I date someone who is 25?
Dyakovo
14-06-2008, 15:44
http://images.encyclopediadramatica.com/images/c/c2/Pedobear_18.jpg

Wow, that is just way too disturbing, and funny.
United Chicken Kleptos
14-06-2008, 17:34
is it ok for high school juniors to date sophomores? how about seniors to date juniors? or are those creepy too?

It's not that creepy. Maybe when a senior's dating a freshman it gets weird...
Free Soviets
14-06-2008, 17:40
It's not that creepy. Maybe when a senior's dating a freshman it gets weird...

so when that senior graduates, are they required to breakup with their senior-to-be significant other?
United Chicken Kleptos
14-06-2008, 17:49
so when that senior graduates, are they required to breakup with their senior-to-be significant other?

More or less... but then again, I can be quite cruel and unsympathetic at times...
Free Soviets
14-06-2008, 17:56
More or less...

weird
United Chicken Kleptos
14-06-2008, 21:18
weird

Well, I might let it be, but it would probably break up anyway, especially if the older one is going away to college.
Free Soviets
14-06-2008, 21:29
Well, I might let it be, but it would probably break up anyway, especially if the older one is going away to college.

yeah, such relationships do tend to break up (mine did by the end of my first semester away), but i wouldn't go so far as to claim that they ought break up.