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Has anything ever occurred that made you feel like you'd done something wrong without realising it, such as offending or scaring somebody?

I ask this because this happened to me very recently. And I also ask, is it normal for somebody to send another person an e-mail, get a nice reply, send a return to that reply, and then all of a sudden just stop getting replies entirely by that person? And this is without saying any more than "I'm glad you liked that disc I made for you, do you want another?" --- which would warrant at least a "No, thanks, I'm good.". But not even that. It's been bothering the hell out of me for several days now.

Okay. Tell your stories of confusing shit like this, and discuss.

Every day feels like that. Seriously. Every fucking day.
I'm not manic, but i'm certainly bemused by my initial interactions with people. Probably some concept of let down in my mind of some sort.

That is the problem with email and text messaging... it's harder to get your meaning across (some large percentage of communication is non-verbal...)
Of course, it still happens in RL, just less often.

But yes, that has happened to me, and I have been on both ends of it. Quite often I accidentally offend people by not replying straight away for some reason and then forgetting to.

Nah. I'm sure I do plenty of clumsy things all the time. No need to second-guess every little thing.

Has anything ever occurred that made you feel like you'd done something wrong without realising it, such as offending or scaring somebody?

I ask this because this happened to me very recently. And I also ask, is it normal for somebody to send another person an e-mail, get a nice reply, send a return to that reply, and then all of a sudden just stop getting replies entirely by that person? And this is without saying any more than "I'm glad you liked that disc I made for you, do you want another?" --- which would warrant at least a "No, thanks, I'm good.". But not even that. It's been bothering the hell out of me for several days now.

Okay. Tell your stories of confusing shit like this, and discuss.

This just happened between my mother and I, since we live in different countries so communication isn't everyday but...

She's sent me an email, I'd replied and then there was silence for a few days. I was thinking my mail had gone into her Junk mail, which sometimes happens so I sent another saying 'just in case you missed the previous...'

She came back with what seemed a ranting 'I'll have you know I've been doing this that and the other and so....' but it wasn't really, I just thought it was so I called to say I wasn't being pushy and she said she wasn't being angry and so...

...so yeah, try a quick phone call, it can clear up the sort of confusion Lapse alluded to.

Let's derail this thread for a minute:

"Toxiarra: Well, all the girls did sound attractive, but really the only one that I thought just oozed pure liquid sex was Amarenthe."

Wtf. When was the said and how did I never, ever notice this before now? :p

Back on topic.

I tend to be one of those people who just doesn't reply for awhile, and it's not that you've said anything wrong, it's just... I dunno, some days I just lack the ability and/or desire to communicate unless I actually have to.

This just happened between my mother and I, since we live in different countries so communication isn't everyday but...

She's sent me an email, I'd replied and then there was silence for a few days. I was thinking my mail had gone into her Junk mail, which sometimes happens so I sent another saying 'just in case you missed the previous...'

She came back with what seemed a ranting 'I'll have you know I've been doing this that and the other and so....' but it wasn't really, I just thought it was so I called to say I wasn't being pushy and she said she wasn't being angry and so...

...so yeah, try a quick phone call, it can clear up the sort of confusion Lapse alluded to.

Yeah, one of my other friends has her number, so I can either call, or attempt to arrange a meeting. Whatever the case, it's likely not nearly as bad as it seems, but I just hate how text communication can cause such problems.

I tend to be one of those people who just doesn't reply for awhile, and it's not that you've said anything wrong, it's just... I dunno, some days I just lack the ability and/or desire to communicate unless I actually have to.

Now see, I can understand this, as it might be what's going on, but still... That doesn't mean it doesn't bother the hell out of me. :p

That said, I'm one of those people who replies to any new messages the moment I see them, or whenever I have the chance to... Even to people I don't know, who're usually saying that I "look familiar" or whatever.

Now see, I can understand this, as it might be what's going on, but still... That doesn't mean it doesn't bother the hell out of me. :p

That said, I'm one of those people who replies to any new messages the moment I see them, or whenever I have the chance to... Even to people I don't know, who're usually saying that I "look familiar" or whatever.

I swore I thought I knew you. Honestly. I am *still* trying to figure out who it is that looks exactly like you, because there *is* someone. That I know. Who looks exactly like you. :p

Yeah, sometimes I feel bad for being the worst online communicator ever... and then other times... I don't. >_>

I swore I thought I knew you. Honestly. I am *still* trying to figure out who it is that looks exactly like you, because there *is* someone. That I know. Who looks exactly like you. :p

Yeah, sometimes I feel bad for being the worst online communicator ever... and then other times... I don't. >_>

Well, I'm glad I stir memories in somebody. Makes me feel special... Though I'll have to get rid of this obvious doppleganger... :p

Ah jeez, you're not one of those people who will be in a convo on MSN and then suddenly just stops typing and comes back in two hours, are you? >.>

Me? No.

Never..

Well, I'm glad I stir memories in somebody. Makes me feel special... Though I'll have to get rid of this obvious doppleganger... :p

Ah jeez, you're not one of those people who will be in a convo on MSN and then suddenly just stops typing and comes back in two hours, are you? >.>

... only if I fall asleep.

... which happens more than I care to admit. :p So, really... yes. Yes, I am.

Has anything ever occurred that made you feel like you'd done something wrong without realising it, such as offending or scaring somebody?

I ask this because this happened to me very recently. And I also ask, is it normal for somebody to send another person an e-mail, get a nice reply, send a return to that reply, and then all of a sudden just stop getting replies entirely by that person? And this is without saying any more than "I'm glad you liked that disc I made for you, do you want another?" --- which would warrant at least a "No, thanks, I'm good.". But not even that. It's been bothering the hell out of me for several days now.

Okay. Tell your stories of confusing shit like this, and discuss.

Shit man when and how did this come about that, one must reply to every email sent right away, or answer everytime the phone rings.

If a freind of mine texts me, I may get back to them the same day I may not. It depends if it is warrented. Chill out man, don't fret it.

"Toxiarra: Well, all the girls did sound attractive, but really the only one that I thought just oozed pure liquid sex was Amarenthe."

Wtf. When was the said and how did I never, ever notice this before now? :p Is that a bad opening/first statement to make about/to someone? Obviously sigworthy. :p


Back on topic.

I tend to be one of those people who just doesn't reply for awhile, and it's not that you've said anything wrong, it's just... I dunno, some days I just lack the ability and/or desire to communicate unless I actually have to.Indeed. Often times it's an issue, on my part, to have the right coin/inspiration to respond. Sometimes it's there, sometimes it's not.
Sometimes i'm more focused on ferrets and/or some show, or i'm bemused and realize there's not really a good way to convey anything useful.
Although Jeff did put it interestingly ....
I had to get it out of me, if you know what I mean, what I mean.
You say I must be crazy, 'cos I don't care who I hit, who I hit.
But I know it's me thats hittin' out

Has anything ever occurred that made you feel like you'd done something wrong without realising it, such as offending or scaring somebody?

I ask this because this happened to me very recently. And I also ask, is it normal for somebody to send another person an e-mail, get a nice reply, send a return to that reply, and then all of a sudden just stop getting replies entirely by that person? And this is without saying any more than "I'm glad you liked that disc I made for you, do you want another?" --- which would warrant at least a "No, thanks, I'm good.". But not even that. It's been bothering the hell out of me for several days now.

Okay. Tell your stories of confusing shit like this, and discuss.

Make it clear to him/her silent treatment is not hurting you in any way, that your fine with it and that you blocked him/her and never want to make any contact with them ever. And be very very colorful,eloquent and explicit when conveying this message.

*nods*

Well, I'm glad I stir memories in somebody. Makes me feel special... Though I'll have to get rid of this obvious doppleganger... :p

Ah jeez, you're not one of those people who will be in a convo on MSN and then suddenly just stops typing and comes back in two hours, are you? >.>

Thats been me lately. >.<