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I am curious as to what other NSers think of the subject. To start something, at least a few questions:

1. At what point does it become an obsession/stalking?

2. Is it possible for one's feelings to transfer onto another whom is almost identical to the original interest?

I am curious as to what other NSers think of the subject. To start something, at least a few questions:

1. At what point does it become an obsession/stalking?

2. Is it possible for one's feelings to transfer onto another whom is almost identical to the original interest?

Are you preparing for your defense in a trial?

Are you preparing for your defense in a trial?

...Not quite...

1) Can't say, but it happens to everyone once in a while.

2) Heck, you can transfer it to someone who's not really similar at all.

2. Is it possible for one's feelings to transfer onto another whom is almost identical to the original interest?

That's kinda creepy.

That's kinda creepy.

Which part, the two people being almost identical or the whole transferring business?

...Or both, perhaps?

Which part, the two people being almost identical or the whole transferring business?

...Or both, perhaps?

Both I suppose, but for completely different reasons. But two people being almost identical is a creepy occurrence that doesn't really come into this at all, so I was referring to the whole transferring business.

That's kinda creepy.

Sounds like Vertigo. But at least there no one got hurt.

Unrequited love

There's another kind of love? :confused:

I am curious as to what other NSers think of the subject. To start something, at least a few questions:

1. At what point does it become an obsession/stalking?

2. Is it possible for one's feelings to transfer onto another whom is almost identical to the original interest?

1. When you are following the person, being a peeping tom, not giving them any privacy and in general harassing them.

2. I suppose so. Not sure. I wasn't expected these two questions.

I am curious as to what other NSers think of the subject. To start something, at least a few questions:

1. At what point does it become an obsession/stalking?
Is this about Uma Thurman again? :p

2. Is it possible for one's feelings to transfer onto another whom is almost identical to the original interest?
No. And if it were, it wouldn't be fair on the other party. You would never love them for them; you'd constantly be comparing them to the other person. And when they failed to live up to your idealised vision of that person, trouble would follow.

Personally I don't really believe in unrequited love.

I believe you can be in love with someone when you're in a mutual relationship with them, but when you're in love with someone who doesn't love you back...I just don't see that as love. When you're in love with someone you need to be opening up to each other, sharing in each others' joys but also sharing in each others' faults. If you're just gazing at them from afar then you aren't really spending enough intimate time with them to get to know their faults, or to get to know them as a real person.

When you're unrequitedly in love with someone, gazing at them from afar - well, you're not really in love with the person, you're in love with the idea of that person, because you don't really know them well enough, especially in a romantic relationship context to be appreciating their faults and their more personal side and so you can't really be appreciating them as a person.

If you used to be in a relatioship with them, or you're close friends with them...I can see that as more likely to be in unrequited love, but still I think being in love with someone has to be in a rlationship with them currently. If you're not close with them anymore they could have changed and you wouldn't know it. Thus you would be in love with the idea of the old them rather than the actual person.

I just see unrequited love as any, some or all of: intense physical attraction, obsession, wonder, loving them (but not in love, ie how you'd love a friend), pining after them, wishing you were with them. Of course, it this doesn't make it hurt any less when you feel you're in unrequited love.

For me, the above don't fit into my personal definition of being in love. I suppose the biggest factor is that I believe mutuality is necessary for being in love.

Transference happens after a long time of decline in interest in the first and then a slow rise of interest in the second. There may even be a gap between the two. You are unlikely ever to find two people that are identical (even identical twins are not the same in personality), and even if you did, you would be loving the second for their resemblance to the first, not because of their own merits.

Personally I don't really believe in unrequited love.

I believe you can be in love with someone when you're in a mutual relationship with them, but when you're in love with someone who doesn't love you back...I just don't see that as love. When you're in love with someone you need to be opening up to each other, sharing in each others' joys but also sharing in each others' faults. If you're just gazing at them from afar then you aren't really spending enough intimate time with them to get to know their faults, or to get to know them as a real person.

When you're unrequitedly in love with someone, gazing at them from afar - well, you're not really in love with the person, you're in love with the idea of that person, because you don't really know them well enough, especially in a romantic relationship context to be appreciating their faults and their more personal side and so you can't really be appreciating them as a person.

If you used to be in a relatioship with them, or you're close friends with them...I can see that as more likely to be in unrequited love, but still I think being in love with someone has to be in a rlationship with them currently. If you're not close with them anymore they could have changed and you wouldn't know it. Thus you would be in love with the idea of the old them rather than the actual person.

I just see unrequited love as any, some or all of: intense physical attraction, obsession, wonder, loving them (but not in love, ie how you'd love a friend), pining after them, wishing you were with them. Of course, it this doesn't make it hurt any less when you feel you're in unrequited love.

For me, the above don't fit into my personal definition of being in love. I suppose the biggest factor is that I believe mutuality is necessary for being in love.

Excellent post. Idealisation and obsession are very destructive things.

OP: if you're interested, try reading 'Limerence' by Dorothy Tennov for some insightful thoughts about obsession and 'love'.

Excellent post. Idealisation and obsession are very destructive things.

OP: if you're interested, try reading 'Limerence' by Dorothy Tennov for some insightful thoughts about obsession and 'love'.

Thank you.

Yeah I've had mad crushes on people several times, usually where I can't get them out of my head and to me they're the number one most beautiful person in the entire world, but I've never thought it was love. I take it for what it is - a very strong physical and/or mental and emotional attraction, and if it we were to start going out I know that I would have to take a huge reality check. It's unfair to both of you to put your partner on a pedestal. When I've been in love it's been in a mutual relationship where we share with each other and we acknowledge each other's assets as well as each other's faults.

And to anyone who says "I love you so much, if you ever left me I'd kill you." Ummm...then you're not in lovew with them, are you? You're in love with the way they make you feel about yourself. If you loved them you'd want them to be happy.

Having said that, being in love with someone doesn't mean you are required to let them walk all over you and bow to their every whim. There's got to be give and take in every relationship, and you've got to communicate with each other and respect each other.

Wow, that Limerence book looks really interesting! I think I might buy that. Thanks for enlightening me to its existence!



NB: I don't think 'assets' was quite the right word but I couldn't find an apt enough antonym of 'fault'.

Been there, done that, felt very sad about it and moved on. As you should after a fortnight tops of "nah".

Been there, done that, felt very sad about it and moved on. As you should after a fortnight tops of "nah".

But I ain’t one to jump through hoops to make a first impression
Been there, done that, learnt the worst of lessons
We want to be loved for who we appear to be instead of who we are
So our real selves take a backseat behind the pomp and the façade
And that’s as true of the rude boys, downing pints and acting hard
As of the kids shunning convention with clinical disregard

This is the beat that my heart skipped.

http://www.myspace.com/lesacvspip

1. At what point does it become an obsession/stalking?

much like a Victoria sponge when you think that it will be far better than it actually is....also when you spend all day licking out the jam

2. Is it possible for one's feelings to transfer onto another whom is almost identical to the original interest?

what do you think marriage is?

Been there, done that, felt very sad about it and moved on.

she told me she has changed her mind and wants you *steps back from awaiting rail tragedy* :)

2. Is it possible for one's feelings to transfer onto another whom is almost identical to the original interest?
what do you think marriage is?

Ouch!

I suppose many of the people we've really longed after and had crushes on in the past always stay with us to some extent, let alone the people we've been physically intimate with.

Personally I feel uncomfortable with the idea of sex before marriage (for me - I'm not telling any of you how to live your lives!) because I know that personally, the memory of someone I've been that physically intimate with is going to stay with me for a long, and I don't want to be carrying a whole load of other people into my marriage with me. Obviously when you are married you're still going to think about other people, but I want my partner to know that they're the only one I've ever known...that way.

Yes, I know! I know I sound like a dickish prude but I don't really care. I know for other people it isn't but sex is a huge deal for me, and I just can't enter into it lightly.

But I ain’t one to jump through hoops to make a first impression
Been there, done that, learnt the worst of lessons
We want to be loved for who we appear to be instead of who we are
So our real selves take a backseat behind the pomp and the façade
And that’s as true of the rude boys, downing pints and acting hard
As of the kids shunning convention with clinical disregard

This is the beat that my heart skipped.

http://www.myspace.com/lesacvspip
Aye, apart from the fact that I'm A Bit Rubbish at actually putting a façade on and all that. I'm just... like I am most of the time.
she told me she has changed her mind and wants you *steps back from awaiting rail tragedy* :)
Aww :(

I am curious as to what other NSers think of the subject. To start something, at least a few questions:

1. At what point does it become an obsession/stalking?
It becomes an obsession when you know beyond a reasonable doubt that there's no chance at a relationship and your feelings continue and the feelings are persistent. It becomes stalking when you continue to pursue the relationship after the person has told you "no".

2. Is it possible for one's feelings to transfer onto another whom is almost identical to the original interest?
No, you'd just be acting out the obsession you have with person #1. It's totally unfair to the second person to use them that way.

I am curious as to what other NSers think of the subject. To start something, at least a few questions:

1. At what point does it become an obsession/stalking?

2. Is it possible for one's feelings to transfer onto another whom is almost identical to the original interest?

M-mmYum is spot on:

Personally I don't really believe in unrequited love.

I believe you can be in love with someone when you're in a mutual relationship with them, but when you're in love with someone who doesn't love you back...I just don't see that as love. When you're in love with someone you need to be opening up to each other, sharing in each others' joys but also sharing in each others' faults. If you're just gazing at them from afar then you aren't really spending enough intimate time with them to get to know their faults, or to get to know them as a real person.

When you're unrequitedly in love with someone, gazing at them from afar - well, you're not really in love with the person, you're in love with the idea of that person, because you don't really know them well enough, especially in a romantic relationship context to be appreciating their faults and their more personal side and so you can't really be appreciating them as a person.

If you used to be in a relatioship with them, or you're close friends with them...I can see that as more likely to be in unrequited love, but still I think being in love with someone has to be in a rlationship with them currently. If you're not close with them anymore they could have changed and you wouldn't know it. Thus you would be in love with the idea of the old them rather than the actual person.

I just see unrequited love as any, some or all of: intense physical attraction, obsession, wonder, loving them (but not in love, ie how you'd love a friend), pining after them, wishing you were with them. Of course, it this doesn't make it hurt any less when you feel you're in unrequited love.

For me, the above don't fit into my personal definition of being in love. I suppose the biggest factor is that I believe mutuality is necessary for being in love.

Bullseye.

Thank you.

Yeah I've had mad crushes on people several times, usually where I can't get them out of my head and to me they're the number one most beautiful person in the entire world, but I've never thought it was love. I take it for what it is - a very strong physical and/or mental and emotional attraction, and if it we were to start going out I know that I would have to take a huge reality check. It's unfair to both of you to put your partner on a pedestal. When I've been in love it's been in a mutual relationship where we share with each other and we acknowledge each other's assets as well as each other's faults.

And to anyone who says "I love you so much, if you ever left me I'd kill you." Ummm...then you're not in lovew with them, are you? You're in love with the way they make you feel about yourself. If you loved them you'd want them to be happy.

Having said that, being in love with someone doesn't mean you are required to let them walk all over you and bow to their every whim. There's got to be give and take in every relationship, and you've got to communicate with each other and respect each other.

Absolutely.

Ouch!

I suppose many of the people we've really longed after and had crushes on in the past always stay with us to some extent, let alone the people we've been physically intimate with.

Personally I feel uncomfortable with the idea of sex before marriage (for me - I'm not telling any of you how to live your lives!) because I know that personally, the memory of someone I've been that physically intimate with is going to stay with me for a long, and I don't want to be carrying a whole load of other people into my marriage with me. Obviously when you are married you're still going to think about other people, but I want my partner to know that they're the only one I've ever known...that way.

Yes, I know! I know I sound like a dickish prude but I don't really care. I know for other people it isn't but sex is a huge deal for me, and I just can't enter into it lightly.

Having principles doesn't make you a prude. Having those principles and demanding or expecting that those around you have the same ones and thinking less of them if they don't -- THAT would make you a prude.

You are a thoughtful, reasonable and eloquent individual who has developed a set of principles to live by. It's not "dickish", it's bleeding admirable.

Personally I don't really believe in unrequited love.

That's OK, some people don't believe in the Holocaust either. LoL, Godwin.


I believe you can be in love with someone when you're in a mutual relationship with them, but when you're in love with someone who doesn't love you back...I just don't see that as love. When you're in love with someone you need to be opening up to each other, sharing in each others' joys but also sharing in each others' faults. If you're just gazing at them from afar

First: "gazing at them from afar" is not the only possible alternative to "mutual relationship." This is a false dichotomy and a bit of a strawman. One can, very easily really, have someone who doesn't "love" you, but with whom you "open up to each other, share in each others' joys" etc etc. It's called friendship.


When you're unrequitedly in love with someone, gazing at them from afar - well, you're not really in love with the person, you're in love with the idea of that person, because you don't really know them well enough, especially in a romantic relationship context to be appreciating their faults and their more personal side and so you can't really be appreciating them as a person.

Continuing your earlier strawman still, we see your argument is flawed and essentially meaningless.

There are plenty of people with close, intimate, sexual and romantic relationships - hell, even marriage - who are "not really in love" but just in love with an idea and don't know enough.

If you used to be in a relatioship with them, or you're close friends with them...I can see that as more likely to be in unrequited love, but still I think being in love with someone has to be in a rlationship with them currently.

I would say your belief stems from the commonplace, if erroneous belief that true intimacy is only achieved through a bona fide Romantic (tm) relationship. Very American, very silly.

I just see unrequited love as any, some or all of: intense physical attraction, obsession, wonder, loving them (but not in love, ie how you'd love a friend), pining after them, wishing you were with them. Of course, it this doesn't make it hurt any less when you feel you're in unrequited love.

For me, the above don't fit into my personal definition of being in love. I suppose the biggest factor is that I believe mutuality is necessary for being in love.

You are entitled to your own wrong opinion, of course.

I am curious as to what other NSers think of the subject. To start something, at least a few questions:

1. At what point does it become an obsession/stalking?

2. Is it possible for one's feelings to transfer onto another whom is almost identical to the original interest?

1) you know when its an obsession. its all you are thinking about eh?

its stalking when you start going out of your way to see her from a distance. when you start following her movements in real life or online.

2) sure you can switch to a different object of your obsession. but thats not a good thing.

First: "gazing at them from afar" is not the only possible alternative to "mutual relationship." This is a false dichotomy and a bit of a strawman. One can, very easily really, have someone who doesn't "love" you, but with whom you "open up to each other, share in each others' joys" etc etc. It's called friendship.

True. With two close friends, one of whom is in love with the other and the other not - they are in love with the actual person and the just an idealised version of them.

But seeing as being in love is such a personal thing, everyone is going to define it differently, as there's no way of being inside another person's head, and language isn't anywhere near adequate to describe what it feels like to you to someone else.

So I guess it all comes down to individual interpretation. Personally if I were longing after a close friend...I wouldn't call myself in love. Even though I'm not longing after an idealised image or putting them on a pedestal - I'm still not in a romantic relationship with them, and so I'm not experiencing the same things in our friendship that I would be if we were romantically involved.

Continuing your earlier strawman still, we see your argument is flawed and essentially meaningless.

You have demonstrated that my prior post does not apply to all, however you do not acknowledge that it holds true for the group that I had claimed it was about - the type where you aren't particularly close with them - ie obsessive crushes not being labelled as 'in unrequited love' no matter how strongly one feels.

There are plenty of people with close, intimate, sexual and romantic relationships - hell, even marriage - who are "not really in love" but just in love with an idea and don't know enough.

True. Doesn't disprove what I said earlier though.

Simply pointing out that some people in romantic relationships aren't in love doesn't mean that you can't be in love in a romantic relationship. I am fully aware that not all the people in romantic relationships are in love.

I would say your belief stems from the commonplace, if erroneous belief that true intimacy is only achieved through a bona fide Romantic (tm) relationship. Very American, very silly.

Please don't try and say what I think for me just so that you can knock it down.

I didn't say that a Romantic Relationship was a prerequisite for being in love.

I accept that that isn't necessarily true.

What I said was that mutuality was a prerequisite for being in love. And I still stick by that.

You are entitled to your own wrong opinion, of course.

Ummm...thanks?




NB: Before any confusion occurs, we should clarify that we are talking about being in love with someone, not loving someone, as in: I love my sister but I'm not in love with her.

UCK, I thought you had gotten over this!

I mean, you do remember the several times you mentioned this kind of issue back at PAvP, right?

Hehe I totally stalk my girlfriend, and she stalks me :p

There's another kind of love? :confused:

Yes, there is 'unrequited love' and 'unlove'.

I am curious as to what other NSers think of the subject. To start something, at least a few questions:

1. At what point does it become an obsession/stalking?

2. Is it possible for one's feelings to transfer onto another whom is almost identical to the original interest?

1. It happens to us all at some point or another.

2. One can try, but I don´t think it´s possible to transfer the feelings for one person to another. The ache still remains, the ache for the person one originally fell for.

I am curious as to what other NSers think of the subject. To start something, at least a few questions:

1. At what point does it become an obsession/stalking?

2. Is it possible for one's feelings to transfer onto another whom is almost identical to the original interest?

I think people who need to bemoan their unrequited love need a blog, or better, to write depressing poetry that no one will ever see. This is better for everyone around them, and for the person suffering, because at least when they get over it and into a new relationship they will not have humiliated themselves publicly.

1. It becomes obsession/stalking when after the vic-- er, object of your affection has brushed you off and/or told you to leave them alone, you continue to call, write, send gifts, follow them around, try to contact their friends/family/coworkers.... also insisting that you were MEANT TO BE TOGETHER when the other person is macing you.

2. If you can just transfer feelings like that, there is something seriously wrong.

1. At what point does it become an obsession/stalking? a great sign is when you recieve the restraining order.

srsly tho. if you find yourself making excuses to be where she is, then you're getting mighty close to stalking. especially when its places you wouldn't normally be. such as driving by her house, but she lives accross town from you and in the opposite direction...

2. Is it possible for one's feelings to transfer onto another whom is almost identical to the original interest?yes, it's possible, but chances are that it's not 'love'. because you are fixated on the first person and not this new person.

First: You avoid him/her. Second: You crush your feelings. It's not easy, but you can do it. *crushes feelings*

First: You avoid him/her. Second: You crush your feelings. It's not easy, but you can do it. *crushes feelings*

You´re cold, but you may be right in something. You can crush your feelings and make crackers out of them.:p

You´re cold, but you may be right in something. You can crush your feelings and make crackers out of them.:p

Then you put those crackers in soup. :)

I am curious as to what other NSers think of the subject. To start something, at least a few questions:

1. At what point does it become an obsession/stalking?

When the interest makes it verbally clear that he/she has no romantic interest in you, yet you still blatantly pursue, and thus bother, him/her.

2. Is it possible for one's feelings to transfer onto another whom is almost identical to the original interest?

For some....

Then you put those crackers in soup. :)

With a nice beer...:)

With a nice beer...:)

Or coke, for us non-drinkers, pizza would be nice too. :)

Or coke, for us non-drinkers, pizza would be nice too. :)

Pepperoni pizza kicks arse.

Pepperoni pizza kicks arse.

+ a root beer float and maybe some Alaskan crab. Mmmmmmm....

+ a root beer float and maybe some Alaskan crab. Mmmmmmm....

Ok Marid, you´re on! Now I´m hungry!:(

Bollines with caramel or glazed with sugar!:eek:

A sin!

Ok Marid, you´re on! Now I´m hungry!:(

Bollines with caramel or glazed with sugar!:eek:

A sin!

Ok, last time for me. Steak and uh...good stuff.

Ok, last time for me. Steak and uh...good stuff.

Halibut fillet on butter and garlic.

I haz diez.
X.X

Thank you.

Yeah I've had mad crushes on people several times, usually where I can't get them out of my head and to me they're the number one most beautiful person in the entire world, but I've never thought it was love. I take it for what it is - a very strong physical and/or mental and emotional attraction, and if it we were to start going out I know that I would have to take a huge reality check. It's unfair to both of you to put your partner on a pedestal. When I've been in love it's been in a mutual relationship where we share with each other and we acknowledge each other's assets as well as each other's faults.

And to anyone who says "I love you so much, if you ever left me I'd kill you." Ummm...then you're not in lovew with them, are you? You're in love with the way they make you feel about yourself. If you loved them you'd want them to be happy.

Having said that, being in love with someone doesn't mean you are required to let them walk all over you and bow to their every whim. There's got to be give and take in every relationship, and you've got to communicate with each other and respect each other.

Indeed. I've been 'limerent' before but never 'in love' as things have never got to that stage, either through inaction or seeing a more realistic perception of them.

Perhaps the only situation 'unrequited love' could apply to is that of good friends with one that has feelings for the other.

In general, our language is not specific enough to describe this type of emotion (or most emotions in fact). Having one word for so many varying situations and feelings has always struck me as silly.

Wow, that Limerence book looks really interesting! I think I might buy that. Thanks for enlightening me to its existence!


No problem, have fun reading it :)

You all make obsession and stalking sound like a bad thing!

Off Topic: Does anyone know where I can get a replacement battery for my night-vision goggles?

What is unrequited love?

What is unrequited love?

What is unrequited love
Baby why don't you hurt me?
Why don't you hurt me
no more?

You all make obsession and stalking sound like a bad thing!

Off Topic: Does anyone know where I can get a replacement battery for my night-vision goggles?

It is a bad thing.

Off topic: I have no idea.

I am curious as to what other NSers think of the subject. To start something, at least a few questions:

1. At what point does it become an obsession/stalking?

2. Is it possible for one's feelings to transfer onto another whom is almost identical to the original interest?


When you start noticeably watching her/him. (As in, they notice it and anybody can notice it)
Probably. You can transfer it to people completely different, even.

It sucks. *cuts him/herself*

It sucks. *cuts him/herself*

You don't even know your own gender?!

That may be the root of your problem..

UCK, I thought you had gotten over this!

I mean, you do remember the several times you mentioned this kind of issue back at PAvP, right?

Well, I'm not quite sure, but I'm guessing you're Sgt. Alex.

I don't know... It's the same person since last year, though...

You don't even know your own gender?!

That may be the root of your problem..

Well, it sort of stems from this internet anonymity... So what's up anyways, want to talk about it? I'M NOT DRUNK DAMMIT!

Well, it sort of stems from this internet anonymity... So what's up anyways, want to talk about it? I'M NOT DRUNK DAMMIT!

Frankly, I'm flattered.

But you aren't really my type.

You´re cold, but you may be right in something. You can crush your feelings and make crackers out of them.:p

Why not do it the old fashioned way and disguise your passion as burning hatred. :cool::p

Why not do it the old fashioned way and disguise your passion as burning hatred. :cool::p

Because when you 'assault' the individual you sometimes end up being tried for 'rape'... for completely unknown reasons. Best to crush your emotions into crackers. *crushes and eats*

Well, I'm not quite sure, but I'm guessing you're Sgt. Alex.

I don't know... It's the same person since last year, though...

[blackadder]

To ovoid letting your obession destroy your life I have three solutions... (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4Brvl3gcGwE)

1) Kill yourself
2) Kill her
3) This is to make sure nobody ever finds out....KILL EVERYONE IN THE WHOLE WORLD! BWAHAHAHAHAHAHA!

[blackadder/]

Because when you 'assault' the individual you sometimes end up being tried for 'rape'... for completely unknown reasons. Best to crush your emotions into crackers. *crushes and eats*

No, just just annoy the hell out of him/her, pull pranks, do mainly verbal stuff. You know, just act as if your one of their other rivals that really does hate them. And keep your feelings 100% secret.

No, just just annoy the hell out of him/her, pull pranks, do mainly verbal stuff. You know, just act as if your one of their other rivals that really does hate them. And keep your feelings 100% secret.

Right, I know, I was just talking from personal exp... eh.

Well then, nice weather we've been having.

Why not do it the old fashioned way and disguise your passion as burning hatred. :cool::p

I can´t do that anymore. Acid reflux and all. It´s unhealthy and it interferes with my diet.:p

Frankly, I'm flattered.

But you aren't really my type.

How would you even know that?

How would you even know that?

Bann-ed just knows. That´s how it is.

Right, I know, I was just talking from personal exp... eh.

Well then, nice weather we've been having.

People have been using that technique for decades. In fact it's the oldest and most common technique in the book.

People have been using that technique for decades. In fact it's the oldest and most common technique in the book.

To talk about the weather as a meaningless way to change the subject?:p

How would you even know that?

Bann-ed just knows. That´s how it is.

She.. or should I say 'it'. Fembot. Speaks the truth.

She.. or should I say 'it'. Fembot. Speaks the truth.

I'm confused and aroused. However, unfortunately, it is not you who I seek.
Also: tasteful pornography [/not related]

To talk about the weather as a meaningless way to change the subject?:p

Ok, to make a woman more comfortable she must know more about you to be certain you're safe (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=p-24EyVa85M&feature=user) So just make a vid of yourself that shows people your good qualities or make a list.

Disclaimer: Most of my posts on this thread are purely comedic

I'm confused and aroused. However, unfortunately, it is not you who I seek.
Also: tasteful pornography [/not related]

As Bann-ed says, I, the FemBot, speak the truth.

And who is that you seek, my friend?

Ok, to make a woman more comfortable she must know more about you to be certain you're safe (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=p-24EyVa85M&feature=user) So just make a vid of yourself that shows people your good qualities or make a list.

Disclaimer: Most of my posts on this thread are purely comedic

Remit to the first part of my sig. The Latin words. Then let me know if I meet the qualifications.:p

As Bann-ed says, I, the FemBot, speak the truth.

And who is that you seek, my friend?

None of your business, you Iberian peasant!

None of your business, you Iberian peasant!

Shut the hell up, you ungracious n00b!

Shut the hell up, you ungracious n00b!

*hides*

*hides*

Yeah, that´s what I thought. Messin´ with the Spanish Inquisition.

Yeah, that´s what I thought. Messin´ with the Spanish Inquisition.

I sure wasn't expecting the Spanish Inquisition...

I sure wasn't expecting the Spanish Inquisition...

No one does. And then I come and zas!

a great sign is when you recieve the restraining order.

srsly tho. if you find yourself making excuses to be where she is, then you're getting mighty close to stalking. especially when its places you wouldn't normally be. such as driving by her house, but she lives accross town from you and in the opposite direction...

For me the worst it ever got was taking a slightly longer route to get to my next class, or loitering on the way for a few extra minutes. Then again, I was a Freshman (i.e. moron :p).

Well, I'm not quite sure, but I'm guessing you're Sgt. Alex.

I don't know... It's the same person since last year, though...

Why, yes, I am. Good to know you remember me :)

For me the worst it ever got was taking a slightly longer route to get to my next class, or loitering on the way for a few extra minutes. Then again, I was a Freshman (i.e. moron :p).

Exsqueeze me? :p

Then again, I probably would do shit like that, (being a freshman) if I hadn't completely given up on myself.