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I was wondering what everybody thought about internet dating sites? My previous experience with them got me a girlfriend who continued to call me, and try to visit me long after the relationship was over. It makes me very leery to try it again. I just wanted to see the various (and somewhat off color) opinions of my fellow posters.

Wouldn't know, never tried 'em. But I do hate their commercials, if that helps.

yeah, the ones that have commercials, suck. I prefer the free ones, like okcupid and plentyoffish.com.

eHarmony Sucks! They rejected me, so they just suck.

eHarmony Sucks! They rejected me, so they just suck.

There's a commercial that campaigns on eHarmony rejections. Is there some ultra-high elimination proccess? Beautiful people only?

Tried okcupid, but I was really just there for some quiz. Hint: don't say you're bi if you're mostly straight, there seem to be an awful lot of gay guys in California.

You gonna get raped.

This reminds me of the 5 Most Ill-Advised Dating Sites on the Web. (http://www.cracked.com/article_16116_5-most-ill-advised-dating-sites-on-web.html)

I dunno, I've never tried them, and my inclination to try them has been minimal.

All the same, if I ever meet Dr. Neil Clark Warren on the street, I'll steal his glasses.

Although, on my previous promise for meeting Tucker Carlson on the street, of punching him and stealing his bowtie and hanging the totem in my living room for posterity didn't come true when I met him on the street, didn't pan out, so it just goes to show how serious I am about carrying this sort of thing out.

dude that sites awesome lol . . . .STDMatch.net???? lmao sweet heheheheh

This reminds me of the 5 Most Ill-Advised Dating Sites on the Web. (http://www.cracked.com/article_16116_5-most-ill-advised-dating-sites-on-web.html)

I am in the process of reading this. Now that I have noticed that "women behind bars" is only number 5, I am seriously worried about the mind boggling stupidity that is to come.

I was wondering what everybody thought about internet dating sites? My previous experience with them got me a girlfriend who continued to call me, and try to visit me long after the relationship was over. It makes me very leery to try it again. I just wanted to see the various (and somewhat off color) opinions of my fellow posters.

I don´t think any of those sites work.

You gonna get raped.
No, you say it like THIS:

http://lolcat.net/d/1301-1/raped2.jpg

ive been married since before there were internet dating services but they seem as good a way as any to get a first date.

the notion that eharmony can find you your freaking SOULMATE is so wrong that it would make me distrust everything about them.

but if you keep your perspective its probably not a terrible thing.

its a first date.

with someone willing to date YOU.

it will work out about as often as it works out when you ask a girl out from class or from meeting her at the pub. if you have a hard time finding girls to date, give it a try. its no more risky than any other way of getting a date.

Worked for me is all I can say, really...

I met my fiance on one of those pages, and although it might sound terribly cheesy, he's the best thing that ever happened to me :)

I don´t think any of those sites work.

*shrugs*

Worked perfectly fine for me.
And I recommended the same site to a friend, who just moved in now with a guy she met on there, too :D

I'd just like to point out that people using those sites are more likely to be lazy and/or very desperate. Just saying.

I'd just like to point out that people using those sites are more likely to be lazy and/or very desperate. Just saying.

Uh-huh... they couldn't just be looking for some fun, a date or two, and possibly a relationship if they should come across the right person?
And they couldn't of course just use those pages because knowing that the people on there are looking for dates as well makes it all the more fun, right? :rolleyes:

I'd just like to point out that people using those sites are more likely to be lazy and/or very desperate. Just saying.

nowt wrong with being lazy, how else do you think i got posting on here in the first place?
Besides you're wrong it takes effort to go on those sites, probably.

nowt wrong with being lazy, how else do you think i got posting on here in the first place?
Besides you're wrong it takes effort to go on those sites, probably.

Staying at home always takes less effort :p

Eh, what would I know, I'm just a punk kid.

Staying at home always takes less effort :p

Eh, what would I know, I'm just a punk kid.

I was just showing my support for the Chocolate God's decision to have at you with her big pointy stick.
and Cabra West is right even if she does glorify it a bit, they shouldn't be knocked back as useless.

I mean what would you do if you couldn't meet the people you really like?

Staying at home always takes less effort :p

Eh, what would I know, I'm just a punk kid.

*lol
You won't get much of those dating pages if you stay at home. You still have to go and meet the people, you know, on dates? ;)

If you don't do that, they're a bit like NSG, only with more pics.

I was just showing my support for the Chocolate God's decision to have at you with her big pointy stick.
and Cabra West is right even if she does glorify it a bit, they shouldn't be knocked back as useless.

I mean what would you do if you couldn't meet the people you really like?

Glorify? *lol
Nothing to glorify really, they're much like everything in life : You get out what you put in, with a little bit of luck ;)

I was wondering what everybody thought about internet dating sites? My previous experience with them got me a girlfriend who continued to call me, and try to visit me long after the relationship was over. It makes me very leery to try it again. I just wanted to see the various (and somewhat off color) opinions of my fellow posters.

Meh, I think they're stupid. www.hotornot.com is kind of funny, though.

Glorify? *lol
Nothing to glorify really, they're much like everything in life : You get out what you put in, with a little bit of luck ;)

:cool:
okay so i could have worded it better.

That bolded part says it for me. Sure maybe the effort does pay off, but i mean there's no telling how much or for how long you'd need to try something before it finally worked.
What i mean is sometimes even psychotic determination just doesn't work for getting things done.
[strawman begins]
For example say you work really hard at what you know best, but it happens to be totally useless in real life, and when you do get there you're stuck with nowhere to go what do you do then? trust in 'luck' strange how luck favours those who succeed, what about those who died or fell apart for no good reason was that just purely because they 'didn't try hard enough'?
[strawman ends here]
(this post is not meant in a aggressive manner, i just can't pick the words i'm trying to think of, maybe i should try harder?)

*shrugs*

Worked perfectly fine for me.
And I recommended the same site to a friend, who just moved in now with a guy she met on there, too :D

Kudos to you. You were lucky there, I guess.

:cool:
okay so i could have worded it better.

That bolded part says it for me. Sure maybe the effort does pay off, but i mean there's no telling how much or for how long you'd need to try something before it finally worked.
What i mean is sometimes even psychotic determination just doesn't work for getting things done.
[strawman begins]
For example say you work really hard at what you know best, but it happens to be totally useless in real life, and when you do get there you're stuck with nowhere to go what do you do then? trust in 'luck' strange how luck favours those who succeed, what about those who died or fell apart for no good reason was that just purely because they 'didn't try hard enough'?
[strawman ends here]
(this post is not meant in a aggressive manner, i just can't pick the words i'm trying to think of, maybe i should try harder?)

The way I see it, you can't trust luck. And you cant trust sheer determination, either. You need both, but you can really only ever influence one. So go ahead and keep trying, although there's no guarantee for success... the only thing that's guarantees is that if you stop trying, you will fail, and luck is very unlikely to help you. ;)

Kudos to you. You were lucky there, I guess.

That's the thing with love... you need the luck. :)

Never used an internet dating site, never will.

That's the thing with love... you need the luck. :)

;)

The way I see it, you can't trust luck. And you cant trust sheer determination, either. You need both, but you can really only ever influence one. So go ahead and keep trying, although there's no guarantee for success... the only thing that's guarantees is that if you stop trying, you will fail, and luck is very unlikely to help you. ;)
Does this mean i'm not allowed to be lazy anymore?
but i like being lazy.:(
That's the thing with love... you need the luck. :)

but didn't you say above that in order to get love you need determination, now you're saying you need luck to get love?
oh boy this is confusing.

Does this mean i'm not allowed to be lazy anymore?
but i like being lazy.:(


but didn't you say above that in order to get love you need determination, now you're saying you need luck to get love?
oh boy this is confusing.

You need both. You need to keep going out and meeting people, that's the determination bit. And you need to meet someone that's right for you, that's sheer luck ;)

I mean what would you do if you couldn't meet the people you really like?

What I do every day, sit on a couch yelling at the people I already know.