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Some people have said (in another thread) that they would have sex with their very own hypothetical sister if she was hot, so...

Why do people choose to have sex with each other? Is it just about attractiveness and looks, or is there something more to it?

Poll coming: What makes you want to have sex with someone?

I voted for everything but ebil, butttttt ebil sex can be good too :)

I need to like them. Looks are important in a way, too, I don't think I'd have sex with someone whose looks repell me.
But other than that, I don't need (nor want, for that matter) someone who looks like Brad Pitt.
All in all, it mostly depends on the situation mostly...

I voted for everything but ebil, butttttt ebil sex can be good too :)

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ebil butttttt sex can be good too :)

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Other: the only thing evil about sex is that I don't have it.

A combination of looks, personality, and them wanting to sleep with me.

Sense of humor is the most important quality to me. It has to be compatible with mine and show the person is intelligent but also can be silly. I've fallen for people I didn't think were really good-looking because they were smart and cracked me up.

That said... sense of humor gets you in the door, but looks get you in bed. :P

Other: the only thing evil about sex is that I don't have it.

Lol :p

Other: the only thing evil about sex is that I don't have it.You know how they say: "No sex is bad sex."

emotion, instinct, aesthetics.

it's good for society and the individual by lowering aggressiveness.

of course the aggressiveness generating stressfulness is contributed to by (local, whether global or not) overpopulation, so its kind of its own catch 22 in that reguard.

the holy grail, i think, would be somehow more readily avainable, nonfirtil, gratification. and of course the medical conquest of std's, without the need for 'barier devices'.

fortunately and i'm very glad for 'male manopause' its no longer something i feel like i have to give a dam about.

=^^=
.../\...

I've once downloaded this awesome article from JSTOR called "Why do people have sex?", and it was the most illuminating study, and conveniently enough it came with some nice numbered ranked lists of reasons, sorted by male/female etc.. those were the most interesting reasons. Of course there were your usual suspects such as "horniness relief", "emotional bonding" and whathaveyou, but also things like "need boosting of self-esteem", "way to appease partner", and even such things like "to improve career position" and, strangely enough, "as to pass on STDs", all ranking among the Top 50.

Of course, I'll probably not find it anymore now. But I'll look for it right now.

ETA: I realize that this is an answer to the title of the thread, not to the question as intended in the OP, which would more accurately be "Why do people have sex with a certain person?", but there you go.

ETAEM: The NYT has an article on the study (http://www.nytimes.com/2007/07/31/science/31tier.html?pagewanted=all), and they also link to the PDF version of the study (http://homepage.psy.utexas.edu/homepage/Group/BussLAB/pdffiles/why%20humans%20have%20sex%202007.pdf) (hint: the interesting list bits for those who prefer the quick&easy route start on page 5).

One thing your missing there is trust.. I don't sleep with someone I don't trust.

For me its a combination of personality, trust and general attractiveness (relative to my way of thinking).

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Fixed.

I was going to put that... But didn't. ;)

Why do you want to eat, or sleep?

It's just nature.

Why do you want to eat, or sleep?

It's just nature.

Well obviously.

So, does that mean you'll have sex with anyone, because it's your nature?

Well obviously.

So, does that mean you'll have sex with anyone, because it's your nature?

Then that is a different question to the one you asked.

If you want to know why I have sex with a particular person, the answer is because she's my wife, and I'm rather fond of her.

One thing your missing there is trust.. I don't sleep with someone I don't trust.

For me its a combination of personality, trust and general attractiveness (relative to my way of thinking).

kind of depends on what you mean by trust. i don't trust anyone absolutely in any context or relationship. i just don't see it as realistic to do so. nor would i ask nor expect anyone to do so of me.

i HAVE never slept with anyone i didn't feel i could trust not to catch s.t.d.'s from though.

=^^=
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kind of depends on what you mean by trust. i don't trust anyone absolutely in any context or relationship. i just don't see it as realistic to do so. nor would i ask nor expect anyone to do so of me.

i HAVE never slept with anyone i didn't feel i could trust not to catch s.t.d.'s from though.

=^^=
.../\...

Hmm.. by trust I mean I trust them not to claim it wasn't consentiual... trust them not to go all Basic Instinct on me when its all said and done... trust them to be clean...

it's good for society and the individual by lowering aggressiveness.

But it's not like food or water, there's not really any reason why would couldn't function properly without sex (and most likely sleep) except for the simple fact that we can't.

I was going to put that... But didn't. ;)

You are stronger than me, then. :D

I voted for handsomeness, hotness, sexiness, the fact that she'll have sex with me and other (mostly my relationship with that person)

But it's not like food or water, there's not really any reason why would couldn't function properly without sex (and most likely sleep) except for the simple fact that we can't.

I think he meant that we have the biological need to have sex, like we have the biological need to eat and breath.

Isn't sex appeal pretty much a given?

I think he meant that we have the biological need to have sex, like we have the biological need to eat and breath.

Yeah I know, I just feel that it affecting our minds like is a crappy way to ensure that the species continues :p

Then that is a different question to the one you asked.

If you want to know why I have sex with a particular person, the answer is because she's my wife, and I'm rather fond of her.

And you're fond of her because...?

Wow, I've never had to explain such a simple thread to someone. Having a bad day, huh?

Yeah I know, I just feel that it affecting our minds like is a crappy way to ensure that the species continues :p

Our minds are affected in many crappy ways to ensure the continuation of our species. Pain, hunger, tiredness, grief, etc all serve evolutionary purposes. So do happiness and most other 'good' feelings of course.

sex has powerful psychological motivations that are hard to quantify.

its never just "well she is pretty and willing so ill have sex with her".

as you know from looking around people have sex with all sorts of people for all sorts of reason many of them very bad reasons. they have sex with people when they know being found out will ruin their lives. they have sex with dangerous people who could end up hurting them physically and psychologically. they have straight sex without realizing that they would prefer to have gay sex. they take up with girl A when their affection lies with girl B.

having sex with you "hot" sister (hotness doesnt really come into it) almost never has a good psychological base.

And you're fond of her because...?

Wow, I've never had to explain such a simple thread to someone. Having a bad day, huh?

No, but it seems like you are lacking the ability to see the obvious.

If you need someone to explain to you why we have basic instincts, then perhaps you need advice from someone a little more professional than an online forum. If, however, this is just some teenage attempt to get sexual thrills vicariously, as I suspect, then I don't see why we should play along.

mostly because i'm drunk. and i can't really in good faith check anyhing but 'other' becaue i've never slept with anyone i still found attractive in the morning.

mostly because i'm drunk. and i can't really in good faith check anyhing but 'other' becaue i've never slept with anyone i still found attractive in the morning.

is that true?

is that true?

yup, sad isn't it.

yup, sad isn't it.

yeah it is. you might want to work on that.

Some people have said (in another thread) that they would have sex with their very own hypothetical sister if she was hot, so...

Why do people choose to have sex with each other? Is it just about attractiveness and looks, or is there something more to it?

Poll coming: What makes you want to have sex with someone?

With me, sex is usually something to have between romantic partners, and that's the attitude I take towards any relationship. I'm not exactly in to casual sex.

I'd say something more like "spiritual connection" but I'm an atheist so that's a no go.

I voted everything except "sex is evil" and "the fact that they'll have sex with me"

Sex is not evil, though it is true that people have been using it for evil purposes since Bible days. I'm going to spare you a lecture about how God created sex to be between people who love each other, buuuuuut...let me just say it's not evil.

Also, the "fact that they'd have sex with me" gives me a "desperate" connontation, to be frank. (No offense whatsoever to anyone who voted that....I'm just giving my opinions for what I voted, nothing more or less.)

The rest of the things...hm, it really depends on if I'm fangirling or if it's with someone I actually know and have a chance with...but, regarding my most recent object of fangirlism, I'd have to say everything else =D And that goes for the people I actually know and have a chance with too XD

Well obviously.

So, does that mean you'll have sex with anyone, because it's your nature?

Well, will you eat or drink anything put in front of you? Not unless not doing so will cause you to die of starvation. So there's an issue of taste/preference involved.

Yeah I know, I just feel that it affecting our minds like is a crappy way to ensure that the species continues :p

If by "crappy", you mean "genius with regard to ensuring reproduction", then yes.

I find that state of mind has a lot to do with who you will or won't have sex with. There's the usual "beer goggles" concept that lowers inhibitions and standards, but other states of mind can be similarly deleterious to judgment. Intense emotional states -- loss, depression, sadness, but also euphoria and elation, among others -- can alter what would be your usual "selection process" (for want of a better term).

As for me, when I was younger, it was anyone who possessed even a remotely attractive quality to me, and who thought the same of me. My late teens and early 20s weren't about all that much depth -- all I knew was that everyone around me was having sex and not with me. When I grew up, I began to understand that attractiveness is important, but I've gotta be able to mesh in some way with a woman's personality without "faking it" just to get laid. Remorse is no fun in the morning, no matter how hot she is. Now, in my late 30s, intellectual and emotional compatibility is primary in my attraction matrix. That's because getting a boner out of the typical heterosexual man is not exactly rocket science. It's not even astrology.

So yeah, a smokin' hot body wearing revealing or sinuous clothing will do to me what it'll do to just about every hetero man -- that doesn't mean I want to have sex with her. All kinds of things get into my head, and her ability to make me laugh, make me think, show me genuine affection (in what might seem like inconsequential ways, but truly aren't, as well as obvious ways), make me see that she appreciates herself (i.e. genuine, unaffected confidence), and isn't overly concerned with status, clothing, wealth or other insubstantial or irrelevant things (but knows enough so as not to be a troglodyte and dress appropriately on a date to, say, the symphony) -- well, it all gets factored in. And the thing is, the more complex and manifold your attraction matrix is (which I find at least correlates with getting older), the longer (necessarily) it takes for you to determine someone's true suitability for you.

In short, one night stands are for the young and those seeking to feel, appear or fantasize about youth. Toys are for the moment; what is genuine outlives galaxies.

With me, sex is usually something to have between romantic partners, and that's the attitude I take towards any relationship. I'm not exactly in to casual sex.

I'd say something more like "spiritual connection" but I'm an atheist so that's a no go.

Untrue. Spirituality is not the solely the province of religion or even deism. Kindred spirits do not require a concordance form the Pope, or any other human, no matter how big his hat is.

yeah it is. you might want to work on that.

i have plenty of ideas. most of them involve fixing everything else that's wrong with me first though. heh.

Instinct. But if you mean what chooses me a sex partner?

You have to have a balance of good looks and good personality (unless I'm stoned off my ass, then I only need good looks). But for sober, conscious sex, I require an all around do-able person. I can't be with someone attractive whose personality I hate nor can I be with someone ass ugly whose personality I like.

And in greater detail:

I would like a girl of Finnish descent
Aged 17
5'7
With medium length blonde hair
With an IQ between 125 - 135
Who loves metal
And mosh-pits
And has sexy tattoos
Who is non-religious
And philisophical
Perfectly symmetrical C-cups
And black nails
Sarcastic and funny
And sometimes cute
And kinky to the extreme but dedicated to me.



BUT

since my standards are much lower outside of the internet, I lost my virginity to a girl who was about a 6/10

Untrue. Spirituality is not the solely the province of religion or even deism.

Most atheists are also naturalists. I guess he or she was looking at it from that perspective...

Kindred spirits do not require a concordance form the Pope, or any other human, no matter how big his hat is.

apparently pretty big. (http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/en/e/e9/Paul_VI_4.jpg)

Untrue. Spirituality is not the solely the province of religion or even deism. Kindred spirits do not require a concordance form the Pope, or any other human, no matter how big his hat is.

True, but I'm also a naturalist or whatever the term is for someone who accepts only science.

So I suppose what I'd say instead would be the bond that is capable of existing...what you'd call it, I dunno...spiritual works as a word, and though it has connotations I'd rather it not have, it may work best for what I mean.

So I suppose what I'd say instead would be the bond that is capable of existing...what you'd call it, I dunno...spiritual works as a word, and though it has connotations I'd rather it not have, it may work best for what I mean.

In love?

i have plenty of ideas. most of them involve fixing everything else that's wrong with me first though. heh.

ALWAYS a good idea.

True, but I'm also a naturalist or whatever the term is for someone who accepts only science.

So I suppose what I'd say instead would be the bond that is capable of existing...what you'd call it, I dunno...spiritual works as a word, and though it has connotations I'd rather it not have, it may work best for what I mean.

Of course "spiritual" works. Just because the religionists co-opted it doesn't mean it can't be used to describe the feelings even naturalists in love have for one another. 'Cause no matter how you try to boil affection down to chemicals, there's something going on in a human connection that is not satisfactorily explained by hormones and stimulus-response.

I voted " other " I like a chick who can make toast.


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ALWAYS a good idea.



Of course "spiritual" works. Just because the religionists co-opted it doesn't mean it can't be used to describe the feelings even naturalists in love have for one another. 'Cause no matter how you try to boil affection down to chemicals, there's something going on in a human connection that is not satisfactorily explained by hormones and stimulus-response.

I suppose that's true enough.

Of course "spiritual" works. Just because the religionists co-opted it doesn't mean it can't be used to describe the feelings even naturalists in love have for one another. 'Cause no matter how you try to boil affection down to chemicals, there's something going on in a human connection that is not satisfactorily explained by hormones and stimulus-response.

I agree that spiritual might work to describe certain feelings, but I disagree that they can explain them.
If someone has a 'spiritual experience' by praying, does that mean there is a god? Or is it still just chemicals?

i have plenty of ideas. most of them involve fixing everything else that's wrong with me first though. heh.

oh god dont wait THAT long!

Some people have said (in another thread) that they would have sex with their very own hypothetical sister if she was hot, so...

Why do people choose to have sex with each other? Is it just about attractiveness and looks, or is there something more to it?

Poll coming: What makes you want to have sex with someone?

...

Shouldn't your parents have had this talk with you?:confused::p

oh god dont wait THAT long!

what exactly are you implying? :p

what exactly are you implying? :p

That fixing everything else first will take quite some time. Maybe not even worth it.

Love

I voted for personality :) because I don't care just how handsome a guy is if we don't click mentally then nothing is going to happen.

what exactly are you implying? :p

you know what im implying.

take a good look around. guys far less worthy of good sex than you are are getting plenty of it. they didnt wait til they got everything fixed, why should you?

which doesnt mean that you shouldnt try to improve yourself, just that its not necessary to get it all done before you go for what you want in life.

Why do people have sex?
Feels better than bricking yourself in the balls. At least, that's what I've been told, I'm not too experienced in bricks.

I agree that spiritual might work to describe certain feelings, but I disagree that they can explain them.
If someone has a 'spiritual experience' by praying, does that mean there is a god? Or is it still just chemicals?

It's all just chemicals, even the spiritual stuff. Feeling the presence of god can be induced in laboratory settings; it can also be done at home with most hallucinogens (don't try this at home, kids.)

Don't think of it as "just chemicals" though. Those chemicals serve a powerful evolutionary purpose. Without them, the species wouldn't have survived as there would be no inherent reward for sex or the building of relationships.

Don't think of it as "just chemicals" though. Those chemicals serve a powerful evolutionary purpose. Without them, the species wouldn't have survived as there would be no inherent reward for sex or the building of relationships.

So it's all just evolution then? :p

you know what im implying.

take a good look around. guys far less worthy of good sex than you are are getting plenty of it. they didnt wait til they got everything fixed, why should you?

which doesnt mean that you shouldnt try to improve yourself, just that its not necessary to get it all done before you go for what you want in life.

*actually didn't know that's what you were implying*

*thought you were making a joke*

*actually didn't know that's what you were implying*

*thought you were making a joke*

i was going along with your joke. (after all i dont know you and what issues you might or might not have)

but its serious too. you shouldnt let low self esteem prevent you from having what everyone else has.

i was going along with your joke. (after all i dont know you and what issues you might or might not have)

but its serious too. you shouldnt let low self esteem prevent you from having what everyone else has.

aye, well that's one of the things that needs fixed. that or lowering my standards.

No, but it seems like you are lacking the ability to see the obvious.

If you need someone to explain to you why we have basic instincts, then perhaps you need advice from someone a little more professional than an online forum. If, however, this is just some teenage attempt to get sexual thrills vicariously, as I suspect, then I don't see why we should play along.

No, I don't lack the ability to see the obvious. I fully understand basic instinct, thank you very much. It's just a damn question, and I can't see why you're reading more into it. I was reading the "your views of incest" thread, and people were saying they'd have sex with their own sister if "she was hot", which I found, well, rather strange. Personally, I feel someone just being "hot" isn't all that would make me have sex with them. That's why I asked the question: "What makes you choose to have sex with someone?". I was interested if people would say that looks were all that matters. Perhaps if you bothered to read a little more than the actual thread title, you'd realise that.

I get my sexual thrills elsewhere, but thanks for playing. :rolleyes:

Because it feels good because nature needs us to reproduce and the only way to make that happen in egotistical humans is by making it fun.

There's a lot of women I find hot, but don't have sex with. There has to be other factors, not least of which the sheer impracticality of pursuing every woman on earth.

Luckily, cloning has absolved me of my genetic urge to spam the global genepool with my DNA. I no longer need women to produce my army of cyborg clones. That frees up my social life considerably.

um what?

So, does that mean you'll have sex with anyone, because it's your nature?

No, but that would be why you would have sex with 'someone'.

Why do people choose to have sex with each other? Is it just about attractiveness and looks, or is there something more to it?

You see the human body contains a very special organ called the brain. It has many wonderful, wonderful functions which include the conscious/subconscious mind, hormone producing areas and form a vital part of modern Zombie-Chow.

Normally most humans are wandering around, doing human things, eating food preferred by humans or other activities. Then, whilst they are doing those cheerful things a bunch of chemicals are released and flood around the body, eventually getting to the brain.

This person's mind then transforms from it's blissful existence to a sudden desire to perform actions certain actions. These release more chemicals that trigger even more chemicals and result in the mind thinking it is having fun/pleasure. This is usually accompanied by copious amounts of liquid being ejected from some regions of the body.

This is all designed to force the two seperate genders to have 'happy fun time' with each other and result in a little bundle of cells that consumes resources of the parents so the whole cycle can be repeated, with these humansthen commencing in discussion about why most of them wish to commence 'happy fun time' with each other (gender/partner number notwithstanding).

For fun and for profit!

Why do people have sex?

Speaking for myself, it's because shared orgasm is better than orgasm while alone. (Although, the latter is not so bad either.)

I agree that spiritual might work to describe certain feelings, but I disagree that they can explain them.
If someone has a 'spiritual experience' by praying, does that mean there is a god? Or is it still just chemicals?

That, sir, is an excellent question to which the answer is probably forty-two.

Okay, seriously, that's really up to the person doing the praying. Faith seems to me to be a decision you make on exactly the question you asked. "I felt something when I prayed" or other experiences like that lead to questions like "did I feel that because I WANTED to, or because I thought I SHOULD, or because it was God's will?" and so forth. Each person's answer to that question constructs their view of faith and how it operates in their life. At least, that's the conclusion I've drawn based on my observations over a couple of decades. That and a couple of bucks will buy you a cup of coffee.

you know what im implying.

take a good look around. guys far less worthy of good sex than you are are getting plenty of it. they didnt wait til they got everything fixed, why should you?

which doesnt mean that you shouldnt try to improve yourself, just that its not necessary to get it all done before you go for what you want in life.

Absolutely agreed -- in fact, most relationships, if you let them, will educate you as to how you might go about improving yourself by showing you what you want or don't want with regard to sexual matters being with another person. It can often, if not always, take another's perspective to illuminate the work you've done and the work you may still need to do.

Speaking for myself, it's because shared orgasm is better than orgasm while alone. (Although, the latter is not so bad either.)

Amen on both counts.

For fun and for profit!

For King and for Country!

For King and for Country!

God for Harry, England and St. George!

For King and for Country!
Well, I have been known to shout "HUZZAH!" at the moment of climax.

(note : may not be true)

Well, I have been known to shout "HUZZAH!" at the moment of climax.

(note : may not be true)

I once heard someone shout Huzz...waait a minute...
*suspicious look*

(note : may be false)

I was reading the "your views of incest" thread, and people were saying they'd have sex with their own sister if "she was hot", which I found, well, rather strange.

Well it has been documented that siblings that grow apart from each other for the first 5 years of their lives will find each other attractive when they reach puberty...

Everyone is lying. The only reason people have sex is because they feel sorry for the other person.

Everyone is lying. The only reason people have sex is because they feel sorry for the other person.

Pitty sex ftw.

boredom

there is the famous case of birth rates skyrocketing when the power goes out :p (could it be the Internet is stopping my sex!?:eek:)

Possibly a well-formed body and a visage free of sizable defects.

I really would not know because I am a virgin who does want sex, has an eating disorder, reads Ambrose Bierce and has been cited as egotistical and obtuse...in other words, I am the embodiment of NS, minus the sexiness.

I really would not know because I am a virgin who does want sex, has an eating disorder, reads Ambrose Bierce and has been cited as egotistical and obtuse...in other words, I am the embodiment of NS, minus the sexiness.

I always thought of NS as a crack whore...well, maybe that's NSG.

Everyone is lying. The only reason people have sex is because they feel sorry for the other person.

Quiet, you. Don't reveal our secret.

Everyone is lying. The only reason people have sex is because they feel sorry for the other person.

Well I hope all the attractive women I associate with are very empathetic.
Or druids.

I'm reminded of a video I watched back when I was a student, for a course on adolescent psychology, which consisted of about a dozen rather painful interviews with 13-16 year-old girls who had gotten pregnant. The typical interview went something like this:

Interviewer: "So, you knew that having sex without using any sort of birth control would put you at risk of becoming pregnant, and yet you chose to have sex with [some guy] repeatedly, and without using contraception. Is that right?"
Girl: "Well... yeah, but he wrote me a poem."

Substitute "wrote me a song" or "took me to a dance," etc. etc. Pretty sad, but I couldn't help wondering what sort of trouble I might've gotten myself into at that age if I had known that (some) girls were that easily manipulated. Frightening. :p On topic, I think this sort of thing can be seen as evidence of the raw power of hormones. Thank God they dissipate as we age.

1. fun
2. it feels good
3. there's a certain inescapable drive to do so
4. to have kids (in a few years)
5. its intimate with the person i love

I always thought of NS as a crack whore...well, maybe that's NSG.

So I am just...crack.

Okay, seriously, that's really up to the person doing the praying. Faith seems to me to be a decision you make on exactly the question you asked. "I felt something when I prayed" or other experiences like that lead to questions like "did I feel that because I WANTED to, or because I thought I SHOULD, or because it was God's will?" and so forth. Each person's answer to that question constructs their view of faith and how it operates in their life. At least, that's the conclusion I've drawn based on my observations over a couple of decades. That and a couple of bucks will buy you a cup of coffee.

I'm still quite sure it's all just chemicals and God, spiritual connection with your partner etc are all illusions or ways to explain what we don't understand (like I said, it's a good way to describe it, but not to explain).
Certain drugs will give you the feeling that you love everybody (or something comparable at least) for instance. I'm not sure but I guess this naturalistic view doesn't make love any less valuable.

Everyone is lying. The only reason people have sex is because they feel sorry for the other person.

Interviewer: "So, you knew that having sex without using any sort of birth control would put you at risk of becoming pregnant, and yet you chose to have sex with [some guy] repeatedly, and without using contraception. Is that right?"
Girl: "Well... yeah, but he wrote me a poem."

Roses are red,
Violets are blue,
We have to have sex:
I feel sorry for you.

Yeah, that shouldn't work but it does. Girls are stupid.

Yeah, so i spend two days watching ST:TNG, and Amor puts up a sex poll. :headbang: :headbang: :headbang:
I had to choose "Other" as well :p
Well, it was time well spent, since i can again quote romance advice to Geordi:
It is the scent that first speaks of love.

That said... sense of humor gets you in the door, but looks get you in bed. :P
Deadly aphrodisiac, humor.
<.<
>.>

I'm reminded of a video I watched back when I was a student, for a course on adolescent psychology, which consisted of about a dozen rather painful interviews with 13-16 year-old girls who had gotten pregnant. The typical interview went something like this:

Interviewer: "So, you knew that having sex without using any sort of birth control would put you at risk of becoming pregnant, and yet you chose to have sex with [some guy] repeatedly, and without using contraception. Is that right?"
Girl: "Well... yeah, but he wrote me a poem."

Substitute "wrote me a song" or "took me to a dance," etc. etc. Pretty sad, but I couldn't help wondering what sort of trouble I might've gotten myself into at that age if I had known that (some) girls were that easily manipulated. Frightening. :p On topic, I think this sort of thing can be seen as evidence of the raw power of hormones. Thank God they dissipate as we age.


I always felt bad for all these girls my exboyfriend had sex with. He'd get them by singing them a song he wrote, and for each one, it was the same damn song.

I have sex because I love the boy, and the obvious, sex feels good.

If you want to know why I have sex with a particular person, the answer is because she's my wife, and I'm rather fond of her.
Rake.

Isn't sex appeal pretty much a given?

That reminds me of something that came up last month ...
http://www.thesmokinggun.com/archive/1116061deer1.html

I always felt bad for all these girls my exboyfriend had sex with. He'd get them by singing them a song he wrote, and for each one, it was the same damn song.

Lady Marmalade?

Wow, I've never had to explain such a simple thread to someone.

I keep sayin, "pix" :p

I'd say something more like "spiritual connection" but I'm an atheist so that's a no go.
Not true.

Untrue. Spirituality is not the solely the province of religion or even deism. Kindred spirits do not require a concordance form the Pope, or any other human, no matter how big his hat is.
Nicely put! *bows*

At least, that's what I've been told, I'm not too experienced in bricks.http://www.chicagobarproject.com/Reviews/Bricks/BrickTamland.jpg
What, you wouldn't tap that?

I no longer need women to produce my army of cyborg clones. That frees up my social life considerably.Which is somewhat uncomfortable, since all we ever talk about in your free time is variance on sexual themes, and innuendo. *wink*

I once heard someone shout Huzz...waait a minute...
*suspicious look*

(note : may be false)http://taskboy.com/img/farnsworth.jpg
Damn!

sex has powerful psychological motivations that are hard to quantify.

its never just "well she is pretty and willing so ill have sex with her".

That seems to be the thought process going through a lot of people's heads, though.


having sex with you "hot" sister (hotness doesnt really come into it) almost never has a good psychological base.

You tell them that!

Well, will you eat or drink anything put in front of you? Not unless not doing so will cause you to die of starvation. So there's an issue of taste/preference involved.

Thanks for making my own point for me.

Instinct. But if you mean what chooses me a sex partner?

You have to have a balance of good looks and good personality (unless I'm stoned off my ass, then I only need good looks). But for sober, conscious sex, I require an all around do-able person. I can't be with someone attractive whose personality I hate nor can I be with someone ass ugly whose personality I like.

And in greater detail:

I would like a girl of Finnish descent
Aged 17
5'7
With medium length blonde hair
With an IQ between 125 - 135
Who loves metal
And mosh-pits
And has sexy tattoos
Who is non-religious
And philisophical
Perfectly symmetrical C-cups
And black nails
Sarcastic and funny
And sometimes cute
And kinky to the extreme but dedicated to me.



BUT

since my standards are much lower outside of the internet, I lost my virginity to a girl who was about a 6/10

You have a very specific list there.


You see the human body contains a very special organ called the brain. It has many wonderful, wonderful functions which include the conscious/subconscious mind, hormone producing areas and form a vital part of modern Zombie-Chow.

Normally most humans are wandering around, doing human things, eating food preferred by humans or other activities. Then, whilst they are doing those cheerful things a bunch of chemicals are released and flood around the body, eventually getting to the brain.

This person's mind then transforms from it's blissful existence to a sudden desire to perform actions certain actions. These release more chemicals that trigger even more chemicals and result in the mind thinking it is having fun/pleasure. This is usually accompanied by copious amounts of liquid being ejected from some regions of the body.

This is all designed to force the two seperate genders to have 'happy fun time' with each other and result in a little bundle of cells that consumes resources of the parents so the whole cycle can be repeated, with these humansthen commencing in discussion about why most of them wish to commence 'happy fun time' with each other (gender/partner number notwithstanding).

:eek:

Well obviously.

So, does that mean you'll have sex with anyone, because it's your nature?

Only the opposite sex, and why yes...yes it does! Bumping uglies can be fun...or at least I'm told it is seeing as my best date has been Rosie Palmer:headbang:

That seems to be the thought process going through a lot of people's heads, though.

You tell them that!


people are often unaware of the psychology that underlies all of their sexual decisions.

the assertion that some have made that they would be willing to have sex with their "hot" sister if they had one shows that they didnt really think all that much about it.

Ummmm sex :-) Lol.

:eek:

What can I say, I like to allude :p.

Nicely put! *bows*

*bows in return*

Thank you. It only took me 37+ years to figure that one out. Just 2,473,910 helpful truths left before the last of the seven veils can fall.

Why do people have sex?

Because it's awsome!!!:D

Why do people have sex?

Because it's awsome!!!:D

This.

Why do people have sex?

Because it's awsome!!!:D

And now I feel ashamed that I refrained from saying that when I first read the OP.

It's weird so many people selected things like personality and intelligence. Although those things are great to have, I don't find them 'sexually attractive', I wouldn't have sex with someone really ugly just because they have a nice personality.

And now I feel ashamed that I refrained from saying that when I first read the OP.


Why refrain from saying something that's true? Sex is awsome!!:D:D

Why refrain from saying something that's true? Sex is awsome!!:D:D

Because I decided to stick to the spirit of the question, which was what makes you want to have sex with a particular person. I was being serious the day Amor posted this...

And yes it is... Anyone who says otherwise either
a) has never had it or
b) is doing wrong

Because I decided to stick to the spirit of the question, which was what makes you want to have sex with a particular person. I was being serious the day Amor posted this...

And yes it is... Anyone who says otherwise either
a) has never had it or
b) is doing wrong


I see.
Yes, options A and B are true. Those who said sex isn't good do not know what they're talking about.:D

Ok, fine Ill answer the question in the way Amor wanted.


Because theyre hot and willing. And not related to me.


Thats really the reason. Sex can exist outside of love.

Ok, fine Ill answer the question in the way Amor wanted.


Because theyre hot and willing. And not related to me.


Thats really the reason. Sex can exist outside of love.

Very true

Smileys explain it all:
http://www.freesmileys.org/smileys/sex022.gif

http://www.freesmileys.org/smileys/sex022.gif

:D

Why do people have sex?

Because it's awsome!!!:D

It most certainly can be.

Unfortunately, many people allow all kinds of baggage about sex to clutter up their minds. A mind preoccupied is a mind untuned to anyone's sexuality, especially their own. My own problem is that I feel it almost imperative that any woman I'm with be the center of attention, I have just about forgotten how to receive pleasure myself.

That said, when all involved are on the same page, "awesome" sometimes doesn't cover how good sex can be.

It most certainly can be.

Unfortunately, many people allow all kinds of baggage about sex to clutter up their minds. A mind preoccupied is a mind untuned to anyone's sexuality, especially their own. My own problem is that I feel it almost imperative that any woman I'm with be the center of attention, I have just about forgotten how to receive pleasure myself.

That said, when all involved are on the same page, "awesome" sometimes doesn't cover how good sex can be.

That's why I posted the smiley.;)
http://www.freesmileys.org/smileys/sex022.gif

I think prettiness of face, mind and soul are most important to make me love a girl, then a want for sex comes much later.

It's weird so many people selected things like personality and intelligence. Although those things are great to have, I don't find them 'sexually attractive', I wouldn't have sex with someone really ugly just because they have a nice personality.

I wouldn't - now, haha - have sex with a hot guy with a bad personality though.

Very true

I, personally, feel that for sex to be good, you have to have some sort of mental connection. It doesn't have to be love, but if you don't "click" personality-wise, it's really not that good.

Unfortunately, I find to often my sex/love-life is best described (except regarding gender) by the following from Jane's Addiction (http://www.janesaddiction.com/)'s "Jane Says":

Jane says
I've never been in love -no
she don't know what it is
she only knows if someone wants her
I want them if they want me
I only know they want me

Thank you. It only took me 37+ years to figure that one out. Just 2,473,910 helpful truths left before the last of the seven veils can fall.
Ouch. And also true.

Why do people choose to have sex with each other? Is it just about attractiveness and looks, or is there something more to it?

Poll coming: What makes you want to have sex with someone?

I'm genetically programmed to do so.
:)

...and it's fun.

I voted "The fact that they'll have sex with me" because if they wouldn't that would make a rapist of me.
Anyway, I know people that could easyly answer "Because it breathes".