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Explain, if you can (I sure can't), the psychology that keeps the wives of politicians "standing by their man."

I suppose I could understand Hillary (sort of). She was, and still is, politically ambitious. She felt, I suppose with some justification, that divorce would hurt her goals.

But Spitzer's wife, as far as I know, has no political ambitions. Yet here she is, backing him up. What does she get out of it? Does having a feeling of moral superiority really have that much going for it? And don't tell me it's love, because, frankly, I can't buy it in this context.

I know that if I were her, I would have a pack of hungry lawyers on him faster than you could say "solicitation." He'd be lucky to get out with his privates intact.

Marriage is about more than love. Sometimes its about understanding your partner's emotional dilemma, and accepting that the person you married will make mistakes.

Some little. Some major.

Marriage means giving the person the freedom to make fools of themselves, and the promise of forgiveness following disappoinment. Gov. Spitzer's conduct may be a reflection of something much more important than sex that's missing from or damaged in his marriage. Perhaps Mrs. Spitzer is even aware of this problem. Maybe she simply loves her husband--the man she knows behind the governor.

Or maybe she just likes being on TV. I mean, who doesn't?

See what I did there?

Explain, if you can (I sure can't), the psychology that keeps the wives of politicians "standing by their man."

Why on earth is 'standing by your man' limited to politicians wives?

Explain, if you can (I sure can't), the psychology that keeps the wives of politicians "standing by their man."

I suppose I could understand Hillary (sort of). She was, and still is, politically ambitious. She felt, I suppose with some justification, that divorce would hurt her goals.

But Spitzer's wife, as far as I know, has no political ambitions. Yet here she is, backing him up. What does she get out of it? Does having a feeling of moral superiority really have that much going for it? And don't tell me it's love, because, frankly, I can't buy it in this context.

I know that if I were her, I would have a pack of hungry lawyers on him faster than you could say "solicitation." He'd be lucky to get out with his privates intact.
Either she's incredibly docile and his willing servant, or she's a cold, calculating bitch that now has him in her power. Her POWER! Muahahaha!

Or something in between.

Explain, if you can (I sure can't), the psychology that keeps the wives of politicians "standing by their man."

I suppose I could understand Hillary (sort of). She was, and still is, politically ambitious. She felt, I suppose with some justification, that divorce would hurt her goals.

But Spitzer's wife, as far as I know, has no political ambitions. Yet here she is, backing him up. What does she get out of it? Does having a feeling of moral superiority really have that much going for it? And don't tell me it's love, because, frankly, I can't buy it in this context.

I know that if I were her, I would have a pack of hungry lawyers on him faster than you could say "solicitation." He'd be lucky to get out with his privates intact.

Shock, which leads to being easily convinced by your spouses handlers to show up in public so any wrongdoings look like a "personal family matter", rather than a legal one?

When you’re suddenly blind sighted like that, it’s easy to do things that are otherwise out of your usual character. It's certainly not the type of issue that you resolve in your own mind in a day or two and make rational decisions about on the spot. Most people need to time to process it.

it hasnt been a week yet. she is shell shocked and going through the motions.

standing by her man today doesnt mean she wont divorce him tomorrow.