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It's officially over. Apparently, my now ex-g.f. met some guy online (in a sick twist of irony, on the same website she met me), he flew there and met her, and now they're getting married. Never mind the fact that she and I had been friends for almost four years, and b.f./g.f. for several months. So, it's all over now. How could she do this to me? I've experienced some cruel things before, but nothing that came anywhere close to this. I loved her with all my heart, and she callously stabbed me in the back and ripped my heart out. How can anyone do something that inhumane? I really loved her and would have done anything for her, and then she does this to me.

So, that's the end of that.

*sigh*

:( That sucks.


NSG is not your blog.

im sorry for your pain but MYGOD you dodged a bullet.

It's officially over. Apparently, my now ex-g.f. met some guy online (in a sick twist of irony, on the same website she met me), he flew there and met her, and now they're getting married. Never mind the fact that she and I had been friends for almost four years, and b.f./g.f. for several months. So, it's all over now. How could she do this to me? I've experienced some cruel things before, but nothing that came anywhere close to this. I loved her with all my heart, and she callously stabbed me in the back and ripped my heart out. How can anyone do something that inhumane? I really loved her and would have done anything for her, and then she does this to me.

So, that's the end of that.

*sigh*

I understand how you feel. Maybe you should recover by reading the writings of another who understands: Ambrose Bierce. He was married once, and had three kids. His wife started seeing another man, it ended in divorce and, well...he became more cynical.

CUPID, n. The so-called god of love. This bastard creation of a barbarous fancy was no doubt inflicted upon mythology for the sins of its deities. Of all unbeautiful and inappropriate conceptions this is the most reasonless and offensive. The notion of symbolizing sexual love by a semisexless babe, and comparing the pains of passion to the wounds of an arrow — of introducing this pudgy homunculus into art grossly to materialize the subtle spirit and suggestion of the work — this is eminently worthy of the age that, giving it birth, laid it on the doorstep of prosperity.

LOVE, n. A temporary insanity curable by marriage or by removal of the patient from the influences under which he incurred the disorder. This disease, like caries and many other ailments, is prevalent only among civilized races living under artificial conditions; barbarous nations breathing pure air and eating simple food enjoy immunity from its ravages. It is sometimes fatal, but more frequently to the physician than to the patient.

-Bierce.

http://www.intellectualwhores.com/masterladder.html

In your current situation, this might make you feel better. Or worse, in which case I'm sorry.

So... what's your question?

These things take time to heal. Give yourself some. Get yourself some comfort food. Go out for a coffee late at night with a buddy and vent. Gather everything of hers, put it in her car in the dark of night and set it on fire. Do something(sport, hobby, etc.) you used to do before you met her that you used to enjoy. But most of all, take time to heal. Love gone bad is as painful as a physical wound and needs time to get over.


Most of what I said above are good ideas. *nod*

1) women + internet = evil and\or trap
2) your where friends with her and you dated her?! did you play with fire much as a child?
3) hang on I'm reading that as she dumped you today and randomly decided to get married :confused:

have a :fluffle:, a song that always works in these moments for me (http://youtube.com/watch?v=VsZFiMo8TIc) and the knowledge that everyone has had this and your not alone :)

that sucks some big hairy bitter balls. i have nothing to suggest but reckless self destruction, but i acknowledge that my way is rarely the best way. i'll just give you a :fluffle: and hope for the best, or an end to the worst.

Look on the bright side, the rest of your life will probably be better now in comparison to today.

Life for you, has been less than kind
So take a number, stand in line
We’ve all been sorry, we’ve all been hurt
But how we survive, is what makes us who we are

It's sad but you'll get over it. No use crying over spilled milk. Maybe you should be happy for her, but you're not. You're only thinking about yourself rather than thinking about how this could be good for the both of you. It never worked out, she never did and never was going to love you as much as you loved her. I know it hurts but it's brutal... honesty is the best policy. You'll get over it... one step at a time. Remember, if you want to get over this and quit whining... do not have anything to do with her. And if she asks tell her why. Remember, honesty. You won't get her back but if she is in any way decent she'll understand and try not to push it further.

That and get pissed drunk. My record is shotgunning 15 beer in 2 hours and not even getting that drunk... try and beat that. Sure it's costly but at least you're not paying with the rest of your life like that other shmuck...

Substance abuse cures all wounds.

have a :fluffle:, a song that always works in these moments for me (http://youtube.com/watch?v=VsZFiMo8TIc) and the knowledge that everyone has had this and your not alone :)

fuck, i never heared the original of that before. never realised how badly madonna fucked it over. :eek:

fuck, i never heared the original of that before. never realised how badly madonna fucked it over. :eek:

well she is from Michigan, no doubt shes working for the Canadian dollar!

kill her. That'll solve things.

kill her. That'll solve things.

I hold your hand in mine, dear,
I press it to my lips.
I take a healthy bite
From your dainty fingertips.

My joy would be complete, dear,
If you were only here,
But still I keep your hand
As a precious souvenir.

The night you died I cut it off,
I really don't know why.
For now each time I kiss it
I get bloodstains on my tie.

I'm sorry now I killed you,
For our love was something fine,
And till they come to get me
I shall hold your hand in mine.

-Tom Lehrer

:( That sucks.


NSG is not your blog.

I never said it was.

This should be a lesson. Don't get emotional attached to anyone again and this will never happen again.

Being dead inside FTW!

This should be a lesson. Don't get emotional attached to anyone again and this will never happen again.

Being dead inside FTW!

Were that possible, I would definitely do that.

:(

That's awful.

if you have a sofa punch it til you bleed. or if not, anything that could stand in.

Were that possible, I would definitely do that.

I just lol'd. You should know better than to ever take advice from me. Especially regarding these "I'm in love/ I've just been dumped" type threads.

I never said it was.

your post however, would hint otherwise.

really magdha once you are over the shock of this you need to call her up and THANK her.

you dont need to be involved with a woman this stupid.

Thanks, folks.

It's officially over. Apparently, my now ex-g.f. met some guy online (in a sick twist of irony, on the same website she met me), he flew there and met her, and now they're getting married. Never mind the fact that she and I had been friends for almost four years, and b.f./g.f. for several months. So, it's all over now. How could she do this to me? I've experienced some cruel things before, but nothing that came anywhere close to this. I loved her with all my heart, and she callously stabbed me in the back and ripped my heart out. How can anyone do something that inhumane? I really loved her and would have done anything for her, and then she does this to me.

So, that's the end of that.

*sigh*

As a friend, I say you should look at this positively. Wouldn't it have been worse if you had gotten married to her and then she did this? Now you know her true self. There are a lot better women in the world. Don't let the actions of one woman ruin you. Go have fun. You're a bachelor again!

As a friend, I say you should look at this positively. Wouldn't it have been worse if you had gotten married to her and then she did this? Now you know her true self. There are a lot better women in the world. Don't let the actions of one woman ruin you. Go have fun. You're a bachelor again!

Thanks, HP. :)

This seems appropiate. (http://youtube.com/watch?v=BnwLf88t_Wc)

Np, man. This is one online friend who won't stab you in the back.

(Whispers to his friends) Are you ready to egg his house? :p

Np, man. This is one online friend who won't stab you in the back.

(Whispers to his friends) Are you ready to egg his house? :p

lmao :D

It's officially over. Apparently, my now ex-g.f. met some guy online (in a sick twist of irony, on the same website she met me), he flew there and met her, and now they're getting married. Never mind the fact that she and I had been friends for almost four years, and b.f./g.f. for several months. So, it's all over now. How could she do this to me? I've experienced some cruel things before, but nothing that came anywhere close to this. I loved her with all my heart, and she callously stabbed me in the back and ripped my heart out. How can anyone do something that inhumane? I really loved her and would have done anything for her, and then she does this to me.

So, that's the end of that.

*sigh*

Man, I'm sorry. That sucks royally. Was it a really sudden breakup?

Man, I'm sorry. That sucks royally. Was it a really sudden breakup?

Yes.

Ask 4chan. They usually know what to do.

Yes.

Well, then you can rest assured that she will probably leave him at some point. People who fling like that generally continue to fling like that. Not only that, but relationships built over the internet and first marriages tend to fail. 50% divorce rate in this land of ours...

It's officially over. Apparently, my now ex-g.f. met some guy online (in a sick twist of irony, on the same website she met me), he flew there and met her, and now they're getting married. Never mind the fact that she and I had been friends for almost four years, and b.f./g.f. for several months. So, it's all over now. How could she do this to me? I've experienced some cruel things before, but nothing that came anywhere close to this. I loved her with all my heart, and she callously stabbed me in the back and ripped my heart out. How can anyone do something that inhumane? I really loved her and would have done anything for her, and then she does this to me.

So, that's the end of that.

*sigh*

It sucks, but you'll survive, and hopefiully find someone that is perfect for you. At least she didn't break up with you because you didn't spend enough money on her (which would have shown her to be shallow and self important). I had that happen while I was a nearly broke college student, and she was pissed that I wasn't upset about the reasoning (I was actually VERY upset, but I didn't show her that fact). I told her that if my spending money on her was the only thing in our relationship that made her happy, then our relationship was doomed to fail.

It's officially over. Apparently, my now ex-g.f. met some guy online (in a sick twist of irony, on the same website she met me), he flew there and met her, and now they're getting married. Never mind the fact that she and I had been friends for almost four years, and b.f./g.f. for several months. So, it's all over now. How could she do this to me? I've experienced some cruel things before, but nothing that came anywhere close to this. I loved her with all my heart, and she callously stabbed me in the back and ripped my heart out. How can anyone do something that inhumane? I really loved her and would have done anything for her, and then she does this to me.

So, that's the end of that.

*sigh*

Christ, I am so sincerely sorry to hear that. That just makes me livid. Downright livid.

Choke the bitch.

Sucks ass man, I know how you feel. The love of my life, a girl I met on the internet and dated for three years, flew down to her house three seperate times (including her prom) to spend time with her, flew her here, and made every effort to be involved with her. And then she decides to go visit these freinds opf hers she knew for a long time before me, guys she thougt she would cheat on me with, and she knew my thoughts on that, so she broke up with me. It hurt. It hurt worse when she not only didn't even remotely cheat on me while there, but one of those "freinds" tried to kill the other ones because he was suddenly obsesed with her, and I paied for her to return to her home quickly from that. She absolutely tore my heart out when I told her I would be there for her, still loved her, and did want her back, but I wanted her happy first and foremost, and she essentially rebuffed me. It destroyed two years of my life, I almost failed out of university, and now three years later I'm still not over it.

It sucks too because she insisted we be freinds still, and sher is one of my closest freinds. She's not mean, none of it was meant to be mean, she did it all because she "didn't want to hurt me", and she really didn't want to hurt me. She unknowingly has done just that more then can be imagined though. And now she has yet another boyfreind. So I'm up shit creek.

So I know how you feel RB. And here's my advice. Don't mull over her, beat a pillow, go talk with freinds, do some things for a little while to get your mind around it. It will sink in and you'll move on. Don't dig yourself into a hole like me (Although in my case she is REALLY worth it).

Well Fuck her then:upyours:, that really sucks:upyours: ms ex g.f.:upyours::upyours::mp5::mp5: you suck

Well Fuck her then:upyours:, that really sucks:upyours: ms ex g.f.:upyours::upyours::mp5::mp5: you suck

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That's one response.

Well Fuck her then:upyours:, that really sucks:upyours: ms ex g.f.:upyours::upyours::mp5::mp5: you suck

lol :p

Thanks again, everyone. I really mean it. Thanks. :)

It takes a real psycho to want to marry someone they just met on the internet.

How old are you?

lol :p

Thanks again, everyone. I really mean it. Thanks. :)

This is a blessing, not a curse. I mean, talk about a close call! You might have come within an inch of commitment there, and I don't mean the kind where you agree to pay the tab, but the real deal. Y'know, the one where you're only halfway to your car when she wakes up the next morning.

You can stop screaming! I said you avoided that. Yeah, close call.

You know why the caged bird sings? No? Well neither do I, and that's how it should be. She tried to stuff you in a little cage called commitment, but then decided to stuff some other guy in there instead. Why? Who cares now that you can spread your wings, you goddamn falcon. Maybe she realized you weren't a bird, but you were actually a bear that would eat her face if she tried to cage you. If so, I'm forced to assume that you're a badass. Good work, badass!

Anyway, the point is that it isn't your problem anymore. So stop, and do your civic duty to the gender by making a short prayer (to the essence of Testosterone) to protect the poor bastard who's being locked in as we speak.

Poor... poor... bastard. *moment of silence*

But this is your chance! The springtime of your youth! Like the scent of fresh lemons! Objection! Overruled! Take the chance and sow your royal oats, sow them! As far as the eyes can see! And then farther!

Sucks ass man, I know how you feel. The love of my life, a girl I met on the internet and dated for three years, flew down to her house three seperate times (including her prom) to spend time with her, flew her here, and made every effort to be involved with her. And then she decides to go visit these freinds opf hers she knew for a long time before me, guys she thougt she would cheat on me with, and she knew my thoughts on that, so she broke up with me. It hurt. It hurt worse when she not only didn't even remotely cheat on me while there, but one of those "freinds" tried to kill the other ones because he was suddenly obsesed with her, and I paied for her to return to her home quickly from that. She absolutely tore my heart out when I told her I would be there for her, still loved her, and did want her back, but I wanted her happy first and foremost, and she essentially rebuffed me. It destroyed two years of my life, I almost failed out of university, and now three years later I'm still not over it.

It sucks too because she insisted we be freinds still, and sher is one of my closest freinds. She's not mean, none of it was meant to be mean, she did it all because she "didn't want to hurt me", and she really didn't want to hurt me. She unknowingly has done just that more then can be imagined though. And now she has yet another boyfreind. So I'm up shit creek.

So I know how you feel RB. And here's my advice. Don't mull over her, beat a pillow, go talk with freinds, do some things for a little while to get your mind around it. It will sink in and you'll move on. Don't dig yourself into a hole like me (Although in my case she is REALLY worth it).

You've been whining about an ex for three years? How many other girlfriends have you had?

You're fucking your life up, you need to move on and accept reality.

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That's one response.

That is first post.

If you really want to get her goat hook up with her sister and/or her mom. If you really want to drive a nail in her heart go for the dad. I know it sounds a bit sick but really revenge is sweet isn't it?

It takes a real psycho to want to marry someone they just met on the internet.

How old are you?


QFT...... mental problems FTW.

Edit: That fool did you a favor by taking that mental case off your hands. Be glad not sad.

You've been whining about an ex for three years? How many other girlfriends have you had?

You're fucking your life up, you need to move on and accept reality.

Lol, whining? No, I stopped "whining" when I was three.

I do however miss her, and I still love her. And I have tried to "get over it". It doesn't always work when you're that deep into it.

And no other girlfreinds, which was the whole point of why she was so special. You can sit here and say whatever you like, but not only do you not know me, you don't know the situation, so you've really got no insight.

And by the way, the only thing "fucking my life over" right now, is the provincial student loans idiots. I had a shitty year from emotional crap from that, and another shitty year from the first shitty year setting me back. But an extra year of university doesn't exactly do me anything bad (In fact it's quite helpful).

How old are you?

What does that have to do with anything? :confused:

Lol, whining? No, I stopped "whining" when I was three.

I do however miss her, and I still love her. And I have tried to "get over it". It doesn't always work when you're that deep into it.

And no other girlfreinds, which was the whole point of why she was so special. You can sit here and say whatever you like, but not only do you not know me, you don't know the situation, so you've really got no insight.

And by the way, the only thing "fucking my life over" right now, is the provincial student loans idiots. I had a shitty year from emotional crap from that, and another shitty year from the first shitty year setting me back. But an extra year of university doesn't exactly do me anything bad (In fact it's quite helpful).

I'm going to second the get over it. I don't need to know any circumstances to say that. Go out meet some more girls and have some fun. Life goes fast. Enjoy your youth as much as you can. Sounds like what you miss is the idea of loving someone. There are 3 billion or so women out there. Go find one.

Lol, whining? No, I stopped "whining" when I was three.

I do however miss her, and I still love her. And I have tried to "get over it". It doesn't always work when you're that deep into it.

And no other girlfreinds, which was the whole point of why she was so special. You can sit here and say whatever you like, but not only do you not know me, you don't know the situation, so you've really got no insight.

And by the way, the only thing "fucking my life over" right now, is the provincial student loans idiots. I had a shitty year from emotional crap from that, and another shitty year from the first shitty year setting me back. But an extra year of university doesn't exactly do me anything bad (In fact it's quite helpful).

That's a desperate, pathetic reason for anyone to be "special."

She's only "special" because you haven't gotten a replacement yet, which is one-hundred-percent completely your fault and no one else's.

Unless you prepared to admit that you've been deliberately misleading, I would say everyone who read your posts knows 'the situation.'

Also, you're in absolutely no position to criticize someone else's insight, since your experience is so narrow and the choices you've made are so poor and wrong.

You can't get over anything if you sit around feeling sorry for yourself all day. It's Friday, get off your ass and go out tonight and meet some people. You will regret having wasted your college years if you spent them being teary eyed about some girl you used to go out with who doesn't want to go out with you anymore, and never under any circumstances will again.

Who said I wanted to marry her?

You're the first person to bring up you wanting to marry her, with that post right there.

What does that have to do with anything? :confused:

It is certainly relevant to the evaluation of just how much of a psycho train wreck your new ex is.

Your ages will say a lot about just how big of a bullet you've dodged.

Seems some people ITT thinking they were entitled to another's love. It's a gift, not a contract. You're not owed anything.

It is certainly relevant to the evaluation of just how much of a psycho train wreck your new ex is.

Your ages will say a lot about just how big of a bullet you've dodged.

22.

I'm going to second the get over it. I don't need to know any circumstances to say that. Go out meet some more girls and have some fun. Life goes fast. Enjoy your youth as much as you can. Sounds like what you miss is the idea of loving someone. There are 3 billion or so women out there. Go find one.

I know plenty of women, my age, and single. I'm not a shut in, and I do have freinds. I, however, am about as bad with flirting with women as I am at speaking Chinese (I don't know Chinese), and unless someone is to show even the slighest interest in me, I'm generally unable to bring myself to try with them. And those that do (and there have been plenty), have not been keen to follow through any interest in me for whatever reason. Plenty of freinds, no girlfreind. I'm stuck in that rut. This stuff takes time. Emotional healing takes time, physical healing takes time, and the chance that another awesome woman who might be interested will come by, takes time. There really is jack shit I can do about it except finish my degree, and go somewhere else, new place = new chances. And that is two more years off.

New Granada, nice of you to assume I sit here crying. I guess we have different definitions of "getting over it". I'll accecpt any lack of girlfreind over the last three years as my fault when I've exhausted the entire world's supply of single women, untill then, as far as I'm concerned it's a statistics fault. Like I said, you know jack shit about the situation, to assume I have not had a girlfreind through lack of trying and crying in my room all day, that's just bad reasoning on your part.

Edit: I come in here to give a little support to RB and end up arguing with a bunch of silly internet people. Great way to spend my thursday night.

Women, what can you say? And if she did something like that too you, I am guessing she wasn't the best person to be around anyways. Think of it like a blessing, kicking off the extra baggage.

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I would go with an online service and write instead of talk. Writing is so much easier and I bet you would find it easier to talk to a gal that way. If I had online services when single I would have got myself in some serious trouble. Use the net to cover your shyness. Trust me there are women out there that are just as shy as you. Use the net and set yourself up every weekend.

I would go with an online service and write instead of talk. Writing is so much easier and I bet you would find it easier to talk to a gal that way. If I had online services when single I would have got myself in some serious trouble. Use the net to cover your shyness. Trust me there are women out there that are just as shy as you. Use the net and set yourself up every weekend.

Been working on that (At HER insistance, by the way). Problem is there are very few free sites, and as I am literally pouring everything I have into university right now, I'm not really willing to spend the money on the pay ones.

Sucks ass too because there was a promising one on one of those pay sites I signed up to that had a free look-only one, that I completely forgot about untill two months after I signed up.

Lack of any disposable income doesn't exactly help.

:(

Here's my favorite breakup song (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ylf4xzFeXf8&feature=related). I hope it cheers you up.

Been working on that (At HER insistance, by the way). Problem is there are very few free sites, and as I am literally pouring everything I have into university right now, I'm not really willing to spend the money on the pay ones.

Sucks ass too because there was a promising one on one of those pay sites I signed up to that had a free look-only one, that I completely forgot about untill two months after I signed up.

Lack of any disposable income doesn't exactly help.

You are in University? Find out where the parties are at and go to some. You are in a candy store already. Dig in!

Oh come on, something is up here, if your girl would leave you like that, she mustn't have been very nice anyways. How could you ever trust someone who would do that, it's beyond belief that you would. You better off cutting someone that emotionally fickle from your life, no need to give a girl that level of emotional respect when she showed you squat.

:(

Here's my favorite breakup song (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ylf4xzFeXf8&feature=related). I hope it cheers you up.

LOL, I made a habit of moving on to the ex's friends. Almost as easy as U-Fish ponds.

Edit: unless you reel in crabs. Then it sucks.

Seems some people ITT thinking they were entitled to another's love. It's a gift, not a contract. You're not owed anything.

If you're referring to the OP, I'm pretty sure he didn't feel any sense of entitlement; this is betrayal, pure and simple, and that crap hurts like hell.

Hey Magdha, if you have the spare cash lying around, you should buy a convertible and use it to pick up chicks! Personally, I'd recommend something like a used Mercedes-Benz 300SL.

Oh come on, something is up here, if your girl would leave you like that, she mustn't have been very nice anyways. How could you ever trust someone who would do that, it's beyond belief that you would. You better off cutting someone that emotionally fickle from your life, no need to give a girl that level of emotional respect when she showed you squat.

Just lay it out in plain terms.

She was a dumb bitch anyways. You are better off without her.

Isn't that your point in less words?

You are in University? Find out where the parties are at and go to some. You are in a candy store already. Dig in!

I'm not into the party scene here, especially with the prevelance of things I simply can not reconcile with (Call it my fault if you like, but I have standards). Plus, I actually want my degree. Around here the party crowd are the ones who drop out pretty quickly.

Unless you don't mean those wild parties, and just gatherings, in which case, been there, done that, was at a "party" earlier tonight (Last night I guess since it's 1:40am) with, again, those fine young ladies who like being freinds, but not much else.

that really sucks man. if it was me i would show up at their wedding. then just decide what u want to do from there.

that really sucks man. if it was me i would show up at their wedding. then just decide what u want to do from there.

Laxative in the cake. ;)

Just lay it out in plain terms.

She was a dumb bitch anyways. You are better off without her.

Isn't that your point in less words?

Well I don't like to be generalized, but my point was that if your girl is capable of doing something like that, she certainly wouldn't be someone who was serious about it anyways.

Laxative in the cake. ;) Wouldn't be funnier to get a pack of 4-5 dogs into the reception hall where the food is? Don't feed em for a couple days and let them loose.

It's officially over. Apparently, my now ex-g.f. met some guy online (in a sick twist of irony, on the same website she met me), he flew there and met her, and now they're getting married. Never mind the fact that she and I had been friends for almost four years, and b.f./g.f. for several months. So, it's all over now. How could she do this to me? I've experienced some cruel things before, but nothing that came anywhere close to this. I loved her with all my heart, and she callously stabbed me in the back and ripped my heart out. How can anyone do something that inhumane? I really loved her and would have done anything for her, and then she does this to me.

So, that's the end of that.

*sigh*


A similar thing happened to me around 3 years ago. It was about four months from my wedding with my fiancee (who I'd been with for 3 yrs at that point), well she decided that she would rather be with one of the groomsmen....

Needless to say that spawned what was probably the worst 6 months of my life, and a pretty sucky few months after that.

My advice (though you might not find it tht useful) is to find strength in Christ, and His love for you, that is probably the single factor that kept me going through it all.

And yes, you dodged a bullet.

Laxative in the cake. ;)

all sorts of stuff u can do. u can comendeer the best mans speech, act drunk and inult the couple. can do it sober. the family guy way to ruin a wedding, yell "genital warts" in the middle of the ceremony. or just stand in the back and hold up a glass of wine when she sees u and make her feel guilty. or object to the whole thing.

My advice (though you might not find it tht useful) is to find strength in Christ, and His love for you, that is probably the single factor that kept me going through it all.

And yes, you dodged a bullet.

If Christ is codeword for slutty friend of hers then I would agree completely.

"So I was sitting in my cubicle today, and I realized, ever since I started working, every single day of my life has been worse than the day before it. So that means that every single day that you see me, that's on the worst day of my life."

:D

Laughter is the very best medicine... or something.

A similar thing happened to me around 3 years ago. It was about four months from my wedding with my fiancee (who I'd been with for 3 yrs at that point), well she decided that she would rather be with one of the groomsmen....

Needless to say that spawned what was probably the worst 6 months of my life, and a pretty sucky few months after that.

My advice (though you might not find it tht useful) is to find strength in Christ, and His love for you, that is probably the single factor that kept me going through it all.

And yes, you dodged a bullet.
Oh, your kidding, what he needs is some Smirnoff and whiskey, not Jesus.

If Christ is codeword for slutty friend of hers then I would agree completely.

Oh... actually there wasn't a code intended....

Still agree with me? :p

Oh... actually there wasn't a code intended....

Still agree with me? :p

Ahem, well yeah, sure....... ;)

Oh, your kidding, what he needs is some Smirnoff and whiskey, not Jesus.

Just telling him what worked for me.

If you can establish greater credibility for your suggestion, feel free.

Ahem, well yeah, sure....... ;)

lol.

... Now I know how my friends felt like when I was a little bitch still hung up on my ex. I do have one thing to thank her for... I am terribly jaded.

If you're referring to the OP, I'm pretty sure he didn't feel any sense of entitlement; this is betrayal, pure and simple, and that crap hurts like hell.It wasn't clear to me from the OP that there was necessarily a promise broken.

It wasn't clear to me from the OP that there was necessarily a promise broken.

You have a point; they weren't married or anything, but I'm pretty sure he wasn't expecting this. I'm honestly not really sure what I'm trying to say, but this is a matter of trust, and I consider trust to be a pretty important thing.

Tongass, I find your stance disturbing, and I think you'll find that no relationship treated with such contempt lasts, don't mean to sound traditional but you have to have trust and a sense of responsibility, and those things comes when you generally care about someone.

A similar thing happened to me around 3 years ago. It was about four months from my wedding with my fiancee (who I'd been with for 3 yrs at that point), well she decided that she would rather be with one of the groomsmen....

Needless to say that spawned what was probably the worst 6 months of my life, and a pretty sucky few months after that.

My advice (though you might not find it tht useful) is to find strength in Christ, and His love for you, that is probably the single factor that kept me going through it all.

And yes, you dodged a bullet.

I didn't have quite so traumatic an experience as either of you gentlemen, but I got messed over by my (now) ex-girlfriend the night of the SuperBowl. In one night, I broke my molar, exposing a nerve, my team, the Patriots, lost the game, and my girlfriend informed me that she had stayed with me for the last few months only because it was "more convienient" than breaking up with me them, since I was treating her well. After a couple months of that, though, she finally told me the truth, and broke up with me. That night was a freakin' winner!!!

As for advice, I would have to go with DT, and say to look to Christ. He can supply all the comfort and peace you need. I don't know what it means to you, but I'll be praying for you. That's the best I can do.

Yours in Christ,
Steven

Well, then you can rest assured that she will probably leave him at some point. People who fling like that generally continue to fling like that. Not only that, but relationships built over the internet and first marriages tend to fail. 50% divorce rate in this land of ours...

:eek: I'm on my first marriage AND we met on the internet. Damn! I'm screwed!

Tongass, I find your stance disturbing, and I think you'll find that no relationship treated with such contempt lasts, don't mean to sound traditional but you have to have trust and a sense of responsibility, and those things comes when you generally care about someone.Trust is important, but that doesn't imply an expectation of indefinite reciprocation, which can stifle an otherwise honest relationship. The fact is that people change, and they should be honest about it, and partners should welcome this honesty and not take their relationship for granted. I feel that relationships are treated like a transaction, which tends to pervert the phenomena of the mutual love into something more like a business relationship, which in extreme cases turns into a spiteful competition of who can extort the most "love" out of the other. Capitalism has so permeated our society that every human relation seems contaminated with exploitative elements. Which is why I'm a little surprised that you toe the bourgeois line when comes to relationships, Andaras.

Andaras and bourgeois in the same sentence? Funniest thing I've read today. Thanks, Tongass. :D

I understand how you feel. Maybe you should recover by reading the writings of another who understands: Ambrose Bierce. He was married once, and had three kids. His wife started seeing another man, it ended in divorce and, well...he became more cynical.

CUPID, n. The so-called god of love. This bastard creation of a barbarous fancy was no doubt inflicted upon mythology for the sins of its deities. Of all unbeautiful and inappropriate conceptions this is the most reasonless and offensive. The notion of symbolizing sexual love by a semisexless babe, and comparing the pains of passion to the wounds of an arrow — of introducing this pudgy homunculus into art grossly to materialize the subtle spirit and suggestion of the work — this is eminently worthy of the age that, giving it birth, laid it on the doorstep of prosperity.

LOVE, n. A temporary insanity curable by marriage or by removal of the patient from the influences under which he incurred the disorder. This disease, like caries and many other ailments, is prevalent only among civilized races living under artificial conditions; barbarous nations breathing pure air and eating simple food enjoy immunity from its ravages. It is sometimes fatal, but more frequently to the physician than to the patient.

-Bierce.

Amazing what the triumvirate of Bierce, Wright, and Lehrer accomplished.

Trust is important, but that doesn't imply an expectation of indefinite reciprocation, which can stifle an otherwise honest relationship. The fact is that people change, and they should be honest about it, and partners should welcome this honesty and not take their relationship for granted. I feel that relationships are treated like a transaction, which tends to pervert the phenomena of the mutual love into something more like a business relationship, which in extreme cases turns into a spiteful competition of who can extort the most "love" out of the other. Capitalism has so permeated our society that every human relation seems contaminated with exploitative elements. Which is why I'm a little surprised that you toe the bourgeois line when comes to relationships, Andaras.

I am not toeing any bourgeois line, I am just saying that if you really love someone you wouldn't treat someone like that, that goes for friends too. There's a difference between being emotionally fickle and bitchy, and generally knowing when it's best that a relationship should be ended.

Well, we got to about four pages without an argument. That's not too bad. I have to say I'm agreeing with Andaras here.

@ OP; that's awful. I feel for you, really. :fluffle: even though I've never been in a relationship

I am not toeing any bourgeois line, I am just saying that if you really love someone you wouldn't treat someone like that, that goes for friends too. There's a difference between being emotionally fickle and bitchy, and generally knowing when it's best that a relationship should be ended.I'm still not clear that the OP was treated in a bad way. It sounds to me like maybe they broke up, then she started a new relationship, and OP was just unhappy. What's wrong with that?

... Now I know how my friends felt like when I was a little bitch still hung up on my ex. I do have one thing to thank her for... I am terribly jaded.There's better things to accomplish. Don't worry.

I'm still not clear that the OP was treated in a bad way. It sounds to me like maybe they broke up, then she started a new relationship, and OP was just unhappy. What's wrong with that?

Not talking about the OP, just generally.

It sounds to me like maybe they broke up, then she started a new relationship, and OP was just unhappy.

There are better and worse ways to break up with someone. In this case, it sounds like it was done in a very inconsiderate way.

There are better and worse ways to break up with someone. In this case, it sounds like it was done in a very inconsiderate way.

I'd have to agree with this; it basically seemed like "Hi, we've known each other for years, and we've been dating for a few months now, but I'm gonna marry this guy I just met on the internet! See ya!"

That's just rude, no matter how you look at it.

Oh, your kidding, what he needs is some Smirnoff and whiskey, not Jesus.

Is there some pressing reason why it has to be one or the other?

Is there some pressing reason why it has to be one or the other?

Probably this: http://babyjesus.ytmnd.com/ (http://asongbyagayguy.ytmnd.com/)

It's officially over. Apparently, my now ex-g.f. met some guy online (in a sick twist of irony, on the same website she met me), he flew there and met her, and now they're getting married. Never mind the fact that she and I had been friends for almost four years, and b.f./g.f. for several months. So, it's all over now. How could she do this to me? I've experienced some cruel things before, but nothing that came anywhere close to this. I loved her with all my heart, and she callously stabbed me in the back and ripped my heart out. How can anyone do something that inhumane? I really loved her and would have done anything for her, and then she does this to me.

So, that's the end of that.

*sigh*

You just gotta be tough!

Amazing what the triumvirate of Bierce, Wright, and Lehrer accomplished.

The Three Horsemen.

It's officially over. Apparently, my now ex-g.f. met some guy online (in a sick twist of irony, on the same website she met me), he flew there and met her, and now they're getting married. Never mind the fact that she and I had been friends for almost four years, and b.f./g.f. for several months. So, it's all over now. How could she do this to me? I've experienced some cruel things before, but nothing that came anywhere close to this. I loved her with all my heart, and she callously stabbed me in the back and ripped my heart out. How can anyone do something that inhumane? I really loved her and would have done anything for her, and then she does this to me.

So, that's the end of that.

*sigh*

No matter "how much you lover her" she doesn't owe you the rest of her life.

It's not "cruel". It's actually quite normal.

There isn't a "nice and sweet" way to break up and move on because most people are too immature to manage it.

It is NOT the worst day of your life. Things can always be worse, and they probably will be at some point.

Find another girl, and get on with your life.

I would be surprised if you couldn't point to something that happened much earlier that would have told you this was coming. Such as the sex not being that great.

These things take time to heal. Give yourself some. Get yourself some comfort food. Go out for a coffee late at night with a buddy and vent. Gather everything of hers, put it in her car in the dark of night and set it on fire. Do something(sport, hobby, etc.) you used to do before you met her that you used to enjoy. But most of all, take time to heal. Love gone bad is as painful as a physical wound and needs time to get over.


Most of what I said above are good ideas. *nod*

With the caveat that you set the STUFF on fire, and not the car.

...unless it's her car...

...or you just eally like fire.

If Christ is codeword for slutty friend of hers then I would agree completely.

Oh, your kidding, what he needs is some Smirnoff and whiskey, not Jesus.


These. Booze and easy women, especially if the are her friends. All though I advise against Smirnoff. Get real Vodka;)

This is why you video you and your gf having sex, and encourage her to do everything.

Later, when you break up, you post it on the Internet.

I never said it was.
Then is there a topic to this thread? Or do you consider your break up to be newsworthy?
RhynoDD;13525752']Ask 4chan. They usually know what to do.

I second this.

Oh, your kidding, what he needs is some Smirnoff and whiskey, not Jesus.

The way this is phrased makes it sound like the worst mixed drink of all time.

Get on with your life as if she never existed.
I know that it's really painful, and forgeting and forgiving it's going to be a hell of a task, but you MUST go on.
She left you? Yes, but was she the best thing for you? Nope...
You deserve better...

So go out and find the one that really deserves you.
;)

Not to be a bastard, but there are two sides to every story. I can't jump on the support bandwagon until I've heard the other side. Since I most likely never will. I will give Magdha the benefit of the doubt.

That blows, man. Chin up, and get on with life.

Bad day i know, shit happens. hope this helps. (http://uk.youtube.com/watch?v=jBWdRMQfjdo)
have a blast;)

Worst day of your life eh? not by a long chalk

The worst day of your life will be like everyone else's worst day....... the last day. :eek:

Anyway at least you have'nt been squashed by a car, spent 5 days in intensive care and spent 7 months learning to walk again with the knowledge your remaining injuries cannot be fixed. :mad:

now thats a real s**t day:(

It's officially over. Apparently, my now ex-g.f. met some guy online (in a sick twist of irony, on the same website she met me), he flew there and met her, and now they're getting married. Never mind the fact that she and I had been friends for almost four years, and b.f./g.f. for several months. So, it's all over now. How could she do this to me? I've experienced some cruel things before, but nothing that came anywhere close to this. I loved her with all my heart, and she callously stabbed me in the back and ripped my heart out. How can anyone do something that inhumane? I really loved her and would have done anything for her, and then she does this to me.

So, that's the end of that.

*sigh*

I know break ups are really hard but try to be positive. I also know this is so much easier said than done. But maybe her break up with you is a chance for you to find someone better. This could be a total BS but it's also entirely possible that there is someone better for you out there that you wouldnt have looked for if you didnt break up. This may not make you feel happy but just realize this and it may cheer you up a lil.

Also talk about this with your friends. Comforting faces is so much better than anonymous forum posters.

Good luck. :fluffle:

The Three Horsemen.
Can't believe i forgot Voltaire! :(

This is why you video you and your gf having sex, and encourage her to do everything.

Later, when you break up, you post it on the Internet.Yeah, i remember you.

If you were romantically involved with a woman who on a whim decided to dump you for a guy she was involved with on the internet, you suffer no loss.

Re-roll.

If you were romantically involved with a woman who on a whim decided to dump you for a guy she was involved with on the internet, you suffer no loss.

Re-roll.

Were no strangers to love
You know the rules and so do I
A full commitment's what I'm thinking of
You wouldn't get this from any other guy

Oh wait. You said re-roll.

It's officially over. Apparently, my now ex-g.f. met some guy online (in a sick twist of irony, on the same website she met me), he flew there and met her, and now they're getting married. Never mind the fact that she and I had been friends for almost four years, and b.f./g.f. for several months. So, it's all over now. How could she do this to me? I've experienced some cruel things before, but nothing that came anywhere close to this. I loved her with all my heart, and she callously stabbed me in the back and ripped my heart out. How can anyone do something that inhumane? I really loved her and would have done anything for her, and then she does this to me.

So, that's the end of that.

*sigh*

www.livejournal.com

kthanxbai.

With the caveat that you set the STUFF on fire, and not the car.

...unless it's her car...

...or you just eally like fire.

Well, even assuming you set the stuff on fire and not the car... the stuff is IN the car.

:)

This should be a lesson. Don't get emotional attached to anyone again and this will never happen again.

Being dead inside FTW!

Yay!

Were that possible, I would definitely do that.

I can help with that

http://static.flickr.com/140/321750728_fa6631941e.jpg

Earth seen from 4 billion miles away, photographed by Voyager 1 on June 6, 1990.

Of the "pale blue dot," astronomer Carl Sagan said, "That's here. That's home. That's us. On it everyone you love, everyone you know, everyone you ever heard of, every human being who ever was, lived out their lives. The aggregate of our joy and suffering, thousands of confident religions, ideologies, and economic doctrines, every hunter and forager, every hero and coward, every creator and destroyer of civilization, every king and peasant, every young couple in love, every mother and father, hopeful child, inventor and explorer, every teacher of morals, every corrupt politician, every 'superstar,' every 'supreme leader,' every saint and sinner in the history of our species lived there — on a mote of dust suspended in a sunbeam."

Hey Magdha, if you have the spare cash lying around, you should buy a convertible and use it to pick up chicks!

What about a tank?

It's officially over. Apparently, my now ex-g.f. met some guy online (in a sick twist of irony, on the same website she met me), he flew there and met her, and now they're getting married. Never mind the fact that she and I had been friends for almost four years, and b.f./g.f. for several months. So, it's all over now. How could she do this to me? I've experienced some cruel things before, but nothing that came anywhere close to this. I loved her with all my heart, and she callously stabbed me in the back and ripped my heart out. How can anyone do something that inhumane? I really loved her and would have done anything for her, and then she does this to me.

So, that's the end of that.

*sigh*
They're getting married where?? If they're getting married here, we have no divorce, and that guy is stuck with her forever... the others are right you've dodged a bullet, 'cause if you were married and she's unfaithful, damn, that's worse. And also, you don't want to get married here, it is the groom who pays for the wedding. You saved a lot! ;)

If you don't get anything I said above, then just forget I said something. But if you do, feel free to email me.

Now, 'getting over it' is easier said than done, but eventually, you will, and you will look upon this event as a learning experience. You'll turn out just fine. :)

Yeah, i remember you.Who is it? :confused:

I'm still not clear that the OP was treated in a bad way. It sounds to me like maybe they broke up, then she started a new relationship, and OP was just unhappy. What's wrong with that?

I can't believe it, but I agree with Tongass.

I'm not nearly drunk enough to deal with that. :p

Like I said earlier, two sides to every story. We know one side. Sympathy is indicated, and Magdha has earned some. I'm just not sure that synpathy = "choke the bitch". But that's just me.

Send them a pan of brownies full of exlax as a wedding present. Nothing like near explosive bowel venting to ruin a honeymoon.

Wow. Almost the exact same thing happened with my first ex. We had been seeing each other and one day she's like, "I gotta bf." A couple weeks later she was married. But after that, I met my current gf/ex-gf (another complicated story) and forgot all about her...well, not completely, but I got over it. The point is that life will go on and all that...

http://youtube.com/watch?v=djLEWNu6_Qs

It's officially over. Apparently, my now ex-g.f. met some guy online (in a sick twist of irony, on the same website she met me), he flew there and met her, and now they're getting married. Never mind the fact that she and I had been friends for almost four years, and b.f./g.f. for several months. So, it's all over now. How could she do this to me? I've experienced some cruel things before, but nothing that came anywhere close to this. I loved her with all my heart, and she callously stabbed me in the back and ripped my heart out. How can anyone do something that inhumane? I really loved her and would have done anything for her, and then she does this to me.

So, that's the end of that.

*sigh*

That must be bad for you mate, but don't play the victim, I'm sure she's not marrying this other guy just to piss you off.

As my insensitive girlfriend would say: "Cry me a river, build a bridge and get over it."