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I just started a relationship with a wonderful guy, but we'd been hesitant to post it on Facebook. My friends were ribbing on me, saying that it wasn't official until Facebook said so. NSG, are they right? Is a relationship not official until it is on Facebook?

By the way, we changed our Facebook statuses tonight to reflect that we are in a relationship.

How childish of your friends.

Oh, and the proper tag there is [/size].

Oh, and the proper tag there is [/size].

Yeah, I realized that after I posted. Shouldn't be on NSG at 1 am -- I start forgetting tags. Thanks!

I just started a relationship with a wonderful guy, but we'd been hesitant to post it on Facebook. My friends were ribbing on me, saying that it wasn't official until Facebook said so. NSG, are they right? Is a relationship not official until it is on Facebook?

By the way, we changed our Facebook statuses tonight to reflect that we are in a relationship.
YES. And when you start DOIN' IT, that also won't be official till you put pictures and video on facebook.

Never been to facebook.com.

NO. Who the heck cares about facebook? If they don't want to believe it, then don't.

BTW, what is facebook?

:D

Give me a minute, I'll shake my 'old man cane' at you...

I just started a relationship with a wonderful guy, but we'd been hesitant to post it on Facebook. My friends were ribbing on me, saying that it wasn't official until Facebook said so. NSG, are they right? Is a relationship not official until it is on Facebook?

By the way, we changed our Facebook statuses tonight to reflect that we are in a relationship.

Yea, your friends are idiots.

I hate facebook, and I hate your friends.

I wouldn't say it's totally official, but if you both are thinking about adding the status, you should probably just do it.

You know, I've been looking for a loophole to get out of my marriage. And I think I may have just found it.

If I never posted my kid's picture on Facebook, do I still have to pay Child Support?

[/sarcasm]

You know, I've been looking for a loophole to get out of my marriage. And I think I may have just found it.

If I never posted my kid's picture on Facebook, do I still have to pay Child Support?

[/sarcasm]

hehe, you deserve a slice of cheese cake!

http://www.ferraracafe.com/images/nyc/specialty-cakes/new-york-cheesecake.jpg

I just started a relationship with a wonderful guy, but we'd been hesitant to post it on Facebook. My friends were ribbing on me, saying that it wasn't official until Facebook said so. NSG, are they right? Is a relationship not official until it is on Facebook?

By the way, we changed our Facebook statuses tonight to reflect that we are in a relationship.

No.. its official when YOU say so.. forget about facebook, life is better that way.

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I'm sorry but this is asking for that one xkcd strip.. (http://xkcd.com/355/)
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A relationship is official whenever you say it is.

doesn't stop me telling my friends that it isn't though! :D

I concur with the others.

Oh, and congratulations on your relationship. I wish you two the best.

I just started a relationship with a wonderful guy, but we'd been hesitant to post it on Facebook. My friends were ribbing on me, saying that it wasn't official until Facebook said so. NSG, are they right? Is a relationship not official until it is on Facebook?

By the way, we changed our Facebook statuses tonight to reflect that we are in a relationship.

Uh... You care that much about Facebook?

Well, it had better not be, otherwise those of us who aren't on facebook are doomed to a life of eternal singleness. (On the other hand, it's looking like that at the moment anyway, so...)

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I'm sorry but this is asking for that one xkcd strip.. (http://xkcd.com/355/)
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You win the thread

Is a relationship not official until it is on Facebook?

What kind of standard is that?

Facebook, if anything, diminishes relationships; it turns them into commodities, ways to show other people how socially successful you are.

Given that Facebook is the modern equivalent of phoning all your friends and telling them that you're "official", I can see how many people might believe that. For it's not too much of a stretch to imply that NOT putting your new information out for your friends to see (assuming your profile is "friends only", which it should be unless you're selling something) means you're not willing to "come out" in "public" as a couple yet.

I hate to admit it, but the Facebook/MySpace posting "rule" does have some merit.

id have to disagree with my fellow posters.

im glad you have decided to post your status on facebook because NOT posting it indicates that you are holding back. it would be as if you are a couple but deny it to your friends. it happens but there is something very wrong going on.

not that ive ever been to face book but if its THE place for you and your friends to announce such things, then not doing it means something.

im glad you have decided to post your status on facebook because NOT posting it indicates that you are holding back. it would be as if you are a couple but deny it to your friends.

Not if you don't hide it in other respects. There's a difference between hiding something and merely not announcing it, and a difference between announcing something to your close friends and putting it on Facebook.

id have to disagree with my fellow posters.

im glad you have decided to post your status on facebook because NOT posting it indicates that you are holding back. it would be as if you are a couple but deny it to your friends. it happens but there is something very wrong going on.

not that ive ever been to face book but if its THE place for you and your friends to announce such things, then not doing it means something.

I wouldn't go as far as to say it's MANDATORY, but my previous post certainly agrees that not posting COULD be interpreted as having some kind of reservation about telling your friends.

Not if you don't hide it in other respects. There's a difference between hiding something and merely not announcing it, and a difference between announcing something to your close friends and putting it on Facebook.

That depends on who you've allowed into your Facebook/MySpace circles, but yeah, I agree with you there.

That depends on who you've allowed into your Facebook/MySpace circles, but yeah, I agree with you there.

It's clear from the OP that her friends know, so I don't see why the Facebook "extra" makes a difference.

No.. its official when YOU say so.. forget about facebook, life is better that way.

Am I the only person who thinks of Facebook as Assbook? (Despite having an account there)

Not if you don't hide it in other respects. There's a difference between hiding something and merely not announcing it, and a difference between announcing something to your close friends and putting it on Facebook.

I wouldn't go as far as to say it's MANDATORY, but my previous post certainly agrees that not posting COULD be interpreted as having some kind of reservation about telling your friends.

all im saying is that if you are in a crowd where "official" means "announced on facebook" (pathetic but possible) then when you dont announce it, you are holding back for some reason.

now that could be a good reason like figuring out the coolest way of announcing it. but if its some reluctance, there is something wrong.

YES. And when you start DOIN' IT, that also won't be official till you put pictures and video on NSG.

fix'd :p

I laugh in the face of social networking sites.

Why won't your boyfriend post it on facebook?

I just started a relationship with a wonderful guy, but we'd been hesitant to post it on Facebook. My friends were ribbing on me, saying that it wasn't official until Facebook said so. NSG, are they right? Is a relationship not official until it is on Facebook?

By the way, we changed our Facebook statuses tonight to reflect that we are in a relationship.

You're not in a relationship until you two actually care for each other.

Asking people out is just words to make it official. Technicalities are the truth, and technically you are going out when you love each other.

I just started a relationship with a wonderful guy, but we'd been hesitant to post it on Facebook. My friends were ribbing on me, saying that it wasn't official until Facebook said so. NSG, are they right? Is a relationship not official until it is on Facebook?How childish of your friends.

What Potarius said... You're relationship is 'official' the moment uo and you SO decide its official.

For me it was official well before Facebook said so, but that's just my opinion.

You win the thread

Yeah, I'm sorry; it's too easy and cheap to win a thread with an xkcd strip, but this one just had to be.

Give me a minute, I'll shake my 'old man cane' at you...http://www.studip.uni-goettingen.de/pictures/smile/opa2.gif



To be blunt, Dalmatia Cisalpina, your friends are full of shit!

So, in the time before facebook, no relationships were real and official? Bullshit. Don't feel pressured to reveal anything about your personal life by your pals - especially not on the internet.

That's just stupid!

As a teen in year 12 of school, I must say this...

Yes! Facebook it now! :)

Hasn't it occurred to anyone that being reluctant to publicly admit a relationship is one of the early signs of an abusive relationship?

Hasn't it occurred to anyone that being reluctant to publicly admit a relationship is one of the early signs of an abusive relationship?

And that has bearing on this situation how? Her friends all knew about the relationship, they're just so puerile and immature that they didn't consider it 'official' until it had been posted on facebook.

Hasn't it occurred to anyone that being reluctant to publicly admit a relationship is one of the early signs of an abusive relationship?

The reference to "friends" makes it clear that the relationship was publicly admitted.

I missed the small text saying they changed their facebook profile.

Maybe the boyfriend doesn't want to tell his friends. Obviously this is all just speculation though.

I missed the small text saying they changed their facebook profile.

Maybe the boyfriend doesn't want to tell his friends. Obviously this is all just speculation though.

Or maybe their friends already knew (as was stated in the OP)
I just started a relationship with a wonderful guy, but we'd been hesitant to post it on Facebook. My friends were ribbing on me, saying that it wasn't official until Facebook said so. NSG, are they right? Is a relationship not official until it is on Facebook?

emphasis mine, In other words you also missed the large text indicating that their friends already knew.

What if people don't have a facebook? Are their relationships nothing more than meaningless sex?! I must know!


*has a facebook*

Or maybe their friends already knew (as was stated in the OP).I'm assuming she and her boyfriend have different groups of friends.

spambook is made of phail.

"Smunkee is drinking a caramel machiato" who cares?!


*changes her status*

I thought facebook and similar sites were just handy ways to stay in touch with friends, and nothing important or official. Apparently I was wrong.

*makes facebook account*

http://www.studip.uni-goettingen.de/pictures/smile/opa2.gif


Quality.

What if people don't have a facebook? Are their relationships nothing more than meaningless sex?! I must know!


*has a facebook*

well YEAH. thats just obvious.

anyone with a real relationship put it onto facebook as soon as facebook opened. i have personally put in the relationships of all my ancestors as far back as i can go.

I just started a relationship with a wonderful guy, but we'd been hesitant to post it on Facebook. My friends were ribbing on me, saying that it wasn't official until Facebook said so. NSG, are they right? Is a relationship not official until it is on Facebook?

By the way, we changed our Facebook statuses tonight to reflect that we are in a relationship.

Hellz yeah...or until you publish or decalre it. You need some form of publication. A facebook post, status change, a note in your AIM profile...

a note in your AIM profile...

What, people actually read AIM profiles?

I just started a relationship with a wonderful guy, but we'd been hesitant to post it on Facebook. My friends were ribbing on me, saying that it wasn't official until Facebook said so. NSG, are they right? Is a relationship not official until it is on Facebook?

By the way, we changed our Facebook statuses tonight to reflect that we are in a relationship.

Never, ever, for any reason post a relationship on the internet. A relationship is between two people and only two people. The world doesn't have to know:rolleyes: Just think of the ridicule you will receive if it doesn't work out? :(

My friends were ribbing on me, saying that it wasn't official until Facebook said so.

That is essentially the equivalent of "this thread is worthless without pics". I don't think it matters.

what is this Facebook of which you speak, and since when has it been relevant to one's social life?

Yeah, I'm sorry; it's too easy and cheap to win a thread with an xkcd strip, but this one just had to be.

xkcd as auto threadwin -- only here, or in other 'net communities as well?

I thought facebook and similar sites were just handy ways to stay in touch with friends, and nothing important or official. Apparently I was wrong.

That's what you thought...
(http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Scrabulous)

I just started a relationship with a wonderful guy, but we'd been hesitant to post it on Facebook. My friends were ribbing on me, saying that it wasn't official until Facebook said so. NSG, are they right? Is a relationship not official until it is on Facebook?

By the way, we changed our Facebook statuses tonight to reflect that we are in a relationship.

1. congrats
2. does he know about us?
3. fuck facebook
4. NOOOOOOOOOOO! your off the market!!!!!!!!!!! :(:D:(:D:(

Having something on or not on Facebook does not alter its status as 'official', in my opinion.

Still, it is a handy way to make it clear that you are spoken-for.

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I'm sorry but this is asking for that one xkcd strip.. (http://xkcd.com/355/)
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How about an apple geeks lite strip? (http://www.applegeeks.com/lite/index.php?aglitecomic=2008-02-04)

How about an apple geeks lite strip? (http://www.applegeeks.com/lite/index.php?aglitecomic=2008-02-04)

Nah, more xkcd will do just fine ;)

http://imgs.xkcd.com/comics/facebook.png

Mouse-over text: 'Here, I'll put my number in your cell pho -- wait, why is it already here?'

xkcd as auto threadwin -- only here, or in other 'net communities as well?

A well-chosen xkcd will win you any thread in any 'net community that is msart enough to appreciate it - you make your own calls.
How about an apple geeks lite strip? (http://www.applegeeks.com/lite/index.php?aglitecomic=2008-02-04)

Never heard of it in general, but this one strip I found rather uninspired.

Nah, more xkcd will do just fine ;)

http://imgs.xkcd.com/comics/facebook.png

Mouse-over text: 'Here, I'll put my number in your cell pho -- wait, why is it already here?'

I see, somebody made a search for Facebook ;P

1. congrats
2. does he know about us?
3. fuck facebook
4. NOOOOOOOOOOO! your off the market!!!!!!!!!!! :(:D:(:D:(

1.) Thank you!
2.) He knows I post on NSG. I don't know if he read the forums much when he played NS once upon a time.
3.) Okay ...
4.) Oh, come now. You can't be serious. ;)

Oh, deary me. I have a Facebook account, but it serves to reflect my life, not the other way around. Too many of my friends have joke relationships listed for it to be of any consequence, anyway.

4. NOOOOOOOOOOO! your off the market!!!!!!!!!!! :(:D:(:D:(

*pats your shoulder sympathetically*

I see, somebody made a search for Facebook ;P

Yes, but I actually remember that that particular xkcd is called "Facebook", I wasn't just looking just in case there was one.

I just started a relationship with a wonderful guy, but we'd been hesitant to post it on Facebook. My friends were ribbing on me, saying that it wasn't official until Facebook said so. NSG, are they right? Is a relationship not official until it is on Facebook?

By the way, we changed our Facebook statuses tonight to reflect that we are in a relationship.

Congrats! And yeah, your friends were right :D

I missed my "in a relationship" days. :(

I missed the small text saying they changed their facebook profile.

Maybe the boyfriend doesn't want to tell his friends. Obviously this is all just speculation though.

Speculation, but not entirely off the mark. Seems to me that if you were one of the demanding sort or person in a relationship and wanted THE WORLD to know that both you and your SO were TAKEN -- y'know, the whole "property" thing that many men and women go all nutsy over -- Facebook would indeed be your "acid test" over whether or not your SO was serious.

SCENARIO: You've declared your love for one another and decide that you're "officially together". You surf the 'Net and discover that, weeks later, the relationship status of your SO still reads "single and looking" or some variation thereof ("LOOKING FOR: hook-ups, dating, long-term", etc.). What is your reaction?

A) Meh. He/She's not into profile maintenance. Not an issue.
B) Meh. He/She's not into profile maintenance...but the favorite bands have changed every week since we decided we were official. Hmmm.....
C) What? He/She's not serious? zOMG, what am I doing wrong? WHY DOESN'T HE LOVE MEEEE?!
D) What? He/She's still thinks he can try to score some online ass while in a relationship with me? I'll have his balls/ovaries!
E) I'm sorry, me and my good lady wife were raising a barn and didn't hear the question.

D) What? He/She's still thinks he can try to score some online ass while in a relationship with me? I'll have his balls/ovaries!

lol

What's facebook got to do, got to do with it...

Speculation, but not entirely off the mark. Seems to me that if you were one of the demanding sort or person in a relationship and wanted THE WORLD to know that both you and your SO were TAKEN -- y'know, the whole "property" thing that many men and women go all nutsy over -- Facebook would indeed be your "acid test" over whether or not your SO was serious.

SCENARIO: You've declared your love for one another and decide that you're "officially together". You surf the 'Net and discover that, weeks later, the relationship status of your SO still reads "single and looking" or some variation thereof ("LOOKING FOR: hook-ups, dating, long-term", etc.). What is your reaction?

A) Meh. He/She's not into profile maintenance. Not an issue.
B) Meh. He/She's not into profile maintenance...but the favorite bands have changed every week since we decided we were official. Hmmm.....
C) What? He/She's not serious? zOMG, what am I doing wrong? WHY DOESN'T HE LOVE MEEEE?!
D) What? He/She's still thinks he can try to score some online ass while in a relationship with me? I'll have his balls/ovaries!
E) I'm sorry, me and my good lady wife were raising a barn and didn't hear the question.

I see this happen a lot, and I've been part of it. The thing is, with the two of us, we did it together (at my place, I had internet at the time and he didn't). In other relationships I've been in, it's served more as a litmus test; with the two of us, people knew we were together, we just hadn't changed our profiles. It was more of a mutual agreement thing if that makes any sense.