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Even though I'm too young, in my opinion, to be having children, I was thinking about this the other day, due the number of babies I keep seeing everywhere. We really like to play the no-pants game, eh? That said, it seems we're getting to have too many children, judging by all the experts telling us that we're basically on a course to doomsday if we keep using our resources up at this rate.

With all the needy children of the world (I'm not even talking about the ones starving in Africa, there's probably dozens of orphans in your own country), would/have you consider(ed) adopting, rather than adding on to our already messed-up planet's population?

I may have one biological child, especially if my future wife insists, but otherwise, any more will be adopted.

No. Whilst it's a nice gesture to people in need to adopt them, I'm really unsure of whether I could give them the same kind of loving home as any biological child of mine. I don't think the same connection would be there.

I prefer pets over children, does planning to adopt a pet from an animal shelter count?

I hate children, but if I didn't, I'd adopt.

I hate children.:upyours:

I prefer pets over children, does planning to adopt a pet from an animal shelter count?

Well, not really the same thing... For one thing, they die faster.:D

Two weeks after I asked my wife to marry me, she told me that she was six weeks pregnant. Considering the number of times I had been struck in the groin in my life, many people were stunned and dismayed. :D

If we couldn't have children of our own, we would have adopted. If we weren't already expecting our first before we even tied the knot, that is probably something we would have discussed. I'm still not certain that passing on my DNA is in the planet's best interest. But it's too late now. :D

Apparently, the majority of us despise children. Yes!

I adopted a lovely blonde girl from some guy in Praia Da Luz, Portugal.





....What, too soon?

i very much doubt it.

I adopted a lovely blonde girl from some guy in Praia Da Luz, Portugal.





....What, too soon?

... I laughed. :\

Well, ignoring the moral issues involved with having children, the question of whether I'll end up in a long-term relationship with another man, and my skepticism as to whether I want children in the first place, I'd prefer to have my own. Because it would be amusing to watch any child of mine grow up, and because I have more confidence in my parenting abilities with respect to a child who is at least somewhat similar to me.

But more likely, I'll end up with none.

I hate children.
With the exception of my brother's spawn, but then they're not exactly human...
:p

I fully intend on having my tubes tied as soon as I can convince a doctor to do it, which I suspect might be difficult.
However if I ever do change my mind (which I doubt will happen), I would adopt.

I think I'd be a terrible parent though - kid would have to be more messed up than me.

If I ever chose to raise children, I would definitely have to adopt. Think about it: if I were to reproduce naturally, the curse of my family would come true. They would all be just like me. God forbid there be more people like that in the world.
And I would want to start with older kids, say 7 or 8 years old. Then they're becoming more intelligent.

I like kids and have no problems in having them. Have 3 now and probably a couple more. Between the wife and I we have 16 brothers and sisters. As for adoption I don't think I would have even with no kids. I think adopting kids is more a reaction for females that feel they need to nurture. I don't think it's a feeling a man gets.

Well, not really the same thing... For one thing, they die faster.:D
I dunno, if you kept a child in a tiny house and fed it nothing but tinned food, it probably wouldn't last more than 18 years.

no

i did consider it in ages past but its not for me.

babies and children up to about age 5 get adopted with no problem. there are plenty of people waiting to adopt babies. we have no orphanages full of babies waiting for a family.

those that arent have the kind of problem that is difficult to deal with--severe handicaps or abuse so severe that they are already removed from their families with no chance of being returned.

older children have their own issues. they have been abused, neglected and passed around the system. i have neither the charity nor the need for a child strong enough to disrupt my life completely to take in such a child.

i would have taken in the children of a family member if the need had been there but that never happened.

so i have one child, now 21 years old, and that is more than enough children for me.

Hmm, I think I should decide this together with my hypothetical partner, but now I don't plan to ever have children, and if I did I would probably adopt them.

Absolutely. All my future children will be adopted.

I don't intend to have any children, adopted or otherwise.

I think I'd plan on adopting. One of my enduring memories from childhood is visiting a family in Maine who had adopted three severely handicapped children in addition to their own child-they weren't wealthy, but they made do, and they clearly loved all of their children a lot. Those were some of the happiest kids I had ever met, and it would be pretty cool if I could help in the same way. *nods*

I have nothing against adopting, one of my sisters has done it once (a 14 year old at the time) and my other sister as done it twice (a ten year old and a one day old with a medical condition that the social services was told by the courts that they had to take the baby away from the natural mother), but I've never adopted any myself (yet, but likely never will now that I'm getting older). But the reason I'm posting is because I don't think the argument that there are too many children in the world so we need to adopt instead of having our own is a valid argument. Look at Russia and Australia, they desperately need their citizens to have more babies, and that could be said about Germany and Italy too.

I once heard a father tell me the story of overhearing his children arguing about who their Dad liked the best and he had both natural born children and an adopted child and the adopted child ended the argument by saying, "we'll I know that Mom and Dad wanted me because they had to work hard and prove their desire for me to the court system and the adoption agency, but you guys are nothing but broken condom accidents for all we know!"
:p

I hate children.
With the exception of my brother's spawn, but then they're not exactly human...
:p

I fully intend on having my tubes tied as soon as I can convince a doctor to do it, which I suspect might be difficult.
However if I ever do change my mind (which I doubt will happen), I would adopt.

I think I'd be a terrible parent though - kid would have to be more messed up than me.

you'll probably have better luck convincing a doctor to give you an IUD, they last about 5 years, it's a pain in the ass, but it's less threatening to a doctor than tying your tubes. (especially if you are young.)

as for the OP, both of my pregnancies were surprises, we had talked about not having kids at all, since we were pretty sure it was something we were going to muck up... but no matter our careful planning, it happened anyway.

I will probably consider adopting a child, after mine are older...

If my future wife and I are unable to concieve, we will adopt.

I'd say I've adopted enough people for one lifetime

however I'm 18 and won't be the one pushing the chocolate bunnies out :cool:

edit: poll should be multiple choice as I hate children

I am planning to adopt, preferably a deaf child. But really, any baby is a blessing.

I'd prefer not to adopt, but if it's the only option then i'll take it. Even though it can take years to be accepted. And it often does take many months, or even years, and the couples just have to wait. (i know this because my dad is a works with adoption agencies)

I'd prefer not to have children at all.

I'd prefer not to adopt, but if it's the only option then i'll take it. Even though it can take years to be accepted. And it often does take many months, or even years, and the couples just have to wait. (i know this because my dad is a works with adoption agencies)

I know a couple who had to wait almost 5 years to get their kid. Plus, adoption is expensive, costing upwards of $30,000.

i got snipped and figured that if I ever wanted kids, I would adopt. so ' maybe'

I will both adopt and have kids.

If they were my children? Sure I would adopt 'em.

I've always felt sorry for those teenagers who never get adopted because they're too old. Maybe I will adopt one of those.

I know a couple who had to wait almost 5 years to get their kid. Plus, adoption is expensive, costing upwards of $30,000.I don't know where you're getting that figure from, because I know for fact my parents didn't spend anywhere near $60,000 to adopt me and my brother.

I used to think that if anything, I'd adopt.
I didn't want to pass on my genes EVER, I didn't want to bring more people into an overpopulated world that already has more than enough unwanted kids. But really I didn't want any at all if it could be helped.

I've changed my mind slightly, mostly because my BF wants to have kids. So we'll give it a try, and adopt if we can't have them for some reason.

BTW, the argument that adoption is driven by females with the uncontrolable urge to nurture something, whereas men aren't too fussed about it, is utter and total bollocks.

I would happily adopt. As nice as it would be for a possible future daughter of mine to be mine genetically, I'm perfectly fine with adopting. (Though to be honest I would like to adopt someone practically newly born, as opposed to someone older. I wouldn't be against the older per se...it just seems like it might make more sense to adopt the youngest.)