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(Inspired by the thread asking about first relationships.)

What's your current relationship status?

Engaged.

Engaged.

Good for you! :)

Hope your marriage will be a happy one.

Friends with benefits.

There's far too many beautiful girls to just want one. The only reason to get a girlfriend is to take the condom off and you can work that out with a sex buddy.

In a serious relationship. For now.

I'm single, not looking. It is a sound piece of advice that if one is not currently engaged in a comfortable relationship, 3 months before your finals - when you've been spending the past 2 and a half years going at your own pace - is not a good time to go looking for one.

Single. Theoretically interested in changing that, but not enough that actually doing anything about it is worth it. So, "not looking."

Friends with benefits.

I tried that once, and it failed miserably. If either of you has any romantic feelings for the other, this type of relationship is doomed to failure. But if neither of you is interested in the other romantically, then all's good.

put seat down under threat of death :)

I tried that once, and it failed miserably. If either of you has any romantic feelings for the other, this type of relationship is doomed to failure. But if neither of you is interested in the other romantically, then all's good.

It happens if you aren't quite clear about the relationship. All of the women I see sexually are either involved in another relationship or women that I know won't get into drama.

Engaged.

Congrats! Me too! :D

Congrats! Me too! :D

Congrats to you, also! :)

Single and not looking. I need to take some time off and sort everything out, especially with my faith. If it came along? Well, I'm not dumb, I wouldn't say no. But I'm not going hunting for it.

Single. Hopeful gonna change that in the future, but for now I'm single.
Engaged.

Congrats! Spero vestri matrimonium ero perpetuus quod gauisus!

*does not want a relationship ever*
*assumed that that was what "single, not looking" meant*

Engaged.

Good for you, man!

Other. And it's complicated. But it works for me, so I am ok with it.
:D

*does not want a relationship ever*
*assumed that that was what "single, not looking" meant*

I intended it to mean "not looking at the moment," but since I never specified, it can mean either "not looking at the moment" or "not looking for a relationship, ever."

*does not want a relationship ever*
*assumed that that was what "single, not looking" meant*

pfft like you can escape that dick cupid so easy:p

pfft like you can escape that dick cupid so easy:p

Huh?

Been married a couple of months now.

well, if you wanna escape cupid, you just have to shoot him first!

Engaged in a complicated way btw

well, if you wanna escape cupid, you just have to shoot him first!

*picks up gun*

*picks up gun*

:eek:

Nooooo! *jumps in front of cupid*

Nooooo! *jumps in front of cupid*

Fine. As long as he shoots you instead of me.

Fine. As long as he shoots you instead of me.

He has, not to worry. But you could very well be on his hit list... ;)

well, if you wanna escape cupid, you just have to shoot him first!


Well, Cupid must have shot me with the lead arrow instead of the golden one. :rolleyes:

But I don't want to turn into a tree. :(

He has, not to worry. But you could very well be on his hit list... ;)

Hence the gun.

Filthy love demon, beware! I am watching.

Enjoying the miserable quagmire of an unholy union. :D

Well, Cupid must have shot me with the lead arrow instead of the golden one. :rolleyes:

maybe the first thing you saw after being shot was your reflection :)

(Inspired by the thread asking about first relationships.)

What's your current relationship status?

Engaged for now. Well for about another 6 months. Give or take 5 days :D

Current Relationship Status: Gigidying.

I suppose casual would be the best way to describe it.

Single and looking.

I guess I'm "It's complicated". I have my guy back home, and we're officially just friends but he treats me like a girlfriend. Then I have my guy here, who is one of my best friends and also the best sex I've had in the past few months. And, of course, I'm half-heartedly looking for someone to date (there's a cute girl in one of my classes I wouldn't mind seeing), and also not opposed to random make-outs. (The sex, however, is reserved for one person at a time. Currently the best friend.)

It's sad that this is the norm for my dating life.

I am with the greatest guy in the world.

I am with the greatest guy in the world.

I don't recall us being together. :confused:


j/k

Thank you to everyone for your kind words. Im suprised I got so many, I didnt think anyone would care;)

Single and actively avoiding relationships for the time being.

I am having a hard time finding a woman that wants to share my dream of moving to a forest in Northern Maine and starting a termite farm. Where are people's sense of adventure these days?

I'm single, not really looking, too busy to look. However, if a girl happens to ask me out and I like her, then I wouldn't say no hehe.

I'm single and in between looking and not looking. Don't know where that sticks me in the poll.

Warning: If said aloud, sentence may elicit strange looks from people in your vicinity.

LOL

I'm single and in between looking and not looking. Don't know where that sticks me in the poll.

Warning: If said aloud, sentence may elicit strange looks from people in your vicinity.

Single...too busy really to deal with a relationship at the moment, unless she happens to be the most low-maintenance woman in the tri-state area.

...I'll be glad when the 15th rolls around and I am no longer reminded of that fact on a nearly constant basis. :( :p

Married. Woooo immigration benefits.

Got out of a very bad relationship about a year ago now. He stole my money, lied, and had a gf for 6 months before we broke up. He was insecure and constantly needed to make himself look bigger than he was. He's now engaged to her and living abroad, i think they might even be expecting.
I see it as a very very luck escape. But I have no desire to get involved in anything serious for a long time. Because in the beginning he was so close to perfect....and I don't think my heart could cope with that kind of torture again.

I'm sorry you went through that. :(

Got out of a very bad relationship about a year ago now. He stole my money, lied, and had a gf for 6 months before we broke up. He was insecure and constantly needed to make himself look bigger than he was. He's now engaged to her and living abroad, i think they might even be expecting.
I see it as a very very luck escape. But I have no desire to get involved in anything serious for a long time. Because in the beginning he was so close to perfect....and I don't think my heart could cope with that kind of torture again.

a wife has me, though i would probably NOT be seriously looking if she did not.

creating and exploring are my life, companionship and accumulation are not.
not that i have anything against ALL companionship, just that very little do i find gratifying and seldom if ever more so then creating and exploring.

=^^=
.../\...

Taken. :)

I was never really in the "single and looking" or "single and not looking" category, though. I was just... single, and if something happened to come along, I was all for that! I just wasn't actively *pursuing* it.

And then, you know... something happened to come along.

It’s... complicated.

http://img515.imageshack.us/img515/7205/coupleoh6.png

I'm sorry you went through that. :(

Thankyou :)

I wonder why nice girls seem to be attracted to assholes...

Single and looking. I'm so bored of the single life now. Some nights I just want to cuddle up to someone but alas it hasn't happened in ages. We'll see what the future brings.

I'm married to Sweet Lady Liquor, though it's an open relationship.

Got out of a very bad relationship about a year ago now. He stole my money, lied, and had a gf for 6 months before we broke up. He was insecure and constantly needed to make himself look bigger than he was. He's now engaged to her and living abroad, i think they might even be expecting.
I see it as a very very luck escape. But I have no desire to get involved in anything serious for a long time. Because in the beginning he was so close to perfect....and I don't think my heart could cope with that kind of torture again.

aw, that sucks. :fluffle: I've been in that situation (won't go into details, but it sounds very similar - he moved in with his girlfriend withing a few hours of me leaving) and was single for seven years after getting divorced. Then I met the most truly decent man I've ever known and today is our 4th anniversary. :)

Just passed 3 years with my lovely ladyfriend.

Het mono.

I wonder why nice girls seem to be attracted to assholes...
I'm sympathetic to your situation, and I certainly don't blame you for the fact that somebody else was an asshole to you, but I feel obligated to remind you that "nice girls" are not all attracted to assholes. If you find yourself attracted to assholes, that's a serious problem that you really should take a look at...for your own sake! There are some people who continually get into lousy relationships, and that can lead to a real bummer of a life.

I watched it happen to an aunt of mine. Great lady, but always dates or marries losers. She always blows it off as "just how women are" or "we all go for the bad boys, right gals?" No, we don't. If you find yourself continually in lousy relationships, that's not good! Figure out why! You can learn to spot a mistake and avoid dating him in the first place. :D

(Inspired by the thread asking about first relationships.)

What's your current relationship status?

No option for a serious casual relationship on the poll... :(

Anyway, I'm in a happy relationship.

In a serious relationship, and enjoying every minute of it. We're going to Edinburgh for two nights a week on saturday.:)

I have a close relationship with gravity, but it's all downhill from there i'm afraid

Thankyou :)

I wonder why nice girls seem to be attracted to assholes...

Same thing happens to nice guys, sometimes (not that I'd know about that... :p).

Somewhere down the road, you'll find that special someone, though, and that prick who left you will realize what an idiot he was, and live with that regret for the rest of his life.

Hey, what about the choices:

in a serious relationship, and looking.

engaged, and looking

married, and looking

Hey, what about the choices:

in a serious relationship, and looking.

engaged, and looking

married, and looking

See option #10.

See option #10.

okay so that covers 'married, about to jump off cliff' too, I guess.






btw: in a serious,happy relationship. Since 6 years :)

okay so that covers 'married, about to jump off cliff' too, I guess.

Yep. :p

btw: in a serious,happy relationship. Since 6 years :)

That's great. Hope things continue to go well. :)

I've had three wives, one of them died, I divorced the second, still married to the third but also looking for another casual serious relationship and maybe an engagement, so where does that put me? <.<
single, don't care

I've had three wives, one of them died, I divorced the second, still married to the third but also looking for another casual serious relationship and maybe an engagement, so where does that put me? <.<
single, don't care

Going by the white font, option 2. ;)

Going by the white font, option 2. ;)

It was either the white text, or the poll results. But that works.

That's great. Hope things continue to go well. :)

Thank you, I do too :)

I have a close relationship with gravity, but it's all downhill from there i'm afraid

:p

I just got that. EDIT: Now that I think of it, I don't really know what I laughed at before i got it!

The love is a lie.

No one loves me no matter what I do. I can't get anyone.

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Married, but starting to wonder if it was a mistake.

I'm married to Sweet Lady Liquor, though it's an open relationship.

:D

(Inspired by the thread asking about first relationships.)

What's your current relationship status?

Happily married :D

I've been in a serious relationship for the last three years and am 100% sure this is the girl I want to marry

Still scares the shit out of me though when I think about it

I've been in a serious relationship for the last three years and am 100% sure this is the girl I want to marry

Still scares the shit out of me though when I think about it

Sneaks up on you, doesn't it?

I remember being at work one day, talking to one of my coworkers that had also just gotten engaged (I had been engaged for some 9 months at this point), and it hit me that I was actually getting married. I actually said, "Holy shit, I'm getting married." He just looked at me and said, "Yeah, you think?"

Technically... single.
Realistically... I'm so confused!!!

Several weeks ago I (finally) ended a long relationship that needed ending. At the time, I had recently started spending a lot of time with a woman in my department... we are still spending a LOT of time together...

I really like her. We get on great, we sit around talking for hours... as we sit, we've seemed to drift closer and closer physically until, lately, we simply lie right up against each other. Everyone familiar with the situation seems to think there's "something there"... but still, it hasn't "clicked."

I kissed her, briefly, the other night. She kissed me back. It was very brief, but nice. Then we just went back to talking.

I think we're either on the slow road to something serious... or we've discovered in each other best friends for life. At the moment, I think I'll be very happy either way.

Sex would be good, though. :)

Technically... single.
Realistically... I'm so confused!!!

Several weeks ago I (finally) ended a long relationship that needed ending. At the time, I had recently started spending a lot of time with a woman in my department... we are still spending a LOT of time together...

I really like her. We get on great, we sit around talking for hours... as we sit, we've seemed to drift closer and closer physically until, lately, we simply lie right up against each other. Everyone familiar with the situation seems to think there's "something there"... but still, it hasn't "clicked."

I kissed her, briefly, the other night. She kissed me back. It was very brief, but nice. Then we just went back to talking.

I think we're either on the slow road to something serious... or we've discovered in each other best friends for life. At the moment, I think I'll be very happy either way.

Sex would be good, though. :)

Best of luck there :D
As for me, single, looking, and doubting I'll find anything anytime soon.

Same thing happens to nice guys, sometimes (not that I'd know about that... :p).

Somewhere down the road, you'll find that special someone, though, and that prick who left you will realize what an idiot he was, and live with that regret for the rest of his life.
Thankyou :) Very sweet of you.

aw, that sucks. :fluffle: I've been in that situation (won't go into details, but it sounds very similar - he moved in with his girlfriend withing a few hours of me leaving) and was single for seven years after getting divorced. Then I met the most truly decent man I've ever known and today is our 4th anniversary. :)
Congradulations! Thats really wonderful :)

I'm sympathetic to your situation, and I certainly don't blame you for the fact that somebody else was an asshole to you, but I feel obligated to remind you that "nice girls" are not all attracted to assholes. If you find yourself attracted to assholes, that's a serious problem that you really should take a look at...for your own sake! There are some people who continually get into lousy relationships, and that can lead to a real bummer of a life.

I watched it happen to an aunt of mine. Great lady, but always dates or marries losers. She always blows it off as "just how women are" or "we all go for the bad boys, right gals?" No, we don't. If you find yourself continually in lousy relationships, that's not good! Figure out why! You can learn to spot a mistake and avoid dating him in the first place. :D
I'm a pretty strong, independant woman. But when it comes to men, every piece of good sense goes out the window. I have been working on it for a while now (well, a year). Usually, my solution to a breakup would have been to hop into another relationship asap. But this time, I haven't settled. I've learned to spot the red flags and actually run in the other direction.
I'm becoming a LOT more selective. But as of yet, found no-one that matches up to my 'list'. And I'm not sure a relationship would be good for me, when i've still got all the baggage. Not fair on him, or me. So single it is! :)
Thanks Bottle :)

Thankyou :) Very sweet of you.

My pleasure.

If you ever need someone to talk to, feel free to TG me. I have both MSN and Yahoo Messenger (and no, you don't have to worry about me trying anything, as I already have a g.f. ;)).

Dating.

I would like to change my relationship status to "it may or may not be complicated -- I don't know what's going on right now, but I'm taking it as it comes."

Single. Theoretically interested in changing that, but not enough that actually doing anything about it is worth it. So, "not looking."

Ditto.

Borrowing from Facebook: "It's Complicated."

in a serious relationship with a girl I've admired for a long time
(no Im not a stalker I was the type that hid everything took her by surprise when I told her the truth)
we waz freinds for a long time always annoyed eachother for shits and giggles
ends up
feelings were mutually hidden lol
for to long at that
I mean seriously 1.5 years hidin that at the same time jeez wat a waste of time

In a casual-serious relationship?

I just voted serious.

It's so uncomplicated I'm not sure how to classify it.

current status: married swingers!

Single, not looking due to lack of time, funds, and my standards are just too damn high for the shithole little town I live in(and they're not that high, really. No tobacco use or other addictions, enough brains to hold an intelligent conversation, and... Well, that's about it, really. Oh there's the other nice things a woman could have, nice tits/hot body, ect. But, nice as they are to have, they're not really required).

Single, not looking due to lack of time, funds, and my standards are just too damn high for the shithole little town I live in

That's why you look beyond your town for love, my friend. In my case, geography is not a factor; my g.f. lives halfway around the world! :D

My pleasure.

If you ever need someone to talk to, feel free to TG me. I have both MSN and Yahoo Messenger (and no, you don't have to worry about me trying anything, as I already have a g.f. ;)).

Thanks! :)

That's why you look beyond your town for love, my friend. In my case, geography is not a factor; my g.f. lives halfway around the world! :D

How do you cope with that? Do you get to see her in person sometimes?

How do you cope with that? Do you get to see her in person sometimes?

I haven't met her in person yet. I'm going to meet her in October.

I haven't met her in person yet. I'm going to meet her in October.Hmmm, that's an interesting relationship...

That's why you look beyond your town for love, my friend. In my case, geography is not a factor; my g.f. lives halfway around the world! :DLong distance relationships are hard(er than short distance relationships). Good luck with that.

Hmmm, that's an interesting relationship...

You could say that.

Long distance relationships are hard(er than short distance relationships). Good luck with that.

Thanks.

Single, not looking since 10/01/1991.

I guess I'm "It's complicated". I have my guy back home, and we're officially just friends but he treats me like a girlfriend. Then I have my guy here, who is one of my best friends and also the best sex I've had in the past few months. And, of course, I'm half-heartedly looking for someone to date (there's a cute girl in one of my classes I wouldn't mind seeing), and also not opposed to random make-outs. (The sex, however, is reserved for one person at a time. Currently the best friend.)

It's sad that this is the norm for my dating life.
You sound like you'll be immensely popular around here. I'm looking forward to more posts from you!
Welcome to NSG. :)

Long distance relationships are hard(er than short distance relationships). Good luck with that.

Indeed, they are. Engaged myself, from a two-year long-distance relationship that's gone off without a hitch.

Taken. :)

I was never really in the "single and looking" or "single and not looking" category, though. I was just... single, and if something happened to come along, I was all for that! I just wasn't actively *pursuing* it.

And then, you know... something happened to come along.

That reminds me ... would "actively being stalked" be on the "Other/It's 'Complicated'"poll option? :p

Indeed, they are. Engaged myself, from a two-year long-distance relationship that's gone off without a hitch.

How great a distance?

Ten hours.

Edit: My condolences to the divorcee from the poll.

Still scares the shit out of me though when I think about it
Burn every distraction you have, like material things you like.
This has a twofold benefit to it.
You'll get a lot of answers from doing it.

Ten hours.

Edit: My condolences to the divorcee from the poll.

Mine lives halfway around the world. :(

I'm taking it as it comes.
Reposted for posterity.
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Mine lives halfway around the world. :(

Aw..Well, good luck to you. Best wishes.

It's worth it though, don't you agree?

Aw..Well, good luck to you. Best wishes.

It's worth it though, don't you agree?

Thanks.

Yes, it is.

That reminds me ... would "actively being stalked" be on the "Other/It's 'Complicated'"poll option? :p

It definitely adds another dimension.

"Well, see... there's the guy I choose to have in my life, and the guy who chooses to be in my life... every second of my life... hovering as close as possible, while still maintaining enough distance to be creepifying... it's not like I don't know he's there, but, well. It's sort of a complicated situation."

"Well, see... there's the guy I choose to have in my life, and the guy who chooses to be in my life... every second of my life... hovering as close as possible, while still maintaining enough distance to be creepifying... it's not like I don't know he's there, but, well. It's sort of a complicated situation."
THAT's IT!
:D

I chose "it's complicated", because it doesn't get much more complicated than this. Sort of "friends with benefits", but we really love each other deeply. She's married, they have an open relationship, her husband knows about us and is ok with it (I know this because he told me so himself). It isn't permanent, as she would never leave him, and I wouldn't want her to leave him for me. I'm just with her until either she says she wants to stop, he says he wants us to stop, or I find someone of my own (which is not likely, even though I am looking).

:D

Well, as long as you know and are okay with being creepifying... ;) I get all the fringe benefits of being stalked: mostly, the ability to declare myself special enough to warrant such attention.

In other news, I just sneezed for, quite literally, the 32nd time in a row. Does anyone have a cure for this? Anyone at all?

Well, as long as you know and are okay with being creepifying... ;) I get all the fringe benefits of being stalked: mostly, the ability to declare myself special enough to warrant such attention. If we do say so ourselves :)

In other news, I just sneezed for, quite literally, the 32nd time in a row. Does anyone have a cure for this? Anyone at all?I have a deterrant .... submersion! :p
http://www.commissionersam.com/files/images/four_eyes_one_foot_underwater.preview.jpg

I chose "it's complicated", because it doesn't get much more complicated than this. Sort of "friends with benefits", but we really love each other deeply. She's married, they have an open relationship, her husband knows about us and is ok with it (I know this because he told me so himself). It isn't permanent, as she would never leave him, and I wouldn't want her to leave him for me. I'm just with her until either she says she wants to stop, he says he wants us to stop, or I find someone of my own (which is not likely, even though I am looking).

Wow. And I actually considered that *my* situation might be complicated. I could never be in your situation, but I... admire that you're strong enough to be, if that makes sense.


I have a deterrant .... submersion! :p
http://www.commissionersam.com/files/images/four_eyes_one_foot_underwater.preview.jpg

You're right. I can't sneeze when I'm drowned. :p

You're right. I can't sneeze when I'm drowned. :p
Rest assured, there'd be plenty o'posters lining up to give you resuscitation :p
*pops a breath mint*

Rest assured, there'd be plenty o'posters lining up to give you resuscitation :p
*pops a breath mint*

And it only frightens me a little bit. :p

And it only frightens me a little bit. :p

Well, try a bit of this. Usually works against ... erm, for me ...
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whoops, thought it said "Rebuff" ... ah well. :)

In a casual relationship, and we're taking things very slowly. I'm happy (happier than I've been in a long time); I just want to make sure I got into this for the right reasons.

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lmao

"I don't have a girlfriend. I just know a girl who would get really mad if she heard me say that."

"I don't have a girlfriend. I just know a girl who would get really mad if she heard me say that."

:confused:

I'm going with 'it's complicated'. :fluffle::fluffle:

"I don't have a girlfriend. I just know a girl who would get really mad if she heard me say that."

Man, I miss him.

In a happy semi-serious relationship. :)

did I reply yet?

I'm married.

did I reply yet?

I'm married.
Of course. Smunkee's married to me. >.>

Of course. Smunkee's married to me. >.>
hawtness. my husband will be so happy!:p

Man, I miss him.

...Is your aim improving?


(Been with my boyfriend just over a year; living together for er uh um oh ten months or so? I think. Revoltingly in lurve.) :D


Khan

That's why you look beyond your town for love, my friend. In my case, geography is not a factor; my g.f. lives halfway around the world! :D

Did that once. (Dirt poor + long distance relationship) X emotional imatuirty = Epic Fail.

If I had the funds to make that work, I'd be saving up to return home, where this wouldn't be an issue.

...Is your aim improving?


(Been with my boyfriend just over a year; living together for er uh um oh ten months or so? I think. Revoltingly in lurve.) :D


Khan

http://imgs.xkcd.com/comics/laser_scope.jpg

Anyway. It's complicated. There's myself, there's a friend of mine, mutual friends regularly say we should be a couple, just neither of us have properly made a move yet. It's an irritating situation, though.

married