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When did you first have a relationship with someone, and why did you break up (if you aren't still with the person)?

I'm almost 20 and it has yet to happen.

Yay, home school.

19, and still yet to happen. 2 almosts, but alas, close counts in horseshoes, tiddlywinks and hand grenades.

I had my first relationship when I was 18. When he finally realized he actually had to care about me, he dumped me. I have no idea how that works.

Well didn't almost everyone have a "steady" girlfriend in preschool or grade school for at least a couple days?

A relationship that lasted for months? Or are you referring to a sexual relationship?

I had my first relationship when I was 18. When he finally realized he actually had to care about me, he dumped me. I have no idea how that works.

My condolences. :(

To cheer you up: :fluffle:

In answer to the OP, I met my first g.f. at 18 (internet g.f., never met her in person), our "relationship" lasted about a year and a half, then I broke up with her when she admitted to cheating on me.

About the same way for me. Though that's about to change in a week or two :)

That's good.

Still on my first relationship, we started almost a full year ago. It's quite nice.

I felt no pressure to seek a relationship before this, and this one wasn't forced. It just kind of...happened.

19, and still yet to happen. 2 almosts, but alas, close counts in horseshoes, tiddlywinks and hand grenades.

About the same way for me. Though that's about to change in a week or two :)

I had my first relationship when I was 18. When he finally realized he actually had to care about me, he dumped me. I have no idea how that works.

Unfortunately, that's the way it goes for most guys. I apologize.

To those who haven't been in a relationship yet: It will happen, and it will be worth the wait.

Hell, if someone as ugly as me could find someone, anyone can. :D

Awwww, I was 14 and it was supposed to be forever. :rolleyes:

hmmmmmm, I am a moron, everyone in my school thinks I am retarded (even though I am in the Nation Honor Society) and some people think I am gay. Hmmmmm. Yeah, I am only 16 and nearly got a yes in sixth grade, but people started a rumor that I liked some one else and now every one hates me. So yeah, maybe when I am thirty or leave NY or the US.

I had my first relationship when I was 18. When he finally realized he actually had to care about me, he dumped me. I have no idea how that works.

It's been said that men are pigs. Unfortunately, many of us men are pigs.

It's been said that men are pigs. Unfortunately, many of us men are pigs.

Hey, I'm no pig! :mad:

*hides curly tail*

Lets see...

First boy that my parents called my boyfriend..kindergarten(awwww...)

First boy I liked that liked me back..2nd grade.

First boyfriend..6th grade.

First real relationship..11th grade.

First permanent relationship..still working on it.

When did you first have a relationship with someone, and why did you break up (if you aren't still with the person)?

first relationship worth mentioning, 16. broke up because the entire relationship was a train wreck that apparently only kept going through inertia and sexual convenience (since it ended rather shortly after the convenience factor went away).

er...4-ish and I moved

she went to all the same schools as me and ended up one of those popular girls so I'm glad that I moved :p

edit: of course are we talking serious "omg lets get married" or something :confused:

First not too serious relationship ended when we both left junior high school and went to different high schools. First sort of serious relationship ended when he was killed by a drunk driver. First really serious relationship ended when he turned into a stalker. First good relationship is ongoing.

All in all, I am satisfied that I am doing pretty well now.

Depends exactly what you mean by relationship, but my first serious relationship was when I was 16.


Edit: It lasted about a year & I broke up with her because she turned out to be a bit of a psycho. She smashed my glasses (I'm very short sighted & can't see much without them), kicked me a couple of times and & kept ringing then hanging up.

My first boyfriend...cos we don't count the girl or the guy just after her...was when I was in year 10...he was in year 11 lasted 2 or 3 months, then he let me get punched by some homophobic thug for something he'd said, so I sent him a text on the mean side of the line and have never spoken to him since.

Uuuuh, I think this girl in my history class is really cute. Does that count?

*Crickets*

Guys?

*calls exterminator*

I hate crickets. :mad:

When did you first have a relationship with someone, and why did you break up (if you aren't still with the person)?

Hasn't happened yet, and I have no reason to believe it will.

Uuuuh, I think this girl in my history class is really cute. Does that count?

*Crickets*

Guys?

First sort of serious relationship ended when he was killed by a drunk driver.

whoa, sucky. how old was he? how old were you?

Hasn't happened yet, and I have no reason to believe it will.

It will. And when it does, you will be glad to admit your predictions were wrong. ;)

Wow, I guess I grew up in a very sinful area.

Everyone in these threads is always talking being an upperclassman in high school, but most of the people I grew up with lost their virginity in middle school.

Uuuuh, I think this girl in my history class is really cute. Does that count?

*Crickets*

Guys?

It depends how intricate the fantasy world that you construct around her is! :p

It will. And when it does, you will be glad to admit your predictions were wrong. ;)

Duh. I just haven't had much luck so far.

It depends how intricate the fantasy world that you construct around her is! :p

I bet you didn't think that Unicorns, pirates, floating castles of cotton, and sweet rave parties could all be intertwined, did you? :D

My first quasi-relationship (first base, one night) was late June of this summer. My first real relationship was July and August of this summer as well. Random fact: she talked to me for the first time since August a few days ago and told me she's lesbian now.

so, my first "boyfriend" was in Kindergarten he told me he would "go out" with me if I let him copy my math. I let him for a while, then I kinda got pissed and tired of him copying off me.

When I was in junior high I had a boyfriend, he was gay, I totally knew, but he went to all the "you need a date" stuff with me, so I went along with it.....he was a horrible kisser, luckily a year in he finally figured out he was gay (I had to tell him) and we still "dated" but I didn't have to kiss him anymore. ;) We broke up because eventually I found someone I did want to kiss and he did too. We are still friends.

Uuuuh, I think this girl in my history class is really cute. Does that count?

*Crickets*

Guys?

Same situation here.
Well, minus the cricket infestation.:p

Uuuuh, I think this girl in my history class is really cute. Does that count?

*Crickets*

Guys?

Lol, I had this huge crush on a chick that was in an econ class of mine, and it was sick, because I new her from my western civ class a year prior.

Then I found out that while I wa s ajunior in college, she was a second year PSEO (senior HS equiv)...

Way outta my league, which is ok, she went out of state for 'real' college, and I hooked up with my now fiancee, soon-to-be-wife.

First person I quasi-dated? I was 14, she was... 15, I think. (We're still best friends.) First relationship was also 14, but a different person.

First SERIOUS relationship officially started when I was 18... but we had been dating without the titles for a while.

First normal, sane, sexual relationship? This past summer (20). He and I are also still friends, I just had to move back to school and he was going to school in our hometown. Good times!

My first boyfriend was to me like a fly was to a spider.

Ex-girlfriend:

Because I'm gay and hated that bitch from the get-go.

Ex-boyfriend:

Because he died in a shooting. There is no doubt we'd still be together if it wasn't for that.

Ex-boyfriend:

Because he died in a shooting. There is no doubt we'd still be together if it wasn't for that.

I'm sorry to hear that. :(

My first boyfriend was to me like a fly was to a spider.

He got caught in your web and you ate him? :eek:

My condolences. :(

To cheer you up: :fluffle:

Unfortunately, that's the way it goes for most guys. I apologize.

It's been said that men are pigs. Unfortunately, many of us men are pigs.

On so many levels, I accept your apologies on behalf of men. However, you must understand that I'm sitting here grinning because this guy introduced me to NationStates. At least he managed to do something right, huh?

On so many levels, I accept your apologies on behalf of men. However, you must understand that I'm sitting here grinning because this guy introduced me to NationStates. At least he managed to do something right, huh?

I guess so. :D

I'm 17 and have yet to have a serious relationship.Here's my history.I'm such a loser:(


4th grade:A girl in my class had a huge, I mean like uber crush on me(she even gave me her number!)She moved before anything could materialize.

8th grade:One of my friends asked me out.Not cuz she loved me or anything but cuz we had nothing better to do.So,I accepted.This charade lasted for about a year,before she informed me that she was moving.So we decided to let it continue until the day before she left.Then we terminated it.

9th grade:A girl in my history class got an uber crush on me,but take a guess at what happens...yes...yes..it's..exactly what your thinking she moves.

11th grade:I like this girl and she likes me,I think.I plan to ask her out to Prom.

11th grade:I like this girl and she likes me,I think.I plan to ask her out to Prom.

Good luck. :)

I'm still with my first boyfriend. My high school sweetheart. ;) Technically, we're three weeks into round two, since we were broken up for two and a half months, but we've been approaching the situation as logically as possibly, and we're not doing too badly so far. It has ups and downs and all-arounds, but I'm hopeful.

(Plus, we only just re-established today that we have really amazing sex together. Sex is an important part of a relationship. There's another for the "pro" category. :p)

First girlfriend: Summer between my sophmore and junior year of high school. Laster three months because she was a crazy bitch. For the next year I had...maybe....12 relatonships...but they really werent that. They were just girls who were hot that I hooked up with and went on some dates with (I was in high school). Than I met my fiance, and we've been together since.

My first relationship wasn't until 8th grade. It lasted about a month. She didn't go on any dates with me because she was a year younger and wasn't allowed to date. She never told me why she broke up with me.

Yeah, we women are cruel. :p

my first girlfriend was in 7th grade, even though she said she had a crush on me for 2 years it only last like 1 month.
my next girlfriend was in 8th grade, we are still going out and im in 12th grade now. she is two years younger. like a year after we started dating things got rough and we broke up for a few months, but now we are together and things are great. we are both very open minded, we were each others first, but we talk about the possibilitys of opening the relationship up to include other people, even though we are both hermits. she is great, and i have no problem if she would want to experiment with someone else because i know how much she loves me, and i love her so much.
for the people that are having relationship problems: there is always someone out there that would love you. if you live in a small town, dont be frustrated, there are a lot of very diverse intelligent open minded people who live in the bigger citys that i know you can find someone perfect for you.

My first relationship wasn't until 8th grade. It lasted about a month. She didn't go on any dates with me because she was a year younger and wasn't allowed to date. She never told me why she broke up with me.

I'm 19 and I've never felt in love with anybody or really strongly attracted to them. There have been crushes though. I feel kind of unusual because a lot of girls just settle for anybody at this age. I just don't care.

I'm sorry to hear that. :(Thank you. :)

I'm 19 and I've never felt in love with anybody or really strongly attracted to them. There have been crushes though. I feel kind of unusual because a lot of girls just settle for anybody at this age. I just don't care.

Why is that such a bad thing?

All the people in this thread who didn't get into a relationship until their late teens makes me feel better about being dateless at 16.

Why is that such a bad thing?It's not necessarily a bad thing, except I'm afraid I might be missing something.

It's not necessarily a bad thing, except I'm afraid I might be missing something.

I've thought that as well, but when I really think about it, there's not a damn person I've actually met who I could really consider going with.

Yeah yeah, high standards and all that shit. The fact is, I want somebody as intelligent, open, interesting, and good looking as I am... Maybe that's not the easiest way to get nookie, but it's a hell of a lot better when you've got nookie and somebody you can with whom you can confide for a very long time.

On so many levels, I accept your apologies on behalf of men. However, you must understand that I'm sitting here grinning because this guy introduced me to NationStates. At least he managed to do something right, huh?

Actually, that was by no means an apology. I was just pointing out the fact that most males lack manners, proper standards of self-conduct, and intelligence. Not to mention hygiene.

Actually, that was by no means an apology. I was just pointing out the fact that most males lack manners, proper standards of self-conduct, and intelligence. Not to mention hygiene.

I wouldn't say most, just many.

I'm definitely not of that group, and I'm quite proud to say that.

I've thought that as well, but when I really think about it, there's not a damn person I've actually met who I could really consider going with.

Yeah yeah, high standards and all that shit. The fact is, I want somebody as intelligent, open, interesting, and good looking as I am... Maybe that's not the easiest way to get nookie, but it's a hell of a lot better when you've got nookie and somebody you can with whom you can confide for a very long time.People who end up in good relationships usually actively search for a partner, instead of just waiting for one. I doubt that anyone just happens to meet their perfect match like in the movies. The thing that's unusual about me is that I've never felt compelled to search. Maybe I will when I'm older, or maybe I never will.

People who end up in good relationships usually actively search for a partner, instead of just waiting for one. I doubt that anyone just happens to meet their perfect match like in the movies. The thing that's unusual about me is that I've never felt compelled to search. Maybe I will when I'm older, or maybe I never will.

I'm definitely compelled to search, but in this area (Houston), people like me are... Damn near impossible to find. It also doesn't help that I live with a sociopath and a very intrusive control freak who is also a sociopath.

It'll probably be different when I'm off at a university. I'm guessing I could find at least a few like-minded people of the opposite sex there, and I'll be far away from this rather bad situation at home.

Not to be mean, but I'm noticing a trend here. The people who seem to have less relationship experience also seem to have, umm, 8,000 posts. Coincidence? If you want a relationship so bad, go out there and get one. Its impossible if you don't try. My first relationship was when I was 13, because i just asked the girls I liked. Did I get turned down? You bet. Did I get teased. Oh yea. But you'll never know unless you try.

Just a few years ago.

She was a psycho bitch, though.

When it got to train robberies, I had to dump her and leave the city.

Just a few years ago.

She was a psycho bitch, though.

When it got to train robberies, I had to dump her and leave the city.

I almost spit all over my monitor. The mental image I got from that is fucking classic.

I've never had a real relationship, however I love telling the story of my first kiss so I'll post it here. For whatever reason, I remember it perfectly.

(age 15, freshman year, after school)

My first kiss was the weirdest thing ever. I was walking with this girl I was friends with out to her bus after school, and we were talking about her boyfriend, who I happened to know very well since I sat with him and 4 other displaced guys at lunch every day. And basically she said "My boyfriend is an asshole". And I said "Yeah he is an asshole". And then she was like "Not you though". And I gave her a hug, and then she leaned in to kiss me. And I thought it was just a half second goodbye kiss, but 3 seconds later I realize we're still kissing. And in my mind I'm like "Oh fuck oh fuck oh fuck I have no fucking idea what to do", 30 seconds pass by, I'm letting her keep it going, I was in the stance to stop any time she was going to, still freaking out in my mind, and this guy from my bus comes up behind me (he was repeating half of senior year, it was the second semester and I figured I'd never see him again) and I hear him say "Well what the fuck is this? Did Pepito (his little sister's name for me) finally score? Fuck yeah man". And then we finally stopped. She stood there staring at him. And then the guy says to me "Dude, you're wearing flip-flops. And here I thought you were a fucking anarchist why the fuck don't you fucking dress like one". And I'm still totally confused. I gave her a hug and she got on her bus.

8th grade... 2 weeks... shitty time. Broke it off because neither of us cared...
Now, I'm in and 3 1/2 year relationship started sophomore year in high school.

I bet you didn't think that Unicorns, pirates, floating castles of cotton, and sweet rave parties could all be intertwined, did you? :D

Correct! :D

First "real" relationship was in high school when I was 16. Lasted about six months. Didn't really "break up", but we went to different schools, and with work and school obligations, we started seeing less and less of each other as time went along. Eventually we both decided that it had been lots of fun, but we were both moving on. I still talk to her on AIM, even though I haven't seen her in at least a couple of years.

...God, that was almost ten years ago! *feels old*

First "real" relationship was in high school when I was 16. Lasted about six months. Didn't really "break up", but we went to different schools, and with work and school obligations, we started seeing less and less of each other as time went along. Eventually we both decided that it had been lots of fun, but we were both moving on. I still talk to her on AIM, even though I haven't seen her in at least a couple of years.

...God, that was almost ten years ago! *feels old*

man, i still occasionally hang out with my old high school train wreck relationship girlfriend - and that was also nearly 10 years ago at this point.

we get along much better these days than we did when we were together.

When did you first have a relationship with someone, and why did you break up (if you aren't still with the person)?

I had first relationship when i was 23. And i'm still with her.

P.S. well i was kind of together with one girl in 5th grade (when i was 11), but i think it kinda not counts as relationship...

man, i still occasionally hang out with my old high school train wreck relationship girlfriend - and that was also nearly 10 years ago at this point.

we get along much better these days than we did when we were together.

Seems to be the case with most high-school relationships, TBH. Probably the maturity factor.

People who end up in good relationships usually actively search for a partner, instead of just waiting for one. I doubt that anyone just happens to meet their perfect match like in the movies. The thing that's unusual about me is that I've never felt compelled to search. Maybe I will when I'm older, or maybe I never will.

Well here I am. :)
Just to tell you that we (I and my current girlfriend) were in same mood (never felt compelled to search) with same doubts (doubting that anyone just happens to meet their perfect match). We met and started our relationship when i was 23 and she was 25 and it was first relationship for both of us.
It is all good. :)

I had my first boyfriend in College. We were together for nearly four years and intended to get married. One day he said to me "I love you not for who you are but for who you could be." I found it impossible to stay with him after that.

I had my first boyfriend in College. We were together for nearly four years and intended to get married. One day he said to me "I love you not for who you are but for who you could be." I found it impossible to stay with him after that.

I can't say I blame you.

i had many, or at least several, affairs of the heart, before somewhere along about the second or third grade, when parents still thought it was cute and harmless. for more or less obvious reasons, these were not able to last.

i do believe i tried to elope when i was in the third grade. somehow this might not have worked out had we been able to get further then we did.

=^^=
.../\...

When did you first have a relationship with someone, and why did you break up (if you aren't still with the person)?

Non-serious relationship, 16, broke after 3 weeks and never saw each other again.
Serious relationship, 19, reason she left me after three years.

well i had a 'girlfriend' called Rosie at primary school... we used to hold hands, awwwwww :p


my first real g/f got together on the internet when i was about 20. we met up after about a year, and are just about to celebrate 2 years of seeing each other irl :)

she'll be moving to my city in a few months time too :cool:

well i had a 'girlfriend' called Rosie at primary school... we used to hold hands, awwwwww :p


my first real g/f got together on the internet when i was about 20. we met up after about a year, and are just about to celebrate 2 years of seeing each other irl :)

she'll be moving to my city in a few months time too :cool:

Remember to let us know when(no pressure :)) you two move in together, so we can plan an NSG Meet Up/House Warming.

Oh, and my first for srs gf was when I was 14. Don't remember why we broke up. Not sure if I ever did actually know. Twas her idea.

None to speak of. Last one I asked out proceeded to totally ignore me for a week after, without ever actually saying anything about it. Meh.

Where do y'all live, that 16-year-olds are considered "late bloomers"? o_0

Was about 3 and a half years ago. We both loved each other dearly, but we were also both extremely depressed from time to time, and after a couple of years of us being together, we mutually broke up.

Shame really, but we still see each other around quite a lot at college, and we remained friends, so that's all fine.

I was 20. I was in love with a girl who was completely not my type. I spilled to her - she shut me down. I was pretty crushed until I figured out she had been lying to me (she basically told me she "wasn't ready for a relationship" and left the door open for the possibility of her giving me a chance; meanwhile, she was in a relationship. So I decided I hated her. Why she couldn't just tell me, "You're a day late and a dollar short," is a little beyond me.)

So shortly after that, another girl said she had a thing for me. I was interested, and she said she'd date me in the fall, but meanwhile, she had to break up with her current boyfriend. A friend of mine didn't like that and had a grudge against this girl, so she introduced me to someone else. We hit it off. The second girl in the story was pissed. She went back to her original boyfriend, who's a loser but is nonetheless too good for her. (No, I'm really not bitter, just glad I didn't get myself involved with that. It's a relief thing more than anything.)

As for the one who swept me off my feet? I married her. No fucking clue how that happened.

Where do y'all live, that 16-year-olds are considered "late bloomers"? o_0Where I live most people start dating in middle school because they think they're supposed to. They don't really care about dating and it usually only lasts a month. They also base their decisions on social status and not personality or even looks so it's not real dating in my opinion.

Actually, that was by no means an apology. I was just pointing out the fact that most males lack manners, proper standards of self-conduct, and intelligence. Not to mention hygiene.

Gotcha. It just read like an apology, that's all.
(Um ... can't say anything ... in trouble no matter what I reply now ... :D *tacit*)

I started dating my first girlfriend when I was 17. I'm 20 now and we're still dating.

Idk, I guess I'm just one of the lucky ones...

I never had a relationship.

Ah, is life not beautifully simple?

Where I live most people start dating in middle school because they think they're supposed to. They don't really care about dating and it usually only lasts a month. They also base their decisions on social status and not personality or even looks so it's not real dating in my opinion.

Yeah... but why do they feel that they're "supposed" to? I've never really understood why people feel the compulsion to date or have sex before they're mature enough to do so (i.e. before about 16-18). (I can understand the drive to do so after about 16, as by that point the physical maturity is complete but the mental maturity still requires some work; but any earlier makes my brain squeef.)

Yeah... but why do they feel that they're "supposed" to? I've never really understood why people feel the compulsion to date or have sex before they're mature enough to do so (i.e. before about 16-18). (I can understand the drive to do so after about 16, as by that point the physical maturity is complete but the mental maturity still requires some work; but any earlier makes my brain squeef.)

Because middle schoolers are retards and constantly are trying to appear older than they are to their peers, strangers, and family.

I didnt date until after my sophmore year because I frankly didnt care. Just hooking up and making out was enough before htat. One might say I want ready for commitment:D

17 and yet to happen.

Where I live most people start dating in middle school because they think they're supposed to. They don't really care about dating and it usually only lasts a month.

One of the most widespread misconceptions of middle-schoolers. They start dating too early for convenience, which interferes with homework and ends up simply being a waste of time.

I never had a relationship.

Ah, is life not beautifully simple?

Not when you're a sophomore with a junior's schedule. I miss those days when I only had five hours of homework every day...

Well, my first real girlfriend was about... a year and a half ago. I was 16, she was 15. We hit it off instantly. It was great. Then I found out she was deranged, had major mood swings, and was abusive and selfish. But by that stage I was in love and didn't care. It took till Christmas last for me to fully realise why I was so unhappy. So about middle of January I worked up the courage to break up with her. It was so messy... I did it in the city one afternoon, and she went so insane we formed a crowd. I still have some of the bruises she gave me. She was so madly in love with me, I can almost understand her reaction. But I knew it was the right thing to do. She still doesn't want to talk to me, which I can deal with.

(I'm trying to decide whether it was completely un-manly of me to let her hit me, or whether putting up with it all and never once hurting her back, never raising my voice, took more guts. Whadda ya reckon?)

But now I gots me a new prospect on the horizon... we've been friends for a while, in the last month we both grew really close, and at the same time we both kinda realised we'd gone past the 'just friends' stage. First date in name tomorrow. One could say things are looking up :)

I had my first relationship when I was 18. When he finally realized he actually had to care about me, he dumped me. I have no idea how that works.

It's loving the idea of a boy/girlfriend more than the person themselves.

The whole reason why I'm single X3 Every time I get into a relationship, I realize that it's never the person who attracted me, it's the idea of being in a relationship that hooked me XP

18, never had a relationship, been kissed, or been on a date. Girls avoid me if at all possible, it would seem. :confused:

Depending on how one defines a "relationship," my first one began when I was either 18 or 19, and ended (temporarily) for an assortment of complicated reasons and also because he graduated and left the area or ended (permanently) because neither of us saw the relationship going anywhere.

My relationships are weird. They invariably end because I feel trapped inside the relationship - losing my independence - and begin to unconsciously show it.

I've been a few relationships, but I've always been the one to be asked and not the one to do the asking out. I think it's (a) I never know what I want and I'm indecisive as a result (b) The time frame in which it takes me from meeting someone to realising I'd like to be in a relationship with them is about the same time frame it takes them to no longer consider me as a possible boyfriend and just as a friend instead. Very annoying.

*snip*

(I'm trying to decide whether it was completely un-manly of me to let her hit me, or whether putting up with it all and never once hurting her back, never raising my voice, took more guts. Whadda ya reckon?)

I had a similar situation with my first serious GF (except she wasn't bi-polar), she hit & kicked me. I decided the best way to deal with it was to not retaliate, because who's going to think you're a hero for hitting a girl?

I was in year 11 at high school, so it was quite humiliating at first (particularly when she smashed my glasses & I was stumbling around blindly) to be "beaten" in front of my peers, but pretty soon everyone else realised what a psycho she was & the sympathy swung my way.

I think you made the right choice & took the stronger action. It takes a lot of self control not retaliate, the consequences for you could have been pretty bad if you had. If you hit a girl, you're always going to come out of it looking bad, no matter how much she's hit you.

It's been said that men are pigs. Unfortunately, many of us men are pigs.

and many women are bitches.


But there are a hell of a lot of us of both genders that are decent people.


It annoys me when I hear people slagging off men, or women like that.

Not that i'm in a relationship right now...but in my opinion having a girlfriend is "high maintenance"...expensive and such...

Well, my first real girlfriend was about... a year and a half ago. I was 16, she was 15. We hit it off instantly. It was great. Then I found out she was deranged, completely bi-polar, abusive and selfish, but by that stage I was in love and didn't care. It took till Christmas last for me to fully realise why I was so unhappy. So about middle of January I worked up the courage to break up with her. It was so messy... I did it in the city one afternoon, and she went so insane we formed a crowd. I still have some of the bruises she gave me. She was so madly in love with me, I can almost understand her reaction. But I knew it was the right thing to do. She still doesn't want to talk to me, which I can deal with.

(I'm trying to decide whether it was completely un-manly of me to let her hit me, or whether putting up with it all and never once hurting her back, never raising my voice, took more guts. Whadda ya reckon?)

But now I gots me a new prospect on the horizon... we've been friends for a while, in the last month we both grew really close, and at the same time we both kinda realised we'd gone past the 'just friends' stage. First date in name tomorrow. One could say things are looking up :)

Hitting her back would have been foolish, regardless of the genders involved. Attempting to restrain her to keep her from hitting you would have been more than reasonable, though, since she obviously had no right to do that.

(Oh, and as a perfectly sane person with bipolar II disorder, I admit to being a little offended by your inclusion of "bipolar" in the list of your ex's flaws. Just for your future reference, you might want to be a wee bit more careful of your word choice if you don't want inadvertently to offend people.)

I had a similar situation with my first serious GF (except she wasn't bi-polar), she hit & kicked me. I decided the best way to deal with it was to not retaliate, because who's going to think you're a hero for hitting a girl?

I was in year 11 at high school, so it was quite humiliating at first (particularly when she smashed my glasses & I was stumbling around blindly) to be "beaten" in front of my peers, but pretty soon everyone else realised what a psycho she was & the sympathy swung my way.

I think you made the right choice & took the stronger action. It takes a lot of self control not retaliate, the consequences for you could have been pretty bad if you had. If you hit a girl, you're always going to come out of it looking bad, no matter how much she's hit you.

Yeah, that's pretty much what I figured. You're right about the sympathy thing too, it became apparent to a lot of people that it wasn't cool by the end. And funnily enough, it was year 11 too... are we... time-warping twins??

(Oh, and as a perfectly sane person with bipolar II disorder, I admit to being a little offended by your inclusion of "bipolar" in the list of your ex's flaws. Just for your future reference, you might want to be a wee bit more careful of your word choice if you don't want inadvertently to offend people.)

Well, I did try to stop her in private at least, it just always looked really bad in public... I mean, if you saw a guy holding a woman forcefully in the middle of the street, you'd be pretty disapproving. I know I would be, even having been through what I have.

Oh, and I'm very sorry for offending you. You're right, of course, it was insensitive. Fixed now. :)

Yeah, that's pretty much what I figured. You're right about the sympathy thing too, it became apparent to a lot of people that it wasn't cool by the end. And funnily enough, it was year 11 too... are we... time-warping twins??

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OMG yes! :eek:

I want you stop before you start stealing my thoughts though. :p



Edit: Forgot to say, good luck with the new lady. :)

Well, I did try to stop her in private at least, it just always looked really bad in public... I mean, if you saw a guy holding a woman forcefully in the middle of the street, you'd be pretty disapproving. I know I would be, even having been through what I have.

Oh, and I'm very sorry for offending you. You're right, of course, it was insensitive. Fixed now. :)

Thanks! You didn't seem like the type who aimed to offend - glad I judged correctly. :)

OMG yes! :eek:

I want you stop before you start stealing my thoughts though. :p



Edit: Forgot to say, good luck with the new lady. :)

Awwww, ok, but only as long as I can still know exactly when you're getting a beer at the prelim grand final, which the pies will undoubtedly win... :p

And thank you. Tomorrow is the big day. It should be fun :).

Thanks! You didn't seem like the type who aimed to offend - glad I judged correctly.

It's a pleasure.

See, isn't it nice when we all get along? Life is that much more fun when people share :)

I was 16. We dated for about seven months before she tried to have me killed. That ended it.

Awwww, ok, but only as long as I can still know exactly when you're getting a beer at the prelim grand final, which the pies will undoubtedly win... :p

And thank you. Tomorrow is the big day. It should be fun :)

Now you are scaring me! I went to last year's prelim final and I had a beer there. But yes, 2008 will be year of the Pies. I'm so excited about the season ahead, I've already bought my membership! :)

I was 16. We dated for about seven months before she tried to have me killed. That ended it.

anarchyel posts to nsg from beyond the grave!!!

Nearly 15 and haven't had a boyfriend. I'm to scared of being rejected, mostly cuz the guy I like I've been friends with since I was 6. :( And all the other people in my school who are cool either cant speak english or are girls. Unfortunatly, I am not atracted to girls.



I was 16. We dated for about seven months before she tried to have me killed. That ended it.


Yes, I do believe that could seriously damage a relationship....

My first serious relationship started when i was 17, and ended when I was 21. I'd had little flings before that, probably starting when i was 15. It ended because he cheated, with a mutual friend. But in hindsight, we were both too young for something that serious. Another lucky escape. :)

When did you first have a relationship with someone, and why did you break up (if you aren't still with the person)?

1st "boyfriend" (ie. longer than a fortnight): 13. I broke up with him because he listened to pop music and put tomato sauce on his New York Fries and criticized my sour cream.


Awwww, I was 14 and it was supposed to be forever. :rolleyes:

Lol, that's happened to me too.

hmmmmmm, I am a moron, everyone in my school thinks I am retarded (even though I am in the Nation Honor Society) and some people think I am gay. Hmmmmm. Yeah, I am only 16 and nearly got a yes in sixth grade, but people started a rumor that I liked some one else and now every one hates me. So yeah, maybe when I am thirty or leave NY or the US.

High school is utter crap. Trust me, once you're out of high school, chicks dig nerds... if you have self confidence. Don't worry about the crap people say at school: it's nearly over.

I was 18 at the time it never got below the waist. We broke up because Mr Straughn opened my eyes to the fact that she was cheating on me. funny story but not worth repeating.

I'm 20, haven't had one yet. Probably won't do for another couple of years until my life starts getting sorted out. Still, I'm bi, so when I finally get round to looking properly, the chances of finding at least one person who is interested are doubled! Ideally, I'd like the first person I'm in a relationship with to be one who I stay with for life; though I am aware this may be a touch optimistic.