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How do you feel about your family?


I personally can't stand my father because he is a bigot.

Mixed. I love my brother and sister, and I love my mum but she really annoys me because she's got real problems with alcohol and is such a victim the whole time. My real dad is awesome but my stepdads a bastard - he's an alcoholic and cheats on my mum (well apparently not anymore, but leopards never change their spots), he also does other stuff which I wont go into here. Suffice to say there is nothing good about him but my mum tolerates him which is very annoying to me because she always gets upset and moans about him to me.

All in all, I try and avoid going home as much as possible lol

Love them, even though they drive me crazy most of the time.

My dad and his side of the family, though: Couldn't care less.

I'm one of the lucky ones, I got a pretty cool family. I miss them though, I haven't seen them in over a year, but I do find that I get along with them a whole hell of a lot better when I'm 5,000 miles away and our contact is email or a half an hour phone call. ;)

My father's alright; he's a decent human being but unfortunately he's too weak to disassociate himself from my mother and start making his own choices as to how and who he wants to be, and quit being a victim.

My mother's a dominant, hating and bitter egomaniac whose only pleasure in life is to heighten herself by putting others down as much as she possibly can. She's taken her toll on my family including me, and I'm slowly getting over the hurt+anger phase and trying to settle into a mixture of pity and plain ignoring her as I build my emotional and physical distance.

All in all, my family's a good exercise in trying to be a good person in the face of people who make it very hard for you to be nice to them, and I appreciate that they made me the cynic I am today.

My Dad's easy going and a sort of santa claus, but really lazy.
My mum's pretty good at organising things but get's too stressed out about stuff, and they both can be a bit too protective (but i guess that's what parents are for).
Older sis is a control freak, but quite friendly otherwise, slightly younger sis is insane and a total nutjob, don't ask me why, and youngest sis is sarcastic as hell but pretty funny.
Could be worse could be better. *shrugs*

I feel "meh" about them. Which is kinda sad, but I suppose it was always gonna be that way.

When we moved here, a lot of financial and other sorts of stress started to wear everyone down. My father's mother really got stuck into my parents, who in turn took it out on one another. My brother retreated into WoW and became a sociopath.

I don't hate them (though I really can't stand my brother) and I'd do virtually anything my parents asked me to, but I can't say I'm happy with my family.

My father's alright; he's a decent human being but unfortunately he's too weak to disassociate himself from my mother and start making his own choices as to how and who he wants to be, and quit being a victim.

My mother's a dominant, hating and bitter egomaniac whose only pleasure in life is to heighten herself by putting others down as much as she possibly can. She's taken her toll on my family including me, and I'm slowly getting over the hurt+anger phase and trying to settle into a mixture of pity and plain ignoring her as I build my emotional and physical distance.

All in all, my family's a good exercise in trying to be a good person in the face of people who make it very hard for you to be nice to them, and I appreciate that they made me the cynic I am today.

This main frame is,or at least, was that of my family too, although to a lesser extent. My mom ain't really that bad and I can even get along fine with her since I moved in another city, although she certainly was like that quite a few times. My dad is a pretty resilient fellow, but he got a bit eroded by work and hard life, and although I love him and respect him, we are a bit distant to each other, we don't really know how to communicate.

I don't have any of the family problems some have, but I wouldn't say we're the bestest of friends either, I don't find I connect that well with some of my family, but they're all quite pleasant.

Very close to my mother, don't really identify much with my dad but appreciate his merits and values all the same, even if I don't share them.

Have a reasonably typical relationship with my younger brother; mutual jealousy, mutual affection et al.

Strong and continuing resentment at my father, whom I have almost cut myself off from now. As, indeed, has my mother (the two divorced years ago, and his refusal to provide me with money for university sent my mother into intense rage).

Former strong resentment at my mother, who effectively delayed my university arrival for two years (the first through outright refusal, the second through wearing down my self-esteem). Now I've proven a point to her, she's relatively fine, but I still don't care to spend much time with her.

My younger brother is quite tolerable, though I always worry about the other family ties interfering, and we disagree on some fairly fundamental things (I'd consider myself an environmentalist, he has a job that requires a car and takes foreign holidays). We tend to be united by playing football (soccer) video games. He's the only member of the immediate family I'd like to see more.

The family members I trust are all in the extended family, in particular my uncle. I think he's my uncle at least... as far as we knew he was my cousin... but I don't care about the family complexities, because I know him as a friend, who just happens to be an 'insider' who knows about the control-freakery of the family. Unfortunately, I got that too, but in a different way, and that led to great tension.

I feel like I have a surrogate family at university, whom I don't see often enough. On today's evidence, my new voice teacher is going to join that; my first one, whom I had for a year before she left, certainly was. There's a few others too.

I've got a little contact with my mother (phonecalls every months or so), I haven't had any contact with my father in well over 10 years now. And boy, I''m glad about that every single day. :)

I've got a little contact with my mother (phonecalls every months or so), I haven't had any contact with my father in well over 10 years now. And boy, I''m glad about that every single day. :)

Same here. I haven't seen or heard from my dad since I was 10 (I'm 22 now).

I get along very well with my parents, especially since I've moved out. My sister can be annoying because she has autism. She had autism during a time when nobody knew or cared what it was. I'm still bitter about that, whenever I see a book called "my AUTISTIC kid" or whatever it's annoying because nobody read those books 6 years ago. The only reason anyone cares now is because autistic kids are on tv and the movie Rain Man.

I get along very well with my parents, especially since I've moved out. My sister can be annoying because she has autism. She had autism during a time when nobody knew or cared what it was. I'm still bitter about that, whenever I see a book called "my AUTISTIC kid" or whatever it's annoying because nobody read those books 6 years ago. The only reason anyone cares now is because autistic kids are on tv and the movie Rain Man.

What the... ? Rain Man came out well over 15 years ago... :confused:

What the... ? Rain Man came out well over 15 years ago... :confused:I looked it up, you're right. I don't know what I was thinking of.

my parents are decent folk in their way. my mother is naive and a little perplexed by the complexity of modern society, i think if she could she'd reinstate the empire. she's a scientist who's never really bothered with the world outside of her own community. my father is a fountain of knowledge and experience, much of it bullshit and exaggeration but some of it quite valuable. he's much more internationally aware that my mother but at the same time is prone to generalisations and often dismissive of other nationalities. i love them both cuz i know they always mean well but they often leave me exasperated. my sister is awesome and a lot of fun, far less self-destructive and more disciplined than myself but a little too sensible and more than a little naive, she's only 19 though.

i love them all from afar, i could not live with any of them though for more than a week before they pissed me off.

They're nice.

Despite Loving my Mother, I can't stand her! She is a feminist who belives she's a "Victim" she claims to be a Republican because she prefers laws that she thinks are "Moral" despite wanting strict economic controls and she belives that the nanny state is the only way to solve our problems. I get along much better with my Grandparents who are laid back and know more about computers than I do! I still hate how my grandmother can beat me at Devildice...

the family that lives in my house? (my husband and the children) I super love. They rock.

my mother, her sister, brother, father, and their children? dislike, don't talk to.

my grandmother's brother and his family? love. going to see them in March, love love love.

my father's side of the family sucks, don't talk to them.

my in-laws are ... probably the most normal love/hate family I have ever had. They annoy the shit out of me, but I love them anyway.

I'm the black sheep who seems to be the only one not to have amoeba quality's

however I also seem to play this Thor type extra-father figure (in other words I'm idolized as such) to all the family's children which has made for some interesting results

I love'em all and couldn't wish for a better family. ;)

we're very close :)

Leave it to Beaver, with the troubled second child. Love my fam, but the internal divisions that exist are a pain. Half the time I feel like I'm the only one who my sister deals with. I guess that goes with the territory of being the "level-headed firstborn".

I don't talk to my mother. She chose her alcoholic, abusive, power-tool-wielding partner over me, and after teaching me to hate that woman for a year (which was easy, since i hated her from early childhood,) she expected me to just turn on accepting her like a switch when they reconciled. I wouldn't do it. She will never see my children if my wife and I ever became parents.

The rest of my family? Take 'em or leave 'em.

I'm lucky. I've got some pretty good people in my family.
They mightn't say the same about me, but that's okay, i'm in better company than they are. :)

My father is the most lazy, disgusting, unreasonable, and outright pitiful man I've ever laid eyes on. He spends his days sleeping, watching TV, and eating, and does not care about anybody but himself.

My mother is one of the most intelligent people I know. She is fairly reasonable and outgoing, she is determined and productive. She is the model parent.

My brother is annoying, and it bugs me to death, but I know deep down inside (from discussions with my mother) that he looks up to me and admires me very much, so his asshole side is just him being the brother.

My sister is a complete and utter failure in my eyes. She refuses to grow the fuck up. She is a 26 year old trapped in a 15 year olds body. At least that's how she acts. She does not drive, she watches young adult teen flicks, and she is not responsible. She disgusts me.

That answer the question?

Apathetic.

Once I get my share of the money from my grandma's soon-to-be-probated will, I'm leaving and cutting off ties. You can only be pissed on so many times and told that it's actually lemonade, and that you're just making a fuss and moving your head so as to not get it in your mouth.

After ten years of insults, mental (and physical) abuse, a psychopathic strangehold on just about everything I do, and not one single "thank you" for dropping two years of my life that should've been spent in college so I could work and help out, I think I deserve a permanent break. Scratch that --- I know I deserve one.

Once I leave, I honestly don't care what happens to the two degenerates I happen to be related to. John Lennon once said that apathy isn't it... Well, in this case, it definitely is.

Apathetic.

Once I get my share of the money from my grandma's soon-to-be-probated will, I'm leaving and cutting off ties. You can only be pissed on so many times and told that it's actually lemonade, and that you're just making a fuss and moving your head so as to not get it in your mouth.

After ten years of insults, mental (and physical) abuse, a psychopathic strangehold on just about everything I do, and not one single "thank you" for dropping two years of my life that should've been spent in college so I could work and help out, I think I deserve a permanent break. Scratch that --- I know I deserve one.

Once I leave, I honestly don't care what happens to the two degenerates I happen to be related to. John Lennon once said that apathy isn't it... Well, in this case, it definitely is.

Ouch. That sounds like hell. Sorry to hear about that. :(

I can't say I blame you for wanting to cut them loose.

She is a 26 year old trapped in a 15 year olds body.

Does she have a disability?

Does she have a disability?No she's just a fuckin' idiot. I would never be that hard on a disabled person, being one myself. She's just a stupid dumb bitch. >_>

My family's pretty cool.

i've always felt my parents were just people, like anybody else. neither of them were ever entirely happy with that, but then none of us always get everything we want either.

i have no siblings, and relatives all lived further away then i could ever get to really know them. one of my mom's sisters and her husband showed up at my wedding and i was very happy for them to have done so, along with my mom and my wife's father. her mom any my dad, both already gone back to the tau, many years before.

my mom is still with us, and while i wish her the greatest happiness as i do everyone, i have never found her the most gratifying of company.

my father was interesting though annoying, and we did share a love of exploring and traveling odd and interesting back roads, to the strainge kind of quiet places most people don't seem to be interested in going, which is what keeps them un-screwed up for people like him and me to enjoy.

but that's all long past now. i didn't feel like any big part went out of my life when he died or anything, but at least he was, some of the time, when we were wandering arround like that, interesting. or rather what he shared with me doing, that kind of travel, was.

i was also, even more then him, a lot more then him really, in where he worked, which is to say, for the railroad. though i've never been people enough oriented to do what he did for them, i did, myself work for the same company for a little while, and it was the best job i've ever had, for as long as it lasted.

but like i say, aunts, uncles, cousins et al, just never got to know well enough to say. never even met any of them on my fathers side, and a good bit less then half of them on my moms. we grew up on the left coast and most of them lived on or near the east. any place we couldn't get to on a one day train or bus trip, didn't happen more then once a decade or so, pretty much my entire life, even after leaving them.

so now, there's my mom, and on or near the other coast a couple of her sisters and their dependents who could be just about anywhere for all i know, and don't see how i'd ever know unless they told me if i ever ran into any of them, and even more so for anyone related to my dad, whome, as far as i know, i've never met.

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My mother is one of the most intelligent people I know. She is fairly reasonable and outgoing, she is determined and productive. She is the model parent.
So I assume she divorced your father? 'Cause someone who's intelligent, reasonable and determined would not stay with a man like you describe your father to be, no?

My sister [...] refuses to grow the fuck up. She is a 26 year old trapped in a 15 year olds body.

Huh? Did you want to say that the other way 'round; "a 15-year-old in a 26-year-old's body"? Because the way you said it it sounds like she's a teenager with a mid-twenties' mind...

So I assume she divorced your father? 'Cause someone who's intelligent, reasonable and determined would not stay with a man like you describe your father to be, no?

You'd be surprised. Many intelligent women stay with such men (and so, of course, do many intelligent men stay with such women).

No she's just a fuckin' idiot. I would never be that hard on a disabled person, being one myself. She's just a stupid dumb bitch. >_>

Same here.

So I assume she divorced your father? 'Cause someone who's intelligent, reasonable and determined would not stay with a man like you describe your father to be, no?



Huh? Did you want to say that the other way 'round; "a 15-year-old in a 26-year-old's body"? Because the way you said it it sounds like she's a teenager with a mid-twenties' mind... No. They've been married for 28 years, and there are no signs they're going to ever get divorced.

No. I meant that. She is immature and has the same immature and irresponsible mindset a naive and stupid 15 year old would have. It sickens me. Especially because my parents allow her to be this way.

Same here.You're disabled? What is it that you have?

You'd be surprised. Many intelligent women stay with such men (and so, of course, do many intelligent men stay with such women).

Well, my point was that making such a choice severely takes away from your alleged intelligence. Of course this is an incident of personal judgement, but to me what you're saying sounds like "You'd be surprised; many careful people regularly cut themselves while peeling their fruit" - well no, doing that shows that you probably aren't all that careful after all.


No. I meant that. She is immature and has the same immature and irresponsible mindset a naive and stupid 15 year old would have. It sickens me. Especially because my parents allow her to be this way.

Maybe it's just me having a thick moment, but.. you said "She's like a 26-year-old in the body of a 15-year-old" - so you think her mindset makes her like having the "body" of a teenager? I still think it should be the other way 'round, saying she is/has the mind of a 15-year-old trapped in the body of a 26-year-old.

My family is awesome.

My dad was a working class dude who worked on the waterfront all his life. People assumed he was a conservative because he always wore a collared shirt and khakis, but he was quite left wing, even after becoming a manager. If I grow up to be half the man he was, I can feel good about myself.

My mom was the more intellectual, though she also wound up working on the waterfront. Awesome cook and hella nice, though she takes no crap.

I pretty much couldn't complain about my parents. When I was a teenager, obviously I thought they were unreasonable, but in hindsight, they were pretty ideal. Obviously loved each other very much, seldom argued and gave my sister and I a good balance of discipline, as per chores and homework, and freedom with our social life as long as we met the conditions of the former.

My grandparents are awesome. My grandfather is a jolly old atheist socialist (yes, apparently atheist socialists can be quite jolly), who loves singing. My grandmother is a former schoolteacher who can change your behavior with a mere look.

My grandfather on the other side was a nuclear physicist, whose major fault was not suffering fools well. He was raised mormon and consequently couldn't stand them. They sent people round every so often to try to get him back in the church. He only didn't demand that they stop because he enjoyed arguing circles around them.

My grandmother on my mom's side was also a school teacher, who was quite into Synchronized Swimming. She actually wrote a book about it. She's an awesome old lady who is still quite active, maintaining a garden that's basically a small farm and making the most excellent pies.

My aunts and uncles are all quite the characters, family get togethers are never boring.

My cousins are like having the most awesome people on the internet eating dinner with you and being silly IRL. They're fucking awesome as fuck. Yes, I am a little drunk right now, forgive my lack of extensive vocabulary.

That's pretty much it.

Well, my point was that making such a choice severely takes away from your alleged intelligence. Of course this is an incident of personal judgement, but to me what you're saying sounds like "You'd be surprised; many careful people regularly cut themselves while peeling their fruit" - well no, doing that shows that you probably aren't all that careful after all.



Maybe it's just me having a thick moment, but.. you said "She's like a 26-year-old in the body of a 15-year-old" - so you think her mindset makes her like having the "body" of a teenager? I still think it should be the other way 'round, saying she is/has the mind of a 15-year-old trapped in the body of a 26-year-old. Nope. I'm definitely having the thick moment, but I can rightfully blame this on lack of sleep, as it is 6 AM and I have not gone to sleep yet.

You're right, but now I shall retreat to my lovely couch and get some rest, then return in the morning.. err, later, to laugh at my dumb mistake. :cool:

Flawed human beings. I have my issues with them but they're not bad people.

Nope. I'm definitely having the thick moment, but I can rightfully blame this on lack of sleep, as it is 6 AM and I have not gone to sleep yet.
Well, then do so now. Shoo!

(It's 11a.m. here and I'm currently considering going back to bed after having gotten up for and gone to an 8a.m. class that was canceled after all)

You're right, but now I shall retreat to my lovely couch and get some rest, then return in the morning.. err, later, to laugh at my dumb mistake. :cool:

There are no mistakes, there are only learning opportunities. *nod*

See, and in addition, now I can feel good about my superior ESL competence, you can feel good about having made a young lady feel good about her competence, and we'll both receive a golden star each for all-round nice behavior on the internets. How about it?

My interest in my relatives tails off rapidly beyond parents and siblings. I get on well with them, this is helped by living a couple of hundred miles away from them.

My family is all very supportive of each other. It is like we are our own best friends. :p There is a lot of love between all of us and we take care of each other too. My boys make me and my husband very proud, and in that we are fortunate.

My mom is the same way, very supportive and loving, her parents were also. My dad on the other hand is really self centered and has been for years. It is just who he is, the world is about him, not in a mean way but in a little kid kind of way. My hubby is like that too at times.

I love them all.

My in-laws are Bible thumping hypocrits that are mean as snakes.

I guess no family is perfect.

How do you feel about your family?


I personally can't stand my father because he is a bigot.
I love my parents and my baby brother to distraction.

My mom is hilarious. She's this tiny (under 5') round elf with rosy cheeks who is friends with everybody. She curses like a sailor. She has a reference library and knows everything.

My dad is awesome. He has fantastic comics, great music, and loves to Frankenstein stereo equipment. He's a neuroscientist so we can talk about work together. He talks to me about anything.

My kid brother is a goomba of the highest order. He's a dope and a teenage boy and he's taller than me, and all of my very best and funniest stories involve him in some way. I give him noogies and he kicks me in the shins. We are best friends.

My family is all very supportive of each other. It is like we are our own best friends. :p There is a lot of love between all of us and we take care of each other too. My boys make me and my husband very proud, and in that we are fortunate.

My mom is the same way, very supportive and loving, her parents were also. My dad on the other hand is really self centered and has been for years. It is just who he is, the world is about him, not in a mean way but in a little kid kind of way. My hubby is like that too at times.

I love them all.

My in-laws are Bible thumping hypocrits that are mean as snakes.

I guess no family is perfect.
Bibles are good for when you run out of toilet rolls or firewood, lots of nice thin pages, but mind you don't get a paper cut.
I'd like to see the last page of the bible that got edited out of the first one (all characters portrayed in this book are entirely ficticious and the author is not responsible for any religious acts caused as a result)would be the best book in the world.

Bibles are good for when you run out of toilet rolls or firewood, lots of nice thin pages, but mind you don't get a paper cut.
I'd like to see the last page of the bible that got edited out of the first one (all characters portrayed in this book are entirely ficticious and the author is not responsible for any religious acts caused as a result)would be the best book in the world.

Ummm...ok.

I don't have a problem with the Bible at all, I have a problem with my in-laws thumping it....

My family's not too bad - drive me nuts sometimes, but not too bad. My mother in law, on the other hand, was a raging psychopathic bitch. Evil, nasty woman who once tried to restrain me from driving redwulf to the hospital where he was going to give a kidney to his sister.

Every time my mom or sister go on about their respective in-laws (and the ones they have a not exactly wonderful), I just look at them and say, "Mine was worse than yours. I promise." And then they shut up.

How do you feel about your family?


I personally can't stand my father because he is a bigot.

My family is responsible for my existence. They sacrificed their time, energy, and money for me.

I have the same problem with my father as you do, but what the heck?

My sister and I were raised with the idea that if you work hard, and are responsible with your life you can do darn near anything you want. My parents taught me the value of using you non-working time to play and have as much fun as possible, to learn and experience new things, and if someone can't take a joke, or have a problem for every solution, fuck 'em. When my sister and I were being raised, they were always there to help us, and correct us if we screwed up. My family and I are great friends now, and I hope I can be half the father to my son that my father was to me.

Well, I hope I can be all of that actually, but I the bar was set mighty high.

Let's see. My biological father who abused my mother and me because he was a psychotic bastard who wouldn't take his meds, him I've been somewhat ambivalent about over the years, ranging from a desire to see him dead to indifference to (currently) wishing him well wherever he is.

My mother I love dearly. She's both incredibly nerdy and incredibly naive, which makes for a hilarious combination of equally interesting discussions on science and sex/drugs/crime. She's worked her ass off for my benefit and that of my brother and sister, and I really admire her for the dedication she has in that and many other areas of her life.

My stepfather I love dearly as well. I resented his authority at first, but I came to see that he genuinely loved my mother and had my best interests at heart, and I've grown to have immense respect for him and the many skills he's cultivated in his life. I still have a lot of good things to learn from him.

My brother and I don't have a very good relationship, but I'm trying to help build it up and help him where I can, especially since he's in a very rough spot right now.

My sister and I never had a good relationship when we were younger, but now that we're both a bit older we have developed a genuine respect and love for each other. We can talk to each other freely about pretty much anything.

My extended family on both sides are great in different ways. On the whole, it's cool.

I'm happiest when I'm not in contact with them.

I love my family.

My mother is really hardworking just so me and my siblings could have a decent upbringing. She even occassionally does 24 hour shifts. We do sometimes have our differences.

My dad and I had a bit of a strained relationship. For the most part of my life he was an alcoholic but now he is recovering and we get on fine now.

My little brother, though annoying, is a good laugh. He's only 13 so we'll see what the teenage years bring out of him...

My baby sister. She can be the sweetest thing or your worst nightmare. She may look like she can be controlled but she's a fighter and I can see her in the future fighting for some cause. It's her 10th birthday tomorrow.

I get on very well with my sisters & brother, we're very close. I love my mother, but she annoys me because she's more irresponsible & childish than any of us kids. No-one's perfect though & she is my mother, so....


Edit: My father died many years ago, when I was still young.

Its awkward because I love my family and I know I do, but it seems to be because it is expected. I believe that I love my family and therefore I do, but all the same, i wonder if i would still like them if they were more distantly related. The enviroment around me kind of "dictates" that I should love them unconditionally and I'm not arguing, but do I really? So confusing.

He has fantastic comics,

I gotta meet this guy. :D

Edit: My father died many years ago, when I was still young.

I am sorry. :(

How do you feel about your family?


I personally can't stand my father because he is a bigot.
It seems to me that you should DEAL with it....most people here have way bigger problems with their families than "my dad is a bigot"...which, coming from a leftist probably means he's against afirmitive action or something.



Anyway, my family is fantastic. Parents are both very smart and political and I love them. My brother and sister are younger but they are also very smart and I love them.

No problems and everything is excellent with us....and I do realize I am very fortunate with our family...reading through this entire thread.

This reminds me: where are my family? They said they would be back soon, and eventually the librarians are going to find out that I'm sleeping here.

I gotta meet this guy. :D
The first time my boyfriend came to visit my folks' house, I took him upstairs to see where my old bedroom was. He looked around at the stereo hookup, the posters, the piles of comics, the albums, and the gaming computer. He said, "Wow, I'm surprised your parents just left it all exactly the way you left it!"

I replied, "What are you talking about? My dad moved his office up here 3 years ago. This is all his stuff."

My dad's clutter looks almost exactly like mine, only he's got a killer vinyl collection (including some really early punk!) and more classic comics.

I like them.