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How happy are you with your life right now?

Ups:

I'm about to finish up getting my GED, I have a very long time off to relax, the girl I'm in love with loves me too, and I think my lyric writing has improved very well along with my bass skills. I feel like people are finally starting to understand me, and I think I can finally let go of all my past problems and mistakes.

Downs: I sometimes find myself overcome with boredom and wonder if I should get a job between now and starting college even though I have a college fund and no expenses. I miss someone and desperately want to travel more. The world still sucks.

I'll give myself an 8.

Well, I'm clapping my hands and my face is surely showing it so...











:p

i would normally be a 9 or 10, but i recently broke up with the girl I thought I was going to marry because she couldn't decide if she really loved me that much or not. Then after we broke up, she tried to even tell me that she didn't know if she would ever be able to love anyone that much....I told her that was bull, but it still all hurts so i am only a 7....:(

1. Currently have good job, but still being screwed by worker's comp from injury at old crappy job

2. Have food & shelter

3. Have lap cat (nature's antidepressant)

a 7 right now

Well, I'm clapping my hands and my face is surely showing it so...











:p

If you're happy and you know it, crap your pants.

I'm alive, but I'm not ruler of the universe. I'll say... 9.

I dunno. 8? Hard to quantify, but things are good enough for me. :)

If you're happy and you know it, crap your pants.

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I got a perfect score on my accounting exam and have no class tomorrow. I'd say somewhere between 8-10 is a good place.

I'm not as depressed as I probably should be, but at the same time I have nothing to be happy about either. So 3 perhaps?

In general, 10. I enjoy being alive very much.

At this current stage in my life (considering career, lifestyle, etc), 8 slippling towards 7 (because I'm facing the prospect of having to get another job which is always a downer).

At this particular moment, 3. Some people and my computer and a mistake I made earlier today, have all pissed me off at the same time and made me not happy. Hopefully, I'll feel better in the morning and will figure out how to fix that mistake.

I said a 5.

My marriage blows, a big minus that sets me at -5. :rolleyes:

My health has improved this last year so that is a +3, making a -2 total. :cool:

My youngest son is turning out to be a prodigy on viola and that is a +7. :cool::cool::cool:

All told a 5. :)

How happy are you with your life right now?

Having the kind of personality i do, it's fairly predictable that i easily chose "5"

In general, 10. I enjoy being alive very much.


10?? Damn, you're happy. I can only get to 10 if I am simultaneously having sex, eating pizza and watching a good movie.

After the ups and downs of recently, it seems to have levelled out to about... 7.

Just got out of a 2 year relationship, but it was my choice, so that was ok. It just feels very weird to not have her around. Plus, trying not to fall for all my close female friends is trying at best.

Holidays are coming to an end (:() but they have been great, including spending a few days with my New Zealand mate.

My appetite has returned after the last couple of weeks where I just didn't get hungry. It was great coz I could lose some excess weight, but I know as well as anybody else how unhealthy it is to do that by starving myself. So It's a welcome return.

So, in sum, single and in some ways happy about it. Just ending an awesome holidays. Starting my final and most important year of school. Pleasant, but been better. 7.

In general, 10. I enjoy being alive very much.

At this current stage in my life (considering career, lifestyle, etc), 8 slippling towards 7 (because I'm facing the prospect of having to get another job which is always a downer).

At this particular moment, 3. Some people and my computer and a mistake I made earlier today, have all pissed me off at the same time and made me not happy. Hopefully, I'll feel better in the morning and will figure out how to fix that mistake.

What was the mistake, if you don't mind me asking?

So so so so happy. I've been at at 9 or 10 for the last few days :D

But that means that next week I'll be close to like...3 :(

Eh... five. I'm up and down and all around, and things are sort of a mess. I'm trying to work things out with my no-longer-ex, but... some days I don't know why. I don't know if he can make me happy anymore. I don't know if I'm trying because I miss the comfort, or if I'm actually still in love with him. I don't know if he's committed to this, even if he says he missed me and he made a huge mistake. Non so. Je ne sais pas.

I should be happy, and sometimes I am. But sometimes I definitely am not. And I don't know what the right answer to this situation is. However, basically everything else in my life is going well, so it levels out to about a five.

Edit: were having a very productive conversation right now, actually. that makes me happier. :)

I'm quite happy these days but today wasn't that great.

10?? Damn, you're happy. I can only get to 10 if I am simultaneously having sex, eating pizza and watching a good movie.

Who says you can't? Maybe that's her secret but she doesn't want you to try (and fail) a few times (film at 11)? :p

:p

Today is Tuesday where I live. ;)

which might explain the timewarp

Eh... five. I'm up and down and all around, and things are sort of a mess. I'm trying to work things out with my no-longer-ex, but... some days I don't know why. I don't know if he can make me happy anymore. I don't know if I'm trying because I miss the comfort, or if I'm actually still in love with him. I don't know if he's committed to this, even if he says he missed me and he made a huge mistake. Non so. Je ne sais pas.

I should be happy, and sometimes I am. But sometimes I definitely am not. And I don't know what the right answer to this situation is. However, basically everything else in my life is going well, so it levels out to about a five.*consoles*

I'm quite happy these days but today wasn't that great.
Sounds like a case of the Mondays. :p

Eh... five. I'm up and down and all around, and things are sort of a mess. I'm trying to work things out with my no-longer-ex, but... some days I don't know why. I don't know if he can make me happy anymore. I don't know if I'm trying because I miss the comfort, or if I'm actually still in love with him. I don't know if he's committed to this, even if he says he missed me and he made a huge mistake.

Totally disregard my opinion on this but I've always held the position of never returning to a failed relationship - they're hard enough to recognise as failed in the first place.

Further, and interestingly given discussions in other threads about morals and empathy, our brains seem wired to become almost symbiotic in close relationships - whether with parents or partners.

There's so much information out there that, in order to lead productive lives, our brains almost need to abandon certain responsibilities and, possibly, a large part of relationship feelings is the creation and reliance on this symbiosis. We need to be able to trust our expectations of what a close partner will do, to give up a portion of our lives and rely on them to fulfill that.

The sense of 'loss' one feels in finishing a reasonably long-term relationship is partly the brain having to reconfigure itself to take on those thoughts or actions that used to be the responsibility of our partner.

You'll often find, in talking with those who have lost lifelong partners, that they'll say 'oh, XXX used to do that' as an excuse for why, for example, they've forgotten to pay the telephone bill, or 'oh, XXX always knew the name of that actor'.

Coming back to my first point, it's hard to discern whether a relationship is really worth saving - good luck.

Totally disregard my opinion on this but I've always held the position of never returning to a failed relationship - they're hard enough to recognise as failed in the first place.

Further, and interestingly given discussions in other threads about morals and empathy, our brains seem wired to become almost symbiotic in close relationships - whether with parents or partners.

There's so much information out there that, in order to lead productive lives, our brains almost need to abandon certain responsibilities and, possibly, a large part of relationship feelings is the creation and reliance on this symbiosis. We need to be able to trust our expectations of what a close partner will do, to give up a portion of our lives and rely on them to fulfill that.

The sense of 'loss' one feels in finishing a reasonably long-term relationship is partly the brain having to reconfigure itself to take on those thoughts or actions that used to be the responsibility of our partner.

You'll often find, in talking with those who have lost lifelong partners, that they'll say 'oh, XXX used to do that' as an excuse for why, for example, they've forgotten to pay the telephone bill, or 'oh, XXX always knew the name of that actor'.

Coming back to my first point, it's hard to discern whether a relationship is really worth saving - good luck.

Agreed. *bows*

And further, there's probably a few worthwhile stalkers here on NS.
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Today is Tuesday where I live. ;)

which might explain the timewarp

It does, doesn't it?

its all over the place really, just like the weather where i live. wait a few minuets and it'll chainge. all i can give is an average guestimate, which is i'm glad to have had the chance to have done what i've been able to these past few years, on the net and all, just a dream when i was growing up, but there's so many roads i'd like to have ALSO explored, what rots me is life is just so short to try and really explore more then just two or three, out of the dozzens i would have like to have really groc'ed thoroughly.

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Somewhere between 2 and 3.

10.

I have excellent job that i like, but that is not much, everything is great. I'm in relationships first time in my life :)

Weather could be better, but meh.

*consoles*

Thanks, you. =)


Totally disregard my opinion on this but I've always held the position of never returning to a failed relationship - they're hard enough to recognise as failed in the first place.

*snip*

Coming back to my first point, it's hard to discern whether a relationship is really worth saving - good luck.

You know, I agree that's it's hard to tell whether a relationship is really worth saving; I also think it's hard to honestly figure out whether it *can* be saved. Some things you just can't take back.

This is my first and only relationship, so far. We were high school sweethearts; he's the first boy I ever kissed, the whole works. I found it impossible to let go of that while we were apart, but now that we're together again... I find myself thinking almost constantly about how badly he hurt me, and whether he can ever honestly make up for that. Whether I'll ever be able to trust him the way I did before.

We've only been "back together" for... not even two weeks, now, and we just agreed that we need to set an evening aside to just sit down and *talk*. There are a lot of things I have to say, but most of them run along the same lines -

"I don't honestly know if I can forgive you for what you said to me/how you treated me/the fact that you left me. There is nothing you can do but try, obviously and endlessly, to convince me that you mean everything you say, and hope that one day I can trust you again. I want to, but god damnit, you have a lot to prove. I need commitment and dedication like I have never seen from you before, and I need it daily, until the day I can finally let myself fall back in love with you. It's up to you whether you can give that to me, because I'm not compromising this time."

I'm not going to make him beg - begging has no place in a relationship. But... I mean it when I say he has a lot to prove. More than he can, possibly.

Agreed. *bows*

And further, there's probably a few worthwhile stalkers here on NS.
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You don't say. ;)

"I don't honestly know if I can forgive you for what you said to me/how you treated me/the fact that you left me. There is nothing you can do but try, obviously and endlessly, to convince me that you mean everything you say, and hope that one day I can trust you again. I want to, but god damnit, you have a lot to prove. I need commitment and dedication like I have never seen from you before, and I need it daily, until the day I can finally let myself fall back in love with you. It's up to you whether you can give that to me, because I'm not compromising this time."



:mp5: Oh, you're really making him pay, aren't you!!! ;)

Oh, you're really making him pay, aren't you!!! ;)

This is a thread hijack for which I'm partly to blame I think.

I would mark myself at 8 for happiness - I'm generally content.

I sometimes wonder whether people have a happy disposition naturally, some people just seem to be happy no matter what, perhaps a better word is carefree.

One of my first long debates on NSG was 'Is religiosity a choice?' and I wonder the same to this question.

Is happiness a choice?

How happy are you with your life right now?Not very. New Years started off bad and it's gotten a lot worse since then.

Is happiness a choice?

In as much as your hormone levels and other genetic/environmental factors are unchangeable, no. In as much as you can alter your thinking to not dwell on bad things/failures/hurtful experiences and concentrate on what's good in your life and future, yes (to an extent). You could argue that's just a different perspective on the facts, but it could make quite a difference to your outlook. Some people have the philosophy that, because they are alive and in reasonable health, they are therefore happy in general. Whether they've consciously created that philosophy is another question.

And to answer the OP: 6, maybe. Some things are good, others not, I am generally a realist.

I sometimes wonder whether people have a happy disposition naturally, some people just seem to be happy no matter what, perhaps a better word is carefree.


I'm one of 'those people'... but 'carefree' isn't the word, I don't think - after all, I care a lot (...about disasters, fires, floods, and killer bees... etc) about all kinds of things.

I would probably say that most of the time I'm weighing in at a 7 or 8 on the scale. Right now, I'm pretty content, so maybe a 9 - but, with all the crap that also exists in my life (and the world) I'm not sure a perfect 10 is ever possible.

I don't think it's a mtter of being 'carefree'.. I've always thought it was a combination of being realistic (and thus not having some high expectation behind which you'll always be lagging), and serious about what you want from life.

I got my wife, my kids... right now I can afford to feed and house us. I've got friends and family (admittedly, most of both of those are a little remote, geographically), and I just drank a chocolate flavour nutritional shake. My job is no crapper than most jobs could be expected to be, my health no unhealthier than I've any real right to expect... all in all, I can be pretty content.

(I have some things I'm doing, or striving towards too, and those will make me 'happy' as they achieve fruition... but they probably won't affect my overall 'content' level).

In as much as your hormone levels and other genetic/environmental factors are unchangeable, no. In as much as you can alter your thinking to not dwell on bad things/failures/hurtful experiences and concentrate on what's good in your life and future, yes (to an extent). You could argue that's just a different perspective on the facts, but it could make quite a difference to your outlook. Some people have the philosophy that, because they are alive and in reasonable health, they are therefore happy in general. Whether they've consciously created that philosophy is another question.

And to answer the OP: 6, maybe. Some things are good, others not, I am generally a realist.

Happiness is a funny thing and, excluding medical conditions such as depression or thyroid issues, it's something we treat as an external issue.

What makes you happy - it implies that something outside of yourself creates the effect, whether that's a smile, a loved one, a gift, chocolate.

Look at the answers provided so far - I'm happy because...

I'm not a great fan of the idea that you need to think happy to be happy in that it can mask real problems, causing depression, say, to be treated as an attitude problem rather than a medical one but I do note people of different dispositions and wonder how much effect we have on ourselves.

... but they probably won't affect my overall 'content' level).

Right - there's the set point theory of happiness, that individually we have different set points of happiness that fluctuates given events.

Lykken was the proponent of a set-point theory of happiness, which argues that one's sense of well-being is half determined by genetics and half determined by circumstances, and has been the subject of international media attention.[3] His research findings suggest that a person's baseline levels of cheerfulness, contentment, and psychological satisfaction are largely a matter of heredity.

I'd say about a 9. I did really well at a Latin competition (I got first place in both of my tests!:)) and I've been doing well at school. I also recently had a birthday and I'm going to vote for the first time tonight.

:)

Happiness is a funny thing and, excluding medical conditions such as depression or thyroid issues, it's something we treat as an external issue.

What makes you happy - it implies that something outside of yourself creates the effect, whether that's a smile, a loved one, a gift, chocolate.

Look at the answers provided so far - I'm happy because...

External events affect our moods, but it is our perceptions of them that determine how we will react. If we can change our perceptions (and what causes certain ways of percepting things) then we can alter how things affect us.

I'm not a great fan of the idea that you need to think happy to be happy in that it can mask real problems, causing depression, say, to be treated as an attitude problem rather than a medical one but I do note people of different dispositions and wonder how much effect we have on ourselves.

Indeed, it is not only an attitude problem, unusual hormonal levels are a factor and other things, but I also don't think slapping on drugs is going to change anything in the long-term other than make you dependent on them to be 'happy'. I'm not saying people can just snap out of it, but they can change slightly if they want to and have guidance.

That's gotta be a trick question!

Eh, not too happy right now. Tired because my anemia is flaring, worried because I'm not well physically (beyond the anemia) and the only people I can see are the student health professionals. Broke up with my boyfriend two weeks ago. Can't nail dates with guys who are desparate.

I give up. I will become a recluse. Better yet, I will become a crazy cat lady. I will give them cutesy little names and knit them little sweaters.

Now I'm happy. :p

an opportunity to bang on about my life is always fun:

I've spent all my holiday (and passport getting) money on booze and such however this is a very proud achievement +7

I have to find an explanation of how I haven't gone to college and "other job" in about a month -4

I'm bored, stinky and out of shape at the moment -8

-8 looks like a penis +1

I'm very nearly broke -4

I have only vague idea of what I'm doing with my life -3

looking at these achievements I'm my own hero +8

people seem to be finding me attractive at this moment in time (this always happens in February :confused:) +9

I got six

I have crow's feet at this young age (28) from all the smiling. Literally being too happy = 10.

Nothing serious to be sad about. I have lots of schoolwork, but it will go all right. I´m perfectly healthy, I have more money than ever and currently I feel comfortable. I´m not tired or stressed, even though I have 40 hours of school a week. Well after a week it will drop to 35. And I just feel myself exceptionally intelligent because I´m so frigging good in mathics and physics. So it´s a complete 10.

very happy. I have a wonderful interesting job. My school career is going wonderfully. I have a boyfriend who loves me very much. And I have wonderful friends who would go through hell for me. So all in all, life's almost perfect. :)

(except that I have a killer headache right now. So it's a 9.)

The stoics believed that happiness was entirely (or at least almost entirely) internally generated. The key to happiness for them was to detach yourself from everything, thereby guarding yourself from any disappointment or ill feelings that may be caused by the external world. Consequently, this would usually guard you from good feelings as well; thus, their main tenet was something like "Always in moderation." (To my knowledge, they didn't necessarily say this. It's just my paraphrase of their philosophy.) In protecting yourself from unhappiness, you're also limiting your own happiness, but they felt that this was a reasonable price to pay. So according to the stoics, the key to happiness is simply not caring about things. In this way, nothing will ever cause you to be unhappy.

As for the OP, I'm about an 8 or 9. I just got engaged, which is friggin' sweet, but I'm also in a shite job. Almost perfect, but not quite.

Things are a bit stressed at the moment but February is looking pretty damn good so i'm reasonably happy.

1st weekend = QOTSA concert in Edinburgh

2nd weekend = Half an hour in Bedford wind-tunnel + entered in the wind tunnel twister competition + massive party afterwards

3rd weekend = Dundee medics half-way ball. A weekend of eating, drinking, paintballing, quad biking and dancing in a nice fancy castle in the north of Scotland

Final weekend = More skydiving (weather permitting obviously)

1.

pretty good, but still not "happy" i'd say. things are a lot better than they used to be, but i'm still on the antidepressants. my gf is wonderful and supportive, and she makes me happy, though we've been through some tough times lately. the biggest thing making me unhappy at the moment is i can't live up to my ambition, or at least not yet. its gets hard to be disappointed every day.

if i could just action on some of the ideas and proposals i've had to bring in some good money for the family business and get us all out of debt, that would make me happy. but, as ever, it takes money to make money. if you got none to invest in new projects, you're not going to get anywhere fast.

Starting at five -

-6 for not having a girlfriend for too long now.
-2 for shit weather
-1 for being totally skint

+3 for having decent friends
+1 for being able to smoke and drink legally
+4 because it's nearly the new month, meaning another £120 into the coffers (thank fuck)

So, err, 4.

3
It should probably be higher, arguably it could be 7, but with poor flatmates, flatmates too lazy to wash dishes, sister gone loco, old friends dumping me, walking for ages to get anywhere then finding i have to walk further, lower fitness, lots of work to do, have to get into Uni, i'll need a crappy low-paid job summer, no partner, noisy traffic, smelly traffic fumes, dumb drunks scream past my window, boring weather, spend too long on PC, exams coming up (oh shit).
Plus sides, closer facilities, new places to go out, extra walking will help my fitness, the extra work gives me something to work towards, sister might be coming back, okay with money i'm frugal with it, don't get drunk as much, new house for next year(means better flatmates), fairly decent teachers, decent music, my birthday soon (presents!).
okay i'll stop there, sorry to tell my life details.

10

Life is truely wonderful.

I give my life a 10 at the moment. Everything is going fine.

Stressed, but enjoy the things I'm stressed about.
Nervous for next year and applying to university. Also for finding out my marks (just had DPs that are woth 50% of my mark) in a month. Fighting badly with my mom but I'm good with my dad and reading a good book. Overall content though, about to start a new semester that I'm excited for, first Belly dancing preformace approching.

8

I am as happy as a cat eating guts.:D

I feel like I should be happy. The only major stress is my crappy job and working on getting out of it. But for some reason I'm not. Can't place it and it's getting unnerving.

I am as happy as a cat eating guts.:D

They say you see what you want to see.

I read your post as:

"I am as happy as cunnilingus"

...they might be right.

You don't say. ;)
I wouldn't outright say it, but i'll sure imply it loudly. And often. :p

How happy are you with your life right now?

10. Going to have 3,5 weeks of very much pleasure, travelling a quarter of the world and have fun :)

They say you see what you want to see.

I read your post as:



...they might be right.

:cool:

*I am really happy that I didn't post "happy as a tick in a dogs ear" now.:p*

I'm quite happy at the moment:

Happy because:

I have great friends.
I live with some of the best people ever.
The weather is fine.
I'm in good health.
My family is in good health.
I'm at university.

Down because:

I'm bored of the single life.
I want to go to America this summer but won't be able to afford it.
My crappy job.

:cool:

*I am really happy that I didn't post "happy as a tick in a dogs ear" now.:p*

Yes. It's better this way, trust me.

:D

I'm quite happy at the moment:

Happy because:

I have great friends.
I live with some of the best people ever.
The weather is fine.
I'm in good health.
My family is in good health.
I'm at university.

Down because:

I'm bored of the single life.
I want to go to America this summer but won't be able to afford it.
My crappy job.

Get a crappy job IN America, for the summer.

Worth looking into, right?

Funnily enough I actually am but I can't afford it...:(

About 9. Everything's going fine - new computer, will be out of my overdraft (hopefully) permanently by tomorrow (payday!), good health, etc, etc.

Downers: been moved to a new team in one of my jobs, which is practically the lowest job in the office, and not being able to quit without finding another job. (On t'other hand, I have firm plans to quit by the end of July, so it's not all bad).
Not actually getting paid enough to save as quickly as I'd like for the MA I want to do.

Major upper: Rock Sound have preliminarily accepted me for a work experience placement at some point. :D

Right now 2.
Start at 8(It was a good day.)
My mom is sick-4
I feel the flood of human idiots at my school teasing me for no other reason then I don't like sports- 7
I have a dog+5

I wouldn't outright say it, but i'll sure imply it loudly. And often. :p

Luckily, I can put up with a stalker or two. Have spent years in this ridiculously gorgeous body, I've become accustomed to the persistent howls of men. ;)

Haha... I'd like to amend my current state of happiness to at least a six, however. Career fair at my university provided me with both a Starbucks necklace with a permanent marker attached (unless you work at Starbucks and are constantly losing your pens, you won't appreciate the value of such an accessory), and an application to CSIS.

Yes. I am that wickedly cool. :p

Lately my best friend is so depressed and a friend of mine and I have been trying to cheer him up, but he's completely sad.
I'm getting depressed so about a 6.
Can someone tell me how to cheer him up? I miss his cheerful self. :( He's so sad and now there's a wall between us. He's my best friend so please tell me how to make him happy. :confused: :(
I'm so sad. Please help.

Lately my best friend is so depressed and a friend of mine and I have been trying to cheer him up, but he's completely sad.
I'm getting depressed so about a 6.
Can someone tell me how to cheer him up? I miss his cheerful self. :( He's so sad and now there's a wall between us. He's my best friend so please tell me how to make him happy. :confused: :(
I'm so sad. Please help.
Don't take my comments for an expert opinion, this is roughly what i would do to help other people out.

You could try and speak to him about his issue whatever it is.
Depends how long for the person is sad, and what reason they have for feeling sad.
If it's a long term thing maybe telling another person you can trust about it who knows him would be a wise move.

It really depends on the person, some people need comfort, others need a challenge, it's really up to the people who know him well.
Lots of exercise, things to do, activities that he usually enjoys.
hope that helps

How happy are you with your life right now?

Had I answered this poll on the day the thread was created I'd have said five, but I now bump it up to eight due to the fact that I've got my place in the Navy all but secured. (Most of the way there. I just need to lose a little bit more weight.)

very happy. I have a wonderful interesting job. My school career is going wonderfully. I have a boyfriend who loves me very much. And I have wonderful friends who would go through hell for me. So all in all, life's almost perfect. :)


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Luckily, I can put up with a stalker or two. Have spent years in this ridiculously gorgeous body, I've become accustomed to the persistent howls of men. ;)Woohoo! Any particularly good come-on lines come to mind? I know very, very few.

Haha... I'd like to amend my current state of happiness to at least a six, however. Career fair at my university provided me with both a Starbucks necklace with a permanent marker attached (unless you work at Starbucks and are constantly losing your pens, you won't appreciate the value of such an accessory), and an application to CSIS.
Since people pilfer my pens on a regular basis, i suspect i can relate somewhat to how important that is.
CSIS?
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Canadian_Security_Intelligence_Service
http://www.csis.org/about/
?

Lately my best friend is so depressed and a friend of mine and I have been trying to cheer him up, but he's completely sad.
I'm getting depressed so about a 6.
Can someone tell me how to cheer him up? I miss his cheerful self. :( He's so sad and now there's a wall between us. He's my best friend so please tell me how to make him happy. :confused: :(
I'm so sad. Please help.
At risk of sounding incredibly superficial, i recommend *honestly* serious ferret play time. And perhaps walking outside yelling about things.
http://orgtheory.files.wordpress.com/2007/10/ferret-lib.jpg

Woohoo! Any particularly good come-on lines come to mind? I know very, very few.

Haha... some good ones, some not so good ones. If you want *honestly* good ones, my favourites so far have been:

(While working as a cashier)
Boy walks in: Hey, excuse me, miss, but what time do you close?
Me: Six o'clock!
Boy: Okay, thanks. *starts to walk out door, then pauses and leans back shyly* So... what are you doing at six?

It was really cute. ;) The second was, also at work:

Boy walks up with a bug, genuine grin: Hey. Can I ask you a random question?
Me: Uhm, sure?
Boy: What's the worst pickup line you've ever gotten?
Me, laughing: There have been a few.
Boy offers hand and laughs: Hey, I'm Mike.

It was just so simple and genuine. Like he actually wanted to, you know, talk to me. :p Not pull some suave conversation starter. As for bad ones... I've gotten the whole, "Do you have a quarter? My mom told me to call her when I met the girl of my dreams." And "Did it hurt when you fell from heaven?" And, my personal favourite, "You're hot. And you smell good." *leans way to close and takes an exaggerated sniff*

Is there any way that *doesn't* come off as creepy? Maybe I just haven't experienced the not-creepiness of it? Anyway. :p

Since people pilfer my pens on a regular basis, i suspect i can relate somewhat to how important that is.
CSIS?
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Canadian_Security_Intelligence_Service
http://www.csis.org/about/
?

Yep. That'd be the one. ;) I told you I was wicked cool.

Don't take my comments for an expert opinion, this is roughly what i would do to help other people out.

You could try and speak to him about his issue whatever it is.
Depends how long for the person is sad, and what reason they have for feeling sad.
If it's a long term thing maybe telling another person you can trust about it who knows him would be a wise move.

It really depends on the person, some people need comfort, others need a challenge, it's really up to the people who know him well.
Lots of exercise, things to do, activities that he usually enjoys.
hope that helps

Thanks! This will help me so much. He has been sad for a few months. I'll try to cheer him up. :D

At risk of sounding incredibly superficial, i recommend *honestly* serious ferret play time. And perhaps walking outside yelling about things.
http://orgtheory.files.wordpress.com/2007/10/ferret-lib.jpg

that could work.

Currently? About 5

I'm overworked, sleep deprived, and generally feeling shitty most of the time, mainly because of my class.

I'm not lower, because I have friends, and a family and wonderful ladyfriend. Problem is that the latter two and some of the first are 70 miles away and I have no car.

At the end of the quarter, I'll probably be doing at least 7, maybe 8 or even 9.

that could work.
Honestly, it really, truly does help me, and people & weasels i care for.

I would like to change my happiness status to -20. I have a project worth 20% of my grade due Tuesday, and I don't know what's going on. People who never should have had my phone number are calling me; the only way I could see them getting it is my former boss passed it to them after I left that particular job. I also have two tests next week, along with the typical pile of homework.
I want to go back 18 hours, when my biggest worry was that damn project ...

Lately my best friend is so depressed and a friend of mine and I have been trying to cheer him up, but he's completely sad.
I'm getting depressed so about a 6.
Can someone tell me how to cheer him up? I miss his cheerful self. :( He's so sad and now there's a wall between us. He's my best friend so please tell me how to make him happy. :confused: :(
I'm so sad. Please help.

If this is actual depression, then it is best to find what the cause of the depression is and to remain understanding and encouraging toward your friend.
I used to work with people suffering from depression, so I am fully aware that there is no true path to a 'cure', as there is no strict definition of what causes it. It could be any of a number of things. Some people just get over it, whereas others need help.

Not knowing your/his specific case, it would not be proper of me to offer anything more than generalised advice. However, as I have said in the previous paragraph, you need to make sure that he feels comfortable with talking to you if he wants... but it is not good to make him feel pressured into talking.
Whatever you do, do not allow his depression to affect your friendship. That could make his depression worse.

More often than not, the cause for depression might seem like a silly thing to you or someone else, but to the individual who is depressed... it is very serious.

If you have some spare money, why not treat your friend to a meal, or a movie etc. Anything to make him feel comfortable talking to you ON HIS OWN TERMS. It may be good to let him know that you are ready to listen whenever he feels like talking.
I do not know what country you are in, which holds relevance because some countries do not recognise depression as an illness. But if you start to think it is serious, then it may be best to seek professional advice.

Lastly, I advise that you do not reveal to anyone any information that your friend discloses to you unless it is with his permission, or it is to a trained professional. Depression can be a mild inconvenience, a passing thing, or it can be much more serious. Avoid alcohol and drugs when depressed, as they only make it worse. Excercise can help, depending on the type of depression.

I hope that helps.

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I miss you. :(

Until 20 minutes ago, I was reclining against a rock in the cool pool of tranquil contentment; things appear to have declined somewhat since then.

Allow me to elucidate; I currently live on a floor of 12 people at university, 11 of whom are girls (I am the man, to pre-empt any jokes...). Of these, I am in a relationship with one, and a further two are "close friends". All are veritablest Kitchen Nazis, thoroughly neurotic and obsessive, unable to tolerate washing up being left for a tortuous minute. One of the friends, upon finding tomato soup splattered criminally about the microwave (doesn't this just make Kenya pale into comparison...oh my, it's simply too tragic for words), as ever immediatly surmised I am to be held to account. The logic behind this; I like Tomato Soup. Having not eaten said soup for days, I know her to be wrong, and have hence refused to clean the microwave, given that I did not dirty it. I might have also insulted said friend when asked to clean the microwave by my girlfriend, of claiming she has a prejudice that all boys are "mucky" is an insult.

Result; girlfriend in an almighty strop, labelling me "spoilt". Personally, I fail to see what I have done wrong beyond holding an opinion dissentient from that of the crones of the Kitchen, and hence see little reason either for gf's anger, or to clean the microwave.

Lately my best friend is so depressed and a friend of mine and I have been trying to cheer him up, but he's completely sad.
I'm getting depressed so about a 6.
Can someone tell me how to cheer him up? I miss his cheerful self. :( He's so sad and now there's a wall between us. He's my best friend so please tell me how to make him happy. :confused: :(
I'm so sad. Please help.

my depression is over:D i am the country of jakway. telegram me if you wish.

Honestly, it really, truly does help me, and people & weasels i care for.

cool. My friend is happy once again and that makes me happy

Very happy.


I like myself and consider myself lucky to be alive. Not because I've narrowly escaped death to my knowledge, just because I think it's a wonderful gift.

I enjoy the people around me and they help outweigh the bad things.