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I broke up with my boyfriend of a year and half this evening. I instigated the breakup, but it still sucks because I wish I could see a way to stay with him.

The therapy I'm off to try is a pint of Haagen-Dazs chocolate ice cream and comedies with a friend of mine who will let me cry on her shoulder. How do you guys cope when you're having a bad day?

Mainly I just either pet and talk to my cat, unload my problem on one of my best friends, or I just play Flight Sim X.

How do you guys cope when you're having a bad day?

Exercise. Bake. The former to absolve the latter.

I broke up with my boyfriend of a year and half this evening. I instigated the breakup, but it still sucks because I wish I could see a way to stay with him.
Go out and get him drunk any time you want the sex element, just stay mates for the rest of the time?
The therapy I'm off to try is a pint of Haagen-Dazs chocolate ice cream and comedies with a friend of mine who will let me cry on her shoulder.
Good idea!
How do you guys cope when you're having a bad day?
Usually it makes me get on with college work, so I just do that whilst listening to Interpol until I feel better.

I broke up with my boyfriend of a year and half this evening. I instigated the breakup, but it still sucks because I wish I could see a way to stay with him.

The therapy I'm off to try is a pint of Haagen-Dazs chocolate ice cream and comedies with a friend of mine who will let me cry on her shoulder. How do you guys cope when you're having a bad day?

Sorry to hear about your breakup. And no you are not a bad person. A bad person would dump someone and not think twice about it afterwards. If it was something that you knew you had to do, then you shouldn't kick yourself over it. I really hope you start feeling better soon.

To answer your question, talking to someone always helps me after a crappy day, and it looks like you already have that planned. Other than that, doing anything to get your mind off the problem works well, like ice cream and comedies. Finally, a good nights rest really helps. You wake up refreshed, knowing that it's a new day. If you have nothing you need to do tomorrow, then sleep in.

Again, I'm sorry you had such a shabby experience, and I hope it gets better. Until then, I offer you this Internet hug.

*hug* ^_^

I broke up with my boyfriend of a year and half this evening. I instigated the breakup, but it still sucks because I wish I could see a way to stay with him.

The therapy I'm off to try is a pint of Haagen-Dazs chocolate ice cream and comedies with a friend of mine who will let me cry on her shoulder. How do you guys cope when you're having a bad day?

if you "wish [you] could see a way to stay with him" then it means you couldn't see a way to stay with him and still can't. without knowing the details, you probably tried to make the relationship work but it wasn't.

Talking it out with a friend is probably a good thing. the Haagen-Dazs... well, you might regret it in the end (yes, pun intended).

I can't offer any advice. but I too can listen if you want to TG me.

I broke up with my boyfriend of a year and half this evening. I instigated the breakup, but it still sucks because I wish I could see a way to stay with him.

The therapy I'm off to try is a pint of Haagen-Dazs chocolate ice cream and comedies with a friend of mine who will let me cry on her shoulder. How do you guys cope when you're having a bad day?

I hug you too.

I usually listen to music, go running, or if it's unbearably shitty, read religious works of some type.

Dulche de leche ice cream.

I tend to take a hot bath with smell good stuff and turn on some angsty music really loud and soak until I feel sleepy or have cried so much that I feel better....then I put on clean PJ's and sip hot tea while I wait for my sheets to dry......going to sleep clean, in clean PJ's on clean sheets after a good cry...it's awesome.

don't forget to wash your pillow and pillow case!

... can I add...

if you have a dryer... run your PJ's in the dryer so they're nice and toasty warm just before you put them on. ;)

I tend to take a hot bath with smell good stuff and turn on some angsty music really loud and soak until I feel sleepy or have cried so much that I feel better....then I put on clean PJ's and sip hot tea while I wait for my sheets to dry......going to sleep clean, in clean PJ's on clean sheets after a good cry...it's awesome.

don't forget to wash your pillow and pillow case!

... can I add...

if you have a dryer... run your PJ's in the dryer so they're nice and toasty warm just before you put them on. ;)

oh, yes, that too.

also, if you put a tennis ball in the dryer with your pillow it will fluff it up like new.

I broke up with my boyfriend of a year and half this evening. I instigated the breakup, but it still sucks because I wish I could see a way to stay with him.

The therapy I'm off to try is a pint of Haagen-Dazs chocolate ice cream and comedies with a friend of mine who will let me cry on her shoulder. How do you guys cope when you're having a bad day?

NSG ;)



Actually I'll probably call some friends and find something to do :) I'm not sure, I'm not used to having bad days :cool:

I just play music...and eat ice cream as well.

I was on the other end about two and a half months ago.

Honestly? Music. Finding music that I could relate to and cry to really helped. I called my mom and my best friend daily, just to talk and cry some more. (I live in a different city than my best friend, and 18 hours away from my parents.) At first, I slept a lot just to get through days. Then I started... faking it until I felt it, I guess. I made myself go through the motions, and it got easier.

Bubble baths are always an excellent idea, as are good books if you can manage to focus. Even an old favourite will get your mind off of things for awhile.

I also second the PJs in the dryer thing. So toasty warm and wonderful. Clean sheets are nice, too.

Spend as much time as you can with friends. Watch movies, order pizza, go out for dinner... and then, make sure you have time at the end of the day to just be quiet and alone and cry for a bit, if you need to.

Online break-up sites can help, as you can share the experience with people who know exactly how you feel. Personally, I didn't go that route... but for some people, it might be worth looking.

Baking is also good. ;)

the Haagen-Dazs... well, you might regret it in the end (yes, pun intended).

:) No, I put weight on in front so I can watch it.

And :fluffle: to all who have commented so far. Thanks.

For break ups we have the traditional, "Dude that fucking sucks" party. Which is a lot of booze and one toast, "Dude, that fucking sucks."

well i work out. nothing gives u energy like being really ticked. and it's productive

A good round or two of any violent fps is good for me, nothing like a 12 gauge to the head.

Cannabis.

I go on a shooting rampage like an emo...

No...um...I usually curl up in bed and mope until it's gone.

Liquor, drugs, music, and violence against inanimate objects.

Exercise. Bake.
exercising while baked is not a good idea though.

exercising while baked is not a good idea though.

I don't do drugs. It's so illegal. And stupid.

Exercise. Bake. The former to absolve the latter.

Could be highly entertaining. Most people who try to bake in my residence hall set the fire alarms off -- or at least they did last year. We had someone try to melt caramel on a plastic plate in a microwave, and someone else tried to broil a cake.
There'd be a lot of really annoyed people, but I'd be laughing ...

I listen to American pie (http://youtube.com/watch?v=VsZFiMo8TIc) every time I do one of those breakups

and post on NSG (I'd say you could probably find these posts if you look hard enough)

also, if you put a tennis ball in the dryer with your pillow it will fluff it up like new.

thats just gone on my good ideas list :)

I don't do drugs. It's so illegal. And stupid.

so just cough medicine then?

How do you guys cope when you're having a bad day?
Masturbation.

But if that's not your thing, yeah, PJs in the dryer, and lots of home-baked chocolate cookies. If you can manage to get one, massages usually get rid of the tension nicely, as well.

I broke up with my boyfriend of a year and half this evening. I instigated the breakup, but it still sucks because I wish I could see a way to stay with him.

The therapy I'm off to try is a pint of Haagen-Dazs chocolate ice cream and comedies with a friend of mine who will let me cry on her shoulder. How do you guys cope when you're having a bad day?

I can't believe you broke up with him. You're a really bad person. Good choice on the Dazs, though.

I usually just deal with it, move on, and don't think about it again.

Which is why I'm having a hard time remembering when I had a really bad day.

Computer games. Unreal Tournament makes an excellent stress-reliever.

When ever I feel miserable, I sit on my bed and polish my guns.

sleep. sleep. and sleep some more.

How do I cope with something like that? I usually go to a hockey game, play videogames, read, listen to music, or watch Mel Brooks movies. *nods*

I listen to really loud music. No wait, I do that anyway.

I, um, sing along with really loud music? No, I do that other times too.

Hmmm...

When nobody's home I scream. A lot.

watch Mel Brooks movies. *nods*

I think any musical will do...however (http://youtube.com/watch?v=mKxnaMeOK20)

When nobody's home I scream. A lot.

screaming into pillows usually stops anyone from noticing :)

When nobody's home I scream. A lot.
screaming into pillows usually stops anyone from noticing :)
The only time I've seen someone scream into a pillow was during a relationship...

screaming into pillows usually stops anyone from noticing :)

you have extensive knowledge of this?
Personally if i'm upset, i'd try meditation if i can't be bothered with that, listen to music or post on NSG or get drunk with mates that usually works for me.
Failing that i try not to get upset in the first place.

Go out and get him drunk any time you want the sex element, just stay mates for the rest of the time?


You are sick.

Sick and twisted.



I sincerely hope that was a joke.

Go out and get him drunk any time you want the sex element, just stay mates for the rest of the time?


That is sick and twisted.



I sincerely hope it was a joke.

Go out and get him drunk any time you want the sex element, just stay mates for the rest of the time?

That's horrible and manipulative.

Go out and get him drunk any time you want the sex element, just stay mates for the rest of the time?


That's despicable.

Exercise. Bake. The former to absolve the latter.

Lol.

I think any musical will do...however (http://youtube.com/watch?v=mKxnaMeOK20)



screaming into pillows usually stops anyone from noticing :)

Depends how loud you scream.

Dulche de leche ice cream.

Sticky Toffee Pudding ice cream is better.

I don't do drugs. It's so illegal. And stupid.

EXCELLENT!


So good to see someone with some common sense!

EXCELLENT!


So good to see someone with some common sense!

Well it was common sense in the 1940s to smoke, nowadays smoking is generally considered bad for your health and unsociable.
So common sense isn't always a good thing.
By the way i don't do drugs either, i don't see the point, they'd be too expensive for me anyway, i don't want to die.

Baking is also good. ;)

Ferrets are even better. :)

you have extensive knowledge of this?

well this is the basic science of sound

Depends how loud you scream.

you have to also hold the side of the pillow up to the sides of your face and do it over your covers as opposed to just the mattress

Ferrets are even better. :)

perhaps you could combine the two? :p

perhaps you could combine the two? :p
As far as i could possibly take that concept, it comes to having the ferrets crack the eggs (being ovaraptors and all). Also, they're really good at shredding things, so i'm sure that could be used with cheese or something. :p

How do you guys cope when you're having a bad day?
rent a good DVD + Vodka+OJ + sex

If I've had a bad day, I take a hot bath, eat until I'm stuffed, and watch tv until I fall asleep.

I listen to American pie (http://youtube.com/watch?v=VsZFiMo8TIc) every time I do one of those breakups

November Rain (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N7VSZpCPx-A) is my favorite break-up song X3

How do you guys cope when you're having a bad day?

I spend time with my boyfriend, ironically enough. Otherwise I lose myself in a video game.

November Rain (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N7VSZpCPx-A) is my favorite break-up song X3

A song being a breakup song ruins it forever for me. Then again, I've only broken up once.. and that was more of an "I got dumped" thing.

A song being a breakup song ruins it forever for me. Then again, I've only broken up once.. and that was more of an "I got dumped" thing.

I know what you've mean, I've had similar experiences, but for some reason this song always makes me feel better.

I broke up with my boyfriend of a year and half this evening. I instigated the breakup, but it still sucks because I wish I could see a way to stay with him.

The therapy I'm off to try is a pint of Haagen-Dazs chocolate ice cream and comedies with a friend of mine who will let me cry on her shoulder. How do you guys cope when you're having a bad day?

Similar, though I'm more into Ben and Jerry's chocolate chip cookie dough ice cream.

Usually a bad day meal consists of a bag of potato chips, a pint of Ben and Jerry's, maybe a Hershey bar or two and then nausea - that tends to take my mind off my other problems.

Two words: Led. Zeppelin. Those songs are just so awesome, my problems seem smaller and more manageable.

And if I'm really upset, there's Nintendo. A little Super Mario Bros. here and Yoshi's ISland there and I'm all better.

As for your problem, you'll get over it. You'll feel like a good person sooner or later.

When I have a really, really bad day ... I get a bit drunk and write some poetry.

It's like vomiting, sneezing and having diarrhoea all at once. Makes me feel a lot better.

I broke up with my boyfriend of a year and half this evening. I instigated the breakup, but it still sucks because I wish I could see a way to stay with him.

The therapy I'm off to try is a pint of Haagen-Dazs chocolate ice cream and comedies with a friend of mine who will let me cry on her shoulder. How do you guys cope when you're having a bad day?

weed. goes great with haagen-dazs.

I broke up with my boyfriend of a year and half this evening. I instigated the breakup, but it still sucks because I wish I could see a way to stay with him.

The therapy I'm off to try is a pint of Haagen-Dazs chocolate ice cream and comedies with a friend of mine who will let me cry on her shoulder. How do you guys cope when you're having a bad day?

Sleep. *nods*

is it just me or do the more "general" threads do so much better than the political ones?

rent a good DVD + Vodka+OJ + sex

has anyone ever told you that you make me sick :p

November Rain (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N7VSZpCPx-A) is my favorite break-up song X3

yes I support the listening of Guns n' Roses on as few occasions as possible

I just go ride my horse. He's never mad at me so its all good.

I just go ride my horse. He's never mad at me so its all good.

Why can't you people just come off your high horse? We have feet? made to transport us. Having said that i haven't ridden a horse since i was about 10, by my sister rode lots of horses as did my mum who won several prizes in races (brag brag).
Sometimes i feel like i'm beating a dead horse(melodious voice).

I just go ride my horse. He's never mad at me so its all good.

hmmm its weird allegedly a friend coped with things a a child using horses (talking to them like a head case)

can you do it with other animals or is it just horses :confused:

I take a hot or cold shower depending on what I think will make me feel better. That and sing/dance to kelly clarkson songs. for some reason that helps.