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No, I'm not talking about examining your breast or testicals for lumps, I'm talking about really looking at yourself and seeing if you could improve upon yourself. I've been doing this a lot since my last relationship ended. I don't know, sometimes I just think that something goes wrong, it's my fault and that leads me to think about it over and over, going over every detail to see if I could've done anything different etc. Which leads to many sleepless nights BTW. I guess sometimes it's good to look at yourself to see if you're growing as a human being, and if you're really doing anything good towards your fellow man, and to the people you love and care about.

So who've looked at yourself lately?

So who've looked at yourself lately?

WYTYG looked at me.. >.>

No, I'm not talking about examining your breast or testicals for lumps, I'm talking about really looking at yourself and seeing if you could improve upon yourself. I've been doing this a lot since my last relationship ended. I don't know, sometimes I just think that something goes wrong, it's my fault and that leads me to think about it over and over, going over every detail to see if I could've done anything different etc. Which leads to many sleepless nights BTW. I guess sometimes it's good to look at yourself to see if you're growing as a human being, and if you're really doing anything good towards your fellow man, and to the people you love and care about.

So who's looked at themselves lately?

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And I have, I just haven't seen anywhere where I need to improve in a rather long time.

WYTYG looked at me.. >.>

I hope her convalescence is swift.

WYTYG looked at me.. >.>

I hope her convalescence is swift.

:p LOL

:p LOL

Well, that's not really fair. WYTYG herself has certain Medusa-esque qualities, so commiserations all 'round. ;)

I guess that's why they are the perfect couple.

I guess sometimes it's good to look at yourself to see if you're growing as a human being, and if you're really doing anything good towards your fellow man, and to the people you love and care about.


Meh. I guess; if you're the type that needs frequent reassurance, that is. I find that the life unexamined is actually kinda sweet, to mock Socrates (an old habit of mine). :p

Really though, if my fellow man isn't getting his fair share, where's that 30% of my income going each year? Isn't the government supposed to be taking care of that? I probably shouldn't think about it. :)

...Lumps?

No, I'm not talking about examining your breast or testicals for lumps, I'm talking about really looking at yourself and seeing if you could improve upon yourself. I've been doing this a lot since my last relationship ended. I don't know, sometimes I just think that something goes wrong, it's my fault and that leads me to think about it over and over, going over every detail to see if I could've done anything different etc. Which leads to many sleepless nights BTW. I guess sometimes it's good to look at yourself to see if you're growing as a human being, and if you're really doing anything good towards your fellow man, and to the people you love and care about.

So who've looked at yourself lately?

You sound a bit like me. I need to stop being a shitting procrastinator.

No, I'm not talking about examining your breast or testicals for lumps, I'm talking about really looking at yourself and seeing if you could improve upon yourself. I've been doing this a lot since my last relationship ended. I don't know, sometimes I just think that something goes wrong, it's my fault and that leads me to think about it over and over, going over every detail to see if I could've done anything different etc. Which leads to many sleepless nights BTW. I guess sometimes it's good to look at yourself to see if you're growing as a human being, and if you're really doing anything good towards your fellow man, and to the people you love and care about.

So who've looked at yourself lately?Didn't you say your relationship ended because she was too clingy? If so, where you messed up is picking a clingy woman.

No, I'm not talking about examining your breast or testicals for lumps, I'm talking about really looking at yourself and seeing if you could improve upon yourself. I've been doing this a lot since my last relationship ended. I don't know, sometimes I just think that something goes wrong, it's my fault and that leads me to think about it over and over, going over every detail to see if I could've done anything different etc. Which leads to many sleepless nights BTW. I guess sometimes it's good to look at yourself to see if you're growing as a human being, and if you're really doing anything good towards your fellow man, and to the people you love and care about.

So who've looked at yourself lately?

All the time, perhaps too much so like your example. But it's not particularly healthy. There's a difference between analysising your past mistakes with a view to correct them in the future, and obsessing about them and thinking, 'Oh, what an idiot I was (and am) for doing those terrible things. I am truly worthless if I cannot do a simple thing like...' But really, does it matter than you screwed up something? Maybe you lost the respect of someone or failed to achieve something you want. That's unfortunate, but you're still living and have the chance to try again or try something different.

I do that a lot, better than not doing it at all I guess. Oh great, now I'm going to think all day about how much I think about stuff, thanks :rolleyes::p.
I also think "introspection" was the word you were searching for.

I always think I'm really ugly. And all my Indian friends reckon I look like this Bollywood star. And all my European friends thing I'm good-looking/average.

But either way, it's one of the reasons I'm not as confident as I could be.

Yeah, I dwell on everything I did after a break-up. Generally I'll take up some new hobby or do some more yoga or meditation or something.

Just wait until the joys of performance reviews....

I guess my biggest fault is that I never finish what I sta

Lifes to short for ifs and buts - put a line through it all, learn from it and move on. Theres no point dwelling on the past for too long or you will get caught up in all the ifs and buts and unless you have access to a time machine, you will never know what could have happened.

learn from it and move on.

How are you going to learn from it without thorough introspection?

I suppose it's a sort of balancing act, to look at yourself but to avoid analysing everything you do.
Personally i sometimes look back, usually when something bad has happened, but try to work on going forward to enjoy the future and being there to enjoy it. Survival i suppose.
I think it's more beneficial to speak to your friends about issues or family than rely on your own perspective to weed out why or how things happen etc.
It can be quite damaging to your self-confidence if you look at yourself too much.
If i have a difficulty i try to forget about it for a while, then think about it later, ignore it again and think about it later still, by doing this i gain different ways of thinking about an issue(whatever it might be). But i only do that if it's a really big problem like looking for a new place to live or if someone i know has died etc. Of course i doubt that method would work for everyone it's what i do.

I'm already perfect in every way :)

*diligently avoids introspection and mirrors*

I just ignore my flaws, they are only there because other people suck, besides as a perfectionist it's a bad idea to make myself a project.

I just ignore my flaws, they are only there because other people suck

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Awesome.

I always think I'm really ugly. And all my Indian friends reckon I look like this Bollywood star. And all my European friends thing I'm good-looking/average.

But either way, it's one of the reasons I'm not as confident as I could be.

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I always think I'm really ugly. And all my Indian friends reckon I look like this Bollywood star. And all my European friends thing I'm good-looking/average.

But either way, it's one of the reasons I'm not as confident as I could be.

it's okay to be ugly, and it's okay to think you are ugly, but chances are you are not ugly.

I'm ugly, it's okay, I don't care, I don't think it's a bad thing, I think my face is what I have and to pick at it too much is wasting time. I have lots of other much more important things to like about myself.

WYTYG looked at me.. >.>

Of course she did. You'd been rummaging through her underwear drawer again, and she thought it was funny that the sample you'd brought was going to match anything she had ... you not knowing, of course, that her drawer was naturally nearly empty anyway.

No, I'm not talking about examining your breast or testicals for lumps, I'm talking about really looking at yourself and seeing if you could improve upon yourself. I've been doing this a lot since my last relationship ended. I don't know, sometimes I just think that something goes wrong, it's my fault and that leads me to think about it over and over, going over every detail to see if I could've done anything different etc. Which leads to many sleepless nights BTW. I guess sometimes it's good to look at yourself to see if you're growing as a human being, and if you're really doing anything good towards your fellow man, and to the people you love and care about.

So who've looked at yourself lately?
I did. I do every day. Lots on my plate. Lots of mistakes to look forwards to.

Socrates said, "The unexamined life is not worth living."
Sheldon Kopp said, "The unlived life is not worth examining."
Aerosmith said, "Shut up and dance!"

/shrug

I certainly have... though in this case, at least, I found it extremely helpful to see myself through someone else's eyes, someone I feel I can trust and who is not afraid to tell me the truth.

I've been in a serious relationship for over five years, but for at least the last year I've been having serious doubts that I cannot shake. Recently, I became close friends (maybe more?) with a woman in my department... oddly, a woman who had been around since before I was here, who shares many of the same friends as I, but whom I had not really approached for some time. She's very beautiful, and oddly intimidating. For some reason I always had the impression we would have nothing in common, she wouldn't like me... and so on.

Anyway, we've become close over the last few months. And she's helped me to see myself in a new light. Talking with her, I realize that so many of the things I like about myself (so many of the things, as it happens, that I relate to impress her) involve "back when" stories stretching back... too far. She's helped to realize that I lost myself, and I need to find myself again.

As a result, I plan to break up with Erica at the earliest decent opportunity. I want to do it in person, but I'm determined (at last) to have a new start.

I don't know how long it would have taken for me to come to this conclusion on my own. Maybe too late... too late, at least, to turn the tide of the negative influence my girlfriend has exerted on the rest of my life.

Remember ...
When you stare into the abyss the abyss stares back at you.

i've given it up, doesn't do me any good at all.

i've given it up, doesn't do me any good at all.
Isn't that why you frequent this place? So we all can do it for you? :p

Isn't that why you frequent this place? So we all can do it for you? :p

YES, join us, i mean it worked for me! tell us your secrets, so we can make horr-i mean good balanced judgements on how you should live your life.

In Soviet Russia Abyss falls down YOU!

Remember ...

Pff, screw that, I am the abyss. Rawr. Look'it me lookin at'ya.

YES, join us, i mean it worked for me! tell us your secrets, so we can make horr-i mean good balanced judgements on how you should live your life.


Nation as a model ...

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Pff, screw that, I am the abyss. Rawr. Look'it me lookin at'ya.

I just can't ... i'm too distracted by your sig and Kari Byron.

As a result, I plan to break up with Erica at the earliest decent opportunity. I want to do it in person, but I'm determined (at last) to have a new start.Wow. Good luck with that.

Wow. Good luck with that.
Call me old-fashioned, but I like a dump to be as memorable as it is devastating.
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