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How do you forget, (in other words cease to obsess) over an ex-girlfriend/boyfriend? Please, share.

Have sex with someone else?

How do you forget, (in other words cease to obsess) over an ex-girlfriend? Please, share.

Find something else to obsess over?

In all seriousness, just give it time.

Have sex with someone else?

QFT you can forget what one pair of boobies look like by looking at others

or you can hunt them down and eat their heart, whatever works

you only miss the girl you wanted her to be.

move on. throw yourself into something else. after a while youll adjust to being without her. then youll find someone who is a better match for you.

and it will be better because you wont go into it blind. you will understand the risk you are taking so you wont give your heart to the first girl who asks for it.

Is it bad that I sort of see my ex's as learning curves, so that over time I become a better boyfriend in theory, learn what made me and my partners most happy and just try to learn from where I went wrong before? I can trace loads of things I do now and think about certain situations from which relationship they started in. Of course it rarely works because new relationships have new problems, but I think my looking back over my ex's has helped me know myself better, and therefore so do my future partners, again in theory. Hell, it could have been worse, I could never have had a girlfriend. Just give it time, it's human instinct to want another eventually.

Eventually, you'll forget she ever existed. Repression is funny like that.

However, if you want a better way...


DO A BARREL ROLL!

How do you forget, (in other words cease to obsess) over an ex-girlfriend/boyfriend? Please, share.

dunno, but being that you just reminded me that I don't have a girlfriend, much less an EX-GIRLFRIEND... :upyours:

;)

:p

:D

Get really drunk, bitch about them to your mates, meet other people & move on.

How do you forget, (in other words cease to obsess) over an ex-girlfriend/boyfriend? Please, share.

Burn him/her in effigy while going over a list of all his/her faults. Then fuck his/her brother/sister. :)

Posted to the internet the person's dark secrets. Spread the links around then move on with your life, leaving a path of destruction in your wake just because you can; no other reason really. There's nothing binding you to keep their secrets. What better way to get rid of old,. smelly dirty laundry than to air it out in public and let them take it? ;)

Burn him/her in effigy while going over a list of all his/her faults. Then fuck his/her brother/sister. :)
At the same time. ^___~

Burn him/her in effigy while going over a list of all his/her faults. Then fuck his/her brother/sister. :)

At the same time. ^___~

And his/her dog too? ;)

And his/her dog too? ;)

Only if she still has your favorite hoodie.

Usually I just get drunk and sleep with a Prostitute! :D

Whiskey is a wonderful thing. It motivates poets, calms the nervous, awakens the weary, and kept Ireland from conquering the planet. And in a pinch, you'll forget all about your ex as you begin the ritual of drunken courtship with another person at the bar. Not to mention all of your ambitions to conquer the planet for the sole purpose of seeking revenge will come to naught since they'll evaporate like mist under a hot noon sun.

Usually I just get drunk and sleep with a Prostitute! :D

funny...that's how most of my relationships start...:(

Start dating again.

you only miss the girl you wanted her to be.

I like that quote.

Also, realise that you don't actually need her, you will continue living regardless. You may have cared for her and it's unfortunate that you're not together, but your life does not depend on your relationship.

And distraction is only a temporary measure, soon enough you will have to face it and deal (or not) with it.

Is it bad that I sort of see my ex's as learning curves

I'd love to learn more about your ex's curves.

Also having sex with someone else really helps. Or you could just learn that you can't get everything you want, especially not when it's someone else you want, and move on with your life.

I tend to avoid them for about a month, then things lose their weirdness a little. I mean, it all depends on the way I've broken up with her, but... yeah. Generally I can't bear to be around someone if they've really hurt me in the breakup, and I'll restart some kind of friendship over msn. Or not. Depends.

But generally I try nt to think about it for a while, and now I'm friends to a greater or lesser extent with all the people I've had relationships with.

Now, I chose the answer "repress all memories." What I mean by that is "burn anything that reminds you in the least little bit of them, date a couple of people for the purpose of causing pain [highly inadvisible], go home for a few months, pretend you're going to date around, and jump into another committed relationship." Or at least that's what I did.

DO A BARREL ROLL!
Press Z or R twice!

Try the electrode thing and tell me if it works. I

Personally, you don't forget for a while. Then you start to, but you keep remembering. then you stop caring.

How do you forget, (in other words cease to obsess) over an ex-girlfriend/boyfriend? Please, share.

Don't save any of the warm fuzzy things that the two of you shared together. Get rid of pictures, sentimental items and things that belonged to them. In a way keeping things from the relationship, that "shoe box under your bed", hinders the healing process by being a nagging reminder of what you had.

Electro-shock therapy. Thank God for the NHS.

Try the electrode thing and tell me if it works.
Personally, you don't forget for a while. Then you start to, but you keep remembering. then you stop caring.Oddly enough, you're helping to elucidate the point.
If they're not around for long enough, you end up moving them out of your sig quotes!

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Is it bad that I sort of see my ex's as learning curves, so that over time I become a better boyfriend in theory, learn what made me and my partners most happy and just try to learn from where I went wrong before?

No, that sounds like good approach.

Too many people react against what was probably a pretense of 'love', with an equally baseless 'hate' of their ex.

drink, drugs and distance.

Most of my exes would say that I should choose the stalker option, probably becuase most of them chose repression. I see it as keeping the lines of communication open. Since I still think about every single one of them on occasion, I chose acceptance.

If she would just return my calls...

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