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So, Many years ago, I was 'attached' to a young lady. We didn't stay together long because I acted a bit weird and drove her off. Despite it being my fault, I was pretty devastated and it took me a long time to forget about her.

Well, recently, she got in touch through facebook. She's now engaged to a guy who is looks like and sounds like my exact clone. It's brought all the old feelings of misery, hopelessness and failure back out from wherever I'd buried them. Now I just wish she'd left me alone.

So, does anyone else stalk their ex-partners on the interwebs?

So, Many years ago, I was 'attached' to a young lady. We didn't stay together long because I acted a bit weird and drove her off. Despite it being my fault, I was pretty devastated and it took me a long time to forget about her.

Well, recently, she got in touch through facebook. She's now engaged to a guy who is looks like and sounds like my exact clone. It's brought all the old feelings of misery, hopelessness and failure back out from wherever I'd buried them. Now I just wish she'd left me alone.

So, does anyone else stalk their ex-partners on the interwebs?

Nope.

Nope.

But is it likely that someone stalks you?

Why the hell would I want to talk to my ex? He's a total waste of a human life.

But is it likely that someone stalks you?

Perhaps but if so they have not yet made them selves known. In fact I am on good terms with all but one of my ex's.

Why the hell would I want to talk to my ex? He's a total waste of a human life.

To gloat?

This is mainly what facebook seems to be used for in my (cynical) opinion.

Wait, so by asking "does anybody else", are you implying that you are now stalking her? (that would be bad, in case you were wondering)

A few of my exes have contacted me over myspace or facebook. Suspiciously, this always seems to happen right after they get engaged or married, and that's the main topic of their messages to me. Hmmm.

I just say "congratulations" and send a very polite note, and then I start ignoring their messages. Nothing good could come from continuing to stay in contact with them, but if you ignore their message completely, it looks like you're bitter. Just let them know they don't really matter to you anymore by being nice but uninterested. :)

When I have those feelings of embarrassment and failure from having messed up a past relationship, I try to console myself by remembering that I learned a lot from it, and I'm constantly growing as a person. The person I am now wouldn't make those mistakes. You'll always have another chance to get it right with someone else you care about. Maybe you'll find those thoughts helpful as well.

To gloat?

This is mainly what facebook seems to be used for in my (cynical) opinion.

Why would I need to gloat when my old LJ account is still open with my scathing post about my ex displayed in all its glory for all to read? ;)

I got bored of facebook, so I deactivated it :)

Wait, so by asking "does anybody else", are you implying that you are now stalking her? (that would be bad, in case you were wondering)

A few of my exes have contacted me over myspace or facebook. Suspiciously, this always seems to happen right after they get engaged or married, and that's the main topic of their messages to me. Hmmm.

I just say "congratulations" and send a very polite note, and then I start ignoring their messages. Nothing good could come from continuing to stay in contact with them, but if you ignore their message completely, it looks like you're bitter. Just let them know they don't really matter to you anymore by being nice but uninterested. :)

When I have those feelings of embarrassment and failure from having messed up a past relationship, I try to console myself by remembering that I learned a lot from it, and I'm constantly growing as a person. The person I am now wouldn't make those mistakes. You'll always have another chance to get it right with someone else you care about. Maybe you'll find those thoughts helpful as well.

The stalking bit was my small attempt at humour. I'm doing my very best to ignore her now. In a week or two I'll probably be back to my old self again (unless she starts messaging alot).

I am a better person now so your way of dealing with it does appeal, but I still find myself awake at nights, regretting some of my past decisions.

Why would I need to gloat when my old LJ account is still open with my scathing post about my ex displayed in all its glory for all to read? ;)

I'd ask for a link but that would be nosey ;)

Why would I need to gloat when my old LJ account is still open with my scathing post about my ex displayed in all its glory for all to read? ;)

And the chant went up....

Link! Link! Link! Link! Link! Link! Link! Link!

In Soviet Russia,

Facebook stalks you

Never stalked anyone myself, one person once tried to stalk me, but got burned (I got her IP-banned from the site she used for her stalking activities, by informing the upkeepers of her activities) so bad that I got left alone.

Ph33r t3h p0w3r of l3g1t1m4cy! :p

I haven't had the opportunity to accumulate any exes, but incidentally, the obvious solution for the OP would be to kidnap this man, steal/forge some documents and take over his life, methinks.

I haven't had the opportunity to accumulate any exes, but incidentally, the obvious solution for the OP would be to kidnap this man, steal/forge some documents and take over his life, methinks.

I have a better (more enjoyable) job than he does.

Besides, I'd have to marry her(the ex), and I really don't want to.

But is it likely that someone stalks you?

Given your handle, I am strangely unsurprised by your asking that question....

Why would I need to gloat when my old LJ account is still open with my scathing post about my ex displayed in all its glory for all to read? ;)

LIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIINK !

Sorry, Kz, but having read your posts for going on three years, and knowing how well you can write, I'd love to get even an expurgated version of you letting an ex have what he so richly deserves (even if it turned out he didn't deserve some of it!).

I'd ask for a link but that would be nosey ;)

And the chant went up....

Link! Link! Link! Link! Link! Link! Link! Link!

LIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIINK !

Sorry, Kz, but having read your posts for going on three years, and knowing how well you can write, I'd love to get even an expurgated version of you letting an ex have what he so richly deserves (even if it turned out he didn't deserve some of it!).


Wow, you people are savages! :D

I'll dig up the link for you... and you better be damn grateful! IT's taking me a while to find.

It's from 2003... I'm still piddling through 2004...

Ok, I've found them.

I have to warn you, these are pretty badly written. Written just before my days of NSG.

I forgot that I had a number of entries on this. NSG, this is the side you've never seen. And just for you, I took the security locks off some of these posts. There are more but I'm leaving them locked because I'm relaying highly classified information to friends who were targeted by an anonymous dickwad who first came to my LJ around the same time I got an email from some moron named "Agent Three"...

1. http://nikkesen.livejournal.com/17684.html
2. http://nikkesen.livejournal.com/18240.html
3. http://nikkesen.livejournal.com/20890.html
4. http://nikkesen.livejournal.com/21067.html
5. http://nikkesen.livejournal.com/21813.html
6. http://nikkesen.livejournal.com/25620.html

To gloat?

This is mainly what facebook seems to be used for in my (cynical) opinion.

I use it for Scrabble...

Wow, you people are savages! :D

I'll dig up the link for you... and you better be damn grateful! IT's taking me a while to find.

It's from 2003... I'm still piddling through 2004...

Ok, I've found them.

I have to warn you, these are pretty badly written. Written just before my days of NSG.

I forgot that I had a number of entries on this. NSG, this is the side you've never seen. And just for you, I took the security locks off some of these posts. There are more but I'm leaving them locked because I'm relaying highly classified information to friends who were targeted by an anonymous dickwad who first came to my LJ around the same time I got an email from some moron named "Agent Three"...

1. http://nikkesen.livejournal.com/17684.html
2. http://nikkesen.livejournal.com/18240.html
3. http://nikkesen.livejournal.com/20890.html
4. http://nikkesen.livejournal.com/21067.html
5. http://nikkesen.livejournal.com/21813.html
6. http://nikkesen.livejournal.com/25620.html

Wow.

Powered by Vitriol(tm) (the first one at least).

Sounds like you weren't really compatible though.

Why the hell would I want to talk to my ex? He's a total waste of a human life.

QFT in relation to mine. I like to think I made him a better person, but I doubt it.
I blocked him on my Facebook list and from my xanga. Let that tell you all you need to know about whether or not I stalk him.

I neither stalk nor am stalked, because I have no exes to speak of. As for future exes, I would neither be the still-friends type nor the vengeful axe-wielding ex-girlfriend from hell type, more along the lines of the "wait, what ex?"s.

Oh, and I don't have a facebook.

Wow.

Powered by Vitriol(tm) (the first one at least).

Sounds like you weren't really compatible though.

We only wound up dating for 10 months because a friend of mine stopped me from totally humiliating my ex after one month of dating. Basically, my ex asked for help with schoolwork, then when I tried to correct him on the same topic, he pushed my chair away. I was pissed, royally pissed.

QFT in relation to mine. I like to think I made him a better person, but I doubt it.
I blocked him on my Facebook list and from my xanga. Let that tell you all you need to know about whether or not I stalk him.

I blocked him on email. This was before the days of Facebook and Myspace. ;)

1. http://nikkesen.livejournal.com/17684.html
2. http://nikkesen.livejournal.com/18240.html
3. http://nikkesen.livejournal.com/20890.html
4. http://nikkesen.livejournal.com/21067.html
5. http://nikkesen.livejournal.com/21813.html
6. http://nikkesen.livejournal.com/25620.html

I commend your venom and desecration of his intimate failures. It doesn't beat the one who talked about the way the lad I knew didn't wash his feet properly (and various other stuff) on TV, but it goes for it.

I have had a few high school friends look me up on Facebook...and then start shamelessly hitting on me. It's amusing, but uninteresting. Mostly I stay on Facebook to set up meetings/study-sessions with crackbook addicts in my classes.

So, does anyone else stalk their ex-partners on the interwebs?Not me and hasn't happened to me, but a guy on another board I'm on had his ex-wife show up and flame the hell out of him in multiple posts. Now everyone knows that he ditched out on his child support, moved states, and started going by a different name...

So, Many years ago, I was 'attached' to a young lady. We didn't stay together long because I acted a bit weird and drove her off. Despite it being my fault, I was pretty devastated and it took me a long time to forget about her.

Well, recently, she got in touch through facebook. She's now engaged to a guy who is looks like and sounds like my exact clone. It's brought all the old feelings of misery, hopelessness and failure back out from wherever I'd buried them. Now I just wish she'd left me alone.

So, does anyone else stalk their ex-partners on the interwebs?

Meh, I usually do something drastic that burns the bridges with my most of my ex that they don't want anything to do with me anymore! :D

There's one or two I still talk to.

*snip*

So, does anyone else stalk their ex-partners on the interwebs?

No, but you've given me a great idea! ;)

"I can instantly deduce that when someone hears the name "Paris" in the same sentence with the word "date", jaws will drop, confused looks will cover faces, words like "How?" and "Why?" and "Quick, Bob, get the children in the minivan because the world is obviously coming to an end!" will immediately fly out of people's mouths."

It is a rare occasion I can quote the Gilmore Girls, but it fits. Just change out Paris and voila.

Holy. Fucking. Shit.

I was bored with nothing to do, so I decided to give Facebook a shot... And wouldn't you know it, I've found quite a few of my old friends on there. And I mean old friends, from way back in the early 1990s.

Thanks a bunch, Facebook... For those times when MySpace fails.

Are you kidding? Thanks to Facebook, I can now have an e-bumper sticker. And since Idon't have a car, that allow me to display my affection for things like this:

http://i16.tinypic.com/4pts7s8.jpg

You gotta admit, it doesn't get much better than that.

I have an ex who now and then finds me online. I'm not hard to find online. Which means the one that I'm afraid of finding me isn't interested in doing so so I shouldn't be worried at all...

Are you kidding? Thanks to Facebook, I can now have an e-bumper sticker. And since Idon't have a car, that allow me to display my affection for things like this:

http://i16.tinypic.com/4pts7s8.jpg

You gotta admit, it doesn't get much better than that.

That is bloody awesome! :D

That is bloody awesome! :D

Thank you. I felt the same when I first saw it as well.

Are you kidding? Thanks to Facebook, I can now have an e-bumper sticker. And since Idon't have a car, that allow me to display my affection for things like this:

http://i16.tinypic.com/4pts7s8.jpg

You gotta admit, it doesn't get much better than that.

Yeah, that's a good one, but...

http://i7.photobucket.com/albums/y257/Potatish/g203.jpg?t=1200122335

...The Human Equals Sign beats it.


Fucking hell, that was close...

Betcha you never hotlink again!

Dude, are you fucking insane?

hey, if you wanna commit mod suicide, that's your business.

wait, wait, I think I see the problem here. The picture you posted...what does it look like to you? Because, I think it's a hotlink redirect...and, well, it might not look to us what it looks like to you...

And what it looks like to me is gonna get you deleted.

Dude, are you fucking insane?

No, I was almost taken out by a rather unscrupulous site, though.

-Snippy-

Holy Fuck, you do realize that this is a PG-13 forum right, and that is pretty much porno....

We knew Potarius well, and we mourn him as he was gunned down by the Mods this morning.

It's a image redirect. Webscript, prevents hotlinking, changes the image you THINK you're linking to into something....different.

Holy Fuck, you do realize that this is a PG-13 forum right, and that is pretty much porno....

We knew Potarius well, and we mourn him as he was gunned down by the Mods this morning.

...What?

Ugh. It was the same image on my end, but I guess you guys saw a different one. Hold on, I'll just save the fucking image and upload it to Photobucket.

Edit: Alright, there. Fixed.

Ok, yes, see, this is much better, and far more appropriate than the one homeless man giving a blowjob to the other homeless man, which is what you had up there before.

...What?

Ugh. It was the same image on my end, but I guess you guys saw a different one. Hold on, I'll just save the fucking image and upload it to Photobucket.

Edit: Alright, there. Fixed.

Much safer than bumcum.

Ok, yes, see, this is much better, and far more appropriate than the one homeless man giving a blowjob to the other homeless man, which is what you had up there before.

LMAO!

But really, The Human Equals Sign... When I first saw that, I laughed for like thirty minutes straight. It actually brought me to tears. I was choking!

Much safer than bumcum.

Ah jeez man, so many... Terrible mental images come from that word of yours.

Ah jeez man, so many... Terrible mental images come from that word of yours.

Mate, it's not my word, it's what was on your re-directed picture. And yes, it was a terrible image.