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I really like this girl, I guess it is just a crush, but I'm getting smothered. She lives in my neighborhood and likes another guy apparently. I would usually back off, but she is just so perfect in every way. I just need a little advice from a mature person.

Good luck with that. :p

I really like this girl, I guess it is just a crush, but I'm getting smothered. She lives in my neighborhood and likes another guy apparently. I would usually back off, but she is just so perfect in every way. I just need a little advice from a mature person.

I am pretty good friends with her, and when she found out that I used to like her, she said and I quote, "Awwww.... that makes me feel happy!"

I'm sooo confused

Are you friends with this girl, or is it a sort of worship from afar thing?

I really like this girl, I guess it is just a crush, but I'm getting smothered. She lives in my neighborhood and likes another guy apparently. I would usually back off, but she is just so perfect in every way. I just need a little advice from a mature person.


Hey I'm sorry you have to go through this. Well for starters have you told the girl how you feel? To start do you even talk to her? Well those are a few starters. Hope everything works out.

I really like this girl, I guess it is just a crush, but I'm getting smothered. She lives in my neighborhood and likes another guy apparently. I would usually back off, but she is just so perfect in every way. I just need a little advice from a mature person.

Do you know this girl enough to be a friend that she can trust? Are you a shoulder she can cry on when this other guy proves to be an asshole? Being a friend is a great way to start to find your way in.

if you haven't had a bash already you're not going to. or if you are you're gunna fumble and fall. well, if, you're anything like me anyway. don't be like me, it's pretty sad.


have a fucking go, you'll never know till you try. if it works come and tell me, cuz i could use the encouragement. 23 mature enough? it shouldn't be.

Im pretty good friends with her, Iand I kinda have told her the way I felt about her, my friend said I used to like her, and she said, "Awwww... That makes me feel happy!" UGH!

Try doing stupid stuff to impress her. Jump out of moving cars. *nod*

Seeking mature advice on NSG proves the old adage that hope springs eternal in the hearts of fools.

Do you know this girl enough to be a friend that she can trust? Are you a shoulder she can cry on when this other guy proves to be an asshole? Being a friend is a great way to start to find your way in.

QFTx1000

I swear, every time one of these threads comes up, it's usually a boy, and they've usually not even given thought to how people become couples. While it's true that it can come from attraction and assorted physical reactions, the vast majority of those that last for any appreciable amount of time and are actually worth having and maintaining start as friendships. If you truly like this girl and aren't just horny for her, the actual snogging and other physical delights can wait while you build something genuine.

If you've got the looks and the absence of both scruples and honesty it takes to "bag" someone based solely on heat, that's your call and your choice to decide where the line is regarding being able to look yourself in the mirror. However, if you're mortal, like most of us, you'll just have to be yourself and be a friend to her. Truthfully, sometimes the girl never wakes up, I won't lie. But I promise you, being yourself and gaining a real friend is much better than doing stupid shit to impress someone and discovering that either A) they didn't work and you look foolish or B) they did work and you can't sustain the stupid shit and you either look foolish or resent her for being so shallow.

They may not always admit it or exhibit it, but even young women can recognize and appreciate sincerity. Remember, they're under pressures just as intense (though usually different) as you are with regard to sexual/relationship matters. I'll always put my money on what is genuine over flash and dash.

That's all I have. I hope it helps. Good luck.

Try doing stupid stuff to impress her. Jump out of moving cars. *nod*

Build her a giant pieslinger! Think of the laffs!

Intangleon and Kryozerkia have it exactly right: friendship first. Take it from me: it works. I met this cute girl in college... we were friends for a few years, shacked up for five years, and now have been married for fourteen.

WAIT DON'T DO IT! Its a trap! A TRAP.

Truthfully, sometimes the girl never wakes up, I won't lie.

Which wouldn't be such a problem if the girl would just tell you how much she weighs when you ask, so you can get the dosage right.

I really like this girl, I guess it is just a crush, but I'm getting smothered. She lives in my neighborhood and likes another guy apparently. I would usually back off, but she is just so perfect in every way. I just need a little advice from a mature person.

I am pretty good friends with her, and when she found out that I used to like her, she said and I quote, "Awwww.... that makes me feel happy!"

I'm sooo confused

Something similar to this happened to me. It looks like some of the people who gave me...err...advice are at it again. This'll be good. *Sits down with some popcorn*

Are you friends with this girl, or is it a sort of worship from afar thing?

If he says "from afar," you gonna give him the same advice you gave me?

Try doing stupid stuff to impress her. Jump out of moving cars. *nod*

That's fun until you break your arm. I don't recommend it. Jump out of moving planes. You won't even feel it if you forget your parachute!

Build her a giant pieslinger! Think of the laffs!
BEST IDEA. EVER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Try doing stupid stuff to impress her. Jump out of moving cars. *nod*

Okay, that's the first thing all day that's made me laugh out loud. Thanks, LG!

On topic now ... I have no advice. When you get this sorted out, come and talk to me. I'm having much the same problem. However, I do plan to sort part of it out tomorrow night. If I'm brave enough. We'll see just how THAT goes. Then maybe I can help you later on.

Crush the boy she likes with your hands. If that doesn't work, knock her out with a club and drag her back to your cave.

I'm DEAD serious.

Other than that, back off.

How old are you?

To quote from a thread I started where I had a similar problem...

Beat up her boyfriend, grab her into your arms and ride off together into the Sunset on a Motorcycle! *nods*

"Fortune favors the bold."

If I may suggest, take a look at this thread. It's a few months old, and my problem was a little different than yours. Nonetheless, there some amusing responses on there. Plenty of the people who have posted on this here thread posted on this other one, too.

My own girl trouble. (http://forums.jolt.co.uk/showthread.php?t=544548)

I have my own problems actually, I have a girl that I like, and nevermind no problem, I'm going to tell her I love her.

I really like this girl, I guess it is just a crush, but I'm getting smothered. She lives in my neighborhood and likes another guy apparently. I would usually back off, but she is just so perfect in every way. I just need a little advice from a mature person.

I am pretty good friends with her, and when she found out that I used to like her, she said and I quote, "Awwww.... that makes me feel happy!"

I'm sooo confused
Spike her drink with Rohypnol, and his with arsenic. Sorted!

I'm not a big fan of this "try friendship" thing. Never worked for me, and it gets entirely too painful after a while, watching them go out with everyone but you. Plus, some girls (like Bottle, for example ;)) might also get very upset if it turns out you didn't want to be their friend for friendship's sake, but had ulterior motives.

I rather prefer the idea of just being upfront with it. If you're unlucky and get rejected, at least that's the end of the matter and you can find someone else.

But by all means go for it, if you think you're up for it, but don't end up an intellectual whore (http://www.intellectualwhores.com/). :p

I really like this girl, I guess it is just a crush, but I'm getting smothered. She lives in my neighborhood and likes another guy apparently. I would usually back off, but she is just so perfect in every way. I just need a little advice from a mature person.

I am pretty good friends with her, and when she found out that I used to like her, she said and I quote, "Awwww.... that makes me feel happy!"

I'm sooo confused

Ask her out... theres nothing wrong with being her silver medal. :)

Seriously man, jsut approach her, see how it goes.

I really like this girl, I guess it is just a crush, but I'm getting smothered. She lives in my neighborhood and likes another guy apparently. I would usually back off, but she is just so perfect in every way. I just need a little advice from a mature person.

I am pretty good friends with her, and when she found out that I used to like her, she said and I quote, "Awwww.... that makes me feel happy!"

I'm sooo confused

Just take things slow, and whatever you do, don't exactly say you love her. I did that and everything was really awkward after she rejected me. At least, for her.

WAIT DON'T DO IT! Its a trap! A TRAP.

"Luke! It's a trap, it's a trap Luke"

--Princess Leia Organa

(Is it lame that that is the first place I jump to? Seriously? One a non-topic related not, at work one of my coworkers once told me "I can't tell you!" my instant, unhesitant response was "Could you tell Luke? Is that who you could tell?" I was kind of embarrased, but she didn't get it... it was amazing)

Seeking mature advice on NSG proves the old adage that hope springs eternal in the hearts of fools.

:D

watch 'Densha Otoko.'

yep, that's my advice...though, I wish this thread could somehow become like the train-man thread.

http://www.rinji.tv/densha/train1.htm

what you need to do is be mature about it, and just tell her how you feel, maybe ask to hang out or somthing,but be chill about it..don't get all nervous and obsessive... ;)

"Luke! It's a trap, it's a trap Luke"

--Princess Leia Organa

(Is it lame that that is the first place I jump to? Seriously? One a non-topic related not, at work one of my coworkers once told me "I can't tell you!" my instant, unhesitant response was "Could you tell Luke? Is that who you could tell?" I was kind of embarrased, but she didn't get it... it was amazing)

I thought Admiral Ackbar said that.

And I can't believe I actually know that.

And now for proof from Jesus:

http://i230.photobucket.com/albums/ee32/thestonedmexican/tenacious4.gif

Approach her and say "Hey, you. Let's fuck!"

If that technique doesn't work, then follow her around. Everywhere. Call her at odd hours of the night. Write her love letters. Build a shrine to her in your room.

She'll be so attracted by your obvious devotion that she'll immediately want to bang you.

Do you know this girl enough to be a friend that she can trust? Are you a shoulder she can cry on when this other guy proves to be an asshole? Being a friend is a great way to start to find your way in.

As what? Her brother?

That shit almost never works. When it seems to work, the girl was just playing along and had designs from the beginning and was just waiting for him to make a move.

If in the normal course of your day you and this girl don't end up spending time together in any form, then you have no business talking to her. Leave her alone.

I really like this girl, I guess it is just a crush, but I'm getting smothered. She lives in my neighborhood and likes another guy apparently. I would usually back off, but she is just so perfect in every way. I just need a little advice from a mature person.

I am pretty good friends with her, and when she found out that I used to like her, she said and I quote, "Awwww.... that makes me feel happy!"

I'm sooo confused

Quite literally it means that she is flattered that at some point you were interested in her, even if you both have by now relegated each other to "just friends" status. It's something to enjoy, or at least milk for all its worth, and I suggest you make the most of it while you can.

Disclaimer: I have, of my own accord and slowly but surely on my own, consumed half a bottle ofj ohnie walker black label this night. Therefore any and all advice provided by me, shouldbe taken with a sizable chunk of salt.

"Fortune favors the bold."

Give me my username back.

Actually, that's a common misuse of the phrase. In proper Latin, the phrase is, "Fortes fortuna adiuvat." That means. "Fortune helps the brave men." The quote is by Terence (Publius Terentius Afer).

Plus, I'm the last guy to give advice. I had a great relationship and scuttled it right into the beginning of Fall semester last year. We were that annoyingly cute couple, btw... I even got my crappy job to be able to afford her things, that's the real irony ^_^;

"likes another guy apparently" - What kind of talk is that? Loser talk, that's what kind.
Even if she does currently like someone else, so what? There's ample time for her to realise that you are a better choice. And if you don't think you are a better choice, give up, because that attitude will get you nowhere.

meh, just stick with guys... less confusing :)

Try doing stupid stuff to impress her. Jump out of moving cars. *nod*

yes, do this, just make sure you don't end up like this guy (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o1O7ZvDFP_8)

Other than that the only thing you can do is tell her the truth, what's the worst that can happen?

use some hindsight, you can either try to get in her pants or use her to get in all her friends pants (this is how women work they like to play cupid*)

basically I'm saying friends are awesome, I was tempted to run off with some girl when I was 15-ish however life got in the way and shes one of the best friends I've ever had and I would never change that :)

*an example of this mechanism is my mates little sister thinking I was going out with a certain female person for years this caused the cogs of three women in one room to turn and unknowingly I ended up trapped in some sort of bowling date with said person (she being trapped with me through no use of rope) the joke is to quote that reviewer guy who seems popular she "munches more rug than a malfunctioning vacuum cleaner"

I thought Admiral Ackbar said that.

And I can't believe I actually know that.

And now for proof from Jesus:

http://i230.photobucket.com/albums/ee32/thestonedmexican/tenacious4.gif

Wrong movie. :p

Cloud City, ESB.

Trap set for Luke by Vader.

I really like this girl, I guess it is just a crush, but I'm getting smothered. She lives in my neighborhood and likes another guy apparently. I would usually back off, but she is just so perfect in every way. I just need a little advice from a mature person.

Me! Me! I'm mature as fuck, I am mature as all-get-out! I'm mature as check-the-fucking-trunk! Me!

Hey, I didn't steal the OP! No fair!

Be a man, ignore your feelings, because your feelings ("perfect in every way" etc) are controlled by girls with their girly mind-control rays. You will be enslaved if you fall for that.

Pick a girl with successful parents, who is unfriendly and gets good grades and isn't very popular. Her decent career prospects will set a high standard for your own, or failing that, substitute for getting a decent job yourself.

If she's fat or has a terminal disease, all the better. You get six months or a year to be her only admirer (if she's fat) and you can work on the "mutual fitness plan" together, she loses weight and you bulk up. The terminal disease? She gets better (nurtured by your faith in her) and loves you forever, or she dies and you look like a tragic hero for bringing some cheer to her dying days. Either way, you get sex.

I hope my advice has been helpful to you. Please make cheques payable to Chix R Us Dating Agency, Box 1337, GPO Virgin Islands.

Forget being her friend, unless you always want to be friends. If you want to be lovers or more, all friendship will do is derail that chance. Ask her out. Simple as that. If she says no, go date someone else and leave her to enjoy the guy she's dating.

Even if you don't really like this someone else, date her and let it be know that you are dating this someone else. After she finds out that you are dating someone else, she will either not bother you (then she never was *really* interested in you), or she will make moves to get you back into her life. If she does that, wait for her to make the first move.

If she's more valuable to you as a friend, don't ask her out, and don't bother fantasizing about any relationship more that you would if she was a guy. It just won't work.

Good luck, and dear god, don't get tied down! Unless you're into that kind of thing.

Good luck with that. :p
It's funny, because now it looks like you have girl problems.
Try doing stupid stuff to impress her. Jump out of moving cars. *nod*
Naked.
WAIT DON'T DO IT! Its a trap! A TRAP.
http://photo.gangus.com/d/26788-2/ackbar.jpg
If he says "from afar," you gonna give him the same advice you gave me?
What advice did I give you? And did you read the fine print that says that I'm not liable for people following my advice?
Approach her and say "Hey, you. Let's fuck!"

If that technique doesn't work, then follow her around. Everywhere. Call her at odd hours of the night. Write her love letters. Build a shrine to her in your room.

She'll be so attracted by your obvious devotion that she'll immediately want to bang you.
I approve of this plan.

Intangleon and Kryozerkia have it exactly right: friendship first. Take it from me: it works. I met this cute girl in college... we were friends for a few years, shacked up for five years, and now have been married for fourteen.

awwwwwwwwww!!!!!!!

Spike her drink with Rohypnol, and his with arsenic. Sorted!

whats Rohypnol?

You are 16. You have no need to know about Rohypnol.. You also have Google FFS.

@OP. Get some stones and ask her out. If it fails, move on. Get over this true love trash.

No-one has their one true soul mate. There are 6 billion people on the planet. If your one and only soul mate is on the planet, what's the chance you'll meet? There are probably a good couple of thousand people you'll meet in your life who would make a very good life partner. Probably in the 10s of thousands of people who would be good for casual sex, if that's your thing.

whats Rohypnol?

A tranquilizer, used a lot to rape people.

A tranquilizer, used a lot to rape people.

Or just to get them to stop complaining. :p

Approach her and say "Hey, you. Let's fuck!"

If that technique doesn't work, then follow her around. Everywhere. Call her at odd hours of the night. Write her love letters. Build a shrine to her in your room.

She'll be so attracted by your obvious devotion that she'll immediately want to bang you.

I know I'm getting in over my head here, but ... have you actually tried this?

Approach her and say "Hey, you. Let's fuck!"

Hey, even if it only works 1 in a billion times...

I know I'm getting in over my head here, but ... have you actually tried this?

Who hasn't?

Do you know this girl enough to be a friend that she can trust? Are you a shoulder she can cry on when this other guy proves to be an asshole? Being a friend is a great way to start to find your way in.

Be careful with this approach, as it usually ends in the tainted FRIEND ZONE!!! :eek:

I really like this girl, I guess it is just a crush, but I'm getting smothered. She lives in my neighborhood and likes another guy apparently. I would usually back off, but she is just so perfect in every way. I just need a little advice from a mature person.

I am pretty good friends with her, and when she found out that I used to like her, she said and I quote, "Awwww.... that makes me feel happy!"

I'm sooo confused

PUNCH HER IN THE FACE!

Works every time ;)

Approach her and say "Hey, you. Let's fuck!"


I thought about trying this in bars, there are some girls that goto bars with the sole premises of having a one night stand. I figure maybe 1 out of 10 women... So all I have to do is walk up and say that to single women and I am guranteed to get laid. Problem is, I can't bring myself to say it to anyone.:(

Which wouldn't be such a problem if the girl would just tell you how much she weighs when you ask, so you can get the dosage right.

Priceless (especially if you use MasterCard to buy the stuff)!

I have my own problems actually, I have a girl that I like, and nevermind no problem, I'm going to tell her I love her.

For the love of all that's good and right, DON'T DO THAT. If you walk up to her and emotionally vomit like that, you're as good as dead to her. Trust me, I know this from personal experience.

As what? Her brother?

That shit almost never works. When it seems to work, the girl was just playing along and had designs from the beginning and was just waiting for him to make a move.

That shit isn't designed to "work" -- if the OP was asking how to GET LAID, that's a whole different approach. However, that's not how the OP was phrased.

If in the normal course of your day you and this girl don't end up spending time together in any form, then you have no business talking to her. Leave her alone.

There's some truth to this -- if you're not in at least some kind of regular contact, you're not getting a very clear picture of who she is.

Disclaimer: I have, of my own accord and slowly but surely on my own, consumed half a bottle ofj ohnie walker black label this night. Therefore any and all advice provided by me, shouldbe taken with a sizable chunk of salt.

Scotch and salt? Yech. Ice or neat, please.

Get really really drunk, and say you've lost your old parents when you were little, your new parents are your adopted ones, make up some story about how painful it was, pretend that it's not important, find a way to kill the other guy (say with a crossbow), then you're set!
Of course she could just dump you and go out with another guy almost identical to the last.

But seriously speaking, talking is usually a good start, with communication to another person.