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Im just wondering what you would find desirable in a spouse and im not talking about looks.

Money?

I like that my husband hasn't ever lied to me, even at times when it would have been easier on him if he did. I like that he respects my opinion, and supports me, and gets worried when I am sick, takes care of me when I am tired, and screens my phone calls when I am in a bad mood.

He's my hero.

I wasted a whole bunch of time typing out a post outlining what I want, but I realized I could state it much more simply. I want Line Trap, but actually a girl.

I like that my husband hasn't ever lied to me, even at times when it would have been easier on him if he did. I like that he respects my opinion, and supports me, and gets worried when I am sick, takes care of me when I am tired, and screens my phone calls when I am in a bad mood.

He's my hero.
*pulls out lighter*

Did you ever know that you're my heeeeeeeerooooooo? You're everything I wish I could beeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee. I can fly hiiiiiigher than aaaan eeeeeeagle. You are the wind beneath my wiiiiiiings.



...sorry. couldn't resist.

I would like a spouse who would be able to take care of my physical and material needs. I am a very absent-minded person, and tend to be off in the world of ideas much of the time. I would need someone who would be happy to take care of immediate, concrete needs (like food or shopping), which are tasks I am absolutely terrible at and simply don't care for.

Im just wondering what you would find desirable in a spouse and im not talking about looks.

Consent.

*pulls out lighter*

Did you ever know that you're my heeeeeeeerooooooo? You're everything I wish I could beeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee. I can fly hiiiiiigher than aaaan eeeeeeagle. You are the wind beneath my wiiiiiiings.



...sorry. couldn't resist.

;) it's like that sometimes, until he runs screaming out of the room and the breeze from me chasing him singing at the top of my lungs extinguishes the lighter.

I wasted a whole bunch of time typing out a post outlining what I want, but I realized I could state it much more simply. I want Line Trap, but actually a girl.

Why would you want line trap as a girl? That's... That's kind of wrong.

Why would you want line trap as a girl? That's... That's kind of wrong.Well, what would you suggest?

Well, what would you suggest?

For you, I'd suggest Velma from Scooby Doo.

My girlfriend is loving, caring, kind, sweet, gentle, very smart, a great personality and she is just beautiful. She is very supportive of me being in school to become an OT, she isn't afraid to stand up for herself, and for some odd reason, she just adores me and thinks the world of me. I feel the same way about her, I adore and think of the world about her too. So my girlfriend has everything I want in a woman and more.

personality, wildcat in the bed, nice, stands up for herself

hugs and patience.

Jumbo cans.

personality, wildcat in the bed, nice, stands up for herself

Skip consent, this is better :D

I want a man who will share the responsibilities. One who doesn't EXPECT me to stay home and cook and clean. (because I WON'T). Spontaneous (I hate planning every little thing). Someone willing to argue with me when needed ( I don't want a 'whipped' man). He's gotta like kids..and want kids.



and he's gotta be good in bed.:p

Love, of course.

A good degree of toughness. Not as in like, trying to act all hardass, but endurance. Someone who will be with me through thick and thin, so even if we lose everything else we'll still have each other.

I need my spouse to be understanding of my time commitments with musical projects and the like. Naturally, I would be equally understanding of her time commitments. Just because you're married doesn't mean you have to see your spouse at every free hour.

My girlfriend is a loving and compassionate person, but who doesn't take crap either. She's pretty much what I want in a woman, though I wish she was a tad more adventurous.

My girlfriend is loving, caring, kind, sweet, gentle, very smart, a great personality and she is just beautiful. She is very supportive of me being in school to become an OT, she isn't afraid to stand up for herself, and for some odd reason, she just adores me and thinks the world of me. I feel the same way about her, I adore and think of the world about her too. So my girlfriend has everything I want in a woman and more.

Snip out "She is very supportive of me being in school to become an OT," and you've got my wonderful girlfriend. She inspires me to believe there is a higher power, because every time I think of her I realise what a blessing she truly is.

EDIT: And by snip that out, I don't mean she's not very supportive; I just mean I'm not in school to become an OT. ;)

Im just wondering what you would find desirable in a spouse and im not talking about looks.




Rich she shall be, that's certain.

Wise, or I'll none.

Virtuous, or I'll never cheapen her.

Fair, or I'll never look on her.

Mild, or come not near me.

Of good discourse.

An excellent musician.

And her hair... shall be... of what color it please God.

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All that ado... ;)

Intelligence, spirituality, good heart(as in a caring person) and she better be kink in bed :P

All that ado... ;)

Shall quips and sentences and these paper bullets of the brain awe a man from the career of his humor?

No. The world must be peopled.

If she can rock-climb, or is willing to not only try it but probably be pretty good at it, I'm in.

It's not that I rock-climb much myself, but, for me, that would represent a certain type of person that I can dig.

First, love. Everything else is negotiable, but if we have love, we can figure out the rest.

He must have decency, integrity, a sure knowledge that gender roles are bullshit and a backbone. Luckily, my partner fits the bill perfectly :)

Not an opposite. Let's face it, if you married a complete opposite, you'd never be able to agree on anything.:rolleyes: I wants me a woman who can complement my good points, and help me shore up my bad points(ie, stuff I'm good at, she's a little worse at, and vice versa).

I'm gonna have to say looks. When I met my wife the first thing I thought was 'Phoaarr' It was after this initial physical response that things got interesting, but come on, if it wasn't for her good looks we would not be together huh!

Im just wondering what you would find desirable in a spouse and im not talking about looks.Omnipotence, omniscience and omnibenevolence (the former two wouldn't be safe without the latter)

Well, what would you suggest?

Bill as a girl, perhaps? Seriously, I shat bricks.

Hugs, intellectual stimulation, emotional affinity, and a plentiful supply of vodka and wine.

However, I'm still going physical attraction; I don't care how nice a person a girl is, because, to quote Vince Noir "Mick Jagger didn't hangout with the elephant man".:)

I'd like her to love me for me, even when its easier to not. Be accepting and supportive, compassionate, and make me feel needed.

Jewish, good-hearted, and intelligent, in that order of importance. Not only does she need to be nice to me, she must be nice to others. I will not marry a bitch, no matter how smart or pretty she is.

I would also prefer that she is a nerd. I'm a nerd, and I would probably get along extremely well with someone who shares my interests. And while you might wonder where I can find a female nerd, I'm at a tech school. I've already found some. In fact, I've found one girl who fills all these requirements, and I just need to figure out where I could take her on a date, and when, before I ask her.

Intellectual compatibility, sexual compatibility, someone I'm attracted to, someone who makes me laugh. That's mostly it.

Not an opposite. Let's face it, if you married a complete opposite, you'd never be able to agree on anything.:rolleyes: I wants me a woman who can complement my good points, and help me shore up my bad points(ie, stuff I'm good at, she's a little worse at, and vice versa).This makes a lot of sense.

Two people have to be similar enough so that they can find common interests and so that they expect similar things from a relationship- but different enough so that they don't have too many of the same weaknesses. For instance, I can get a little moody, but my boyfriend's really steady and always on an even keel. If we were both moody, things would get ugly. But our relationship also works because of the things we have in common- like our interests in politics (where our views are very similar but not identical), science and sci-fi. The sci-fi one in particular allows me to support his writing and be his first test reader, which most girls wouldn't be able to do because hard sci-fi is more popular among guys.

Anyway... my boyfriend is practically my ideal partner. He's smart, affectionate, hilarious, brings out my well-hidden goofy side, fantastic in bed, and very generous with his time. I can't imagine being with anyone else.

I remember when I was a teenager my grandmother asked me if I wanted a wife. I was like "Gee Grandma, I'm not a lesbian." So she explained a bit, saying she always wanted one. Someone nurturing, who has nothing better to do but bring you your slippers and worry if you've eaten a hot meal. Someone whose whole day revolves around whether or not I'm comfortable. The traditional wife.

Now, if I only get one spouse I think I'd rather have someone more my equal. But I want a wife too. I want to be babied, waited on and catered to. Someone who considers it their job to figure outwhat the hell I did with the keys. And doesn't complain about it.

This makes a lot of sense.

Two people have to be similar enough so that they can find common interests and so that they expect similar things from a relationship- but different enough so that they don't have too many of the same weaknesses. For instance, I can get a little moody, but my boyfriend's really steady and always on an even keel. If we were both moody, things would get ugly. But our relationship also works because of the things we have in common- like our interests in politics (where our views are very similar but not identical), science and sci-fi. The sci-fi one in particular allows me to support his writing and be his first test reader, which most girls wouldn't be able to do because hard sci-fi is more popular among guys.

Anyway... my boyfriend is practically my ideal partner. He's smart, affectionate, hilarious, brings out my well-hidden goofy side, fantastic in bed, and very generous with his time. I can't imagine being with anyone else.
my husband and I are both moody, but we figured out early on that it's not fair to the relationship to be moody at the same time, so one of us isn't moody when the other one is. It seems to work, even though it doesn't make sense.

This makes a lot of sense.

Two people have to be similar enough so that they can find common interests and so that they expect similar things from a relationship- but different enough so that they don't have too many of the same weaknesses. For instance, I can get a little moody, but my boyfriend's really steady and always on an even keel. If we were both moody, things would get ugly. But our relationship also works because of the things we have in common- like our interests in politics (where our views are very similar but not identical), science and sci-fi. The sci-fi one in particular allows me to support his writing and be his first test reader, which most girls wouldn't be able to do because hard sci-fi is more popular among guys.

Anyway... my boyfriend is practically my ideal partner. He's smart, affectionate, hilarious, brings out my well-hidden goofy side, fantastic in bed, and very generous with his time. I can't imagine being with anyone else.

Heh it makes sense to some people perhaps. My wife and my self hardly share any common interests at all, we are almost completely opposite and yes it makes for a wonderful, sparky, exciting marriage.

So I guess the lesson is that we are all differant, with different needs, goals, ideas, and principles.

Ohh my what a wonderfully exciting place to be huh!

Anyway... my boyfriend is practically my ideal partner. He’s smart, affectionate, hilarious, brings out my well-hidden goofy side, fantastic in bed, and very generous with his time. I can’t imagine being with anyone else.
Lucky you!

And may I take this opportunity to congratulate you on a fantastic nation name.

In no particular order :

Quirky
Attractive
Funny
Rarely serious (and only when absolutely necessary)
Reliable
Caring when needed
Independent (and doesn't demand I give up my independent side)
Willing to compromise
Intelligent
Hard working (but doesn't like to talk about work)
Adventurous (in and out of the bedroom)
Hates double dates

and i'm sure there are a lot more

Anyway... my boyfriend is practically my ideal partner. He's smart, affectionate, hilarious, brings out my well-hidden goofy side, fantastic in bed, and very generous with his time. I can't imagine being with anyone else.

You really are quite lucky you know?

It's just not fair, why don't I get to meet girls like that?:mad:

You really are quite lucky you know?

It's just not fair, why don't I get to meet girls like that?:mad:

You're looking in the wrong place?

because "However, I'm still going physical attraction; I don't care how nice a person a girl is,"?

I do care, but I also like people to be attractive.

You really are quite lucky you know?

It's just not fair, why don't I get to meet girls like that?:mad:

because "However, I'm still going physical attraction; I don't care how nice a person a girl is,"?

*pulls out lighter*

Did you ever know that you're my heeeeeeeerooooooo? You're everything I wish I could beeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee. I can fly hiiiiiigher than aaaan eeeeeeagle. You are the wind beneath my wiiiiiiings.



...sorry. couldn't resist.

My dad's name is Hiro... My mom sings that to annoy him all the time.




And to answer the question, I have no idea. I can never tell exactly what gets me interested in someone.

My ideal guy :-)

Protective as a lion of me and family, not physically and not in that "macho" way, but not afraid to argue our case...

Confident. He knows he is the centre of my world, and that he is the most beautiful creature I've set eyes on, and that anyone else is nothing to me, because he rules. End of.

Graceful. Without saying, beauty and grace matter. And certainly not macho

Quiet. He knows he doesn't need to shout to make his presence known. One quiet word should be all it takes to bring his family to him.

Calm. Again. To me someone who is angry or shouts is not confident and is not in control. Calmness and peace are very important to me.

Perceptive/Interested. One who sees the world. Watches. Knows. Understands. The world and me. I want him to be fascinated by me as much as attracted to me, and the same about the world at large.

Patient. If he wants to live with me, he kinda would have to be...

Metal over Physical. I don't run around with bungee ropes. I love to be at home, or studying, or at the museum/temple/library/lecture/exhibition. I value history, culture, art, the written word and the cultural/spiritual/intellectual over the material in some ways, not all. In that respect, he needs a similar outlook. When matched with confidence in his views, and ready to debate them with me, that's just perfect :-)

And he should be able to belly dance well :-) Male belly dancers are just too damn hot for words :-)

*dreams on*

I would need someone with a strong and slightly twisted sense of homor. Someone who understands that I am not an overly social creature, and that I need a lot of space, and periods of being alone. Someone who understands that a significant portion of my life is on the computer. Someone who knows that when I bitch, I'm not always looking for an answer, just a vent, and when I'm angry, I sometimes want to stay angry, and when I'm upset, I need a quiet lap to nap on. I need someone who likes excitement sometimes, and appriciates quiet time, and isn't afraid to be a little risky or adventurous at times. X3

Im just wondering what you would find desirable in a spouse and im not talking about looks.
I would like a Wife that accepts me for all my strengths as well as weaknesses. For all my Faults and my quirks.

someone I can easily talk to and someone I can listen to. someone who understands the value of a quiet night just enjoying each other's company.

A wife who can be romantic as well as silly, serious when needed but knows when to just let things go.

Someone who compliments my life as well as mixes it up enough to make it interesting.

someone who completes me.







and preferably someone who isn't already married/engaged/involved with someone else. :p

Someone who loves me, above all else. Who is devoted to me, and to our relationship, so that I know they would never take off just because it's easier than standing his ground and fighting it out.

I need someone who is physically and emotionally affectionate - because I am an incredibly affectionate person, and I need that in return. Holding hands, cuddling, little touches, compliments, etc.

Someone who is honest and has solid communication skills. Who will *tell* me if they feel like something isn't going right in the relationship, instead of just letting it sit and get worse.

Someone who is willing to take care of me, sometimes. Who *wants* to take care of me. My ideal guy would be very protective of me, because I'm a very old fashioned kind of girl, and I like my guys to make me feel safe and precious. That's not to say I'm not an independent, fiery girl with her own headstrong opinions and ideas - but sometimes, I just want to be cradled and protected and cared for.

Someone who is calm enough to offset my occasional emotional outbursts, but has enough fire in him to stand up to me and yell, sometimes. Not often - but I need someone I can fight with. My most recent relationship lasted 2.5 years and was incredibly serious, but we never once *yelled* at each other... and sometimes, I need that. I need someone who I know I can yell at and who will yell right back. Storming silently just isn't my fighting style.

I need someone who isn't spending the entire relationship with one foot out the door. In my previous relationship, again, I felt sometimes like I had to drag him back every time things got rough, and convince him to stick it out. That's not fair. In a long-term relationship, I need someone who I know, without a doubt, will stick around. Maybe even drag *me* back sometimes. Someone who I feel wants to be in the relationship every bit as much as I do. And who is willing to stand up and say it.

But really, if I could only pick one quality... it's love. I need someone who loves me as much as I love him - that is, completely. Everything else can be worked on from their.

Mutual love is the only requirement.