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Is your life turning out the way you expected?

Callang Provinces
30-10-2007, 00:07
Title says it all.. I've gotta say may life is turning out just how I expected, but then I was a very depressed child...
Kylesburgh
30-10-2007, 00:07
NO, mine ain't.
Whereyouthinkyougoing
30-10-2007, 00:09
I've gotta say may life is turning out just how I expected, but then I was a very depressed child...
:p
UNITIHU
30-10-2007, 00:13
I am a very unrealistic person, so I will never live up to the standards I've given myself.
Callang Provinces
30-10-2007, 00:21
By the way the last poll option should of been Clichéd not cliqued. If I can be unoriginal again may I say Damn you Spellcheck.
Vojvodina-Nihon
30-10-2007, 00:22
Hey! I'm alive?! Since when?!!
Thedrom
30-10-2007, 00:26
Not better, not worse - only different.
Nouvelle Wallonochie
30-10-2007, 00:30
That depends, because at different times in my life I've expected rather different things.

When I was a kid I rather expected to end up either taking on some dead end job or taking on the family farm, which made absolutely no money whatsoever (we had around 50 head of dairy cattle, and our milk was only considered good enough to feed to animals). This is because I was extremely poor as a child, our combined family income for the four of us was probably around $20,000/year in current dollars (after figuring the costs of running the farm out but not housing and such). Our house was heated by a wood stove and had holes in it patched up with plywood and blankets. Growing up in such an environment doesn't exactly promote optimism.

Six years ago I thought I'd be a career soldier, of the rank Staff Sergeant or so by now.

Now I'm a civilian closing in on my bachelors degree in French, plan on doing my graduate work in teaching English as a foreign language, and would ultimately like to move to France to teach English.

So no, my life hasn't turned out at all how I thought it would. If you were to tell my 14 year old self that I'd not only go to college but have visited 13 countries and had years where I'd earned over $20,000 (which would have seemed a huge sum to me at the time) by the time I'd turned 25 I'd never have believed it.
Amarenthe
30-10-2007, 00:34
No. It's definitely not. I'm wearing a ring for a guy who doesn't think I'm worth it anymore, because I can't bring myself to take it off.
Groznyj
30-10-2007, 00:47
No. It's definitely not. I'm wearing a ring for a guy who doesn't think I'm worth it anymore, because I can't bring myself to take it off.

You should try baby oil or trying to heat the ring a little. Or at least wait till summer. That should make it easier to take off :D
The Parkus Empire
30-10-2007, 00:52
Title says it all.. I've gotta say may life is turning out just how I expected, but then I was a very depressed child...

...And to think that only yesterday I was cheerful, bright and gay...

At this point the Grim Reaper looks rather friendly. Not that I would take advantage of his hospitality. The place might be mess. He'd never forgive me. :p

Still, death seems somewhat superior to life for me right now.
New Limacon
30-10-2007, 00:57
By the way the last poll option should of been Clichéd not cliqued. If I can be unoriginal again may I say Damn you Spellcheck.

:p That helps. I was wondering what it meant for a question to be in a select and exclusive group.

I am still alive, live in a house, and am not a fugitive from justice. I never really planned any more specifically past that, so I guess it is, so far.
Amarenthe
30-10-2007, 01:02
You should try baby oil or trying to heat the ring a little. Or at least wait till summer. That should make it easier to take off :D

I didn't say I couldn't take it off. I said I couldn't make myself. Sadly, baby oil won't help with that.
Longhaul
30-10-2007, 01:18
My life so far has not proceeded in any of the myriad of ways that I thought it might as I grew up, and that for me has been a great thing. Not because I've ever had any particularly low expectations of myself, but because I have never become caught up in any kind of truly long-term goal anyway, other than to be as happy as I can be.

I've seen people make themselves horribly unhappy from time to time by pursuing some rose-tinted vision of perfection. I've also seen people who've known, beyond any shadow of a doubt, exactly where they wanted to be in 2/5/10 years time, and who have successfully attained their goals. Good for them :)

Life never turns out precisely the way that any of us expect, and it would be a pretty boring world if it did. Expect, and revel in, the unexpected, the endless little surprises that we should all be experiencing unless we have blinded ourselves to them... life is delicious.

It's not a rehearsal, we just have to get on with it. ;)
Neu Leonstein
30-10-2007, 01:22
I don't know yet. Let's just say so far nothing major has deviated.

I mean, I didn't expect as a child to be in Australia by now, but those are minor details in the grand scheme of things.
The Ninja Penguin
30-10-2007, 01:31
No. It's definitely not. I'm wearing a ring for a guy who doesn't think I'm worth it anymore, because I can't bring myself to take it off.

My dear, go to a jeweller and have them cut it off if you can't remove it yourself. Then give him the bits and wish him all the happiness in the world with his beloved ring. May they have many happy years together. :rolleyes:

That's the great thing about life, every moment is a chance to start fresh. Easy it may not be but freedom is so precious because of the sacrifices we make to have it. Short-term pain for long-term gain.

My life is not better or worse than I expected but it is completely different in every conceivable way. I had no idea it would be like this and yet all the results are because of my own decisions. Some days I feel truly blessed, other days I wonder how in the hell I got here and want to know when I can quit and go 'home', wherever that is. But my life is never boring and I know that, while each day brings its challenges, each day also brings new hope and new joy.
Barringtonia
30-10-2007, 01:58
No. It's definitely not. I'm wearing a ring for a guy who doesn't think I'm worth it anymore, because I can't bring myself to take it off.

I hate seeing sentences like this, where merely the sentence induces a certain sadness.

The question is: do you think you're worth it? The answer is that you are, if only for yourself. Easy to say and hard to believe I know, but totally worth it when you do :)

As for me, I was the most unimaginative child - when I envisioned my future I saw myself living in the suburbs, driving off to work waving goodbye to my wife, kids and dog as though I was aiming to live in some sort of crap half-hour comedy show.

Thankfully things never turn out the way you think.
Chandelier
30-10-2007, 02:13
Well, I'm only 17, but I'm on track to meet my main goal for what I want to be when I grow up, so I guess so. :)
The Blaatschapen
30-10-2007, 02:15
Well, when I was born they asked me to fill in this expectation form and it says "Ga ga goo goo". I've got no clue what it means but it looks pretty happy so I guess I got what I expected :)
Barringtonia
30-10-2007, 02:20
Well, when I was born they asked me to fill in this expectation form and it says "Ga ga goo goo". I've got no clue what it means but it looks pretty happy so I guess I got what I expected :)

Your memory is faulty - it said goony goony and it means you're a bigfoot.
MrWho
30-10-2007, 03:22
Not really. As soon as I graduated from high school, I though I'd have an active college life. I was seeing myself making lots of friends, studying abroad, getting straight A's, conversing with professors of my major, going out to parties, etc. With all of that fantasizing, I completely forgot to factor in my laziness. None of those have actually happened, except for the straight A's part. I got those last summer and for the first semester of freshman year. Life isn't actually that bad. I just have to get my grades up, and get over my horrible shyness to actually have some friends, other than classmates I know for a semester and forget. If I can do that, life would be good.
Saige Dragon
30-10-2007, 04:27
Hell no. But then, that's just the beauty of it.
Ilie
30-10-2007, 04:49
So far, it's kind of hard to say. I'm not sure where I expected to be at 25. I think when I imagined my future, it was more about my 30s.
Smunkeeville
30-10-2007, 04:52
this is not what I expected out of life.....you know living to be this old, having food and security and a guy who doesn't drag me around by my hair. Life is not at all what I expected and that's a good thing. :D
Ilie
30-10-2007, 04:54
this is not what I expected out of life.....you know living to be this old, having food and security and a guy who doesn't drag me around by my hair. Life is not at all what I expected and that's a good thing. :D

<3
Hoyteca
30-10-2007, 04:57
Yeah, except now I drive around in a van and solve mysteries with a group of hippies and their talking dog. For some reason, the "leader's" traps never seem to work properly. And one of the hippies eats dog food. I think he's on drugs.

No wait. That was Scooby Doo.
Aryavartha
30-10-2007, 05:31
I didn't expect much from life. So I am always happy the way it has turned out. :p
ClodFelter
30-10-2007, 05:35
Yeah, my life ended up being very similar to what I expected, except I assumed I would be really good looking and I'm not.

The process of getting here was not what I expected though. I had no idea what I would have to go through.

I'm only a college freshman though, I've still got plenty of time to screw up my future goals.
Delator
30-10-2007, 05:39
No...but as they say, if you don't bet, you can't win. :)
BackwoodsSquatches
30-10-2007, 05:48
"There is no ordinary life, Wyatt. Theres just life." -Doc Holiday, Tombstone.
Zilam
30-10-2007, 05:51
I am a very unrealistic person, so I will never live up to the standards I've given myself.

Same here. :(
Ruby City
30-10-2007, 06:27
No, not at all but it's not better or worse just very different from what I expected. For me it has been the mistakes, failures and bad choices that changed my directions but in good ways as I always recover and in the process learn how to increase my potential to take advantage of future opportunities.
The Brevious
30-10-2007, 06:33
Can't say it's too different or too similar. It was the surprises, obviously, that i defined myself by ... the rest was really psychological coma.
Zilam
30-10-2007, 06:34
To expand on my earlier post....

I always wanted to go into politics to make a change for people, as I came from the low parts of society and saw all the BS that happened to people like my family and myself. So I studied hard, and was always an honor student in my academics. When I came to Uni, I planned on going to law school after my undergrad degree, and then start my way into the political arena...Then I became serious with my faith, and decided I wanted to help people around the world that lived in impoverished and war torn situations, as part of my witness to how the Gospel gave me the will and way to do something for others. Then, it turned into a quest to bring the Gospel to Muslims...and now...ugh..I just don't like myself. I want to help people, but the path I have taken myself down(not because of faith, but because I am a dumbass), is one that I hate. I hate it so much. I just want to do something that is honorable and helpful to the world. Blah :(
The Brevious
30-10-2007, 06:36
To expand on my earlier post....

I always wanted to go into politics to make a change for people, as I came from the low parts of society and saw all the BS that happened to people like my family and myself. So I studied hard, and was always an honor student in my academics. When I came to Uni, I planned on going to law school after my undergrad degree, and then start my way into the political arena...Then I became serious with my faith, and decided I wanted to help people around the world that lived in impoverished and war torn situations, as part of my witness to how the Gospel gave me the will and way to do something for others. Then, it turned into a quest to bring the Gospel to Muslims...and now...ugh..I just don't like myself. I want to help people, but the path I have taken myself down(not because of faith, but because I am a dumbass), is one that I hate. I hate it so much. I just want to do something that is honorable and helpful to the world. Blah :(Do you need a little Samu-El?
The path of the righteous man is beset on all sides by the iniquities of the selfish and the tyranny of evil men. Blessed is he who, in the name of charity and good will, shepherds the weak through the valley of the darkness. For he is truly his brother's keeper and the finder of lost children.
Barringtonia
30-10-2007, 06:37
To expand on my earlier post....

I always wanted to go into politics to make a change for people, as I came from the low parts of society and saw all the BS that happened to people like my family and myself. So I studied hard, and was always an honor student in my academics. When I came to Uni, I planned on going to law school after my undergrad degree, and then start my way into the political arena...Then I became serious with my faith, and decided I wanted to help people around the world that lived in impoverished and war torn situations, as part of my witness to how the Gospel gave me the will and way to do something for others. Then, it turned into a quest to bring the Gospel to Muslims...and now...ugh..I just don't like myself. I want to help people, but the path I have taken myself down(not because of faith, but because I am a dumbass), is one that I hate. I hate it so much. I just want to do something that is honorable and helpful to the world. Blah :(

Right after university I joined a (EU) government program that took me to India, I had to teach English and dig wells and generally help around the place for 3 months. after which I tootled around for a good few years doing bits and bobs from country to country.

The only thing stopping you from doing something is yourself, no matter what argument you come up with.

These days, and I'm only talking mid-90's for me, you have the entire Internet to look for opportunities, whether that's the peace corps or whatever.

Better the fool that's sent to roam than the one who's kept at home.

Do it.
The Brevious
30-10-2007, 06:38
Better the fool that's sent to roam than the one who's kept at home.

Ooh!
Keeper.
*bows*
Zilam
30-10-2007, 06:43
Right after university I joined a (EU) government program that took me to India, I had to teach English and dig wells and generally help around the place for 3 months. after which I tootled around for a good few years doing bits and bobs from country to country.

The only thing stopping you from doing something is yourself, no matter what argument you come up with.

These days, and I'm only talking mid-90's for me, you have the entire Internet to look for opportunities, whether that's the peace corps or whatever.

Better the fool that's sent to roam than the one who's kept at home.

Do it.

You are absolutely correct.:fluffle:
Barringtonia
30-10-2007, 06:48
Ooh!
Keeper.
*bows*

I cannot accept a bow without providing the actual quote.

It's William Cowper, from The Progress of Error:

How much a dunce that has been sent to roam
Excels a dunce that has been kept at home!

Zilam - you may find some inspiration from who he was (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/William_Cowper), better known perhaps for this:

GOD moves in a mysterious way,
His wonders to perform;
He plants his footsteps in the sea,
And rides upon the storm.

Olney Hymns (1779)--'Light Shining out of Darkness'

I'm not religious myself but inspiration comes from wherever you choose, as long as you act on it.
The Brevious
30-10-2007, 07:05
I cannot accept a bow without providing the actual quote.

It's William Cowper, from The Progress of Error:

How much a dunce that has been sent to roam
Excels a dunce that has been kept at home!


A well-deserved bow, then. :)
*bows*
Ruby City
30-10-2007, 07:21
Then I became serious with my faith, and decided I wanted to help people around the world that lived in impoverished and war torn situations, as part of my witness to how the Gospel gave me the will and way to do something for others. Then, it turned into a quest to bring the Gospel to Muslims...and now...ugh..I just don't like myself. I want to help people, but the path I have taken myself down(not because of faith, but because I am a dumbass), is one that I hate.
Bringing the gospel to people and helping people are two entirely different things. Missionaries should not tell people about the gospel, they should be the gospel. Just focus on following in Jesus footsteps in actions by helping people. If they ask you why you are helping them or give you some other excuse to tell them about your faith then go for it but otherwise don't nag about it.

It is very important that you learn about the culture and faith of the area you are going to. Just like the Jews the Muslims believe in Abraham's God but don't understand that Jesus was messiah. That's just the first detail, you need to know as much about Islam as the Muslims do. If you go there I imagine your role should be to show them that the true nature of Christianity is something else then bombs and bullets rather then to win them over and convert them.
Bottle
30-10-2007, 12:14
My family loves to tell one particular baby story about me:

My parents finished grad school when I was 18 months old. My uncle was sitting with me in the audience as my mom and dad crossed the stage to be handed their PhDs. And 18-month-old Bottle piped up and announced, "When I grow up I am going to walk across the stage and everybody will clap for me."

So at 18 months old, I'd already pretty much decided on my life course, and it's turned out just so. I went straight from high school to college to grad school. If the planets align properly, I should eventually leave here with the PhD that I've had my eye on for a quarter century or so.

Only one problem, though. I never really planned out what would happen after the PhD. I guess I'll probably get to work on a novel or a Doomsday Device or something.
Cabra West
30-10-2007, 12:15
Life has turned out entirely different and way, way, way better than I ever thought possible.
That's mostly cause I turned out way better than I ever dreamed. I know this sounds terribly conceited and arrogant, but it's fact. I was extremely shy as a child, and well into my adult years. I could hardly bring myself to ever talk to strangers, and I couldn't talk to any male person at all. I was scared as hell, my father had spent long hours making sure I thought of myself as completely worthless, ridiculous, stupid and ugly, a disappointment and constant embarassment to him. I projected that attitude into every male I met, I was convinced they all saw me just like my father did (and probably still does for all I know).
I felt guilty about myself, I hated my body and was surethat being me and looking the way I do, there would be no way in the world I'd ever be happy, unless it was on my own. I was convinced the only sex I could ever have would be happening in my brain and nowhere else, and I wouldn't make a spectacle of myself by finding a boyfriend or a partner.

Well, it took years, but if I look at myself now, I can hardly believe I'm the same person.
I've got self-confidence to spare, I know I'm pretty in my own way, and I know that there are plenty of people out there who like and even admire me. I've got a lovely boyfriend (and we're swingers ;) ), I live in a new country, I work in a field I never imangined I'd have the least bit of talent for, I make a decent living... Life is just great :)


I think the one reason you never know how your life will turn out is simply because you don't know your future self yet.
Ifreann
30-10-2007, 12:16
More or less.
THE LOST PLANET
30-10-2007, 12:20
I'm 46 and [B]nothing[B] in my life has ever turned out as I expected.

My advice to all the youngsters here, don't bother making any detailed plans for your future... life is gonna rewrite them anyway...
Extreme Ironing
30-10-2007, 13:06
In some ways: I'm doing the subject I love, but at a uni that I never expected to get into. I'm still friends with someone even after some difficult times involving unrequited attraction, I always expected him to distant himself because of it. I'm far more confident that I used to be, but still have a long way to go.
Rambhutan
30-10-2007, 13:24
I would say the question is cliqued, but I really don't know what that means.

If I had paid for a ticket I would want my money back.
Similization
30-10-2007, 13:29
Well aren't you a cheery bunch!

If you're so incredibly lucky and privileged you can afford to haunt NSG, you ought to be ashamed of yourselves if you can't think of anything better to do than indulging in endless self pitty.
Saxnot
30-10-2007, 13:39
I was pretty sure I'd be dead by now, so I reckon I'm doing well. :p

Good uni, course I enjoy, lovely girlfriend, having enough money to eat, living in the west... yeah, it's pretty good.
Peepelonia
30-10-2007, 13:40
Shit yeah it is. Mind you you I really have never given much thought to what I expect outa life.
Nadkor
30-10-2007, 15:09
I've never really expected my life to turn out in any way, never gave it too much though. Always just went with whatever seemed a good idea at the time.
Hamilay
30-10-2007, 15:25
I'm too young either to have had my life 'turn out' to any great degree, and the only time I really considered what I was going to do was when I was asked what I wanted to be when I grew up when I was younger. To which I thought I was incredibly witty for replying 'millionaire' always. Unfortunately that doesn't look like it's going to happen. Recently I gave more thought to it, but it's too early to tell. It seems to be going satisfactorily though.
Infinite Revolution
30-10-2007, 15:48
pretty much as expected, i'm still utterly directionless and if it wasn't for my complete lack of motivation i'd be a drifter. probably when my friends eventually leave edinburgh in pursuit of career advancement or whatever i will leave too and then the drifting will begin.
Dundee-Fienn
30-10-2007, 15:52
Well aren't you a cheery bunch!

If you're so incredibly lucky and privileged you can afford to haunt NSG, you ought to be ashamed of yourselves if you can't think of anything better to do than indulging in endless self pitty.

Someone said something similar to me after I had to drop out of university due to depression.

I still think they were an ass
Vectrova
30-10-2007, 16:03
People tend to be. Claiming the moral high ground tends to make one feel righteous regardless of the actual situation.


That said, it really hasn't. One doesn't usually tend to anticipate things that always seem to get progressively worse as one move on at the most inopportune moments. I've never felt a reason to be happy in quite sometime.
Neesika
30-10-2007, 16:34
My life is going where I want it now...that I've gotten rid of my husband. No, he's not dead.
The blessed Chris
30-10-2007, 16:36
No. It's consistenly fallen short of my expectations for 18 years, and I see little reason why that should alter in the years to come.
Longhaul
30-10-2007, 16:43
No. It's consistenly fallen short of my expectations for 18 years, and I see little reason why that should alter in the years to come.
Perhaps you should consider altering your expectations?

(note to TbC - there was no particular reason for me picking your post over any of the others, other than that it was the most recent of the negative comments on this thread and that it was nicely quotable.)
Peepelonia
30-10-2007, 16:51
No. It's consistenly fallen short of my expectations for 18 years, and I see little reason why that should alter in the years to come.


Heheh and you call your self the blessed Chris? Damn, me change it , change it to Marvin or summit!
The blessed Chris
30-10-2007, 17:04
Heheh and you call your self the blessed Chris? Damn, me change it , change it to Marvin or summit!

Marvin's the only good thing about that film. The only thing which was true to the book.
The blessed Chris
30-10-2007, 17:06
Perhaps you should consider altering your expectations?

(note to TbC - there was no particular reason for me picking your post over any of the others, other than that it was the most recent of the negative comments on this thread and that it was nicely quotable.)

No. Not a hope. I intend to do my utmost to avoid becoming a suburban blur in a middle of the road car with a middle of the road house; if doing so means I have to aim as high as possible and fall a little short, I'd rather do so than aim lower than my ability allows.
Dundee-Fienn
30-10-2007, 17:07
No. Not a hope. I intend to do my utmost to avoid becoming a suburban blur in a middle of the road car with a middle of the road house; if doing so means I have to aim as high as possible and fall a little short, I'd rather do so than aim lower than my ability allows.

Although I don't agree with your reasons I do agree with your aim
Longhaul
30-10-2007, 17:20
No. Not a hope. I intend to do my utmost to avoid becoming a suburban blur in a middle of the road car with a middle of the road house; if doing so means I have to aim as high as possible and fall a little short, I'd rather do so than aim lower than my ability allows.
I can understand wanting to avoid becoming part of the homogenised mass that populates so much of this country, but you really should try to break free of the mindset that brings you such gems as 'aim as high as possible' and 'aim lower than my ability allows'. The whole metaphor is flawed, encouraging as it does a sense of linearity between high and low, and making no allowance for people who simply like to go about things in a different way.

I didn't really put that across very well, but I know what I meant... try to imagine somebody whose aims are 'higher, and a bit off to the side', and you might see what I'm getting at. Not that it matters, of course, since we each steer our own path.

Although I don't agree with your reasons I do agree with your aim
If the aim that you refer to is to avoid becoming just another statistic, comfortably within the majority groupings for whatever aspect of society is being 'analysed' at the time, then so do I. :)
The blessed Chris
30-10-2007, 17:21
Although I don't agree with your reasons I do agree with your aim

I felt my reasons would find little sympathy, but all the same, I see little point lowering my ambitions.
Dundee-Fienn
30-10-2007, 17:24
I felt my reasons would find little sympathy, but all the same, I see little point lowering my ambitions.

I don't really care (negatively or positively) about your reasons. Mine are simply different than yours. I'm assuming from your post that you are predominantly seeking material wealth. Correct me if i'm wrong
Similization
30-10-2007, 17:26
Someone said something similar to me after I had to drop out of university due to depression.

I still think they were an assSomeone said something very similar to me, after he'd dropped out of uni. I told him to quit hanging around internet fora and get some professional help instead. Because he was lucky enough to be able to afford such luxuries, and I really couldn't be arsed to feel sorry for him when millions die of poverty each year.
Isidoor
30-10-2007, 17:28
no, at the moment it's a lot better than I thought a few weeks ago. In one week I got new shoes, I rented a room so now I live in the city (not living there is a huge social handicap) and I met a very cool girl, we fluffled a lot and are probably going to meet again tomorrow.
Dundee-Fienn
30-10-2007, 17:31
Someone said something very similar to me, after he'd dropped out of uni. I told him to quit hanging around internet fora and get some professional help instead. Because he was lucky enough to be able to afford such luxuries, and I really couldn't be arsed to feel sorry for him when millions die of poverty each year.

You assume it was his choice to be in that situation and that he could simply choose to change. You also assume he would want someone to feel sorry for him rather than wanting not to be judged for it. Having it good, financially, does not make all of ones life perfect
Cabra West
30-10-2007, 17:44
My life is going where I want it now...that I've gotten rid of my husband. No, he's not dead.

Then why did you bury him in the basement? :eek:
The blessed Chris
30-10-2007, 17:55
I don't really care (negatively or positively) about your reasons. Mine are simply different than yours. I'm assuming from your post that you are predominantly seeking material wealth. Correct me if i'm wrong

Yes and no. I'd be lying if I said material wealth doesn't inspire me a little; I want to be able to live comfortably, and live, eat and holiday well, but genuine riches a la Branson, by the same measure, have no attraction for me. It's not unlike the now dying French notion of being anonymously wealthy; welathy enough to live without great worry, but not so wealthy as to attract attention. That said, my objection to suburbia is also more philosophical in nature; having manned tills at a number of shops, I'm always shocked by the apparent prosaic nature of so many people. The more anonymously suburban they are, the more this is apparent, and I've never been comfortable either with anti-intellectualism, or a lack of interest in the academic.
The blessed Chris
30-10-2007, 17:58
Someone said something very similar to me, after he'd dropped out of uni. I told him to quit hanging around internet fora and get some professional help instead. Because he was lucky enough to be able to afford such luxuries, and I really couldn't be arsed to feel sorry for him when millions die of poverty each year.

Meh. I'll be honest, I'm much to self-absorbed and happily western to care excessively about that. If you extend that logic to its conclusion, no concern of ours is remotely relevant since another always has it worse off; this may be philosophically compelling, but when you're sitting alone in a room feeling desolate, it isn't quite the same as a friendly word.
ClodFelter
30-10-2007, 18:26
It seems like most people here haven't given a lot of thought to their future. People either choose insanely low goals, or insanely high goals. High goals are glorified in our society, but they aren't good. The higher your goal is, the more work you have to do and the bigger risks you have to take. Most people who say they want to be worth a million dollars would be just as happy if they where worth half a million, there's no reason to put twice as much effort into it when there's no real reward.

I feel like there's something wrong with me because I am always thinking and worrying about my future. I'm the only freshman that ever shows up to career seminars on campus. In one incident, I was the only STUDENT at a lecture that was supposed to be for students, but was filled with parents instead. The last time I saw a tour group, the tour group had about 15 parents and 2 kids. Why would the parents tour the college and leave the kids at home? This was on a saturday, no school. Do the kids just not care if the parent chooses their college for them? If my parents did that to me I'd be so angry.
ClodFelter
30-10-2007, 18:34
Someone said something very similar to me, after he'd dropped out of uni. I told him to quit hanging around internet fora and get some professional help instead. Because he was lucky enough to be able to afford such luxuries, and I really couldn't be arsed to feel sorry for him when millions die of poverty each year.I was trying to ignore this post before, but I can't. How come the only way to earn your pity is to suffer more than a dying person? That's stupid.
ClodFelter
30-10-2007, 18:41
Depressed people have to pay someone to feel sorry for them. That's not good.
Dundee-Fienn
30-10-2007, 18:43
Depressed people have to pay someone to feel sorry for them. That's not good.

What counsellors do you know? :confused:
ClodFelter
30-10-2007, 18:44
I had to go to counsellors for most of my childhood. I hated it. They just want your money.
Dundee-Fienn
30-10-2007, 18:47
Title says it all.. I've gotta say may life is turning out just how I expected, but then I was a very depressed child...

I'm doing the course I wanted to, i've got a great group of friends, I love my hobbies, I have a great girl, etc. All in all i'm pretty damn happy with the way my life has turned out and it matches up with my optimistic expectations I suppose
Peepelonia
30-10-2007, 18:50
I had to go to counsellors for most of my childhood. I hated it. They just want your money.

I guess you must be American then?
Shikou
30-10-2007, 18:58
Well it was, and now my past has come to haunt me. So as soon as I deal with this then life will be better again, I hope, :headbang:
ClodFelter
30-10-2007, 19:46
I guess you must be American then?Yeah, I am.
Kitab Al-Ibar
30-10-2007, 20:21
Life? well, i'm 18, I can't remember anything from the first third of that, being as my earliest memory is waking up one morning when i was and realising i couldn't remember what happened the day before or anything before that, everything i had been taught i remembered and my name etc, but no actual memories.

Which leaves 12 years, well, for the 11 of those i just played to my strenghts, studied what i was good at. A year ago that pretty much changed, was bored of what i studied and let fate guide my hand, flicked open a uni prospectus, a few times, read a few courses until Environmental Science caught my eye and that was that. Got some prospecti later on that were for my year, picked Brighton and somehow knew i would end up here.

So, i never really had a solid plan until the last year and since then it's come out exactly as expected. I have a type of belief in a sort of fate and so i don't really plan the future, i just kind of flow towards inevitability, and for some reason, that used to really bother me, but it doesn't anymore.
Nadkor
30-10-2007, 20:45
My life is going where I want it now...that I've gotten rid of my husband. No, he's not dead.

http://www.dr-dre.com/images/pics/misc/2.jpg

HOLD UP!

What?
Dalmatia Cisalpina
30-10-2007, 23:09
My life hasn't turned out how I expected it to. There have been good points and bad points. Everything I have experienced has shaped me, and I would not be who I am if I hadn't experienced these moments.
There is no way to tell if life is turning out the way you expected. Your expectations in life change from year to year.
But maybe I'm just really reflective right now.
Newbus
30-10-2007, 23:20
:sniper::gundge:I thought i'd be dead by now so i'm making good progress in my thought...:mp5::p
Nuevo Nihongo
30-10-2007, 23:50
Life is what happens to you while youwait for your ship to come in ...and every one knows that the ship was the Titanic!
Soviestan
31-10-2007, 21:04
Its merely turned out differently. When I was younger I thought I was going to be a career soldier. That didn't happen, thankfully.