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Has anyone else ever had dads, or know dads who think that all guys think about is sex? Am I the only person who hates this stereotype? My girlfriend's dad still thinks that all I think about is sex and I want to get my girlfriend in the sack as soon as possible. This stereotype is just annoying because I feel like until he gets over this stereotype and realize the truth, then he's not going to trust me that much with his daughter. How did this stereotype even get started? Meh beside the overprotective dad issues though, my relationship is going great and I really am enjoying every minute of it. She really is an amazing woman. :)

Not true. We also think about sports and violent videogames.

I'm guessing those fathers are thinking about what they wanted to do to their girlfriends when they were your age.

Because that's most likely what the dad or a majority of his buddies thought or talked about during his younger days.

edit: beaten to it :(

Not true. We also think about sports and violent videogames.

LOl, very true. However this and the original OP claim of the stereotype is basically true for the late teen male. I think once one crosses into adult manhood those things go by the side because other priorities arise such as making money to support ones self.

Rhode island law says that while women are just as likely to stalk men as men are to stalk women, women are much less likely to become violent. In other words, both sexes are horny and sometimes creepy, but one of them is more dangerous.

It's a stereotype because there's more than a grain of truth to it, especially at a certain age. Of course, although there isn't the same stereotype, the same often applies to women as well.

LOl, very true. However this and the original OP claim of the stereotype is basically true for the late teen male. I think once one crosses into adult manhood those things go by the side because other priorities arise such as making money to support ones self.

Based on experience, I would say this ventures into the 20's as well. Some men grow up around the age of 26, but I know many personally who keep the drive as long as 28-30.

It's bullshit. It should be "all people think about is sex." I've been told that women think about sex as much as, if not more than, men do, it's just that society has this unfair double standard that labels them "sluts" if they admit it, so they keep it inside more often.

LOl, very true. However this and the original OP claim of the stereotype is basically true for the late teen male. I think once one crosses into adult manhood those things go by the side because other priorities arise such as making money to support ones self.

Heh, I'm 24, and I still love to go for a good swim/bike ride, and enjoy my violent videogames as much as I used to.

I just don't have as much time to do it as often as I used to, but I still think about it :P

*thinks about sex*

Am I the only person who hates this stereotype?

Its not your standard stereotype, it happens to be true. Speaking as a 24 year old male, its pretty much all I think about. Although violent videogames and sports do get occasional face time, but nothing in comparison. If this isnt true for you, you might want to either

a) go through puberty

or

b) reconsider whether or not your gay


/not that theres anything wrong...

It's bullshit. It should be "all people think about is sex." I've been told that women think about sex as much as, if not more than, men do, it's just that society has this unfair double standard that labels them "sluts" if they admit it, so they keep it inside more often.Also women don't rape men very often, so no one needs to warn their son about dating a sex crazed teenage women.

It undoubtedly came from all the reinforcement of sex, the supposed vulnerability women have, and the fact that he doesn't trust you and needs an excuse.


The stereotype itself comes from how the brain develops its pre-frontal lobes last and how the reproductive organs and the hormones that drive them (supposedly) have free reign until 21 or thereabouts.


That said, it's good to see you have good relations outside of that one factor.

Sometimes I think about being with a woman purely for love, but then I slap myself and go find some drunken whores.

I think I'll go watch porn now.

Not true. We also think about sports and violent videogames.

*nods*

Not to mention all the fighting, competition, revenge we think about. :cool:

I think I'll go watch porn now.

Way ahead of ya'.

It should be "all people think about is sex."

Indeed--at least if "people" is restricted to "most people."

Has anyone else ever had dads, or know dads who think that all guys think about is sex? Am I the only person who hates this stereotype? My girlfriend's dad still thinks that all I think about is sex and I want to get my girlfriend in the sack as soon as possible. This stereotype is just annoying because I feel like until he gets over this stereotype and realize the truth, then he's not going to trust me that much with his daughter. How did this stereotype even get started? Meh beside the overprotective dad issues though, my relationship is going great and I really am enjoying every minute of it. She really is an amazing woman. :)
The stereotype does not lack a basis. Men from puberty on to about thirty or so with sex drives do tend to think a lot about sex...I'm reasonably certain it's an instinct to try to get us to keep reproducing. Obviously it's irritating for those of us who try not to be horny bags of hornyflesh walking around all horny like.

Wow, this is pretty messed up. I'm 15 (about the age where the stereotype starts to apply) and it pops into my head every so often, usually when one of my classmates with an unsafely low IQ starts jabbering about it. Then again, it may just be the whole "Minnesota Nice" thing that keeps it out of our area.

Or the fact that the fathers of teenage women in the midwest like to clean their rifles and shotguns in the presence of their daughter's boyfriend.

I think I'll go with the latter.

It's irritating and reductive. If all I thought about was sex, even as a teen, then I would never have gotten anything done.

Not being funny, but this stereotype is completely and utterly incorrect, as well as annoying. Most of the blokes that I come across are certainly not thinking about sex all the time, there are other things we think about, as others have said, sports and so on. All that the father of the OPs girlfriend is concerned about is his daughter, and I suppose he uses the stereotype to justify his concern.

Anyways, I'll go think about something (and it is not about sex)

It's very inaccurate and should be extended to 'most people'. I rarely think about sex, much more often think about other people who I may or may not find attractive, but I don't think that equates to thinking about sex.

Obviously it's irritating for those of us who try not to be horny bags of hornyflesh walking around all horny like.

Sigged, big guy. :D

Also women don't rape men very often, so no one needs to warn their son about dating a sex crazed teenage women.

NOT TRUE! I lived in Missouri (!) a while back, and found a favorite timekiller in browsing thru the sex offenders list (scary enough, I was working with one of them at the time! A PASTOR). I was amazed at just how many women were guilty of molestation, and there were even a couple of rapes strewn about!

I'll make a plea in advance: no "where can I find girls like THESE?" jokes. Trust me. They raped for a REASON.

Not to mention a friend of my brother's, who makes it her maxim to get his friends drunk so she can "take advantage" of them (you see, she's not exactly "soberworthy").

So it's not just us male piggies.

I'm trying not to stereotype here, speaking only from personal experience, but in my experience it has always been the case that girls actually think about sex a lot more than boys.

I'm trying not to stereotype here, speaking only from personal experience, but in my experience it has always been the case that girls actually think about sex a lot more than boys.

Are you a male or a female? If you're a female, than your contribution to the thread is most informative. If you're a MALE, you watch too much porn.

I'm trying not to stereotype here, speaking only from personal experience of watching porn, but in my experience it has always been the case that girls actually think about sex a lot more than boys.

It's bullshit. It should be "all people think about is sex." I've been told that women think about sex as much as, if not more than, men do, it's just that society has this unfair double standard that labels them "sluts" if they admit it, so they keep it inside more often.

That's right. *shakes fist at society and nature*

So.... how long do you think it will be before Chandelier shows up? :D

In Soviet Russia, sex thinks about you!

It's irritating and reductive. If all I thought about was sex, even as a teen, then I would never have gotten anything done.the word is "multitasking" :D

Has anyone else ever had dads, or know dads who think that all guys think about is sex? Am I the only person who hates this stereotype? My girlfriend's dad still thinks that all I think about is sex and I want to get my girlfriend in the sack as soon as possible. This stereotype is just annoying because I feel like until he gets over this stereotype and realize the truth, then he's not going to trust me that much with his daughter. How did this stereotype even get started? Meh beside the overprotective dad issues though, my relationship is going great and I really am enjoying every minute of it. She really is an amazing woman. :)
It's called "projection."

Fathers who are sexist, sex-crazed jackasses, and who remember how lousy they have treated women, will frequently assume that all men are equally lousy toward women. This is usually because the jackasses want an excuse for their jackassery, so they try to blame it on their maleness. "Boys will be boys" and whatnot. The reality, of course, is that plenty of male people are not jackasses and don't treat women in lousy ways, but just try telling that to a jackass.

It's called "projection."

Fathers who are sexist, sex-crazed jackasses, and who remember how lousy they have treated women, will frequently assume that all men are equally lousy toward women. This is usually because the jackasses want an excuse for their jackassery, so they try to blame it on their maleness. "Boys will be boys" and whatnot. The reality, of course, is that plenty of male people are not jackasses and don't treat women in lousy ways, but just try telling that to a jackass.


Or it could be just a protective father dealing with teenage boys.

Or it could be just a protective father dealing with teenage boys.
I had a protective father, and he dealt with teenage boys a lot (seeing as how most of my friends were teenage boys at one time or another). Yet he managed to never pull the "guys only think about one thing" crap. Probably because my father isn't a sexist, a jackass, or a man with a history of treating women like cum dumpsters. :D

A father who talks about how "boys only think about one thing" is lying. He's telling his child an untruth, and he's being profoundly sexist while doing it. Maybe he is motivated by protectiveness, but his actions are not protective. Rather, they are profoundly counterproductive and harmful to his child.

I had a protective father, and he dealt with teenage boys a lot (seeing as how most of my friends were teenage boys at one time or another). Yet he managed to never pull the "guys only think about one thing" crap. Probably because my father isn't a sexist, a jackass, or a man with a history of treating women like cum dumpsters. :D

A father who talks about how "boys only think about one thing" is lying. He's telling his child an untruth, and he's being profoundly sexist while doing it. Maybe he is motivated by protectiveness, but his actions are not protective. Rather, they are profoundly counterproductive and harmful to his child.

Well perhaps but perhaps not. It is a truth that the majority of teenage boys think about sex, want to have sex, and would let the quest for sex overcloud their better judgment from time to time.

I would also argue about the damage done to the child, perhaps in some case yes, but not in all.

The question I would ask would be, is it just a case of the dad remembering his teenage years?

I don’t know how it works in USA, but here it’s not the business of any father about what a boy is doing with his daughter.

When a girl is 15 or 16 years old, she is the one who will decide if she’s fucakble or not.

I don’t know how it works in USA, but here it’s not the business of any father about what a boy is doing with his daughter.

When a girl is 15 or 16 years old, she is the one who will decide if she’s fucakble or not.

I also do not know how it works in the USA, but here in the UK parents are still able to use the good old 'under my roof' law, with their teenage kids.

Which goes something like, 'while you live under my roof, you'll obey my rules'. which mean of course that even if your teenage daughter is 19, it's still your business.

Has anyone else ever had dads, or know dads who think that all guys think about is sex? Am I the only person who hates this stereotype? My girlfriend's dad still thinks that all I think about is sex and I want to get my girlfriend in the sack as soon as possible. This stereotype is just annoying because I feel like until he gets over this stereotype and realize the truth, then he's not going to trust me that much with his daughter. How did this stereotype even get started? Meh beside the overprotective dad issues though, my relationship is going great and I really am enjoying every minute of it. She really is an amazing woman. :)

I've always considered that extremely unfair.
After all, all I think about is sex. And so do most girls I know ;)

now come on, wilgrove, youve been dating this girl a month and you dont THINK about having sex with her?

thats not the same as acting on it. its just thinking.

(sane) parents worry not so much that their (underage) daughter's boyfriend is thinking about sex but that he will push her to HAVE sex when she otherwise would choose not to. which tends to be something that they should worry about.

You are male,you thing about sex just as much as the rest of us.about every 6 seconds,i heard. :)

Please...guys think or feel about sex all the time, it's in their genes. The question is: Can they control that impulse? and yeah, I think we can. Young or old. Young's just harder, the feelings are newer and being gotten used to. It's no surprise that 95% of all American males in puberty and beyond masterbate daily or that male orientated TV and movies and products have a heavy sexual element. Women feel pretty much the same, it's just that they project and display it differently. Me, I think about sex or find myself feeling unfocused "horniness" when watching guys out in the world all the time but I don't let it get in the way and I can differentiate between love and lust. The two have very little in common beyond the basics. The probelm with sexuality is when there is no connection with morality or self-control, that leads to dangerous behaviors and situations.
and rape has little to do with sex at all...it goes beyond that into violence and attacking someone at their most vulnerable mental and physical
Serial rapists don't rape to "get off", they get off because it's a reaction to what's really going on in their mind while they're raping. That's why they're so very very sick and dangerous.

Pff.

Sometimes I waited for a month, 2 months or even 3.

Sometimes I just had sex the same evening I met her.

Males onmly thinking about sex? Nonsense!

Now, if you'll excuse me, I have a horny catgirl to make out with~

Every 7 minutes, I don't think about sex.

In Soviet Russia, sex thinks about you!

Ohhh, it's funny because it's true!

http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/europe/6990802.stm

Stop thinking, start doing :D

As a girl I can tell you it's quite true that we think about sex just as much, and sometimes more than guys do... and we get away with more peeking too.
Oh the joys of peripheral vision!
:p :fluffle:
We're just a lot quieter & sneakier about it.
;)

Sigged, big guy. :D

I knew you'd love that. :D

Women think about sex, uh, often too, it just starts at a later age. When I was dating what would end up being my wife, she was 24, and after we had *finally* had sex for the first time, it was like a dam gave way. Three times a day on Saturday and Sunday, no exceptions, except when she wanted it four times. We mostly saw each other on the weekends, or week-night family functions (I lived about an hour away), so I got a whole week to reload.

Sometimes I was real happy to see Sunday night arrive.

Not true. We also think about sports and violent videogames.

and beer, Beer, BEER!

Some guys ARE only interested in sex. Others are not. It depends on the person. Assuming that you are being honest here, I'm guessing that you are not only interested in sex, that you actually care about her.

I don't really have any advice. I haven't known any parents who were that overprotective. Mine certainly aren't.

Hmm. I think thinking about sex is a great way to distract oneself... thinking about how the woman of my choice (tm) is not here with me makes me go crazy, thinking about what we might be doing is... relaxing.
And that doesn't even mean having sex is the reason I'd like her to be here, but "thinking about the great conversations we might have" just doesn't really work.

As for my opinion on the stereotype... meh, it's kind of pointless. It overgeneralizes (all/always), has the wrong subject (boys instead of people), and once you have made all corrections it says "many people often think about sex". Well, duh.

"many people often think about sex". Well, duh.

QFE

Ohhh, it's funny because it's true!

http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/europe/6990802.stm

Thanks for pointing out the connection, you have amused me.

she was 24, and after we had *finally* had sex for the first time, it was like a dam gave way. Three times a day on Saturday and Sunday, no exceptions, except when she wanted it four times. We mostly saw each other on the weekends, or week-night family functions (I lived about an hour away), so I got a whole week to reload.

Yay!

Has anyone else ever had dads, or know dads who think that all guys think about is sex? Am I the only person who hates this stereotype? My girlfriend's dad still thinks that all I think about is sex and I want to get my girlfriend in the sack as soon as possible. This stereotype is just annoying because I feel like until he gets over this stereotype and realize the truth, then he's not going to trust me that much with his daughter. How did this stereotype even get started? Meh beside the overprotective dad issues though, my relationship is going great and I really am enjoying every minute of it. She really is an amazing woman. :)

Because when he went out with girls all he thought about was getting them in the sack.

Because when he went out with girls all he thought about was getting them in the sack.


;)i think you're right - my dad was always mega protective and used to say that old cliche that 'boys were only ever after one thing'. Later, I thought there must be something a little wrong with his math. The boys were after a heck of a lot more than one thing! So men think about sex a lot? It's not a revelation, it's biology. Women think about it a lot, too. A stereo-type is a stereo-type because there's a little bit of truth in it and a few bad apples reinforced the idea until it stuck.

Don't take it personally, it's just like a rite of passage and the over-protective dad thing has been happening since the beginning of time. I have no doubt that one day, if you are indeed blessed with a daughter or two of your own, you'll have your own special way of making a bf feel like he's just not good enough for your darling girl. :D

We also think about sports and violent videogames, and most importantly how in the world to combine them lol

I've always considered that extremely unfair.
After all, all I think about is sex. And so do most girls I know ;)

really? i like them already LULZ!

Women think about sex, uh, often too, it just starts at a later age. When I was dating what would end up being my wife, she was 24, and after we had *finally* had sex for the first time, it was like a dam gave way. Three times a day on Saturday and Sunday, no exceptions, except when she wanted it four times. We mostly saw each other on the weekends, or week-night family functions (I lived about an hour away), so I got a whole week to reload.

Sometimes I was real happy to see Sunday night arrive.

does she have a sister?;)

I certainly haven't had a relationship where sex wasn't the first reason for initiating. I'm only 21, so long term companionship, commitments and joint accounts are still quite far from my mind.

We also think about sports and violent videogames, and most importantly how in the world to combine them lol

yeah, how to combine them with each other AND sex!

yeah, how to combine them with each other AND sex!

I'm a fan of keeping sex and violence separate.

I'm a fan of keeping sex and violence separate.

agreed!

and beer, Beer, BEER!

Watching sport and drinking beer then having/thinking about sex.

Perhaps the perfect lifestlye to be repeated every single damn day.

Has anyone else ever had dads, or know dads who think that all guys think about is sex? Am I the only person who hates this stereotype? My girlfriend's dad still thinks that all I think about is sex and I want to get my girlfriend in the sack as soon as possible. This stereotype is just annoying because I feel like until he gets over this stereotype and realize the truth, then he's not going to trust me that much with his daughter. How did this stereotype even get started? Meh beside the overprotective dad issues though, my relationship is going great and I really am enjoying every minute of it. She really is an amazing woman. :)

5 pages, and I'm the first to suggest a possibility unrelated to sex. . .

Isn't it possible that dad just wants to hold onto the fact that he's the most important male in his daughter's life a little longer? I don't have a daughter, but I have to say it must be pretty awesome to have someone in your life who thinks, for however brief a time, that you're the pinnacle of what it means to be a man; by the same token, it must really hurt when she starts looking at someone else that way.

5 pages, and I'm the first to suggest a possibility unrelated to sex. . .

Isn't it possible that dad just wants to hold onto the fact that he's the most important male in his daughter's life a little longer? I don't have a daughter, but I have to say it must be pretty awesome to have someone in your life who thinks, for however brief a time, that you're the pinnacle of what it means to be a man; by the same token, it must really hurt when she starts looking at someone else that way.

Meh, yea, but he had 20 years to be the pinnacle of manhood, now it's my turn.

I'm a fan of keeping sex and violence separate.

;) true - I meant the video games, not so much the violence

Meh, yea, but he had 20 years to be the pinnacle of manhood, now it's my turn.

:D so one day when some guy starts dating your daughter, you'll just look at him and say, "I've had 20 years to be the pinnacle of manhood in her life, now it's yours." Yeah right!:p

I'm a fan of keeping sex and violence separate.

Me too, but if both parties are into that sort of thing, then I say they should enjoy it!

Has anyone else ever had dads, or know dads who think that all guys think about is sex? Am I the only person who hates this stereotype? My girlfriend's dad still thinks that all I think about is sex and I want to get my girlfriend in the sack as soon as possible. This stereotype is just annoying because I feel like until he gets over this stereotype and realize the truth, then he's not going to trust me that much with his daughter. How did this stereotype even get started? Meh beside the overprotective dad issues though, my relationship is going great and I really am enjoying every minute of it. She really is an amazing woman. :)

Projection!

It's fun for me and you,
good for goose and gander too.
My problems become yours,
and I double-lock all the doors.

Projection! It starts out with me,
becomes my all-consuming view.
Overprotection! Safe you'll always be,
my fears take over all of you.

I feel insecure with myself,
so I worry about your health.
Please have some chicken soup,
tomorrow join a sappy church group.

My child don't need a life to break,
I fret about what you want to take.
Remembering my own weakness,
painful memories of my freakiness.

Projection! It starts out with me,
becomes my all-consuming view.
Overprotection! Safe you'll always be,
my fears take over all of you.

Don't you move on your own,
I'll feel so scared if you're alone.
My problems become yours,
and I double-lock all the doors.

For me, it depends on the person. If it's someone I wanted a real relationship with, sex plays near no part.