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have you had sex with? Before the age of 20? The poll is not public, so no need to lie ;)

So far. 0

But I am not there just yet.

I've never had sex. And I don't plan on doing so. I'm in love with someone, but I would not have sex with her because I feel it would be wrong. Also, I would not have sex with any other person, even though she has no feelings for me and probably never will.

I've never had sex. And I don't plan on doing so. I'm in love with someone, but I would not have sex with her because I feel it would be wrong. Also, I would not have sex with any other person, even though she has no feelings for me and probably never will.

Are you waiting for marriage? If you are waiting for that time are you engaged?

Before 20? three. I think. It's kinda hard to tell, ages 19 through 23 all kinda blurred into each other.

Happily waiting for marriage. It's good to find someone who will respect your choices. :fluffle:

I'm 22 and have had sex with 1 person...whom I've been with for 6 wonderful years now :)

So far, it's 0. I'm 18 now.

Before age 20? None. I was a late starter. ;)

Actually slept with, before turning 20: two.

Why "Before turning 20"? :confused:

have you had sex with? Before the age of 20? The poll is not public, so no need to lie ;)

Define "sex". Do hand- and blowjobs count for instance ?

Happily waiting for marriage. It's good to find someone who will respect your choices. :fluffle:
Same with me. That, or because I am a prude.

Before turning 20, none. After turning 20, I've only had sex with one guy and that lucky bastard is now my husband.

Before turning 20, 4.

Hahahahahah! Virgins everywhere! Unlucky!

I firmly don't believe in sex after marriage, but I'm not just meaning one night stands and such. My current girlfriend and I have been together for two years and we love each other very much. This does not mean our sexual relationship is anything short of spectacular, though. So, I don't really see when your in a long relationship, how waiting for marriage really matters at all.

1 (who I am still with almost 3 years later)

I got married when I was 18.

4, first was when i was 21 i think. unfortunately i've regretted every single one. one night stands are just not for me.

Define "sex". Do hand- and blowjobs count for instance ?

No, that's messing around. Tity fucks dont count neither. Only pussy fucking counts...

No, that's messing around. Tity fucks dont count neither. Only pussy fucking counts...

Anal isn't sex?

No, that's messing around. Tity fucks dont count neither. Only pussy fucking counts...

In that case: 0 before twenty.

One, but I've still got a few years left...

No, that's messing around. Tity fucks dont count neither. Only pussy fucking counts...

So what about gays and lesbians?

3

So what about gays and lesbians?

Ass fucking for gays and for lesbians...uhhh....fingering? strap-on fucking? I think the threshold for lesbians are oral sex and fingering...

Ass fucking for gays and for lesbians...uhhh....fingering? strap-on fucking? I think the threshold for lesbians are oral sex and fingering...

So anal sex, mutual masturbation, and oral sex between heterosexuals doesn't count?

And despite what mainstream porn taught you, most lesbians don't use strap-ons.

None: girls hate me. </angsty teenager>

None: girls hate me. </angsty teenager>

Go to gym and get rid of zits...

Just the one. I don't really care for relationships or sex. People get so needy, and try to turn me into a surrogate mother. This I do not like. At least not when that person is a legal adult or I'm having a relationship with them or both.

No, that's messing around. Tity fucks dont count neither. Only pussy fucking counts...

in that case, just 2.

Why "Before turning 20"? :confused:
Because I found the "before the age of 20" a tiny bit confusing as to if 20 was included or not and wanted to be extra exact.

Unlike other people:
4, first was when i was 21 i think.
:p

Too many.
Rarely did I regret the actual sex. What I regret is that at that age I didn't have to confidence to tell more guys "no." They wouldn't like me. They'd think I was scared. They'd think I was a prude. Or uncool. Whatever.

Because I found the "before the age of 20" a tiny bit confusing as to if 20 was included or not and wanted to be extra exact.

Unlike other people:

:p

my memory doesn't allow me to be any more precise. all i rememebr is that it was the halloween i dressed as a zombie :p

Oops, missed the 20 or younger part... then it was 3 or 4. Now after 6 years of swinging, it's 20+ though we are picky about who we play with.

Still a virgin, waiting for marriage. I don't approve of sex before marriage, but those people who have been in a long-term relationship with someone and love them deeply... they're married in all but name.

my memory doesn't allow me to be any more precise. all i rememebr is that it was the halloween i dressed as a zombie :p
No, sweetie. I wasn't talking about the "I think" part, I was talking about the "first when I was 21" part. :rolleyes::p

No, sweetie. I wasn't talking about the "I think" part, I was talking about the "first when I was 21" part. :rolleyes::p

ah well, i guess i should have voted zero. didn't really read the OP though.

I'm 18, and 4. One of which was at Reading last weekend, which is a little hazy I must admit.:(

3 so far, at 17.

I got married when I was 18.

Hows that working out for you?

I'm in love with someone, but I would not have sex with her because I feel it would be wrong

...

Before 20, 8.

I've got 7 more months until I'm 20, anyway.

Well, I'm 18, and it's a big 0 for me.

Have I wanted to? Hell yeah. But, it's kind of hard to get laid without at least having one date, which is something that has curiously eluded.

As for the 2 girls who I tried dating, one was too busy and so just ignored me. And the other, despite the fact that we had been very close friends for years, our friendship just very recently died. She's changed so much in just a year, and now she can hardly stand to even be around me. The most ironic thing of all? Her favorite song used to be "Fallen Angel", by Poison. It's so apropos, it's not funny.

my memory doesn't allow me to be any more precise. all i rememebr is that it was the halloween i dressed as a zombie :pZombie sex. Kinky - first we have sex and then I eat your brains!

Zombie sex. Kinky - first we have sex and then I eat your brains!

heh! i just wish i could remember more about it.

heh! i just wish i could remember more about it.I'm guessing she probably ate some of your brains then. Was it a she or a he? But more importantly - did you use protection? You don't to get infected with ZIV.

Hows that working out for you?

better than you would expect.

Well, if I were to count all the people I've slept with on my fingers, I'd have to cut off my fingers to show the exact number.

Before the age of 20?

Four

I was a bit of a late bloomer, not doing the deed until I was ensconced in the free-sex environment of college and fraternity (The Undergrad Years).

There is nothing on earth like getting trashed at a party and being able to tell a girl, "Hey, man, I live here."

The room is beginning to spin; you cannot speak very well, make sense, etc.; you're sweating your ass off; you look like crap, basically; you are unable to keep your balance, so dancing is out of the question; and yet you are able, somehow, to convince a woman to stay with you.

In no other situation would I have gotten any on such evenings -- me, drunk off my ass, not making any sense, etc. -- but when I was able to honestly add the sentence "I live here"... those were the magic words.

"Oh, really? Do you, like, have a stereo?"
"Better -- I have a guitar."

Those were the days.

I cannot believe so many people were virgins before 20.

Or are a lot of under-20s voting, and committing to virginity?

I cannot believe so many people were virgins before 20.

Or are a lot of under-20s voting, and committing to virginity?

No-one wants to secks me.

Before the age of 20?

Four

I was a bit of a late bloomer, not doing the deed until I was ensconced in the free-sex environment of college and fraternity (The Undergrad Years).

There is nothing on earth like getting trashed at a party and being able to tell a girl, "Hey, man, I live here."

The room is beginning to spin; you cannot speak very well, make sense, etc.; you're sweating your ass off; you look like crap, basically; you are unable to keep your balance, so dancing is out of the question; and yet you are able, somehow, to convince a woman to stay with you.

In no other situation would I have gotten any on such evenings -- me, drunk off my ass, not making any sense, etc. -- but when I was able to honestly add the sentence "I live here"... those were the magic words.

"Oh, really? Do you, like, have a stereo?"
"Better -- I have a guitar."

Those were the days.

So how many during undergrad years? And how was the fraternity? Actually that sounds like a good thread topic...

Btw I'm curious about who those 20+'s are and what they look like...

16.

Why "Before turning 20"? :confused:Presumably because the OP is 20 (or so) and wants to compare.

Define "sex". Do hand- and blowjobs count for instance ?I hope so. Otherwise it's 1 for me.

No, that's messing around. Tity fucks dont count neither. Only pussy fucking counts...Make that 0.

Why would oral "sex" count?

Why would oral "sex" count?Why wouldn't it? Sex is in the term.

That's a rather personal question, I don't tend to judge people on how many lays they have had before 20..

That's a rather personal question, I don't tend to judge people on how many lays they have had before 20..So that's a 0 for you then? ;)

I'm guessing she probably ate some of your brains then. Was it a she or a he? But more importantly - did you use protection? You don't to get infected with ZIV.

that one was a he and i'm not entirely sure if we did, i was that out of it. still, i'm not a zombie at the moment so i reckon i got away with it. really stupid i know, but i was far drunker than he was.

16 years old and its one so far...

Ass fucking for gays and for lesbians...uhhh....fingering? strap-on fucking? I think the threshold for lesbians are oral sex and fingering...
I find it adorable that activities which don't count as "sex" for heterosexuals do count as sex for homosexuals, simply because some people can't think beyond the simplistic Tab-A-into-Slot-B formula.

Hint for the heteroboys: it's not always about your dick.

Some of the best heterosexual sex I've had did not involve anybody's penis being inserted into anybody's vagina. Think outside her box, please. ;)

I find it adorable that activities which don't count as "sex" for heterosexuals do count as sex for homosexuals, simply because some people can't think beyond the simplistic Tab-A-into-Slot-B formula.

Hint for the heteroboys: it's not always about your dick.

Some of the best heterosexual sex I've had did not involve anybody's penis being inserted into anybody's vagina. Think outside her box, please. ;)

:D

And despite what mainstream porn taught you, most lesbians don't use strap-ons.

I always thought that most lesbians never did anything sexual. Porn is entirely conducted by women who are of varying degrees of bisexuality. But then again, this is entirely based on the incoherent ramblings of one of my wife's college professors...

I always thought that most lesbians never did anything sexual. Porn is entirely conducted by women who are of varying degrees of bisexuality. But then again, this is entirely based on the incoherent ramblings of one of my wife's college professors...

I think I read once somewhere that once lesbians get into a long term committed relationship that they quit having sex. I don't remember where I read it though.

I think I read once somewhere that once lesbians get into a long term committed relationship that they quit having sex. I don't remember where I read it though.

See, that must have been what the incoherent ramblings were about. That and the fact that approximately 96% of all girl-on-girl sexual encounters in this country happen on camera.

I think I read once somewhere that once lesbians get into a long term committed relationship that they quit having sex. I don't remember where I read it though.
I'm willing to guess the writer was a heterosexual male.

To steal a bit from Henry Rollins, there are a lot of guys out there who can't handle the idea of a women who just isn't interested in their dick. They freak out at the thought of a woman saying, "Don't need it, don't want it, got a girlfriend, kthxbai."

Some guys think that women don't ever actually want sex, but simply use sex to barter for things they want to obtain. This is a mistake. The reality is that women don't ever want to have sex with that particular man. He is mistakenly generalizing from his personal lack of skills.

For the record, yes, lesbians have sex. Yes, we still have sex even in committed relationships. No, sex does not require a penis or penis-like object being inserted into any part of a person's body.

I think I read once somewhere that once lesbians get into a long term committed relationship that they quit having sex. I don't remember where I read it though.

I have heard of that being referred to as Lesbian Bed Death, which I always thought was a fantastic name for a band.

Im a man whore...so...

Why wouldn't it? Sex is in the term.

Oral isn't sex, it's just a sexual act.

Oral isn't sex, it's just a sexual act.

oral sex is a sexual act and therefore sex. It's not intercourse, but a lot of things aren't intercourse that count as sex.

oral sex is a sexual act and therefore sex. It's not intercourse, but a lot of things aren't intercourse that count as sex.

Well I'm going to be ignorant and deny that every sexual act is sex.

I mean, really, is a lap dance also sex?

Well I'm going to be ignorant and deny that every sexual act is sex.

I mean, really, is a lap dance also sex?

Well if in the process of said lap dance, you penis slides into either the anus or vagina, then yes.:p


Also, for the topic my final answer is C: 74

Well I'm going to be ignorant and deny that every sexual act is sex.

I mean, really, is a lap dance also sex?

:D yes.

oral sex is a sexual act and therefore sex. It's not intercourse, but a lot of things aren't intercourse that count as sex.

So is kissing. Is kissing sex?

So is kissing. Is kissing sex?
Do you have sex with your mom?

0, at 16. I didn't even have a girlfriend yet :(

Some of the best heterosexual sex I've had did not involve anybody's penis being inserted into anybody's vagina. Think outside her box, please. ;)

:eek: Please expand?

my memory doesn't allow me to be any more precise. all i rememebr is that it was the halloween i dressed as a zombie :p I got an image of you stiffly walking around with wood... in other words... a stiffy stiff with a stiffy.

:eek: Please expand? use your imagination... :D



I have to... :(

So is kissing. Is kissing sex?

:D yes. So is dancing, and holding hands, and sitting in a co-ed room.

:D yes. So is dancing, and holding hands, and sitting in a co-ed room.

... if all that is sex... then...

er...

I mean...

hmm...

nope, still 0. :(

... if all that is sex... then...

er...

I mean...

hmm...

nope, still 0. :(

*waltzes with Junii*

there, now you soiled me, are you happy?

*waltzes with Junii*

there, now you soiled me, are you happy?

SOILED???

I SOILED YOU???

LOL!!!

well sex didn't feel like I thought it would... maybe I need more experience...

care for another dance? I promise not to soil you this time. :p

So how many during undergrad years? And how was the fraternity? Actually that sounds like a good thread topic...

Nova Magna

Probably 7 or 8 during the entire four years of undergrad -- I wasn't as promiscuous as I might have made myself sound in that previous post. I had a steady girlfriend my entire senior year and didn't cheat.

The first was at age 19... so maybe 6-7 during my sophomore and junior years (combined).

SOILED???

I SOILED YOU???

LOL!!!

well sex didn't feel like I thought it would... maybe I need more experience...

care for another dance? I promise not to soil you this time. :p

I impure now, so it doesn't matter.

*dances the night away with JuNii*

15, I've gotten the clap thrice and clamydia once, needless to say I've spread the disease. I'm 19.

I impure now, so it doesn't matter.

*dances the night away with JuNii*

Yay!!! yes, now I'm happy! :D

15, I've gotten the clap thrice and clamydia once, needless to say I've spread the disease. I'm 19.

You might want to start investing in some preventive measures there. Starting with better choices in bedmates.

:D yes. So is dancing, and holding hands, and sitting in a co-ed room.

I dunno, I still feel like a virgin. I mean, my ladyfriend and I make out and all, but that only occasionally gets to something that feels like it could be called sex, and that's usually when hands are involved.

I'm guessing she probably ate some of your brains then. Was it a she or a he? But more importantly - did you use protection? You don't to get infected with ZIV.Kinda gives a whole new meaning to the expression "fucking your brains out", eh?

I dunno, I still feel like a virgin. I mean, my ladyfriend and I make out and all, but that only occasionally gets to something that feels like it could be called sex, and that's usually when hands are involved.

:eek: TMI

I dunno, I still feel like a virgin. I mean, my ladyfriend and I make out and all, but that only occasionally gets to something that feels like it could be called sex, and that's usually when hands are involved.
I strongly suggest that people not embrace the mainstream concept of virginity, in which you have your virginity until you cross one particular line and then magically you are non-virgin.

Very few people actually experience this. The overwhelming majority of us will lose our virginity a bit at a time. Also, the idiotic concept of virginity being all about whether a penis has been stuck into a vagina is ludicrously out-dated and bunk.

I strongly suggest that people not embrace the mainstream concept of virginity, in which you have your virginity until you cross one particular line and then magically you are non-virgin.

Very few people actually experience this. The overwhelming majority of us will lose our virginity a bit at a time. Also, the idiotic concept of virginity being all about whether a penis has been stuck into a vagina is ludicrously out-dated and bunk.
darn skippy.

Do you have sex with your mom?

No, only with yours.

I strongly suggest that people not embrace the mainstream concept of virginity, in which you have your virginity until you cross one particular line and then magically you are non-virgin.

Very few people actually experience this. The overwhelming majority of us will lose our virginity a bit at a time. Also, the idiotic concept of virginity being all about whether a penis has been stuck into a vagina is ludicrously out-dated and bunk.

I don't see it as some sort of purity or anything, just that... I dunno, it's hard to put into words. I mean, we haven't even seen each other in just our skins.

Nova Magna

Probably 7 or 8 during the entire four years of undergrad -- I wasn't as promiscuous as I might have made myself sound in that previous post. I had a steady girlfriend my entire senior year and didn't cheat.

The first was at age 19... so maybe 6-7 during my sophomore and junior years (combined).

I was expecting something like 50-100 :D

:confused: I hope the number of virgins in the poll is only because so many responders are under age...

crap, I'd had the clap twice by the time I was twenty...

:confused: I hope the number of virgins in the poll is only because so many responders are under age...

crap, I'd had the clap twice by the time I was twenty...

and that's something to be proud of is it?

and that's something to be proud of is it?Proud? Meh... maybe I am... But most of the nasties you could catch back then were cured by a good dose of penicillin or a good pediculicide (Guess you're not interested in how old I was when I first needed that). :D

Proud? Meh... maybe I am... But most of the nasties you could catch back then were cured by a good dose of penicillin or a good pediculicide (Guess you're not interested in how old I was when I first needed that). :D

not particularly, no.

Proud? Meh... maybe I am... But most of the nasties you could catch back then were cured by a good dose of penicillin or a good pediculicide (Guess you're not interested in how old I was when I first needed that). :DSure I am.:D

Man, I'm certainly glad this poll included "before the age of 20" otherwise I might feel like a skank. *wipes sweat from brow*

15, I've gotten the clap thrice and clamydia once, needless to say I've spread the disease. I'm 19.
Eew... I think you need to be more discriminating in your choice of sexual partners and use protection.

Over NINE THOUSAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAND
Or none, whatever

That many?

SEVEN pages in, and the majority at 61 is "virgin" ? :eek:

Oh lawdy, we're doomed.
Doomed.
or just not ready to go banging away at whatever piece of tail offers itself up to us.

have you had sex with? Before the age of 20? The poll is not public, so no need to lie ;)

Oh trip. I was thinking about that for some reason this morning.

... oh yeah, i remember now. I was thinking about tantra and techniques and such.

SEVEN pages in, and the majority at 61 is "virgin" ? :eek:

Oh lawdy, we're doomed.
Doomed.

SEVEN pages in, and the majority at 61 is "virgin" ? :eek:

Oh lawdy, we're doomed.
Doomed.
It's virgin before the age of 20, so there could be non-virgins who didn't get it on until after their 20th birthday voting in that category.

It's virgin before the age of 20, so there could be non-virgins who didn't get it on until after their 20th birthday voting in that category.

Oh .... not so doomed, perhaps then.

Actually slept with, before turning 20: two.

Yay!

...

2nded.
*nods emphatically*

Well, if I were to count all the people I've slept with on my fingers, I'd have to cut off my fingers to show the exact number.

What're you gonna do with them thar fingers, Ruffy?
I've got some ideas ...

I find it adorable that activities which don't count as "sex" for heterosexuals do count as sex for homosexuals, simply because some people can't think beyond the simplistic Tab-A-into-Slot-B formula.

Hint for the heteroboys: it's not always about your dick.

Some of the best heterosexual sex I've had did not involve anybody's penis being inserted into anybody's vagina. Think outside her box, please. ;)

Again with the sigworthiness. :D

So is kissing. Is kissing sex?

Depends on where and how, and HOW! :p

SEVEN pages in, and the majority at 61 is "virgin" ? :eek:

Oh lawdy, we're doomed.
Doomed.

Psht, we all know Im not one of those 61 losers*.


*some things I say may or may not be true.

:eek: TMI

No, no, no ... just about right!

Kaylee: I carried such a torch and we coulda.... Goin' on a year now and I ain't had nuthin' twixt my nethers that weren't run on batteries!!
Mal: Oh GOD! I can't know that!
Jayne: I could stand to hear a little more.
:D

*some things I say may or may not be true.

QFTorF. :p