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Many of you saw my other thread asking who you are, and I was hoping that your responses would answer a nagging thought that I have in my head, but they failed to do so.

Here's the skinny:

I woke up the other day and I suddenly realized that I couldn't remember who I was. I've put on so many different masks for so many different people, I don't remember who the person was underneath. My goals, ambitions, and dreams seem to have drifted off and I can't seem to find them or remember them.

My question is this:

Have you ever faced this situation, and, if so, what did you do to correct it?

Many of you saw my other thread asking who you are, and I was hoping that your responses would answer a nagging thought that I have in my head, but they failed to do so.

Here's the skinny:

I woke up the other day and I suddenly realized that I couldn't remember who I was. I've put on so many different masks for so many different people, I don't remember who the person was underneath. My goals, ambitions, and dreams seem to have drifted off and I can't seem to find them or remember them.

My question is this:

Have you ever faced this situation, and, if so, what did you do to correct it?

By taking a moment off and thinking hard about what you want?
And don't make the mistake to think those masks aren't you. They aren't something artificial, but aspects of personality.

My brain is usually still half in my dream when I wake up. Once, for a minute, I kinda though I was a human bale of hay.

Many of you saw my other thread asking who you are, and I was hoping that your responses would answer a nagging thought that I have in my head, but they failed to do so.

Here's the skinny:

I woke up the other day and I suddenly realized that I couldn't remember who I was. I've put on so many different masks for so many different people, I don't remember who the person was underneath. My goals, ambitions, and dreams seem to have drifted off and I can't seem to find them or remember them.

My question is this:

Have you ever faced this situation, and, if so, what did you do to correct it?

Are you Paris Hilton by any chance?

I woke up the other day and I suddenly realized that I couldn't remember who I was. I've put on so many different masks for so many different people, I don't remember who the person was underneath. My goals, ambitions, and dreams seem to have drifted off and I can't seem to find them or remember them.

My question is this:

Have you ever faced this situation, and, if so, what did you do to correct it?
Yeah, I had a day like that once. I just gave my head a good shake, and went down stairs to enjoy my 14th birthday party.

Seriously, though, don't worry about it. Be whatever and whoever you feel like at the moment, and don't worry about anything "underneath." You'll change over time, and you'll change with every new situation.

Are you Paris Hilton by any chance?

That's hot.

No way, girlfriend.

And don't make the mistake to think those masks aren't you. They aren't something artificial, but aspects of personality.

Could you clarify this statement? Because, if it's true... I'm a walking, talking contradiction.

I can't go into details on a public board, but suffice to say that I've said and done so many radically opposed things in the past six months, they can't all be me.

...if it's true... I'm a walking, talking contradiction.

That's unusual?

That's unusual?

It is for me. I used to shoot straight.

i've felt like that sometimes. but the thing is, who we are is very much dependent on who we associate with. even if we behave differently around different people it doesn't mean we are being a different person, just that we are expressing the part of ourselves that reacts to those kinds of people. you aren't going to make friends with the people who make you act in a way you dislike so it doesn't matter, the people you feel comfortable with become your friends and they will know the 'real' you, the side of your personality you are most comfortable with.

alternatively, just get blind drunk and ask people how you acted when you sobre up the next day. your true self will be a more subdued version of what they describe. just make sure you're in a neutral mood, you don't want to be flying into a drunken rage or getting depressed or anything.

wait, how old are you?

wait, how old are you?

22.

22.

ehh, unsurprising. The whole time frame from like 19 to about 23 I have discovered often causes these quarter life crisis.

People as a general rule are inconsistant.

ehh, unsurprising. The whole time frame from like 19 to about 23 I have discovered often causes these quarter life crisis.

People as a general rule are inconsistant.

Never heard of a quarter-life crisis. Is that common?

Never heard of a quarter-life crisis. Is that common?

He's likely working on coining it now. :p

Never heard of a quarter-life crisis. Is that common?

it's what happens when you fnish your education and then don't know what to do next. and then everything else gets questioned too. probably. that's just what i'm doing anyway.

Umm... let's just say that if Midna was real (and not simply a ZTP character) she'd be proud of what I did a week ago.

No, I'm not giving more detils, because some of the people here can't handle the truth.

Umm... let's just say that if Midna was real (and not simply a ZTP character) she'd be proud of what I did a week ago.

No, I'm not giving more detils, because some of the people here can't handle the truth.

Aw, c'mon, I'm bored at work. :p

Many of you saw my other thread asking who you are, and I was hoping that your responses would answer a nagging thought that I have in my head, but they failed to do so.

Here's the skinny:

I woke up the other day and I suddenly realized that I couldn't remember who I was. I've put on so many different masks for so many different people, I don't remember who the person was underneath. My goals, ambitions, and dreams seem to have drifted off and I can't seem to find them or remember them.

My question is this:

Have you ever faced this situation, and, if so, what did you do to correct it?
I did, and I grew up and developed a self-esteem.

"Whenever I find myself growing grim about the mouth; whenever it is a damp, drizzly November in my soul; whenever I find myself involuntarily pausing before coffin warehouses, and bringing up the rear of every funeral I meet; and especially whenever my hypos get such an upper hand of me, that it requires a strong moral principle to prevent me from deliberatly stepping into the street, and methodically knocking people's hat off-- then, I account it high time to get to sea as soon as I can."

My question is this:

Have you ever faced this situation, and, if so, what did you do to correct it?
yep.

I prayed, and I found that each of my 'mask' had little things that were 'me' inside. so I discarded them all and let the 'me' that were in each mask come back to the core.

Now, I only use masks on my RP and Online personnas. and each Personna does not use by name or anything near my name as a saftey valve to keep the 'me' from being lost again.

yep.

I prayed, and I found that each of my 'mask' had little things that were 'me' inside. so I discarded them all and let the 'me' that were in each mask come back to the core.

How did you identify the real parts?

How did you identify the real parts?

simple. I discarded all the masks and see what stuck.

I found myself to be a little more selfish (not overtly so, but more than I was), a little less patent with people, I learned that I don't hold grudges... I nurse them... raise them from infancy... then kill them (the grudge, not the person.) and other things that I found were very interesting.

Have you ever faced this situation?

No.

This reminds me of a time when I did salvia and I became convinced that I was waking up out of the Matrix.

I was in my room with some friends when I did the hit. Suddenly my friends seemed less real and I could sense other people standing around me. I heard voices that sounded familiar though I could not place them, as if I had known them a long, long time ago.

As I heard these strange-familiar voices begging me to wake up, memories of a different life flashed before me. In that life, I was a wash-up--a junkie, hooked into a drug-induced virtual reality. My friends in that world were now desperately trying to intervene, to bring me back... but on some level they needed my cooperation.

Then I remember grabbing at what seemed like a curtain in space-time, pulling myself back into the happier world... this world, that I have always known.

The whole thing only lasted a minute. My friends, meanwhile, had barely noticed my little zone-out, as they were generally in the midst of their own.

Freaky shit.

Meh, when in doubt just do whatever you think is right. If you do that and still don't think you're being yourself, then who you are has changed and your conscious mind has yet to realise it.