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Understand that boredom is something of a constant state of mind for me. And as a result, it is a wonderful day outside and I have done nothing. All day. Except watch TV, eat some pizza and be bitter about life in general. And I have come to the conclusion that I need to get a life. I think you can picture the desperation if I am coming to an internet forum for such advice. So, I have no great expectations, and I may just fade into obscurity yet again; but it's worth a try, I think.

Does anyone have any ideas for making the most of the 14 or so hours I spend awake each day? Anything. I'm game for almost anything at this point.

EDIT: So I feel a little better and a little less selfish, perhaps we can make this a general "get up and go" advice thread.

Understand that boredom is something of a constant state of mind for me. And as a result, it is a wonderful day outside and I have done nothing. All day. Except watch TV, eat some pizza and be bitter about life in general. And I have come to the conclusion that I need to get a life. I think you can picture the desperation if I am coming to an internet forum for such advice. So, I have no great expectations, and I may just fade into obscurity yet again; but it's worth a try, I think.

Does anyone have any ideas for making the most of the 14 or so hours I spend awake each day? Anything. I'm game for almost anything at this point.

EDIT: So I feel a little better and a little less selfish, perhaps we can make this a general "get up and go" advice thread.

Friends?

Go to strip clubs? Go to bars? Go to hookah bars? Go to movies? Go camping? Play guitar? Play video games?

either read a book or go out and do some sports.

Friends?

Haha, yes. But I'm currently away from anyone I know, until I head back to school.

Go to strip clubs? Go to bars? Go to hookah bars? Go to movies? Go camping? Play guitar? Play video games?

On my own? Ha well, I suppose I can't really worry about looking the part of a loser, considering my current state of affairs.

Haha, yes. But I'm currently away from anyone I know, until I head back to school.your only source of friends is school ?? :eek: :eek: :eek: :rolleyes:

either read a book or go out and do some sports.

Any recommendations? I've got a library nearby.

your only source of friends is school ?? :eek: :eek: :eek: :rolleyes:

Currently, yes. My problem is I don't really get out much when I'm with the family. SO I try to keep myself entertained...which usually reverts to rapid disinterest and general bitterness.

Any recommendations? I've got a library nearby.anything Tolkien of course ;)
what age are you?

Hmm...

You could take up learning a language...

You can do several things.

Grab a book and go to a farily busy coffee shop. Find a table and sit down. You'll either spend the entire time out of your house reading or you can try to strike up a conversation with someone else who is doing the same (or they might strike up a conversation with you).

You can go to a bar and sit at the bar. Strike up conversations with people who are at the bar (usually that's why people are sitting at the bar) or the bartender (if they're not too busy).

You can find some community events that strike your fancy and go to them. You'll meet new people and get some time out of the house. You can go to a beech, go to a park et c.

Basically, go somewhere there are already people where you can enjoy yourself whether or not you make any new friends while you're there. Don't go to a strip club for this sort of thing, it's probably really awkward to strike up a conversation with fellow pervs in such a situation.

D&d

D&d

Does he have anyone to play with?

anything Tolkien of course ;)
what age are you?

You can do several things.

Grab a book and go to a farily busy coffee shop. Find a table and sit down. You'll either spend the entire time out of your house reading or you can try to strike up a conversation with someone else who is doing the same (or they might strike up a conversation with you).

You can go to a bar and sit at the bar. Strike up conversations with people who are at the bar (usually that's why people are sitting at the bar) or the bartender (if they're not too busy).

You can find some community events that strike your fancy and go to them. You'll meet new people and get some time out of the house. You can go to a beech, go to a park et c.

Basically, go somewhere there are already people where you can enjoy yourself whether or not you make any new friends while you're there. Don't go to a strip club for this sort of thing, it's probably really awkward to strike up a conversation with fellow pervs in such a situation.

I'm 19, so a bar is prbably out of the question. And I think that since I've never been to a strip club, starting now would be inconducive to conversation and incredibly awkward.
But the rest sounds good...

Learn a programming language.

You're 19? So shouldn't you hang out with friends at bars and discos all night?

Have you considered masturbating more?

Depends on your age. Doing something productive almost always helps. How about writing a short story or maybe, if you have friends/siblings nearby, making a short video clip or movie? Reading a book? Painting? Spending time in nature? If you're religious, reading the bible or praying? Building a birdhouse? Turning the music on full-blast and dancing around like a lunatic?

What age are you?

What age are you?Oh, there's an echo here............

19, right?

19, right?

Yes, it was said in another post. Also it said that bars were out at this age so I guess he's American as well :)

Oh, there's an echo here............

What can I say, I'd had the tab open for some time before I replied, you're all too quick...

Anyway, 19? Go to a pub or bar and meet people there, that's the easiest way.

Yes, it was said in another post. Also it said that bars were out at this age so I guess he's American as well :)

Oh, for god's sake, that's my suggestion ruled out.

Stupid America and their stupid drinking laws...

Does he have anyone to play with?

In any decent sized city it isn't hard to find groups.

How about German?

Es macht Spaß, um eine neue Sprache zu lernen

Oh, for god's sake, that's my suggestion ruled out.

Stupid America and their stupid drinking laws...

Yes. It is rather funny that we (Americans) can vote and die for our country but aren't allowed to drink. But, anyway, from what I've heard, alcohol tastes terrible.

But, anyway, from what I've heard, alcohol tastes terrible.

That's why almost nobody drinks it pure ;) But always in brews, distillations and several other methods :)

Haha, yes. But I'm currently away from anyone I know, until I head back to school.Sounds like you're in a situation simular to mine, though I'm not as bitter about it as you seem to be. Been doing a bit more than watching tv and eating though, been trying to put on some weight and get in better shape which helps with the boredom. Maybe start a little project to improve yourself in some way, and then use some time each day on this project. It beats not doing anything at all atleast.

your only source of friends is school ??If like me his every waking hour was spent in school then I can understand it, hard to have friends outside of school if the old ones have moved to other places and you've started in a school where you only have time to buy food, eat it and sleep, besides going to school. I'm fine with that at the moment though, I don't have a need to have a large group of people to hang out with all the time, but that's just me. ;)

Alot of replies to this threat since I started making mine, seems to be only 2 options for you, go to bars or be productive.

Yes. It is rather funny that we (Americans) can vote and die for our country but aren't allowed to drink. But, anyway, from what I've heard, alcohol tastes terrible.

Well, I don't know what alcohol tastes like, but I can tell you there are many alcoholic drinks that taste great...:P

Weird thing is, I've been going to bars and clubs and stuff for 4-ish years, I would have absolutely no idea how to meet new people if all of a sudden I was banned from all of them.

I find it somewhat alarming that someone at 19 does not know how to do anything (more or less) meaningful with his time.

Have you ever thought about volunteer work? That's a good way to meet people, and do something useful with your time.

Is there an equivalent of the National Trust in the US?

Have you ever thought about volunteer work? That's a good way to meet people, and do something useful with your time.

Is there an equivalent of the National Trust in the US?
Not really, no.

Join the army.

There aren't any museums nearby? Movie theaters? Bowling alleys? Parks? nothing?

Seriously, get out of the house. You'll never meet anyone moping at home.

get a job and make some friends. then go out and spend the money. if it's sunny a bbq on the beach or other nice open space is always a winner. especialy if there is beer.

Yes. It is rather funny that we (Americans) can vote and die for our country but aren't allowed to drink. But, anyway, from what I've heard, alcohol tastes terrible.

you have been lied to. why don't more americans drink underage? are the penalties really that bad?

Take up golf. It's challenging, fun, and damn helpful once you're in the job market.

you have been lied to. why don't more americans drink underage? are the penalties really that bad?I suppose their WASP heritage keeps them from even thinking about such evils... :p

Take up golf. It's challenging, fun, and damn helpful once you're in the job market.

……?

……?

if you like brown nosing the boss. cuz all bosses play golf, it's in the job description.

if you like brown nosing the boss. cuz all bosses play golf, it's in the job description.

They say all deals are sealed on the golf course...

Understand that boredom is something of a constant state of mind for me. And as a result, it is a wonderful day outside and I have done nothing. All day. Except watch TV, eat some pizza and be bitter about life in general. And I have come to the conclusion that I need to get a life. I think you can picture the desperation if I am coming to an internet forum for such advice. So, I have no great expectations, and I may just fade into obscurity yet again; but it's worth a try, I think.

Does anyone have any ideas for making the most of the 14 or so hours I spend awake each day? Anything. I'm game for almost anything at this point.

Make a puppet and troll the forum. It's great fun (or so I am told).

Currently, yes. My problem is I don't really get out much when I'm with the family. SO I try to keep myself entertained...which usually reverts to rapid disinterest and general bitterness.

Same here. I just hang out on NS all day long.

I suppose their WASP heritage keeps them from even thinking about such evils... :p

Meh. We white Anglo-Saxon protestants have a long and noble tradition of underage drinking - heck in the UK it is legal to drink alcohol once you're five years old.

Start by making new friends. Here's how to make a friend.

Pick someone out. Tackle him. I mean a real impressive flying tackle. Then, amid the protests and separating tangled limbs, look horrified and say, "Jesus, You're not Mark! Oh, my god, I'm so sorry!" Help him up and apologize profusely. Then offer to buy him a few beers at the nearby bar. Congratulations! You just made a new friend. :)

The same also works for meeting chicks. ;)

Start by making new friends. Here's how to make a friend.

Pick someone out. Tackle him. I mean a real impressive flying tackle. Then, amid the protests and separating tangled limbs, look horrified and say, "Jesus, You're not Mark! Oh, my god, I'm so sorry!" Help him up and apologize profusely. Then offer to buy him a few beers at the nearby bar. Congratulations! You just made a new friend. :)

The same also works for meeting chicks. ;)

Ah! So that's what I've been doing wrong :p

Understand that boredom is something of a constant state of mind for me. And as a result, it is a wonderful day outside and I have done nothing. All day. Except watch TV, eat some pizza and be bitter about life in general. And I have come to the conclusion that I need to get a life. I think you can picture the desperation if I am coming to an internet forum for such advice. So, I have no great expectations, and I may just fade into obscurity yet again; but it's worth a try, I think.

Does anyone have any ideas for making the most of the 14 or so hours I spend awake each day? Anything. I'm game for almost anything at this point.

EDIT: So I feel a little better and a little less selfish, perhaps we can make this a general "get up and go" advice thread.
“A life,” when you think about it, is a matter of opinion. When somebody says, “You need to get a life,” they claim that you are not living. This brings us to the following question. What is living? Now some jokers will probably reply with “living is, like, when you’re alive and stuff” but that is not the type of living I’m referring to (duh). The common perception of living is as other people have suggested in this thread (going to bars, sports, etc.). But what makes one person happy might not make others happy.

When someone claims you aren’t living, they mean you aren’t doing anything they consider fun, or cool. But fun and cool are also matters of opinion. Therefore, if you are having fun in your own opinion, then you are living (in your opinion). There will always be those that claim you need a life, and there will always be those that share your interests and opinions on “living”. If you’re happy just sitting around here playing Nation States all day, or just watching TV, then you do have a life in the eyes of others, but nobody will ever have a life in the eyes of all. Times change, and so do the opinions of the popular crowd. The popular crowd does not dictate what living is because, as I’ve basically stated, living to one person could be the opposite to another person.

In conclusion, “a life” is a matter of personal opinion. Don’t feel bitter about existence, just have fun your own way. If eating some pizza, watching TV, and internet gaming is fun to you, then it’s a life for you (and some others).

But if you still find doing all that you said you did in your above quote to be boring, then I don’t know what to say until I hear more from you. I’m just saying, if you’re having fun, then that is all that matters.

Thank you.

PS: I know I probably didn’t help Tokyo Rain that much (if at all), but it was worth a shot (imho).

Understand that boredom is something of a constant state of mind for me. And as a result, it is a wonderful day outside and I have done nothing. All day. Except watch TV, eat some pizza and be bitter about life in general. And I have come to the conclusion that I need to get a life. I think you can picture the desperation if I am coming to an internet forum for such advice. So, I have no great expectations, and I may just fade into obscurity yet again; but it's worth a try, I think.

Does anyone have any ideas for making the most of the 14 or so hours I spend awake each day? Anything. I'm game for almost anything at this point.

EDIT: So I feel a little better and a little less selfish, perhaps we can make this a general "get up and go" advice thread.

find a good charity and work for it. volunteer at least 20 hours a week

youll never be bored again.

I think it'd be an excellent idea to begin a hobby. I know exactly how the OP feels. Since last year up until recently, I have been devoid of a life since starting Uni. I just sat through lectures, went home, worked, then sat and watched s*** TV and/or surfed s*** internet sites, because I didn't know what else to do with myself.

My hobby is model-building. 1:72 scale military stuff. Tanks, Planes, Ships. It's pretty cool! I'm also building up a Warhammer 40k army to play wargames with. It's a million times more entertaining than doing s*** all day.

Understand that boredom is something of a constant state of mind for me. And as a result, it is a wonderful day outside and I have done nothing. All day. Except watch TV, eat some pizza and be bitter about life in general. And I have come to the conclusion that I need to get a life. I think you can picture the desperation if I am coming to an internet forum for such advice. So, I have no great expectations, and I may just fade into obscurity yet again; but it's worth a try, I think.

Does anyone have any ideas for making the most of the 14 or so hours I spend awake each day? Anything. I'm game for almost anything at this point.

EDIT: So I feel a little better and a little less selfish, perhaps we can make this a general "get up and go" advice thread.

Man, I wish I could have that type of bored. I get asked (or drafted) into all types of volunteer jobs.

I think you need to just get started and when people find out you're willing to help they start giving you things to do. Think about whatever nonprofit that interests you and go ask. Or try the service clubs, like Lions, Rotary, Optimists, Kiwanis, etc. You will meet a lot of people and have projects to keep you busy.

Start taking dancing lessons. It's great fun and undoubtedly the most effective way to meet fuckable people. Chances are it'll also do wonders for your confidence and help you make friends/pick up yet more fuckable people on the weekends.

Buy a dog, a hat and find a comfortable park bench, and develop alcoholism. No, really. I met some of my best friends that way. The hat's for begging so you won't have to pay for the dog food.

Start playing footy. Great way to make friends and a fun way to kill time.

Sell weed. It'll earn you lots of money, and you'll cease giving a damn about things like carrying a conversation beyond the magical 5 word limit, or enjoying the weather.

Best way I can think of though, is to get involved in some volunteer work. There's always people out there who needs your labour for something interesting, and if you can stand not getting paid, you're already off to a head start; people will share your interests, be highly inclined to socialize and very likely introduce you to all of their friends, whom you'll likely share interests with, and who'll almost certainly think highly of you for no other reason than you donating your time selflessly to something they care about. And if you're straight, it's a great way to meet chicks.

Some more advice:

http://www.boomspeed.com/looonatic/nakrug.jpg

:)

Start taking dancing lessons. It's great fun and undoubtedly the most effective way to meet fuckable people.
It is also good exercise. But thats just obvious. While we're all suggesting things that we find to be fun, I think I'll say what I find fun as well. Here is a list, the things are in no special order.
1. Cyber Nations
2. Comedy TV shows and movies
3. learning a little (or alot) about another language
4. History, politics, and economics (you knew this was coming, duh, I'm Marxist Nickland)
5: Arguing. It's a great way to show how much smarter you are than someone else. :D

It is also good exercise. But thats just obvious. While we're all suggesting things that we find to be fun, I think I'll say what I find fun as well. Here is a list, the things are in no special order.
1. Cyber Nations
2. Comedy TV shows and movies
3. learning a little (or alot) about another language
4. History, politics, and economics (you knew this was coming, duh, I'm Marxist Nickland)
5: Arguing. It's a great way to show how much smarter you are than someone else. :D

In that case, I think you're gonna like NSG. ;)

Also, to the OP, might I also suggest reading fiction? Sci-fi, Fantasy, whatever genre, take your pick and pick up a novel at a book store and read it. If you like it, you could get another from the same author, or try something else to read, or whatever!

Everyone tells me to get a life, but nobody tells me how.



you have been lied to. why don't more americans drink underage? are the penalties really that bad?
I would wager that most Americans drink underage. Generally every party after about age 14 has plenty of beer and spirits. The penalties vary depending on the different jurisdictions of course, but generally speaking you dont have to worry unless you are driving.

Everyone tells me to get a life, but nobody tells me how.




I would wager that most Americans drink underage. Generally every party after about age 14 has plenty of beer and spirits. The penalties vary depending on the different jurisdictions of course, but generally speaking you dont have to worry unless you are driving.

all the ones who don't must be on here then.

Understand that boredom is something of a constant state of mind for me. And as a result, it is a wonderful day outside and I have done nothing. All day. Except watch TV, eat some pizza and be bitter about life in general. And I have come to the conclusion that I need to get a life. I think you can picture the desperation if I am coming to an internet forum for such advice. So, I have no great expectations, and I may just fade into obscurity yet again; but it's worth a try, I think.

Does anyone have any ideas for making the most of the 14 or so hours I spend awake each day? Anything. I'm game for almost anything at this point.

EDIT: So I feel a little better and a little less selfish, perhaps we can make this a general "get up and go" advice thread.

Get a job. After that, there's clubs, pubs, internet dating sites, etc. Its not that hard.

I'm 19 and basically in your state of affairs,except the being sad/bitter part.Most of my friends(2) are leaving town,so I'll tell you what i do to stay unbored:lots of video games(diablo and dungeon siege are great fun and time killers),watching funny clips on youtube,lotsa music,drinking beer whenever starting to get uncomfortable,exercising,reading:Stephen King and Asimov novels at the moment,and playing tennis;I plan on going to the beach more often and do some more sports.I could also advise getting a pet if possible.

I suggest... PAINTBALL!

get a job, that way you'll have money when you get back to your friends and you won't be that bored anymore.

“A life,” when you think about it, is a matter of opinion. When somebody says, “You need to get a life,” they claim that you are not living. This brings us to the following question. What is living? Now some jokers will probably reply with “living is, like, when you’re alive and stuff” but that is not the type of living I’m referring to (duh). The common perception of living is as other people have suggested in this thread (going to bars, sports, etc.). But what makes one person happy might not make others happy.

When someone claims you aren’t living, they mean you aren’t doing anything they consider fun, or cool. But fun and cool are also matters of opinion. Therefore, if you are having fun in your own opinion, then you are living (in your opinion). There will always be those that claim you need a life, and there will always be those that share your interests and opinions on “living”. If you’re happy just sitting around here playing Nation States all day, or just watching TV, then you do have a life in the eyes of others, but nobody will ever have a life in the eyes of all. Times change, and so do the opinions of the popular crowd. The popular crowd does not dictate what living is because, as I’ve basically stated, living to one person could be the opposite to another person.

In conclusion, “a life” is a matter of personal opinion. Don’t feel bitter about existence, just have fun your own way. If eating some pizza, watching TV, and internet gaming is fun to you, then it’s a life for you (and some others).

But if you still find doing all that you said you did in your above quote to be boring, then I don’t know what to say until I hear more from you. I’m just saying, if you’re having fun, then that is all that matters.

Thank you.

PS: I know I probably didn’t help Tokyo Rain that much (if at all), but it was worth a shot (imho).

No, on the contrary. Your response made me consider the source of my problem: which is, what is it that interests me. And truthfully, whether from outside influence (the "popular crowd") or some personal conscience meter, if I'm not doing something physical--engaging in conversation, going outside and playing a sport--or productive in general, like as it was mentioned, reading a book, I feel....well, slimy. I can't really play video games or watch TV for any extended period of time because to me, I'm not doing ANYTHING. So I have "fun" and have a "life" in that sense because I spend a lot of time posting on NS or playing Conquerclub or Civ4 or Rome:TW or Hearts (or, hell, facebook), but whenever I do anything of that kind, specifically nothing physical, then I feel that I am not getting any stronger, and my time could be better spent with people.
My problem now is that I'm not always keen on meeting new people, especially since I'm heading back to the university in a couple of weeks or so. I'm also not much of self-starter. If something is recommended me, or I am told to do something, then I will be more inclined to do it than if I had thought of it myself. Which is the main reason I posted this thread--a lot of what has been said I have considered, but decided against because I continue to make excuses not to do it. But now that someone else has suggested it--why, interestingly, I want to do it now. Desire is a funny thing; it's so temperamental, in my experience.

I believe that is the root of my problem. If there's anybody I understand, it's myself...though I don't always enjoy it, I spend more time alone than not because I don't really get out, especailly since I don't know anyone here.

SO that's a little background, I guess.

Oh, yeah, thank you for the advice. One thing I love about NS is that it may seem personal but everyone here is talking to a made-up nation, so its much easier to detach and laugh at myself, and also be more honest without having to worry about that whole dignity thing. So to everyone...thanks. It helps.

Have you ever thought about volunteer work? That's a good way to meet people, and do something useful with your time.

Is there an equivalent of the National Trust in the US?

A lot of cities have Meals on Wheels -- delivering food to shut-ins and the elderly.

Many have Salvation Army thrift shops and such -- I doubt they'd turn down someone who volunteers to help.

There are always soup kitchens, and community centers (how about doing crafts with kiddies?)

you have been lied to. why don't more americans drink underage? are the penalties really that bad?

No, they aren't, unless you are stupid enough to drink and drive or otherwise risk others because of your condition.

Not that I'd know ANYTHING about drinking under-age, nope nope nope....


:p

When someone mentioned hobbies, photography came to mind. You can get started with that for a very small initial outlay (you can get disposable point and shoots, disposable digital point and shoots, or even a 35mm film point and shoot very inexpensively) and wander around town looking for interesting things to take pictures of. Try to look at objects or people in a way that folks don't really see them, and capture that image.

If you decide you really like it, then you can be like me, upgrade to an SLR or dSLR, and have the never-ending stream of must-have lenses and accessories. ;)

Buy a Spandex outfit, declare yourself a superhero and start fighting crime!

Or hero->villain, fighting->perpetrating, of course :)

Buy a Spandex outfit, declare yourself a superhero and start fighting crime!

Or hero->villain, fighting->perpetrating, of course :)

LOL or try out for season three of "Who Wants to Be a Superhero!"

EXCELSIOR! (and cheese)